This ONE Thing Will Make Any Job Toxic ☢️ 

I had what I thought was a dream job for over a year; then, earlier this year, a new manager was forced on our team without warning or real explanation. Immediately this new manager, with whom we'd already had negative issues and who had already proved stressful/frustrating/anxiety and panic attack-inducing to deal with, 1,) fired my co-worker with zero cause or justification, 2) forced me to RTO even though I had been explicitly hired as permanent WFH and my former (I had thought good) boss had repeatedly assured me that I was perm WFH irrespective of the pandemic, and, 3) gaslighted me, subtly and insidiously bullied me, harassed me, micromanaged me, and proved such a horribly toxic boss that most days I broke down in tears and had panic attacks because of them. But then they terminated me without cause - no actual reason whatsoever. Oh, but I *know* why it was, because the toxic boss wanted me out so they could have their own little clique-ish team....because I and my former co-worker had raised legit concerns with their management style and they didn't like it. In just the span of a few months, it went from being a workplace where I quite happily would've stayed for the rest of my life - where I felt respected and actually appreciated - to a place where I was crushed, demoralized, and miserable solely because of the toxic boss who seemed to be targeting and micromanaging me specifically and was determined to make my life hell. I literally felt physically ill, some mornings, going in to work. I'm still so shocked, so confused, so upset, and so incredibly angry about the whole thing. It was a profound betrayal on every level. It was actually when I found your videos - and watched your vid on all the signs of a toxic boss in particular, and mine ticked off nearly every single one - when I fully realized what was going on, and I understood just how dire and dangerous the situation was. Thank you so, so very much for what you do. I only wish I knew what I was going to do, or how I'm going to move forward now.... How can you ever, when your trust has been shattered so completely like this? Honestly, I've always been nervous/anxious dealing with supervisors and managers (let me put it this way: when they say 'do you have a minute?' or 'can I talk to you for a sec', my anxiety instantly spikes, and there's that knot in the pit of my stomach, and I *know* I'm not alone in feeling that way just as a matter of course....I've not done anything wrong, of course, but it still triggers fight-or-flight!), and this entire hellish situation isn't going to help matters any. :(

Yes. I was hired at a large and prestigious company in my field - thought it was going to be the place I spent the rest of my working life. Within just a couple of weeks I got the sinking feeling that I was in a toxic situation - with a manager and a co-worker determined to isolate and undermine me and make my life a living hell. I suspect it was because the job was so high pressure that they got some kind of relief and perverted satisfaction at taking their frustrations out on me. The higher-ups were of little help - they had decided to look the other way because our business unit was considered important to the future of the company, so they felt they couldn't afford to lose the two people who were toxic. I lasted about 5 months but thankfully I am somewhere far better now.

I worked for a company for almost 4 years. It was a really fast moving company but I had a good boss/mentor. He left the company and I reported up the chain, and the energy changed completely, suddenly everything I did was under the microscope. I got lumped into blame over things I didn't have any control of, so I just stopped putting up with it and found a better job.

Absolutely

Yes. It's so difficult to identify an early red flag🚩

Hurt people hurt people. So do narcissists.

@@JenniferBrick One boss was ex army and he was not very nice to men but was awful to female workers, he spoke to them like dirt and if they had an opinion or view he would tell them not to speak to him like a child, and he once said women should really be housewives.

@@jackcarraway4707 Ex forces bosses are the worst to work for, I find several ex forces people are bullies, especially the tall ones. Tall man syndrome as opposed to short man syndrome.

My supermarket is the only dept that doesn’t have a night crew so everyone feels rushed in the morning “so nobody feels like they’ll get yelled at”

I feel you on that 💜

I had a boss who said he hated skivers and wanted everyone to do a fair days work, yet he got a young lad who was part of his extended family a job there and that lad stood around a lot chatting and being disruptive and the boss said nothing to him, he let him do it.

I feel like I’m in a similar situation. The good news is that one of the main supervisors is gone. I’m hoping that it will get better for me.

@@Uksoapfan where I work the boss hired her good friend to basically do the same job as me, but she’s not bilingual. I trained her in the beginning of the year and everything that we were both responsible for is now only my responsibility because her friend lightened her caseload. It’s very unfortunate for me because I’m doing double the amount of work.

@@isabelleetchebarren8981all the best to you

I lasted 3 months. I was coerced to quit. It was obvious they did not want me there by the way they discriminated and treated me. I was not going to submit to them and continued to be bullied.

Accountability is 100% the issue. I always hear Gordon Ramsay talking about how the leadership needs to hold the works accountable. When it's crunch time workers need to be focused. No excuses. Figure out what you don't know and invest in knowing today what you didn't know yesterday.

I'm sorry this resonated. Sending you healing vibes - not all companies are like this 💜

@@JenniferBrick thank you!

It’ll take some time to recover 🤍 Took me two years!

You did the right thing by taking a break. Many people rush to another job directly from a toxic job burnout without getting the wounds healed, without clearing the traumatic memories. Wounds, traumatic experiences from previous toxic job could sneak in to the new job & make it a misery, eventhough it could be a good job.

Low trust is prevalent in toxic workplaces and with bad leadership.

@@JenniferBrick I used to dread going into work sometimes, especially when the boss used to gripe about people behind their backs, and I knew it was probably me included. And that was confirmed when he did moan about me once, they really think we do not know that they are slagging us off behind our backs. We do have good hearing, they seem to not understand that.

What does your comment even mean? You enjoyed being a manager? Okay. What you said is not relevant to what is being discussed. If you were trying to be snarky, you just came off weird. See ya?........

​@Crystal cole Why don't you leave a comment ? Easy to hide in the replies .. 🥱

@@davidellis5141 No need for me to comment. She stated what she said very well. If you're going to try to insult someone, try making some relevant points. You dropped an insult and ran. A lame one. You're not exactly big and brave.

@Crystal cole I have 101 comments on this channel. Was that my best ? ..No .. but it was not worth you getting hot under the collar over. You are the worst of social media warriors .. I just blocked you. Negativity is so boring. See Ya 👋 !

She doesn't know how to manage others so she's projecting it onto you. 'I'm accountable to my assigned work, however management of my team mates work is outside the scope of my current role. I'm doing everything I can within my scope and I'm open to suggestions; how do you think I could approach this situation?' Put it back on her (careful with wording mine there is a bit salty)