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Mine waited until finals week and my car breaking down. He asked “how are finals?” “How is your car?” 😂😂 I mean this dude is so incompetent, I’m surprised he was able to time things so well
I am still paranoid at my present job that I am about to get fired or setup. I was not like this and my confidence has never recovered from 10 years ago. It is still hurting my career years later
Everyone I've heard that's been unemployed doing purely gigs for 1-2+ years is more eager than ever to work and frankly work harder now to make ends meet. Talents like software engineer of 5-10+ years often left to purely hobby and contract gigs for years now... 1000s of applications mere dust in the AI ATS wind. In-person networking seems to be 99.999% mandatory for getting noticed for middle or above salaried roles today. Actually I might be mistaken, 100% mandatory.
I don't understand why so many of my past jobs had a work culture absolutely 𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 in toxic sarcasm 10x that of casual conversation outside of work.... even HR managers gossiping and sabotaging everyone. Often the client communication was incredibly friendly and real, but then I would absolutely dread going back to some demons, or maybe just narcissists, in my own group. Regardless, been two years since I was at my last one, scrapping by on contract and gig work and less burnt out without a lot of healing and recently going to way way healthier group meetups in-person. The healthy in-person stuff requires some deep faith in the self but it's probably the best healer of all. Outweigh the toxic with positive stress. I'm one to respect we work on many forms of stress but the healthiest kind stimulates healing and growth not burnout and isolation. We're a social species, all of us, and the actually social interactions (especially raw and real) will provide major healing to the corrosive anti-social traumas.
My best friends after 31 years were formers co-workers. Most of your co-workers in your working life will be just that, co-workers. However some of them can be real friends. Just see the signs. They invite you once in a while to a barbeque or go shopping? They support you when you have problems? They will be real friends.
I have co workers that leave their desks SEVERAL times taking several breaks and even use the time they should be WORKING to flirt with other workers, it is so unprofessional and it is ridiculous that the boss does NOTHING to stop this kind of behavior.
Been a top sales man for 25 years. Always been in the top 10 in all of the west coast in my company. I have always worked hard on my self and upgraded my skills, this allowed me to work smart at work and completely crush it. I work 25-30 hours tops a week. Crush my quarterly goals in 2-1/2 month and take 2 weeks off every quarter.
I had to leave yet another toxic job two weeks ago after many shouting matches with my micromanaging boss that raised my blood pressure. I ended up having to drive myself to the ER the next day with shortness of breath, very high blood pressure and dizziness. While the ER doc and nurses were giving me an EKG and meds in an IV line, I was still very upset and going on about all that led up to this. A nurse then came back in and told me I had to stop or I wouldn’t be able to calm down enough to be released. It was a real wake up call!
Most people are forced to work in a job like the ones she describes. Its called, "Having to pay your bills". And this is the real world where employers can basically do what they want. Unless you happen to know a Magical Job Fairy, who lives with the unicorns at the end of the rainbow.
Another reason, is that, the job market is crowded with fake job postings (and too many potential candidates appling makes it hard to stand out), so I am affired I won't find a new job (besides, Amazon). After 6 months of looking I gave up and went back to my toxic job (basically "Begging" them to take me back) and they did rehire me but I fully regret it.
If the company is even remotely entertaining the idea of "firing you" just let them go. If you are skilled enough, there will always be companies more than happy to take in talent. Keep getting skilled and gather experience from any opportunity you get. If an employer let's you go, it is really their loss. In certain professions, it's impossible to re-train a replacement employee with like 15 or 20 years of consistent experience.
Thank you for the insightful strategies! It's refreshing to see realistic advice on dealing with mean girls at the office. Unfortunately, they will always be around, but your tips make it easier to handle them professionally.
I felt desperate and took the first job I could get in order to leave a toxic job. My current job is much better as far as how people treat me & speak to me, but we're overworked, understaffed, and underpaid. I'm afraid to leave though. Afraid to end up in a job that's as toxic as, or even more toxic than, my previous one.
All of this is so accurate! I'd also add that many of us have had toxic or abusive childhoods and are replaying our roles in the workplace. Once you start unpacking your trauma, you are less likely to tolerate toxicity.
There are small and bigger places to work, family brands, and big corporations. Not always job is toxic; sometimes people judge others wrong based on their views. Unfortunately, in the latest great opportunities place to work, I was bullied and laughed at. I couldn’t speak with anyone; my manager never talked to the boss. The boss always says to me not to help other people and focus on my work. One day things go too far, I have to speak with HR and give my paper statement. Then hell started. The company created fake mistakes for me and added other rules I broke while I didn’t... I was told to leave as my performance was not great. I worked a lot and took any overtime hours as possible, and then I was not visible anymore...
I sure hear stories from friends and relatives months and even years later.many jobs later.i went thru a bad time at my job...had nice coworkers, and awful ones...it was fine mostly at first and went bad later..oddly many quit later..i admit i hope dont end up in a place of poison..I'm watching..i realize most jobs are both..but i hope more good that bad..but i rarely hear good stories from People
I was bullied in junior and high school. Fortunately I am in a good work situation now. Although I always fear having to deal with one in the future. I never learned to stand up for myself. There have been situations where I felt a coworker was disrespectful. But I was scared to say anything because I would get in trouble
I just got fired from a toxic job yesterday, Now, I fear the previous jobs I left on a good note will be toxic due to the likely work environments that have changed since I left. My confidence is shattered and I feel useless.
Isolation is such a great word to describe it. When we feel like we are on an island, we may start questioning if something is “wrong” or “off” with us. Self-trust can start diminishing real quick.
I spènt five years in a really toxic work environment hoping it would get better. Sometimes the toxicity level would drain only to come back with a vengeance. And yeah, once I quit, I unknowingly jumped into another toxic job. I didn't let that last beyond two months. Wth is wrong with employers?
I found myself wondering why I miss my old job when I hated most of it, and why I still think about it when things are good. It's true, it's much more boring and simple, and it almost feels unsettling
I actually like my new CSR job and my boss says I am doing a good job. My supervisor and coworkers are toxic and gossipers. So I know they gossip about me. I go above and beyond but I am not stressed. I just work and if they fire me they fire me.
If the best thing they have to talk about is other people... What sad lives they live. I'd choose having people talk about me over talking about others any day.
Hi from a survivor of several toxic jobs...I think looking back that the desperation to put the other toxic job behind and start a new one is that you just take whatever without looking too hard at it or asking too many questions, like rinsing your mouth with a strong mouthwash or gasoline to try to remove a bad toxic aftertaste..
I once left a toxic job after ten months of being employed. It was so bad I went into out patient care. After two weeks I got diagnosed with psychiatric disorders not as a result of being in a toxic environment but it did affect my work performance and tolerance of bad behavior from bosses and coworkers.
when you are at school , you have friends and best friends and in your mind this could last forever but it ends. it's the same at work. today doesn't guarantee tomorrow and it's like finance as well. that's sad but it is.
That's everywhere. But that's not a reason to give up. Most of the management are not trained or qualified to be managers, they take the money but avoid taking responsibility and blame others. Setting up boundaries between you and your life and your job is essential. You can only worry about what you control and can change. If your are well paid your life is conditioned by your job otherwise your are abused to do more than you are paid for.
I left my job 2 months ago. I've had a couple interviews for another job. I had another interview yesterday. It looks more hopeful than the previous one. Hopefully I'm working by next week sometime. They said they were going to email me the "hiring package", to fill out.
Jennifer, this video touched my soul. I'm so glad you discussed this aspect of toxic work environments. It wasn't until I left a job that I really understood how much it affected my mental health. I was unable detach, and had to the hard work to recover. Thank you again for such an amazing video :)
