I love that she said she has a yearning to be lead spiritually because I feel that exact same way at this chapter of my life 🙏🏻 ❤️ being with man of faith is exactly what I want and desire.
It’s not in this clip but she also stated the ideal attributes she was looking for, 6’4, tattoos, retired basketball player who is obsessed with the Bible and speaks in tongues🤣
Here’s a tip for you ladies…growth happens unevenly. Just because someone is more mature when you get married doesn’t mean it stays that way. Life can throw some huge challenges at you and we all respond differently. The best measure of a good partner is one who is committed to truth and willing to admit when they’re wrong. I think you would have a hard time seeing these things based on this viewpoint
This comment from you is spot on. We all stumble and are childlike in areas of our maturity. Relationships and time reveals all of these things. Seeing her want a guy that’s so far in his faith implies it’s way beyond hers. So she has this expectation and idea for this guy already. Once this man stumbles, which we all do. Those expectations and this mold she created for him will never be the same. Valuing someone’s curiosity, adaptability, and ability to learn and overcome is what lasts. It’s their behavior. They could lose everything but still you can see them and hold faith in them.
Yes!! There have been times I was more mature and times my husband was. Yet he still leads. I asked the Holy Spirit, “Is this a man who is listening to you and does what YOU lead?” I asked for confirmation. Now, going on our 9th year of marriage, he stills is listening to the Holy Spirit prompting even when I might be more “spiritual mature” (and there are times he is, we are more evenly yoked, following the Lord together)
My brothers have that with their wives. It’s incredible to see. Their oldest kids are now in college and amazing Christ Centered young Adults. The mutual love and respect I see in those relationships is inspiring! And everyone of them were virgins till they married ❤ I’m so proud of my Brothers. And I love my Sisters in law so very much. This is what works in a relationship
@@Yram0018 thanks 😊 It really is! They’re more in love with their wives now than when they married them! Our Parents set the example! They’ve been married 56 years and it’s adorable how much our Dad crushes on our Mom lol
That’s how I was as a young man. I didn’t want a lady that I had to disciple. I wanted someone that can run the race alongside me. Someone who loves God and loves Gods people. I stayed single until I met my wife at 26 and we’re running the race 17 years strong! 💪🏼 🙏🏼
It’s so so hard being in a relationship when you’re boyfriend or husband isn’t as far along as you and they constantly look to you for guidance with Faith instead of nurturing their own relationship with Jesus and God. This is why “Equally Yoked” is so important! Even if they’re not as far along as you but they’re filled the the passion of learning and moving forward, that’s workable.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshuanot true, it means same value, same denominations, same beliefs. If you speak in tongues and your partner does not accept and yet he is a Christian. You NOT equally yoked.
@sadraolaedo4733 ... If I may say something. I think our yoke is now in Christ. The Central Yoke who we took up , whose yoke is easy. Whose burden is light and isn't grievous. For all who labor in relationships. Jesus himself told us of himself being this yoke. We are not yoked because we speak in tongues or are in a denomination. We are yoked by the Same Spirit promised Eph 1:13. We are a family in God because of his Spirit that bears common witness. Takes due diligence and wisdom to agree and walk together not really because we share a denomination or operate in.similar gifts. Rather the gifts are purposely diverse to enrich the church.
@@sadraolaedo4733 No 2 people are in the same position in life - If you have 2 people that agree everything one them is lying - if anything to themselves. If someone claimed as an atheist that never entertained the idea of almighty i wouldn't believe them , and if you were a religious person who says I believe in the lord 100% of the time .Nope!
I like JRR Tolkiens take on relationship when his son asked him he told him that many young men make the mistake thinking that women are the North Star but they are not, they are our companions in shipwreck! I think this in some ways applies to this girls thinking. Tolkien is essentially saying that its easy to mistake your romantic partner as the centre of everything and can do no wrong, but the only thing that is your true North Star is Jesus and you are your partner are companions in this ship wreck of a life/world aimed at God (the true North Star)
i didn't find my husband until i started going to church every sunday and praying to God asking him to find me christian husband and i had no other qualifications i had no idea who this man would be at all and the man i found was someone who i wouldn't probably typically date but he's the most amazing man and father. i understand wanting someone who's further in your faith but i think this might be a set up to where you don't find anyone to marry. just allow God to place who he wants in your life you can learn together
Amen. I think having high expectations denies us of the fact that we ourselves are broken and sinful and God still has so much more work to do in us- I pray for my husband everyday that he will come to know the Lord more and more, but he isn’t perfect and nowhere near my level of faith - but my call to love him and grow with him as I can is the same everyday. My God is a big God and can help us ❤
@@Sophie-PWow! You sound so conceited and self centered! How on earth do you measure your faith to your husband’s? What special scale did you use for that?! He could be a brand new Christian still wet from a baptism, but if he’s willing to lay down his life to protect you, his faith has exceeded yours and reached a level you will never attain! You have only spoken negatively about your husband and done so online for possibly the entire world to read what you think of him, and worse, what you think of yourself! You are commanded to respect him but here give him such disrespect for the world to see! You are commanded to submit to him fully, totally and at all times just as you would with Jesus! That means to place him above yourself, not just to obey him and not talk back. But the impression you give is that you don’t do that so much. You should be ashamed, mortified even, but I doubt you’re the type to even apologize to the Girls Gone Bible for leaving that kind of comment on their page. Or telling your husband what you did here by not just disrespecting him (and yourself) but humble bragging all the while about how amazing you are! You need more study time with the Bible and far less RU-vid videos and comments!
That was my problem as well when I used to be a Christian. I was not lukewarm at all: I studied, memorized the scripture, streetpreached, no sedations(addiction,), no kids, good credit, average looks, lead church groups, and none of it was to be popular, nor did I have a boastful bone in my body, and a genuine yearning for the truth, and helping others. I turned down a lot of women in and outside the church. What will often happen is you will likely remain single, because you look for perfection, and what you WANT, instead of what you NEED. That's what I learned. And you can't really REALLY measure how "spiritually" mature one is. If you have basic levels of respect, honor, loyalty, patient, strong, positive, no mental huge mental health issues, secure, graceful, and communicates well...boring: CONGRAT! You are in a healthy relationship. I have a feeling she, Girls Gone Bible Girl, will mistake boring guy with not having chemistry[whether your religious or not, I think I'm making a very reasonable observations, could be wrong].
This is so true. As we mature in our lives and in Christ, I desires change to things that are more substantial. To have a man of God who is led spiritually and produces the fruit of the spirit is more than anything I could ever ask for. I would forever be in awe and respect for him.
My husband may not be as familiar with scripture as me, but is he ever kind, loving, patient, and leading by EXAMPLE. So beware of how you define, what it is, being “further along,” in your faith, because first of all you may be struggling with humility.
Are you kidding? Have you not seen these other comments of women humble bragging about how they are more spiritually advanced than their less-than-perfect husbands?
Praise God for He is so good! I found my ‘one’ whose faith was further along than mine and we got married last year. I’d gone through so much heartbreak and confusion in the past but thanks to God’s grace I was able to discern each time. I do believe that God puts this calling on our hearts because He knows that women will flourish when lead by a good and holy man. Never give up on your dream of a fruitful and sanctifying love.
100% agree. 35 and single, and I'm ok with that, thank you Jesus! I do have a lot of love to give, and would want a husband that is a spiritual leader and open to interesting conversations. But if singleness was good enough for Jesus and Paul, it's good enough for me. I just pray that God use me for His Kingdom, and give me people to shower my love on (His love on) and fill my life with purpose and hope. Stay strong, ya'll! Jesus loves us!
Yea I’m 42! Been on the apps for way too long trying to find a Christian guy. There aren’t very many men like that out there, or I’m convinced they got married in their 20’s. But I tried then too, so who knows? Lol. Not many single men at most churches either!
Das ist genau, dass was ich zu Gott gebetet habe... Solch ein Mann möchte ich... Und hab eins kann mir das Leben ohne ihn nicht vorstellen ❤ Weiter beten GilsGonBible betet für den richtigen Mann...
Great point about knowing what you want! Especially with spiritual points and not just carnal ones. I know the OP didn't want to focus on the clip's comments but there's other comments on the topic and I have my own thoughts. On the faith topic, I'd say many sisters in Christ have the same desire. I wish that she shared, or the clip added her definition of "farther in faith" though. I'll assume (risky, I know) she means bible knowledge (as in a husband being able to wash his wife in the word) since she started to say she wants to sit at his feet. Something that I would add to that perspective is that Christianity is so much more about walking with Christ than it is bible knowledge. Some sisters seem to want the bible knowledge guy which takes time and intentionality to learn properly and be able to process/articulate to others. But I believe a brother whose faith has been tested and only knows the cross of Jesus Christ has everything necessary to shepherd/lead himself, his marriage, and his family well enough. There's always more to learn, and always more to share but the gospel is good in every season and the foundation of every behavior a Christian household would need to be healthy. I say that to say I hope our sisters with this perspective would pray for their partner's scriptural knowledge, but also be willing to let the bar be set at someone who knows Jesus Christ, His grace, and how to extend it and how to share it; with healthy & consistent church fellowship/involvement being secondary; and bible knowledge being tertiary/third. I'd rather my daughter marry a Christian that knows Christ's grace and lives it, than a minister that is arrogant/puffed up with knowledge and barely practices it. Last thought, a brother with good devotional habits and making time to study should make him prepared enough to wash his family with the word - and it will keep him humble without being puffed up with head-knowledge. Brothers, please don't be ashamed at what you do and don't know. The Lord will provide. Lead with following Him. Everything will come after. Do study His word though lol. Apologies for the long comment! Apologies for being off-topic of what the OP wanted to be taken away! Peace, fam. -Anthony
Same problem. Hard to be with a man who doesn't push themselves spiritually and is ahead of me in their faith. I'm good without a marriage, but God has made it clear I need to be, so just waiting it out.
This woman seems to be authentic. Unfortunately, I counsel many women who SAY they want their husband to be a spiritual leader and then fight him every step of the way when he tries. They love their perceived spiritual superiority. I say perceived because they are living dishonestly which is a sign of spiritual impoverishment and immaturity.
It’s because many still need deliverance, but the churches don’t do that because Satan had deceived even Christian’s to think that they can have areas that need to be dealt with via casting out the spirit, in this case jezebel working along side rebellion, I was engaged to a woman who had three kids out of wedlock before she was a Christian, and she seemed like the most spiritual woman I ever met until I started to court her, jezebel was lurking I got out of that train wreck.
This! I, too, have the same yearning to be led spiritually by my husband!!! She put in words my exact thoughts. I know my future husband will be that for me. That's why I'm at peace with that. But I relate to her
Not really. You have to kinda be in that environment where you know there are godly women, family women, modest women. Are you going to find one at the bars? Clubs?
@@rgn3007Sorry, that’s for women, and lousy advice for men. Men don’t have the luxury of being able to just sit around and wait to be noticed by the ‘one’! Men have to go out and find her. The problem is that while there are more than 8 good women in the world the actual ratio isn’t much better! Men should be praying for discernment to pick out the right needle in the haystack of love! Adding to the problem of so few quality women, the wrong women always try to pass themselves off as the right one and do their best to convince the man only to switch up on him after the vows and kissing the bride!
You can pray all you want , you can also take action and go on dates. You have actively be looking for that man. You will Find a wonderful man, yet he won’t be perfect!!! But he would be perfect for you. Give yourself a chance!!
That is a WONDERFUL sentiment, and I do not want to take away from that. That is a very biblical posture concerning relationships. With that said, I have heard these same things from many girls I know, who were in what could have been wonderful relationships like she is describing as her desire, but they broke things off due to worldly reasons. Not necessarily bad reasons, but there was a dishonesty about it, and I believe there is a large dishonesty in general about this (which may be unintentional, but is still dishonest), especially among girls like this. I don’t know her, I’m just saying what I have seen. Many girls have a Disney romanticized view of relationships, but they’ve spiritualized it. And along with that comes a spiritual arrogance and over inflation of how spiritual they are. I’m not saying that’s the case with her, but I have had multiple friends, who had girls break up with them and then said this kind of thing afterward and I was close with both of them, and the guy was the one truly further along in his walk with God. Not making a statement, just some food for thought.
Maybe help someone teach that point? I want a man that fears God so he has the desire to become a better man. I know I am a working progress and I want to be with a man that is willing to do the work, I can’t expect him to be perfect because I am not. But as long as we have the desire to follow God we can be happy together and grow and evolve.
This. I appreciate the OP desires to "worship" at the feet of a great theologian. But it's just as vapid as a non-believer saying she wants a man to make 200k and drive a Bentley if she's going ro marry him.
If Jesus died and forgave a wretched person like me.. when I absolutely didnt deserve it... I *Should* forgive others More ! And not hold any hatred... but LOVE them with the love of Christ and forgive them..Just how The Father has forgiven Me ❤!
Whilst I admire this lovely lady’s high standards and agree that she “knows what she wants”, she also has to be prepared to face the consequences that she might be single forever. Whilst that’s not necessarily a disaster, it’s just something she needs to keep in mind. I would recommend just finding a good hard working man who loves God and is committed to the Faith and values the sacrament of marriage and is willing to hold fast to the Church’s teachings. That would open up the field a bit more for this lady and she would undoubtedly be happily married. Sure, she might not find the “perfect man”, but she will find a good husband and father for her children. I would have thought that’s the whole purpose of marriage.
People who are called to the married life should not be single forever. It needs to be like the pre-1950s where everyone called to the married life got married, stayed married, and had like four to ten kids.
How is that prideful? I don’t think she means they’re not as good as her, they’re just not in a place to lead her. If anything it shows humility because she wants to submit to a man.
I agree, but also God's timing is perfect and fear is not of the Lord. The biological clock is a valid concern that people should actually be more aware of, but also settling for someone not onfire for the faith out of fear that you won't find a more faithful and virtuous partner soon enough is a BAD idea.
We are called "Christians" because we are concerned with what Christ says, not "Biologicalclockers" because we are concerned with what the biological clock says.
@@friedawells6860One doesn’t need to be ‘on fire’ to be faithful or virtuous! That’s the kind of drama and extreme attitude that women get worked up over but it’s not how most men work. Most men put their nose to the grindstone and get to work, absent any flash or drama!
It’s great to know what you want, and wanting a man far along enough in his walk that he can lead you spiritually is a good goal; I don’t see how you are helping yourself find a husband who is mature in his faith if you are wasting time dating men who are not up to that standard BEFORE you agree to dating them. Men may come around who would fit your standard, but avoid you because you are giving attention to another man at the moment. Also, it’s just generally a bad rep to be the person who has had multiple failed attempts at what would be a life time relationship. Saying this as a married woman, I didn’t move forward with dating my husband until I saw the fruit of his life that genuinely inspired me to grow in my faith. We have both pushed each other to grow, and I hold him with honor as the priest of our home, which also means holding him accountable to his word and above all the Word of God.
I know my standards are that she has to actually want and be loyal to me, not lead me on and ghost me after about a few weeks or months, and want to join up and help each other together to make the relationship work and overcome the obstacles and problems as they come leading up to marriage. Only this after we are equally yoked and compatible with each other with more points of agreement than disagreement. Yes physical attraction matters too but it goes below judging her heart and personality to see if she would make a good partner and mother.
@@TeeAhhhna3 things men look for and 1 you can’t control that men want… 1.) physical appearances translate to healthiness as in you don’t have to be a super slim supermodel but have to be overweight, diabetic, and just apathetic towards your body and self as this also applies to men as well. 2.) attitude: Is your attitude so repulsive and selfish that men just constantly ghost you while you are demanding all the time and demeaning towards men? Or are you gentle, quiet, and non combative allowing him to speak his mind and try to do things for you and speak to you giving him space to love you? 3.) Fertility: I am one of those men who want to be a father and husband one day that would love to raise children and have a family of my own. Men remain fertile almost all their lives and women simply do not as this is how we are made. Put it all together and men DO NOT want a combative argumentative woman who fights with him all the time and is a feminist that hates men children and marriage and promotes selfishness and her own career over marriage yet she wants to find a man to marry her. Men will always take a poor feminine gentle woman who helps and loves him to be better and become the best man he can be than a rich selfish woman with a career if the man is worth his time and value to you.
This could be another trap of Satan to keep good men from marrying good women and becoming a power couple for God. Women already have unreasonable expectations for husbands. This seems like the Christian version of that. The pickings are just too slim to have unrealistically high standards. What if the man that you want doesn’t feel you measure up? What then? This sweet young lady needs to have someone run a statistical analysis on this for her.
You're not supposed to date. For a believer it's called courting. This is being marriage minded and marriage is the goal. Dating is not for the Believer.
She didn’t have something good. She speaks about how her last relationship they lived together and was sleeping together. He didn’t want to wait till marriage ( I think) and they broke up
Women always want men who are farther along than them in everything somehow, whether career, faith, etc. which is why most of the time, that requires dating an older men, and most do, but then men are shamed because of it. Also, when you date men who are farther along in all these ways, you aren’t really equal. You can treat each other as equally deserving of love and respect, specially because because in the eyes of God, but you’re not equals in the other ways
@@TeeAhhhna it’s weird how the man is viewed as the predator. I think if you had younger good looking men dating older women who are rich, the man would be called the predators for taking advantage of lonely older women for their money
Orrr.... shes so high up on herSELF that she can not be lead because she is unwilling to be taught. Unwilling to admit, or question that maybe she might not actually have it all right... i know somebody JUST like that.
I thought Gregory is supposed to be the crying child robor version and that Glamrock Freddy is Michael Afton... and Vanny is Cassie since Vanessa is already free and that Cassie is now in the place Vanessa was it....
Edith Stein believed women are more easily suited to piety because of that desire to submit to God as this woman put it. St Theresa of Avila believe it was more important to have a well informed spiritual director than to have a saint as one. So perhaps what this woman is looking for is someone who is more developed in knowledge of the spiritual life to help her develop herself in her own spiritual life
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” (2 cor 6:14). Basically, you should be on equal// or atleast on similiar spiritual level with your partner. That's what equally yoked means.
@@helena3935 yes but the lady seems to be advocating against this, or at least not in support of it completely, spouses are to be equally yoked in their spiritual walks. One should not be substantially more mature than the other.
@@markwilkie7633 This is worldly concept. It's habitual that she feels that way, not natural. She was trained to treat a man as if he's her God. Jesus is the only leader that she needs. Anyone else as a leader will keep her and whole family back. At the end of her life she will be the only one responsible for her spiritual growth.
@@Destassanabsolutely none of this is in the Bible, which explicitly makes the husband the head and leader of the home, and calls him to act as the presence of Christ towards his wife by loving her as Christ loves the church and being responsible for presenting her in spotless spiritual condition.
@@Seliz463 If the husband is the spiritual leader then if he falls, the wife falls with him. If the Christ is the leader the wife brings husband back to life or protects herself and children by going away.
Further along in their faith? Why are you judging them on this? If they have accepted Christ as their savior, submitted to him, and they are continually trying to further their knowledge I don’t see why they can’t be like this? They can still lead you and they aren’t always going to be a step ahead of you as you would like a human to be. We are only human. We aren’t the messiah.
So if I am far along in my faith (once widowed, remarried now divorced) why would I be interested in someone with immature faith? Divorce is disgusting. So are these clips with the"feels". Know your place ladies. Serve Christ like Mary and honor the man God gives you. No more Christ pilled feminists.
Women who don't have Christ don't have the Christ led attributes. For example some beautiful young lady who didn't know Christ had a crush on me for a couple weeks, I only saw her twice a week.....I was a nervous type always holding back for some reason. I literally thought she was in Love. She knew I was in to her only to find out that since I didn't approach her she made my days ahead evil where she didn't want me around her because she found another man "better than me" and it left me emotionally scarred. Woman without Christ can be evil, they don't have the fruitfull spirit of patience in a man but rather so desperate. Many of you women can be evil you just don't evil realize it yet.
It is not wrong to be stronger in your faith than a man. Many women have stronger callings upon their lives than men. It is the churches fault & the Christian for not raising boys to men to be stronger in their faith and knowledge in their Biblical maturity & purpose. You can not measure peoples faith walks by your measurements & timings. God raises Up Men when they are mentored properly & hunger for God more than they lust/desire after you.
You actually ignored it everything she actually meant 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ god help you all, in Jesus Christ name I pray for this generation and many after🙏🏼🙏🏼✝️
