Three Signs You're Not Ready to Date | David Marvin 

I've listened to a lot of Christian dating/courting sermons or seminars but this is the very first I hear "my wife is not made for me. She was made for God and to have a relationship with HIm. I was not made for my wife. She's not there to complete me. I was made to have a relationship with God." Thank you so much for this message. And praise God for using you.

This also hit me.. "In dating relationships, in love, you're not looking for someone who needs to be rescued. You're not looking to be the savior of somebody-- you're looking for a PARTNER for LIFE, not a project that you're gonna rescue."

They don't complete me because I'm complete in Christ.

"Marriage can't change your loneliness." Completely true. Single, then married, 16 years later, abandoned, single again now with 4 kids. I'm closer to God than ever and feel less lonely than ever, single without a spouse, but closer to God. I really appreciate this talk.

2:30 How I met my wife 3:15 Intro 5:40 You are single, and you are not ready to mingle 8:16 Jesus talks with a Samaritan Woman, John 4:4-26 17:00 #1 You are Dating Delusional 22:00 1 Corinthians 7:28 - Concerning Married Life 23:50 You know they are not the one God says you should date (Jeremiah 17:9) 25:01 The delusion of "The One" 26:40 The delusion of being sexually compatible 27:40 The delusion that chemistry matters more than character 29:10 #2 You're dating Dehydrated 30:00 Marriage won't change your loneliness 31:50 Approach dating as a whole person 32:40 Online examples of being relational thirsty 34:55 Maybe I married the wrong person 37:39 #3 You are dating damaged 39:00 Forgiveness 39:29 Colossians 3:13 41:50 Begining to heal 43:22 Prioritizing Pursuing Jesus 44:49 Marriage Promise and Preparation 46:04 Conclusion

I just want to say that no matter how much I run and hide, God always finds me. And I'm always left in awe at the lengths that he will go to bring me back no matter how much I push him away. This video just found me at the exact right time

After a couple of years being a Christian, finally, this week I started to feel God really love me and think I am extremely valuable to him! Not because I am better than I was or if I can be a good believer but because he knows me and understands why I am who I am today. This is the first time, I feel I am important to him. Not because if I keep my good behavior or doing services in church, but because he saves me. He knows my stories and all my weakness. He is the only living water. Don’t value yourself short!

I really needed this podcast. Lately I’ve been crying multiple times a day over how scared I am about being forever alone. I’ve been so desperate in matching with guys on dating apps, but I never feel satisfied. I really need to stop making a relationship an idol and wait on the Lord’s timing. Thank you, The Porch.

This pastor is spittin’ GOLD & dropping dating gems - this message could save a lot of Christians from heartbreak and divorce.

Marriage will fix your last name but not your identity🤲🏻

Even though I already knew I’m not ready to date lol I wanted to watch this to remind myself since their are times were I feel like I like someone and want to give into just being with them, it won’t work, no matter how nice they may seem or harmless, if it’s not Gods will it won’t work.

If you marry an abusive person who refuses to get help, that is not the right person. A toxic marriage almost killed me.

I made the mistake in my early youth to do what I wanted instead of waiting for gods timing and that relationship ended so badly. This time I’m focused on making my relationship with god better, becoming a better person, better servant of god, and to become the kind of wife to my future mate that god wants me to be.. and while I’m doing all that I am going to trust that god will bring my furniture husband into my life when he thinks it’s the right time!

Forgiving yourself is super important too!!!!!! But maybe the hardest…

Seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you

“Butterflies fly away!” 😂😂😂😂

I struggle with this. I need to heal. I want to grow in Christ.

This is a truly moving sermon and one of the few where I purely heard God speaking His truth through you instead of feeling judged. I feel inspired and ready to commit myself to God more closely instead of looking for a relationship without Christ at the centre. Thank you for this. God bless!

That intro was chaotic 😂😂😂 “We should change that rule.” -the guy that isn’t paying for the food and didn’t contribute to the seating arrangement plans

You will never be truly ready to start doing anything. Figure it out after you start doing anything

Powerful sermon! 🙌🏼 I’ve surrendered my love life to the Lord. Nothing is better than God writing your love story :) I’m patiently waiting on God’s perfect timing & will, for my Kingdom spouse. 😊🙏🏼❤️

This was amazing. Lately I've been on an emotional roller coaster trying to find my value in love with another person. While I've continued to use God's strength in his word and what he has shown me to bring about a relationship, I started to lose my realization for how special the relationship I share with God is. Because of this video, I was also brought back to what I skimmed over so much, with realizing our worth as people made by The Most High, that we shouldn't sell our selves short but instead walk in authority with respect for the price that we were bought for . Thanks. Much love

Powerful , inspiring and encouraging Sermon. Praise God for letting me hear this message. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏💫💫💫 xxxx love from Glasgow

I'm so glad I stumbled on this channel,I'm so blessed and encouraged to not compromise anymore. I can't thank The Porch enough. More Grace and Blessings 🙏🏽

The Porch is amazing. I am constantly challenged by the topics and stories you share. Thank you!

Feels like Jesus spoke to me through Him. Thank you for this message. This is indeed the answer I have been looking for!

I need this .God bless you man of God for this sermon

I love this intro to Jesus… even though I’m not dating the thought of Jesus pursing this women I feel Jesus pursing me… ❤😭😭

This was so helpful in planning my women’s study!

this was so needed!

First time listener and I just want tonsay, "Praise God. What a wonderful message."

When I think of "the one", I don't think of the one that was made specifically for me, rather the one that imma marry, the one that I'm compatible with, the one that's has the best outcome of having the best marriage and glorifying God the best(only God knows, so ask Him! Proverbs 3:4-5). The one that has everything I'm looking for, the one that's gonna be a helper to me. I'm waiting for "the one". I understand there's not someone specific tailored for us and a "soulmate", I actually learned that through time w Jesus and talking with Him, He told me that and said I could choose whichever one when asking about which woman I should pursue, A or B

I needed to hear this, thanks for sharing this message for it was so timely.

Thanks for this sermon! It helped me see things a bit more clearly and wisdom based.

Beautiful reading 🙏

"How many times have you heard a man say, if I only had more money I could do things my way? But little did they know it's so hard to find one rich man in ten with a satisfied mind!". R. Zimmerman 79

THIS IS SO GOOD wow. amen.

I'm preparing for my promise. 💗💗

Best advice ever. Thank you!

Powerful Sermon! Praise the Lord, Jesus!

Amen.🙏 I have never listened to Christian dating sermons and this is very encouraging and what is the most important thing before start dating.

Phenomenal Word to All The Singles.. Devine Knowledge is Power, in CHRIST JESUS!!! Thank you

Ty!!! 🥺

This helped me so much., I’ve been doing life all wrong .. Ty for your Godly advice. ❤

This teaching has so many good quality aspects to follow and adhere to. Overall its so good. But no human is perfect and sadly there are things in this teaching that are not biblical. most of it is thats the good news. But here’s what I really would like to share…. Firstly God is at liberty to provide a person with ‘the one’. The definition of the one here I use loosely, because in reality Christ is the ONLY ONE for us. I agree we are not made for our spouses. Of course not. But that doesnt mean in the same breathe that God does not hand pick spouses for us. The scriptures prove instances where God has specifically called two people into a marriage. There does need to be consent to that though, of course. Starting with Adam and Eve, Moses and Zipphorah, Abraham and Sarah - these two would not have the story they have of Sarah was Jane or Abraham had been Bob, their characters, personalities etc were dependent on the story’s outcome - not random, Rebecca and Issac - no need to explain, Mary and Joseph, these two are my favourite God hand picked match. Joseph was destined to be Jesus’ ‘step dad’ His earthy Dad, from a line that was handpicked by God, not random, Mary was handpicked among women on earth at that time to be the mother of the Messiah - not a job for any random woman, these two were brought together by God - not random. You yourself were chosen by the Father, this is scripture, Jesus says to His father ..the ones you have given to me. The father has chosen each member of the body - the Bride. Yes a person can choose from among a crowd, but clearly for those who understand the fathers heart deeper and believes by faith, then yes He will provide the one; but be prepared to wait on the Lord. That route is not for the faint hearted but the outcome will be worth waiting for. I could go deeper but here isn’t the time or place. Really just want to start a different conversation in peoples hearts because this idea there isn’t the hand picked person, is damaging. I could tip the theories on these ‘sliding door’ statistics and beliefs on their heads and probably will one day…. Second thing is about the reluctance to marry a couple f one of them is still broken. The scripture calls a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. God marry’s His bride - unites with us - while we are broken, and through that marriage he helps restore us. The idea two people shouldn’t marry if they have dysfunction is unrealistic. We are all human and humans have brokenness. Of course theres a level of brokenness that should be healed prior to marriage, but the example given in this sermon doesn’t qualify and the clean yourself up fully before coming into union idea simply is unbiblical, in fact God calls two people together to marriage who will often bring weaknesses to the relationship that will help refine each other, iron sharpen iron. Again im not talking about the boundary of dysfunction where marriage wouldn’t be recommended, but holding onto things isnt a reason not to marry a person. Lord, help us if Jesus required a level of health n our souls that this sermon is suggesting before we engage in union. I’m not berating this sermon at all, Quite the opposite, its strong and of good quality, but like every preacher this one isnt perfect. But what a good teaching he’s delivering overall. One with listening to, learning from, paying attention to, but always cross your teachings through Jesus before absorbing everything humans deliver. With all the best intentions, pastors sometimes make mistakes xx Hope its ok to share those perspectives, again no disrespect to the teacher, the ministry is A Class x

This was so so so good!!

Amen for us all single females

I just finished watching this video because David’s words spoke so clearly to me since I realized I have been dating delusional and dehydrated. I actually cried at the end when he talked about Jesus stating despite our past and what we do he still loves us. This was an amazing sermon and wish I hear these words tonight when I was 16. Thank you for this beautiful message tonight and I look forward to watching more of your videos God Bless 🙏🏻🤍

Amen in Jesus'Name 🙏. Thank you Pastor David

This was so good ❤

This was good!

Amen! 🙌🙌🤧

I bet a lot of people broke up or called off the engagement. But it’s for the best❤

I'm so glad i waited 27 long lonely years, staying "clean" and "pure" for marriage and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. Great. Awesome.

Heavy ❤

Sounds like you gotta be absolutely perfect with no flaws to get married. 🙄 great, good to know. Must be nice for all those perfect people.

I was listening to this guy and didn't know he was a Christian at first. Then i was like there's no way he's not one the way he's talking

That’s good one !!!

@ThePorch Love the messages, but does anyone else have issues with the sound, cutting out, seems like after each pause, the next several words do not come through the sound, you see the lips moving, but you have to watch intently to attempt to read the words in those moments...

I want to prioritize my God before anything else...

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several pieces of this message seemed extremely similar to the sermons "how to date" by Ben Stuart and "Dehydrated Dating" by Rich Wilkerson Jr. at some points word for word. would be kind of you to give them credit!

LIKE THIS VIDEO FOR GOODNESS SAKE! SO MORE PEOPLE SEE IT!

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Butterfly you feel mean danger 🤣 not romantic feeling. I remember hearing someone said one I believe it was a Dr. When first date someone your brain is like on drugs. This why I said I walk in love with eyes open and want see red flags before I get marry. I always told God before I get marry. I want be ready with Jesus and complete with Him. I am wanted be heal and deliver before Marriage. I wanted be to 100% with God the Father Jesus and Holy Spirit. Or be single and live for Jesus.

✝️Repent from your sins🙏, turn to God before it’s to late⏰, for tomorrow is not promised ❤️

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Disney discipled a whole generation fs!

✝️=❤️

Is it wrong for the person you’re dating with the intent on marriage to have a lot of friends of the opposite sex? I don’t agree with it but he says they’re friends and would help anyone. Thanks for your feedback.

How do you heal from your parents giving you up for adoption and then dying. I’ve been struggle with this since I was a baby

I can’t find the antisuppresants sermon you mentioned. Can someone help me find it?

I don't agree with this why was Adam not provided with a choice then?

Does anyone know what happened to JD Rodgers? I haven't seen him in 2 months

If you are on the fence about dating, watch this video

Mysterious is shady! Lol

Hey everyone, maybe someone can help me I've looked everywhere for the message David keeps referring too in this message name "anti-suppressants" can anyone help me find it? thank you!

What were the scriptures, and why are we so dating delusional?! HELP!💔💔💔💔

1. We may be complete in Christ spiritually, but as mankind, we are to be completed in relationship with one another. As a man, you are to be completed by being married to a woman. 2. God saw Man's singlehood and said "it was not good" and gave him a wife to be completed to be made whole. Not another man to fulfill his loneliness or singlehood. 3. You are not married to a "partner" but to a role. Don't turn your marriage into a business. 4. The only disqualifications for marriage is to marry someone that is not equally yoked. Everything else is a preference. 5. If you are a man with no future, no job, or nothing going for themselves you are in no position to date. 6. If you are a woman with no plans to submit to leadership under a man, you are in no position to date. 7. Dating is simple, don't complicate it.

What a cheek to think you can bring people to someone elses wedding who invited just YOU unless they specify an option for plus 1. The wedding couple usual pay exorbitant ammounts of money per person for venue and catering, its very presumptuous to feel you should get to bring friends to make it "more merry". The weding is to celebrate those two people coming together i marriage not just a free party. But feel free to invite as many people to your own marriage party 😂

just date already, don't put it off, do something different, meet new people, live, try something different......I put off dating for more than 10 years.......ACTUAL dumbest thing iv'e done in my whole life, missed out on many a romantic time.. sure it didnt work in the end, wasnt meant to be, but gosh you gotta try something, try to make something work

Uh I'll be the judge of that...thus ain't got nothing to do with that

And if a man is strong enough then he'll take care of anyone

I am in Catholic church, do you think I can watch this channel

I'm sorry Sr but if you can't be yourself that just doesn't sound like a proper relationship to me. There is no reason I shouldn't be able to be myself and just be a better version of myself and be in a relationship and or Married at the same time.

WHEN THE SHOE FITS YOU STILL GET BLISTERS.....

Women that fit the criteria are married /in a relationship. The ones that are single don't want you. This doesn't seem to work for me at all.

25:14 !!!!

The new testament is basically very bias towards singleness. If your'e married, live as if you aren't. singleness seems favored compared to marriage.

Dating isn’t even Christian.

Why would you assume that this woman is of ill repute? In Bible times, women had no rights and certainly were not allowed to initiate divorce. This woman didn’t choose to be in the situation she was when Jesus encountered her. And the reason she was alone, and deserted and rejected was likely a cultural one, such as being unable to bear children. Perhaps her situation was similar to the one described by the Pharisees, where they challenged Jesus about the resurrection. Jesus came to her with an offer to exchange her cup of brokenness for His cup of living water. Oh, how I love Jesus.❤

Silly, not a person on earth is ever ready for dating or marriage. No one is ever ready. Only ignorant people date or get married. "oh yeah I got this." how arrogant can you be?

The woman at the well didn’t have any way to divorce her husbands. Only men back then could divorce. All her husbands divorced her. Just sayin.

Lol I feel he's so negative so so much I could say

Chad preacher giving advice to the Jesus worshipping incels 😂 ahahaha

You might get murdered for seeing through people

What an amazing sermon about dating ❤. I lost my late husband about 4 years ago now. We have been together for 17 years before he passed. I have learned so much during that marriage and it is very true that marriage is very challenging. No infidelity between us but have we not given the time to get to know each other prior to our marriage it could easily break our vows. Do not believe in fairy tales. It only gets challenging as soon as you get married because part of your individuality will die. Now, that I’m single again, I am healing and getting to know myself as an individual. I am definitely taking this singleness as a treat to be a whole person again so my future husband will meet me at my best version in Christ and not my past baggage ❤…god bless you all..