Are You Dateable? | David Marvin 

Marriage and Singleness are both blessings of God. Marriage lets you share your love for God with someone else in an intimate and loving way and have children. Singleness allows you to have more time between yourself and God. Never feel inferior because you are single. If that's God's plan for you, even for the rest of your life, use it to glorify God even more.

One of the greatest messages ever taught on singleness. Unforgettable lesson.

Glad to know I’m dateable… I have 3main things that are absolutely non negotiable… 1. Being led by the Holy Spirit 2. Into fitness and health 3. Hard working. We can work on everything else together😊

Here are some notes written out for you all from the message with a few bits from my perspective. I know sometimes I prefer to read rather than listen because its faster, so here ya go! NOTES: - Check your preferences - Check your preparation - Check your pattern - Check your priorities - Check your people - Check your plan i. Are you ready for marriage? (not are you ready to marry a specific person right now... thats what dating is for to find out haha) but are you as an individual ready for marriage, because that is what dating leads to. I. Preparation A. Take the time that you have now as a single person to serve and get to know the Lord and prepare B. Story about needing to prepare for surgery by not consuming anything - if he drank water - could die C. 1 Corinthians 7:7 "I wish that all of you were single as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that." D. You must get your relationship with God right before you can get your relationship with a guy or girl right. II. Dealing with Hurts --- Is there anyone in your life you have not forgiven? A. Colossians 3:13 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." B. Billie Gram -- What makes a great marriage? Two forgivers. III. Deal with toxic habits A. eating disorder, lying, porn, stress reliefs, lust, gambling, something to confess/work on etc B. Will not leave when you're married - will likely be magnified C. Give the gift to your future spouse - not make your problem "our problem" D. Being married does not change anything about you except that you're married - you must change- marriage is not a magical transformation button E. Everything else you prepare for- you don't just promise --- eg. sports F. I do is not enough G. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 11 " 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." H. Not happily ever after- grow together IV. Check your Pattern A. Dating/relationship cycles - if you don't know it, you can't address it B. Proverbs 14:15 The simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps. C. Patterns 1. Father was controlling so look for passive person or vice verse 2. or.. look for someone who likes you more than you like them - protect yourself from rejection- you have the power to leave because they won't 3.. Think badly of yourself and it affects your relationships F. Question: what would fireworks feel like - are they a criteria? Why is that important, even if the person is great on paper? (personal notes please stay in touch with Jesus - don't make decisions just off of feelings, but! the way you feel around someone is very important too. Ask God to plant his desires in your heart!) G. Is your alignment off? - you'll have to compensate - if on your own you go the wrong way in isolation H. "All the men I've dated are jerks!" You are the common denominator I. Make Your list- but people don't get divorced cuz he "wasn't witty enough"- divorce over selfishness etc. V. DATABLE LIST A. Jesus = first love B. Church member C. Humble- teachable - not perfect - ask for forgiveness D. Strong Character E. Value Marriage G. Proverbs 12:4 "A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." H. Outside/looks are going to change - inside stays the same I. Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" 1. Don't just follow your heart and infatuation VI. Check Your People A. Probers 24:6 "For by wise counsel you can wage your war, and in an abundance of counselors, there is victory." B. Hebrews 3:12 " See to it, brothers and sisters, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God." C. Song of Solomon - friends supporting and counseling you - D. Proverbs 18:1 "Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desires, whoever breaks out against all sound judgement." E. His engagement Story 1. Got super anxious after proposing 2. Check in with the people - he was just nervous - find people to keep you accountable and grounded VII. Check your plans A. Is marriage on the horizon? Could you see yourself getting married in the next 1-2 years? B. Luke 14:28-30 “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? 29 For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, 30 saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.'" C. Dating is a path to lead to a promise to a life long pursuit D. Don't perpetually date... You dated for 5 years? What information are you lacking? E. David Marvin hates the mall lol - can't breathe because of the perfume - pretzels everywhere haha 1. Shopping is allowed in the mall - don't shop for people - go with a focus and a purpose and a ready heart VIII. Conclusion A. If you are dateable- Date - do it! say yes and don't be scared! B. If you are not (this was stated in much love) work on yourself and give yourself to God - C. This life is about Jesus! Find someone who believes the same- raise disciples - have children - D. Do not date your own way - that is arrogant - surrender your all to Jesus E. Closing Prayer Hopefully this helps some of y'all! Good luck!

Great message Pastor David. This a such a huge lesson for me because I’ve been single for my whole life and was giving up on how to find the one. I’m grateful for the Porch.

One of the finest sermons I have been blessed to hear.

I am loving this and God! And what you guys are doing and how you are influencing the dark corners of this world. God bless you all. I can’t wait to see what this series entails.

So thankful to have come across this during my season of singleness. God bless you!

I am glad you exist...we need more people like you to teach proper dating and marriage. Thank you! Marriage is special, it is love and respect... Having a child is a gift, my daughter was never a hindrance of any kind luckily.

Truly needed to hear this message. Much love and thank you man.

I don’t think it’s coincidental I watched this video today. I had two wisdom teeth out today and somehow I forgot I shouldn’t drink anything. When the dentist told me if he gave me anesthesia I could die, I said “okay, I wanna live.” They couldn’t even use laughing gas because I had water an hour ago. I’m in a season of preparation and I have a list of priorities I need to get done before marriage because I wanna live and I want my marriage to live. Thanks for this gold pot 🙏🏾

Absolutely love this series! It has completely changed the way I look at dating

I didn’t become a Christian until 27 y/o I’m 28 now… my single season was wrapped up in sexual immorality and weed… hedonistic pursuits and fake friendships… Now, as I try to date… I feel as though im late to the game and I need more time single in a ‘healthy way’ as opposed to the way I spend my life up to this point, but I have a fear that Im getting too old and that im wasting my opportunities… I’ve tried talking with people online and I just stop answering… I’ve cried to God about it… I think it’s a deep fear… something off… whatever it is I know I need help and I just cry out to the Lord. I want to stop hurting people and I don’t want to get hurt. And then sometimes I think I might be called for lifelong singleness, so I don’t even start talking to anyone.

Thank you for the greatest message.

Needed to hear this!!

Amazing talk!! Thank you so much ☺️

This is a good message that a lot of singles need to see. I needed this!

This whole series 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Knowledge is power and i thank you for the knowledge Lord. I like the simplicity of how pastor David unfold this topic.

Going on a date tonight, very helpful very cool. thanks David 👌🏻

Thank you for this, I'm ready for an uncomplicated dating. I pray 🙏 for a god fearing man all all God fearing woman.

This is wisdom,

So good !!

this was so ggoooddddd!!!!! thank you

im definately coming to the porch this tuesday

I grew up without a Father. So many walk that same path of life, never knowing the TRUE guidance a Father can provide, the sense of protection, the unwavering love a Father is supposed to extend to his children. It only got harder once I had children of my own, HOW do I be a Father, when I don’t even know what it means…so many abandon their children asking that same question to themselves. God changed everything, God began showing me what it meant to love, to care, to nurture…but not just my children, but those around me “thy neighbor”. I realized I knew no Father, just so I could come to know THE FATHER, when the time was right 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 We are going to have “Moments of Uncertainty” But that is not as important as the element you use to relieve yourself. Many followers of Christ are still indulging in our vices and addictions to relieve our “Uncertainties” Lean on God in your darkest moments, lean on the word that says you were created with meaning and purpose, lean on the Grace of God…let it steady your mind, your heart and your body. I don’t know who I’m writing to, who’s reading this, but God is ready, and waiting for you to seek him, through Jesus Christ, whom he sent to die the death meant for you and I. Not just on Sunday, not just when you “need” him, not just when you’re desperate…but every day, hour, minute and second of your life. Develop consistency in Christ, and you will come to know what it means to “Be still, and know, that he is God” Glory be to God 🩸🩸🩸 If I still have you here, God bless you, join me as I take you inside a moment of my own personal “Uncertainty” in life, while never forgetting God has me always 🙏🏽🕊 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VXfWQtxnwqc.html

Powerful 🙌🏾🙌🏾

One thing I need to add which doesn't seem to be said in the comments is that marriage is not God's plan for everyone. If it's God's will for you to be married then you will be, if not, then you won't. This is found in 1 Corinthians 7:17. You can check it out yourself.

This was an awesome message!

We need The Porch here in California

Watchin this a year after my divorce. I think I need my prep to date for sure

Sooooo good

There's a season of singleness but that's not exactly comforting for someone who really wants to be married but never has been.

cmonnn now pastorrrr! tlk to em!

Amen!

If anyone is looking for good marriage and dating advise, you should look up Voddie Baucham . He talks about godly women hood, godly manhood and marriage topics.

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Jesus loves you

Ryan Reynolds of pastors

On paper, I have been blessed with be successful (career, athletics, I'm tall...all the hallmark trates that make a man attractive). I don't think I'm datebale at all. Perhaps something is wrong with me. Everything else in my life that I have put my mind to, I have succeeded. Except when finding a spouse sturgle with dating. I wanted a family, I don't know it that is what God wants for me..I'm content being alone, but I would like a partner to walk through life with.

My ex says he is a godly man. When he was with me he was on dating sites behind my back. He would lie to my face about it. He also would message females on social media ask for phone numbers all while I was at his home cooking him dinner. He would leave me behind on trips and go to bars and meet girls at the bars and get their numbers. I would find texts with tell them he wishes they were there with him. Females he hurt me for he would delete every thing about me photos memories and then add these girls on fb. But wanted me there when he felt like. After all this and more he told me he did nothing wrong per the Bible because we were not married. I couldn’t believe that was his mindset.

I have an issue with wanting to look at other women at time, not often which is rarely, but it's still there. Should I not date till I'm fixed???

I only engage in Carbon-14 Dating.

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Is passive men unbiblical?

11 DISLIKES? LOL WHO ARE THE HATERS?!

What do you do if you get married but then realize after being married for a lil bit that you weren’t ready for marriage?

It's impossible for me. God laughs at me daily 😭

Interesting comment about forgiveness!🤔 Though I wonder if refusing to conduct a wedding because someone hasn't forgiven is biblical?🧐 *Christian theology holds that repentance must come before forgiveness.* While it is harmful to hold on to past grudges/hurts it can be just as harmful to forgive those who have not seen the error of their ways, humbled themselves, and asked for forgiveness first. That's why we celebrate the story of the redemption of the "repentant thief" and not the "unrepentant thief"🤨

Jai Shree Ram ❤❤❤❤

Marriage cult. Can't knock the hustle tho.

Great story, but what were the scriptures on dating?🤯🤯💯💯🤍🤍