household gifts should be a gift to the house, unless its their hobby. my mom does all the cooking and cleaning. whenever mom expresses a frustration with something to do with cleaning and cooking he saves up for what it is she wants but that isnt her gift. its the houses gift. she gets her own separate gifts.
Baby blues isn't being "frustrated" about your life changes or career changes. Baby blues is your hormone levels going from the highest they've ever been to literally zero in a matter of hours. You lose an endocrine organ that had been producing the majority of your hormones for 9 months. In addition to the physical toll of birth. It's not sadness, it can be a debilitating depression that most mothers go through, it can turn into postpartum depression or postpartum psychosis that lasts for YEARS. Him thinking that baby blues is him being angry at the baby for changing his life is honestly disturbing as a mother who experienced severe postpartum depression/borderline psychosis.
Yes very ignorant. Men need education around post partum. They usually have no clue that it's very normal for the mother to be up and down emotionally/hormonally for months and if there's trauma around the birth it's 50x worse. They need to know how to support their partner through that and not be focusing on how it all affects him 2days post birth. Very selfish honestly
I'm crying at the relief of seeing someone spell it out so clearly. My youngest is about to be 9. I don't feel like I'll ever recover from the harsh effects of dealing with postpartum surrounded by people like that matt guy. The lack of understanding from doctors and most other people in general, is so harmful. I was crying to my psychiatrist about post partum rage and odd feelings of mental calmness but physical symptoms of anxiety and never diagnosed with dmer or post partum rage or post partum anxiety. When my mind cleared enough to diagnose myself, the various doctors then diagnosed me. I was just left to suffer by everyone around me, and then if I went to get milk alone I was treated like it was the ultimate event of self care. So insanely disturbing. Lol, so now I rather psychotically offer my services to any new mom I come across.
Postpartum hit me like a truck at 6 months pp. it’s just starting to get better at 10 months. Sometimes it hits late and is brought on by sleep deprivation.
@@jcam5064 I was more lucky in how my ppd was handled medically, my Dr instantly put me on antidepressants due to fear for my safety. I was never diagnosed with postpartum psychosis, so never medicated for that but looking back the thoughts I was having weren't normal even for ppd. I had a terribly unsupportive and abusive husband at the time who berated me for not doing enough while I was literally on the verge of suicide daily. It is way more difficult when you aren't supported by those around you, so I can definitely relate to that. So proud that you've pushed through and have chosen to help other new moms with your experience. Sending peace and love your way 💜
'I failed you' SHE IS THE REASON HE EVEN CELEBRATES FATHERS DAY 😭 It's literally two days all about him, Who cares if its put together?? You are still the center of attention.
She was also extremely pregnant and threw him a party the day they came home from a trip. But poor guy had to grill the food at his own birthday party, I don’t know how he survived that
Before i had a child i was out until sunrise, restaurants were 2-3 hours long. Now im home at 9pm on the dot, dinners are an hour max. Before i go on a trip i do research so i know its kid friendly. Im NOT sorry, when you become a parent you have a responsibility towards your child/ren. They didnt ask to be brought into this world and they dont owe you shit, you owe them.
@@leahsmith8363 i know... Some mothers in the park have told me i cant wait until he/she goes to kindergarten/school etc. and it blows my mind. Maybe because i have a 1yo and their super chill and happy, but i cant imagine leaving my child alone for more than 3 hours. I have left him with grandparents, but i time it so he is taking a nap and they have to watch him for max 2 hours. It can get tiring and frustrating at times but when i hear his giggle or see his smile it all goes away
I hate the kind of people who always claim “children will ruin your life” “when you’re a parents life’s no fun” “kids are such burdens” like just say you hate being a parent 😭
literally😭 my parents weren’t the greatest but i could tell they did everything for me and my siblings and never ever did they make us feel like a burden. i think nowadays a lot of people who have children just think of it as getting a puppy (which is still a big amount of work) rather than a human they have to devote all their time and rest of their lives to
They usually end up being the worst parents too. In high school, my homies mom called having kids a burden. One time I showed up at the homies house late bc i was driving around the city tryna get shit off my mind and felt like I just needed to chill before I did something retarded. When I pulled up to the house unannounced I could hear the homies mom calling him worthless and a pain in the ass to have at the house bc of him and his brother she couldn’t do shit. I went back to the truck for a bit and took a few hits off the penjamjn, texted an ex who I was close with (we broke up bc she moved cities) and she told me just to go knock on the homies door bc she didn’t want me being stupid and driving to the other homies house close by. When I did go back up to the door the homies mom was still yelling at him and so I just knocked, she sounded pissed someone was knocking but put on a face when she opened the door and acted like nothing happened. After that night I found out that when I left the homies mom continued her bs and said “I wish he was my son because you are a disappointment” I never went back to their house after. We just hung out at the other homies house after since his dad loved us like his own and would take us out to eat when he was around. Also bc we got to work on cars. Now that the homie moved out and the homies brother is a senior in high school their mom been going out to parties and shit. She really missed partying. Kinda sad she saw her kids as burdens bc now the homies has gone no can’t act with her and the brother is planning to do the same.
Literally! Imagine having the audacity to say that the tiny humans, who didn’t ask to be brought into this world and were born simply because of a purely selfish decision of 1 person/2 people, are then ruining said people’s life. Like do they not understand the effect that would have on the kids if the kids ever heard them say that having kids ruin their life?!
exactly, then you suggest not having kids and they take it as a personal offense lmao It's just as annoying as the other kind of people who think everyone can and should be a parent because kids will 'fix your life' (and maybe your broken marriage)
I am here to once again implore whoever may need to hear it : FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, YOU DO NOT **NEED** TO HAVE CHILDREN. NOT EVERYONE **NEEDS** TO BE A PARENT. PLEASE STOP HAVING CHILDREN IF THEY ARE JUST A STRAIGHT UP BURDEN TO YOU. thanks, that's been my Ted talk
Honestly this! I wish having children wasn't being pushed on everyone and seen as a necessity to have a "successful life". Some people should straight up not have children and others don't want children of their own and this should be fine.
Like yeah. I never wanted to be a parent and my mom always said "I was like that too, and now I have 3 kids. You'll marry and have kids too" and my brother always said "your biological clock will tick, and you'll want kids, it happened to me" I hated that. Because I didn't want kids because even at a young age, I could tell that I would be a shit mom, because I get enraged so quickly, and I had some disabilities that I didn't want to have a possibility to hand down to my kids. And even now I don't have kids. I hate it that most are told that they'll have kids even when they say they don't want to.
Agree!!! And honestly you can't really win. Ppl get mad at couples for not getting children, telling them they are selfish. And then the same ppl have children and do stupid stuff like this
This is such a small part of it, but when he complains about being the one to grill on his birthday, i just know he wasnt the one who prepared the food for the grill
@@Dankyjaboyeah cuz in one vidhe actually says that abby does everything in their house. And he didn't do the one thing he was supposed to. That was my wtf moment when i heard about this couple. He's just big narcissistic man child
If he actually cared enough about it he could have discovered that Australia+NZ celebrate it in September... But if he did he'd probably blame his wife for not knowing it sooner OR want to be celebrated twice
Matt’s behaviour after the birth of their second child is absolutely everything I need to know. He showed a complete lack of empathy and love for his wife and new born child. Totally self centred and narcissistic 🙄 That behaviour is actually traumatic for a woman who has just given birth. She will never forget that and her birthing experience will forever be tainted by his selfishness.
Not only that. The fact that Abby got pregnant SO soon after she just gave birth to the first is when I got an ick from Matt. It was so clear by Abby’s reaction to the pregnancy that she absolutely did not want a second child so soon. Matts behavior throughout the second pregnancy was also icky. I felt so bad for her at that moment. Your wife is still mentally and physically processing the first pregnancy, and you are thinking of intimacy with zero protection at that time😢 it’s just incredibly sad
The way Abby sobbed on the podcast right after the birth he did nothing to comfort her! He’s the absolute worst and I hope she will realize she deserves better!
@@backhander8710she did, in the full clip she was being sarcastic/dramatic but many fully did not catch that and was like "oh she's agrees this was her fault" in his head I'm sure
if the airbags in your car work, why do you need to wear a seatbelt? if your epi pen works, why avoid food you’re allergic to? see how stupid you sound? they were watching the baby monitors for the same reason day cares have cameras the parents can check. if you went out for the night, you wouldn’t check on your kids at all? the mental gymnastics and literal lack of common sense yall are deploying in order to justify hating complete strangers is INSANE. get help. quickly.
i dont mean to wish the children ill but maybe just to make sure the family doesn’t do anything wrong in caring for them? like how older people might have different childbearing habits that the parents doesn’t agree with or something, or maybe just to make sure their kids are safe ‘safe’, especially how most sexual crimes are committed by people who are close which includes family
i don’t like matt and abby and im not sure whether I believe them about there being a family member with the baby mainly because why didn’t they just say that immediately instead of taking down the post and ignoring it for a few days. However, my dad used to do this with my baby sister even when I or anyone was watching my sister. Part of it was because the way my sisters crib was if we had the monitor in it we can see if she’s starting to get restless or awake but not wanting to get up yet without accidentally waking her up if she was asleep but also, my dad is just super paranoid and always likes to have peace of mind and access to his children. I’m 23 and living in a different state now for college and this man gets anxious if he hasn’t heard from me by 4pm. The love and care parents have will lead to them doing things that may be unnecessary but make them feel more secure in being away from their child. I don’t think it’s the craziest explanation is all i’m saying. 🤷♀️
To be it’s the fact that they put this as a “hack.” They did not have anyone watching their children otherwise she would have done a huge disclaimer that it’s a hack if you want to still watch your kids even if somebody is watching them bc you don’t trust anyone for about an hour. They’re able to leave their kids with family members for hours but they can’t for a dinner?? Nah they lied.
While it’s pretty clear that they’re lying in this situation, it’s not as strange as you might think to do this. I’m assuming it’s just something you don’t understand unless you have kids. I probably would have thought the same before I had one of my own. But there are reasons you might do this.
Also: the part where you stopped to thank the viewers & talked about not having to worry about rent was a bright spot in this dark video, made me smile. Cheers my dude! 🎉
Yeah fr I’m happy for him. My first video and I really love it!! He has great perspective and expresses himself super well. And how he thanked the person for saying he looks good in red (he does), so he wears it! I loved that
the worst thing here is that their kids are going to see this content when they’re older and realize how little their parents cared about them. that’s gonna hurt. we’ll probably get some fresh tea from the kids at that point. the content here is potentially never ending. this family is cursed by social media.
You don’t need a video like this to know. You can’t tell from how they act once you’re old enough to start understanding that it’s not normal. It was 6th grade for me
As someone with 2 under 2 when my husband passed and no family help, the parent will have to make sacrifices. Kids cant go? You find a sitter. No sitter? You dont go and as an adult you can be sad about it but dont put the kids in danger smh.
Exactly what my parents did. Growing up they never went out and always took care of us. Now that we’re all adults n 2/3 of us are out of the house my parents go on dates and go out n do more stuff together now. a lot of people want to have kids, but don’t want the responsibility of being a parent. I can’t even blame it on their age, cuz my mom had my eldest sister at 15 n me the youngest at 21 n she STILL sacrificed so much to make sure we were raised well n taken care of.
Madeleine McCann is exactly who I was thinking of from the first moment I heard about this - these parents didn't do their research on whether their cruise was toddler-friendly, and so they essentially abandoned their kids on a boat full of strangers instead of just accepting a sucky holiday that they can afford to re-do next year. I can't even begin to think about the number of emergencies that could happen when they weren't there
@@the_coco_roacha British couple left their children in a hotel room (in a resort I believe) to go have dinner just a short distance away, the daughter, Madeleine who was around 5 years old (I think but she might have been younger) has never been found, it was a huge story in the UK and is even still talked about today as a shocking reminder not to leave your kids alone on holidays
I haven't begun the story yet but I don't think its about them dropping them at the KIDZ ZONE type of thing you see on all carnival cruises & Disney. If they did that I'd say that's normal but I really have a feeling they didn't leave them with the KIDZ Team which is where you take the kids to do activities while the parents do Dinner in the Formal No kid area ......
i dislike both matt and abby, but matt really disgusts me... especially that bit where he was having "Baby blues", like bro should've considered this before everything and stepped up as a father & husband😭😭😭 what a loser
That woman is the embodiment of a fish in a blender. Her sole goal is to make sure he's happy and doesn't leave her. It's really sad to watch, actually, and those children will eventually understand they're placement on the totem pole.
ok listen.. I don't believe they had anyone watching their kids, but on the topic of a "trusted family member" I have to say this. I, like many children, was taken advantage of by a "trusted" member of my family. You can NEVER be too safe. I don't think monitoring in addition to an adult in the room is a bad thing.
I feel like leaving your children unattended on a CRUISE SHIP adds another level of danger to this whole situation. It's a boat in the middle of a massive body of water, and if the kids get out of their respective rooms, or forbid wants to cause them harm, it's not hard for something life endangering to happen (that may take hours for someone to notice).
a perk to not having TikTok is every story i hear you talk about regarding anything to do with the app is all new and exciting and something i haven’t heard before🤩really been enjoying the channel!
@@stasialii 😭 Although I heard that Film Cooper was bullied off TikTok because of the Marsha P Johnson comparison edit: Like he’s known as a the Marsha P Johnson guy over there
we don’t live in a man-hating world. i’m actually quite surprised that you don’t understand why ppl were perplexed by this statement. we’ve always existed in a patriarchal, misogynistic society, and women and femmes are exhausted by it. now that we’re speaking out en masse, it’s suddenly being framed as ‘man-hating.’ i understand her concern for her sons but if they're raised to respect girls and women they won’t have to worry about that. instead of fearing the world, maybe her focus should be on raising kids with the right values. it also seems like she phrased it that way intentionally to provoke a reaction, and it worked.
Yeah and also she acts like every single word that comes out of his husband's mouth is a fact (that I think a result of manipulation) I think her husband whines about this and that and creates an atmosphere that he has challenges bc he is a man and she aslo takes them as facts. I don't think she had close a male relative or a friend growing up and her husband is the only example so she views the men's world how her husband portays it. That doesn't mean that she is innocent people have been warning her about her husband's suspicious behaviors
lol you seem delusional by 50-60 years ago. modern day feminism is just thinly vailed man hating. all you do is complain about things you say "us men caused" when none of the people you take your anger out on have ever had anything to do with your personal struggles and were simply born in the same world as you. and this attitude that "good men don't have to worry about the message" is simply delusional. if people were slandering your family, and you knew it was false, you wouldn't feel assured by your own knowledge. that doesn't change the impact of the statements of others. so if you call me a terrible person, and pin all of your problems on men indiscriminately as if we are all perpetrating this idea to keep women down as some sort of man club, then it feels harsh in the same way. i don't want dirty looks on the subway, or people crossing the street at night as if im not scared of being robbed too. Bad people do bad things, but for some reason you look for commonalities between them and treat anyone with those characteristics as if they are at fault too.
people like you create more misogyny. when you teach little boys that you "dont need men for anything", as such is the current feminist movement, you in turn teach those same little boys to not care about women or their feelings. if you dont care about them, and they just should shut their mouth and be quite since ether great great grandad once made his wife stay in the house, then there is little to no reason for them to care about you. this is just an attempt to flip the power dynamic in women's favor, and not to build true common ground. This way of going about things leads only to the creation of extremists who prey on this anger for money, like Andrew Tate and drew Afflalo. Tate will teach little boys how women are nothing more than holes and profit if they are not a virgin, while Drew preaches how men are useless and provide nothing. this is literally the same message, but some women are blinded by the past and get taken advantage of by people who want nothing more than to keep this argument going so they can profit. youre not helping your cause.
These people are so privileged and see the world through the American side of TikTok and consider the dumbass tweets about “hating men” and the bear vs men controversy to be peak men hating society. In the US women irl are actually being denied bodily rights and in some countries they are still legally seen as less than, like my parents’. Imagine being a woman in a state where girls as young as 10 are being forced to marry grown men who will abuse them for the rest of their lives because “tradition” and “it’s your role” and hearing some dumb privileged white woman online crying about the world hating men. honestly, shut up.
If my husband described the birth of our child as earth shattering (in a bad way obvi) and then said it online for everyone to hear I would scrub myself off the internet and log off WTF????
also the fact she was keeping a running commentary on her story. anyone on that cruise could have seen that and would have known their exact routine and when the kids were alone. horrifying
Also there are several people usually full grown adults who have gone missing on cruises and never seen again. How much easier would it be to made a toddler or infant to disappear
I think she rushed for motherhood, did they really planned to be parents that young? Because when I saw the video of his reaction to the pregnancy he seemed for real shocked, their reaction both reaction wasn't a " we planned a pregnancy" it looked more like " we are having an unexpected pregnancy, surprise?"
as someone who has a husband in the army and a dad in a different country, a barbecue with the family sounds like a vacation. This man has no idea how incredibly good he has it. He needs to be careful what he wishes for because it seems like he is thinking the grass is greener somewhere else.
My husband is in the Air Force now and I live across the country from my parents n I thought the exact same thing. My dad’s 53rd birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and I so wish I could go have a barbecue with him.
They clearly both had a very naive idea of what marriage and children would be like. You can tell they both have a lot of maturing to do which is evident when they say things like 'divorce isn't an option for us' and Matt being upset about having to celebrate father's day and his birthday together or even just they way they speak about and to one another just gives like teenage or first relationship instead of married parents and I can only see this relationship either ending in divorce once they actually mature and realize the dynamics of their relationship or they'll stay together and end up angry and resenting one another for years.
If I’m correct, they were both fairly religious and Matt was very eager to have sex. He essentially married her to have sex. He said in a podcast that Abby’s mom did not approve of them getting married so young/had a lot of reticence about it. He doesn’t enjoy the feeling of condoms so…pregnant fairly quickly and then Abby thought she couldn’t get pregnant while breastfeeding so pregnant again.
@@vainpiersand they are very young parents. I know parents that young but they’re not immature like them… because they are not as privileged and actually needed to work for their money and then got pregnant and we met then at a postnatal exercise course. At that course the aged varied from 21-37 years of age. And we all talked which gave us different perspectives. We met afterwards also a couple of times and still have a group chat which also helps to get further changes of perspectives in the parenting journey. Discourse makes people grow. And it seems like they don’t talk to other parents that much? Only like their family? Essentially it seems like they don’t see other perspectives and don’t want to see other perspectives and essentially don’t want to grow mentally…
I cannot fathom how an adult feels like his birthday is so important. Where I come from birthdays are for children. Adults may just get a happy birthday from close people, a cake at best from their family. Birthdays ain’t that deep
THIS. If it was on Mother’s Day or even Christmas, I could understand wanting to celebrate separately. But the day is still about him at the end of the day
No- no- no- no- I’ve seen so many stories of parents leaving small children all alone and it really makes me angry. It’s illegal for a reason. They are too young!! Also- I thought of Madeline Mccan too. Parents like this really shock me to my core. So Stupid!
Sounds like they don’t socialize their kids which is why they didn’t want to go to the kids club. They probably don’t take their kids out to eat either so the kids don’t act right when they do go out. It’s bad parenting that led to misbehavior that led to more bad parenting. I say this from experience as my kids are exactly the same age apart as their kids and I took my kids on cruises at that age and did not have these issues.
They're used to being in child care situations. She went back to the gym quickly after the second baby. She said the gym had child care and she used it for both kids.
If you are in the financial situation to pay 100k for a vacation, and can’t possibly bear dealing with your children at dinner… couldn’t you not just hire a nanny? They could afford it
My parents have never left me alone in a hotel until I was 14 or 15 years old. They went to get a burger and even asked me if I wanted to come but I was too tired that I didn’t want to go. I just sat in the hotel room and read. When my parents came back they bought a burger for me to eat and a drink. This was when I was old enough to have a phone and text them when was I 14, not 2 years old
She made that Instagram story thinking she had herself a "mommy hack" to share to all of social media. Viral moment she wanted turned out to be a different viral.
why are parents this year genuinely so horrible?? this makes me angry as someone who had bad parents. i will never understand why people mistreat their kids, legitimately no excuse.
Someone on reddit made a good point. They said the kids were in two separate rooms and they were facetiming both monitors to keep an eye on their babies because of them being in a black out tent essentially. So... Wouldn't that mean two adults needed to be there to be in each room? Sure there is a chance that if they are telling the truth, the family member could have kept them on the bed watching them. But Abby literally said they were in their tents, Matt said they cant fit both tents in one room. So... At least, they were relying on one adult to continuously walk back and forth, leaving a baby no matter what, alone at a time.
This! And something that occurred to me…if the babies were in separate rooms, they needed at least four devices. One on each baby and one with them. So….did they prop up their computers or ipads in the room then call themselves on their phones? And she was taking pictures of the table setting while at dinner; I know the function on Apple devices allows for multi-tasking with the views of the face time, but that's kinda defeating the point of “watching the monitor.” It starts to sound a little ridiculous. Of course maybe they put the kids in the same room to keep it to one silly daisy-chained device face time, but still sounds convoluted as heck. All in all I hope someone was watching the babies but its sad to imagine they weren't.
@@madamemelone4947 I even chose a daycare that has an app that gives updates about EVERYTHING. Naps, snacks, bottles, mood, diapers, playtime, photoupdates. I've been with her 24/7 since she was born for 2 years, it's weird being seperated now even with trusted caretakers.
So a couple things, One: you can leave your kids in daycare even if they're upset. This Cruise line has 24/7 child care that is renowned. Two: the buffets serve the same food as the formal dining hall. So even if they felt uncomfortable, they certainly could have taken them to the buffet.
Interestingly, as someone raising 2 boys, ive never been concerned about this "man hating world" considering im raising decent feminist aligned boys. If you're concerned about your boys growing into adults in this society, you're raising misogynists. Women dont hate men who are allys. Sure, we're still cautious, but allys are understanding of that. You'd have to understand that you'd be cautious of swimming with sharks, right? You're probably going to come out of the water completely unharmed, but there's a possibility that you're going to be mauled to death.
This couple is the perfect examples of two people who DO NOT want to be parents, but had kids because their religion is anti-premarital sex and anti-contraception. They probably just got married and started popping out babies because that’s the only option they thought they had. I work with kids, and sadly I see so many parents like this. It’s a really big contrast to when I encounter emotionally mature older couples who waited to have kids.
Plenty of people have said she used the IUD for some time and then got it removed without talking about it with him, now I don't know what's the truth....
Me too. It's really unfortunate that they air literally all their dirty laundry out on the internet . I stopped watching them because I had started noticing really weird things that they would talk about and things they would do, but now realizing that they basically abandoned their children on a cruise. As someone who hasn't yet had children but has helped with my 6 younger siblings, and my parents have either always taken us everywhere or left us with my older brother or our grandparents. It's really sad how he kinda speaks down to Abby
To me it’s that she put it as a “hack” and never put a disclaimer that somebody is still watching their children bc they don’t feel fully comfortable not watching them as well. They have left their kids for hours with family members and they don’t FaceTime the baby monitor. They can’t trust this family member for a simple dinner? They lied and left their kids alone and fully thought people were gonna say “omg how smart, I will try that” but instead had people call them out. Instead of clarifying right away, Abby just deleted the post and thought it would just go away or just reach their haters. When they saw people magazine talking about them they 100% talked to their lawyer and did the typical “nobody knows what’s going on and they just assumed” when they’re the ones who shares this post💀
Okay, I could figure out they were on a Carnival ship.They have plenty of kids activities you just have to register your kid for the club at the beginning of the cruise. Also, their ships are focused on family activities, there is an entire kids area on the ship in the kids club for babies all the way to teens. They clearly did not put research into planning a good vacation for their sons. Edit: They were on a Carnival ship not a Royal caribbean ship.
The kids club isn't somewhere you can drop them off and leave them all day though, at most they should only be at the kids club for scheduled activities and maybe a few extra hours while the parents are having a nice lunch or dinner for themselves at one of the resteraunt's then the parents should pick them up shortly after from the kids club especially if they are younger children and not teenagers. Some people take the kids clubs as invitations to drop their kids off for 9+ hours in a row or more so they can go act a fool elsewhere on the ship.
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My dad's birthday is Christmas day and he's a twin, so growing up, that sucked. And then, when they had kids, his birthday sucked again cause it was all about setting up our toys. Now that we're adults, every few years (especially on big years, like when he turned 60), we throw him a surprise birthday throughout the year. Just any random day so hes always surprised. But we, his kids, do that. He's never asked about it. He's actually never even complained about having to set up gifts for his kids for about 15 years on his birthday. Also, he doesn't like cake but would blow out candles on Christmas night because that's what we thought made a birthday celebration when we were little. I get having your birthday and a holiday combined can suck. But both his birthday and fathers day are days to celebrate HIM. So he definitely comes off as annoying.
Abby being upset about her son being raised in a man hating world probably got backlash is because it's not that women hate men, it's more about how certain men treat the women in their lives. I work in a very heavy male dominated work place, and I don't hate all the men at my work, but it hurts me to hear how they treat their baby mumma's or wives, simply because they just don't want to try and put in the effort as much as their partners. It's also the fact that so many women have felt like or been forced to stay quiet about certain issues resolving a man, because they just felt like they weren't going to be heard or believed. I myself am in a situation currently involving a male who I believe took advantage of myself and continued because I couldn't stand up for myself, but he should've known better because there is a 30+ year difference between us two. I don't hate him, but I do hate the fact he treated me like that specifically and did it to nobody else.
they actually do take your organs out of your body to get to the uterus during c-sections, they have to bc our digestive system is above the uterus. they put them back tho and it doesn’t typically cause any damage to them, but that’s the only thing she got right in this video lmao
I think the reasons I'm shocked about her being upset about her son being in a "man-hating" world is 1- He will be a middle class white American man, hes a man who would typically have it easier than 99% of the world 2- Boohoo, its sad people will hate on him, maybe there's a fear around raising daughters that they'll be attacked by a man thats a genuine fear? 3- There's thousands of babies and children dying in warzones every single day, but poor her for raising her sons in a "man-hating" world. 4- Maybe she's worried that her sons will face a lot of hate because her husband (rightly so) faces a lot of hate, and her sons will be raised by a man who treats other people poorly. But Matt doesn't get hate because he's a man, he gets hate because hes a terrible person.
As a young woman, that conversation about "how she feels after" scared me so much, that a man I love is gonna think, "oh it ain't the same", there is something so derogatory about it, to have someone's child and be demeaned in such a way. I hate this.
I FINALLY got an account after watching u on my TV for a while, and I started watching js as u blew up as a commentary ytber (3ish months ago), and idk if this is weird but ur voice is soothing and I can watch your video in the background, without getting annoyed over the "RU-vidr" voice. AND CONGRATULATIONS ON 50k!!🥳❤
I love how you're more positive and upbeat than other commentary channels. Much more down to earth and it's such a refreshing change of pace to the overly pessimistic or 'edgelord' commentary channels out there.
For the “man hating world” part, I just wanted to voice my personal opinion on why what she said was wrong. I think a large part of it comes from this idea of demonizing feminism or women-centered issues. What I mean by that is that there are some influencers or women online that like to argue that anything feminist has to mean hating, demonizing, and hurting men. Some women online do say things that demonize men, but that’s not the main issue. Our world favours men, historically and in a lot of quite provable ways. Women are growing more upset at the fact that men are given more opportunities or are given freedom to hurt, sexualize, and attack women. This creates an anxiety and fear around men that is being spread to try and protect women from THOSE TYPES OF MEN. For the most part, it’s not about hating every single individual- including children- that are born male. It’s about not giving men a pass or the ability to get away with being awful to women. If you raise a loving, kind man that is able to understand he is more than the stereotype of masculinity and can respect women; he will not have to grow up hating his own gender. Some men hold guilt for what other men have done but they are not being asked to completely hate themselves when they are innocent. She tries to play down the issue and say that her little baby is going to be hurt without considering the women that have already been hurt by so many men. If her son is grown to love women, he should be safe. True equality is about men and women, and all those in between, to be safe and happy despite their gender identity. We should not make the issue about the safety of women revolve around the poor men that don’t know how to handle guilt or understand the power/privilege they hold. This mother makes it all about men when the whole point is to actually consider women and the issues happening.
I think part of the problem is that we've become so used to one extreme (patriarchy), that moving anywhere away from that feels a lot worse than it actually is. And because feminism has already accomplished a lot in levelling the playing field (in major issues, but not minor ones), people think that the feminists of today are pushing it too far, using it as an excuse to target men. The truth is that, yes, women have more rights today than ever before. But there are still problems lurking beneath the surface that need to be addressed, even if they aren't as openly blatant. The last issue is fear. Any group that held the most power at one point internally fear the day those they have been suppressing take their power back, because they are afraid that their acts will be repeated onto them. Men cannot afford to lose their power, because they are afraid that everything they have done to women will be done to them as well. As a result, they preemptively respond to the imaginary threat by using hatred and anger as a way to protect themselves.
@@aszitwas I like that you used the word discrimination, but in case you're interested, the message is generally quoted as 'oppression.' If you're not (interested) or you already knew or anything else, please know I'm not trying to offend and I'm sorry if I do.
Madeleine McCan is literally the perfect example for this… Leaving the children alone was literally the main reason why shit happened… Matt and Abby’s kids might have been fine now, but it’s only a matter of time until something happens due to clear negligence. If you can’t bring your kids (and you don’t have anywhere to leave them safely) either don’t go or just don’t have kids.
It's not even like they went to their next door neighbor's house and left their kids home to sleep and could go over in 5 seconds if necessary, cruise ships are massive. So really this is more like leaving your very young children home while you go 20 blocks away. I think the fact that they're still all on the same boat gives people some false sense of security or something. If you're on opposite ends you could technically be a small town away from your kids.
Honestly my bigger concern is there are a lot of suffocation/injury risks in those rooms, and unless you are able to get to them within a minute your kid could get really hurt. I understand the impulse (I was once strongly tempted to go a block to the store for one thing while my 2 month old slept), but generally speaking, if the middle ages has taught us anything, it's that toddlers and babies really should not be left alone.
why didn’t they just bring dinner to their rooms? they still get to have it together, while the kids are safe and asleep…? i’d prefer that 100x more then eating with random strangers. just me and my family all cozy on our dream vacation….
Omg I’m 13min in and just now realised their kids are under 3 😳 They are younger than 3 YEARS OLD WHAT!! How can they walk away and go to dinner I just don’t get it 😢
On a cruise once we hit bad weather. Our 14yr old was in our room, we were in the casino. We had to get our vests on and go on deck..... trying to get to our room to our daughter was horrendous. Theres hundreds of people trying to get up while you are trying to get down. It was near impossible. She was 14 and i was terrified, i cant imagine leaving babies. Now we also make sure that we are all always on the same deck. Their situation could go so wrong very quickly
my birthday, my dad’s birthday, and father’s day are all in the same week. my dad has literally never cared if he has to have less days “about him.” he always used to say that celebrating his kid was the best gift he could ask for. if the only way you as a parent feel like you’re doing a good job, maybe you need to look within yourself.
Dude you’re posting so much. Like you used to post once per week but now you’re posting way more. That’s so cool. Im always happy when I see you posting cause I can finally watch a good commentary video. Like ur vids are very nice.
@@Dankyjabo Yeah dont worry. You need to take breaks if it’s too much or you’ll end up in a burn out. So it’s better to take more time. Tbh I’d rather you be ok than getting more videos.
The fact shes complaining when most people, myself included, will never even get a vacation let alone afford a cruise. If she had my life she'd fucking cry. Not Joking! Not exaggerating in the slightest! 😑😅😓 Sidenote I agree red is definitely your color!😀❤AND yay for the random wall rainbow! So awesome! It made me so happy that you were thrilled about it showing up. 🌈
For real! I'm 26 and nowhere close to even thinking vacations like that, even my mom that's 60 is going to for the first time travel abroad and only to see her first granddaughter, not because she can afford it but because is a gift for her, is very easy to some people that had everything so simple
@Framokamc almost 33 here but I feel you. I've never even let myself daydream about things like vacations much less anything I'd love in life because I know they aren't going to happen. I can't let myself because that'd just make me more depressed so there is no point. I can barely afford a meal out with family! I am so happy for your mama,she's gonna do awesome on her travels! congratulations to her getting to go meet her grand baby! and the person who gifted the trip to her to do so I wish I could fist bump them on her and your behalf! cuz that's so thoughtful to help her with that! ❤️ if she is flying remind her she doesn't have to be perfect just follow the rules and if concerned about anything to ask any staff around the airport or wherever she is for help,there is no shame in it! everyone needs help sometimes. ❤️
The birthday/father’s day thing is wild to me. I’m an American and thanksgiving is one of our biggest holidays. My birthday is always either on or right before/after thanksgiving. It’s Nov. 28th. I can’t imagine asking people to not celebrate thanksgiving on its actual day because I need my birthday to be all about ME. What store is selling the audacity?! 😂
The funniest thing is that if she didn't overshare in the first place they wouldn't be in this controversy. I'm glad they became a lesson for everyone else 😂
This is gross. They're gross. But I really just wanted to comment to tell you I love your channel. You're so chill, down to earth, and honest. Great reads. So happy to see your channel growing. Also, agree. You do look good in red lol
Okay idk why Abby said baby monitors only work 10 feet because that would mean you need to be directly outside a door for it to work. They definitely work in farther range but not in range for a cruise ship 🤦♀️
To play devil’s advocate: I bet they’ll say they were FaceTiming the tablet directed to film the monitor which was propped up at the perfect angle using a perfectly sized holster/stand attached to the Tablet, which was also perfectly angled with one of their phones to FaceTime it; giving viewing access to both the “someone who was always watching the babies,” and the parents. They even said 10 feet away was a bad connection. If someone wanted to actually MONITOR the BABY MONITOR, you pick up the tablet and look at it. You don’t usually just leave it there. You take it around the room with you, to the kitchen, the bathroom, etc. ALSO they stated they kept the babies in two different rooms (however they were adjoined rooms with one door leading to the other room,) but that would mean they replicated it perfectly for two kids. I just don’t believe them. It’s a terrible and risky move as a parent to do that, but everyone makes very bad mistakes with their kids sometimes because (despite how perfect you think you are,) no parent is perfect. However, why lie about it???
Just recently started watching you and genuinely your commentary is so refreshing. Your energy is so pure and infectious dude it makes me so excited to listen to you talk about random people on the internet. I’ve been recommending your videos to anyone who will listen to me speak for the past week- I’m excited to see your channel grow even further!!
37:40 i feel that what’s annoying about what she said is that it’s tone deaf. to say we live in a “man hating culture” dismisses literally everything women go through because we are women.
Women have fought and died just to still be extremely disrespected, objectified, r*aped, and not believed. When people say we live in a man hating world, I feel it even goes beyond tone deaf. It goes down to the patriarchy and taught self-misogyny and hate. It's a systematic issue ingrained into society that we as women are still to this day being demonized and killed for. When people say THIS IS A MAN HATING WORLD BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE HOLDING ME ACCOUNTABLE, or this is a man hating world because people are noticing the unbalanced power dynamic men hold over women is trying to put ro shampoo undermined the female exprience and all the history of our fallen sisters and the sacrifices they've made just to be at point. Just to be at the point where men are still killing women, r*ping them, grooming them, holding a hierarchy over them, and being paid more while also playing the victim.
Women have fought and died just for use to be extremely disrespected, objectified, r*aped, and not believed. When people say we live in a man hating world, I feel it goes beyond tone deaf. It's down to deep seeded patriarchy and taught self-misogyny and hate. It's a systematic issue ingrained into society that we as women still are still being demonized and killed for. When people say THIS IS A MAN HATING WORLD BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE HOLDING ME ACCOUNTABLE, or this is a man hating world because people are noticing the unbalanced power dynamic men hold over women is trying to put a blanket overand undermined the female exprience and all the history of our fallen sisters/the sacrifices they've made just to be at this point. Just to at the point where men are still killing women, r*ping them, grooming them, holding a hierarchy over them, and being paid more while also playing the victim.
Honestly i am nt mad at him for being sad that father's day and his birthday came on the same day.. a little childish ,but still.. its fine i guess.. It was the fact that she was that pregnant and just returned from a tiring trip.. must have felt exhausted but still took the time to throw him one party .. STILL he was upset .. that is the problem i think..
a thought i had on the cruise ship - the kids may not have been allowed in the dining room. HOWEVER. if that was the case, they should have sent one parent to get food for everyone while the other parent stayed with the kids. i don't even have or want kids and i know this!!
As someone who just went on a 7 day cruise in Aug with my husband, two year old and one year old and my in laws….. it was rough taking our two toddlers to these formal dining areas. So guess what?! We didn’t go! Or our in laws offered to watch them for a couple hours two of the nights so we could have a date night. Don’t bring your toddlers if you’re not ready to spend a lot of the time running around the ship and bunking in the room (naps and early bedtimes) omg I hate these ppl! She complained the whole time and they left their fucking kids ALONE! Thats insane. Terrible terrible parents, for fine dining?? It’s called a buffet, chew and screw when you have toddlers
The cruise situation is not only scary but there has been cases where people go on a cruise and go missing. Literally anything could happen- even if they don't go missing anything awful could've happened and it's so dangerous, including simple accidents. Like kids are accident prone as shit that's why 99% of the time you're supposed to be around them bc they are amazing and harming themselves. Literally EVERYTHING BAD could happen when they are alone like that
You just popped onto my page. I love listening to people talk about niche drama. (Not saying that this situation isn't serious. It is horrible that these parents left their kids unattended and it should be talked about)
