TikTok thinks we’re getting divorced, our travel nightmare & flying with a newborn | Ep. 42 

I was actually just thinking while watching this episode that Abby is looking much happier and more settled than she has in probably the last year or so. It's really great to see

I cried at the part where Abby talks about how much she loves getting to see different versions of Matt in different stages of life. I yearn for something like this in my life and I’m so happy you guys have this together. Wish you guys all the best. I appreciate you sharing this with us.

Abby, pelvic floor physical therapy can help and doesn't have to be invasive. I went to one at a physical therapist in a clinic and she didn't even need to do a physical exam. She just showed me exercises and she did touch my crouch area, but it was over my clothes. It was just to feel the movement from the exercises. It can really help if you are suffering from incontinence. It can also prevent your uterus from prolapsing when you're older.

I think it’s awful how negative people have been about you two. No one understands a relationship except the two involved and really no one should judge in any rude way. It’s uncalled for especially since the two of you don’t share everything for obvious reasons. Sending support ❤

My husband and I have been married for 21yrs and our kids are ages 20,18, and 16. The most beautiful part of marriage; is learning to love the new versions of each other as you go through life. I believe having children forever changes us, but other major life events do also. The death of a close loved one, loss of job, traumatic injury of a spouse or ourselves. It's okay though. It's meant to be that way. We find each other and fight for our partner through all of life's ups and downs. That is both beauty, pain, and triumph. It's the reason something deep inside us feels moved when we see an elderly couple still holding hands and loving each other. That is a lifetime of conscious perseverance speaking for itself. BTW I LOVE your podcast and it's the only one I watch every episode of. Thank you!

Matt & Abby communicate so well! I love this podcast because it can show so many people how to communicate your feelings in a healthy way. Marriage and life isn't always rainbows snd butterflies and I think Matt & Abby show a really great way to get through those hard moments.

Abby never be ashamed of your mom's instinct. It is NORMAL and GOOD. This season of your life where it seems everyone is jealous of your mind being on the babies is temporary. As they grow older you will be able to fully focus on yourself and your other relationships more.

The Thankfulness and Sincere Gratefulness Abby showed towards Matt had me in tears as well. So Beautiful. Obviously they are not getting a divorce. There is true commitment there.

I just have to say...that is a beautiful sweater on you, Abby. Sometimes the simple things bring out more of our beauty. This is one of your times ❤

Abby is looking so much prettier everyday, unbelievable

Very cool that there’s going to be a podcast with Jess and Gabe! Looking forward to that one!

Am I the only one excited about their Collab with Jess and Gabe next week ? 😲 finally ! The best people collabing with more 'best people' ❤️✨

Thank you guys for being so honest about your struggles! It is so easy to think that you are the only one struggling and to see that other people are struggling with someone of the same things is such a gift.

I'm so happy you talked about the Santa topic! I have also really wondered about introducing Santa to my baby. I remember my parents having the Santa tradition, but always just keeping the spotlight on what the holiday actually means. Like yeah, Santa is there, but he's not the reason we celebrate Christmas. Then reminding us that Jesus was born and celebrating our faith is the largest part of Christmas. So, when we found out Santa wasn't real, it was like oh okay, that's fine at least we can still celebrate the fact that Jesus was born and we'll be able to see him again someday. 🥰

I appreciate so much the honesty that you both share with your viewers. Because the conversations you two are having are real conversations I’ve had with my husband and it’s nice to see that other people have the same conversations. It’s so refreshing to see that other people also can communicate and talk about the difficult topics and it really feels like you are having just a real conversation with your spouse.

I want to say…thank you for helping me stay present in my relationship and the stages we are in now an how slowly it is taking to move to the next. That’s ok!! We are both growing and leveling up to be better for each other. Thank you for the insight

Communication in a marriage is key. It's beautiful. You communicate often, and this will help you. Block out the miserable people.

Everything about your videos makes me want to watch more! Everything you say is so relatable and honest, thank you for being here and sharing stories with us ❤️

Matt and Abby, I appreciate you guys so much. I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and my friends in 2-3 month relationships always seem concerned that we have fights sometimes and that we aren’t totally infatuated with each other anymore. You guys make me feel normal, love is so much more than butterflies in your stomach.

This podcast and Jess and Gabe’s pod cast are my two favorite! I’m so excited

I have been watching you guys since the beginning of your channel and you both inspire me so much. I always look forward to watching your content. Thank you for always being so real and vulnerable with your lives. I really look up to y’all🤍

Each of you growing in your relationship is depth and layers of maturity and commitment to one another is beautiful.

TMI trigger warning. I had my second and went to work out at 6 weeks hit it to hard and actually caused a anal fissure it was 2 months of hell :( Going number 2 was shards of glass and crying each time to the point I trained my body once a day and went on a special diet. I ended up having to have surgery after all other aspects (medicine, hot baths, creams etc) did not heal it. The surgery was a saving grace my 2nd child is now 11 years old and have 2 more kids and have had no other issues but that area is so sensitive. FEEL FOR YOU!

I feel the exact same way as Abby in regards to feeling like you can’t separate from your children, getting immense anxiety when someone else has them and not allowing yourself to give up your responsibilities for your children for even 5minutes. My child is almost 4 and I still sometimes feel like that but I will say for me, it has gotten better. Not perfect but better. Time helps a lot. She just had 2children in 2 years.

I love you two as a couple and as individuals! Relationships have seasons as well as plenty of ups and downs. Which only makes sense since humans are flawed! Thank you for being real!!

I absolutely L❤VED what Abby said at the end about loving Matt throughout so many chapters and growing together as you evolved into different versions of yourselves ❤❤❤. That TRULY is such a blessing in marriage and the longer you’re together and stick through good times and bad only makes you both stronger and fall in love even MORE as the years fly by. ❤ I can remember having the thought on my wedding day that it would be impossible to love my husband more than I did on that day and 10 years later my heart just continues to inflate with more love. You two speak really well, I have a hard time finding words to express my thoughts 😂. Love your relationship. Thanks for sharing! 😊

This was a very nice podcast episode! Keep going 🙌🏻 An episode with Jess & Gabe?! Omg can't wait!!

Loved this episode! Will always love how sincere and open you guys are. Im so sorry there are so many trolls online giving you so much flak! You are both incredible partners to each other and wonderful parents to your babies . So so excited for next weeks episode! Hearing from Jess and Gabe is going to be so fun! My two favorite youtube couples in one place!

They’re such a normal HEALTHY Couple. Ppl have seen too many filtered relationships online and thing they’re so toxic and they’re just not. I think they’re just real and it’s REFRESHING. I’m so tired of seeing perfect people all the time.

I was feeling so down today and seeing you guys posted really made me feel better

I totally relate to what Abby was saying about becoming a mom and feeling so distracted when you're away from your kids.

It’s been really wonderful to watch you two grow and mature together over the past several years!!

I love you guys - realest couple out there. My husband and I have been together since we were kids too, and I always tell him how much you guys remind me of us. It’s refreshing to see a younger couple who understands marriage isn’t perfect, and that doesn’t mean divorce.

I love this episode so much!! Not only did they announce awesome merch they came out with, they brought up great topics, and I absolutely love what Matt said, "This life was not meant to be lived alone." That is so touching, I love you guys so much!! I just want to say thank you, thank you for everything you do, I'm truly grateful for you guys! When I started watching you around the time Griffin was born, I didn't want to have kids at all, but watching you guys with your children, talking about your children, and how you guys are so blessed to have two beautiful children, I now want to have kids. I am not in a relationship, but another thing you guys taught me, was to have hope that I will have a partner someday. Now, instead of saying, "If I get married..." I'm saying, "When I get married..." So thank you so so much Matt and Abby!! God Bless you and your family!

I love how honest you are it shows your yourselves don’t listen to negativity

About Christmas, I just wanted to add my perspective as we are raising our daughter (who is almost 3) that the magic of Christmas comes from the memories you make with the people who love you, and those who you love. We don't go overboard with Santa bringing food/water to all the poor kids, but simply that Christmas is what you make it. Santa visits if she wants him to visit, and we don't make it too elaborate so we don't have that "earth shattering" heartbreak when the reality hits.

AHHHH!! I have been waiting for a Jess and Gabe podcast!!!! I’m so excited!

Abby, I really appreciate your insight on the stage of motherhood you are in and how its very consuming at times. It just is what it is.

I will say from experience the best ages to bring kids to Disney world are from 8-12. We went with kids from 4-12 and the 4 year old and the 5 year old was horrible. The 9, 10 and 12 year olds had a blast! Younger kids get grumpy and cannot handle it. It’s just too much for them. And Abby, sometimes you need to enjoy time with your hubby, y’all were in Disney world, your kids will cry and that’s okay, it’s also okay to be worried especially since they are so young. Having your mom there is amazing and helpful and she raised you and you turned out amazing! 😊 Being a good mom is awesome but being a good wife is also important, y’all have to be a team to do this. Matt, your kids are so young, the couple time will be limited and your wife will be worried. I love that you said maybe we can try night time together. You will find ways to manage that you just have to figure out what works. Life is going to be so different forever now with children but it doesn’t mean it’s in a bad way just a different way. You will make amazing memories with your family and you will enjoy the quality time with your wife more because you won’t get as much of it. You both are doing great. Couples fight and argue and have rough times, the important part is that you work through it and don’t give up. My husband and I work together, we run a business and we are together 24/7 lol. It gets hard, we actually argue more at work than at home 😂 I think that’s because our jobs are super stressful but we make it work and I’m so blessed I get to be around him all the time even though he drives me nuts sometimes, I’m sure I drive him nuts too! Please don’t shy away from showing your real life with real problems because this world is too full of fakes and the perfect picture. The real perfect picture family is the ones with hardships. ❤

Not even 3 minutes in and I’m inspired by Abby’s work out commitment… my Boys and a year and a half apart too, and they are 2 and 4 now, and I still have yet to go back to working out daily, and I certainly wouldn’t have the energy to wake up at 5am to do so! It’s truly inspiring! Side note: both of my boys sleep through the night, too, and I’ve been done breastfeeding for over two years🙈

I absolutely love you two. My husband and I have been together 10 years, married for 1.5, with a 5 year old. The love you hold for each other and way you communicate with each other is amazing

So so excited for the episode with Jess and Gabe!!😍

You 2 have a very good perspective about relationship and marriage. I am happy for you and i truly hope to see you in 20 years from now. Gg dudes.

I'm so stoked for Jess and Gabe next week!! Dreams do come true❤

I love the end part of the podcast where Abby is all emotional and says all the beautiful things about Matt and how she loves him, and then there's Matt: I've seen you get pooped on hahahaha love you guys, you are the best and I love how this podcast makes me think about things, as life brings all the things you already went through, and like we are the same age, but in different stages and I love that about this, because I can relate so much and grow and see a new perspective

The part where you guys are talking about being on the same page about everything before getting married like how you are gonna raise your kids my mom told me something way before my husband and I ever met, she said "there are to be a lot of things that you and your spouse aren't going to agree on especially when it comes to raising children because you yourselves were raised differently and have a different idea of who you want to be as a parent" and that just seemed really wise to me and keeping that in mind has help my avoid what could have been a huge fight.

You are by far the best Podcast....love your guys view on marriage ! 😊❤ very excited to see my 2 favourite RU-vid couples together in one setting 😍

Awwwh, guys! I was crying! 🥹🙌❤️ I hope a lot of young people watch your videos and listen to your podcast, because you are such role models! And I love how protective and caring you are of each other and your kids and your relationship ❤ Adore you and God Bless, you are some beautiful people! 🤍🙌🥹

This was such a good episode. Thankful for you two ♥️🫶🏻

I absolutely agree marriage is a full lifetime commitment. It's hard work but most fulfilling and well worth it. We've been married almost 20 years now. I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. Through good times and bad through sickness and in health.

I asked the same questions regarding Santa when my daughter was little. I explained the "story" of Santa. That someone started the idea of giving and magic. Now, everyone can be a Santa. We can give to others, create magic for each other, and appreciate how hard people work to provide. We still enjoy seeing Santa, and what the brings, but I have been very transparent that I work hard to provide for the people I love and that many people have less than others so be grateful for every blessing we have. I also explained that every family has different beliefs so it is not our job to tell another child to believe or not believe. Santa is just another representation of humans wanting to give to others and create joy.

Oh my gosh!! You got jess and gabe. I am so happy, i commented on couple of your podcast videos that i'd like to see gabe and jess on this podcast. I bet, the podcast will be so fun!

It’s not that it was a bad travel day for you, it was just so overwhelming in that moment. Talking about it does not make you privileged. You guys are great!

I’m usually a “silent subscriber” but I just want to say how much I enjoy this podcast. It’s such an easy listen and nice escape from everyday stress!

I love every episode you guys have done you guys are doing great! love Matt’s music also. Happy holidays.

Abby: “I haven’t cried in so long on the pod!” also Abby two minutes later: -sobbing-

the way your merch just makes so much sense UP-unplanned and the lady bug omg I just love you guys

I love watching you guys.. I honestly pray that my son can find his “Abby”… I just see so much love between you two.. may God bless you and your adorable boys.

Abby needs to see a doctor about her tailbone/"butthole" issue. She may need to have a pilonidal cyst surgically removed. 😬

i love how you guys didn’t stop the honesty even if you got hated for it. someone has to show people that what happens in their family is normal!

Abby your amazing it's not to far it's the shit we deal with as mommas & you make me atleast not feel so alone. Qs all love you for your honesty!

1:04:00 to the end of the podcast was my favorite part of the episode ❤️ it's so encouraging hearing y'all talk about marriage and the beauty of it🥲 love y'all🤍

From a mom to another, those precious moments of Christmas morning are such a fantastic memory. For both our kids and us. They will continue with their children. I also stressed the magic of Christmas 🎅🏻. They weren’t let down in any way. Childhood is taken far too early these days so if you can enjoy these moments, you won’t regret it.

I love you guys so much finding this podcast has been a God sent blessing ❤❤

Ahhhhh!! So excited to see the episode with jess and gabe!! ❤

I feel like you (Abby) probably just have a super high pain tolerance after everything and you have to be careful with how far you push yourself! It sounds so crazy but it almost feels good to be pushing yourself that hard after knowing what your body can do but I have a friend who’s a therapist and she informed me that it’s a form of self harm, I would’ve never thought of it like that but I figured I’d mention it because it hit me pretty hard when she told me! As always this is one of my faves!!

I just finished listening to the podcast while working in the kitchen and I love it so much you guys are awesome And Abby you make me wanna be a better wife and mom to our 2 kids but! Happy Thanksgiving to you guys

Conflict is part of any relationship that is real! We should embrace conflict because it allows us to gain a better understanding of ourself and the other person. We should be thankful that Abby and Matt are sharing their personal relationship so openly and raw. It is truly very difficult to do and very commendable. Keep doing you Matt and Abby, we love you 🥰

Y’all are amazing me and my family loves watching y’all❤

Abby! I just need to make sure to tell YOU that YOU ARE an amazing women, mother, wife, & ECT. Your do real on these podcasts, and we can feel the genuine love you have for live, your beautiful babies and Matt!!

YES on the post pregnancy motion sickness!! I literally feel sick swinging next to my toddler at the playground lol. Glad I’m not alone💛

Thats going to be an amazing episode!! Can't wai!

Great podcast! ❤ Love you guys!

I loved this episode! Thank you as always for sharing and being so transparent and honest! Matt would you feel comfortable sharing about your ADHD? You mentioned it a few times now. How was your diagnose journey etc. ? Best wishes from Germany :)

Excited for the podcast with Jess and Gabriel 😍 Love all your episodes ❤

Omg Jess and Gabe are my favorite! Podcast collab of my two favorite most down to earth couples?! 😍😍😍 CAN'T WAIT!

Pleaseeee do a house tour at some point! Before and after photos even. So cool to see your personal style develop in your home! 🖤🏡

YESSS I’m so excited for the Jess and Gabe episode!!

As someone with a young baby and who runs a business with their spouse... Thank you for talking about the tough times. Its a lot to manage.

Ugh so sweet. Love you guys!!!!

I am SO excited for the Jess and Gabe episode!!

I really don’t understand the people who said you are getting divorced. I learnt so much about marriage just by listening to your podcast, you really show the way you can tolerate each other’s annoying things by focusing on the good, and keep the love burning even though the difficulties. I gained a lot from you and I’m really grateful. Don’t listen to those who are trying to bring you down. You are good people.❤❤❤

I love the end of this podcast. 🙌🏻👍🏻

Thank you guys!

Okay relationship pro tip... 😂 After your kids are down for bed, go take a hot shower or bath with your hubby. This allows y'all both to decompress and have one on one bonding time. 💯 Also you can fully be present because your kids are sleeping safe and sound.

I love @ about 1hour mark you guys looked like you totally forgot the camera and just talked to your best friend! Sooo great!

I love you two, i really do for sure .. but thank you for acknowledging your first world problems. Currently working overtime to be able to take an anniversary trip in a YEAR, and thats okay but flying is a privilege so i appreciate you realizing that. And i do love you guys.

I love hearing about your boys! I'm much older than you but I also have two boys close in age (20 and 21 now!!!) and it takes me back :)

You’re both quite a bit younger than me (I’m 31 😅) and I enjoy your podcast so much and always take something away from it. Y’all are the best 🤍

My son is 18 now & does not remember it but 1 time I was doing dishes & I said 2 myself he is about 2 cry & sure enough he started crying n about 20 seconds,so most moms do have a mother's instinct & even though I am not with him hardly at all now I still do, I can b sick or not feel good & I can ask my son if he did & he did or was sick,it's odd cause I rarely get sick!But I'm now glad alot 4 it!😊

Thank you both,love your podcast,Take time off once awhile to enjoy your private life too,Merry Christmas to your beautiful family 💚❤️🇨🇦💛❤️💚🙏😇

So excited for my hoodie!! 😁💙

I have no idea how people have negative thoughts or things to say about you two... you're awesome and we love how REAL you are 🤩 Also, SO EXCITED for the pod with Jess and Gabe ❤ Hope you had so much fun because they're just as sweet and cool as you guys are 🤗

Just listening to how “last minute”you seem to handle travel has my anxiety skyrocketing. Obviously to each their own, but I could never handle it.

I agree with the dropping thing!! I used to love rollercoasters and not mind heights or anything. But in the last couple years i get more afraid and dont want to but do at the same time😅😂 Happy to hear someone else too!!

My child is 7 and I went out with friends for 3 hours the other day and didnt feel guilty or worry about my child. I think it was one of the first times we were apart that I didnt think of him. I was able to fully focus on the activity.

Great content guys. Love your podcast. Just a tid bit of advice/encouragement…you WILL have your time for each other back in due time. My oldest two are 7 and 9 and after they got to be like 2 and 4, leaving them with grandparents and babysitters was nothing like when they were both babies. Now I have an 19 month old and I’m back in the boat with you guys, wishing for adult time with my hubby. But this stage is so short. Enjoy it. Eventually they’ll be wanting to be with their friends and other family more than they want mom and dad. 🥲❤️

With my little ones, when we need to do a big road trip we leave just before supper. Then we stop for a picnic supper, they have a film or story in the car and then straight off to sleep. While they sleep we drive all night (taking turns) and when they wake in the morning we're almost there. So they don't even know they've been on a road trip and we get to drive in total peace without having to stop. While hubby drives I sleep and while I drive he sleeps. But usually I just do all the driving all night with the help of a couple of energy drinks and the children wake up at our destination (or very close). If it's a many-day road trip we spend the days sight-seeing and relaxing and only drive at night. Sometimes we book into accommodation for a good sleep and then we get back to night driving.

@Theunplannedpodcast Matt and Abby, I loved the HONEST Convo you had about being forever changed as a mother/ parent.....Matt don't worry your babies are so young as they get older less dependant on mom ie-not nursing and better able to communicate....your ability to relax and let go for a few hours or on adult vacations will increase and you will have each other for longer periods with it being carefree undivided attention between just you and Matt! Enjoy this faze while your here as once it's gone it's fine! How precious to be the ones your kids are so bonded with and trust and know you can meet every need! Don't lose hope especially Matt I feel that it's a little tougher to not have that undivided intamcy and attention solely on you and your wife but it WILL happen! Hang on!

Ohh I cannot wait for the Jess and Gabe podcast!! 🥹👏🏻👏🏻