Tips for Talking with Your Teenage Daughter 

Yes," how was your day today" when you build a bond with your children right from childhood they tell you everything and any thing.. Giving them a hug every now and then helps too

My 13year old daughter feels that I am only seeing the negative things she does and never the positive. I truly wish to build a healthy and loving relationship with her and I will follow your advice. Love from Kenya

I'm 17 and a few months ago I told my Mom that I had no will to live and hated every aspect of my life and wasn't sure how much longer I could carry on like this. I asked her if I could see a therapist and she brushed it off and said that I should read the bible more and read self-help books. That's it. It was my most raw and vulnerable moment and she shut me down and never followed up. I honestly don't see how I could feel confident enough to approach her again because that's one of the first times I've ever opened up about my feelings and she made me feel insignificant and ignored, but at the same time, I don't know what to do with myself anymore because I feel so empty all of the time (I'm not seeking pity, I would just like some advice)

You want to build a relationship with your children because you don’t want them going to the wrong person and they give them the wrong advice and they manipulate them

I just got custody of my 14 year old niece. She has a lot of trauma. I have to remind myself to not take it personal and know that “she’s not trying to give ME a hard time… she’s HAVING a hard time”. As parents of this generation, we have to instill the values of more simpler times, meaning: focus on experiences that build self confidence like building a campfire, pitching a tent, cooking a meal, etc INSTEAD of social media!!! My niece doesn’t have a phone right now (been about a month-this is mainly to protect her from toxic family members she originally left to come live with me) and I have noticed a more consistently confident kid as a result of the limited screen time. Phones and social media are not a right. Wish more parents would know that and take the stand.

* Don’t interview for pain * They still love me 😢 * Show “genuine” interest * Communicate what I want from our next interaction with an open heart * Give them complete power for a brief moment to decide when to open up * Remember the foundation I set in early childhood * Go get the book Thank you for the advice. I will let you know how this goes.

Thank you so much for your advice! The second option it really worked for me... I didn’t realize that since this pandemic 😷 I let her be more on her phone to “socialize “ with her called friends on Tiktok and Snapchat ( which I’m not too happy about) but I don’t want her to get in depression so I’m ok with it till she can go out normal again.... so after watching your video and stopped at the part where you where saying that I should tell her that I miss her it made me cry and realize that that was our problem... I was doing my thing as all mom do( cleaning, cooking, working, etc) and I miss our time.... our lovely ☺️ times together before this crazy pandemic happened... so I waited for her to finish with her online school and we grabbed our two dogs and the weather was beautiful and went for a looong walk and she started talking about her friends and it was like old times... thank you so very much for your help! I was sooo frustrated lately and I couldn’t figure it out what’s going on between me and her... less phone and more Mommy and daughter time!

Thanks! It's nice to read everyone's stories in the comments too. I'm glad I'm not alone. I've got a 14 year old myself and all I get when I try to communicate is some form of "ok" or "fine". I'll try the scale next time and give her the power to decide how it unfolds.

Why do i feel like a lot of these relationship's are missing a strong, confident, compassionate, listening & capable HUSBAND & Father figure within the home? Just because a man is physically present, doesn't mean he's doing his full job. I feel sorry for many of these mom's & daughter's. Most modern Public school's definitely don't help either.

My daughter, who's play softball since she was little, has just announced over the weekend she wants to quit. I don't know where it's coming from. I figured maybe she's wanting a temporary break because she's constantly on the go year round, or is it something else. My relationship with my mom was she was an unloving mother more specifically to me compared to my younger siblings so I TRY so hard not to be the same to my daughter but from time to time I struggle to be affectionate or communicative down to the nitty gritty. Like I'm afraid to fail so I tend to tip toe around things. I'll try some of these tips as I've worked all my daughter's life to break the cycle I've had with my mom.

I need advice!!! I'm a mother to a very independent and beautiful 14 yr old. She can go about days sometimes weeks without talking to me, she will ask others for "favors" as in to pick her up, or feed her dog and will not come to me. I feel very hurt and I'm stuck. I dont know how to approach her without letting her know how hurt I feel and then turning into a guilt trip. I don't ground her, or yell at her. I try to give her her time and not bother her but she just keeps getting further and further away from me.

Thanks for this i try this now with my daughter as we speak she is almost fifteen. I have a hard time sometimes talking with her 😕 😪

thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to hear this. I love my daughter so much, and miss her. So this is amazing

Omg I had to memorize this video in 10 min before seeing my 14 year old daughter. She has being difficult so I bought some flowers and told her what you said in the video and it went amazing. We are going to do more stuff together. Thank you so much for your advice 🙏

I need help and advise. My two teenage daughters doesn’t listen to me anymore and will always go with their boyfriend after school and go home late. I told them I’m not comfortable with it but they still do it. It hurts me so much and my eldest daughters boyfriend parents really likes my daughter . Me and my daughter’s being so distant and not much communicating. Im a single parent and im having so much hard time

After having three boys, my daughter was my helpful, outgoing adventurous little girl and we were very close. Now once you turn 14 and social media became so popular it's hard to protect what mood she is in, if she's going to communicate today or not. And now she clarified to me that she wants to identify herself as a tomboy that still remembers he wants to be a girl. It's so hard to figure it out it makes me sad..

Can you please do a video about how to be a brave teen daughter. Like how to be a good daughter even though I'm a teen.

Listen​-and be flexible. Listen carefully​-without interrupting-​so that you can get the full scope of the problem Aw13#1

I'll try it. My eleven year old has turned into Wednesday from the Adams family overnight 😮

I have a teenager just give them they space they will come talk to you but People tell me I shouldn’t be her friend but she tells me everything yes and I rather her talk to me then talk to the wrong person and they give her the wrong advice

My daughter is sleeping until 3pm and going to bed lste at night. How can I help her to get up earlier and mske our day productive and fun? I just hope she is not avoiding me. How can I make it better?

Me and my 12 year old daughter are going through this right now. She will be 13 in a month and iv noticed how much she has started pushing away from me and she is my only child and I am terrified of the only child I have may not want to be around or talk to me as she gets older. I know I'm jumping the gun bc she is a preteen but its still scary and I want to be the best mom I can be for her bc she is my everything and she is and always will be my only child. So I feel like I only have one chance at this to raise a respectful and honest person who is grateful for the little things. A big issue im dealing with right now is she has started hanging out with a group of kids at school who have money. So now she doesn't want them to come over here bc she is imbarriesd when before she always had her friends here and she never wanted to leave and stay anywhere else. She would get bad anxiety if someone asked her to stay the night and would end up saying no most of the time and if she said yes she knew I would pick her up anytime of the night if she got scared for any reason. But this past weekend she stayed 2 nights at a girls house who she had never stayed before and she lives in a gated community and everyone's houses are big and beautiful and it is normal for the parents there to allow their kids to walk around all over the place when at our place I am not comfortable letting her walk around our neighborhood like they did there. I have loosened up on that recently bc she is getting older and she has friends that live in our neighborhood and I know she walks with them to their house not far from ours but thats the only time I allow her to walk in the neighborhood is if she is going down to her friends house. I know I'm a strict mom but we have not lived in this Town or City for very long so it is all new to her and me. I don't know many people here like I did in our home town. But sorry got off track. When she stayed with her friend in the gated community the mom of the friend allowed both her daughter and mine run around anywhere they wanted. This is a pretty big community with 3 lakes. Its huge actually. I would have never allowed her to do that. Then come to find out my daughters boyfriend who she just recently started dating showed up at his friends house who was dating the other little girl and all 4 of them were swimming in the lake and walking around this big community not just a neighborhood bc there are multiple neighborhoods in this community. But my daughter lied at first when I picked her up about her boyfriend being there and told me all these fabricated lies but slipped up and mentioned him being there and that she did not know he was going to be there. I said where was the mom this whole time all 4 of yall were swimming in the lake and running around and she said she was driving by to check on them all the time. For me that does not matter bc that mom should have never allowed 2 boys to be alone with 2 girls that are 12 and 13 years old. I have not yet talked to the mom about this and I'm trying to find the right words to say to her and the right things to say to my daughter. Everything this other mom allowed them to do is and never would be ok with me. I know thats why my daughter tried to lie about her boyfriend being there in the first place but when she did finally tell me everything that happened and even told me that he kissed her over 7 to 10 times i was panicing on the inside but tried to be cool about it in front of her bc I was that age at one point and I didn't want her to close up on me and never want to tell me these things again. On the other hand I ended up haven a talk with her the next day with my mom there with me so I had backup so I didn't look like I was the only one saying the things that happened at her friends house was inappropriate and not ok for the other mom to allow them to be alone together. We told her 2 girls and 2 boys should never be in a lake swimming alone at their ages as well bc My daughter also told me that the other little girl was hanging onto her boyfriend in the lake and that they were kissing. We told her that behavior is not ok for girls and boys their age that its not even appropriate for teenagers to be doing those things. She came home today telling us that a girl in her gym class who is in 7th grade had a baby last night and my daughter was going on and on about how its the gym teachers fault that she went into labor way to soon. I said wait thats what you think is wrong with this picture. I asked her if the little girl was r**** and she said no and I said for a little girl in 7th grade to have a baby at 12 years old is not a cool thing and is not ok or something to look up too. Idk if she was but when she was telling us about it she was smiling and saying its all ok bc the baby is doing ok. I said it is not ok at all that she had a baby when she is still a baby herself. I didn't call the other girl a baby obviously bc then my daughter would then take it as if I'm calling her a baby but I was definitely thinking it. I just really need advice on all of this and how to talk to her about this new best friend of hers and the mom allowing them to be alone with there boyfriends and the mom thinking its ok to not contact me or anything about any of it. I'm terrified of saying the wrong thing and my daughter along with most girls her age will only hear what they want to hear and when you tell them things they come back saying o so your never gona let me see my friend again when those words never left my mouth but to her thats all she is hearing. Help plz!!!!!

This was great refresher on dealing with talking to your teen. Thank you

what advise do you have for 13 yr old daughter who is snarky and mean spirited ( like tesing her mom) and she says this is how she shows affection ????

I’m a mother 24 seven 365 days a year my daughter and me are friends but I’m still momma too always been when I get off from work I’m gonna get us some Popeyes chicken before I come home every time I go out I’m bringing her something back home lol that’s how my mother was with me she’s spoiled I love my daughter and she know that.. I got her back

Awesome tips! I really like the idea to ask about any funny things that happened in the day! Gold!🎉

Help with my daughter

I like the idea of being sincere and telling your daughter you miss her and love her. But I will stop there and not continue with so many thoughts…that may not be necessary- assuming she wants privacy, that you understand about her space- bla bla blast be already too much.. Loving statement go a long way- I miss you I love you- I want to get to know you.. these words open the doors and gives her a green light. I’ve noticed I can come her room late at night when daughter is about to sleep and sit next to her or lay next to her hugging her in silence is more valuable. It open the heart and she often times start conversation about what is bugging her. In the darkness she feels safe and opens up and I love as when she was a baby. I have told myself to stay up at night to have moments like these even if I am on my last straw and exhausted and stressed.. It is the same as waking up when I was nursing or changing her diaper and being beyond exhausted- I can endure resilience and not be so tired and know that moments like these are the only ones I may have. She is too preoccupied with phone or activities or not missing a moment on her phone. A mom of a 15 year old.

I have a question how do I make my daughter understand that the way that she behaved is going to affect her when she grow up like not following rules dressing up baggies I already talked to her and I let her know so you guys can give me any

She just turned 16 she’s my little angel princess we used to be tight and now she’s just one word answers very quiet when she wants to be? I don’t understand!!! Loving father

i feel awful watching this knowing my mum has tried these on me and now I'm here as well because i wanna fix it as well but its genuinely hard

Thank you for your Important information. Thank you for sharing! God bless you! I appreciate your approach how to talk with my daughter! Blessings!!🙏🥰😇♥️

Thank you for sharing. Really needed this.

What about parental alienation? The pain is excruciating

Thank you. This helped me a lot to compare what approach (approaches) in practice i use on daily bases. )))

Am here waiting to get my daughter from exra lession and shes having a bad day so i want help. So i will try these thank you

My 17 year old who we seemed to have a close relationship just suddenly left home and won't talk to me simply because I shared my disappointment over no thought for my birthday and she doesn't like my husband ( not her biological father we divorced when she was 5) We talked about everything so I thought.

Thanks gonna think about it for a bit...

I will try your advice. I hope it works.

My daughter knows she never have to leave until she’s ready I would never put her out the house 🏠 for nobody they can go but she stays

Honestly I was never like this wen I was younger. She hardly texts bck and never want to spend time with me. We got divorced wen she was 2 years old. But now she's saying it's not normal to have to separate houses. After being ingored for Father's day I decided to take her phone away and just let it be.

Can you make a video of how to deal with a teenage sister ? I think I am not doing well being the bigger sister, and maybe it's because I have many problems within myself that I don't want her to have

Thank you!

My daughter is being abused in school and she doesn’t have any friends. As she says her classmates are all against her and someone is trying to be her friend they say some bad things about her so as a result she doesn’t have any friends also her sister says that they call her crazy. I don’t know what to do about her loneliness. She even doesn’t get along with her sisters too

Thank you so much. Please, share some more.

I do the first two. Always gave. My girlfriend Sat's I'm monotonous and tgat makes my kids up set that I'm..barely asking...I'm noria. The same family drinking alcohol having a great time. I do a the cooking. But the alcohol killing me. So much family is killing me. I am serious. I THINK YOUR RIGHT BUT THATS TO EASY

I have a question. So what to you do if you have been alienated from your child for 6 years and you have just been reunited but she thinks it's all your fault as if you just didn't try to see her. She has no clue. What do I do? I talk to her but she has walls up. She's been brainwashed. She doesn't know the truth. It's so hard to just swallow it all. It's so hard.

Me as a teen daughter watching this....

This is really helpful! SO glad to find your channel

What if I don't want to talk to her because I'm her least favourite and she gets angry with me for whatever I do, even when it's not wrong?

I’m 19 and I want to know what I can do about talk to my mom and it is not been what I excepted to be.

Thank you, these words are so helpful!

Why did this make me cry

WHAT ARE THE ADVICE YOU GIVE ME IM TRYING TO BETTER MY RELACIONSHIP WITH .MY DAUGHTER MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN IN THE CORT SISTEM FOR 4 YEARS AND IM FIGHTING TO TRY TO GET MY DAUGHTER BACK BUT LUGERY HAS BEEN THE PROBLEM

Great tips ..thank you so much!

Help I feel like I never knew my daughter and I am grieving the loss

Very helpful

My 14 years old states that I am embarrassing and she does not want to be seen with me. She told me she didn’t want me to take her to her birthday party. I had her when I was 41 so the age gap can be a trigger. She also told me that she does not have anything in common with me but has a lot in common with her friends ‘ mothers. The girl is stubborn and oppositive. I welcome any advice. Regards

Thank you for this ❤

Super helpful thank you

I HAVE A TEENAGER THATS 15 YEARS OLD AND MY. DAUGHTER HAS BEEN THOUGH SEXUAL ABUSE AND MY DAUGHTER RIGHT NOW DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO ME THAT OFTEN BECAUSE RIGHT NOW MY DAUGTER IS IN A FOSTER HOME WERE LA FOSTER PARENTS GIVE IN TO.HER WHAT WOULD BE THE ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE ME

loved this

So when you say: “I know that the love is there, they may not show it” can you give me an example of HOW you see that the love is there? Are you just being a hopeless optimist or are there really signs that the love is there?

My 17 years daughter she so angry never lissen to as allways playing game iam so sad so can you give me any advice

What if you are not able to drive and pick up your kid from school??

Thanx : )

Any advice for a mother of a 13 year old daughter who lives in California and daughter lives with her father and his unwilling to cut the umbilical cord mother in Idaho? What I'm currently getting from my daughter is she's not speaking to me but she's speaking to me enough to tell me she's not speaking to me?

My child is so extreme, there is nothing other than 0 or 10. All hese things don't work with her. Im not able to do enough. She needs more than just me. Ahe needs a aid to help her. Her mom is basically out of the picture. The rest of the family is out of the picture. Im the only adult left at home. She only respect a limited amout of adults outside the house and she hates anyone that challenges her.

I need help!!!!!

Give advice for non robots

Am also new to your channel 😊

Are you in Illinois? I wish I can see you.

It’s interesting how only now that I’m 18 my parents are so interested in having a friendship ....