I prefer the story What If Uncle Ben Lived. It was the first comic to demonstrate Uncle Ben’s personality and had a better understanding of how Peter would react if May died instead of Ben.
When aunt may is shot, peter doesn't kill kingpin. When mj is shot, peter kills kingpin and destroys iron man. This shows that he values his girlfriend more than his family
3 reasons for this other than your explanation 1. Aunt May was a pacifist mj was not if Peter had killed kingpin after may got shot it would contradict all her teachings. 2. Mj died and aunt may didn’t so Peter was a lot more angry and willing to kill 3. In the second scenario if Peter didn’t kill Kingpin aunt may would have died in the first scenario there was no such circumstance
I agree, Venomverse did sort of take away the specialness of seeing the symbiote bond with other heroes/villains. Also, should I do a video on Venomverse?