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Could you tell me also please, Coach Melannie, if you hopefully get back to you, how did we meet? Were you sent to be my would be salvation, from you tube, because I feel you have been my guardian angel, stopping me from looking at, if you know these "naughty but nice" girls, called Jenna Citrus and Madi Anger?
One toxic trait my girlfriend is famous for is for when she does something wrong, she plays the silent treatment. RARELY apologizes. I'm 99% out the door on this one ngl
I get that a lot if their in the wrong 😑 they play the victim card when they know their in the wrong 😑 and when you try reason with them they act tough when they know their in the wrong more time they won’t even say sorry they will just try kiss you . If their not hitting you their emotional abusing you period . Toxic if things don’t go their way they take it out on you
I have the same problem. Something wont to plan and the entire world caves around her and she gets mad at everyone and everything and goes silent for hours sometimes days
hahahahah big love bro.. i hope you will get a girlfriend soon.. but when you see red flags on the first date.. throw her as fast as possible away... RUN
Just broke up for good with my ex gf. She would insert talking to some guys, I would feel insecure and ask questions. Then it's my fault for feeling insecure and asking incessant questions. And it's never her fault. Ever.
I'm so sorry! Good for you for choosing to not be treated like that. These videos will help you avoid those kinds of women in the future. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Best of luck!👍
I think we're all toxic, to an extent. We're all imperfect. We just have to decide what level of toxicity we can tolerate in someone else, while trying minimised our own.
It's true that we all have weaknesses anda tendency to toxic behaviors sometimes. That is normal. A toxic person however is a very different matter. It's kind of like how in the Bible we're taught to look out for the wolves in sheep's clothing. No one is perfect but you want to make sure you're with a sheep not a wolf. Thanks for watching!
we all have flaws. what makes a person toxic is when they don't have a sense of self-accountability for their actions. don't want to learn and don't want to do better. and often it's a personality disorder.
We as men have been socially conditioned for the past 30 years to think it’s always us and the female is always right. This has been hammered in our brain through television, pop culture and entertainment/literature. This has been done on purpose by various pro-female/anti-male interest groups imbedded in these cultural niches. Your friend is an example of the tragedy of the fall of real manhood in recent western civilization. Luckily, men are getting wise to this and breaking free of these mindsets and looking back to our forefathers and their definition of existential masculinity. You are a great example of women who are also helping this generation of men get out of the fog. Thank you for who you are and what you are doing. We need to see women who reinforce that not all women hate men...(which is the social conditioning girls received at the same time that we were conditioned this way). With all that to say...again thank you and you definitely have a subscriber!
Wow, thank you for your kind words! I have to agree with you, it's far too common in society today to put men down. It just breaks my heart which is one of the reasons I wanted to become a coach so I could do something about it. Thank you for watching and subscribing!
100%. When the verbal abuse kicks in, it's like I'm watching a sitcom. It's all pre-programmed into them as a side effect of pop culture pandering them to get their attention/money. But hey, if it destroys relationships in the process it's just collateral damage.
“Toxic” Thank you. It’s always my fault, she constantly blames me or holds me responsible for how she feels. I “irritate” her, she thinks, on purpose, therefore she mistreats me by being disrespectful or contemptuous.
My recent ex gf who I thought was the one since she and I dated for supposedly 5 months ghosted me out of the blue. Gave me a half hearted apology then blocked me after I poured my heart out about how I felt about her and the situation she put me in. As I result of the emotional stress I found out she called me a stalker to her online friend group when she was dating me. Which hurt my self esteem which was already low at the time because of abusive ex gfs. That resulted in a panic attack that caused damage to the tendons in my heart (still recovering). I went into a crisis center because of the situation and finding out that she was cheating on me since thanksgiving. Personally love for me has been a struggle and filled with painful burdens that have led to depression, anxiety, and emotional trauma. For any one finding love I hope it is safer than what I have experienced up till now as I keep on searching.
I'm so sorry that has happened to you. Good for you for not giving up! I have a RU-vid coming on Friday that I know will help you a ton! The biggest thing to remember when a girl ghosts you is that it isn't a reflection on you. It's pretty unkind to do that to someone so it's actually a reflection on her. You deserve someone who treats you with respect and who wants to spend time with you. If it's not this girl it will be another. You've got this! God bless 🙏
I hope you find peace in your life and also learn to love yourself brother. What happened to you is not easy but it is a great opportunity to become a better and stronger man. Some day the right person will show up in your life, a person which can appreciate you, meanwhile, you have to learn to let go of toxic people,e which serve no purpose in your life.
@@CoachMelannie It seems to me, that that person who was acting like a two year old, had a harmless neurological problem, and needed either a lot of love, or was up for abuse themselves.
I just managed to escape from a relationship with a girl showing many of these signs. By the end I left feeling even ugly and unattractive because of these subtle verbal abuse situations.
I am so sorry you went through that and glad you were able to get out. These videos will help you to spot and avoid those kinds of women in the future. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏
TOXIC. Thank you for this and please make more. I just broke up with a toxic woman and all I can say is that you are 100% right about everything. Totally draining. Everything down to a T. It was a real eye opener and I deleted a few toxic friends this year as well. Cleaning out my life during the pandemic. Thank you again ma'am
My ex gf would try to make me jealous by mentioning other guys, and she would always push me away, then try to get me back when I was about to break up. If you're dating a girl who makes you feel like crap, just break up with her right away. no second or third chances, she will not change 99% of the time.
It sounds like she loved drama and playing games. I'm sure sorry about that. These videos will help you avoid that in the future! ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏
I'm so sorry to hear that! Have I sent you these videos yet? ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA They will help you avoid these kinds of women in the future. God bless 🙏
dealing with this now. Shes never wrong. Nothing is ever her fault. She gets offended at the smallest things and if I respond "sorry i didnt mean to offend you" she gets triggered and freaks tf out over what should be considered as an apology in the mind of any adult. absolutely exhausting. Claims all the time that she was better communication, but if shes upset and i dont why she wont talk to me and tell me. And when we finally do get tot alk she waits til the middle of the night and then doesnt care to listen to anything i have to say. As soon as i speak its tears because she isnt getting her way and yells over me. I blame idiotic reality tv for the most part. Where the show is driven by drama and damn near every woman has a rude roll their eyes attitude if everything isnt falling their way. Incredibly toxic and beyond exhausting
I know this is 2 years later but it sounds like she could have ASD tbh, so I hope you both eventually figured that out ❤ The communication problems and that sounds like she’s having meltdowns.
@@CoachMelannie I shall pass them on, but it is too late for the person who would have been helped by them. I, on the other hand, shall pass these onto a few guys I know for whom it is not too late. Peace by with you.
All signs are accurate, my ex wife did all these things. I put up with it for 8 years, she cheated and I left her. Alot of lessons learned from that experience. Going on a year now and I'm living my best life.
My girlfriend basically ruined any possible future relationship with another girl. She pretty much hit all of these red flags... Yikes. No wonder I have felt the way I do about relationships, marriage and dating. Unfortunately, it's been 5 years and my first serious relationship so it's all I really know. My trust meter is basically at zero with women, which is pretty upsetting for me. And unfortunately, I think since I was dealing with this I picked up on her behavior patterns and started to mimic them as a defense mechanism.... ugh
oh man!!! this video helped me so much! I have an ex, my recent one. And she was just like this! The only problem is that I don't think she knows that she is toxic, I know her mom is a toxic person. and i'm sure that's where it comes from. My ex and I were together for close to 7 yrs. she was everything this video described. Out of this, unfortunetly developed anxity and pannic attacks through depression over this in and out of this relationship and still recovering from it. insted of yelling at me she just constanly has aditude twords me. but when she is at work (we work in the same place) she is very different. she was extreamly emotionally draining. pluss she was extremely controling, and always trying to get me to push away people in my life, friends and family at times. now looking back at this makes me realize how aweful she was. not to mention, she has hardly any friends, same with her mom, maybe one friend here and maybe one there but mostly they have each other as they are the same with like minded personality traits. i wish i could of broken it off sooner though. but now I know more and realize that she is truly toxic. And I do find it better without her, i feel better and still trying to get over her, because i miss her but I think its the companionship that I miss the most. she was loyal, but I think she had no one else that would give her the time of day other than me. anyways... this video helps me so much to realize this about her more and helps me to detach myself from her grasp. she broke up with me btw. and i'm trying not to chase after her now realizeing all this.
I'm so very sorry you had to go through this. These videos will help you to avoid women like this in the future! ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏
I have a girlfriend for 6 months and i am completely exhausted. She threatens to leave me every 5 days and made a list of 20 points she hates on me. I believe she is toxic
You are absolutely right 💯 I honestly feel men who stay in toxic relationships learned from people around them friends and family that you are always supposed to always agree with women even when she is completely out of line But I also blame it on the man for not thinking for himself and taking the red pill
I am dealing with a super toxic girlfriend!!! I couldn’t even listen to the video 😒🙈🤦♂️...I love you so much it made me so relieved that I’m ending the relationship!!!!
I am absolutely going through this and have been for 5 years now… it’s super hard and more lonely than being single. YOU NEED THE SKILL AND RESOURCES ALSO TO LEAVE!
Going through this now, put all my money into this b.s. Now I'm stuck trying to break free as soon as possible. Wish I would have never committed so much in the first place
My partner is always causing arguments the most recent ones is her friends will tell her something about me that isn't true and instead of asking if it is true she asks what I do in a situation that is relevant to what she was told and when I give her an answer and proof that I'm not lying she just doesn't trust me
@@CoachMelannie I just said I'm leaving her because of she is treating me and she wants to try fix things I agreed and we are currently talking about it now did i make the right decision
My advice would be.....get to know her really well before committing. What's she like in the real world with everyday issues? Does she anger too easily and take forever to cool down? Does she argue rationally? Does she click with your family? Find all this out early so that if she has traits you can't live with, you can back out before it becomes too involved.
My girlfriend gets mad at me some night I wanna play online or stream on Twitch. She always sits in the same room as me and gets upset when I start talking to people. She also didn’t like that one of my friends one night ducked out early and it was just me and another friend who was a girl, and my girlfriend got jealous and asked me to always have another guy friend in the chat. On top of that I try streaming on Twitch and she gets upset whenever I’m on for like 45 minutes, literally after we went and worked out, ate dinner, and watched a show together. She always feels like she has to be touched or shown love otherwise she’s not attractive, and constantly keeps trying to tell me how the female body is and how she has such a short time to have children so we need to get married and I’m no where near ready. I stopped streaming last night cuz she guilted me, and then said she was kidding. So pretty much if I would’ve kept streaming, She would’ve been upset, and since I stopped streaming, she was upset anyways... I tell her these things and she always says how she’ll try to do better, and even started going to therapy sessions to help, but nothings changed. It’s been kinda showing for a little over a year now, but now that we live together it’s REALLY come out. Am I just grasping at straws or am I just overreacting to this and I should pay more attention to her? I feel as though I give her so much of my time and push her to write and be a better teacher, but when I wanna play games, and stream, cuz I’m technically a game design major so I look at things very differently in games and animation, she always gets upset and hates it when I need privacy and quiet to stream and she can’t be in the same room as me.
You're not grasping at anything my dude I think you know the answer. It's heartbreaking to be invested in their wants and interests and be supportive but then when you have to go out of your way to share what makes you happy and not only could they not care less but it bothers them like you're doing something disgusting and wrong? Time to go man.
This year: - I took my little sister to Disneyland, my girlfriend complained that i dont look as happy on pictures with her as I did with my lil sis at the parks - I took my little sister to a concert, my girlfriend complained that i dont look as happy on pictures with her as I did with my lil sis at the concert - I went out to a BBQ with guy friends and she complained I wasnt sending pictures or responding fast enough - Today I went out with my best friend from Highschool I haven't seen since last year and she complained that since she was sick from COVID I should have stayed home and facetimed with her to watch a movie even though I send her an uber with a breakfast for her. Also complained because I missed sending her a pumpkin spice latte at the time she wanted and said she wasnt going to drink it today, that maybe that would happen tomorrow. Would that be toxic? i'm honestly getting really tired of her attitude whenever I do other things I like or love that don't involve her, my glass getting beyond half-full....
Toxic. I signed up for more info on this via the link you provided. Thank you for covering this subject. I've run into this problem in most relationships I've been in. Somehow, most INFJ & introverted men run across this. Thank you and God bless.
My experience is toxic mother raise toxic daughter and this toxic daughter can become a toxic woman just like her mother, everything becomes toxic and vicious circle.
My ex girlfriend used a lot of “you made me react that way.” “I didn’t mean it that way.” “You overreacted.” .” “You need to stop reading things that way.” And she would say the most hurtful things before doing saying those things and I mean hurtful. She would lash out and say something very mean and I would of course be like wow that was mean. And then she would say those things. She turned my friends against me. She even thought I should be there for everything even when she was drunk, abusive and mean. But as soon as I was going through something hard she made it about her and broke it off with me. I’m glad she’s out of my life but it still hurts and watching this helped a lot tbh
I'm so sorry she treated you this way! These videos will help you to identify and avoid toxic women in the future. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏
I was in a toxic relationship for a little over a year. She always played the victim. One night she called the police on me and that was the final nail in the coffin. She apologized to me the next morning repeatedly through text. But I simply said it was too late. When someone calls the police on someone else for no good reason YOU HAVE CROSSED THE LINE!!!!!!!!!!
@@CoachMelannie thank you we’re still together and things have gotten worse. She won’t stop complaining about money. She literally said she wants everything I have(money included) She financially abuses me and I work hard while she hangs out with her friends and stays at home. She’s full of double standards, she’s materialistic, she’s mean to others, and I want to leave her but I’m scared. I’m scared of being alone, I’m scared of her finding someone better than me and I’m just afraid
My girlfriend and I have been together for at least 2 months and in this short duration of our relationship, it's kinda hard for me because she always expects me to reply her messages within 1 minute while she takes 4-5 hours to reply my messages, said I can't have female bestfriends but she can have male bestfriends. I am doing everything for her but she takes it for granted and one day, we got into an argument, and at one point she asked me, "where am I in your priority list?" And I was like taken aback by her words. Every blame is put on me and belive it or not, she gets mad at me when she's hungry. It feels emotionally, physically and mentally draining
Great content! Just got out of a toxic relationship and I thought it was me but after watching this I now know it’s her! She was hitting a lot and verbally abusive to me a lot! She was never wrong either! Glad to get out of that relationship! She made me feel really bad! And low state of mood :(
I'm sorry to hear that! These videos will be very helpful to you. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA They will help you to know how to spot and avoid toxic women! God bless! 😀
TOXIC. wow. Its real blessing to know that there are people who really knows/understands these things. All you guys out there if you don't have children with the toxic lady. Don't stay with her. She can destroy your life. ,😔😔😔. Don't be stupid like me.
And me !I now have nothing and became an alcoholic and when that stopped bandaging the hurt and constant mental stress and anxiety I wound up becomeng a drug addict . Now I feel like I'm just here without any perpous really, I miss my daughter and I do take care of both of my disabled parents who depend on me day and night or I probably wouldn't be here if it wernt for that because I know they dont deserve any mental confusions of the questions that would never be answered. And my wife who is a Warden now by triad still blows my phone up all day and night and she still guilts me to do what she wants me to, and of course it's my fault , it's always all my fault and I don't really feel how I say I'm feeling because it's not her actions that make me feel that way and of course if I loved my daughter then I would change my ways, lol, Man I have changed my way so many different time and ways that I really have know idea how to even be anymore , but I know that we are supposed to love, and help when we are able in any way and never to judge no one,that's not our job anyway, but most people haven't figured that one out yet and it's the easiest, I mean people drive write, just stay in your own lane. Anyway that exactly how I live my life #1 love,love,love, every person you come in contact with and never stop no matter how much they rest you or hurt you and don't look down on no one unless your reaching down to give them a hand to help them back up. She can't take that from me, Ever! I hope this helps one of you guys out there, please dont and up like me..I love all of you, I really really do! Good Luck !
OMG, your so awsome and exstreamly helpful . I'm excited to see more of your videos.i have been married to my wife for almost 20yrs now and its been insanely chaotic, and I just recently discovered that she is a Narcissist, I'm learning how to deal now and bring myself back to who I once was. Thank you so much..
Yes Nathan, it was exactly the same for me .. I didn’t figure out my ex was a narcissist till a year and a half after the divorce and 22 years of a rotten marriage. There were things I enabled or let slide when red flags were lit up by her .. it was my fault for NOT having consequences for her bad behavior .. the one consequence that all of these toxic people understand is your leaving them .. the weird thing is previously I HAD broken off relationships with toxic or controlling / manipulative women for unacceptable behavior or total disrespect toward me and 3 of them actually stalked me afterward .. 2 for 6 months or longer .. I came to understand later that they were so used to getting their way because of their looks, it flipped them off the deep end when someone like me didn’t care about how they looked but how they treated me ., Hope you’ve made great strides since your posting ..
Wow... you described my last relationship to a tee. I cared about her very much but we fought like cats and dogs all the time. Thank you for bringing me some clarity on what was actually going on, I'm much happier with the decision to part ways.
A few minutes ago I watched your video on "WHY WOMEN WHO REJECTED YOU TRY TO COME BACK." and decided to watch this video for more clarity. Fortunately, the woman I like but was rejected is non of these signs so I'll give it one more try. Thanks for the clarity and God bless you.
Thanks Melanie now I get it I thought she was just messing with my head . I can't even tell you how rotten it makes me feel but now I realize maybe it wasn't really me. Thanks again.
My gf couldn’t control her anger and she ruined everything. I gave her chance after chance and was patiently supporting her and willing to accommodate her but she didn’t care to do the gritty work for her anger. Screaming at the top of her lungs like she’s gonna crash her car and hanging up in my face. Just a real disappointment. 2 years down the drain. We had everything to be happy.
My ex would keep bringing up my insecurities even though multiple times I told her don’t do that I’m insecure about that but whenever I told her that my insecurities didn’t matter and only hers did
@@CoachMelannie Don’t worry it’s not your fault. Your videos do help though. I it’s probably a good thing I went through this so I can learn my lessons
My ex was married and divorced 4 times by the time she was 41... according to her, all of her ex's were "crazy and cheaters" ..In the 9 mths we were together, she did all of these except for the physical abuse. She specialized in verbal and psychological abuse.
@@zippyblessed839 I know it may sound funny but at the time , it was almost a living hell. Head games, mental and emotional abuse take a huge toll and alot of time to overcome. Especially when you truly care about the person that's inflicting the àbuse.
I'll keep making them. While I work on that here are some that are similar! 😀 ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Let me know if you have any questions!
This was very interesting to listen too..I’ve only been in 1 long term relationship with my daughter’s father and feel like we’ve both been toxic for each other for years. It sucks when you treat someone like a king while they treat you like dirt. He exemplified all the things you talked about over the years and his toxic behavior started to rub off on me to where I started to treat him the same way he treated me 💆🏻♀️ Not cool at all as I just want to be treated with love and respect as anyone would but now have it engrained into my mind to treat anyone the way they treat me Smh
This is exactly me my gf always treated me so meanly and I was always nice and would do whatever she told me and was always listening to her because I was like why fight back if I just listen she won’t be mad and now that I realize she’s wrong sometimes I try and fight back and she just always tells me I’m not like I used to be and than now I’m the toxic and mean one and it’s so draining 💔
I’m a female 21 years of age and never had a relationship I’m just here because this video was recommended but I like that you’re telling men the signs of toxic woman because as a woman myself growing up in a toxic family I’ve seen things from a young age some of my relatives have dated nice guys but they’ve been the toxic ones in the relationships they’ve treated some guys in the past like shit which is why I just stick to myself but I think in general it’s cruel to treat someone you’re in a relationship with like trash the fact some woman mentally conflict abuse on some guys it’s cruel I also don’t like how the population says men are always toxic and they’re cheaters and whatnot when in general not every guy is bad and the same goes for woman we aren’t all toxic just have to find the right people for us guys anyway now I’m gonna subscribe to you because now I’m addicted! 😊
Thanks for the video. Was evaluating continuing a relationship with someone who seems to be purposefully passive aggressive to see how I react, to then capitalize on my negative reactions. It's so draining! Appreciate the affirmation.
i have a girlfriend that constantly belittles me ,she calls me stupid ,she does not ever stop complaining ever ,i just can't deal with here another day .
Thank you for these videos, Melannie. I’m usually pretty good at telling if someone is toxic or not but you’ve went over some things that I would have completely overlooked. And yes, I would love to see more videos on this subject. God bless! :)
I'm happy it was helpful! I'll be sure to make more asap 💪 In the meantime, have you seen these other videos I've made on toxic women? ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA
Literally in the first 2mins of this video I exclaimed Yes! That's that's exactly what I went through. Edit: as I continued watching, the exclamations kept coming!!! 😮
Love the video. About the guy friend whos married, tbh he shouldnt have really close female friends like that where he vents with her. Hi & bye yea maybe, contact info, but private venting together is not ok for couples & married couples imo.
Super interesting information. For myself I would just like to say that it depends on the type of toxicity in some women. I've had in some of my relationships all's great for the first few months, and the truth shines through, and the game starts, in a very disturbing manner. The game of trying to break the man that they supposedly fell in love with...... we all have our problems l know, no body's perfect. I've chosen to stay relationship free for nearly 2 years now. And believe me with every month that goes by l feel a sense of wholeness and freedom becoming more and more intense ...... Love to all, stay safe and free minded 💛
Thanks for your comment. I'm so sorry you have been through that. That is exactly what they do. Turn on the charm and then do all they can to destroy you. All the while with a smile on their face. I have more videos on this topic if you are interested. No pressure! ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Have a happy day! 😀
@@CoachMelannie Thank you very much for your concern and compassion,very touching 🙂 I have done so much research on this narcissistical phenomenon that we all are capable of having to a degree, sadly some more than others. Today l have no problem being relationship free, and looking back on my past experiences without regret only to have compassion for the suffering ...... thanks again and you too stay safe. By the way I've watched three of your videos, keep up the good work 💛
My ex is passive agressive from a tramatic family, we work together, shes been jabbing at me under her breath and passive agressive body language, she dumped me 3 months but some hows she butthurt at me 🙄, but today she smarted off about gettin her family to back her up one (passive agressive threat veild as a joke) so i told her " hiding under thier skirt huh?, when are you gonna be youre own person and take responsibility for your actions?" And walked away the look on her face was priceless, i. Am. Not. Her. Doormat. Now if she quits acting petty ill treat her in kind but i told her i give what i get , dont play thier bullshit , value yourself 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I'm so sorry you are going through that! Here are more videos on this topic that will help you. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Good for you for standing up for yourself!!!💪
I've been putting up with someone lately who I found is pretty toxic and was gaslighting me. She's supposed to be a Christian, wants a boyfriend/husband very much, but I don't see how anyone else can put up with her if she's been mistreating me. Also called me names, insulted me, made fun of my past troubles. I even thought of the possibility of dating her for a time, or at least working on a project with her, but she's clearly someone I shouldn't be close to. She even claims to be a great catch.
My last BPD ex GF ( yes i had one before) was abusive and after we broke up i still felt guilty. Not knowing why, i just felt that way. These women are masters in making you feel bad about yourself
I just realised that i am a toxic girlfriend, i feel so bad and that i am a horrible person. How can i do this to a person that i love, and deserves so much? And i don’t even know What to do. I really want to change but i don’t know how...
Please don't beat yourself up! It's great that you realize that you want to change somethings. I know there are so many good therapists that can help you and you will be amazing! Keep praying, get help and have faith! God bless 🙏
I was with my baby mother for two years. When i broke up with her it was the worst best thing. Id have to pretend to be something i wasnt for her. An she would not let me speak my opinion or what i like whenever we had company. She would hit me an talk to other guys. Now im so insecure within myself that i do not know if i can find another female
Toxic!!! We were engaged for 12 years, together a total of 14, and I missed all these signs, other than she wasn't physically abusive. But did she know how to manipulate and lie. She felt talking to other men through messenger or text wasn't inappropriate. She completely went off the deep end when I friended her friends on Facebook. Thank you for the information.
I'm so very sorry!!!! Here are more videos on this topic if you are interested. They will help you spot and avoid toxic people in the future! ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Take care!
Toxic! Lol! I love the thought of the thousands of good guys that you are helping Melannie! I’m one of the thousands and your content is so incredibly helpful AND FUN to watch! Thank you!
Hi Coach Melannie!! Thanks for giving us these advices, most of the times we never put them together and never figure it out the truth behind these behaviors.
Learn when to walk away, gentlemen. Story for y'all: I had a thing going on with my coworker for a little while. We never got to date because she was going through some things. I respected it, but she still kept showing signs of interest. After a while, I found out she was talking to someone else. I wanted to remain as friends. I ended up getting Covid for 2 weeks, and not once she texted me to get better. However, prior to Covid, I met a nice girl (who's a lawyer), that takes time out of her day to text me back. She even wished me to get better from Covid. Said coworker has made no effort to ask how I've been since Covid, nor asks me anything about my personal life anymore. The lawyer at least makes an effort with me. You never know when things get better after a possible toxic relationship.
Hi Melannie, I've been with my current girlfriend for over three years and we've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 and a half of those years and she's really pressuring me into moving in together but I'm still at university and I always tell her I can't make her false promises because I don't know where my life will take me. I'm also a very introverted person and need a lot of time to myself and my own space but when I tell her this she gets really angry and tells me I'm being selfish and that she's not important to me (which is not true). She's also very condescending and patronizing and throws tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants. She does however have a very kind and caring side to her personality but seems to switch back and forth between the two. Basically she's very very insecure and its very draining for me. It's very difficult to deal with and I was just wondering if you have any advice? Thanks :)
I'm sure knowing these signs will help you tons! Here are some other videos with more signs to look out for ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA If you are finding that you always seem to attract toxic women it's important to know why that is happening. Here is a video on that coachmelannie.com/what-attracts-toxic-women-sign-up/ It will help you be able to break that vicious cycle!
I noticed that my bf always blames me fore everything, It's always my fault. I try to tell him how I feel, he shows no sympathy when I'm crying or having a breakdown. Only a few times he hugged me or kissed my forehead for a little bit. After that little bit he just goes on his phone. Idk if I'm toxic or not. I'm so confused and I want to cry, I'm so lost, I'm scared to tell him how I feel now. :(
I'm so sorry. It sounds like he could have some problems. I would highly suggest getting some help from a professional. Please reach out to someone you can trust! God bless 🙏
He sounds like either an overt or covert narcissist. My dad is like that, nothing is ever his fault. He also rarely shows any affection. These are common narcissistic traits. I recommend leaving before it gets worse. Narcs have less empathy and that’s why he barely cared when you were crying.
@@CoachMelannie I have been talking to a psychiatrist but I know I need to find therapy to cope with my depression and anxiety. My bf automatically said no to therapy and psychiatrist for him 🙃
@@TheBrianagh some counselors, therapists or psychiatrists do not understand narcissism very well or at all .. I started googling certain things about behaviors with a covert malignant narc I was with and BOOM .. found the stories that matched my story .. a therapist 5 minutes away I found secretly and he had a lot of knowledge of narcissism .. he told me to tell her that he needed her to come in to see him so she could help him figure out my problem .. it was brilliant as I knew she wouldn’t go but with this she did .. the therapist saw her once and later told me to get out ASAP as the lights are on but no one is home and I did .. hope you’re doing better
As a man i can say iv'e personaly been trough a lot of these "Red flags". But i can also admit that i propably felt like i could also be influenced and do some "toxic" things.. Think its more about if a person can reflect on their own flaws of an argument even when its in the heat of the argument.. Some people just sees red and lash out even if their wrong in some points.
I feel your pain. I was in a toxic relationship for ten years also. She was an alcoholic. I thought if I showed her how much I loved her. She'd stop drinking. And being abusive. It didn't work. She only stopped. When she eventually died on me. From organ failure. That messed me up on many levels. I'm still not healed. And it's been 3 years. I'm still trying to cope with things. I'm still a nice guy. After all the abuse. So just don't give up. The right person will respect you someday. This was a great video by the way. It got through to me. Thank you for making it. Bless your heart.
It depends. Sometimes toxic women will use this as a way to manipulate. Sometimes it doesn't mean anything at all. If you'd like to send me an email I can get more details and help you with this more. Melannie@coachmelannie.com Thanks so much!
Yeah that's exactly, my girlfriend says very often too, "I may be wrong" or " forgot" or "as far as I know ", whenever I forgot force me to mention this words, if not she would be angry or hung the phone or stop the conversation .
