Toxic parents - Escape (Kdramas) 

PLEASE READ THIS COMMENT! - I'm not fully criticizing these dramas, nor the entire relationship, what's important is the behaviors shown in this video. - Toxic relationships don't only take place in romantic relationships, unfortunately they also exist within families (and between friends, this is a video I'm considering) • DIFFERENT TYPES OF CHILD ABUSE : Any intentional harm or mistreatment to a child under 18 years old is considered child abuse. Child abuse takes many forms, which often occur at the same time. • Physical abuse. Physical child abuse occurs when a child is purposely physically injured or put at risk of harm by another person. • Sexual abuse. Sexual child abuse is any sexual activity with a child, such as fondling, oral-genital contact, intercourse, exploitation or exposure to child pornography. • Emotional abuse. Emotional child abuse means injuring a child's self-esteem or emotional well-being. It includes verbal and emotional assault - such as continually belittling or berating a child - as well as isolating, ignoring or rejecting a child. • Medical abuse. Medical child abuse occurs when someone gives false information about illness in a child that requires medical attention, putting the child at risk of injury and unnecessary medical care. • Neglect. Child neglect is failure to provide adequate food, shelter, affection, supervision, education, or dental or medical care. In many cases, child abuse is done by someone the child knows and trusts - often a parent or other relative. ¬[- www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/child-abuse/symptoms-causes/syc-20370864 ] • STATISTICS (in Korea): - The current statistics in 2012 showed that a total of 8,979 cases of child abuse were reported last year. Eighty-seven percent of child abuse occurred in the home, 84% of abusers were the child’s parents, and 41% happened every day. Multiple abuses accounted for 47%, followed by negligence (27%), emotional abuse (15%), physical abuse (7%) and sexual abuse (4%). The reports of child abuse have been increasing every year. [- www.med.or.jp/english/journal/pdf/2013_05/318_324.pdf ] - The number of child abuse reports is increasing every year, having nearly tripled from 11,700 in 2015 to 30,000 in 2019. Of these cases, 7.8 percent involved infants. [ - www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20210120000841 ] - In 2020, the number of child abuse reports reached about 42 thousand cases, growing by around two percent from the previous year. The number of reports of child abuse has risen steadily in the last years. [- www.statista.com/statistics/1226152/south-korea-child-abuse-reports/ ] • THE LAW : - Additionally, child-rearing practices were traditionally considered private family business beyond the control of the state, so government intervention was rare.8 Professor Kim Sang-yong explains that the reluctance of the government could be attributed to the following saying: “Law cannot jump over the family fence.” [- www.americanbar.org/groups/public_interest/child_law/resources/child_law_practiceonline/child_law_practice/vol-34/february-2015/child-maltreatment-in-south-korea--an-overview1/ ] - The amendment, called the Jeong-in Act, is named after a 16-month-old girl who died after allegedly being abused by her adoptive parents. Under the revised law, those who abuse children and unintentionally cause death can face the death penalty or imprisonment for seven years to life. [- www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20210228000132 ] • JEONG-IN CASE: “Jeong-In (June 10, 2019 - October 13, 2020) was a 16-month-old baby girl from Seoul, South Korea who was abused and tortured by her adoptive parents for 271 days (8 months) and ultimately died on October 13, 2020 due to severe abdominal injuries. “ (- Wikipedia) Her adoptive mother had been sentenced to life imprisonment, until very recently: “An appellate court on Friday reversed a local court’s ruling of life imprisonment for an adoptive mother who murdered her toddler daughter, to a sentence of 35 years in prison, citing lack of proof for “such a heavy sentence. In May, Jang was sentenced to life in prison, but she lodged an appeal, saying the penalization was too much. On Friday, the appellate court found Jang guilty of “willfully” killing her adopted daughter -- same as the lower court -- by physically assaulting the 16-month-old child. The court, however, viewed life imprisonment too harsh a punishment, as Jang, 35, did not “plan” on her murder nor sought to conceal evidence of her actions, it said. The court also took into consideration that Jang had taken her daughter to the hospital on the day she died. In addition to 35 years in prison, the appellate court ordered Jang to complete 200 hours of a child abuse treatment program and banned her from working at children-related organizations for 10 years. For the adoptive father, surnamed Ahn, the court approved of the lower court’s ruling of five years in prison. Reversing the lower court’s ruling, the appellate court found Ahn not guilty of child abuse, and that he was not directly involved in the murder. But the court upheld the prison term against Ahn for not taking action despite being aware of his wife’s abuse. Ahn was also ordered to undertake 200 hours of a child abuse treatment program, and has been banned from working at children-related organizations for 10 years.” [- www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20211126000579 ] • NORMALIZATION OF CHILD ABUSE: As with all my videos, it is important to distinguish between scenes that denounce certain behaviors and those that normalize, banalize or even glorify them. This video is about the normalization of toxic behavior by parents (or rather adults) on children/teens. How? By minimizing, justifying these behaviors. I invite you to see my video on victim blaming which explains a little more about the normalization of these behaviors. Why is it dangerous? A child who will be victim of these behaviors in a repeated way may not realize that it is not normal, or will try to do his best not to upset his parents, therefore thinking that a parent HAS THE RIGHT to behave this way. What is important to understand is that a parent does not have all the rights and that a parent has a considerable influence on the life of their child. So psychological abuse, such as devaluing, will have consequences on the child's self-esteem, not to mention physical abuse, neglect etc. The protection of the child is a very important and serious matter precisely because, like any victim, children need to be listened to, believed, considered and protected. The danger of normalizing such acts is of course to normalize and justify violence and that can never be acceptable. - emergingfrombroken.com/the-process-of-normalizing-abuse/ • WHY ARE THESE DRAMAS HERE : Not all these dramas normalized these behaviors in the same way : - Used them for humor: there is litteraly a funny music playing in the background (Vincenzo, My first first love, Fight for my way, Are you human too) - "Normal parenting behavior" : these behaviors are presented and qualified as normal behaviors coming from parents and sometimes supported by the viewers, maybe because we have already been confronted to this kind of behaviors ourselves? but it is not because we are personally used to this kind of behaviors that they should be banalized. (Because this is my first life, Move to heaven, ) - By not addressing the problem at all : The behavior is not glorified or justified, it is simply ignored, as if it were not important. (Boys over flowers, Weightlifting fairy kim bok joo, True Beauty, The Penthouse) - By being explicit but not directly calling out these acts : No funny music, in fact, on the contrary, the behavior is presented in a rather unhappy scene. But it is not, afterwards, denounced, nor even pointed at. (18 again, Law school, Record of youth, Her private life, Record of youth, Moment at eighteen, Love Alarm) - By being explicit but mitigating the seriousness of these acts, for example with a reconciliation : The behavior is presented explicitly as bad behavior, the scenes are harsh and straightforward, the behavior is not softened. But it is minimized. Afterwards, both parties reconcile, the children forgive the parents, agree to continue to live with them and even if the behavior is not presented as normal, it is not called "abusive". (Something in the rain, Strong woman do bong soon, Sky Castle) Thank you for watching, thank you for helping me in the creation of this video, thank you for supporting me!

Parents think that comparing us with other kids and saying thay we will fail in our life will make us more motivated, the only thing it gives us are low self esteem, anxiety issues,mental problems and many more.

The way the kids just turn their heads away and stay silent hits so hard. At a certain point, you just stop talking back. You stop getting upset and angry. You learn how to cry silently, and only when they're gone. You don't even try to talk about how you feel, because they don't care. You just have to sit there and take the abuse, holding your breath so the tears don't slip out and pressing your nails into your palms to distract yourself with the pain.

As a person who has grown up in South Asia I can 100% attest that most of us grow up with anxiety and stress and are upset about our parents. I was lucky growing up that I didn't have to deal with physical abuse. But I did have to deal with alot of emotional abuse. Worst part is you can confront them and explain them and they will just tell you to ignore it or that you should grow a thick skin otherwise the world would eat you. And I would also say this to them, " I can handle how the world treats me because I have no expectations from them. I can fight back because I genuinely don't care about them. But you are my family anything you do to hurt me hurts me 1000x because it's you who I seek love and support from and it's you who doesn't give it."

It hurts my heart watching this video, but someone needs to do that because parental abuse is so common that many children think it is normal if an adult/parent hit you to "discipline" you. Sometimes this type of normalisation even gets carried out outside of the house and you accept it if your partner (in a relationship) abuses you (mental/physical etc.) And the worse part is they think they are helping us when they are clearly leaving us with horrible experiences.

This video told everything about anxiety, depression and family issues, I feel like I sit with them, your video is so awesome

This is amazing. No one has ever talked about a critique on toxic parents infact I've seen memes of these. It's not a bad thing to make memes on them, but at the same time we need to realise this kind of behaviour is not acceptable and we should accept it in real life too. Repeatedly telling to get married, getting a job, humiliation in front of people for your grades, choice of career and brain is terrible and no one should go through it. A parents duty is to guide the children NOT control or abuse them in any way, nor take their acts as fun, this can lead to severe mental health issues. Doing something without thinking about the child and not supporting them in what they do, is very wrong. Any one going through this shouldn't normalise it and talk to someone :)

I love Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo, but her father genuinely scared me. I always skip over those scenes when I rewatch it. The way he goes from kind old man to seriously violent in a snap is too realistic.

I am so excited for this video I live in Asia and I hate how much we normalize abuse saying It's okay we are asian or that's what usually happens in my country And you raising awareness about child abuse toxic relationship or sexual abuse is a very good thing you are the best fucking editor I have ever seen 💜

I have online friends outside of Asia and they are shocked at all the actions we call "discipline" while we just shrug and deal with it like its nothing. The scariest part of this is that you never really know its wrong until either someone points it out or you're too broken inside that you realize it's wrong already, that it's too much. Most of the time the punishment is hitting but the most painful one is verbal abuse, because it stays the longest to you. For me, I realized it just last year and I was crying and shaking as I realized. The hardest part was that I couldn't hate my parents. They weren't the ones doing most of it anyways so I couldn't. Anyways, this video really does show the abuse and it's scary how I find them normal. Thank you for another wonderful video 💙

The worst thing is that they blame the phones. And if we try to defend ourselves we are shameless and out of line.

I always thought that Jugyeong’s mother was way too abusive and it always felt glossed over as “funny”. Thanks for bringing it to light :)

Basically thisa - expecting the child to have good grades all the time. Always A - forcing the child to look pretty (when it's their genes too) - not allowing to express sadness or disappointement - forcing them to eat less to look gppd for others - parents blame one another for how their child turn out - expecting and forcing the child to become what they want to make up for their failure - expecting them to fix a family problem which the parents started - blaming the child's existence when they were the ones who brought us - raising their children to work for them and not supporting their decision - pushing them to do and become only what they want and approve of - not supporting their decisions and opinions - not allowing the child to dream just because they don't have money - be too controlling over the child - forcing the child to become like everyone else - turning a blind eye when they say they're sick - belittling them -pressuring them - punishing them by slapping, hitting, caning, etc. even when they don't do any big mistake. - ignoring their feelings just becahse they don't show it. They just can't - forcing them to grow up too fast and become a child-adult... Physical abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse, all sorts of abuse have been portrayed in kdramas. Even the good people and good families do it... It is sad, and it happens a lot. Most of the time, even in comedy dramas we see this but we laugh. Although it looks normal as if it's their thing to do, it should not be normal. Just because the people who had to deal with it haven't said anything, it does not mean it should go on. Other parts of a drama may not seem realistic, but these parts, hurt a lot. Even tho we viewers know it's acting. And these parts are more realistic, that's hidden and secret.

The fact that this is so normalized and overlooked in South Asian households speaks for itself.

i am really thankful that you are spreading awareness. i am just really grateful. sometimes, our own parents hurt us in the most painful way that leaves a scar forever. no matter how subtle it is and no matter by who it is, abuse is abuse. and i just hope that more people could understand it. some people say that it's just a drama and that there is no need to be so serious about it. but just because it is a drama, doesn't mean that it doesn't leave an impact on the viewers. seeing abuse being normalised, romantised and glorified, we would think that it is normal and we would want that for us. and when someone enters into a toxic relationship or goes through abuse, they would think it is normal. but it is not. and we should know that. in my family and around me, abuse happens almost daily that we ended up thinking that it is normal, that this how families are. but no matter how usual it happens, no matter how many people abuses someone and no matter how many goes through abuse, abuse isn't normal. and i am really grateful to you. thank you very much. ... [also, i love your edits:3 it can heartbreaking and sad. it can also be beautiful and sweet

This was extremely difficult to watch. There are some examples here where these parents were “soften” with humour I think (my first love or wfkbj) and as a viewer it makes me sick. The worst one I’ve watched is without a doubt the mom from Something in the rain. Thank you for this video, I hope we can all recognize the toxic parenthood presence in kdramas.

You see, when you try to communicate your feelings and thoughts to them, it's considered as talking back, disrespectful, attitude, ungrateful for raising you and being a bad child. If we want it to pass smoothly, the only way is to sit quietly and do nothing. Everytime i fight with my parents, i have to be the one who begs for forgiveness, to apologize, to change my ways, to realize my mistakes. . . Even if im right, even if im the one who was wronged, even if i was blamed for nothing. I have experienced way to many situations in which i have been falsely accused, compared, hit (it gradually decreased as a i grew older and replaced with taking away things i care about), and worst of all silenced and oppressed. There's no room for discussion, your parents are always right. But in the end, i still can't hate them, because they're all I have.

Back when I was young (from 7 yo until 12 yo), I used to get hit with an acrylic rod or a belt from my dad every time I get bad grades. I used to think that going to school with a bruise was normal and didn’t think much of it until I get older and my perception of the world change that I realized that what my parents did is indeed a form of abuse.

Parents want us to make them proud doing what they want not considering, our feelings,our goals . They also want to "show us off" like other parents do, which breaks every teenagers heart when they hear these words, thinking that they are not enough. Is it written somewhere that they gave us birth so they also have a right to control our lives?

Thank you for this video. From the beginning, from the scene with a call from "mom" till the very end I saw ME. I saw myself and my parents in. EVERY.SINGLE.SCENE. When I was younger I thought that it's normal in families, that it was what I deserved. Last year I stopped talk to them and the other relatives as well. Because all of them were and are like these characters. Every single one of them. I am really proud of myself that I did it. I leaved them. because I didn't deserve it. Thank you for this video and for reminding me that I did right for myself. I am happier than ever without them. And I wish for others who struggle now leave it behind you. It will hurt SO MUCH. But you did not deserve what they did to you. Please take care of yourself. It will get better if you really want it and go for it. You CAN do it. We are not victims. We are SURVIVORS.

watching this video and reading all the comments, just made me tear up. Because it hits a spot inside, things like this should be talked about more. We shouldn't normalize this just because they're are our parents. love your vids btw

you did a great job on this video, i literally cried watching it and felt suffocated. My parents are liberal, I have a great relationship and partnership with my mother, my father is a little more distant but our relationship is ok but even so just watching it's like I felt in my skin what these characters felt, I want to get on the screen and protect them, hug them, my heart aches to see people being mistreated by their parents, even more if it's with children, when I see children being punished, ignored, it only hurts me a lot, I think " just be more patient, listen to them, talk, encourage, you just need patience please, is it so hard? why have children to treat them like that? " when i see i just... i want to interfere, yell at the parents, just I want to adopt and give all the love that person deserves. I know that not everyone likes children, I like, if you don't, don't have children, you don't need to treat them like that and I also don't like to see people suffering, especially those who were supposed to be the safe place so it's just horrible to see situations and not being able to do anything. I'm sorry for the big text haha ​​I'm kind of emotional

Was waiting for someone to speak about this topic for so long! Thanks for covering this

I used to think that I'm just emotional by nature, that's why I cry a lot. Then, I found a video talking out how being always shouted at and being told to shut up when we try to speak up makes us avoid confrontation. Now, even the sound of my parents talking in the slightest higher volume makes me anxious and I can't talk to them even casually because I get too emotional and cry on the spot. Like I can't even control it, and the tears just fall down even before I can escape.

thanks for making this video. The abuse is so normalized that it is so sad to see how everyone at some point has gone through this .💔 This broke my heart for so many things that I came to think that they were "normal" and they are not. 💔

I’m so excited, well as much as you can be for this kind of topic. Thank you again for the hard work, the comment already sounds really interesting and I also appreciate you adding statistics for child abuse. Is the number of reports for child abuse growing because there is more abuse or because people have become more aware that it is a problem? I would argue for the latter but maybe someone knows more about that topic. Either way thank you for spreading awareness on such serious and important topics. I can imagine that the video is going to be as good as the others in this series.

I suffered physical & emotional abuse from my mom for 18 years. Two years ago she was diagnosticate with cancer, In that moment she started to reflex about her bad attitude that had with me and I also made her know that all that I needed was a lovely & respectful mom 😔😔😔. Now at my 19 years old, my mom is the person that I really wished for. Our relationship is getting more & more stronger that ever 💜💜💜💜😊😊😊😊.

Thank you for spending such a great amount of time on this ❤ It's always bothering me whenever I see such actions on TV and have been waiting for your video since I saw your community post. I'm really glad someone would point out this twisted way of normalizing

oh my goodness- i saw your community posts about this video and i couldn’t wait to see it! this completely encompassed all the emotions so perfectly- great job omggg

Thank you for making this video because there are few of these dramas that showcase the dark side of parenting and control our parents carry over us. The way Asian people normalize abusive behaviours and scarring their kids with pain is just sometimes unbearable to watch and it makes me want to drop those dramas but if they affect you means that is the truth you live through in real too. I have been there and done with that. It's just sad how these things are just so normalized and daily part of every kid's life.

"it's still my family", no they aren't, your family wouldn't really treat you like that. please understand that blood isn't everything, they're toxic....this is not for your good, it's for you to seek therapy later. this affected me a lot... it was very triggering, it always is. and well, it always will be.

NO WAY ITS PREMIERING SO SOON, GREAT JOB MARIETB!! UR AWESOME AND UR DOING AWESOME. THANK YOU!!

I always thought i was emotionless, i never understood any meaning to be alive, I didn't even dislike pain since it was so usual to me. I just can't be asked to die, it was only until 2 years ago when i joined secondary and had friends somehow that i realized I was just extremely depressed. I don't self harm, i don't cry, I don't feel anything. It was only when my friends got into my heart that i started feeling again and realized how horrible my mum was. My life was just physics, physics and abuse before then. I'm still in process of recovery but I'm much better now.

The present generation has gone through all of this! Our elders call it a ritual of discipline.. they would hv also suffered the same thing from their parents..it's our turn to stop generational trauma

this reminds me so much of my mother. thanks for the video, i feel like this topic is still heavily avoided and just not taken seriously enough.

Honestly I've been waiting to see this kind of edit I noticed that alot of the kdramas mentioned here true beauty, weightlifting fairy, boys over flowers, and etc. They all have toxic parent behaviour but people never took them seriously just making memes out of them which is fine of course I myself relate to those memes so I laugh but I feel like people should also understand that these actions are very toxic just because a parent can't know a way to express their love that doesn't mean they get to do it in a toxic way and this also goes for people who romanticised toxic relationships.

Thank god you didn't skip SOMETHING IN THE RAIN. I literally cried when I saw that scene.

I'm so happy that you put scenes of Bae Ro Na, a lot people said that she was a spoiled but to me Oh Yoo Nee was very unfair sometimes.. she wouldn't let Ro Na sing and wouldn't tell her the Reason why... She was already being victim of bullying at school but Oh Yoo Nee wasn't paying attention... Another example is when the moved to Min seol's ex apartment and Ro Na was bullied for that

In some if these dramas, they show that these parents do thát because they love their child. Please stop giving this message, there’s NO WAY someone who loves you will never hurt you physically or mentally. I have a cousin who got angry on her child and threw scissors at him and the child ended up getting hurt really bad, she got scared and took him to hospital. The doctor asked about what happened and since the child was young he said “I did something bad” and doctor realised it was the mother. I still remember what the doctor told her “only an illiterate, who don’t know how to speak or teach through calm words will resort to such violence”

when I was on vacation with my dad he would always do harsh punishments. He would always not let me and my brothers take a break on our bikes, he would always talk mean about my mom’s family. My dad’s family is nice but my dad isn’t. He’s not a very good father to me. And since he kept talking mean about mom and how he treats me. I’ve decided never to spend time with him again.😔😔😔

''every children deserve their parents, but not every parents deserve their children"

You “train” yourself to not feel the beating.. just numbness while it happens… after a while you don’t “feel” the pain… no emotions….

I salute those who go through these pains... and come out of the pain; even if the wounds persist, I am so proud that they still go on, trying their best not to repeat these mistakes, they are warriors at heart, even without an iron armour or a sword, because they are amazing, and deserve all the love. no matter what you do the absence of these wounds will be inevitable, but you will learn to cope with it... its sad but powerful.

And when children grow up and don’t want to have relationships with them, they find that weird. This is why?

I have faced this, not physically but surely mentally. Even seeing your parents fight is also a mental abuse to yourself. It is very common in Asian countries but that doesn't mean that abuse should be normalised. If you go to talk to them, their only response would be, "handle your own problems by yourself, I am myself too f ed up with my own problems". Not knowing that if I had been able to handle them on my own then I wouldn't have come to open up. No wonder why, the new generation has a lot of trust issues and anxiety. Anxiety, depression, stress and lastly trust issues are all the things that come gifted along with mental abuse. I really like it that at last someone spoke about it.

it's so sad that in this video, all the abuse seems sad and horrible but in dramas it's portrayed as funny and the normalcy

whenever i see this types of all scenes in dramas this thought always comes in my mind that at least most of their parents changes in the end but i wish reality can also be the same.i hope everyone who are suffering can break the cage and be free from toxic relations soon until then hold on bcz u deserve to be happy.

I am 18 now but I clearly remember how I was hit by my mom when I was 10, she hit me with pliers which made me lose consciousness for 10 minutes but she didn't even bat an eye to that, another time she dragged me by my hair and spit on my face and locked me in the washroom and one time she stepped on my chest which made me lose breath and hit me with a comb. She absolutely ain't like that with my siblings (which I'm glad for) but I wonder what did I ever do to her to behave with me like that. I'm sorry for anyone out there who faced this abuse or are still facing it. We are strong and we will get through it, I love you.

I have been abused by my parents ever since I was a child. Despite all this I have stayed strong for so long but I don't think I can continue being strong now. I am tired, I just wanna go into a deep sleep and not wake up.

i used to be a victim of child abuse i mean i was born in an asian family what else can u expect? tho later on my mom changed but only after i was completely destroyed.... to this day there is still an akward empty space between us that can only be filled with the love that i did not got when i was little ... i still fear something will set her off and everything will start happening again ..... seriously monsters do not hide under your bed instead they scream into your head....

Wow I don't even know what to day because of how intense this video was... Some scenes were very difficult to watch so I'm even more thankful than usual for the trigger warnings at the beginning of the video, as educative as it is this video cannot be watched by everyone. Thank you as well for tackling this issue because many people still believe that parents can't abuse their children unless they hit them with a chair or something like that. As always you wrote an amazing pinned comment full of interesting information, bravo !! You did great as well today!

Finally it’s here!!👀

You did absolutely amazing with this video as you do all your others. These events in dramas become so normalized and a point of comedy that it just makes me sick. Sometimes it’s so normalized to the point I can’t watch it anymore because of it Thank you for making this video!

I'm an asian and I'm glad that I don't have toxic parents...This topic was required as I've seen many toxic parents..It's changing slowly but still the toxicity is vanished altogether

ayo i was waiting for hyunus's toxic parents😭but oml still THIS IS SUCH A GOOD EDIT, i feel so bad for all these characters :((

This is literally my life. Asian Kids Can relate to this video on the highest level possible

TBH, if we are in a toxic relationship, we can leave them behind after recognising it. But we can't leave our parents behind. Neither will they realise the toxicity nor accepts it. It might be cultural difference or social status. But I won't do this to my future generations. Every child deserves parents but not every parents does. It's a harsh reality, I hope atleast from this gen, more people will understand this.

The anger I feel due to the injustices me and many fellow kids went through is astonishing. The was people continue to see this as normal “I’m just teaching them a lesson” no you’re abusing your child. The endless “once you’re older you’ll understand” which turns to “when you have children you’ll understand” no I need to understand it now and I still don’t.

Unnie this reminds me of my mom whenever I use to get low grades she used to bit the shit out of me but whenever I say that I study she thinks that I'm laying and my dad also don't say anything he just watch it and that's what I'm tired off

This is so beautifully done, I must applaud you. Also, I feel that sometimes in shows (not always) this subject is turned into almost a “comedic” moment. With playful music and such, but I feel like that’s intentional, I don’t know how to explain it. Because, I don’t think they’re belittling the matter, just getting it a little easier to eat but it is still the same content in your stomach afterwards.

once I had fever my mom told me to the dry fruits after eating it just by mistake one piece fell into dustbin when I went to put the plate in the sink she got angry and told me to pick it from the full dustbin and eat it and I ate it and now I am more grown my mom tortures me very much I love her so I can't hurt her I don't know why I still love her that I can die for her but she hates me what have I done that my life is truly a hell when I try to talk to her she says I'm bad child and disagreeing with her and till now in every school and tuition she called all the teachers and complained me everyone says that I thought you were so calm king how can be so rude she never complains about my little sis and impose her mistakes on me and she , my father and everyone else scold me and I can do nothing just because they are my parents and are elder

I’m not trying to invalidate anybody’s abuse but Desi kids have seen the worst of abuse. Like, some of these shown here is like a casual Tuesday, maybe cause we didn’t clean the dishes. But when it comes to studies or marriage, even death seems like a peaceful option.

My Parents when I was a kid id have no privacy when I turned 11 my parents wouldn't even let me lock my door and our bathroom door. My parents think they were guiding me but in reality, they are just controlling me and hurting me comparing me to other children times I even feel left out by my aunts or my parent's friends just ask about my younger sister but never me i never tried being asked first its always my sister when they buy them things I would have none when my younger sisters touch my little things and mess it up but when I complain they'd just say its fine your the oldest you should be mature but when they tell my parent's id just receive a punishment sometimes even a slapping I cant even defend my self or talk about myself anymore when I talk abt my self id get criticise sometimes i even feel insecure about my self they'd always say sit properly your a girl or talk properly your face look ugly ur feet looks ugly ur so black ur so fat eat less u look like skin and bones eat more then my aunt and uncle just joins in they said its just comments u should take it the good way but i cant they'd just make me feel insecure i can only cry silently not loudly like when i was a kid i cant even talk about my problems anymore.

I just watched the whole vedio with a straight face because I know the pain and now it's my habit waking up by getting scolded and going to school ( hell ) and coming back thinking if I had done something bad so my mother won't scold me and then that comparison never ends I am so lucky that I got a toxic FAMILY also waah

I couldn't understand how in the end they always forgive the abusers just because they're family and act like ntg happened. IM CONFUSED???

Please make a video on siblings abuse My elder sister always bully me,hits me she do whatever she wants She acts according to her mood My mummy also can't tell her anything She just sits silently,my mummy sometimes cry in sleep because of my elder sister My mummy wants her to take care of me as other elder sister do but my sister is just.....I can't explain😭😭

This made me cry so bad cuz I lived with my abusive parents for my whole 21 y o life and it effect me so bad . I'm not mentally or Physically stable and instead of feeling warm and safe between them I feel sad and stressed. And I still suffer from that . All I hope it to get out from this house asap .

I always think when this happens with me.... No it's just they're stressed,when expect good things from us..... But it always happens again and again, day by day I'm becoming suicidal and no one knows......

No matter how much we rany here but nothing will change. If i ever have kids in future then they will be living the life i did not get. I had never know that parents hitting their children is called abuse, i thought it was common. Adults may think that when they compare their children to other children it will motivate them but they are wrong. Not everyone takes that in a positive way.

Ju kyung's Mum is kind at the end she even bought her supplies and encouraged her in her make-up studies , yet , that's true that she didn't knew what her daughter have been thought 🥲

Im glad to see the father of kim bokjoo here! That scene when he finds out about her going to the clinic SCARED the hell out of me because he was insanely aggressive and just rude yk? Made me really uncomfortable

its funny aint it when "respect" nd "wht will society will say / our reputation " matters more than your own child's life no matter if the child is already dead inside , they only care about the reputation . always compare their child to other by thinking they are doing good by that there child will change no matter if they show their own child who bad they are and ofc the child will change but not the way they want and nor even the way child wants the child will be cold hearted,there will be no word like happiness in the childs life ....wht they will notice is only the way child behaves rude,cold hearted,not reacting etc , and then they will insult the child more bcz the child is not reacting ...... this all has happend with me i lost interest frm everything bcz first i enjoyed those things by doing but after tht when i became good at those my parents stared me giving pressure especially studies first i was too good but now the worst i liked dancing but i lost interest . i want to say to all parents plzz dont force your child no matter how rich or how good will be the reputation tht child will never be happy ....

Editor with a brain and healthy mind. 👏

Parents think it’s ok to lash out and yell at us but if we ever do we get punished.

This edit is INCREDIBLE!! You did an outstanding work here!! I never faced abusive but my gosh at the middle of the video i had to pause to take a breath and continue watching

Daaamn I'm so upset, you did a great job! I think you should watch the kdrama Children of Nobody, there is a lot of toxic parents/authority figure doing child abuse , it's a really good drama, N of VIXX is one of the protagonists, xx

This made me feel sick, thank you for the video, that’s all I feel capable of writing right now

The fact that I watch all this drama had me crying 😞

"It's just tough love" "he said that because he loves you and wants what's best for you" "he's saying that to toughen you up" That was what I always say to myself whenever I'm scolded by my dad and being told that I'm going or be beaten and kicked out whenever I'm in deep trouble. The times my dad would raise his voice suddenly to the point of being terrifying is so many that I've lost count at that point. Same goes for when he raised his hand to beat me or one of my siblings. It was only a matter of time before I picked up on my father's habits: - Raising my voice over the smallest of issues - Threaten my siblings that I will k!ll them if they make a single mistake - Backtalk and insult them whenever my parents praise them Moral of the story: Treat your kids with kindness, and they'll repay with kindness. Treat your kids with fear, and they'll repay with fear.

it's sad that i know all of this is abuse, but i've lived 23 years of my life thinking i was weak for not normalizing these things. get tough they said, that's the way of living for independent women. accepting any lie and hit from my family, for the favor of "parenting a successful and beautiful child"

That's sad how no one ever talks about parents who are too toxic. Some children have did suicide because of their parents who were never satisfied. They beat them, hurt them mentally. Give them severe depression. But the children are told to bare it because they should be grateful for the bread. A parent's responsibility is to care for their child but these days children are told to take care of their parents at a very young age.

I'm living in a toxic household. My father left us in the very beginning and my mother blames me for ruining her life. She thinks my birth is a curse for her. Even though my father didn't care about me my mother never missed a chance to put a disgrace on me. I never feel loved in my home. My relatives are on my mother's side. They think she's the victim meanwhile I have been tolerating this toxicity since birth. I'm still going through a lot. My mom doesn't supports me in being financially independent and neither I'm able to earn a living on my own. I have been trying hard to find a job and get out of this household. However, I'll always keep fullfiling the duties of a single child but from a distance. I don't know when and where to start from I'm not getting a single opportunity. Today I have finally opened up regarding my situation. Hope God listen to my calls. I have been receiving death threats. I hope I find a way out of this. May he assist me in it. OM NAMAH SHIVAYA

This is gonna be a very hard video to sit through and watch, alas I'll watch it. 💕💕💕

6 hours more can’t wait

I used to lie a lot when I was a kid. My mom hated that. Now I'm honest with her. she hates that too. I don't really talk to my parents much because of that. They say I bottle up too much and it's bad for me. I let them know my problems. They said they don't understand me. I give up.

My mom didn't let me sit on bed because I was having my periods. I told her she is wrong but instead of hearing me she started to beat me because she think that I am a kid,I don't know anything and started to compare me with my cousin . she hit my neck very badly it is still hurting I hope someone truly loved me

I'm just so tired of getting mentally abused that I've stopped answering them back. I just don't have any energy left.

Guys can anyone here suggest me one thing. My parents want me to do whatever they want, they want me to become what they want not what I want and for that I'll be now preparing for the third time. I told them a 100 times that i don't want to become what u want but they start scolding me and then they only stops talking to me. Even when they make mistakes and i say something they stops talking because they know that I'll be worried if they'll not talk. In other ways I guess it's kind of manipulation or something. Tell me what should I do? When I say I want to go for my dream, when I say I want to work for what I want to become they say u can't do that. And even my relatives those mfs they also says to me like these things.

Now I understand all those funny parts in drama was actually serious!

Id like to recommend From A Distance Spring Is Green and TWENTY-TWENTY. Theyre web dramas on Viki and both main characters deal with toxic/abusive parents

I hate how these things are getting so normalised in Asia. It's abuse and abuse will always be abuse no matter from where u r

This is one of those moment that I be thankful for youtube recommendations This video come to me without me searching it. I currently undergoing mental abuse by my mom. She is giving me silent treatment. Even if I talked to her, she doesn't respond. They are many thing I love about her but I hate the parts of her that are too strict, narcissistic, belittling and always giving silent treatment when angry. This has happen many times and I still don't know how to deal with it 😕

this scence that could happen with someone can only understand how it feels to have parents but still feel like an orphan child...😔😔

This is amazing, i love you edits, Thank you for spreading awareness!

i couldn't even watch the video halfway, i used to live like this for years until i was free for college thousands miles away from home

lemme add this...sometimes they dont abuse us by hitting us..but the abuse lies in their words...thy dont hit us but their words,expectation hit us like train in those vast field where we r completly broken, we dont trust them anymore nd consider ourselves just only a burden to them...we learn to be silent and smile only...we dont let them know wht thy have lost

I know people in the comments section are going to be great parents in future. Not like those abusive parents...

It's the way I didn't flinch at a single scene in this video or when watching these dramas because this is something that has been extremely normalized with me and around me.

I remember a parent of mine whipping me with a belt over my face in my body.. After they were done I asked them if you got their anger out on me. I told that person the next time they did anything like that to me. I would put them in a headlock and put them to sleep. It never happened again

I was trying hard not to cryy.... I am also abused both emotional and physically .... I hope I don't kill myself... I tried to suicide several times... But now I think I have to live a good life .... I will do ittt.... Stay strong everyone better time will come