In this video you will find dramas that have done a good job at portraying a toxic relationship as well as others that have done the opposite, i.e. romanticized it. So this video is not a criticism nor a praise, I even used passages that had no direct link to toxic relationships in the conjugal sense (if I may say). What I wanted to show here is the important steps of a healing process. In this video there are dramas that I didn't like at all precisely because I think they didn't do a good job on the subject (Yumi's cell, Mad for each other, Nevetheless...), others didn't even explicitly mention the fact that it was a toxic relationship or even did worse: the woman leaves a toxic relationship to enter another one that is made to look healthy or the two characters reconcile etc etc. So this video is also about the importance of taking time to heal from this type of relationship, but more importantly to be aware and to know exactly what was wrong with this relationship. This video doesn't really have the same explanatory purpose as the others, I didn't really try to denounce anything or show what should be done. I've mostly used my personal experience and not every person will react the same way. This video was also a way for me to look back on my own healing process, but mostly a way to tell anyone who might be in this situation that things will be okay. It's been four years since I left my abusive ex but I still have no desire to get into a new relationship. I wish I could have put this in pictures but kdramas don't really tend to show the healing process in this way. So I also wanted to tell you that this is normal and it's okay if you don't feel ready. If it scares you, if you're not interested, if you're disgusted or if you just don't feel like it. In my opinion it is important to learn to love yourself, to recognize your own value before considering a new relationship. And I wish that the kdramas had emphasized this more often. A toxic relationship makes you lose some confidence in yourself and a toxic person continues to have a hold on you as long as he makes you doubt your value. That's why I also wanted to make this video to tell you that you are a good and amazing person. You deserve respect and to love yourself. And most importantly, you deserve to be happy. It will take as long as it takes and maybe you will always have a scar, but with time it will probably hurt less, with time you will probably learn to see it only as a healed and distant past. It may seem like an eternity and it may seem like it will never get better, but I wanted to make this video to tell you that there is always hope and that you deserve to have that hope, just as much as you deserve to be happy in the end. Thank you for watching this video, I wish you the best. Some articles : - blogs.webmd.com/mental-health/20190729/how-to-recover-from-a-toxic-relationship - medium.com/on-the-couch/7-ways-to-know-youre-getting-over-a-toxic-relationship-355bebe1caf1
My father is emotionally abusive towards my mother and I hate it. More than that, I hate how everyone treats me like I'm the weird one for acting coldly towards him. Even my mom acts like it never happened. One moment he's screaming and hitting things and insulting us and my mom's crying in my room saying he terrifies her, the next they're hugging and laughing in public. Everyone tells me to stop being petty and get over myself, but how can I? Everything that was said and done over the years rings in my head. I still feel the ants crawling up my legs from when he dumped me and my brother on the side of the road and forced us to stand on anthills for hours because we talked too loudly. My father keeps telling me he thinks we've grown apart and wishes we could be closer, and every time I tell him that he doesn't. Not really. Because he keeps going back to how he really is. And all he says is that he can't remember what happened anymore.
What that really fucked up . How can they just told us to forget that when litterally everything that they did to us cant be forgotten .... most people want to be their innocent child again .. but we dont even want to be that helpless child again who cannot do anything and just crying in the corner .. they dont even know that they are the one who destroy our childhood memories
I'm very sorry that you and your loved ones have to go through this shit, your genitor definitively is an abuser and should be kept away from everyone. I know the people around you are trying to make you believe that you are mistaken or that you're exaggerating but it's not true, you are the one who is right, never forget that. Cutting ties with an abuser isn't easy but I hope you will be able to achieve this one day or another. I don't know much about your situation and I'm not a specialist therefore I can't give you concrete advices on what to do. Still, I recommend you contact the associations protecting victims of abuse to ask for help, don't be afraid or ashamed to do so, they won't judge you. They will give you much better advices than I, that's for sure. If you can, make sure to document proofs of the abuse (recordings, text messages, photos of your wounds, etc) for the day you or you mother will decide to take legal actions against him. If you can afford to do so you must seek therapy because this is definitely destroying your mental health and your vision of relationships. Finally, prepare yourself to cut him off your life. Whether it's by running away to a friend's house or by becoming financially independent so you can survive without his help, you need to prepare your future without him in the picture. I wish I could help you more or give you better advices but that's all I can say/do as a stranger. I really hope your mother will open her eyes and realise how much your genitor is hurting all of you. And if not I just hope he will d*e soon so you can all be free. If you ever want to try again to convince your mother again I recommend reading the books of Lundy Bancroft as they explain the mechanism of abuse very well and also give great arguments for discussions on that topic. You can d*wnl*ad them for free on Z-Library. I recommend "Why Does He Do That?" and "Should I Stay Or Should I Go?". But remember that even if you can't convince her that it isn't your fault or your responsibility, you're her child and a victim, you deserve to be protected as much as she does. The problem is that man, not you. Good luck my friend, stay strong
I just want to tell u brother u aren't wrong. The society & ur father is. & May be to some extent ur mother is also wrong. I'm sorry 2 say that & I know that she's the victim. But at least she should accept that her husband isn't a good person. So that her denying of the reality doesn't harm ur & ur brother's MENTAL HEALTH. May be she's like this coz of culture. Btw I would like 2 share just 2 make u feel that u r not alone that my mother has the same case. But Alhamdullilah coz of my conscious efforts now even she acknowledges that it's her right to speak against the wrong doers. It took me more than a decade but the results were worth it. I'll just say don't lose hope. U 1st need 2 make ur brother & mother realize about the wrong situation. Then u need them 2 stand against it. & Most importantly u need 2 be independent financially (coz in my example my mother was independent, this factor also plays a vital role) & Please TAKE A PROPER THERAPY FROM A PSYCHOLOGIST. I'm a psychologist myself & I can tell that it's not good 4 u & ur family (including ur father, may be he has also suffered a lot in his childhood or life). Note: I'm not trying 2 justify any of his actions. I'm just trying 2 say that he could be a good father after a proper psychological THERAPY FROM A PSYCHOLOGIST. Do consider my advise✌️🥰may ALLAH bless you and your family with all His blessings 🤲😇 Ameen Sum Ameen 👍
Each dialogue is eye opening whether it's be " I was raped by the man I loved" or "taking care of myself for now is more important than loving you" or "I good with the way I'm".. You can feel the pain, retreat recover and finally accepting your true self and finding your happiness...
I like watching kdramas, however you make me realize that there were a lot of toxic relationships . Many of them were my favorite. By the way, you recommended us watch healthy relationships such as Mr. Sunshine and I need to tell you thanks, it was beautiful.
You should do a video on school bullying or work bullying by so called seniors since its seems like a major problem often many times portrayed in kdrama cuz it's not okay to be bullied nor is it to bully someone
Would you prefer a video about the normalization of bullying (a critique video) or a video like this one, using both explicit and "implicit" content? (by implicit I mean kdramas that normalized bullying)
I think the mental stress and serious impact bullying has on people/kids would be better. Either way with your editing skills I know you would convey the message haha.🙂
If anyone is going through this, please litsen to me. Hitting you, controlling you using excuses, justifying behaviour that is not supposed to be love is not love. If someone can't make time for you, if someone uses their weakness to threaten or hit you it is NOT love. You loved and trusted that person, but they aren't able to give it back, END IT. Remember: Someone who loves you can never make you suffer, nor see you suffer. Seek help and love again till you truly love someone or be happy on your own. What matters is your happiness! Also thank you to MarieTB for helping people to take a step ahead in their toughest times and making them realise the victim is not in fault
K dramas are full of toxic relationships. Most times its one or both of the leads that are toxic and second or third leads who are emotionally healthier. But writers have a way of twisting reality and making the toxicity look like a day dream straight out of a fairy tale or something. They even make the toxic couple end up together as if ending up together is the end goal of some epic romantic quest. To think that teens and young adults watch such dramas and idolise such couples is disturbing. In more than one way this type idolisation seeps into real life relationship choices. Fortunately we are living in a time where more and more people are slowly opening up to talking about and discussing toxic / abusive dynamics in all types of relationships.
I used to be in a really toxic relationship and I found out that he was toxic only after breaking up .I thought constant checking of my phone and told me what to wear and what to used for my dp I really thought it was becuz he love me and everyone around me tell me that he love me more than he loved himself and if im breaking up with him I will regret it so I cant break up but I cant even tell my bestfriend eberything through my phone wortying thst he would read it .. So I make up my mind and broke up with him ..It was the best decision ever and I never regret it And my sister told me that Im a lot happier after breaking up .......but. its worse even after breaking up . Cuz I cant date anyone after that and only if I imagine dating someone that memories flash back and all my sweet imagination turned into .traumatizing event .. eventhough it already passed 1 year .. its still traumatizee this day .. Im just a fool ... the song that explain my situation fully is all too well-taylor swift 'they say all well that ends well but im in a new hell everytime you double cross my mind . ",.. (sorry for my bad english)
I would suggest you to go for a counselling. Don't let the trauma stay within you. You can start a new relationship don't worry about that. It's better to share with someone rather than suffering. Good luck! Keep fighting 👍
Seek therapy dear. I don't know which country you are, I hope you can seek therapy. Yes, a good therapist who understand abusive/toxic relationship can help you recover an abusive relationship. It's a long process and a lot of work so you don't go back to the abuser for fall for another abuser, but it's possible. Please take time for healing and practicing self love. People are most likely to be abused because they don't know red flags due to many reasons like in our case. Or they don't do the work and keep getting with abuse partners.
Im a lot better now .... I remove all the toxic friends from my life and im a lot happier though I dont want to be in a relationship for now .I think its for the better I guess cuz I really need to focus on my studying .... And i gain some confidence and begin to love myself and accept myself for who I am.*thank you so much for replying me and make me realised that Im not alone*
@@karinecadet-julien5016 I will not go back to him again becuz I finally realize that the reason why I used to afraid to break up was because of my insecurities and now I began to work on myself and gain a lot of confidence ....thank you so much for giving me advice💜💜
the biggest victim blaming i have ever seen was the one from "when the weather is fine''. FL mother did not deserve to be abused like that and she certainly didnt deserve to go to jail for murder when it was self defense. i was disgusted when i saw how people treated her and pitied her abusive dead husband. honestly, only her aunt deserves her mother. the court scene where everyone reacted to her getting 7 years in jail instead of lifetime was the epitome of double standards.
i just can't tell how much i love your channel you are not making that ' lovey dovey ' theme but actually showing the reality of the society..you explain toxic parents and relationships..i remember i wrote a story on wattpad and the plot was the boy abuses the girl , he is so protective over her and when he gets jealous he becomes a monster..but still after that when i made the ending that the girl stays with another boy and the abusive partner dies..people give hate to me told me they will stop reading my storys they told me he could be nice now..he could apoligize so i told them WATCH marie tb on yt you know nothing about toxicity of that relationship...and im PROUD that i didn't make a happy ending
Thank you for this beautiful video, I'm sure it will bring comfort to many victims ❤ Even before reading your pinned I could tell it had been made with the utmost care to show to the victims that even if it was hard and took time they would heal 💜 Thank you also for trusting us with your own story, I'm very happy to hear you're healing too. You did well! And as you said yourself: Thank you for being brave ❤
I think you should do a video on toxic peers...not only friends but even families where though they don't use physical violence, they put the person on edge mentally...I think many people would relate with that
Can you make another healthy relationship fmv... cause every one of it I watched them and I want to just watch healthy relationship for now.... for me to heal
Thank you for making these videos and raising awareness. Also you are great at what you are doing. I am looking forward to your video about bullying keep up the good work^^
Hey, I watched a few of your videos, I just wanna say that you are doing an amazing job spreading awareness on issues that is usually taken lightheartedly by many.Keep up the good work💜
@@jujuomar8303 I guess it was episode 4-5, I don't remember clearly but when she was a nerdy girl, she wore specs and she heard her ex-boyfriend badmouthing her behind her back with his friends and later she changes her appearance and calls him out and break up with him. I don't remember his name but😅😅
in htccc hye jin dated a jerk who insulted/put her down behind her back in front of friends edit : while in highschool i think, the dude thought of her more as an accessory
0:32 Well done Yu Na-bi for breaking the toxic relationship SPOILER ALERT really annoyed though she got back together with him normally in these toxic dramas in the last episodes they literally just say 'sorry' and then say they will be better and then the biggest thing they do is show like ONE scene of their 'changed' character or maybe even none and they just end it with a kiss.
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