Yes I have, and this was the only toxic workplace I've ever worked. I learned a lot about workplace toxicity that I probably will become either a psychologist or get involved with workplace law.
@@pennsylvanianrrfoamer thanks for replying. I thought I was living or experiencing it differently and that it may not be as I saw it and therefore a me problem. So you got out of there and is it better?
@@daemonscout88 I answer your question it is a lot better. I just avoided my former workplace altogether and it's the best decision anyone can make. Workplace toxicity can cause a lot of psychological and emotional problems and it can be bad for your mental health. Something should be done to address workplace toxicity and the affects it can cause to the point where a workplace cannot function accordingly.
I'm a manager. I always give credit to whoever on my team came up with it when I'm at a manager's meeting. My manager took me aside and told me to take personal credit for anything anyone on my team does. Pretend everything was my idea and my hard work. I was like, "Um........ no?"
Ha! Used to work for a major bank as a banker. Had a jerk of a manager who was taking accounts from one banker and giving them to his little "pet." Trouble is, when another banker discovered this was going on, he didn't report it to HR; he made a deal with the thieving manager. That got both of them in trouble a few weeks later when the manager got written up for yet another game he was playing. Some people don't learn.
@@wiseowl2020 its not the job itself, it’s the people. Why can’t we all just do our job and go home? Why do we all have to treat each other like crap in the workplace? I just don’t get it.
@@Dataisthetruth It's Jr. High + 10 years. LOL! That's what I've decided after all my years in the workplace. The bullies in 7th grade are still bullies at 25, 40, 55, etc.
I think once you’re in such a place it’s harder to notice the red flags because you’re so used to it. I’ve gone from one toxic place to another and I’m not working on my mindset, understanding my values and what it is I exactly want. I’m hoping for better results soon ✌️
I'm a modern day slave.(Overworked and underpaid). They should crack the whip on the ones who don't do the work--Half my age, and younger than that! They want money but they don't want to work and/ or work right A lot of managers don't deserve their position. I would've been out of there 20+ years ago, if I knew I could get another job. It's not the work that's the problem--- It's the wrong people in charge. I have to endure to the end. I believe God is the God of the oppressed--- And that vengeance is mine, I will repay >Rom.12:19
Slavery implies you have no choice but to take the job, report to work, etc. Last time I checked employment was voluntary. If you are that miserable on the job you should be looking for another one.
I went from a toxic workplace to a toxic workplace, both very small companies ... for this last one, I had a GREAT interview, only to start and find my coworker is an emotional smarta$$ who yells at me and smarts off with my boss, who does nothing about it. And I only started two weeks ago. 🥺 Pretty unreal. And you gotta love how leaving these bad companies only reflects on you. We need to start being able to add ratings to the companies on our resumes, because it’s not fair.
Some job apps let you leave anonymous reviews, and I believe Glassdoor leaves them up. I left three reviews on three different job apps and my former employer had two of them removed and so now all the reviews are just the glowing ones, except one site that refuses to buckle, and I'm pretty sure it was Glassdoor, but it's been a few years and I think it's gone now due to the amount of time that's passed from when I worked there.
1: malicious gossip 2: culture of disrespect 3: lack of transparency 4: lack of trust 5: taking credit for YOUR work 6: crazy hours & demands 7: incompetent leaders 8: demoralizing assignments 9: bad bosses(narcissistic) 10: gaslighting 11: high turnover 12: boys club rules 13: discrimination & harassment 14: you are: unhappy, anxious & stressed
How about absolutely crazy hours that constantly change. One day it was 5am to 1pm, next day 10am to 6pm or it could be a bunch of days, then one night shift, then days again. A supervisor that scolded me in front of the team on my first shift and frequently accused me of “being in a huff” based on facial expression alone and another supervisor who in legal terms, kidnapped me and another colleague and accused me of challenging her authority when I just wanted to help. But the incident was when we were so badly understaffed there were only two of us and neither of us were signed off on driving airside which meant 8-10 hours of walking that night. So he went home pretending to be unwell, abandoning me to try to clean five 737 airplanes across the night-which was impossible so I just did what I could. Okay that was bad enough, but when I came in the next night I discovered I’d be alone again but this time management had 24 hours to find me help and didn’t. That’s when I approached another company that did the same kind of work and escaped to them.
If you think about it, do you find the same signs repeating themselves. When I work with clients it's often a pattern, sometimes created by unresolved trauma from the first toxic workplace.
I escaped. Saved to cover my expenses for at least 5 months. During the time, I also focused on looking for another job. When I quit I didn't had to divide my attention between working and job hunting. Found another job in 4 days
OMG this is great news!! Congrats on escaping and landing a new job in no time! What is your top piece of advice for those still in a toxic environment?
I have about 7 months of expenses saved and I am still afraid to quit. I need to get at least ten months of expenses saved so I can feel confident in leaving. I also have a 1,000 emergency car fund just in case so I don’t have to reach into my savings. I got about two more months before I call it quits. I am also applying to jobs outside of my current company. I hope to leave soon. My biggest fear is not finding a job during these times. Is it better to get fired or quit?
@@Dataisthetruth Hard question to ask. I think no one will be able to answer effectively better than yourself but, I do know that there are plenty of online jobs ever since the pandemic (that's what Im currently doing). I also know that if you quit you will have more time to dedicate into finding a job, thus increasing the possibility to find one. If your are searching I dont see how you wont end up finding another one. During that time, you can also schedule time to heal , and use the experience to search for another job , taking the time to figure out the enviroment/work culture. Its not possible to know how much time it would take you to find another one but, there are questions you can only answer by trying... Last advise, try not to dispare. Mistakes come from rushing. Schedule your job search activities by day and religiously adhere to them . Use that time as productively as possible to calmly but constaly place efforts to finding another job... Thats what I did... Hope it helps
@@JenniferBrick My advise is to remind your self that is nothing is permanent, that gives hope. Accompany that hope as a prayer and meet it half way with actions. Bring your attention to your body and mind to stay as calmed and focus as you can while working on your escape. Your entire body and mind are the most valuable and powerful tools to change the course of your life. Appreciate this machine as a gift (it is) and realize while you do, you have what it takes to change courses .Value every minute of your time to take care of yourself and to dedicate it towards the project of escape. While still working, remember that you are there because you want to. Try to remember why (have something near work station that will remind you) . This reminds you what like about your job and helps compensate negative feelings. Try not to hurry your self, keep calm. You can move fast while calm. Learn from the experience and use it to study the culture and implement what you learned to avoid working in a hostile workplace. Pay attention to your mind and train it to focus on solutions (escape), resume presentation, interview questions ( remember how I mentioned to remember why you are there? Use this positive energy to answer why you left .. you don't want to speak negatively about your previous work place. Remember that speaks more about you than them). Focus on your clothing, notebook, your own interview questions, sending job applications, using whatever network you have (including online networks, like social medias and job posting sites)... Maybe my last advise is to remember that if you are searching, there is no way possible you won't be able to find. Hope it helps
I don't think it is because people don't stand up. I think it is because people who does get either fired or reprimanded and the only ones who don't get affected are those who tolerate these toxic behaviours. I tried for example to talk openly to my superior about an issue and all I got was insults and harassment these people just don't care about you
That's how I have to operate at the dead end I'm at. I work best when I'm my own boss; There's too many wrong people in charge of things--especially 'these days ' ; Too many shitty, dirty, underhanded, biased, corrupt ones being put in authority; Too many corrupt authorities, above all else-especially 'these days '. It's an evil, perverse, adulterous generation, where the wrong people are prospering, and being revered.
Yes I left a toxic environment in a job I had for 11 years a few weeks ago and let me tell you its been the best decision I have made in a long time. I honestly felt like I left a cult (no kidding!) These past few weeks have been incredible just taking it easy and not dreading having to go to this VERY TOXIC environment. I felt like I needed this time to deprogram my mindset in order to move on with my work life. This may sound dramatic but let me tell you being in a toxic environment really messes you up mentally. You need to work at getting better. I saved enough to pay bills for several months. I'm also working part time while I am studying to do something completely different. Yes I am excited about the future! Good luck everyone I know it is not easy!!
It's not dramatic at all! You experienced and endured trauma for 11 years and are so strong to have escaped. I wish you all the very best and wish you healing, joy and a life of ease and peace from here on out ❤ You deserve that!
For years, I thought all this was the imagination of overly sensitive people-until my last job. It was almost entirely defined by this video. Thank you so much for posting this.
My workplace in the last 2 years (these have all happened to me): Bullying, harassment, theft, work tampering, gossiping, rumour spreading, back stabbing from colleagues and manager, exclusion, lying, hindering and hijacking my development, ignored by colleagues, threat of dismissal, overlooked for promotion on 4 occasions in favour of far inferior candidates, gaslighting and an EXTREME lack of professionalism! I needed to take 3 months off work in 2019 as my mental health deteriorated significantly. I’m still working at this horrendous place and I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know why this is happening however. When someone comes along with more experience, professionalism and ideas, they are perceived as a threat.
I am currently going through this. My coworkers constantly try to throw me under the bus. I was bullied the first eight months I was there. I told my boss and he said I was wrong. I am severely overworked. I basically do the job of two people. I constantly have the sales team try to snitch on me by including all of the bosses on emails to let them know that I am falling behind. The crazy thing is that I’m not behind. I’m double the productivity of the last person in my position (I have the data to back it up). On top of this I have been insulted about my looks. I am yelled at by this one person that can get away with anything. She literally called me on day and yelled at me for over ten minutes in front of my boss that said nothing. Oh and my boss was just fired and everyone is pointing fingers at everyone, me especially. Wednesday I finally had a breakdown and I went outside and sobbed uncontrollably. I called my dad hyperventilating telling him to come and get me now because I was seeing blood red and was just needed to get out of there. He came and got me, I went to the hospital because my chest and my head was hurting. I have been off for two days and I feel a bit better but I know I have to leave. I cannot work at a place that treats me like shit. I almost quit so I had to leave. Now I am going to document everything until I can get the hell out of there.
Experienced the same situation at a beverage company in Japan. Many coworkers had gambling addiction and lost their hard earned money quickly so they were always poor, unhappy, and hostile to others who do not gambling. (As a dark side of Japan, "pachinko parlors" everywhere and people can easily access to gambling and get addicted.) One day coworkers invited me to gambling and I politely declined. That pissed them off. They targetted me and started bullying, backstabbing, gaslighting, and lastly did scapegoating which caused me to get fired.
Ghost Pumpkin it’s been two years and I still haven’t adapted to it. It’s honestly killing me. I was about to leave but then this Corona Virus came out of nowhere. Now I’m stuck here for a while.
The moment I start seeing these signs in future, I am up and leaving. I left my last place after noticing these signs and I felt amazing since. When you hate having to go into work, that's when its time to leave. :)
I used to think my boss was my friend so I complained, gossiped, and said whatever in front of her. I stopped as soon as she started acting differently towards me.
For me it helped to just stay focused on my professionalism, my career. Let people do what they do but don’t give them anything negative to say and move on peacefully. Use the experience for your development and leave. Don’t fight it or make it awkward, play along and just get out.
it’s so messed up how bosses determine your letter of rec. it shouldn’t be that way since the employee is still dependent on the boss. in an abusive relationship, you can’t leave. you’re chained. it’s so disgusting
It feels like I’m in abusive relationship w my boss. She will absolutely destroy each of us when something goes wrong leaving everyone angry or completely feeling incompetent, which none of us are. Then someone on our team will complain to her boss about the behavior. Her demeanor changes, treats me with utmost respect and coaching approach giving me some sense of hope. With time, she returns to her self. Active communication is also an issue.
I laughed so hard at this, my work literally checks all of the points she made XD They made me think I was crazy about the workplace environment, gas lighting to the extreme huh?
Toxic workplaces are everywhere. Not just the corporate world. I work as a night custodian for the school district. From 3 p.m. until about 5:30 p.m., teachers constantly buzz around and spread gossip, half-truths, and lies. There is, however, a silver lining. After 5:30, when the building empties out, it is serene.
have never seen a more oozey-schmoozey bunch of backstabbers, gossips, passive-aggressive bullies in my life than school teachers. also, in college the education students were one of two types: the off-the-wall weirdoes turned out to be the most-capable teachers. the others were junior high school cliques of bitches and a coterie of male simps, the "knowing look" sort of lower-level bullying, smirking sneers, snide remarks becoming a little bolder...
I'm working on my exit plan now. After 10 years Left a toxic job to go to another job. After a year in the position I already working on my exit plan..I'm not commiting my self to no toxic workplaces anymore I will be a nomad until I find a job I love.
I'm the same as you. I won't waste no time for toxic company or toxic coworkers. I always respected other people but not everyone will do the same for u. When there's no trust in work there's no space for me.
@@Kikilu7552 that's the thing when you got a complete hellish coworker just makes you spiral into lack of thirst for the job even though you want the job and know its silly to leave a position for undisciplined evil witch. I do not know why some people are like that especially since knowing there is a chance that you could end up working with the same person at different company. Its dumb to be toxic bully as your record will follow you around since prospective employers will most likely know about you indirectly through people you've forced them to leave a job for. It's mind boggling why people choose to be toxic, it not only backfires later on but also just too time consuming to make someone else's life misery at work.
I escaped 6 months ago (I was there over a year) and I’m still very much hurting. It comes and goes in phases. I initially thought I had landed my dream job. However, it seemed off from the start. I had zero training. They just stuck me in my office and said to watch webinars. After a few weeks they (my two bosses) said “ok you should be ready to go”. They threw me in the deep end and I sank and sank hard. It was horrific. They literally laughed at me, belittled me, offered me zero help and gossiped about me to the rest of the department. I honestly don’t know why companies are run like this or how people make it to the top like this. I asked in the interview about training and they assured me it was a “wonderful program”. I was not only deceived, but they ripped my confidence away. It’s been hard to recover from this but I know I am strong and will bounce back.
I’ve experienced the same thing 😢 and honestly I was exhausted by the whole experience. I felt discouraged and started questioning my abilities in the workplace. I had no space or time to actually learn and grow as I was working round the clock 🕰️
I want you to hear this. You wanted to do your best and they didn’t care. It happened to me too. They put me in a class with no curriculum, no training and no clue of the students needs and asked me to teach (had no experience). I kept asking for months for help or shadow a former tutor and they would refuse (by giving silly excuses). I had to work extra hours, do the job of others and was still getting 0 acknowledgment for that. Next stage? Shouting, swearing, gossiping, betrayal, threat of dismissal, blaming. Final stage? Panic attack, BYE :* happy to have found myself again.❤You can do it too, you don’t need their ‘’approval’’. Don’t let them determine your value and you’re all good.
I literally developed Fibromyalgia due to a toxic work environment. Unless you’re a manager or have an in-demand skill set, most work environments are toxic these days and have been so for the last 15-20 years. The dam is breaking; people are getting mentally, emotionally and physically crushed by sh@t work environments.
If you will be a life time employee I don’t care what company you work for you better have exit plan . I escaped a toxic work place by changing my mindset and by having financial freedom.
To simplify the meaning of this video: be your own boss, never trust employers, never trust your colleagues, don't work for someone else, you are better off on your own!
I currently work in a toxic workplace. I despise my job and everything that goes with it. My co-workers are lazy and I have to do their work for them. The worst thing is, my bosses know all about it and simply couldn't care less. They know I am overworked and they justify my lazy co-workers. One of the co-workers is extremely toxic and untouchable because the is a family member of the Big Boss and she harasses and molest everybody and enjoys it tremendously. She spies on us and believes everything is her business.She dislikes me very much even though I try my hardest to stay out of her way. She is always first to pick a fight with someone and everybody secretly dislikes her, to say the least. I have had enough and am looking for a new job because this one is going to cost me my health.
Yep. I know what you're talking about. Been in the same situation. Fact is these supervisors really don't care about the toxic environment or who does the work. Just that it gets done.
I had to _ghost_ a toxic workplace not too long ago. No one should feel like they have to put up with this kind of thing when you know that you have skills and are willing to do the work. Not ashamed one iota.
But I think if you’re working in a very toxic environment even if it’s not aimed at you it’s not good to be in an environment like that anyway because it can rub off on you without you realising, money not everything health first
You are so right. I'm so much more angry all day, from raging at the situations I cannot control. Taking the anger home then makes me the toxic one! I'm just bottling it up at the moment but will pop any moment at work. Extremely frustrated!
I am in one of a toxic workplace.. Being the only guy among the women is painful, one love to bicker about people n talks so loud, n my executive is very cold towards me since the beginning of my employment.. The only person that i could talk to is my manager, but it seems he backs up the executives more than me.. So i always find myself in a clutch of 'never will be heard'.. I ended the day eating more and now im overweight obese. I cant shift to new jobs coz in the time being this the only job i had after 6months retrenchment due to the pandemic.. And its the financial support that i only have to survive to pay the bills..
Yes, a high turn-over is a sign of a potentially toxic work environment, but, by far the most toxic work places that I have been in have had little to no turn-over, ironically enough.
Thank you so much for this video! Currently in the process of escaping a toxic workplace and have been searching for videos like this to support me in knowing that I'm doing the right thing for myself and that the things I've been experiencing are not okay.
I'm so sorry that you're in the middle of it. Remember how they treat you had nothing to do with you, your value and your awesomeness. If you have questions or resources while you execute on your exit plan, please feel free to drop a comment I'm here to support 💜
I'm watching this video just a few days before I start my new job. This video definitely reassured me that I am entering a non-toxic workplace. It's a huge blessing to land a job at somewhere with almost zero turnover, a community oriented mission and a culture of inclusion. Great video, thanks!
In the process of turning in my two weeks' notice. The work environment I am in is not only toxic but extremely hostile. Where I work, every one of these boxes was checked.
I'm sorry Ashley - but I'm so proud of you for prioritizing yourself and refusing to be mistreated at work. I have a bunch of job search videos - if you have any Q's just drop a comment, Im here to help.
@@dateengineerazurecloud2904 I almost didn’t but I did end up giving and working it out so that I did not burn bridges. I worked at a vet clinic. They still cared for my animals and my parents. Now everyone there was bad. It was a rough two weeks but I made it and am in a much more peaceful place now 🥰
@@ArticOwl22 when I have flashbacks, I say "Future" and that brings me to the present real quick. Maybe you can have a similar mantra. You do have a bright future.
@@dennismclaurin1487 I started hunting for a new job, but in the meantime I tried to take more time out for myself during the work day and talking to the people I get along with. Looking for other work gave me hope.
I worked with a company for 10 years. It’s a convenience store and I was a pizza cook. They kept cutting hours. I had to do my job making pizzas, do all the trash, clean the parking lot, clean the store floors and anything else that the other people didn’t want to do. I worked 10 hour shifts. I am recovering from Esophageal cancer. I started having other health issues. I tried getting my boss to get more help. She said corporate wouldn’t let her hire anyone. Two nights I worked all by myself. They expected us to get things done and be out of the store in 15 minutes. I had just had enough. My anxiety was through the roof. I just walked in one day and turned in my key and quit. I had washed up my shirts and hats. I laid them on the desk and she grabbed them up and threw them in her trash. She said I was being selfish. She sorta brow beat me out in the store and we had a few customers in there. I’ve updated my resume and am looking for another job. My feelings are so hurt because I invested 10 years with the company but at the end they didn’t care about my health. I am not using that manager’s name and phone number on my resume or job applications. I ‘m afraid she wouldn’t give me a good reference.
@@JenniferBrick sorry i never answered back, but yes I am now in a different branch in another city. And the ambiance is totally different. Thanks again for your video 🙏🙏
I need help. My workplace checks off everything Jennifer covered in this video. When an individual does an amazing job and goes above and beyond, and is treated poorly as a result, while other employees who do less are treated much better and given tons of praise and are more favored. It has become so bad that I don't even want to be around anyone. I'm avoiding even seeing family and friends. I need advice. I want to search for a new job while staying employed, but I just don't have the mental energy; and my self esteem is practically non-existent because of the toxic work environment. Any advice would be very appreciated.
First thing you need to focus on is compartmentalization. Remember: unless a hard look at yourself reveals an evil jerk (which I highly doubt it will), this had everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. Being exceptional is hard, and it's very triggering to people who aren't. This may be why you're being singled out. I totally get most people don't just have piles of money lying around to quit, and when you're on a toxic workplace it can take a toll on your mental health. Set a firm boundary when you're on personal time, and find something that will recharge your battery and switch your mindset. Go for a run, meditate, have a shower and visualize the negative washing down the drain (I know this is super hippe, but water is an great energy cleanser), put on your favorite music and dance, or call your most uplifting friend. Then set 1-2 hour on your search. Track your progress and you wins. 'applied to a job' or 'reached out to an old colleague' count! But the most important thing I want you to do, and I want you to do it right now. Write down ten reasons why you're an amazing employee and FANTASTIC at what you do. This will help you in your job search, and you can look to it when you have a hard day to reset to reality (that you are awesome). I highly suggest making this a habit (at least one thing everyday) and doing a daily gratitude too, but start here. It will feel hard to write down 10, but once you get there you'll find more areas of awesomeness come to mind and it get easier the more you write. And focus on creating that positivity bubble for yourself, my friend. I hope this helps 💜
Take Jennifer's advice, or if its really THAT bad (cuz I've been there and I know it can almost be debilitating), then get a part-time job and quit the toxic job. Get a job as a cashier or customer service agent (if you are one for a call center, that means you get paid to sit in a class room and call centers can pay up to $15/hr). Try to get something above $10 but like I said if its so bad and you know you cant take one more day, get something quickly and then bounce. No joke I made almost $100 with instacart in one day. The norm was like $280 a week (i live in a small town). You don't have a boss, and now more than ever people are having stuff delivered to them and workers get hazardous pay. If you have a car. You can start making money instantly with instacart. No, I'm not being paid to say this but I'm speaking from experience that app really helped me when I had to leave a job due to being harassed.
Pray to God for help every day. And I know this will be hard, but without totally trusting toxic work colleagues, treat them well, don't complain or gossip, do your work well. It will help you feel better, and is character building. Jesus Christ said to always forgive. But have an exit plan too.
I worked 12 years in a toxic environment. It got me 3 years of counseling and antidepressants. It's not worth it. Managers would tell you what they wanted done at the beginning of the shift. Then they'd disappear into their office until end of shift. They'd tell you "We have an open door policy." But they'd never address the issue. When you presented them with concerns. It got so bad,I got physically assaulted by a coworker to get me to leave the company so that I would quit. I went all the way to the VP. His response, "What do you want me to do about it?" True story.
I escaped one after saving for my big bills for two months, found a job a week after and started to give me red flags that it be a toxic one too. I’m not ignoring the signals again.
All of this seems like every workplace I've ever known. So what we are calling toxic is probably just the norm. During a global pandemic and the need for healthcare coverage things will only get worse.
Toxic workplaces are not rare - but they also are not widespread. I think that there are patterns we need to watch for when we constantly find ourselves in one. Is there a lack of value alignment or expectations, and quite frankly we gotta look at ourselves. I see often the wounds and toxic behaviors that have been adopted to survive aren't dealt with.
My previous workplace is so toxic. So I became sensitive to red flags. I always carefully read online resources like glassdoor reviews before applying to a job.
the last job i had i was driving to work and was dreading it and got so nauseated i had to go home. i've had to quit too many toxic workplaces and i rarely had good working conditions. people just don't like me; especially women.
I was in a toxic work environment for over a year, nearly two. I was sadly fired after being written for poor performance multiple times. I cried, for multiple reasons. I was in shock it happened, even though I tried to prevent it until I could get another job. I was relieved I’d never have to go back. I was scared about what I would do about my finances in the future. I think what told me, none of that had been my fault, was when I won my unemployment hearing against my old employer. The state sided with me, and said there was no misconduct on my end, and was eligible for unemployment. I’ve done a lot of self improvement since then, and I’m finally seeing more interest in my applications.
I'm definitely in a toxic environment. My boss has broke me down so much I'm scared to try anywhere else because I dont feel like I'm good enough for any other company. My boss has made me so scared about any decision I make that its effecting my everyday life. Just feeling stupid and not capable of being good at anything. Anxiety through the roof.
I'm replying in order here. Do you have LinkedIn, Jeremy? If you do can you follow or connect with me there. I have daily videos that will have advice and will at least provide you uplifting moments. I'm also very active on my posts there so it's easier to chat.
@@JenniferBrick I don't I'm sorry. I dont have any social media other than RU-vid. I've watched a few of your videos and I am very thankful for you. I have a better mind state on the whole thing. Not great but better. I appreciate it
@@jeremydeansausages1985 I'll keep an eye out for your comments here. New comments show up on my feed consistently, replies have been hit or miss. Know I'm cheering for you ✨
Hi! You've got a lot of great advice in this video. I just wanted to add something to Step 3, if I may. If someone feels a toxic situation is escalating and they need to start documenting things, I think it's really important to make multiple copies and store them in offsite locations. If there are emails that are part of your documentation, forward them to an email address not on the company's server, or print them out and keep a physical file at home. If there are other papers or physical documents, make sure to make copies and take them to an offsite location. It absolutely wouldn't surprise me if a company's IT department is able to get into your work email account or desktop and delete potentially incriminating files, emails, or other documents.
I fell behind on comments - and I'm fully of regret because you absolutely nailed the importance of keeping documents. It's a fine line where need to maintain confidentiality and comply with company record policies you agreed to - but yes, most IT departments will halt your access immediately and can wipe files (even from you phone if you gave them permission).
What a strange predicament. You become a victim of "constructive dismissal" and find crushing financial hardship, but yet, find the freedom as priceless!
Practice hardcore minimalism and always save as much money as possible. Always update your resume within 30 days. Have a game plan with each job, get what you need, and leave. Keep a job journal, so you can track your mental health. Everything she is saying is true, true, true you will be living with the after-effects of trauma for decades.
Seeking to leave my very toxic job and the restaurant industry forever. Finding a restaurant or bakery that doesn't have toxic management is harder than finding a needle in a haystack. After 25 years of looking in this industry, I'm not sure it exists. Putting in my two weeks very soon! Thanks so much for the awesome advice on your channel. It's been encouraging and validating.
Just walked out of a toxic workplace, I was being bullied and was affecting my job duties, after 6 emotionally exhausting weeks of reporting them to superiors I finally saw the light when I had a breakdown in the car and came back in to ask my closest supervisor for help, I even suggested being moved away from the person, instead what I got was set up in a meeting with the bully, and was basically being treated as if it was a two-way street, they sat there and lied and lied and lied, hearing clips of honesty from the supervisor,and how they really saw the situation really let me know how much they cared about my work effort and mental health. They chose the toxic employee over one that goes above and beyond and I chose my freedom and health.
I will soon be leaving a very toxic environment- an environment of mistrust, shift blaming, bullying, malicious executives, self-righteous bosses, and unclear policies. The management think I will die of heartache if I live my life outside of this toxic company. No!!! I will thrive and be successful in my next job. They’ll see. I made a clear exit plan. They just have to wait for a little while and they’ll soon receive my irrevocable resignation.
I am currently in a toxic workplace. I was a voice blower. My colleagues asked me to bunk off work with them. I said no and I went to work. My manager asked me where they were . I had to tell the truth. Ever since I got bullied by the management, co workers. The managers did nothing about it. They blocked me from getting my pay and bonus. I am in a union but I sometimes feel that are with the mangers
That's very frustrating to be put in that position. Union politics tend to be extra level in my experience. What did your union rep say about withholding pay and bonuses - this is where they really should be flexing.
Hi Jennifer . They union is quite sneaky. At first I thought they will help me fir justice and stop and end bullying. But I realised that as long I don't speak up and don't raise grievance then they will leave me alone. My union also work for the same company. They are biased
I escaped October this year. Without a job at the moment. All the points that you’ve mentioned, checked. Been struggling for almost 5 years. Been there almost 13years. From great to terrible. Slept a lot after I left. Getting my fitness and mental health back. Also crucial to rewire my brain and cleanse myself from all the toxins that have been absorbed. Want to have a fresh mind to perform better at interviews.
I have experienced all of this in my workplace. Deep down I know I don't belong there. I have been on the fence lately about whether I should stay or should I go. I think this definitely helps make that decision easier.
The toxic ones in charge of things are the ones who need to go. This is an evil, perverse, biased, adulterous generation and corrupt system. Evil men rule
I'm at the point of shutting my phone off on my days off and today I just had to hide my car a block away from my house! My boss had months upon months to hire more people. I've come in multiple days yet we still have a skeleton crew even when everyone shows up for their shift! I can't enable this type of work environment anymore. T_T We're still in a pandemic and I don't want to work more than I have to. So stressed.
There seem to be a lot of toxic workplaces out there sadly and have experienced it myself a 2 former jobs- it's absolutely confidence ruining and can leave some with CPTSD or professional burnout unfortunately. Glassdoor somewhat helps to gain insight into companies but in some cases it can only do so much. Sadly sometimes the positive (and negative reviews) aren't reliable so you need to use your discretion and try to find how long people usually stay at the company using LinkedIn for insight into turnover. Thanks for going in depth with all the signs. Having a positive mindset helps but also having a plan B and savings is key.
I'm a big believer in always having an exit strategy - you just never know what's going to happen. And you're right, Glassdoor can be a good tool when you know how to assess it, but there are also a lot of binary reviews which make it hard to get an accurate read. I've also heard of several companies that compensate team members for positive reviews (this is officially against Glassdoor policy, but they have no way to detect this). I'm working on a collab with an expert in workplace emotions on a video about toxic workplace recovery. Stay tuned!
That is why I tend not to go into the office and work mainly from my home office . Sounds like no fun , Jennifer . It is a world of cut throat esp. in NY 🤗
it's exactly why I work at home. The only job I had that wasn't toxic was when I worked at a grocery store. I worked there for four fuckin years and had a blast most of the time. They shut down eventually but we were like family
My company is extremely toxic. None of us want to go to the office, it's full of resentment, secrecy, mean-spiritedness, and gossip. The higher ups insist that we go to the stupid office every day, even though there is no reason to be there more than maybe once a week (paperwork). We have fought to work from home, but they insist on forcing us to go to that poisonous hellhole! Everyone just goes in their offices and keeps the door closed all day. Or women are gossiping behind the doors 🤦♀️ The CEO acts like we don't exist, and the managers have way too much on their plate. It's a shitshow.
Congratulations to myself for being in a toxic workplace. Another plus! The people I work with that creates this toxic workplace are toxic family members. Lucky mw
@@JenniferBrick I'm thinking of moving out of the house next year Fall and move in with my girl friend Atleast I just have to deal them toxic peeps at work. However, trying to find another job and save money for that but its hard since its Covid and also I'm fairly new to this country and I just got to know and live with this side of the family for just 2 yrs. Didn't grow up with them because I was in a diff. country with my mom's side of the family.
@@JolyneLP covid makes everything challenging, but being new and still establishing yourself here amplifies it. You have the longish term strategy, which is great. As you navigate toxicity in your work and personal life focus on these two things: First: maintaining your confidence. Toxic people will tear it to shred. Remember, whatever they say it do to you had nothing to do with you even if it feels like it is. Take time everyday to remind yourself why you're so awesome. It feels absurd, but do it because it will help. The second thing is in taking positivity. Subscribe to uplifting channels here, listen to inspiring podcasts, watch funny shows. If you need someone to tell you you're awesome just message me and I promise I will, because you are. On the other side of this is an unstoppable successful you. You will get through this 💜
@@JenniferBrick thank you so much for the advice and believing in me. You are right when you said that toxic people will tear my confidence to shred. I have become more timid and lack the courage to speak for myself or to be confident in doing things. I think the constant indirect hinting and blaming me have caused me to be more afraid and doubtful of what I do. However, I am lucky to still have people who are even miles away that are more encouraging and understanding. I also have some few friends here that are same as well. I do love listening and watching videos that I can relate to or get some good and useful advice like yours! Especially when I don't know what to do in certain situations. I'm thankful for all the youtubers that makes videos to help and to inspire others whether it be trying to get out of something or trying to be engaged or motivated in doing something.
@@JolyneLP I'm so glad I'm able to help you navigate this in any way. I started making videos about toxic workplaces because when I was in it, there was barely any and I didn't find them actionable - and so many glossed over the severity and the trauma you go through in them. If you have questions, video requests or just need a pep talk just drop a comment! I'm here for you, friend!
My last job had all those toxic things, so I quit, I made this decision when a coworker threatened me in a meeting in front of a provider, it was quite embarrassed and disrespectful in my opinion, and one week later my boss was obligate to quit his job and then I realized that is the company culture, many of people used to act in a toxic way.
I work at a doctors office and it’s so TOXIC!!! They literally today made me cry cause when I get mad I cry. They are forever talking bad about me, criticizing my work ethics, talk behind my back and constantly have attitudes and smart remarks. I’m really wanting to leave cause I’m unhappy every day now when I wake up and go to work. Im always getting bullied and im so over it
These are excellent points of advice, and I have run into them. Here's another, and it tends to correlate with all these 14 signs. If you complete a project and it generates revenue for the company, and suddenly people start giving you dirty looks, making passive-aggressive jokes, yelling at you, threatening you, pretending you didn't do what you did do, or lying about you, that is a clear indicator that you will be fired. Workplace mobbing, in other words. If your boss suddenly displays this behavior after you accomplish something, that is almost a guarantee. If your coworkers have not done anything comparable, triple the chances. The simple fact is that the market is a very brutal place, and discovering new revenue streams is something that most people can't do, even people such as CEO's or MBA's. But bullying, gossiping, lying, destroying careers and reputations, creating collective narratives where you are the bad guy - these are things that almost anyone can do.
Thanks for your lecture. I work at McDonald's and I wanted to get out of there three months after I started there. I had already started looking for a new home to move to. I mean every terrible thing you can think of goes on at this place. The management is responsible they suck! I got my resumes together a few weeks ago I typed them up having copies and on my on my email. I picked out like 30 companies and I slowly went thru each one and now I have it whittled down to about 10. I started gathering facts about them ,where theyre located and other information. Now I'm going to start working on the cover letters and start applying. I'm moving to Las Vegas in November and I'm very excited cuz there's tons of work good pay and great benefits.
I caught my boss and the office manager talking about me in the hall where everyone could hear. They were talking about my childcare situation during the covid 19 shutdown my boss told the manager “she should use that stimulus check and pay for a baby sitter how hard can it be geez” just the week prior he had told me to feel free to take off this month because the kids have to finish school from home and I hadn’t even asked for the time ! This week I told them I needed 1 day off and this is how I’m repaid?! Even though my other coworkers took off for weeks and I still came in 2 x a week to work during shut down
Does your boss have kids? I often find people who don't really don't comprehend the load working parents, and working moms in particular, have been managing. The commentary is extremely inappropriate and unprofessional in any event.
Which leads us to toxic workmates. I got deployed together with this gal to a new team, and she was like, "I can't wait to start gossiping with the team." The level of toxicity, far too much
I have been in my current role for 6 months and like anything new, it took me a while to adjust. As the months went on it was becoming apparent that this wasn’t going the way I imagined in my mind. I was really surprised at the lack of support and training as well as essentially being thrown into a role and having high expectations put on me. It was quite tough as it was a very small team, just me another person doing it as the first week I started the other two staff members left. I was also not trained properly as I had four different trainers with conflicting opinions which made things so confusing. I also had to prove myself to my own manager as I was clearly underestimated when I first started but opening up to her we have build a good relationship. My colleague also left over two weeks ago now and having snapped at me the week before. With all that being said, I am also currently being hassled by one of the older staff and yes my boss is aware of it, I was told it was her personality but at the same time I guess I have to learn to stand my ground. This particular person is probably in her 60s compared to me being a 25 year old. My previous roles environment wasn’t perfect either but I guess no workplace is. I’m currently on the hunt for a new role, somewhere for a better opportunity. Even though my relationship with my boss is now so much better, I still feel like leaving, although I believe in perseverance I think it’s a balance of what you want to do, either you stay where you are or you leave. I share an office off the plan open plan office and they are all with other women so you can imagine how catty it can get. I’m proud of myself for how I’ve handled the past months but also asking myself where to from here.
Someone at my job went around taking pics of other employees on their phone. (You're not allowed to be on your phone at my job) They sent the pics to hr and the people who got pics taken of got wrote up. Someone, which i know who it was now, took a pic of my phone screen and an actual conversation i was having on messenger. I must have walked away and they went behind me and took the pic. When I got wrote up, there was a photo copy of my conversation. I work in a fast paced environment and i answered a quick message from my girlfriend and walked away to another station i was also working at, but my phone was at my main station, which is where i spent most of the day at. I was pissed to say the least, when I saw the photo copy of my conversation. It took about a month for me to find out who did it. I never bothered this person or did anything to them. Me being on the phone for about 10 seconds didn't or doesn't affect my job at all. I still perform at a high level and do my job. Anyways, I told this person that what they did was wrong and that they had no character. I also called them a SNITCH. He went back to hr and told them what i said. Hr wrote me up again for disrespecting another employee. WTF !!! This is the type of work environment i work in folks
Thats what the older fucking generation needs to understand. If you're on your phone for a few seconds, it doesn't stop your productivity at work. You can actually multi task just like if you were on a work phone while typing an email or inputting data. This was an issue at my last job as well. I'd actually see the manager on his phone and the lady next to him would be too but he wouldn't say anything. Yet when I would step outside to be courteous when I was on my phone, he'd follow me outside or try to chastise me even though company policy would be if you're on your phone then you need to be outside so you don't distract others.
Simply put, yes. I resigned yesterday after spending only 7 weeks there. I’ve watched 5 project managers quit and another two take stress leave. I’ve never seen anything like it.
I have left a toxic workplace, it was the most toxic in my decades of experience. I'm in a better place now but at that time I was left severely depressed that affected my physical health and properly traumatised. I cried a lot (I rarely cry), for the next few years I was terrified of the same thing would happen in the next workplace and could never trust anyone at work. I quickly moved jobs twice after that place JUST so then I can officially remove them from job reference section on my resume. I wish you made this video back then but I've seen and enjoy some of your other videos, thank you!
I was attacked at my workplace by a client I was caring for and my boss fired me to cover it up. I made the fatal mistake of not documenting everything and also I wasn’t in a trade union so no lawyer would touch me when I tried to suit for compensation. I had PTSD and depression for years after that.
@@JenniferBrick I’m doing well now thank you, I retrained and now work in a school. It gets difficult from time to time as do all jobs but over the pandemic I thank my lucky starts I work in education as it’s one of the most stable sectors to be in over here. I took a long time to get over the trauma and developed trust issues with future bosses because of it which is a hinderance as it also affects working relationships and it hit my self confidence really badly.
I left my workplace recently and now on FMLA. I couldn’t take the unfairness and toxic boss. I don’t have a job lined. The sad part was I was one of the best employees they had. Always at work, on time, produced high numbers. My boss was extremely toxic and believe she was a racist. I plan to go to EEOC
