Trauma bonding over our childhoods & how we got through the hardest times of our lives | Ep. 11 

Id like to thank you for sharing your story about your sister's passing . My 18 year old son died in a car accident 2 years ago. His brothers were 13, 16, and 19 ar the time. Your perspective gives me insight and I am so sorry for your loss. The sudden loss for you and being so close to your sister is devastating. I hope you feel Amanda with you always.

Thank you both for sharing your stories of growing up. My husband was 16 years older than his sister. He was the first of 4 boys, and then his baby sister came along and made him feel so lucky to have her. He was really hoping we would have girls. He and his brothers all had ADHD. So, it was crazy around there. I felt bad for his parents because they probably just thought having boys was crazy busy. My husband and I met when his sister Katie was just one. Losing her in a car accident changed my husband. It changed his faith. He was angry at the world. He did finally go to a therapist to help him put on an anti-depressant. He said she had 4 older brothers, and they couldn't even do the one job that was to keep her safe. When she was killed, she was 14. She told her parents she was sleeping over at a friend's house.The driver who fit 8 kids in her car at 2am was way over the legal limit, and she was also a mother of 2 kids. One was just a little baby. We have forgiven her, and she was recently let out of prison. I learned never to let my daughter's go to sleepovers, except one friend and her sister, because we were good friend's with them. My husband gets mad that I have a different memory of that morning phone call. I swear he didn't tell me she had been killed, and i didn't get over to his parent's house for a little while because I was trying to get our kids over to my parent's. He said that she had an accident. I had no idea that it was that kind of accident. So by the time I made it to his parents' house, the first thing I asked was what happened and will she be ok? He was really upset with me for saying that. He said it really didn't matter what happened, and here I am thinking well where is she? 2 weeks before, she had a dresser fall on her, so i was thinking it was something like that. He swears he told me that she died after the phone call. My therapist says that when a trauma happens, you try to block out the really bad parts. It is natural. Lo, I think that your Mom is really great. To be able to still let your Dad come over for Christmas is a huge deal. She is definitely a good woman. I didn't realize that you had a sister. I knew you had a brother from your music.

I love how you guys encourage each other when the topic gets heavy. It leads to a deeper conversation instead of closing off. My parents divorced at a similar age for me and it was heart wrenching, especially since I couldn’t villainize anyone and as a youngest child too, it’s super lonely when its just you in the house. Especially when everyone has moved on and is starting their own lives (as they should!) but it feels sometimes like you’ve been left behind.

You two are awesome. You're so lucky to have each other to share these things with. I lost my Dad at 13 yrs old. He died in front of me when we were home alone with each other. My Mom had just had a stroke 3 days before and was staying with my Uncles Family. I understand all your going through Sarah. It gets better with time but the trauma will always be there but so much less. I love you both and Lauren, it's not that I'm saying these kinds of traumas are less than what you went through, it's just I relate to Sarah having gone through something similar. Sarah and Lauren don't keep it bottled up talking about it helps alot. Great Podcast as usual. God Bless.😢

Being a big sister and watching Sarah talk about missing out on some of the big sister moments broke my heart.

i’m so sorry about your sister, sarah. i lost my big sister, too, everything you felt and feel now is exactly how it goes. and yes, she will always be with you. lauren, i want to just hug you.

As someone w a dad who has also made some bad decisions that really effected my family, I really relate to Lo saying “he’s just my dad and he is who I got as my dad” I love him even though he has many faults and I’ve always felt loved by him. Thanks for being vulnerable guys 💚

My youngest brother died in his sleep many years ago. It's not something you ever get over 41 years later it still brings tears to my eyes. 😢

Sarah, thank you for the courage to share your story with us. I cannot imagine the pain, but you remain such a light ✨ Lo, my parents divorced after 25 years due to infidelity. I resonate so much (even with you feeling like it wasn't a "heavy enough" topic to follow Sarah's). I'm so happy you two have each other ❤ we love you guys!!!

I am so sorry for your loss, Sarah. My little brother died in a really bad car accident in 2006. He was just 18. He got to live 18 years and he's been gone 18 years. I will never ever forget that day. It changes you, as a person, as a family. You are not alone ❤

It was so nice that you two had each other during explaining each of your stories ❤️

thank you for sharing both of y’all’s stories. i’m a child that was caught in the crossfire of multiple affairs but instead my mom stayed. it’s a hard thing to deal with. i found out when i was 8 but didn’t comprehend till 12-13. worst feeling in the world to watch your mom deal with such heartache

Thank you guys for being so open and vulnerable with us. I strongly related to Lo and her situations with family arguing especially at bed time. Sarah I’m so sorry for your loss.

Something i love about my bestfriend so much is that i can talk to her like this. Shes been more like family to me than my actual family has been. Shes saved my life more than ive probably realised. While therapy is great nothing will compare to having someone who truly knows you and relates to you.

my parents are currently in the middle of a divorce, me and my twin sister are almost 18 and they had been married 17 years, we are struggling with it and it was so nice to be able to hear Lo’s story ! glad we aren’t alone 💝

I didn't physically lose a sibling, but through other traumas, mental health breaks and worst of all a complete obliteration of trust; I lost a sibling. My best friend growing up. I'm not comfortable sharing the details but I feel your loss. I lost my best friend who I thought I would have for life and I lost them when I was just a teenager. Like your family, mine dealt with it all differently and while things are good now, we really struggled at the time. I actually haven't come to terms with things like the others have. Hearing your story though, really made me miss what I used to have and share with my sibling. Everyone used to think we were twins despite over a years age gap, we were that close. We did everything together. I grieve often for what could have been, I will never get it back. But your loss is obviously more permanent than mine and I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing, your mutual love is obvious and while my spirituality isn't always so strong, I do believe those who we have loved and lost are there with us when we need them most and during times we would have wanted them with us. Amanda was with you on your wedding day, the births of your children and she's watching and laughing (maybe not so much at this one) at all your podcasts with Lo. She's so proud of you, no doubt. ❤❤❤❤

Awww Sarah I so feel for you! Something similar happened to me, and I was a good girl noone at school and called to the office in the middle of class. I was 14, and I was told that I needed to go home. Going home going through ALL the situations why I could be being called home. I got home and I was told my brother, my big brother, had tried to unalive himself. It was so very upsetting. He was my best friend too. He was there in my early childhood. He is 8 years older and so much of a person. It was awful. I also feel for Lauren. My mum and dad were very volatile in my own childhood, and not that I can remember much. But I was told of the arguments by everyone! It was very bad! 8 years of my early years were. From onwards was fantastic inwards!!

Aw honey. Your dad does love you. He is non judgmental and supportive and proud of you and is always amping you up. To give perspective, my mom tells me I’m a mistake, she wishes I was never born and constantly taunts me. It’s really sad. I have my own daughter and I can’t wrap my head around my mothers hatred for me. Your strong and your love and kind words for your dad despite his mistakes is beautiful to see ❤

One of my best friends passed in a wreck after we had both just turned 17. I related to a lot of the things Sarah said about her experience, although I know my experience doesn’t even compare to losing a sibling. I can’t imagine dealing with the impact to your family unit, on top of grieving the loss of your best friend.

My older sister 8 years older than me and we are pretty close and the day of her graduation. She got into a really bad car wreck with her boyfriend, and we all said she should’ve died, but she survived with a concussion and a sprain wrist. Her boyfriend survived with cut, and his arm. And I think God for that, and that they survived because I don’t know what I would do without her.❤

Thank you for sharing your stories about your life. It's really good to hear how you guys have gone through these challenges and come out the other side as such wonderful strong women.

This was so interesting to watch. Im not a regular watching this or any channel like this but somehow this popped up. Very therapeutic to listen to. Lo, i saw a video your brother made, a song. That song is so beautiful. I have it saved and ive gone back and listened to it a number of times. Its just so, so good. Ive seen a couple of yours too. Amazing voice. You and your brother are incredibly talented.

My little brother drowned when I was 7. We were living in France at the time. It was such a difficult time. Trying to get back to the states to bury my brother. I will never ever forget it. I’m 67. My prayers go out to you. My mom lost her faith in the lord. She never got it back sadly!

Sarah you are such a strong person and I thank you for your open words. Lo you are also very clear and respectful with your story. You both are amazing. I'm from Germany. 🇩🇪 Love Bea

I'm so proud or Sarah for opening up. Wow. I see both of them in different lights now. Sending lots of love!!

Firefly Lane...for those who don't know it is an amazing series. And touches on 2 best friends grow up together know each other's secrets family and all. But they grew up in the 60, 70, 80 and so on...amazing series! Their beginning discussion made me think of how my home would rather roll in a pile a fire ants than to tell someone the truth about our family. She is deceased now.

I could not imagine losing my sister.😭😢😩😫 Sarah you’re so strong for dealing with this.

Thank you Sarah for sharing your story. I just recently lost my younger sister who was 8 yrs younger than me. Just remember All the love you shared together. Love your videos

I LOVE you both so much. Thank u for sharing your experiences. Made me cry at the work...shows me that everyone and everything from our past made us, little by little, piece by piece. And those pieces can have soooo much of memories, such as happiness, but also grief. We as a human being are sooooooo complex. Happy to see u guys to growth from every difficult moment and understand more about your selves.

Thank you for sharing your story! My sister died when I was 13 and my parents went really dark place after that and me as the first child had to step up and take care of my younger siblings. They thought that I was fine, but I tried "shoside" for 3 times in a year after that, but didn't finish it, because I felt that there are nobody to take care of my siblings if I ☠️. I'm kind of sad thinking about that and at the same time I'm happy to be alive. I have a beautiful son and everyday I thank God when I get to wake up seeing him 🙏🏻

You two are so real it's refreshing thank you ❤

Thank you both so much for your vulnerability, I can relate to both of you're story's on different levels. I very recently lost my one of my Grandfather's he was such a sweet, kind patient old man. He was struggling a lot before he passed so I know now he is so much better. I love this podcast and I love the amount of care and sharing you both have on here. Very grateful for you both and I am Praying for you both and your beautiful families!! Just know Gods got you and he has a plan for each and everyone of us!

I relate to you so much . Our family went from 5 to 4 too💔 My brother was 15 when he was killed 5 years ago . I was 18 at the time but , It broke my heart .

I lost my big brother when I was 20, we had the same birthday 6 years apart. And then in 2014 my youngest son died when he was 19. Life can be very unfair and sad but there are wonderful things too. It’s a grief balancing act.

Watching your part now, Lo. So ironic, my mom caught my dad in a similar way - and I also learned to love my dad despite his bad choices in life. Both my parents are gone now - hold onto yours, ladies! Feeling like I can relate with both your childhoods, sending hugs

Thank You Lo for Sharing Your Family Story! I'm Sorry that Your Parents had divorced when You were So young & You have a Good relationship with Your Dad now!🌹

Thank you for your vulnerability, bless you all for getting through this tragedy with such grace 😢❤

Thank you for sharing your story Sarah I’m so sorry for your sister she’s so young

My mom died when i was 15, Father wasn't in the picture as they were separated. My dad beat my brothers also before that. Fast forward 5 years, one of my brothers died from an OD. and my other two are struggling with active addiction. If someone were to meet me today they'd have no idea the trauma unless i told them. I seen another comment saying "it's not what happens to you as a child, it's how you deal with it as an adult." and it's true. I could be such a different person today if I used the negative as an excuse to not move forward with my own life. It's been 10 years since my mom died and 6 since my brother died. It's been such a hard, strange road to travel because they aren't here for those things family should be. As i stand today, i have a fiancé, two corgi's and we're in our second property together. My mom and brother would be so proud and that what keeps me going. Thanks for sharing your stories ladies.

Cried entire episode! Two strong women and moms right there! 💚

Thank you both for being valuable.

Ima trauma dumb: Growing up I always remember it justing being me and my mom and my 2 sisters. My dad wasn’t in the picture after a year or 2 of my younger sister being born. He was very abusive so my mom left, he would throw anything in his reach, busted my head, hit me in the ear and my earring pierced me. I don’t remember my dad at all. My mom worked a full time job and was a single mother all my life. Money was always an issue we knew it. We lived at my cousins in a walk in closet sized room for most of my early life eventually we moved and We lived in a small 2 bed apartment she slept on our couch and gave us kids the rooms our apartment was a hoarded mess. Trash and stuff everywhere. Kitchen basically unusable. Never had clean dishes. We made most of our meals in a pizza oven in the living room on a desk cause the kitchen was nasty. She was depressed and her body was hurting her so bad but growing up I thought it was normal. We got evicted after 4 years of living there because we had an inspection and failed so they evicted us. We couldn’t afford a new place prices were rising and it was a lot we ended up living with my grandparents and my grandma was very mean. Constantly yelling and picking fights. It was awful I remember never wanting to be there and always running off to my boyfriend’s house even though his mom was never nice to me. My mom got a boyfriend and eventually brought him around us kids. It was scary because she’s never had boyfriends after my dad and what he did to us. he ended up moving into our grandparents house with us because his roommates were moving so he had to leave so it worked out. Eventually things got serious and they bought a house together and we got dogs and chickens and turkeys and duck, just a lot of animals. They recently got married we just got a pig, I turned 18 my boyfriend lives with us we have our own dog together. Life hasn’t been better. Don’t get me wrong theres ups and downs but life is so good right now and I’m great full to be where I am now because I’m not where we used to be.

Omg I haven’t even finished the video and I’m crying so hard 😭😭 I love you guys so much 🙌🏽❤

Thank you so much for your vulnerability ❤ sending you both love and hugs

Life is a blessing but it throws us with grievances and erosions from different directions… I’m sure everybody is just doing their best and that’s one thing I can take away from this… although the judgemental child like emotional side of my brain wants to judge people for their short comings. My parents divorced after a relationship of 40 years… they met in school at 16 and dated and married (civil union) until age 59. Failed business, difficulties of communication, incompetent fatherhood, financial burdens… they didn’t make it… but we are all ok ❤ not great but ok.

Thank you for sharing, Sarah!

Thank you for sharing. I'm going to call my older sister and tell her I love her right now.

I came from divorce & I'm grateful my parents weren't together cause they hated each other but I would have loved to have a regular family too

My husband starting snoring about age 50 and I am telling you that you will be happy to sleep In separate bedrooms. I was a Nurse and I had to be able to get some sleep in order to be able to do my job! Many husband/wife’s sleep in separate room once one partner starts the snoring stuff.

Im going threw what ur mom went threw, after 30 yrs of marriage ,it's hard ,lo ,ur mom is strong women.only difference is my hubby was verbable abuser,my mom and dad divorce wen i was 8 and we moved into my mom parents home and. My grand ma was a controller and I use sleep to stay away from her, I was only kid who was waiting for school to start to get away from her , then I was bully in school to ,never got to do any school stuff, and I met older man who lived down block from me and married him to escape my grandma and my mom , he wasn't in love me he just wanted fun , I was married for 30 yrs to him and found out that marriage was just big lie, now I'm trying pick up the piece he started cheating on me at work and then I found out he's was calling his ex wife and hiding his phone at work, the lady he started cheating with at work decide she didn't want him , he then started calling his ex , he said he had talk to her cause of his girls to keep the peace which a dam lie girls are in there 30s ,he decide to move out , he says cause no one helping him.why would I ,his exploding temper andblaming everyone for his mistakes ,i alway felt i had walk on eggshells,he came back one day to talk and said to me that he wasnt getting long. With his daughter that he almost moved back home , I told him no way in hell he going to, I'm much happier with our him, 😊 God taking care of me ,I have put my life in God's hands and he sure as taking care of me, now i just got get out of the home , me and my ex wore buying and get new job for new start

Thank you both for sharing ❤

You guys need to go back to Hawaii !! No place like it right ! I’m sure you miss the sun sea and raising those kids there ?

First of all we need to applaud & praise these beautiful ladies for sharing one of the hardest moments in their life!!!!!!!!💚💚🩷🩷 I’m so incredibly proud of u guys🥺🥺🥺🥺 i lost my grandpa in 2017(i was extremely close with him) I know it’s not the same as losing a child or sibling, I can only imagine the heartbreak & tragedy that Sarah & her family went thro. Especially losing a child as a mom to by sweet toddler baby boy….& on Lo’s side I can relate cuz my parents would yell at each other 25/8 & I was the oldest of 4 girls, so I understand more & heard & saw more, I’m 22 now, but when I was 16 the night b4 they told us they were getting a divorce I overheard them talking saying the D word (as I called it at the time) & all of my sister were asleep, the next day they sat us down & told us & I was crying b4 they even started talking. In my case it’s better they did, cuz now they r happier & etc & I’m a single mom to my almost 3 yr old, I can relate kind of to Los mom, it’s rough…. Now b4 all this I had (not the worst, but not the best childhood) my dad was & still is one of those ppl who puts himself first b4 his kids, some quick examples: he would cook himself dinner & not us(so me being the oldest while my mom was working 50 hrs a week would have to cook dinner) if my mom gave him $$ for milk & Berries for us, he would buy beer & cigarettes & there’s so many similar instances like that. Which is y I remember my childhood as always taking care of my siblings & not really having my own childhood or freedom & when my dads moms would watch us she wouldn’t let us eat while my mom was at work so I sneak food when she went to the bathroom, I was barely double digits (yes ppl have it much worse) but being neglected is a type of abuse. & my mom was working so much to provide for all of us(at the time she didn’t know any of this was going on until recently actually) but when I was younger every single damn time I went to talk to my mom about my feelings she would always turn it around it tell me about her feelings, so I never really got the help I needed when I was younger & the worse part for me is when I bring it up to my parents they deny all of it & everything was my fault & nothing was theirs & as a parent now, I’m breaking generational cycles, even tho my son is 2, I’m gentle parenting & all the things, just like how I c u both r raising ur babies❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ THANK U GUYS FOR SHARING!!!!!!💚🩷💚🩷

“Grief is just love with no place to go.”

Sarah is such an angel. I'm usually skeptical of influencers (internet life always seems so fake), but she genuinely seems like such a pure, sweet soul. Everything she's been through, and she still sees the good. Her husband and kids are so lucky to have her.

This is not the scariest podcast on the planet. It is the most raw and beautiful podcast I have ever had the privilege of watching. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story because I know there’s so many people out there that need to hear this to not feel alone. I love you both soooo much!!! Thank you for starting this Podcast because you ladies have brought so much laughter, love and humanity that this world needs. ❤

Thank you, Sarah, for sharing your story. I lost my identical twin sister at the age of 14 it's been over 30 years now, and still I cry like it was yesterday talking about her and the loss and what I remember. I do share my story from time to time. She is still very much with me. Things are not all clear for me as you go numb in a way. It took me so long to finally feel like she wasn't going to walk in the door. I have 3 beautiful kids now, and at each birth, my sister was there. She wore a certain perfume, and my mom and I always smelled it when my babies came into the world. I've now lost my dad and my mom there were only us 4 in my immediate family so I have a lot of trauma I deal with. This podcast was your best one ladies!!! It took me a while to watch the whole thing but again thank you too you both. Lo you're such a wonderful parent to your sweet girls! And Sarah you too!

A friend recently told me that her psychologist once said that people spend most of their adult life getting over what took place in their childhood. Another said it's not what happens to you as a child, it's how you deal with it as an adult.

Sarah I’m so sorry for the devastating loss of your sister…the pain in your voice 😞

I lost my big brother in an airplane accident 11 years ago at the end of May. I would say the #1 thing you can do for someone going through trauma and loss is to just let them be in the emotion they are in even if it makes you uncomfortable. If they are angry, sad, bitter, happy, laughing. Whatever it is just sit there with them in that emotion and don’t try to “fix it” because you cannot fix it. You just can’t,

Oh my goodness… I have to pause this and take a break…. I lost my best friend who was like my little sister to a car accident and everything you said Sarah resonates with me so much. Watching you tell your story has me so choked up and flashing back to moments in my life when I had her with me… feeling like no one could possibly understand the gut wrenching pain I was in and carry with me on a daily basis… but we aren’t alone and listening to you talk about it helps me realize that, so 🙏🏼 thank you for sharing. I know it was not easy. Ive actually commented on other of your videos the two of you have done together cause the sister in law friendship you both have with each other filled with laughter and giggles and inside jokes makes me think about my friend and the happy memories I got to share with her. Just thank you.🥹🥺

There’s no perfect family! There’s always struggles within a family.

Thank you for being so vulnerable about childhoods and your guys hardships. It’s been so nice to hear other people that are influencers going through similar situations. I am loving these deep podcasts! 💗💗

Sarah sharing your story publicly is so healing for not only you but others ❤

I’m so honored that you shared these stories with us :,)

I find it comforting when you talk about your sister because I also lost my brother in an accident 14 years ago 🩵

Lo, the same exact thing happened to me when I was 9. My dad used to disappear for days at a time for “work”…finally, my dad’s business partner told my mom the truth. She walked in on him having dinner with his “fiancée” of 2 years. He went by a different name, she had no idea he was married with 2 kids. He had a P.O. Box, another apartment..the works. My mom is aROCKSTAR! She raised us without a dime of support from my loser dad. She worked 3 jobs and my grandparents watched us after school. We had a great childhood. Sadly, I have huge trust issues and I’m always searching for signs of betrayal in every relationship and I’ve ruined many. You hit the jackpot with Tanner. You are so very blessed. 🙏❤️

I only watched the introduction so far, but I too had a childhood of parents screaming at each other. Thank God you were able to break that cycle. I could not imagine that life for Ozzy and Stella.

I respect Lo so much, seeing how much she loves her dad despite his mistakes. It's takes a big heart to do that 🥺

Thank you both for sharing your experiences. I totally agree with you Sarah about being there for someone who is grieving. I lost my daughter during birth full term at 26 years old. The amount of things that people said to be still baffles me. But my best friend said something that I will forever stand by. She said “I dunno what to say” and I said thank you for saying that and she said “just know I love you and I’m here for you” and that meant the world to me. Because there is nothing you can say nothing will take the pain away nothing will make it better.

I have always told my boys that life is not easy. Trying to express to them that everyone, every family has tough times. We have to support each other with love.❤❤I know ❤️

Sarah and Lo! Omg my heart and my poor eyes! I immediately started crying just thinking about losing one of my little sisters! They are my world, my favorite gossip team, and my support and helpers remembering the good times with our mother who passed in 2010 when we were in our early 20's. And then AGAIN when Lo started with the not so normal parenting early in life! Our parents fought, I even had a hiding spot in a coat closet with my sister's to escape during the day if we couldn't get outside or in our room easily. It's not an easy start to life, but it also made you who you are! You're both so lucky to have each other, and so STRONG! OUR only goal is to give our children better than we had, and hopefully less chaos and sadness! ❤️

Oh wow girls I am 52 (soon) from Northumberland UK and you girls have had me in tears my heart is hurting for you both. Life is so hard and you have both turned into the most beautiful of people inside and out. Keep being this awesome. And it's never too late for therapy. ❤

A therapist told me it's the desire to heal & move on that helps one cope with loss, drama, change!!!

Anyone else notice how the tip of Sarah’s mic disappears in her shadow when it pans to them both?? 😂

When my mom lost her mom she said the best thing anybody said was my dads aunt who said nothing at all and just gave her a big long hug. Sometimes saying less or saying nothing is better❤

Hugs, Sarah!!! I lost an older brother, who, I was very close to, when I was ten. I'm crying with you. We never get over such loss, we simply learn to live with the loss.

I just love you girls. So brave to share and you didn’t even break into the ugly cry. I had the same thing happen in my family, and it devastated our entire family. I’m 70 now and still breaks my heart to even look at a picture of her.😂❤

this episode literally has me in tears ;-; my older sisters are my absolute best friends and i cant even begin to imagine how hard that was for you sarah. thank you so much for your vulnerability in sharing that. it really helps me not take it all for granted

Lo- Youre a great listener and interviewer. I dont know your professional "skillset"- but you've got like, radio host/journalist expertise vibes.x❤

I love the fact that they have each other to lean on in a safe nonjudgmental space, and that they hold no grudges,my family was completely different and it has filtered down to the grandkids and it's sad to see .

Love both of you girls! Sarah im so sorry for the loss of your sister. Being 13 and going through that trauma is terrible. You are so strong and your big sis is watching down on you smiling ❤ Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this part of your life. Lo i totally relate to you about not having the normal father daughter relationship growing up. My father was absent growing up in my life, but i know deep down he loves me and i love my father dearly.

I'm balling im so sorry Sarah!! I lost my mom suddenly last yr. on my bday Im still struggling and your story takes me right back to that day. So sorry!! She is 1000% still watching over you & your kids.

My sister is exactly 8 years older than me and she is my best friend, i wasn't able to hold back tears. You are so strong, i am so honored that you shared your story ❤

Sarah, this is in response to your question on why we remember certain memories and not, I just want to share an insight I have learned years ago, is that our memories that we are aware of, are the ones associated with strong emotional situations and they get imprinted with that association. Just like scientists explain that our eyes are constantly taking very quick snap shots of what is seen on the retina, but yet we only recall parts of the day we just lived and not all the snap shots, the ones we remember are the ones we attach strong emotional responses to. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I am grateful that you are feeling connected and comfortable with your life to do so. May God continue to heal and bless you as you continue your journey here on earth. You will see your sister one day and spend eternity together in God’s loving arms. ❤❤

I’m going through a divorce. We have a 1 year old. I often worry about how she’ll look back on this as an adult, how she’ll view her father, how she’ll feel about living in 2 homes etc. Hearing Lo’s story and others like it is important for me. She’s still a healthy, loving whole hearted person and she is thankful for her mom. I hope my baby is too in the future.

Thanks for opening up! Divorce kid who lost her mom 5 years ago. It's tough!

Man y'all making me cry while I'm watching this at work, haha! Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing your stories with us. What a blessing it is for us to know of eternal families! I know that Amanda is with Sarah and her family often, smiling and protecting them!

Sarah, I remember a comment that your dad made in Sunday school after the passing of your sister and I have never forgotten it… all these years. His comment was about sympathy and empathy , and how you truly can’t have empathy unless you have gone through the same thing. It was a profound insight that has stayed with me til now.

thank you so much sarah for opening about the loss of your sister. It was obviously hard to talk about, and I think it takes a lot of bravery to be this vulnerable on social media. My brother died 4 years ago in a car accident to, and I've felt so alone in it all this time because I hardly know anyone else who has lost a sibling. I can totally relate to how surreal it feels to lose someone so young and close to you, and how weird it feels going from a family of 5 to 4. You give me hope that despite this huge pain in my life, my family can still be full and happy. love you guys

My parents sleep in different rooms, too! My dad has a bad hip and needs a firmer mattress to help support his hip and my mom likes sprawling out on the bed like a starfish lol

Amanda and I were the same age. My graduating class was 06’ in Lehi. I’m so sorry for your loss! But I do want to say thank you for your sister being an organ donor and saving lives after her tragic passing. She’s an angel. I have stage 4 cirrhosis and am on the transplant list. ❤️ what a beautiful and selfless act for such a young woman to have done. Hugs to you both.

Thank you for sharing your story Sarah ♥️ I lost my little brother in a tragic accident a little over two years ago and this really hit home. He was 26 and our family has never been the same since. The trauma of it all is most times too much to handle 💔 I’m so sorry for anyone that also knows this pain.

Every single person has a reason they are who they are. It’s so refreshing to see such “pretty perfect girls” tell their perspectives to growing up. I struggle raising my own kids because this is the time we have to literally give our all to, & every single thing we’re doing is building a teeny tiny character and that feels very heavy somedays. (I hope that makes sense.) When I grew up I realized just how young my parents were, and compared those ages to myself. You just can’t imagine having to do what they did to get you where you are today. Breaking cycles, long hours, selfless love that only parents can really dish out. Thanks for sharing your stories. ❤ It doesn’t change anything, but knowing people out there still believe in compassion selflessly is very comforting. The world can seem very cold sometimes.

My sister died when she was just short of her 23rd birthday super unexpectedly. It’s so hard to talk about, I commend you being able to share this and your way of grief as well as your families. It changes everything forever

Thanks you for sharing. I felt so empathy with both. I had the both traumas. But Jesuschrist healed my wounds. ☺️

This whole video had me sobbing 😭 You both are so incredibly brave for sharing your stories. As someone who grew up with a “normal but not normal” childhood I so appreciate your transparency. It truly has inspired me to open up more on our platform, because these comments 😭 you guys are truly changing lives and your genuineness does NOT go unnoticed!!!! Sending hugs to both of you 🥰

I think it is so incredibly brave to be this vulnerable in general but especially to the public. Thank you for sharing ❤‍🩹

I buried my mother yesterday. Thankfully there was no trauma involved. She lived a long and happy life. I will miss her the rest of my days but also know I will see her again. There's something about not being able to call your Mom that cuts deep. I pray for peace for both of you. Sarah your sister is with you and always will be. Yes, you will see her again. Lo, I’m happy you have a relationship with your father. We all make mistakes. Love to you both.

My mom had a stroke and I feel the same i cried a lot