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No Questions on Political views or Ideology ? Was that his demand for the interview ? Disappointing TBH. It was a 'feel good' only about the bloke. He is extremely articulate, so I dont know why you used a velvet glove w. the guy.
Steven Bartlett your listening skills are on another level👏. What sets you apart is your ability to create an atmosphere where guests don’t just talk they reflect, go deep, and share parts of themselves that often remain untouched in other interviews. You don’t just ask questions; you unlock stories.
Trevor, Abel was my car mechanic at the time you lived there, I lived around the corner in Orange Grove. I read your book for the first time and you won’t believe my shock and surprise when I got to the part where your mom met Abel and everything became so familiar!! I couldn’t believe that I’d been going to your house regularly to get my car serviced and fixed. All sorts of mixed feelings for a man who I thought was quite lovely and a great mechanic. I was quite outraged! I am just so happy your life turned out so well and that your mom is safe! ❤ You’re a wonderful human. And you Steve ❤️
I've read Trevor's book. My heart broke, then soared, so many times. I cried. I laughed out loud. My husband thought I was going nuts, and kept asking me if I was okay. Trevor, you are a treasure. Hugs, darling, stay strong. 💫
Trevor is such an eloquent speaker with such a strong grip on human psychology and philosophy. Never seen this side of him! Thoroughly enjoyed this convo
From the dawn of public discourse to now, no conversation has been this phenomenal for the ADHD population. This is the ultimate interview for ADHD individuals in history. Thank you, Steven.
This episode feels like a conversation between two friends. Sharing experiences and highlighting parts of one another’s lives that impacted them most. Amazing chemistry between the two of you. Love this ❤
One of the most powerful conversations on so many levels. Personal, psychoanalytical, social, political, where to end. In a tone of voice that is absolutely brilliant to listen to and be able to absorb, and feel the emotions without being overwhelmed. Thank you for this!!! Respect in every word and sharing!
As a South African, I really appreciate how Trevor represents our country and its nuances to the world. We're such a complex people with dynamics that are intrinsically understood by us who live our reality daily..but he articulates us so succinctly through his own story too. Its little understood how blessed a country and people we are in RSA to coexist as peacefully as possible with every race, religion, culture, languages etc today given the gruesomeness of our past..the consequences of which we're still grappling with today. Nkosi sikelela iAfrika nyan🙏🏽
I lived in SA for 15 years. A real education. Knew some truly amazing people there. But co existing in the blessedness you describe? The men can’t co exist with the women… rape… murder… the crime levels are off the scale!
To me, he is. He is as well a top bloke. This interview is, for me, very interesting as per his perspectives and insights due to his life experience. No need to force yourself to like him. It's maybe not interesting for you. You be you. I'll be me.
The last stuff i've heared about ZA is that people cut the powerlines, because they know then the energy company will cut the power, because there are energy problems. Any person from ZA that i talk with tells the same story... "get out if you can". People cant even run a foodstore, because the coolers cant run without power, so you cant really store anything like milk producs or fresh fish/chicken.
@@DreaMeRHoLicWondering where these people live in SA? I am from there and yes, this SOMEtimes happens in parts of SA…but it’s not a consistent standard…so? Not sure where these people live that spoke to you…pls share?
@@DreaMeRHoLicwe are not going anywhere. Every country has its problems and some of us are happy to live through the good and the bad. Power problems are being restored and the government is investing in renewable energy. I think you are meeting a lot of disgruntled SA expats.
Ignoring emotional health is truly an ultimate curse. I recommend reading “Health and Beauty Mastery” by Julian Bannet, that book is a real eye opener! I completely changed my habits.
Interesting... I noticed the differences. Trevor is a 'people' guy and Steven feels most himself when he's alone. Both are deep thinkers and emotionally expressive tho.
Steve has had many scientists and medical professionals on the show over the years, including psychologists, and yet Noah has given some of the most profound thoughts on life and human development. I will be listening to this episode again.
Steven, I'm a 54-year-old black woman from very very poor beginnings. What I wish for you to read is (thank you) for every video I've had a chance to watch, listen to, and learn from... I'm still in a state of a humble life, but you and your staff have given this basic human a look into the other side of thinking. Which is always an eye opener. Thank you and your Staff😊
I am South African living in Sweden. I grew up under apartheid in South Africa. It is like hearing my own story . Because I know, I am sorry that you had to go through all you are going through. Thank you for sharing so honestly🙏🏻.
I'm also in the "I don't feel like I belong anywhere" camp and it was interesting to see Trevor's mind break a little bit at the very concept of the answer being 'nowhere' or 'alone'.
I loved this interview! The part where Trevor talks about growing up in an unsafe household, really spoke to me. Decades later, it still struggle with how that experience has shaped me, or continues to shape me.
My two favourite people on the planet. Two men who are compassionate, kind, curious, committed to learning and self growth; developing self insights and valuing vulnerability as one of our greatest strengths. May the two of you continue to learn and grow and share the journey with the rest of us. The shared experience... your theme park experience was a great example of valuing people as opposed to things and activities.
5:07 When he said.. I'm conscious of choosing my friends because I think that's me actively choosing the people who are going to be shaping me as I live my life. Yup same here 😊 I've been doing this because my energy is precious to me need to share it with meaningful individuals in my life only. ❤
This is high up on the list of my favourite episodes. I appreciate Trevor’s honesty especially about the last question about hitting the button. I have now saved this to a playlist because I'll absolutely watch again
Another South African here. Lovely conversation guys! Trevor is an exceptionally intelligent and sensitive person. Thoroughly enjoyed seeing you guys connect.
Wow, this is as an incredibly deep conversation and this in public. This is a kind of conversation between two emotionally very mature and self-aware men that I wish I had in my life. I think the reason why people feel like they don’t belong mainly because many people don’t allow to explore such depths and open themselves up to such dimensions of human consciousness. Such a pity but at the same time seeing two successful men of a global importance and their a ability to have such a level of genuine, raw and authentic conversation gives me a hope that things will change at least for some percentage of the population and it has already started happening.
I listened, I listened more. I cried, I listened more. I felt even more than your words, I felt the two of you listening, speaking and hearing and sharing….fully. I thank you for what can never be quantified, total transparency of your lived experience (lived by more of us than not). Thank the you both and Trevor, the greatest comedians are what you just expressed. The truth in its most human way. I thank you for myself, but in particular, for my son🧐☺️🔥❤
We're here🇿🇦 our "Daywalker"😅 I love how Trevor is so open about men's relationship with intimacy/connection. Most girl dads are almost forced to, but everyone else seems stuck in cycles.
It's very hard to face the abuse we are subjected to as children. We want to believe we came from loving, functional families. But then we get old enough to see reality. It takes years to unpack and I applaud anyone having the courage to do so. I knew I was on my own by the age of 4. I knew that education was my ticket out. Many of us in the arts were in similar situations. Our talents provided an escape from the abuse. Hypervigilance keeps us safe, too. We over-perform. It feels great to instead relax, let other people carry the ball, and allow others to carry responsibilities. Many of us were forced into the parenting role as children in order to keep things safe. Anger sets us free. When we really work through the anger about what happened then we can start to look at things realistically. We don't have to forgive, but we can begin to heal when we reach radical acceptance. You are right about women finding purpose in life. It doesn't have to be complicated. Learn to enjoy life. Relax and value being alive. Then do what you can to help others enjoy life too. That is purpose. Toxic male culture punishes vulnerability as you said. There is also this expectation that men should be "special." That is quite narcissistic. We can all just "be" and our inherent value is there. We don't have to prove we have value. I am moved listening to this video and wish both of you all the best.
@@cellosong thank you so much for your thoughts, feelings about your childhood experience. We all grow up with many different emotions coursing through us not realizing what they mean or even how to process them. I felt that feeling that I had a pretty good normal childhood, Until I became an adult, then I realized how really frigging wild our home life was. How when you are small and have 6 other siblings, but You are the youngest one , that your oldest sister, first born is 17yr 5 months older than you and all the others ( 3 girls 4 boys. In all) are maybe 1.5 - 3.5 years apart . For me it was like having two families in one. Cuz my sister was graduating from high school when I was born, see where I’m coming from . She was setting off soon for college. My oldest brother soon left for the Navy going over seas and I am a small baby, I didn’t get to know them until I was much older. That sister finished college and moved to Hawaii !! That brother stayed over seas for many years, married and lived near Japan . so I really was only around The others. As they came and went. For the most part the last 2 brothers the older, one Got drafted into the Vietnam war . So it was then just the last brother and me 3.5 years apart. But he and I are the closest of all. It wasn’t until I was really close to maybe 45 or 50 did I finally get to know my oldest Sis. And as far as forgiveness, I get ya, I had to go through Addiction get Sober at 32 and understand forgiveness was not for THEM It was for ME, when I practice forgiveness I am able to see others in a whole different light 💡And now at Almost 69 yrs old and on my 3rd and Last husband of 36 years together, I am able to help others when I can, step out and live a peaceful productive life. Funny I wanted to listen to this episode cuz I have lived with ADHD my whole life and it has driven me down some crazy paths in life. From going to Nursing school to then leaving that occupation to working in the oil fields for 5 yrs then having a daughter. Changing occupation a last time, working in the plant nursery industry from 1985 till 2008. I retired from all outside jobs 2010 just doing as much as my body can handle cuz I have had 5 surgeries since 2012 last one 2022. they say getting old is not for sissies. You have a wonderful rest of your week maybe will meet again sometime time. May the light of the Lord be with you and all yours, peace be with you now and forever amen
25:39 I started sobbing because I know exactly what he’s talking about. My friends also think that I have like a weird sixth sense. It’s a gift, but how one gets it, is heartbreaking.
This episode resonated with me so much, because I recently shared with my therapist that the lack of friendship was being to affect me, especially working in a high stress and negative environment. I’m working on building new and fulfilling relationships. The things I love the most about Trevor Noah is his depth and delivery combined with his authenticity and humor. I was truly sad when he left the Daily Show, but excited to tune in to his podcast.!! 🎉 Looking forward to taking in some wisdom from “What Now”. Steven, I can say this now, because I haven’t heard Trevor Noah’s podcast yet, BUT… I absolutely LOVE Diary of A CEO!! You are an excellent interviewer/facilitator. Please keep it coming!
Trevor is such an introspective, intellectual person. I have never been into celebrity culture or had a celebrity crush, BUT, I pray that I get to meet/have a discussion with Trevor Noah in this lifetime. Not a lot of people impress me with words like he does. And he is funny.
00:05 Untreated ADHD depression led to struggles with meaning in life 01:53 Trevor Noah reflects on the important elements of his upbringing 05:52 Trevor Noah grew up in a unique and complicated racial environment in South Africa. 07:57 Trevor grew up in apartheid South Africa and didn't initially feel the emotional impact. 11:58 Early childhood trauma can have a significant impact on mental health conditions like ADHD 14:02 Trevor Noah reflects on his childhood experiences shaping his reality 18:08 Impact of childhood trauma on perception and relationships 20:04 Trevor Noah reflects on childhood trauma and its impact on adult relationships. 23:44 Trevor Noah recalls a traumatic moment from his past 25:38 Hyper-sensitivity developed by children in abusive households for protection. 29:14 Trevor disrupts conversations to protect those who can't protect themselves 31:18 Trevor faced a moment of intense panic and grief when his mother was shot. 34:56 Surviving a near-fatal incident led to a miraculous outcome and challenged beliefs. 36:58 Justice system fails to serve women affected by domestic violence. 40:59 Managing anger and pain in therapy 42:48 Forgiveness and Understanding Towards Father Figure 46:33 The state of young men's mental health is concerning 48:17 War provided a sense of purpose to a whole generation of young men. 51:48 Declining middle class and economic effects on relationships 53:30 Impact of mega corporations on society 56:39 Men struggle with connecting due to societal changes. 58:20 Emotional expression and connection learned from the previous generation 1:01:26 Online connections can lead to deep friendships 1:03:02 The limiting factor for men in society is the lack of emotional outlet. 1:06:28 Importance of friendship and connection in life evolution 1:08:08 Beware of bad friends influencing your mental health 1:11:26 The value of strong friendships in personal growth. 1:13:04 Immigrants driven by toxic fuel to succeed 1:16:31 Anonymity allows for rewriting our story and perspective on life 1:18:22 The downsides of fame and the impact on mental health 1:21:42 Realized love for theme parks was about spending time with friends, not just the rides. 1:23:26 Friction adds value and appreciation to experiences. 1:26:51 Facing backlash for perceived role in John Stewart's departure 1:28:34 Choosing how to handle challenges is crucial for success. 1:32:02 Trevor Noah's recounts John Stewart's advice to stay despite feeling disliked. 1:33:41 John Stewart faced criticism but proved his critics wrong 1:36:53 Perseverance is not an individualistic pursuit 1:38:26 Success requires the support of others 1:41:49 Trevor Noah talks about knowing when it's time to move on 1:43:32 Pandemic made Trevor reevaluate work-life balance. 1:47:12 Realizing the value of personal connections during the pandemic. 1:48:56 Trevor struggled to balance The Daily Show and staying informed 1:52:22 Therapy helped Trevor Noah physically and mentally. 1:54:08 Therapy is stigmatized but beneficial for everyone. 1:57:44 Trevor discusses the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings. 1:59:38 Trevor Noah discovered his ADHD after a friend's diagnosis two years ago. 2:03:11 Intersection of depression and ADHD 2:04:54 Struggling with focus and purpose 2:08:14 Trevor uses coping mechanisms and mindfulness to manage ADHD and depression. 2:09:54 Practice self-care before overthinking life struggles 2:13:23 Reuniting with his biological father after 24 years. 2:15:15 Trevor Noah shares insights about reconnecting with his father 2:18:58 Trevor shares his struggle with communication and love for his mother 2:20:38 Trevor talks about his mother and her legacy. 2:24:07 Trevor talks about finding value in relationships and becoming comfortable with being alone. 2:25:48 Trevor Noah's appreciation for a book and the inspiration it provides for all ages. 2:29:28 Embracing imperfections and finding beauty in overcoming challenges. 2:31:15 Questioning the philosophy of finding meaning in traumatic experiences 2:34:48 Trevor Noah reflects on erasing his past struggles 2:36:21 Find your people and place for true belonging and fulfillment. Putting in the work for you guys has been a pleasure. Kindly like and subscribe to show your love❤ buymeacoffee.com/gmdavid
Hi Steven. This is an amazing interview. I love how you asked the questions and the responses. Your interviewing skills and listening capability are impressive. Trevor always ensures (he contextualizes) and provides nuance in his responses. This interview is therapeutic; the insight, the vulnerability, and the consciousness are something we do not see often. There is a lot to unpack and learn from this interview. Great work.
His thoughts on the empathetic and predictive capabilities of those who have witnessed domestic abuse are incredibly accurate. I have always had a keen sense of peoples intentions and nature, it has led me to nurture truly amazing friendships and relationships, but it can be exhausting. Once you've learnt to recognise when someone is wearing a mask, you realise that most people are doing just that. I find genuine connection and trust incredibly hard to come by as a result.
One of the things I love about Trevor is that he is relatable, and it doesn't even feel like he is trying (unlike most famous people). Thank you to Steve for having him on your show. 🇿🇦 We 🇿🇦 Are🇿🇦 Watching🇿🇦
1:19:43 listening to this part on the day we just lost a young famous man, doing drugs and drinking alcohol by himself in his hotel room…💔 so true, so sad.
This was like being a fly on the wall listening in on the conversation between two interesting people who were open to listening to each other and sharing parts of themselves. Great episode! Thanks for sharing!
It's Trevor Noah 😁😁😁😁 man I miss seeing him on the daily show he's so insightful explain stuff and talks in a way that everyone can understand. His mother is a genuine blessing from the Lord one of a kind
Born a crime is the best book i have ever read, it feels like you are walking with Trevor through his journey. I laughed, i cried, i mulled over the very meaning of life. What an amazing human being.
I overcame a clinical depression 7 years ago and since then have saved many lives of people who were on the edge. It's a super important topic to get a solid grasp on.
@@robertholland7558 depression is very much curable for sure. I've overcome it and I've helped many of my clients overcome it. If someone tells you it's not possible to overcome it, they are lying to you. 100% guaranteed.
Makes totally sense what Trevor Noah is talking about, with knowing when to leave a party before all hell breaks lose. And you have to unlearn certain new things like breathing, wiggling your toes. Knowing it’s not your responsibility to undo the situation
The "Spidey senses" segment resonated with me. The way my dad moved, opened the gate outside, doors I'l knew whether it's okay time or mom gets a beat down. I'm almost 40 and I still listen for danger, always on high alert. It fucking sucks.
Sorry to hear bro. I know your pain all too well. At work people laughed at me when I turned my desk to face the main entrance. I don't trust anyone to the point that I have to have my eyes on an entrance I notice every movement and sound. There is no escaping it. . I'm approaching 40 as well and still can't shake the abuse and trauma from my dad. I wish he was still alive at times because I still wonder why he was like that. I do have the ability to know when something terrible is about to happen though. I try to find the positive aspects but I can't fully relax or let my guard down
With too many young men struggling to find real role models Steven and Trevor are the real deal. I would love for these two and a few other real men host a talk that addresses issues of connection and what being a man means today. Great podcast Steven.
Great to hear someone else who doesn't ascribe to that sentiment either "you have to have the rain to appreciate the sunshine", you have to have the bad to appreciate the good", "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" etc etc. Omg how uplifting and refreshing it is to hear two brothers speak so eloquently on such profound topics!
It's kind of sad how much of a conservative i am but yet still adore Trevor, his book born a crime is at the top of my all-time favourites. Oh well, might as well enjoy the pod!
16 days of activism will start soon and this conversation will become important for so many new reasons. Thank you Trevor for sharing your story, which is uniquely yours but all of ours as well.
Trevor has exceptional analytical skills and articulates his well thought out conclusions in a way nobody else does. He provides a unique perspective and has great story telling skills! I enjoyed this podcast and his book.
This was the interview I have been secretly hoping would happen! Because most DOAC interviews are so long, I typically take a few days, listening in 30 min increments. Today, I sat down in front of my laptop, full-screen view and watched from beginning to end, with absolutely no regrets. I am always blown away by Trevor's ability to articulate emotions, complex thoughts and nuanced contextualities. But Steven, having you listen, respond and ask questions only elevated this conversation to everything I never knew I wanted to hear from both of you. My 3 big takeaways: 1. Growing up in abusive homes can make many hypersensitive to those around them and conflict-averse (you don't have to protect everyone). 2. No one who does anything BIG does it alone! (My mentor always says: if you want to go fast, do it alone. If you want to go far, Squad Up!) 3. Make friends a priority. You will never regret it. Steven, you said the bigger the subscribers get, the bigger the guests get. You didn't lie! So glad to be one of your subscribers. One of the best interviews ever! (and that includes the ones with Mo Gadet and Gabor Mate)
Yet another inspiring interview that sucked me right in, thank you! I really enjoyed Trevor's communication style and thought process. What really resonated with me in this moment was the part with people not really achieving things all on their own. I've beaten myself up over and over again for not pulling through with things I start and underachieving in many areas of my life. On the other hand I'm still trying to achieve things though it's slow and exhausting, despite being alone and with no people to turn to most of the time. This gives me hope and a new sense of drive to try and connect with people, though it's scary and won't come easily to me. Desperately trying to make it on my own and find methods of being my own safety net hasn't been that fruitful and I hadn't completely realised that before.
I miss him so much on the Daily Show. He was such a comfort during Covid lockdown. All his experiences have given him such an empathetic outlook that is rare in our times. Men of my generation (north of 60) came of age in a time where talking about feelings was seen as weak. It is wonderful to see two men jumping in the deep end of the pool of emotions.
Such a great day to hear Trevor, I want to thank him for coming to your podcast. And you become a family for me man... I mean, all your work is like my parents I've never had, friends I missed sometimes, so many advices of how to experience our life. I wish you all the best 👍💯👍💯👍💯👍💯 you are doing a huge job for the people, thanks a lot!!!!! Words aren't enough, this people are precious and to hear them through internet it's more than gold, man, I mean it👍👍👍👍👍
I totally resonated with the part on “belonging” or rather to not belong. It’s something I have always felt and I’m almost 50. I felt that way with my “friends”, for whom I often was a shoulder for them to cry on. We shared so many adventures and time together, but I never got to be myself and be accepted. And when I needed them, as true friends, I was alone. Always the asian to have fun with or make fun of. Anyway, finding what makes you happy , later on in life, is so hard for me.
This entire interview was a joy to listen to. Thank you both, and everyone else behind the scenes, for making this happen! I am profoundly better for listening to this conversation, and have much to think about in my own world. I hope everyone has a lovely day and a joy-filled life. 💛
😅 I’m a black African and my first thought was that they look alike and then I looked again and thought, ehhh not really. But if Trevor’s hair was short as he used to wear it, they could pass for brothers or cousins 😊
"most belong when I'm alone" - i feel that :) even though I'm a girl, have a family, have quite a few close friends.. Still, moving around as a kid (countries), growing up in an international community (school, uni, work), marrying a local, it's such a unique mix among all of my connections that nobody can truly relate. I'm fine with it though, I enjoy times together and times alone :) most of my friends do have either similar situations (moving countries really does a number on you) or similar hobbies. I also tend to process my feelings best on my own, that whole sitting and talking about how I feel stopped around the time I was 18-19 😅 my mom would still try and ask me that, but I'm so used to process it all alone, that I just get uncomfortable sharing, not to mention not a "feelings" type of person.
When Steven says he feels he belongs when he is alone, I really connected to this because the place I feel most comfortable it when I'm a stranger exploring a city or place I haven't been before. I find it quite relaxing. Especially when I am in a big chaotic city and I'm on my own going about my business, I find that relaxing. I have often described myself as being a really good stranger which might explain why I studied anthropology.
Trevor, I'm so sorry to hear about your struggles with depression and ADHD. It's great that you're sharing your story and helping others understand these conditions. I'm glad you found the help you needed. Your journey is a testament to resilience.
I just already know this episode is going to change my life and insights in so many ways. Already anticipated referencing it again and again in the future. Thank you, thank you.
Feelings.......I love Trevor (far past), I don't like Trevor that much ( recent past), I love Trevor again (after listening to this interview)....we judge people too easily before we really know what they have been through. Thank you Steven and Trevor for a great interview and Trevor, I still crack up when I watch your stuff 😅 You are a master at making me laugh! Lots of love from SA
LOVE THIS, such an interesting discussion touching on so many different topics. Grateful that this episode is so long, would love to speak to Trevor irl
Through his comedy and life story, I’ve always admired Trevor’s mindset and resilience but this convo cements it even further. I just love how he reasons and how deeply he understands himself and others. Nuff respect!
Unpopular opinion: some people aren't meant to belong anywhere or with anyone else, and that's a wonderful thing. ☆ We are meant to belong to ourselves first and foremost, and it's trying to find that place/person in which we fit BEFORE feeling that sense of belonging that results in us feeling isolated to start with. We can feel it already, and then it can grow even stronger when we recognize those who resonate - but it begins with us. It has to, especially for those who are fundamentally divergent as people. We aren't meant to fit the molds; we won't, and we suffer most when we try. We belong to nothing, to no one, to nowhere - thus, we belong everywhere and with anyone. It's quite beautiful, actually. Anywhere we are is precisely where we belong. Wherever, with whoever, but most of all? To ourselves, with ourselves. We are our own compass; what's within us individually is our north star. The individual may become universal in a conscious sense. There is beauty and liberation in this if we choose to see and embrace it. It's all our choice; we get to choose. It isn't about finding our place - it's about creating it and being it. ♡ Thank you for making this video! ☆
Steven, Thanks for this great interview with Trevor. I love him for his intelligence & wit, he also speaks proper English, which I appreciate especially in this society we live in. 👏👏👏Here, Here, to you both.🕊
Oh man!!! Thank you SO much Steve!!! To be in France miles away from home and just land on this episode!❤❤ I cannot find the words, it is so comforting and I finally feel like Im right at home on your platform! Siyabonga bhuti🙏🏾
Bonjour @Frenchmakoti, living in France used to be my dream when I was studying French in College. Never managed to do it but was in Paris briefly while traveling twice and even got a good look at that most famous French landmark La Tour Eiffel. 😊 Bon journée❣️
It’s amazing how comedians are the most interesting people on this podcast. This is the most fascinating interview since the one with Jimmy Carr. Comedians tend to be very introspective and very observant. Trevor is no exception.
