I was SO triggered today. Here’s how I recovered in under 10 minutes 👇
When you have a process for working through a trigger, it is a game changer.
And working with your triggers is one of the keys to stepping into your true self. So, I am always willing to dig deep, and figure out what the heck is going on underneath it all.
The first thing I do when hitting my boiling point is to hit the pause button on everything.
I find a quiet spot to close my eyes and ask myself a simple series of questions to guide me through the trigger, and discover what’s underneath it.
(By the way, if you plan to try this the next time you feel triggered - it doesn’t matter where you are as long as you can find a quiet space to settle and connect into your body.)
With my eyes closed, I got open and curious, and asked myself a series of questions:
1️⃣ Why is this happening FOR me, not “to” me?
When you’re triggered, it is an opportunity to discover, heal, and transform unknown, unconscious beliefs that are inside of YOU. If YOU didn’t have a limiting belief, you wouldn’t have been triggered in the first place.
I knew that this trigger was pointing me toward a belief I was ready to change.
2️⃣ What am I FEELING?
In this case, I felt unsafe and scared, which was interesting considering I was not in physical danger. Make sure you “dig down” and go for the “root emotion” that is under the anger. There are typically several emotions that are “under” the first emotion. Keep asking yourself the question, “What’s under this emotion?”, until you feel you have “hit bottom.”
2️⃣ WHO is feeling that feeling?
After asking myself, “Who is scared?” - I got quiet and waited for my subconscious mind to respond.
Suddenly it popped up, a scene from my past when I was only 3 years old. I saw the exact moment when I learned that perfection was the only way to avoid being criticized by the people I loved.
From there, I was able to speak directly with my inner child in the scene, and update her on what was true then and now. She then realized that “I had her” and she felt safe.
We walked out of the scene together, and it was over. The trigger was gone. I felt completely fine. Within 10 minutes, the anger, the frustration, the judgment I was holding onto were all gone.
This bears repeating: you cannot get triggered unless you have limiting beliefs.
This is why I say, “I love triggers!” Triggers are one of the best ways to discover our unknown, unconscious beliefs and transform them which brings us further into living from our true self.
So the next time you’re feeling triggered, seize the opportunity to check in, and take that step on the path to becoming your truest self.
6 май 2024
