We 1st gen. hmong meka get hit the hardest. I had to forge my parents signatures to do drivers ed and sport. and got my license by 16 years old because i always wanted a Nissan Skyline. 35years old now, Master mechanic and now owner of a r34 skyline. 😊
Hmoob tej laus ib txwm (always) hais paj lug tias "Me nyuam tsis hwm tsis hlub niam txiv ces tsis tau ntuj ntoo, niam txiv tsis hlub menyuam ces tsis tau zoo" ces yog li tus txiv tsev no tiag. Yus siab hlob tsis hlub yus tus txij nkawm "uas yog niam nkauj txhav qaib nraug txhav noog", thiab yus cov menyuam "uas yog yus li roj ntsha thaum yus tseem hluas los" ces zoo li no tiag. Nrog tus txiv tsev no tu siab kawg li os.
Tam li kuv paub mas lawv them los lawv yeej txiav neb cov nyiaj los them thiab vim kuv muaj 6 Leej tub thiab ntxhais kawm tau Dr ua kws kho mob thiab fab kawm ntawv
What a sad story. Im glad you are now sucessful in life sister. Remember, if you're not successful, maybe your dad wont even acknowledge you or your siblings. You cannot unclaimed him because he is your biological father nonetheless, but you have every right to move on and or dont have to connect with him/his life if you and your siblings wish. He gets what he deserved. Im glad you and your siblings, and mother are doing well. Wish you all the best, sis.
Ntuj aw cas nej yuav yug los yuam kev rau ib leej txiv liam2 g tsim nyog yog koj txiv li os. Koj niam nej muaj hmoo heev koj niam tseem yug tau 3 leeg tub tseem xav tau baum cas ntxiv es ho yuav phem li cas no koj txiv yeej siab phem ntshaw2 tus niam yau xwb mas. Koj txiv lub siab phem g hlub nej cov me nus muag kev npam yuav raws cuag ib hnub xwb...so happy for nej cov siblings 👍❤❤❤😂😂😢
It's good to forgive if the person who wronged you is repentant because forgiveness is not so much about letting the other person off the hook as it is for you to be able to let go of the anger and hurt so that you can live a life free of those negative feelings. However, just because you forgave him doesn't mean that he can expect you back in his life, that's not how things work necessarily. You and your siblings are not obligated to have your father back in your lives if you guys are not willing or ready---if this should be the case, none of you have anything to feel guilty of, just your father who will have regrets for the rest of his life for throwing away a perfectly good family for his own selfish desires! However, as much as I dislike to point this out considering how selfish and hurtful he was to the whole family, if you can forgive him and still has some love in your heart for him, then to prevent regrets in your own life, it might be an okay thing to reconnect with him as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Listen to your heart and let it lead you to a decision that you can live with without regrets later. There is no right or wrong answer, just what you are comfortable with and are willing to live with.
Very touching and inspiring Story. It’s very sad that our elder parents are so narrowminded and constantly thinking negative, making false assumption all the time, and not support their children in further education. Especially that our parents favor the son more than the daughters. I was also a victim but I’m so glad that I push past my parents.
Maikia, I found your story to be very engaging and thought-provoking. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your father needed to witness your achievements, as it may have helped him to recognize the mistakes, he made in not supporting you and your siblings when you guys needed him most.
MaiKia, so sorry to hear about your parents divorce and what you (your siblings) went through. But congratulations on your big success without anything holding you down. So proud of you. Even though your parents didn't love each other, they still loves you and didn't wanted you to make a mistake. But you were lucky and ended up with your love, not only with him but a medical doctor. I wish our hmong parents can understand and stop cheating when there's kids involved, but those stupid men just do whatever they want...Wow, what a coincidence your dad ended up in your care. I know your dad hurted your mom and you kids, but deep down he loves you all and wound never hurt you.. Forget the past, he's your father and you knew he may not be there forever, so hope you kids could forgive him and maybe you kids could do an arrangement to see him. It would be the greatest gift you kids could do for him before he dies...You don't have to do anything big for him, but just let him know where you all are now...He knows what he did wrong and Karma got him good for not loving your mom. Love him as a father but not more. Best of luck to you and your family.
I'm very proud of you Mai Kia. Life has a way to come in full circle to good ppl like you and your husband. Very proud you became a Dr and dealt with very difficult backgrounds with your dad. Glad you are a loving daughter to your mom. Your dad has to come to term with his wrongs.
Wowwww very inspiring story to all the parents out there always love and support your kids no matter what you brought them into this world if u cant support them than dont create them u never know what life will bring them to become successful!😊
Thank your father for belittling you, shaming you and abandoning you, your mom and siblings. His selfishness, disloyalty, and mistreatment fueled you to be the best that you can be today.
Niag neeg phem lwj liam ces yeej phem tsis yog tim ub tim no. Niag tsiaj ces yeej yog tsiag lam ho yog tsiag ces muab tua rau tsoom kwv tij noj ib pluag kom tag thiaj tsis tau hais.
Tus niag neeg txiv dev xuab li niag txiv tsev no mas cia kom nws tsis muaj chaw tuag xwb mas zoo dua, nws yog ib tug neeg uas tsis tab cuab xav mus ua txiv aub nyob teb chaws Nplog xwb tamsim no thiaj li npam nws.
Hmong father always prefers boy than girl. I have boys and girls, but I love my daughters as much as my sons. I have 2 doctors daughter. They love me as much as the sons or may be even more. Nowadays, love your children equally, no matter a boy or a girl. You reap what you sow.
Tu siab tag, xyov yuav thaum twg peb tej niam tej txiv mam Txawj sib hlub thiab hlub tej menyuam os lawv aw. Tsi yog tuaj kawm kev txawj ntse tebchaws nov hos tuaj kawm Liam xwb os Hmoob.
Cas koj yuav hais lus phem ua luaj rau tus ntxhais no nas zoo li koj cas tsis nyob twj ywm tim nplog zoo li koj tuaj nyob teb chaws no los nyhav av xwb os
So proud of you! You were lucky to have met your husband at that age to help lead you where you are today. As for your father, he deserves it. You don’t have to forgive him. Let him be by himself. He did it to himself.
What ur father did to u is unforgiveable. U & ur siblings have no obligation to have a relationship with him. He only acknowledges u now bcuz he has no one else to rely on.
Mloog mas tusiab kawg lis. 😢Txhob siab phem2 rau yus tus niam loj thiab tes meyuam nawb. We don't know what the future holds and when you may need them again. A good lesson to all parents especially the deadbeat fathers out there.
