Txiv Neej Tuag rau Poj Niam Lub Maib Haib. 1/1/23 

I don’t think anything is disgusting about this woman’s story. She isn’t bragging about herself. Her message is how to keep a man. Some of us here w negative comments, remember that our generation might not go thru this but most of our mothers went thru or is going thru because they don’t know. Some women really don’t know. It’s good information for many that don’t know so let’s all be respectful and take what information is useful for us and leave what isn’t. First day of 2023, let’s provide encouragement and support vibes!

I do not understand why people would even suggest that she is bragging and that she should be grateful her husband didn't k leave and divorce her. I applaud her for being strong and for having such an amazing attitude and the patience to put up with all the craps and bullshit her in laws have put her and her marriage through. His mother's continuation of setting him up with other women and constantly berating his wife and his sisters and uncle's and relatives telling him to divorce her and to marry a second wife. They went so far as being so disrespectful and disrespecting her by taking her husband and buying hookers to enticed him and taking him to Laos to meet their relatives daughters and single Hmong women there. They went as far as trying to get her drunk and taking him to screw around. Well, she's a good woman with a great heart. GOD DOESN'T LIKE UGLY. She's and strong enough to survived and not let it destroyed her marriage. Look what happened to their marriages after they got back, non stop bickering, arguing and eventually ended in divorced. He truly proved that he loved his wife and stood by her through thick and thin, in health an sickness, for better or worse, to have and hold til death do them part. Hmong people are so persistent and dismissing, complaining, whining, laying blamed and bad mouthing the women if they can not conceived but when the problem is the husband all they do is "o you have to have a big heart and be patient and love and understand and not divorce him. They won't let her divorce him or let her marry a second husband. Such narcissists A-hole mentality and controlling jerks. Well, 21st century women wake up. Y'all can survive without a man. You do not need a man for anything. You can do it because you'll end up doing it even if your married or not all by yourself anyway. If its something you can't than you can hire a professional to do the job. You can get pregnant without having a man. It's probably ten times better to be a single parent and not have to deal with all the bs and drama or stress and misery. So think about it.

Alot of comments disagreeing with this lady here. But I agreed with the person who send in the story. There's nothing embarrassing or shame about it. It may not work for you but it saved her marriage and that's what counts.

Sister - glad you know how to satisfy your man! That's great chemistry + connection + communication and true love. Cheers for you and hubby til death. 💃💃🙏🙏😍😍

Koj lucky tau tus siab zoo xwb os. Tau tus siab phem ces txeev koj ua tuag tsheej tsig los nws yeej mus nws li os

Your husband truly loves you. It’s not about the bedding part. You’re an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing your story.

Yog tus txiv muaj kev hlub tiag, txawm tsis muaj menyuam los txoj kev hlub yeej tseem nyob li qub mus ib txhis li.

You have to bribe him with freedom to sleep around for him to stay,… you have drain him first so he can’t do anything to other women,… and claims he loves you 😅. He isn’t still there bc of all that. He’s there simply bc he knows it’s wrong to cheat. Everyone knows adultery is wrong without needing someone to tell us bc God already put that in our conscience. Some just ignore it and do it anyways.

Wow. One of the best stories I’ve heard. Very honest and straightforward insight to all our Hmong women out there.

I don't think this guy really care about having children that's why he still stick around. If you married a man that really wants to have children, no matter how good you are he still going to leave you no matter.

I agree with you on all levels: firstly your spouse has to love you to win him over everything, secondly know your self worth and be self sufficient so you can be confident, third know his weakness and fulfill his needs and lastly live fearlessly. Good job!

Tsis muaj me nyuam los cem ib zaug ho muaj me nyuam coob los cem ib Zaug .xyov li lau.

I am a man, I don't think what you said is all true. If a man who love sib hlub sau txaj, it is true but if a man who really see a family value he will think differently. About menyuam, depend on what you two agreed. Friendship, cherish and relationship are to be included to strengthen the marries. I said this because kev hlub saum txaj will be bored in long time. Thanks for sharing your story.

Zoo tiag2 love it ❤

Good for you lady keep doing what you doing it work for you more power to you!😃

5 star service baby!!!! I'm not leaving!❤️😂❤️

Lucky u ur husband hasn't gone to the dark side. May the force be with u.

Story of Champions! The wife needs to learn this lady's doings. I need it nightly. 😆

Tus pojniam ua tau2 li koj, me tub me nyuam thiaj li ntshai los thawj thiab, vim koj twb muab lawv noj nqos tas lawm , muab ntxais heev dhau lawv tuag tag lawm os, poj niam heev!

Nothing beat home cooking. Full service required!😋

Tus viv ncaus aw tseev txawj sib ua, sib yaim ua qho quav tib si los yog tsis muaj me nyuam los tuav neb lub neej ces thaum kawg lub neej yeej yuav plam rau yav laus. Ua cas koj ho tsis mus doctor pab koj ma.

Vub nej cov maib ko txhob hais heev heev lawm vim neeg hais ntau npaum cas los yeej tsis muaj zaj txawv li ua ib yam xwb os zaj hmo ntuj xwb leej twg los yeej txawj tsis thas muab koj zaj los hais koj tsuas khav koj tus kheej xwb tsis muaj leej twg txawj tshaj mes kas cov nam paub lawm leej twg xav kawm mam mus saib nam paub xwb os thov nej txaj muag thiab lau

I think your mil and bil are wrong for encouraging your husband to get a new wife. Love and understand each other are more importent. In this country, there is no guaranty that your children are going to take care of you, when you're old. Im glad that you have the ability to control him.

Thanks for sharing your story. My aunt and uncle has a similar story without the intimacy part. Aunty txim txiaj dhau lawm so uncle, being deprived for so long, had an affair. You love your husband with all your heart body and soul. He's fulfilled in every way and loves you more back.

Hahh dag pob..yog txiv neej ua tsuag2 tas cia li pw ntsiag to ces poj niam mus ntsib tus tshiab ces poj niam twb khiav thiab ne. Los lus tias. Sib ua. No ces 2 leeg yuav tsum tawm dag zog mas thiaj xav sib hlub hos

Sister, agree with you that the reason your husband is still around because he loves you. If having kids is his main goal, he would be gone a long time ago.

Tus niam tsev awb koj tus txiv tsis tuag ntawm koj lus neej mas, koj txho rawm zoo 2siab os thiab kham2 theeb os..

Hoyo koj niag txiv yeej tsis ntshaw menyuam os. Txawm tus pojniam tiam zoo npaum cas los thaum ntshaw menyuam lawm ces yeej mus. Hais txog saum txaj ces nws yeej train tau li nws train koj os. But we'll just give you a clap coz that's all you can brag about.

Koj tus txiv yog tus 1 ntawm 100 ntawv xwb os thiab koj muag hmoo xwb os cas yuav qhuas koj tus kheej ua lua li os poj hmoob aw

Kuv tsis qhuas hais koj keej tshaj ib tsoom poj Niam li o...tabsis thov qhuas koj tus txiv siab ncaj siab zoo xwb...tsis yog koj kov nws es nws thiaj li hlub koj..tabsis koj tus txiv nws tsis yog niag neeg tshob cuab xwb poj hmoob...koj tsis yog tus zoo ...tabsis koj tus txiv yog tus zoo xwb...nyob hauv lub qab ntuj no ntshe tsuas muaj tib tug txiv neej ko thiaj li siab Ncaj xwb o poj hmoob e

The ones bitching in here obvious did not get her point. Ya wanna talk about how disgusting she is but in fact it's damn 2 way street in relationships. She is talking bout a man who is willing to stay with her n what she does to keep their marriage alive. If u were her n wanna sit back n cry n play victim n be a man hater then just say so. At least she was willing to give her marriage her all n have the balls to tell her story. Stop with the righteous and victim mentality.

Me koj niam es....txiv neej ces tib lub maib xwb o, txhob Maj zoo zoo siab o, tsis tau yog koj txog hnub koj muab av npog nws qhov muag. Koj tus txiv kuv ntseeg tau tias nws tsis tau ntsib tus nws nyiam xwb, hnub twg nws ntsib lawm koj txawj keej saum txaj chaw npaum cas los hnub ntawd koj tag nqis rau nws o. Txiv neej ces tib tug lej xwb o ..hlub li yus hlub tau xwb tsam ces muaj hnub nws mus ntawd yus hnub ntawd yus xub npo pas ua ntej.

Not always true. Some guys will leave you no matter what you do. Your husband still love you that’s why he is still with you only.

Hmoob 99 feem pua hmoob lub npe Yog dev Lub neej lub siab yog Dab Ntxwg nyoog thiaj li khwv siab phem tshaj plaws

Txhob tsawm maj maj ntseeg koj tus txiv os, Yog nws hlub Koj tiag ces yeej tsis nrog niam ntiav pw uake. Txhob ntseeg txiv neej lub tag tag

I dont know why people even submit these stories in....waste of time listening

Txiv Dev 🐕 Tuag 6 poj niam lub qhov Pim xwb!!…Hahaha👏👏👏👏👏

Your husband went to vegas and slept with two escorts, and you weren't even mad? Dang. But like you said if a man is going to love you, he will love you regardless of any issues. Glad your husband loves you that much. Great story.

Koj ma 1 li lawm lua zoo tiag22 lawm os koj na

Poj niam hmoob yog Tsis muaj me nyuam ma. Zoo aim tshaj Cov niag hluas nkauj mos22 tim nplog os

Lady I like your story.. it’s true what you say about men. All men are about the same. Men once they lose their man hood they are nothing.. keep doing what’s good for your relationship.👍

Soon she will leave this U-man!!..Ok.

Omgosh. Why is there so many preaching on XOXO these days. Seems like everyone is professional at courting each other now days.

Cov niag nkauj hmoob nplog tsis keej yaim nawb lawv aw...

Why is it still taboo to talk about a couple having great sex? I mean isn’t every couple spontaneous and adventurous? 😊. You’re an intimate couple, it’s part of being married - you get to do this and with no limits. It’s best when you don’t pretend to be prim and proper like the old ladies who have their hair in buns and thing they’re all that. She’s a no drama type of gal who can love and take on the ups and downs of life. She sees herself valuable therefore he sees it.

She’s a woman who is confident in who she is, she knows what she wants, she makes it clear to be truthful and honest with her, no drama, if he isn’t than she can face him leaving - even if it hurts her. She’s doing exactly what she and he wants in their relationship to keep both happy and to not let lies and deceit be part of their lives. She’s a woman who also wants her beef too, why not? We too deserve great sex and orgasms. She’s isn’t going to stand for the peer pressure of others because they don’t matter in their intimate or financial lives. She stresses - if he loves you, go all out. Don’t leave a drop of love left. That is, if he loves you body, soul spirit, all of you. She’s valuable to him as he is to her.

Zaj neej neeg no haib kawg thov qhuas tus niam tsev no

Very good lesson and very true: but let me clarify that you held him with "love making" and not just sex. Sex, itself, can be very raw, crude, and emotionless - it's merely an ego sensation. But when you couple it with kindness, tenderness, and surrender, you create unique magic that only you two can have. Be open, talk about everything, make meaning, and always be vigilant so not to stray. (And I'm very sorry that you cannot have children of your own. Please consider adoption.)

Nej muab qhov ncauj noj pim noj qau xwb es thaum noj mov ne nej cov qau cov pim puas noj tau mov thiab

Txhob khav ov...nws tsis tau saj tau sab nraum xwb os.

Agreed sister. If someone love you, they will love u no matter what.

Wow! I give you credit for owning him in bed, but honestly, he only loves you cause he gets it from home and from everywhere else he goes. He gets to stay married to you while he's also messing around with other women. I wouldn't be able to do this, I give you props for being able to do this. To me, this is just as bad / sad as him marrying another wife/ niam yau. If the tables were turned, he would never allow you to pay for sex in Vegas. Whatever it is that's keeping your marriage alive, I truly hope you are deeply happy inside.

It’s not about the sex, if a man doesn’t love you he won’t get it up!! No matter what you do, he will just be irritated by you bugging him!!

What a waste of my time. She’s just bragging about herself to make herself feel good. Deep down, you still hurting

Kuv mas luag2 tsis tau li os

Good advice. I agree with this sister you have to do whatever it takes to keep your marriage interesting, don't be like those stories the wife only change herself after there is heartbreaks in the marriage. For those that think she is bragging about herself you have totally missed her point.

I can’t even finish this story - like a lesson in sex education 🤷🏻‍♀️.. to keep a man …

Kuv muab ib txoj neej neeg los qhia: peb tus yawm yij mas siab ncaj siab zoo thiab qhia siab tiag tiag rau peb tus muam, sib yuav tau 30 xyoo lawm xav tias yuav tsis muaj hnub tus yawm yij yuav ntxeev siab...muaj hnub peb ib tug tub xiam es tso peb tus nyab tseg peb tus yawm yij cia mus qaug hlub peb tus nyab. Hnub peb tus muam paub mas nws yuav laug tuag....I tell you, txhob Maj Maj CIA siab thiab tias keej keej saum txaj o. Tseg yus lub ze kom zoo zoo nkauj thiab tsam muaj hnub nws tsis hlub koj li peb tus muam ces koj yuav tuag ib yam o. Don't believe that he will love you until you know he is 6 feet under. It's not about great sex, it's about txiv neej lub siab xwb o.

Niam laus koj hais yog kawg nkaus li os... nrog koj zoo siab tias koj yeej ua tau kom koj tus txiv hlub ntxiv... rau qhov peb tsis pab peb tus kheej li koj ces lawv yeej yuav fav siab tiag2. Xum ua tag nrho lub peev xwm rau yus tus txiv thib 1

Ohyo xav kom ua tau li ko xwb tiag, tu siab yug los yus tsis yog hom ko ces kawg mag nrauj xwb, mag nrauj los kav liam vim twb tsis ntshaw txiv neej lawm es ....

It's ok... good for you sister... life is short... just wait till it's time.

What a disgusting story. So basically, you’re lying to yourself so he doesn’t get rid of you. I’m celibate, I have no interest in any nasty things you did.

Koj tus txiv yeej paub tiag nws yog tus tsi muaj me nyuam es nws thiaj nyob nrog koj xwb o niam tsev aw!!!!

Koj hais yog kawg os tus ne sister kav tsij qhia tuaj rau sawv daws tus tug xav kawm los ho kawm los cawm lub neej xwb. Txhua yam ua yog ua los tuav lub lub neej xwb.

Koj lucky nkaus xwb os koj niag txiv ruam xwb yog lwm tus txiv neej ces tseev koj txawj yaim txawj ntxais

Ooooo

kuv xav kuj tsis yog tej koj hais tag tag thiab os...qhov loj tiag ces koj tus txiv yeej hlub koj tiag xwb os.

Yog Tim koj ces koj txhob ua npau suav pom nws lawm o mog

Why you likes to talked about others story. You should talk about your previous husband why you left him with couple kids, and about all the hospital bills 💵 that you and husband owes from your parents from Laos 🇱🇦.?

Sister, you are kidding yourself!! How about we turn the table- a damn husband needs to give me full financial support where I go on monthly salon, vacations and also provide me a maid and cook at home OR a I will leave him for a sugar daddy. I also expect emotional talks daily- minimum 30 minutes. I would like to work on my vision board and he better be able to afford a surrogate mom for our babies so I don’t lose my figure. Lady, your story is teaching ladies to be subordinate and put up with Hmong men’s unfaithfulness and misogynist ways. Wake up!!

You are a great woman, my dream woman would be like you.

Koj kuj ntse kawg lawm thiab mas.

One of the boring stories plz stop sending these kind of stories plz

Cas yuav tham tau nco qub hluas nkauj ua luaj

Koj hais yog kawg tab sis I give credit to your husband too. There are many faithful men as well too. I know Hmong men have bad reputation but I know plenty of faithful hmong men. And yes, you both have to hold on and keep the fire burning

Sister, no matter what you continued to do you. There is still surrogacy. Just because you can not carry your eggs and his sperm is still good. Go that route you can still have a child. If your husband truly loves you he wouldn't cheat or listen to all his family. You both have a good heart. Just love each other. Very true if the shoe was on his feet his relatives would be telling you to have a big heart and forced you to stay with him. Yes, it would only be fair that in situations as that we women should be able to remarry a second husband to have children. 21st century Hmong do not need Hmong men to do a damn thing. They're losers anyway, majority of them are good for nothing, they have nothing to offer or bring to the table. Women are more empowered and independent.

Poj niam ham tsis die rau txiv neej lub hno thiab mas-

Wow koj haib heev li. Xav mloog part 2 thiab nawb.

Thank you, sister, for sharing your story and your tips. May it help those that needs it.

Tsis yog koj tsawj os yog koj niag tsiv tsis tswm puas thiab tsis yog tsiv neej yawg

Koj muaj hmoo kawg uas koj tau ib tug tsiv ruam tsuas paub koj ib leeg xwb

vim koj.txawj txawj ntxais ne ces nws kuj tsis kam rauj koj xwb mas

ua raug koj muab koj lub neej tuaj qhia rau sawv daug tau kawm. zoo heev ua raug os

Kv yog tub mloog thib ib

Koj puas ua li rau ntshuab teev na ????

Yog kawg lawm os Me viv ncaus aw

Embarrassing story

Koj hais yog lawm os

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Why do you have to do so much in bed to keep him? I say do whatever you know as a normal life which will last longer. Because overly do in bed you can’t keep him for long. If a man wants to remain with you there’s no needed to do so much. He would still be with you. You need to have more confidence in yourself. Woman needs to change this thinking. If he wants to remain with you you don’t need to do so much. Have more confidence in yourself!

This story is sickening. There’s no need to come brag. If your husband truly love you as you claim, he would never step outside of your marriage.

Lady please....You should be grateful he doesn't want to leave you. Don't come out here and brag about it! It's down right embarrassing!!