How can this son choose his loser biological donor over his mother? What an ingrate! So if your half bros don't love you, go to church. No need to choose them or your donor who denied you! Take your mom to church and forget both sides! Omg, the mother suffered for nothing to raise this ingrate! Broke her heart! Your new clan will never accept you either and your donor will die, leaving you alone and unwanted again. Wrong choice, bro! Wrong choice. You will have to regret your choice.
@Yang Thao always choose the one who chose you. Loser biological donor never chose him. If that man not have only 8 girls, he wouldn't even look at this kid again. He only remembered the kid bc he had no son. Ingrate son to his mother. Tsis tsim nyog lerj niam ntsub tus tub no li.
@@mlee6092 Yes sister, your reasoning is right. I just think that he needs to realize it for himself. And I hope that he does not get coerce into something that he does not understand. What is worst is ignorance and the hate that it can produce. (Thanks for for the discussion.)
Cias nws mus nws mas yog koj hlub koj tus tub nas Cias nwsc ho muaj mus Es ho tus hlub nws thiab koj txawm yog niam los koj twb muaj coob2 tus tub nas tus viv ncau
As a mom, it hurts you because he is the man who denied you and your baby. As a son, it hurts because he had no dad or siblings to love him. As kids, we want both parents loves and affections. I hope that the both of you heal as time goes by.
Peb txoj kev ntsuag tu siab mad tu tiag2. Yus nrog luag nyob luag yeej tsis hlub. Yus los muab luag hu ua txiv mas txoj kev tu siab thiaj txawj tu o kwv tij. Kuv los caum tej txiv ntxawm es yus muab luag hu ua txiv no es luag twb kam o luag yuav kom yus hu txum2 phaj mas tu siab kawg o.
@@shonglo3117koj hais yog kawg txhob tu siab vim ua tsis li cas lawm yus tsis neeg leej twg hlub yus ces kawg yus rov hlub yus tus kheej xwb txhob tos leejj twg li kev xwb leej twg hlub yus ces yus hlub tus ntawv xwb luag tsis hlub los kav Liam yus thiaj tsis tshuav lawv nuj nqi zog nawv
Please come back and update us on how wonderful his new life with his biological dad, step-mom, and step-sisters is. I would LOVE to hear how much they love and accepted him and his family. I would LOVE to see him prove many of us wrong.
If you a son, you will feel different. He need a peace and where he is belong. It’s not step sisters. It’s half sisters. If step brothers and sisters, it’s like his older siblings that has different dad and mom.
This son, you don't like your step brothers from your mom's side, what makes the step sisters from your dads side any different? They're all step siblings, you get along with the ones who get along with you. It's not that deep 🤦🏻♀️
To the son, you should love your mom and stay with her. You don’t need to have the half brothers as you have your own family. Instead, you left your mom to a father who never wants you until he cannot have his own son. You should know that this father would never contact you if he has his own son with his wives.
We need to give the right to choose personal faith. One must decide for themself without other's prejudices. This does not mean that information sharing and caring is disallowed. But, it does mean that coercion or conning intentions are unfair. To the mother of the story, let your son go and keep love and respect as strong as ever. He needs to know all of his family, and he will decide what is right for himself. Keep in mind that in the search of understanding and acceptance, we must not give into centric pressures. Our mind must be open, free, and fair. We need schooling if our ethics and morals are not etiquette for social interactions. Please encourage the son to be wise in the journey.
Kj txoj kev tus siab g loj npaum koj niam txoj yg kj niam g coj kj lo ua tau neeg tsim txiaj ce kj txiv yeej g lees koj rov qab li ma nrg kj niam mob2 siab 😭😭😭
how sad...now a days we don't need anyone but the one that loves us, was there for us, and will continue to be there for us. this story definitely teaches the sacrifice a mother makes and the lack of love and respect she received in return. it's really such a shame esp for a son who knows tradition
Such a sad story. To the son, remember that your mom will always love you most and will always be there for you. Through thick and thin. Your father didn’t want you and all of a sudden he wants you.. that’s a sign already. I’m sorry but you owe your mom. Your half siblings who your were brought up with will love you more that your fathers daughters.
To the son, remember who loves you. Don’t hold grudge on your step brothers. Don’t go back to your dad, he abandoned you and didn’t want you. You betrayed your mother. She stood by your side and protected you from the person who didn’t want you. Your father only wants you for his own sake, he didn’t want you when he wanted to have fun. You should love your mother. Don’t be desperate for love, your mother is the only one who loves you.
Agreed to every point that the mother is the love of this dear son's life. At a young age, it is perfectly fine to be with the mother. But at the end of the the life, some very unfortunate son like this story will end up feeling lonely due to all experienced he went through. It is hard decision for this son. But he will need his biological father especially if he is still alive just so the son can have respect. I, too, lost my dad. I wish one day I would find him. Too bad, he is not alive, so finding him is impossible. Only if we went through like this son, we would understand. Sigh. It's OK to forgive the pass and move on. No life nor relationship is perfect. Plus, this story is only from the mother's version. There are still missing pieces. We need more from the son.
My biological dad showed up at my door out of the blue, wanting to reconnect after 25 years. He divorced my mom when I was just a couple months old. He was nothing to me but a stranger and I cut ties with him after that. People who choose to not be in your life don’t deserve to come back.
If i the son I'll take my mom's words. Because she already foom tus father lawm. That's why he dont have any son. I'll also still love the dad as will. But I'll ignore the brothers and sisters that dont love me. I'll stay with my mom until the last breaths of her. Es nqa kuv niam lub taub hau uantej tso. After that ??
As the son, it would have been wiser to disown the brothers and the dumbazz father, like they disowned him. He should see the heart ache of his mother, the maltreatment and disrespect the father displayed. He should see the disrespect portrayed by the brothers. Fact is he don’t need any of them and should be faithful to his mom. I would rather save my mom’s tears and heartbreak.
Staying with the biological dad is as bad as staying with the step dad because they don’t even love him either .. he’s old enough , let him chose .. everybody make mistakes in life especially when you young and dumb so let him go find out himself …
It's very easy for people who haven't been through this type of situation to say don't fo this, don't do that and don't go here and there unless you've been through this treatment from half siblings. It's the kind of pain that you can't just shove aside each time. My biological brother and I've been through this kind of treatment from our step-dad and half siblings from when we were younger and still treated this way at my step dad's funeral and after his funeral.The older we get, the less tolerance we have to continue to allow them to treat us this way. I will not allow this kind of stress to disrupt my life, my sanity, or my husband and kids. I stopped socializing with some of them, stopped going to family functions, and pretended that everything fine to put a show for other people. I defriend some of them on Facebook because they don't deserve to see how I'm doing or watch my kids grow and their accomplishments in life. My brother connected with our biological dad side of family and went back to having that last name.
I feel sad for you, because you lost twice to the rotten man who stole your virtue and your son from you. It's wrong of your son to choose his bio father over you when you were the one who gave birth to him and cared & loved him his entire life while his bio father wanted absolutely nothing to do with either one of you. It still blows my mind that your son chose a family of strangers over you and his step-siblings & half-siblings. Did your son not consider that his bio father would have NEVER reached out if he had other sons? The need to be loved by a father was what drove your son to make the decision he made, but he's forgetting that his bio father never loved him, only need him now that the bio father is old. I have a feeling that your son will regret his decision in the future, and will find an even more difficult time figuring out which family he belongs to, especially since he hurt and offended the family/clan he grew up with by leaving them and instead chose the family & clan who wanted nothing to do with him when he was conceived.
Your birth father didn’t want you from the beginning. He didn’t care if you were a son or daughter. Your mother suffered a lot raising you without a husband. Your stepfather was there to support your mother, which allowed you to be raised by both of them. Your dad only wants to connect with you, because he doesn’t have a son. Know your true beginning and love your mom. What a stab in her back from both you and your birth father.
I’m sure if the son grew up in a loving home with his step dad and step siblings he probably wouldn’t choose this route. The mom can choose to not forgive the dad but she should forgive her son for wanting a relationship with his dad. She even admitted herself he wasn’t loved and welcome by his step siblings and father. The son is old enough to know and make decisions for himself.
-if the bio dad did have sons he wouldn't even care abt the son. -what makes the son think the other step siblings will love him more than the ones he grew up with? -people who want to fit in somewhere will always be tu siab... why do you care. If they don't want me, less problems, less drama. -love the one who was there for you from the beginning. Never leave them behind bc without them you wouldn't be where you are. -this son is nkim zog
So sad for the mother tus Tub no xav deb dav zog lawm nws tsis nco xav kom ze2 txog nws niam os. Yeej paub tias hurts peb txhua2 tus feeling os yom. Vim tus Tub siab, ntshaw22 kwv tij dhau thiaj tsis nco txog nws evil Txiv and evils pog yawg thaum ub os.
To the son: koj mas tsis tsim nyog koj niam tiv kev txom nyem tu koj li os me tub aw. Koj txiv yug koj twb hurted koj niam neb txaus txaus lawm los koj loj tuaj koj tseem hurt koj niam thiab. Zoo li koj phem nkaus li koj txiv yug koj lawm sub as. Koj saib kev hlub ntawm koj cov siblings thiab koj txiv yug koj loj tshaj plaws dua li koj niam tus uas tiv kev txom nyem yug koj hlub koj tu koj. Pab koj niam tu siab dhau lawm os ntuj aw, niag tub dab tsi cas tsis mloog hais li.
Ua cas peb ua neej nyob es txiv neej yuav ua kom zoo rau nws tog xwb, me tub nkim koj niam lub zog yug koj thiab tu koj hlub koj kawg li, koj yog tus neeg tsis muaj siab ntsws koj thiaj rov taw tuam ntuj rau kj niam mus rau niag txiv dev ntawv vim koj xav2 ua kom khib2 koj cov kwv tij tab sis koj twb tsis paub Tia's yog niag txiv dev ntawv txhob npam ces nws yeej tsis lees paub koj lm, koj ua rau koj niam quaj poob kua muag vim nws mob siab koj lub neej yuav tsis zoo thiab
This Son needs to remember the reason why his father is looking for him is to carry his head, nothing more. Where was the FATHER many years ago, he's now appearing cause hes old....
Niam tais aw koj tus tub lub siab nyoos ib yam li nws txiv thiab os pab koj tu siab kawg yog vim li cas nws tsis ntshai npam li lov koj yug tau nws tom teb xwb nws txiv yeej tsis kam yuav nws na koj tu thaum yug tau los txog hnub no es nws txiv na hnub no mam hu nws xwb es nws ho mus lawm na siab phem tshaj plaws li os 😢
Cas tsis tsim nyog li lau. Tub aws yog koj yuav chim thiab tu siab ces tu siab rau koj txiv yug koj, twb yog tim nws es koj lub neej thiab tu siab. Koj xav tias lawv yuav hlub koj tamsi hlub thaum tshiab hlub qhov tau zog noj xwb. Muaj ib hnub twg lawv tsis hlub koj lawm koj rov los ces hnub ntawv koj niam tsis nyob tos koj lawm os.
yog nws yug muaj tub ces nws twb tsis nug koj moo ciaj los tuag nws yug tsis tau thiaj yuav koj rov qab kom thaum tuag es muaj tub xwb hlub koj niam kawg
Niam laus aw..kv tus txim mus raug txim lawm es..kv ua lub neej tu.tu..Siab heev kv xav muab kv lub neej sau tuaj rau kj tham ua ib txoj dab neeg thiab os😭😭😭
I would never accept him as my father. Yog koj lub neej zoo ces nws thiaj li nug koj xwb os me tub. Yog koj lub neej tsis zoo nws yeej tsis nug koj moo li os. Es koj yuav coj koj lub zog mus rau lawv noj es koj niam nev.
For the son: tu tub no tsi txawj xav, ca koj twb txawj tu siab siab rau lwm tus neeg npaum kos ca koj ho tsi txawj tu siab rau koj txiv. Koj txiv twb tsi xaiv koj thaum koj niam muaj koj. Yog koj paub tu siab npaum koj mam koj twb tu siab rau koj txiv yog tu thib 1 lawm
Tus tub koj yuamkev loj lawm lauj ....koj niam twb tu koj muaj neej tag lawm tsis need any one to love you, koj hlub koj poj Niam menyuam xwb txaus lawm ....luag tsis hlub yus ces yus tsis tshuav luag nqi xwb ....your dad never love you at the beginning already. Koj Niam tug txiv laus2 tau ib pab menyuam txawv koj tau lub neej nyuaj 2 siab los vim nws hlub2 koj tseg koj cia, tiv neeg thuam poob ntsej muag tag vim hlub koj xwb. Pauj koj Niam txiaj ntsim yuan kev lawm.
To the son koj yuam kev loj kawg nkawd tus txiv neej ko xav tau koj lub zog noj xwb nws tsi hlub koj .vim li cas koj tseem ntxeev siab tau rau koj niam tus yug koj tu koj thiaj loj hlob los laus li ko.
Your son will find out that the family he left you for (his biological father and sisters) will not accept him 100% as he had hoped for. His mother is not their mother, he will still be half siblings except he will be with the father who never wanted him from the beginning.
If they leave him out now because of their excuses, please know they will leave his children out too. We walk his childrens’ shoes right now. It’s very sad and when we cry, we also cry for our dads pain that he walked this path his whole life.
The son want to belong, he wants to be belong to a root. Whether his biological father loves him or not, as long as he knows that he belongs to someone somewhere, it makes him whole in spirits. He didn’t leave his mother, he’s still there.m, he still loves her. It’s just he want to accept and be his fathers son.
Agreed to every point that the mother is the love of this dear son's life. At a young age, it is perfectly fine to be with the mother. But at the end of the the life, some very unfortunate son like this story will end up feeling lonely due to all experienced he went through. It is hard decision for this son. But he will need his biological father especially if he is still alive just so the son can have respect. I, too, lost my dad. I wish one day I would find him. Too bad, he is not alive, so finding him is impossible. Only if we went through like this son, we would understand. Sigh. It's OK to forgive the pass and move on. No life nor relationship is perfect. Plus, this story is only from the mother's version. There are still missing pieces. I'd rather hear it from the son, himself.
It's not betrayal. Betrayal is to go silently. He told his reasons and he thank the clan with a dinner. His siblings betrayed him and his mom just wants him to suck it up. His mom didnt even live with him and chose the youngest son to live with. She already made a decision as well.
Txhob tu siab os viv ncaus aw hmoob tsis muaj kev kawm es thiaj hais yus xwb me nyuam hav zoo yog me nyuam tsim txiaj me nyuam ntse yog koj txawj cob thiab hlub na es kav tsij hlub tsis yog lawv yug lawv tsis hlub Los yus yog niam yus mam hlub niam yuav tsum muaj peev xwm hlub kom tau nawb
Sister that’s mean your son don’t love you he don’t care about you he care the wrong person that denied you and him long ago let him be he will know someday
Your son deserve to be happy. Your ex failed to be a father in the beginning and he should be blame for the things he put you through but remember this is your son life and his choice. You are a great mom. I’m sure he know he loves you well. I hope your son find his heart to forgive his step brother and the step brother find in there heart to forgive your son because he deserves all the lives in this worlds that he never gotten or receive from both parents. ❤
Hlub tus niam tais no kawg li os raug luag cem luag ntxub yug me nyuam nraum zoov tsis muaj leej twg hlub. Hais rau tus tub koj txiv yog tus muab riam nkaug koj niam nplooj siab thaum pib hos koj tseem muab riam tsuav koj niam nplooj siab ntsoog zaum ob xav kom zoo thaum koj lub taub hau luaj nrig leej twg thiaj yog tus cawm koj tej zaum yuav npam ib yam koj txiv thiab tsis yog tsis muaj tub tab sis tej zaum yuav poob rau koj cov me nyuam nawb.
Yog koj muaj ob qhov situation. Ib qhov yog bad. Ib qhov yog less bad. Tse koj xum xaiv qhov ua less bad. Tus tub no mas keej xav kawg nkaus. Pab hlub tus brother no kawg os.
Hais tau tu siab Heev thov hais rau tus tub ntawm zaj dab neej koj tau hlub koj niam ua tus yug koj es txiv twb tsis yuav koj niam n'eb thaum koj tseem nyob hauv koj niam lub plab los lawm koj yuav hlub koj niam tshaj koj txiv vim tias txiv yeej tsis tau tu koj koj txiv foom tsis npam koj tab sis niam foom ces yuav npam koj yog koj twb txom nyem txaus lawm mas twb tsis nyog koj yuav khiav tawm ntxawm koj niam mus kiav xeem li ko yog koj yuav mus los hnub twg koj niam Tuag lawm koj mam mus thiaj yog thiaj tsim nyog qhov koj tu.koj pob zeg no koj niam tu siab mob siab npaum cas n'a koj txiv twb saib tsis tau koj niam muab koj niam dag muaj mi nyuam tag los twb Xav yuav es zeg koj niam tu tau koj loj hlob tiav txiv mam tuaj txeeb koj mas tsis yog lawm koj Xav kOM zoo lwm hnub koj niam Tuag koj twb laig tsis tau koj lawm es puas tsim nyog koj niam tu koj maj hos nyob li koj txiv nav nws twb tsis tu koj nws Tuag koj ho yuav mus laig nws es tseg koj niam no tsis yog lawm nawv koj txiv nws cov tub hlub koj li cas koj yuav li ntawv xwb vim nej tsis koom niam koom txiv nas hos cov nrog koj koom niam lawv yeej yuav hlub koj thiab ho cov ntxhais ua koj yug koj tej zaum yeej hlub koj thiab tab sis nco ntsoo tias yus niam thiaj hlub yus xwb dhau yus niam lawm yeej tsis muaj neeg hlub yus li yus niam thiaj yog yus tus phooj ywg zoo tshaj nyob rau qab ntuj no yus yuav Tuag los yeej tsis kheev thiaj Xav cawm yus xwb tiam tsis nrog koj koom niam yug ces yeej hlub tsis ti txha li thiab yuav tau hlub2 koj niam vim nws ib leeg yog tu koj hlub koj xwb tsis muaj leej twg yuav los pab nw ib tsam los ib pliag li muab Xav los tsim nyog mus nrog koj txiv nyob mus tu nws muas ua yug nws li tus koj yuav hlub yuav tu yuav pub rau noj ces yog koj niam ib leeg xwb hnub no koj ua nws tu siab Heev rau koj li os pab hlub2 koj niam Heev li niam phauj aw txhob tu siab tshuav tsawg tus hlub yus los nrog cov ntawv nyob Fab lwm tiam mam los nrhiav dua tus txij nkawm zoo es mam los tu tub ki dua thiaj tsis muaj kev tu siab li tiam no
Me tub aw yog koj txiv yug muaj tub ces hnub no nws twb tsis nug koj moo os cas koj tsis paub tu siab es koj tseem mus nkag nws lub tawb thiab os yog ib yam li koj niam hais hnub twg tsis muaj koj niam lawm koj yuav ua li cas koj ua mas koj twb ciav koj niam lawm thiab ces hnub twg koj niam tuag ces koj tsis tuaj los tau lawm thiab os vim koj ua koj niam mob siab thiab khib siab tas ib tiam neej os😢
As an adult child of divorce, don’t make your children choose. You will only end up losing them. Let them love as they see they are loved. We’re adults. We know who loves us and who don’t. If dad is treating me good now, I’ll treat him good. If mom treats me good now, I’ll treat her good. If bro is treating me good, I’ll treat him good. Even us blood siblings forget to call each other for invites. Your son is just too emotional and understandably so. Let him have his space but continue to reach out. In the end, when he finds his siblings didn’t give up on him, he will come back around. Right now he is too hurt.
Hais rau tus tub nawb yog koj xav tau ib lub neej zoo ces koj tsis txhob ntxeev siab rau koj txiv tus uas lees txais koj thiab koj niam neb thaum neb tsis muaj neeg lees yuav neb tabsis tus txiv neej no txais neb thiab hlub los txog hnub koj tseem muab ib qhov nyuag teem me me los ua kev tu siab es rov mus thawj niag txiv dev uas twb tsis yuav koj thaum koj twb tsis tau tsheej neeg yog koj ntxeev siab rau koj niam thiab koj txiv tu koj ces koj lub neej yeej tsis muaj hnub zoo koj txawm hais tau koj los koj niam lub kua muag poob ces koj yeej yuav tsis tau lub neej zoo nawb kavtsij rov mus nrog koj niam thiab koj cov kwvtij nyob ua ntej koj txoj sia tu nawb tsis li ntawd ces koj yeej yuav npam xwb2 li nawb
I'm related to this story somewhat as step son and daughter in-law. I did not get the same love and respect as their biological sons and especially, as a daughter in-law. I didn't understand clearly the reason back then, but now, I clearly understand. They will never love you the same as they do to their biological children. At the end, everything makes sense.
So sad… my husband and I are currently going through the same situation. A his wife, I can relate to this story and it really hit home strongly. 😭😭😭😭 being unwanted as a human being is the most painful part of life.
Brothers one last comment I'm glad you are with your real father side of the family I know you did it for your children's future that is all that matters at this point. no one understands your sorrow of being mistreated despite your mom holding grudge she doesn't understand that she ignored while that step father and step siblings and half siblings mentally physically and verbally abused your SON. you thought of your grudge think of your son happiness OKAY. Hmong clan pride is evil. Good choice brother for holding your ground you knew the Hmong culture well and the nasty game that why you left to your real father side family. I support you 100%
The son made the right choice to go back his clan. Issues between parents should not be binded to him. Both parents were selfish then, and still now. But, I am glad he grew up to be a good man. He has a righteous, and strong heart.
Just my thinking...It's really important who raised you up cause that was the time you need them the most of all. You shouldn't hurt your mother...You'll always have problems no matter where and who you with...it will just be different...you just have to be strong....PROBLEMS ARE EVERYWHERE WITH EVERYONE...JUST FIND A WAY TO DEAL WITH THEM.....
