Understand The Pain The Unfaithful Partner Experiences After An Affair 

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Totally true

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@@smithwilliams545 thank you for this info ... I will use it for sure !!!

I agree!

I attest to that!! Both my Great Mother and Grandmother both mistreated their elderly spouses to the end based in the hurt of being cheated on

😢 I know. I feel that.

Yes, i have the same sentiment🙁... i believe this will only apply if someone wanted to stay in a relationship. It would take a lot of effort to demonstrate love like setting aside your pride and ego while hurting and in pain which sometimes we think we're loosing self-worth and self-respect all at the same time. But i guess that's what it is... Sometimes it is easier to show hate than to show love.

Haydee, I completely agree. I cannot relate at all. It just sounds like a cop-out. Where was all this before they stepped out? After you've had your fun..."oh, I regret it"... bs. You already got what you wanted and you can't unexperience your pleasures...so now you want the relationship so you say what you need to say to get what you want yet again. Just stay single and have a different partner every weekend if that's what is important to you.. at least that is honest and you aren't lying or hurting anyone else.

Haydee Johnson Beautifully said!

Join the fellowship of His (Jesus) suffering. If you walk in love you will suffer persecution. Can you have the compassion of Jesus and surrender to His calling?

Or they just want to wash over it like it never happened.Patronizing at its finest.Do the unfaithful truly believe we want to be "stuck" in this pain? For heavens sake, we do not! This was done to us!

Im going through it now i just find out few days ago it been going on for 4 years i been married almost 11 years i been the one faithful all this time.

3 years later and im in the same place as you guys live is great

What if he had just left? Just gone… your barely realize what just got burned onto your soul, when you walk in on him… naked with another woman, would that be better or just as horrible? Hypothetically speaking, of course…🤓☹️

I agree. Especially if it's done over and over.

Thank you

Let me share this on here cuz it might benefit someone going through hard times in his or her relationship. I was going through terrible times with my partner. I suspected he was cheating and I needed proof of this to back my claims. I couldn’t continue with this. All I wanted was to be sure of what was going on before I make any decision. I don’t make blind conclusions; I always want to see the proof for myself. I took the pain of searching for a professional IT expert who can help me spy and track all communication applications on his phone ( WhatsApp,Text messages, call logs and email). I was able to meet an amazing hacker named Webhubghost (@) gmaiilcom his hack services was professionally executed. All the hack was done remotely. He didn’t need physical access to the phone before it was hacked. Under 6 hours, the hack was done. Between these 6 hours, I was given updates about the progress of the hack work. This gave me rest of mind; it was very easy to trust his work. You can reach out to him at Webhubghost (@) gmaiilcom If you are interested in any of his services which ranges from phone hacking to social media account hacking, he will definitely deliver a perfect and swift service for you. I recommend Ben as the best option now because he is fast and reliable. I promised him to share his reputation across all online platforms for getting this done for me at last cause his services are untraceable and efficient not like those fakers I met previously. Email: WEBHUBGHOST (@) Gmailcom Text/WhatsApp: +19044177214.....,,..

AGREED

Yes but the uncomfortable truth of this is that usually both people play a role in the person desiring to move on or experience something else. After a longer enough time ppl take action on that feeling if the problems aren’t resolved in the relationship.

Well said

No, the unfaithful only have feelings for them self. They don’t care about their spouse at all. There’s no love for their spouse or they wouldn’t cheat. They wouldn’t want to. Probably just sorry they got caught.

@@BKP62 Okay, that makes more sense now👍

I didnt get caught, I told my girlfriend, I told her answers to the questions she provided & asked for. She said she will think about us (understandably) but, I wanted to feel loved, to be kissed more then 5 seconds, to be cuddled, to just feel something. With my girlfriend ever since we moved into our apartment 4 years ago, for 4 years straight I've felt neglected (I've told her plenty of times, nothing changed) we have sex once every 2-5 months, sometimes longer. We never kiss more then 5 seconds, we never cuddle & trust me, I try to do all this. She says "maybe you should go & take the driving test" even though she'll say she'll get me driving but never does, even when i tell her "I'm driving" she'll say "no, i just wanna get home & go to bed" if i clean the bathroom, kitchen & vacuum, she'll be like "why didnt you do the litterbox? Back of the toilet ? Like all this little stupid shit & that's constantly everytime I clean...but guess who does the same shit? Guess who vacuumed, did litterbox, toilet, but didnt do the kitchen, sinks & bath tub...her. should I start bitching & complaining at every little thing she does? Cause I never do, why? It's stupid petty little shit. But she'll threaten our relationship over it, when we dont have sex for 2-5 months & I want something, literally anything she'll say "then go find a girl that'll please you" or "dont be surprised if you find me with another guy" literally, she's said this shit. So, obviously, cheating is wrong BUT I will say, sometimes cheating puts into perspective the seriousness of both sides of the relationship. Like I cried my fucking heart out for 3 hours straight after I told her, I regret it all, I feel guilt. Trust me on that. She's the 1st girl I've ever cheated on & the last one. I still cry when I think about it because I did fuck up. But even she said "I understand why you did it, but still doesnt excuse your actions" well no shit, but if you understand then?????? You gonna fix yourself too? You gonna stop bitching at everything little thing I dont do. You gonna not wait for sex every 2-5 months? Again, I dont excuse my actions...I honestly dont know why I did it. But I think it was because I wanted to get her attention on what she was doing wrong in the relationship too & that it wasnt just me building up negative tension. Idfk though, definitely wont happen again. Shit was awkward as fuck & that's not me.

Amen. They don’t have feelings at all.

Hopefully you found a better partner for you. A litter box was never an excuse to cheat. ​@@inactive2305

That's the reason you reccomend not cheating? 🤦‍♀️

@@chrissyamaral yes because everyone reaps what they sow...what you give you receive if you give someone pain it comes right back to you the world is set up this way regardless if you believe it or not

@@MsDianneMaryWilkerson Well that may or may not be true. But thats besides the point. The reason you shouldn't cheat isn't because YOU never forget the pain you caused somebody. The reason should be because you dont want to cause SOMEONE ELSE pain that they will never forget. You shouldn't do it because you don't want to hurt someone you love.

@@chrissyamaral if they cheat they don't know how to love so if you don't understand that then you don't understand the cheaters mindset. They are not in love with the person if they cheat if it's not from God it's lust from the devil. If someone is in love they will never cheat. So you are confusing lust with love. Cheaters don't love their own selves so they can't love anyone else. Cheaters do hurt after cheating and they live with their pain those that were cheated on if they are wise they will not take it personally because they would understand it has nothing to do with them.

@@chrissyamaral if God doesn't bring the two together then it's lust from the devil and this is not love and the cheaters don't care if they hurt anyone's feelings they only care about their own feelings.

How's everything today?

Just a question. If you love her how could you cheat on her? You had to know you was putting your relationship in jeopardy

@@jensbornagain you know It was like tunnel vision man I wasn’t thinking about the risk,results, it was a selfish one lane thought if I could’ve seen a slight episode of what might have happened if I went through with this. i would’ve probably left the entire state but it was immature and ignorant of me and it’s something that im gonna regret for a very long time but my love for her never change I did everything for her I would’ve later down my life for her

@@jensbornagain honestly if I knew the emotional damage that would come with it , I feel as if I most definitely wouldn’t have done it, it was not worth what I put her through I was just so caught up in lust and selfishness

@@ez-cg2dh thank you for speaking your truth as the betrayer. It gives perspective from one who is TRULY remorseful, but also HONEST as to how this could happen, in the midst of still feeling that you truly loved your partner. Praying for her peace and your peace. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

how are you doing now?

Literally in this situation!

In this situation. He is getting help and has so much regret. He is trying so hard and is doing everything he can to make it up to me and fix things but I just don't know if I can let it go.

Amen.

😂😂😂. They are born cheaters always. But they don’t love their spouse when they cheat. When you love someone you want to be with that person. You won’t rip their heart out. That’s not love.

BKP62 you sound like a feminist that’s really into man bashing. 🤔

@@Renegade-jk4ux men are not the only cheaters, it's not man bashing to say you don't love someone and cheat on them.... It's cheater bashing, and totally fair🤣

@@Renegade-jk4ux sounds like you a cheater. You don’t hurt some one you love. No way you walk away from doing it.

Agree 100%

I can totally relate

WOW I am so sorry you had to have gone through that, that's a Long time I truly hope things have work in your face in the present TIME,

He said same journey different feelings, pains.

So sorry to hear. When someone leads you to believe they love you then betray you, it's truly the worst feeling ever and a waste of your time.

@@LareesieAlice how did you heal?

What happened? My I feel those exact same emotions sans children.

@@elijahmeza2479 I caught her emotionally cheating. She said she would never talk to the guy again. Then a few months later she told me she needed a girls weekend with her friend. See the guy and has sex with him. I am so in raged and depressed at the same time. Probably just going to leave her if I can’t get past it. She is remorseful and begging me not to leave. Says she will do anything, but I can’t shake it out of my head. Such a betrayal just let it go like that? No I don’t see how I can ever do that. I may start fresh with someone else later and focus on my kids and job. Been married 6 years 2 kids. I love her but actions show I did more than her....

@@madsonic13 I'm in the EXACT situation bro, to a T... I want to forgive but I just can't seem to. I can say the words but I wouldn't mean them. We have two young boys, they're the only reason I stay alive tbh, I feel like she destroyed me mentally and emotionally... but I still love her. Wtf is wrong with me 🤦

​@@shanec4494 nothing is wrong with you. You have a heart, are loyal, respect relationships. You're not tarnished, weak, or selfish like her (not to bash her, but this what cheaters are ). I feel dumb too, but you were true and though angry, it's hard to not love her or who she was or portrayed herself to do. Pray about it, truly. If it eats you up, I think you should grieve but go your boys will see it sooner or later... I found out the guy who was courting me, 58 yr old has been cheating for several months out of our year relationship. I really trusted him more than I have any guy. It's tough out here .

​@@madsonic13 💯 it's gut wrenching to go through but cheaters show you how little they think of you and feel they deserve an extra person while you just be loyal to them.

Ya, trying to hang on for dear life, while trying to climb back in, only to find another woman sneaking out of the seat next to your husband, with her lipstick in his d***.

Beautifully said.

This is an amazing eye opener video for me but yes I am constantly feeling like this person you describe, that was unaware that they were even in the amusement park and is having to pay for the whole day and then some... But I do see the just of this video and I feel like I'm going to benefit from what I've learned from it...

Totally agree its just a bunch of excuses

Yup.

Did your marriage survive? Curious

How can u say u love ur partner if u cheated.on them?

Any updates?

The journey is NOT the same. I am very empathetic and supportive of my husband, and we may both be recovering, but I did not have a journey of keeping secrets and deceiving. His recovery is important, but our journey is not the same.

I'm not religious but agree with this....just stay single and do what you want without destroying others.

Sometimes there's a stronghold and a cry for help to get out of the sin that you're in.

I thank God for a loving and forgiving husband who is truly here with me and our family. It is a different process for the unfaithful who must stay humble at all times and just take whatever comes and does whatever needs to be done to rebuild the marriage. Some of you won't understand, and committing infidelity isn't something that just happens...it can slowly start with an innocent conversation where you've never thought anything would go as far as it does...something happens at the right place and time and during your weakest moment... :/

yeah till you've get cheated on then you'll think different.

cathy carnes have you considered counseling?

I went to 2 different counselors for 6 weeks each time. The first one kicked us out because he wasn't really participating. The second one kicked me out because she said I had already done all of the "work" I was supposed to do and she needs to work with him one on one. He continued seeing her for a couple of months but had never told her the whole truth either.

Suck it up cupcake

“Especially when they know they cannot be proven wrong.”

"The unfaithful deserves compassion and healing but their first priority should be repairing the damage they have caused." Amen to that!!

No they dont there too focused on the other women

that person need to do the same, so the first cheater will feel the same....

@@Irishkisskiss4u shut up cheater

@@omeccaasep8045 other people you mean.women cheat too. sexist......

Shelia Tubbs Infidelity is an awful thing, my husband cheated on me last weekend with a woman he went to high school with..... I’m pregnant with our third.. But Christ died so that you and I, we don’t have to stay hurting, if your partner has forgiven you, that’s amazing.. but don’t expect it. Draw close to Jesus FIRST, He alone can heal you, remind you who you are meant to be.... We all have our sins, strongholds and things that make us tick, stuff that gives the devil pieces of our hearts.. NONE of us should judge, we all sin, just differently. Anyhow, maybe God has a plan where your relationship is healed and restored, or maybe not. Some people can’t heal properly after adultery... I cried for days straight, couldn’t eat, nightmares, etc. After I found out.... it was days before our anniversary too! How awful, right? I wouldn’t do that to him, and that’s what makes it hurt more, but regardless, Forgiveness IS key here. LOVE IS KEY. Who holds the keys? Love holds the keys, remember His name and go to Him, let Him heal you, just because you wronged your partner, that fact does not dampen Gods love for you. “None of us are good, no, not one.” I hope you understand that our sin doesn’t change Gods plan, it just goes off road for a little while, We will always be back on track, so take comfort in that!! XOXO. ☺️❤️

Yeah, this is pretty much right.

Adultery is no mistake however your willingness to forgive and stay in the marriage is great and your choice.

I am trying to understand your points.....the fact ia murders and rapist deserve cruel punishment....I.e life sentence or hanged in some of the countries....how do you relate with them and say you don't deserve anything?

Curious, why did you cheat? My wife recently cheated. So I'm curious.

@@elijahmeza2479my husband had an affair with a married woman. Will it be proper for me to tell her husband what she did?

At this point, I believe that she is enjoying herself.

Let her go brother…😢

I guess you regret a few minutes of passion that resulted in you losing your loved one

Just move on and try not to do it to the next guy. Maybe you learn something. Perhaps you'll fall in love again and feel the other side of it. If you have someone you love worth keeping you should treat them that way. You may look back 10 years from now still single asking where have all the good men gone.

Armo Shalik I really really regret but am now trying to forgive myslf and move on with life, for that alone was a lesson learnt

mlj rotag yah will definitely not cheat again and try to talk if things ain’t going well in my relationship

You're wasting too much energy on the unfaithful. Love yourself first and foremost. You are worthy💛

Love yourself first and foremost.

Sorry love, it will hurt for along time if everytime you look at them there pupils close and get small that means there hiding and still lying but if there pupils get bigger and bigger than there trying!!!!

@@omeccaasep8045 Really? I hope this is true... I kerp looking hard into his eyes like some truth will reveal itself and make this thing he did make sense. His eyes widen and pupils actually do get bigger when he answers my questions. I don't want to cling to that but it does give me some sense of relief.

It took me 2-3 years.

If you stay you'll never get over it.

Never thought of it this way but truly on point!!! Wow!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🗣️🗣️🗣️

All parties suffer, the guilt and everything. The pain of asking someone to forgive you and give you a second chance, it's traumatic

Oh honey, I am so so sorry. You posted this a year ago. I pray things were able to get better for you. You don't need that loser unless he somehow was able to change

Piece of shit, bastard

Can anybody do a video on revenge?????

@@elijahmeza2479 the best revenge is NO CONTACT...silent treatment will rip them to pieces

@@trishm7451 yep so true... i started that a couple of weeks ago and boom she started calling everyday. But oh well too late, now its divorce time

@@elijahmeza2479 congrats 👍🏾

Then you have no choice but to leave. This will be true in every instance that they are not sorry.

Doreen Augsburger good question and answer

Doreen Augsburger-Lane I think they could feel like they have to be defensive to not feel powerless protecting themselves from feeling guilt & hurt or be a narcissist and in that case there is little hope.

They are not sorry for the action means they will do it again, and if they are really not they sorry they got caught.

Maybe that's there way of telling you they really don't want you!!!!

🤣🤣🤣

Does it matter

Reginald Kirk yes it does.

He may never give you closure. Pray and ask God to show you he will.

Dealing with this myself. He denies sex but messages say there was. I have emotionally built a wall I will not get hurt again. Absolutely trust will not be given

leave him the fuck

Run