brilliant, brilliant man. he picked up on her projection to save others when she needs to work on herself. this man has a deep loving soul; a spiritual healer.
YES! That line changed my life! There was lots of debate in the edit suite whether to include it in the final cut of the film, but it's there! So critical. Spiritual bypassing is a dangerous thing. Thanks for picking up on that and commenting :)
@@buridah328 Hey Bu, I interpreted as meaning that we can turn to "spiritual change" to feel better but then sometimes ignore the true emotional issues - this is a short article on it: humanparts.medium.com/the-danger-in-fake-positivity-and-spiritual-bypassing-c202040b8dd3 . But really I came to comments section to hear what Krista's thoughts on this were- how did it serve to change your life? Thanks!
Damn! How quickly Gabor gets into the real matter of things is staggering. I love how he battles the incongruence of the other and forces them to reveal what's really going on inside. Beautiful work.
The other woman breaking into the conversation was trying to ‘rescue’ Krista from her own pain, but luckily Gabor would not allow the interference and brought Krista to a wonderful acceptance and exploration of her own experience and being. So amazing. We are so lucky to hear this!
Gabor is now helping us to open up to our memories and to validate our childhood traumas and stresses. This has been so liberating for me. Thank you, Dr Maté.
Wow, Krista--Deepest respect and gratitude to you for posting this. Dr. Gabor Maté has saved my life countless times. (Or, he might say I've saved my own life because I find myself worthy of turning to him, and I go there.) This is stunning and pure love. Wishing you, Dr. Maté, and everyone here peace.
I now understand my own Projections from inside out, try to fix every body's pain and sufferings & beat myself up and being so harsh towards myself & GUILT!! I been in therapy since 1998, and this just open my mind to a totally different level. I was given away from 17 days old till 12 months because mum could not be bother to look after a new born(sleepless nights & nappie changes etc), she is perfectly capable and healthy and no financial issues & a loving husband. I will watch it over and over again till I absorb it all so I can change how I relate to others. Also what he said what they do is only a DROP in a Bucket!
Yes, THE GUILT! So crazy. I actually would like that whole lecture on guilt from Maté. I too had had so much therapy before this interview, but all of it added together didn't touch what Maté did here in 45 minutes. It actually was worse when I fell into depression after this... I'm not sure why, it was harder when I understood why while I was "in it", but after a few years it got WAY better. My one complaint about this is that I wish he would have reminded me to pull in compassion for myself. And I also wish he had checked in with me afterwards too. An Indigenous elder warned me not to "upset the apple cart" with people (in relation to the film, i.e., make sure counsellors are on hand incase people are triggered by the content). My apple cart drove into a tornado in this interview, so I understand what the elder meant. We must be very gentle and careful with people when probing their deepest pain. I'm very glad this helped you
I wish you all the best on your journey. By sharing this conversation you had with Dr. Mate with us, you have helped many people be liberated from their "stories". I want to say that I thought he was very compassionate with you. He was careful with your pain but also moved you forward gently to greater understanding.
Thank you for sharing this. Lot's of us may not have an opportunity to sit down like this with dr. Gabor Mate, but we can all learn about ourselves from this session. Another thing I would like to say is that we all have an inner child and most of us are really hurt. Regardless of our biological age. I too have been shamed, and still get shamed about not being/acting like an adult. But that is just a reflection of the emotional maturity of the person who is saying that to me and/or making me feel guilty. Just because I was emotionally hurt 30 years ago, it does not mean that my pain is less real nor that I should just snap out of it. That is the thing with human nature and also the values that exist in the world society today that at best hamper emotional health. Especially values of the western world, it is always about bottom line profits... Unfortunately, in today's world we don'thave a lot of common tools for emotional health repair. On the contrary, we are really good at inflicting pain on each other. Anyways, all that to say is to validate, a little bit, how you feel- if it makes any difference.
it’s amazing to hear such insightful kind questions coming a medical doctor. At my last appointment the dr looked at her computer the whole time she was telling me what a poor job I was doing with my health. This kind of compassion is what we need, especially in healthcare providers
what a fascinating and super valuable document of how therapy with such an insightful deep thinker like Gabor Maté would be like. thank you so much for posting.
I taught I have watched all dr Mate's talks ... sadly , so I can not find any new ... and this is the most wonderful surprise. The TRUTH is always , always so simple , but to often hidden .. It seams so easy for him to explain the root causes of our problems ... that we have for decades .. And this man and his wisdom should be heard way way more in the world ... People who rules the world and countries do not know that they are disabled people and they are projecting their traumas broadly on a massive scale . I am reading his book - In the realm of a hungry goast and it clears a lot for me . Thank you for this video :)
Everywhere one turns in this society one is shamed, ridiculed for effectively puking up poison that they ingested as a child - in the Native American Church ceremony when one vomits as a result of the medicine working out the very same poison, they thank you for "getting well" - how powerful a distinction! Thank you from my heart for sharing this beautifully authentic moment of healing and awareness, Krista! Be well.
Thank you for letting us see this process! It’s like watching magic happen. Gabor Mate, clearly demonstrates his ability to reach those places in us where pain is running the show without our awareness! Best video of his compassionate inquiry at work!!
I heard it said and since have taken it on as my moto as well; I cannot change the world, but I can make the persons world standing in front of me a little less terrible. Thank you for sharing this video with us.
What a riveting conversation--thank you for sharing. I also deeply resonate with the message about deep pain, trying to "fix" it, and how society abuses the most vulnerable among us. Bless bless
Wow makes sense to me ' this is amazing grace in action ' ....... seeds of love / the burden is your put it down / awesome insight into how we hold on to stuff and carry if throughout our lives without even knowing if we don't take the time to listen to our emotions .......thanks for sharing this !
this wonderful talk inspired me with an insight! I could never stand people starting at me, especially the closest ones... wanted to hide or vanish after this talk I know why, each time I felt threatened in my childhood I hid in a closet or behind a door in the shadow and stopped even breathing... Since then when someone came close to me, thought they were examining me and the fear arose... thank u deeply for this sharing, I love Dr Gabor Mate, and your participation was critical and emotional 💞💞💞💞💞
This interaction is so very intimate. It actually reminds me of that HBO show "In Treatment" with Gabriel Byrne. Like him, Gabor Mate has dark, sad eyes & inquires from a place of deep wisdom, courage, & love. An exquisite exchange.
Krista, thank you for your vulnerability and risk in putting your personal process out for the entire world to see. I acknowledge your courage in doing so, so that others may understand the roots of addiction. This raw footage is an absolute goldmine of information for counsellors, addicted people, anyone who wants to understand not only the genesis of our addictions, but just as importantly--what drives many of us so deeply to help others. Watching Gabor work with you is a masterclass in how be with another while exploring trauma, and it hits home the necessity of doing our own inner work so that we can effectively help other people. I had a vision that this clip will reach tens or hundreds of thousands of people, and I hope you keep it up. I'm going to watch it many, many times. Such great work. I'm humbled. Thank you, sister _/\_
@@patrickstarr2428 I really appreciate your very thoughtful comments. Thank you for taking to the time to watch and to write. I also hope that it will help many people. Much love!
Dear Krista, I want to thank you very much for sharing this video. I relate to your personal story because I experienced parents' divorce too at age 4. All the emotions, the pain, the burden, I experienced them at scale and still do to that day and I am now almost 37...just starting "to figure it out". I also connect to the sense of shame you mentionned in the text below the video. Bottom line: "your story is medicine for someone out there" & watching you cracking the pain up with the magnificent Dr Gabor Maté...it was me being given some insightful medicine. Much love & blessings to you.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It helped bring more clarity to my life. I recently discovered my own shame, guilt and overwhelming responsibility that I picked up at a very early age. Your generosity in sharing is helpful.
Sound quality isn’t good. This seemed less an interview and more a therapy session. Always interesting to hear from Dr.Mate but I could only watch part of this. You can’t heal or save others until you’ve saved and healed yourself.
It's uncut footage -- the film is available here: vimeo.com/ondemand/usandthemthedoc And I put it up incase it might help others knowing that it's long etc.
She is really very very sad because she is in pain since 35 years she saw her mother in pain when she is 3 or less thn 3 so the pain is in her subconscious..... lots nd lots of people are suffering like these enxities reason is society....
I'm hoping a lecture about teens or kids comes for recollection of insights. It's helpful to hear that there are solid ways to support self during times that need extra attention. It's one thought I share with a few persons. Some are kids..some are not. I'd like a better idea to help those. Without taking over in any given situation that includes grandparents. It's not harm but do need to avoid cross firing actively..
Dear Gabor. Despite being intellectually gifted, i have major challenges with everyday life. My neighbours here in Italy make so much noise, and I may be on the autism spectrum because I have burnout from being overstimulated. What do you advise?
I'm homeless and an addict and I can't prepare for death anymore than I already have, I'm desperate for anything, anybody, to care. I feel so alone, my parents so divorced when I was three and I have always felt like it was my fault. Of course it's my fault, they didnt have any other children, either one of them. They say I need to get over it
Brilliant guy but very sad eyes. This man has been very hurt; brilliant but not emitting happiness. A master at recognizing pain and a master at focusing on it. Not always the best way to eradicate it.
No, I didn't... it was too expensive at the time. I applied for a couple of scholarship spots but was not chose and then my interest in it passed. Have you?
Love that what do you notice when you look in a prime minister’s eyes 👀 yes we don’t need big daddy wish we can put are big boots on and do for ourselves as a humanity work together hopefully one day we can all get there it’s a big wish
Jews were waiting for a military leader, but came Jesus. According to their values and beliefs, the messiah must be that aggressive and strong leader but not Jesus who was full of compassion. That's really interesting to consider.
It was raw and touching .. why not be honest with what went on .. All the cover-up and suppression is what causes the dissonance... I am touched and broke into tears ... maybe I can relate to how she feels..
Are you the interviewer here, Krista? Seems to me he needed to reduce you to a child ego state before he could feel comfortable. Looks quite disempowering to me.
Well yes... I went there to interview him, but he ended up interviewing me. It was intense, but it also showed me the root of the issue. Truthfully, it was bittersweet, as things got worse before they got better after this conversation. Therapists are typically more gentle with their "bedside manner" for sure. Thank you for the comment.
@@MindFuelFilms Well, I applaud your obvious capacity to be vulnerable, and to sense what your interviewee needed. This was a very revealing interview!
You should be deeply grateful that you got a free deep therapy session from one of the master healers of this planet!!! Why don't you try one of the regular psychiatrists in the US who will keep you a drugged moron with no hope of healing ever???!!! You people are soooooo f---ed up!!!!
