Unsolicited Parenting Advice from the INTJ and ISTJ 

0:43 vultology for babies 1:15 INTJ preparing for babies 2:49 being a mother is like being a vampire 3:44 humans plan and god laughs 5:36 baby barfs and we just go with it 5:42 Joe advice to dads 6:54 one baby for now! 9:09 P types better at parenting initially 9:45 J types better later on in childhood 10:15 advice is to not give advice 11:45 Punnett square to determine his likely type 13:05 who does he look like?? 13:20 buy the book

What do you mean, unsolicited? I've been waiting for this for, what, three months now? 😉 Congrats on your beautiful baby!

I used to work as a respiratory therapist during the delivery portion and just want to say I never got used to how good the room feels when the baby arrives. And the first cry always felt like there’s a bunch of angels in the room celebrating or something. There’s a buzz. Anyways I did a solid INTJ analysis, I’d say the baby is 50% mom and 50% joe lol.

You're such a cute family. Congrats!

congratulations!!!!! look at those beautiful eyes ahhh

As a nurse, things like human excrements, fluids, nudity, open body wounds all is well. You can adjust to anything and hold composure when you are in a servant hood state of mind. It’s so much better when it’s your kids and those protocols are for the hospital, at home it’s more about their own regulation but following those ideas like windows as long as you are in the thriving windows you are good. Babies are Se I loooooooove Babies!!!!! You guys will like the toddler years and older and yes the J loves that and that structure I do because I’ve always worked with vulnerable populations so they need it but yeah every parent is different and he’s your baby so your gut is a good thing to stand on for what’s happening. Go you guys!!! Also, is your new book in auditory form? Please do it!!! Oh my gosh punnent square Mbti. Haha Deanna I love you yes the auditory version hahah S doms thinking alike haha.

Not that you don't already have the personality knowledge on hand (y'all know the ins and outs, clearly!), but I got a book by Wendy Gossett called "Your Child's Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality" and I think it's the only personality book I have found that is geared towards typing & guiding children in their personality type. Eventually I want to do a video book review for it. It's informative and reads like a guidebook - one that finally does NOT take a "one size fits all" approach to parenting. If you're like me and end up with and ENTP boy, then none of the standard advice books will fit 😆 (hard to raise, but will be an eccentric genius, no doubt. He just turned 6!) Maybe as you gather more personal experience from parenthood, y'all can collaborate on a personality-based book for parenting as well. You'd both be good at it.

He looks like Deanna. (so far)

I never planned by reading, I blagged it.. we have 3 amazing young men 23,21,18.. I'd say don't judge but listen. As a entp. 23 yr old is a infp, 21 is isfp,18 not sure. I've learnt so much from them as they've from me, their dad is istj . Tho very different and not together any more, but we still work together. Just love them . I might not be the most structured but to me the most important is live your life..and freedom to be you :) Cute baby .

Okay, I had trouble concentrating on what you were talking about because your little guy is just SO. FRIGGIN. ADORABLE. 😍 And, honestly, he seems like a perfect 50:50 of both of you but sure he has some of Joe's stoic facial expressions. Or was that just for the video? 😜

Congratulations, enjoy your family.

"Everybody's got a plan until the baby wont stop crying" my quote to twist mike tysons words a little lol congrats to you both!

Love this so much!! Would love to see more. He is adorable and looks 50/50 in my opinion. : ) So grateful to be connected to both of you and appreciate the opportunity to share thoughts! Love the creative beginning & ending, all content and the outline below is awesome! Love how genuine and real all of you are throughout.. A future content idea may be ideas or thoughts around balancing energy. Best to all of you! Marcie H (ISTJ)

I tried drowning a fish to death when I was younger...thats when my parents knew I was special...

6:36 Best answer ever. SPOILERS Best answer for motivation to have children besides just looking at your royal bundle of joy and your wife radiating joy! BONUS Best motivation to get married. If the eyes are a window to the soul, how can any single man look at how beautiful Deanna looks holding your son and not want to seek out a better half! I think she's got you beat at 60%, sir. It's what made it so difficult to determine the percentage of how much he looks like you or her. I know the correct answer is to say he looks more like his mother until he's a teenager causing a ruckus because then kids are always their father's children/on their father's side of the family until the father agrees (don't agree! it's a trap!), and then the children immediately become their mother's children, and once the children apologize while doing something sweet (which "they didn't have to do"...seriously...mothers' affection for their children are that great), it's a "Do we know you?" when the father is in the room after everything is all hunky dory cuz "It's just my children and me" cuz the mothers' affection for their children is so unbeatable...I'm not just saying this while I stall to think of a percentage...anyone can see the delight in Deanna's eyes...how can anyone compete with that kind of motherly affection? But I'm not a chicken! So I'm going to say it: 51% Deanna 49% Joe. Yep! Taking that stance. Okay comment over. Psstt...you don't have to read this part out loud...Joe...psstt..I think it's 60% you, but because she's 60% your better half...you can still read this part out loud. It could also be because his hair style is closer to your Peaky Blinders hairstyle...that you mentioned that you got on the Dear Kristin podcast! Looking sharp my man! Beautiful family! With the way Deanna was holding him, and that look in his eyes (takes after his mom!), I think he's Kingly material so no need to look at any receipts. You might have an ENTJ like Deanna brought up...which I think you mentioned on the podcast being your favorite type (great choice!). Unless, your son turns out to be an INFP, then it will change. haha You both have such a great sense of humor, and it was awesome to hear how you both prepared with research for your son. That is so wonderful to hear. Thanks for sharing. Best family in type related videos I've seen. I don't want to comment on people channels if I can't call them the best in something because I take that best description seriously, and...I guess I can't help myself. Which is why I appreciate unsolicited advice videos. Even though I think Jenna, Dear Kristin's ENFP sister is better than everybody in type (jk...I take that best description seriously so I have to think about it...but maybeeee) ...I listened to Kristin's interview with her ENTP brother, and you, Deanna, and your amazing son has that family beat! And the best deserves some rest! So hope you three have a very nice rest of your weekend! This was awesome! Take care, Joe!

One doesn’t type children, and certainly not babies, it takes time for the functional stack to develop.

You have a baby!!!!! How have you not been talking about this nonstop on your channel ahh. I love that child haha so sweet and look at him trying to check out the world. Introverted babies can be happy with groups of adults. They just aren’t as likely to focus only on the people haha. Those eyes are teaming in something, they almost seem Se haha. But it’s too weird to find the cognitive functions in babies since who knows what’s presenting first and maybe even being cropped or reorganized since babies unlike adults follow more similar developmental patterns. Like the physical ones, but the cognitive maybe different types spend more time in different stages or reverse things just oh this would be a fun field of study Ahha. Never mind, I just want to play with your baby so so so cute. Has Deana’s forehead so maybe has her executive functioning?

Joe , I actually have a writers question. I’m in volume two of a novel and there’s an INTJ character that my friend is based off of and I’m in an important character arch of my antagonist and the three protagonist and the INTJ is in a pretty big emotional/ subconscious swing can I pick your brain for an idea? How does messenger work on here? Observer issues.

100% Deanna!

You seen quite extroverted for an INTJ.. Is your enneagram 3?

Hey, I was kind of surprised that you were showing the baby on the screen - because I have observed that many people online do not want to be showing their children while they are young on screen because of some form of privacy or protection or something, but I guess this may be more relevant to very famous people with huge followings...so have you also been also considering the pros and cons of showing your child on your channel?