Forgiveness is for both because God loves both. When the one who has been hurt forgives, healing can truly begin in their heart and life so they can go on with life. They don’t carry the anger that can eventually destroy them and hurt those who love them. That forgiveness which is given hopefully will be received by the one who caused the hurt and pain. Hopefully it will cause that person to sincerely repent and say, I am sorry; please forgive me; I was so wrong!! God wants to extend healing to both. Maybe reconciliation can take place in family relationships depending on what happened!!! At least the person has done their part in forgiving!
@@lorim.2657because if you don’t, it will continue to negatively affect you. The Word says to pray for your enemies. It’s hard, but it’s a wonderful skill to develop. In this case, I highly doubt Usher’s dad meant to hurt him, he was probably dealing with his own issues and didn’t know how to show up. That’s not an excuse, but life is hard. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Somewhere along the line that turned into “Ima match energy and get mine.”
Omg 😊I’ve never heard parenthood be explained in this particular detail,but I LOVE IT 🥰 AND I AGREE!! Very well spoken and thank you 🙏🏾 for your comment ❤❤❤
I just got off work and looked in to check the kids. And I’m so glad when I decompress and watch RU-vid this is the first video I see. I love being a Father and a provider. I also compliment fathers who give their all and best to there kids 🫡🫡🫡🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This really touched my heart. I know others probably feel this way but you are the first father I have ever heard say it with words. I hear plenty of mothers say it. May God continue to bless you with strength for the beautiful journey of fatherhood and in the end may you enjoy the fruits of your labor.❤
Step up even when the women call the cops and you have to sit for 3 months to find out she lied but then doesn't get charged with fraud then make you pay child support while keeping your kids still
@@TheKiwitooableyou must live a miserable life. Only miserable people can find bad things to talking about when they see something good or beautiful happening
@TheKiwitooable Exactly....That was my thoughts. I do not get it. Why do we downplay vital messages that we receive? Unless someone is spewing nonsense. We don't get it. That's why the majority of them remain stationary.
Kudos to Usher for saying this. Fathers are needed!! A son needs his father to guide him into manhood and teach him the pitfalls and things he can expect in life and how to properly navigate through them!! And a daughter needs that father's love to protect and show her what a good man who remains as well as provides for the household looks like. Without strong men to guide our sons and daughters, the family dynamic is missing an integral part!!
Those women chose those men, so who's to blame the most? These females choose pookie and ray ray over Mike then say there aren't any good men, the thing is the good men don't want you, Keisha
This is called Old School wisdom because there's so many children that suffering because of their parents it hurts my heart and listening to Usher to speak on this situation broke me and make me think back and all I can say is God is good God is good God is good
AMEN, I have never seen my Father!! But I have always missed him. I'm 60 years old now, and Father's Day is not as bad, but I still have the desire to know something about him.
Powerful words & yes it is the year of the Father Black. white, brown, yellow we all matter in our children's lives, amazing what he said !! total respect Raymond ♥️💯🫂🫶👏 !! too many lost generations in the world right now. let's Bring being there again Back !! 🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💙🤍🖤🤎👣👩❤️👨
❤🇿🇦 A man who has and is healing is a beautiful thing to behold. You get all my love and respect Usher. I couldn't be more proud to have been on this journey with you. I'm forever a huge fan of yours ❤
This man right here has been the most humblest man in the music industry. He never speaks on others. His heart is genuine and authentic and pure. Love this message, Usher. Much respect
The truth will come to light. All the Devils. Diddy, Usher giving away JB to Diddy. It will all be brought to light and God will judge them according to their lives lived. I pray they repent
@ZipporahRian44 The truth always does. I truly believe usher is not like diddy at all. I think he was a man scorned at an early age, and he didn't have any help dealing with the pressure over the years of listening to his music and not being seen like diddy that he truly is a genuine authentic man who has stayed focus and humble more than anyone I know in the music industry besides Lil wayne,. Ijs. Just my thoughts.
You mean L.A. Reid they used usher he had no decision in what happened to Justin yall forget usher was a child when the diddler got him he said he'd never have his children around Diddy which that speaks volumes @@ZipporahRian44
I don't know what god you're talking about because he doesn't serve The God that I serve..The most high...The only true God...yall be killing me all because of a speech ..this dude along with many others SOLD THEIR SOULS...MEANING THAT THEY DON'T SERVE MY GOD
;) a true believer will say i dont know if another person has faith. I know hollywood serves satan. u have to respect everyone whethere hes christian or muslim, etc. but every individual you dont know, u can hate them i dont care. its at the end that God judge so stop. bye and peace
Because of my single Mother struggles my son is successful. My Daddy did what his Daddy didn't do and i feel sorry for that dude. My kid is phenomenal. TY Usher for encouragement.
ALL young women and women, in general, MUST choose better if they expect better and stop 🛑 making excuses for making poor choices. As I share with others, God 👑 ALWAYS tells us not to proceed with certain people. Unfortunately, many children suffer because of the d-u-m-b choices of their parents. Marry before you carry isn't just a slogan. It's a moral stance...a value stance and it is the BEST path to take ALWAYS. All women need to return to God's 👑 Way and His Will. This backwards mess has been destroying the communitah for well over 50 years. Children suffer, unnecessarily, because of it.
I am in total agreement. However, these values have to be taught at a young age. I would love to go into the Elementary School's and train up the young children in the ways of the Lord because a lot of times they are not being taught the truth and valueof God's word.
THANK YOU USHER LORD KNOWS THAT NEEDED TO BE SAID BECAUSE IT WAS " LONG- OVERDO" ❗❗❗THAT WAS FROM ETERNITY ALPHA TO OMEGA. FATHERS YPUR TESTOSTERONE BREDS EVEN TO BE A HORMONE GOING UP THERE PRIMAL NOSTRILS BOTH THE SONS N DAUGHTERS NEED THEIR DADDY N THEIR MOTHER. NO ONE SHOULD BE MAD.
It starts with forgiveness and then the choice to stand up and be there for our children. We need more fathers in our community to allow our children to mend and to be on a better path. Thank you for standing up for yourself and your children. Way to go Usher. This is your year. ❤❤❤
@@Maui_Gyrl_it's not about you know your place it's about the farthest you're always trying to take credit for things that when it's not your space stop playing games man grow up and be an adult.
Sharing his truth and being vulnerable. Such a great person , excellent artist , well deserving of the honor bestowed on him , thanks Usher for your contributions.
May you continue healing and thriving wonderfully! It has made you a great parent! I am so mad that BET cut this speech short when so many of our black children and black families, period, needed to hear this! THEY don't care about us! Just getting rich off of our culture! ❤️✊🏿🙏🏿
This is the best comment I’ve heard Usher make. What a brilliant young man he is. Fathers, step up. Those that do step up, stay up and lead front the front. Our young brown boys need you !
A child will always find the words to speak love, support and understanding of their dad even though dad was not there for them. They just want their dad.
Usher that’s his lost you got your mom thst raised you to become a real Man in every since of the word God bless her you got a treasure that God gave thstd yiur mom she lived forever .. now if you dad didn’t love thsts will be in his conscience and he won’t be happy in his life .. love yiur mom and You guys have God that’s lived you both ..
I just received a promotion at work. It is because my father was in my life and taught me about a strong and powerful work ethic. " If you do something, do it right." Rip, Daddy❤ from your baby doll❤USAF bringing em home on his last ✈️ 💙💙💙💙💙💙
That's Sad that you Wanna say that's all because of your father that's honestly Disrespecting A hell of Alot of people .Go tell that to people that are personal in your life and see how that goes, Because I have a son and Daughter that work hard my daughter is 30y no kids, has been in the airforce, And my son 22 years no kids neither and works hard and cooks . And no arrest or jail no drugs, Single mother Here. The boy does get on my nerves dough
It’s a struggle to love if you were never loved but more so when your own memories of childhood are full of embarrassing and hurtful moments. I doff my hat to all black fathers some of whom struggle with these unpleasant memories. May God heal the pain.
Stop... Sometimes it's better to be quiet... He is saying ... It's not always the Man fault if he is not around..... Woman is more reason why man doesn't stay around. Stop being naive.
@josephwashington4086 there is nothing more naive than thinking a father would stay away from his child/ren for anything, especially because of the mother.
Thank you, for being the young man who stands up and speaks the truth about absent fathers… you are an example of what a king can do and should do. Blessings to you and your family!!!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us so we can all live our lives together with more compassion and kindness and wisdom and most of all Unconditional Love ✨🙏💜🫶💜🙏✨
I walked ft 4 ft behind my Dad my entire Life until I became a young man then adult. Respected and feared him at the same time until the day he passed. Miss him with a passion!
Father split from my mother when I was two years old. Growing up we often blame one side for the breakup, but when you get older and become your own man, you have a different understanding of how difficult things can be. We as black men don’t have it all figured out, but sometimes we do our best. Me and my Dad are still good, and I now have my own Family. A wife, 3 kids, and one grandson. I have done my best to be a good Dad, with what I had to learn the hard way. My babies are 30, 20, and 18 and doing well, so I thank God for them.
I’m so so sorry 😢 I can relate 100% My Dad was my best friend , my suport system, and the glue that kept me together. When I lost him, I completely lost myself. It’s been 10years & I’m just now picking myself up. But I wouldn’t have been able to do myself, The Lord has really helped me & I now recognize that he carried me thru those years. But now he’s walking beside me & holding my hand. He’s my best friend. To know how amazing he is, and knowing my Dads with him, brings me so much peace & happiness for him. 💞
The blessing of every child flows through their fathers, this is how God ordained it to be and any woman stopping their children from having relationship with their father is hurting their destinies unknowingly.
One of the Realist Things ive heard on stage feo. A man in the industry. He is on a healing journey i can hear it in his voice. Maybe the birth of his daughter assiated with this part of his life❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
USHER FORGAVE HIMSELF before HE LEARNED to FORGIVE OTHERS. I see in his face where he has cried out to JESUS! GOD HAS FORGIVEN HIM, NOW HE IS FREE TO FORGIVE OTHERS. 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏 HE HAS BEEN DELIVERED!!! 🙌🙌🙌 PRAISE GOD!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! PSALM 91💖🔥🙏💯
Usher's speech is so revealing and enlightening!🧐 With guys keeping their real feelings to themselves, we often forget that they even have feelings... It's refreshing to see guys show their real feelings for a change. This is so healthy for them and I hope that guys can find healing by facing their pain by peacefully vocalizing their pain in a healthy way, like this, so they can be there for their children, their family and friends, each other, and more importantly, themselves. 🥰💞🙏 God bless them on their journey to much needed healing, forgiveness, and happiness. 🙏
I know there's something special about you and this is why i love you it takes forgiveness and maturity to rise from a painful situation to be a better man to your children congratulations Mr Raymond ❤
Damn… my brothers and me went through the same thing and 2024 was the year we got to meet my fathers family for the first time and got to understand a little more of what he went through to make the decisions that he did. Crap still hurts but what hurts the most is hearing his story a little. Pops died before he got to tell his story but I no longer carry around that anger. I pray we may all be able to learn the life stories of our fathers and let go of that anger.
Loved how he spoke of asking fathers to step up for your kids especially young men. No matter how you feel about the mother that son needs to know you care about him. We don’t know what been absent is doing to your child . Please stop and let that son/daughter know he’s loved, I pray for this 🙏🏽
Thank you , i lost my father at 15 months of age to death so in searching to understand other black men in America . I came to the understanding that in America goes back to slavery about our black men we have to give them Grace and understanding not making excuses for them but to understand what our black men has to go through here in America .
This hits so hard 😢 Bc there’s ones who lost their fathers & have to live without em forever. Then there’s the kids who want their Dads & miss them, but the Dads chooses themselves & thinks only about their own feelings. Ugh, this has me balling my eyes out. So I’m gonna scroll on. God Bless ya’ll ✞ 💗
A father of three daughters. My oldest was kept away from me by her mom just to get C$. Finally came back into my life at 19. Put her to school immediately. Now 20 years old with life on the right track. Her sisters ages 13 & 11 live at home with me. Fatherhood isn’t easy but I love it!
@@PRINCESS2527it's a long and difficult and expensive road filling for custody and you are incentivised to throw dirt on each other to prove the other party can't take care of the child. It's simple, the mother is usually an emotional wreck and piece of dirt, let's be honest.
@@PRINCESS2527 The circumstances didn’t allow me to do so and she knew it. I didn’t have anyone to help me, so I slept in a car and coworkers sofa and focused on making sure my child support was paid.
As 45 year man I grew up without my dad and I do not know who is he and that is a part of me I do not know. I have two kids and I'm in their life and I want them to know who I am and I'm greatful that I'm in their life
Yes👏🏽Claude Goode Sr.🫶🏾8 girls and 5 boys. I will always LOVE and honor you🥹cause you stayed😍May YOU, rest in Eternal ,Freedom and Power 🙏🏿 I’ll Love you forever . Thank You ❤
