Video Request | Dealing With Embarrassment 

The best part of getting older is caring less and less what other people think. One of my favorite quotes is: “What other people think of you is none of your business.”

This is great. Heading into my mid 30s, I am just now figuring out that the rest of the world could care less what I have going on. I am free to have value in my own eyes, without asking for permission. I have a hubby, kids and a house and strangely, deciding to let go.. feels like my first real adult decision 😹 Thank you for everything you do ❤

Very off topic but can we get a storytime on your crazy ex fiance & being engaged at 16, etc ?😂

Mary, you are truly just the sweetest. I lost my mom to cancer in 2018, and I often feel lost without her. But you have such a sweet and comforting voice and this video was just so supportive and reassuring. Just the advice I needed. Thank you Mary ❤️

You know, in retrospect I think it’s awesome that Mary went over to Adam and said Hi. That shows how gutsy she is. I wish I had more self confidence and didn’t fear rejection as much as I did in high school.

Omg Mary I got asked on a fake date once when I was about 11. I thought he was being serious but it was prank and him and his mates laughed. Kids can be so cruel! I’m 32 now and I still remember it so clearly! I’m sorry that happened to you.

I want to put in my two cents and say that I absolutely love your cooking videos. They are some of the best videos I’ve seen. I hope you will continue making them!

Omg mary I can't wait to watch this!!! Half an hour ago I accidentally didn't close my mic during an online class and started singing because I was bored and everyone heard 😬 now I am trying to pull myself together because I have another online class in 10 min. I also really appreciated you video about communication skills you give such good advice. Thank you 😘

Mary your hair looks lovely here!

I’m a bit older than you at 52 and I’ve had embarrassed moments all my life. I am similar in the way I ruminate over things and over think. I have quite low self esteem and confidence and get paranoid that everyone is looking and talking about me including the neighbours. My 18 year old daughter says they’re not even taking any notice of me and it’s all in my mind. I feel for you in the story of ‘Adam’, that friend sounded really fake. It’s not an easy thing to do to shrug off embarrassing moments but thanks for sharing your stories with us.

I know this is unrelated but your hair looks incredible today! You're always so stylish and definitely a pretty woman but we all deserve to hear it when we look especially extra! Thanks for all the wonderful content.

Mary is sensible, soothing, sassy, sophisticated, sexy, safe, steady, soulful. Southern. And she is some sublime smokeless steak sizzler too! Awesome Mary.x love from Somerset Sandra xxx

Hi Mary this was an awesome video really needed to hear your encouragement . I think you really need to make a podcast I'd love to listen to your thoughts on different things ☺❤

It's really something how embarrassment can haunt people for so long. I'm still somewhat plagued by embarrassing situations from 20 years ago 😂 And yet they're really just a memory, a thought, not tangible, not even relevant anymore. It's really a waste to carry these burdens if we think about it... Only the Present is real!

The hair is just smashing. You look like you just walked outta the salon

Hey Mary, sorry to see you get unnecessary criticism in your Sirloin video. I really liked it! plus those sirloins looked yummy too!

The whole time you're telling the Adam story, I'm going "No, Little Mary, don't do it!" I dealt with some mean girls like that as well. I think most girls have. And hearing about your ex's family makes me feel really proud of mine. With all our faults, we'd never laugh about something like that. We'd be embarrassed ourselves at Junior's behavior, and he'd end up being the one embarrassed because he'd likely get his tail tore up in front of everybody. Thanks for the advice and the stories, Mary. I've always been quiet and easily embarrassed, but the older I get, the better I get. I'm still a worry wart, though.

Not to objectify you or undermine everything you said but I must mention, you hair looks amazing! With that said, thanks for the advice!

Not only do I love your ASMR, I genuinely love you as a person. I’m glad that you were able to realise your self worth and what an amazing person you are.

I regularly watch tons of RU-vid videos and vlogger vids but this is the first time I've ever commented on anything. This video was so well-timed, as I had the most embarrassing moment of my life the other day and I just hadn't been able to shake it off just yet. It was so incredibly helpful to hear this. So therapeutic for so many reasons, so thank you!

Really glad you're talking about this. P.s. I bought one of your sweatshirts a while ago and it has become my favorite. I've worn it all winter. Good quality, well worth the money. So happy to support you/your channel. You are very appreciated!

Laughing at yourself is the best advice I can give - it works for me, anyway. I use to be embarrassed all the time. Now, I'm just like, "Oh well." But I do care what people think of me...less than I use to, but 100% most people only care about themselves and if they take time to make you feel like crap, it is more a reflection of what they feel about themselves than you. Love this video. Thank you, Mary, for your openness and authenticity.

For all that you have been through, you are a success story! YOU have made the most of all the trials you have been through in your life. I'm so glad that I found your channel. You have become one of my biggest role models. Thanks Mary!

Such an important topic. Thank you for taking the time to make this for those who need it and may be too afraid to ask. Sweet and genuine content as always. ❤️

I love these types of videos. Thank you Mary!

hehe just saw that you are in the bee movie asmr!! cant wait to watch !!

this is what i love about you mary. i briefly mentioned you in a fave asmrtist video and it was due to your resilience and poise. you a gem and such a strong lady. you inspire mary.

I can’t express how amazing this video is. I wish I had someone to tell me these things throughout my teen years. These are lessons I’m going to be sure to share with my kids. I just think the messages in this video are so important for EVERYONE. Seriously.

Hi Mary, I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate you. First of all, nowadays I’m having a really bad insomnia, nothing helped..and I started to listen to your videos, not even 5 minutes and I was asleep..I can not tell you how helpful it is and how much it made my life liveable again. Secondly, the day after I always come back to listen to your stories without falling asleep, because of your personality and your view on life. Thank you sooo much!!

I’m embarrassed 😞 and ashamed a lot about a lot of things

just do what I do. flick your hair and say "I messed up and still made it look good."

Mary, I literally watch you every day of my life. I don’t know what I would do without your videos. So much of what you said here really resonated with me. Andddd...you look stunning!

I love your asmr videos, I'm from Colombia and you are the only one that can make me fall asleep, your voice is SO perfect for this.

Mary you are born to be a motivational talker!

Unless you walk into a store in a big bird costume juggling chainsaws nobody's looking at you 🤣👏 now when I'm in a store and think people are looking at me I'll remember that thank you!

You are pure, and beautiful inside out. Your inner world is pure gold, I can see it. And thank you for these videos, you are amazing. Greetings from Greece, Europe.

mean girls in elementary school are the worst… one girl that I was friends with in 4th grade pulled my chair out from under me when I went to sit down. I thought the whole class saw it and my tailbone hurt so bad afterward.

What an amazing idea! Thank you to whoever suggested this!💗

You look so pretty Mary!! Idk if it's something different with your hair or your "new" eyebrows but I'm loving it 😍

I absolutely LOVE that length of hair on you!! You looking stunning😌💕

Perfect timing like always. Love you Mary 💗

I seriously wish I knew you in real life. Love your energy and lessons! You’re so wise and kindhearted.

I looked up “ASMR for embarrassment” cuz I am literally feeling so embarrassed rn, and I found this. Thanks for sharing

Love your videos!!! Goodnight from Canada 🇨🇦 ❤️

Just want you to know that I honestly love your cooking videos!

Im so sorry about your last video Mary. I hate it when you're being critique because all you wanted to do was share a harmless recipe and people can't let this poor woman live

Thank you for making this. It hit home in a hard way, but a good way.

This is such a thoughtful video, Mary. I know these subjects might be tough to talk about but I appreciate your honesty. You've mentioned a few times that you grew up in a dysfunctional family but it also sounds like there was a lot of love in your household. The story about your Dad making you a Barbie dreamhouse is one of the sweetest things ever; that's even better than the store brand! If you're comfortable discussing it, a video about how you fell for your bad fiance would be really interesting. A lot of girls fall for the lure of a bad boy and it rarely ends well; you are lucky to have escaped before you actually married him or had kids with him. In hindsight, it would be interesting to hear what warning signs you noticed and (at the time) missed. I really think more girls need to be aware of the "hooks" that problematic people use to manipulate them before they even realize it is happening.

Thank you ms mary I absolutely needed this I myself have felt with a lot of embarrassing situations through out my life you are beautiful ❤️ thank you for all the videos

This video helped me so much. I am very very self conscious about everything I do and this video helped me see things in a new and better light. Thank you💗

You are so wise and well worded!!! Love you!!!

I love love love your talking videos! I find them sooo incredibly relaxing. So happy to see you've made a new one.

Omg thankyou Mary for this video I needed it😣☺️

I just love your videos so much! You're such a wonderful person! 💕

we need more of this kind of videos, so helpful and soothing.

This was so helpful. As a person with self confidence issues and anxiety, THANK YOU MARY!!!!

cant wait to watch this!! i definitely deal with embarrassment 24/7

Wow Mary your hair looks soo good!

This was a lovely and helpful video Mary! Thank you for sharing and I completely relate to you. Thank you for all you do!

This was beautiful and incredibly insightful 💖 i loved that last little thing you said 💛

you look so beautiful here!! love your videos and your humbleness, have a great day!!

I experience extreme embarrassment and shame, so thank you

Mary this is such an encouraging video! I really needed this ☺️

Fr tho your skin is so gorgeous 👏🏼👏🏼

omg yess, this is my favourite type of videos from you!! :)

Wonderful talk. Thanks for sharing. I had a similar incident. I lived in a group home when I was a junior and it was time for prom. My therapists fighter had gotten married a few years before and had a beautiful Marilyn Monroe inspired dress she offered me to wear. I didn’t have a date and had made a couple of friends at my new school. The school was Floyd knobs and they were a lot of rich spoiled doctors kids and here I am 17 can’t drive in foster care Until your 18 so I’m going the providence group home his time school everyday... anyways it was my night to be Cinderella ( van or carriage)... so I got all dolled up and felt pretty. This was a sleeveless wedding dress tailored to fit someone else like a glove, not me. I wore it anyways and raised my arm to put it around a girlfriend neck for a picture and when I did my breast flopped out!!!!! I didn’t notice until the flashes started going off and people started gasping and laughing.... I was blinded and could barely see and sure enough I looked down and there it was... my left breast exposed and on everyone’s phones and cameras for years and years and years. I was horrified and nobody tried to help. I told myself I would never step foot in that school again and I didn’t!!! I dropped out of school and the nuns at the group home helped me study for my GED and I got a job and got my diploma 4 months earlier than everyone else.

These are my favorite kind of videos that you make. Thank you for sharing :)

Your hair is beautiful! Mary you’re stunning 😍

Mary you are such a Gem. You have given me a lot to think about. Thank you truly. 💞💞

I love your talking videos Mary! Your voice is just so soothing 💕

I agee that the importance of many things changes over the years, but I have just remembered one embarrassing story of which I probably would be feeling bad even today. Me and my husband went to a classical concert and enjoyed it with the exception of one truly modern and very dissonant piece for a string quartet. After it ended we both shared our soft spoken relief that "that was over thank God". Next to me was an old man who looked at us with a frown. Suddenly it had been announced that the author of the piece was present that evening - and it was that old man sitting next to me! He got to the stage, got some flowers and then returned back to his seat. We really could not wait for the evening to end, then he quickly disappeared. I felt like Emma from Jane Austen´s book, when Mr. Nightly told her: "Badly done, Emma!" And on a different note - great necklace, Mary!

I love these talks.

Its a perfect way to improve my english listening skill. Thank u❤️😍

Mary, if you see this, could you possibly make a video about tips for coping with moving stress? I'm prepping for a cross-country move and I'm having a lot of anxiety. It's my first time moving out of state, and I know you've been through it before. I don't typically make requests, but your videos always help ❤

I remember I was like 13(?)yo camping, and this girl was accusing me for stealing something from another's girl suitcase... I was always so naive and shy like you. I remember I was crying while she was shouting at me. Every girl was just looking without saying anything. It was just horrible. I can't believe I couldn't speak up for myself or punch her for being so mean and cruel. I wish I had punched her. But now, I've become stronger, not to the point where I wanna be, but getting there!

Such an insightful video. Thank You for sharing, Mary.

Hi Mary! i have been watching you for about 2-3 years i am 14 years old i love your videos so much especially the walkthroughs it makes me feel as if i was with you, you are like a friend to me . i know you receive a lot of hate, and you still post for us thank you :) much love!

I love this so much makes me feel less alone, also feels like a video chat I can have with a good friend xxx

Sartre said "Hell is other people" cause when we are alone we don't feel embaressed but when we are in the presence of somebody else we do

Just in time for bed! Also your hair looks great Mary!

Oh Man Mary! This video hit home 😂 I try to school my kids about that kind of stuff.

Hi Mary! 💕Thank you for this video 💞 I LOVE your advice or just life topic videos!! Could you please do one with whispering 💛

Thank you for this video, Mary :) I could really relate to you about trying to be 'invisible' in school - sometimes it seems like it's the easiest thing to be. However, I am now on my way to attending university this September with all the confidence I can possibly muster up, so this has been a huge help :-) Have a great day

Very good video. I have always have had philosophy “own it” good or embarrassing, this thought has always carried me thru. With every decade I live I had tried to do it with more grace. .owning it you are managing it not managing you.

I'd be embarrassed if I farted during a meeting at work. That to me would be the worst. Especially if I ate something really bad.

Great choice of topic. Very insightful🙂

oh gosh I have so many embarrassing moments!! Always remeber, if someone exists is living they deserve respect and dignity and kindness, You deserve respect and dignity and kindness, other peoples feelings are valid, Your feeling are always valid.

You help me a lot with this video, thank you thank you. lots of love from Brazil.

I am embarrassed all the time

Can you do a topic about confrontations?

Awwh I'm sorry that happened Mary. She sounds like a real "C"!!

Thank you for this video, Mary.

We had to do a skills check off assessment in nursing school today. We had to perform in front of the rest of the class and needed to do all the skills pretty much perfectly to pass. I couldn't get the damn blood pressure cuff to work, even though I could do it in my sleep. I wanted to die, but I made it through. I volunteered to go first so I was the one who fumbled the most. But I'm happy I went first. I ended up passing. Honestly I'm embarrassed my instructor saw me fumble but other than that I don't really feel embarrassed looking back.

Can you please do other videos like this but with other scenarios

Mary you are great...

Your hair looks so pretty!

I'm trying to instill that in my 10-year old son: People are paying MUCH LESS attention to you and judging what you're doing than you think they do! I would have had a much happier time in my teenager years and 20s if I had the "zero f%&$ given" attitude back then that I developed in my late 30s.

Hey I have a request/ suggestion... can you do a video on how to love yourself? Or how to get over somebody? Would appreciate it so much. 💙

I embarrass myself daily 🤣

This is a great video! ❤️