Teeb meem twb dhau lawm ce cia dhau mu koj tu txiv twb thov koj ce zam txim rau nw mog yog koj pheej chim ce yuav mob koj xwb os kam tsij sau siab hlo rov hlub koj tu txiv mog
Cheating is NEVER a mistake. It is a CHOICE. Whatever your husband wants to call it, he made his bed. He knew exactly what he was doing. A mistake is you taking him back after what you know and knowing how you feel, that would be a mistake. Your life does not end because your marriage failed. The failing part had nothing to do with you. I understand you wanting to stay for your children and the life/marriage you worked so hard for but what he did is one of the biggest betrayal between a husband and wife. Staying with him you will continue to slowly end yourself worth.
Well, it would be her choice also if she chooses to take him back, so that wouldn't be a mistake. Like you said, she already knows everything, so she will knowingly put herself in that situation.
@@hmooblubneej7116 smart person!! YOU’RE absolutely right!! Here’s why people think women accept men more, It’s actually quite simple, women talk more, so all you hear about are women stories. 99% of women who’s husband cheats on them and wether they take him back or not, she’ll yap her mouth. Men dont talk about their wife cheating especially if he takes her back, it’s disgraceful to his reputation, so 99% of men in this situation keep his mouth shut and no one knows his wife screwed around. That’s why people think that hmong women are the majority forgiving a cheating spouse, but this myth is not true at all.
@@houalor1610 kev mob siab yeej muaj, tab yam ua tas lawm ces thim tsis tau lawm. Yog tseem hluas mas ua ib zag hais, tab sis laus2 lawm os mog. Lwm tus ces tseem yuav phem tshaj lawm thiab.
Koj tus txiv thiab tus menyuam ntawd txoj kev hlub koj tseem yuav muaj nqi tshaj vim nkawv txoj kev ntshai twb dhau lawm hos txoj kev ntshaw koj twb muab tag lawm. So txhob tu siab.. koj cog dab tsi koj yuav tau sau yam ntawd.. hlub koj thiab txhua tus uas koj paub ntawd yog txoj kev ua neej.
Peb ua neeg nyob yeej muaj tej thaum peb ua yuam kev muab mloog ce koj tu txiv yeej ib txwm xaiv koj ib txwm hlub koj tshaj luag nco ntsoov tia yog koj nrauj es koj tseem yuav mu yuav ib tug tom ntej ce xum zam txim rau koj tu txiv xwb zoo tshaj lawm nw txhaum ib zaug xwb nw zeem kiag lo txog hnub no tseem zoo dua cov es txhaum tag txhaum dua txhaum2 txog hnub nw twb yuav nkag qhov lawm lo tseem ua quj qee. Muab xav tia 10tawm lub xyoo dhau lo lawm xwb twb tsi yog tshiab2 tam sim no, zam txim rau nw es koj thiaj li tsi chim2 siab heev mog.
Sister aw, koj tseem chim2 siab es koj thiaj yuav nrauj. Yog tagkis koj tseem yuav mus yuav ib tug txiv tshiab ces koj cia li zam txim rau nws xwb os. Cia lub sijhawm thiab nws txoj kev hlub mam kho koj tus kab mob siab yog koj tseem hlub koj cov menyuam thiab tsis xav kom lawv zoo li nws tus menyuam tsaub ntawv. Pab hlub tus tub ntawd kawg thiab. Nws tsis muaj kev txhaum tiam sis ho los txais tej laus tej kev sib ntxub.
Viv ncaus, yog nws twb thov koj npaum li ntawd lawm ces zam txim mog, koj txawm mus tom ntej los xyov puas muaj tus zoo lawm os. Vim lub caij no yeej tsis muaj cov txiv zoo lawm, tsuas muaj tib cov uas tseem phem tshaj koj tus lawm xwb mog. Txhob cia yus tej me nyuam ua ntsuag li yus os mog, npaum cas los yog nws yug nws thiaj hlub nawb.
Tus me nyuam uas nej hu me nyuam tsaub nas nws tseem lwj siab dua koj nws yog tus lwj siab dua koj nws tsis muaj lub txim tsuas yog muaj nej 4 tus laus thiaj tsim teeb meem 6 nws
Thov hlub tus mi tub mog. Nws tsis muaj lub txim txaus. Koj tus txiv yuav tsum hais lus zoo rau tus mi tub thiab mev, thaum sib ua twb zoo zoo nws nyob neb. Yog tus mi tub ntawd yog ib tug mloog mloog lus tsis yog laib, hlub mas tsam nws yog tus zoo o
Normally I don’t write comment for anyone, I feel very strong that write for you whether you like or not because your story. I am strongly recommend that you change your perspective of life will help you. Everything you have said summed to this. Past is history, tomorrow is opportunity for life and new beginning. Don’t bring past to past to present. Let tomorrow tell you how to live today. Yog koj ua tau li no tej zaum yuav pab koj lub neeg. Koj nyob txij koj tus ciam, koj hais txij koj tus kheej cias tus sab tom txiav txim rau nws tus kheej thiaj raws cuag lub neej tshav ntuj.
Tav tag los lawm xwb koj yuav tau ua siab loj vim twb ntev ntev los lawm es ua ib siab rov mus hlub koj tus txiv xwb mas me sister mus tom ntej los ntshe yuav tsi zoo thiab os
Tus niam tsev aw kj kav tsij zam txim rau kj tus txiv nawb nws twb g pub neb lub neej puas kj mus tom ntej los yeej kawg cov laus thiab ua niam yau xb nawb yog kj nrauj g yuav txiv lawm mam nrauj os yeej hlub kj kawg los kav tsij zam txim rau kj tus txiv tsev nawb
Txhua2 lo lu kuv yeej hnov tag lawmkuv hai li no rau koj mog tu me niam tsev ua siab ntev yij meem hlub2 koj tu txiv mg vim nw tseem hlub koj thiab pab hlub nw tu me nyuam ntawv thiab nawb kuv li lo yeej muaj li kom ib yam li thiab nawb tab si vim kuv hlub kuv tu txiv ce kuv thiaj pab nw hlub nw tu me nyuam tsaub ntawv thiab kuv ua txhua yam zoo txhawm rau nw thiab tu me nyuam ntawv kom kuv lub siab puv npo ke hlub thiab kev lom zem nawb mog
Tus me niam tsev aw koj mloog peb hais koj thiab os mog koj tus txiv twb thov txim rau koj lawm es zam txim rau nws nawv mog tus tom ntej tsis zoo li tus ko lawm mog
Your wound will never heal if you don’t leave that marriage. What he did behind your back will always be there in the back of your head no matter how much you try to forgive him.
muab koj tus txiv nrauj los ua poj nrauj lom zem tshaj thiaj tsis nyuaj siab nawb mog txiv neej tshuav coob cov zoo2 los muaj peb mam tuaj hlub koj os mog
yog leej twg tsis ntsib cov txiv siab phem thiab zais siab zoo li no mas tsis paub.dhuav tiag tiag li os lawv aw....pab koj tu siab rau koj lub neej kawg li os tus niam laus
Tus me niam ua siab ntev nyob os mog Koj mus tom ntej lub neej tseem yuav lwj siab tshaj ntawm ko os mog txoj kev tom ntej tseem yuav phem tshaj os mog txhob mus tsam koj xav txog li os mog
Tus niam laus aw teeb mem twb tas lawm ces txhob xav txhos lawm thiab li xav ua neej mus ntxiv os tshuav yos nws tseem hlub2 koj cesua siab muab tso pov tses xav rau luag tej thiab os tsam muaj hnub yus xav tsos lig lawm os
Viv ncaus aw zam txim zoo dua mog twb los txog hnub no lawm es cia koj uv kom koj cov me nyuam nrog luag muaj niam mog koj twb tsis muaj niam koj twb ntshaw 2 niam los laus li no lawm mog txoj kev no raug leej twg los yeej mob tshaj plaws li mog tab sis zam txim mog
Viv ncaus koj tus txiv ko twb yog nws mus tham tau lawv tus poj niam es nws thiaj tsis khiav koj xwb nawb yog nws mus tham tau ib tug hluas nkauj tsis muaj txiv ces tos koj paub koj tus txiv muab koj tso tseg tus txiv siab phem li koj yav no tom ntej txhob muab nws hlub kawg siab lawm os mog kuv kuj muaj ib zaj neej neeg yuav xws koj zaj thiab tu siab tshaj plaws
Yog koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj ces nws yeej mus hlub lwm tus poj niam lawm. Yav tag yog yav tag koj zam txim yuav zoo dua tsam tag kis koj khum xim thiab xav txog lig tias ua cas ho tsis zam txim ib zaug pub rau koj tus txiv. Yog koj mus tom ntej mas haj yam yuav ntsib teeb meem loj thiab ntau2 npaug tshaj no. Yog tsis ntseeg sim thiab paub......
Viv ncaus aw yog nws lees txhaum tag es los ua zoo lawm ces lam nyob o mog muab xav mas chim siab tshaj plaws tab sis tu siab qhov yus Laus lawm ntshe yuav tsis muaj lub zoo neej lawm lam ua cav lwj sib ib nyob Kom tej me nyuam txhob tusiab xwb es yus yuav hluas ho tsis hluas kiag yuav Laus ho tsis laus kiag es xyov Lub neej Tom ntej yuav zoo li cas yog zam tau ces zam tsuav nws tsis ua ntxiv lawm xwb muab saib cov me nyuam es tsis muaj tsw luag muab thawb rau Tus ub tus no mas hlub tej me nyuam kawg O viv ncaus ua siab ntev xwb
So sad, I don’t think I could forgive him either because he kept this secret for almost 20 years knowing that he got away with it. It’s almost like he got away with murdering you. He knew that you would never find out and hid everything. Could you truly trust him ever again. I don’t think so.
Yog kawg od kev niam txiv sib ntxeev siab ces yus yeej puag tsis sov tshawb los tsis sawv pw los yeej tsis tuag siab hlub vim xav txog nws tej kev siab phem siab dub od tiamsis vim tej menyuam es ntshe thiaj li tseem ua cavlwj sib ib rau menyuam tau kev txib xwb, tsis hais pojniam txiv neej los ib yam li nawb.
Tus viv ncaus kuv tus txiv hais tias yog koj xav tias koj nrauj es tsis yuav txiv li lawm ces nrauj los tau. Tabsis yog twb ntev2 lawv es nws yeej tsis ua lawm ces zam txim rau koj tus txiv. Cov yawg nrauj los siab phem2 li thiab. Yog koj nrauj tag koj nrhiav tau cov siab phem2 ib yam ces pauv tsis ntxiv koj tus thiab xwb. Yeej nyuaj kawg. Yog koj zam txim no ces txij no mus txhob cia nws mus nws ib leeg tom tej lawm. Mus qhovtwg ob leeg mus. Zais2 siab li ntawv ces yus ua neej yeej tsis tau luag li.
@@yenglor691 what do you mean the son is not smart? The son should have asked for more financial support and a lot more. Make the dad pay for his mistakes and all those years he missed.
@@XMML33 A majority of our Hmong sons are still living in the old days. They want/feel entitled that their parents should help paid for their wife. He is depending on his parents.
What are you talking about! What about the heartless beeeach who had an affair and produced A child? They are both heartless. You had your son for 18 years but you decide one day you can't afford him any longer. Nah...she is worst than the a$$$ that got her pregnant! Disgusting mother and father. The only smart person out of this story is the beeach ex-husband.
I believe he is hurt as much as you are, that is why he has tried to do more for you and hope the goodness will overcome the mistake that he made. just remember the stain will never be clean. I also believe you both still love each other, the more you love the more you are hurt. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO HEAL BOTH OF YOU
Ca peb cov niam tsev no cov Txiv tsev yuav saib g rau nqi kiag li nkim lub zog u lo yug ib tse me nyuam rau nw e u lau tag li no xb os tu me niam lau aw txhob tu siab lam nyob dai u tej me nyuam os mog
Cas kj tsis muaj kev Zam txhim li lawm kj pheej ua kom kj yeej li peb yog poj niam peb ua kom yeej xwb ces yuav tau poj nrauj lau kj twb paub tias kj niam tshiab tsis hlub Kj es uas cas kj tsis Zam ntxim li mas viv ncaus Kj lub neej zoo 2 lawm txhob muab kj lub neej dhuav nawb mog kv Khulna xim kj lub neej mog viv ncaus kv thov kj mog yus yog poj niam ces yus yeej ua tus xwb mog txhob cia yus ua tus yeej mog kv hlub Kj os viv ncaus
Idk this is a hard call. Vim tias now days its hard to find a truthful man. You can end up with someone better or worser. Unless u planned on staying single for the rest if your life. Wish you the best sister!
Being alone is better than being with a cheater and a liar. Unfortunately many women are too afraid to let go in fear of being alone. Little do they know that once they are strong enough being alone to love yourself and be free from a cheating lying husband is the best feeling ever.
@@moody_mochi_cat true but many hmong women always want to belong to a man, to have a head ( that's what they cal a husband) so people don't look down on them. They will eventually remarried but not many good man out there. Like my husband said, many divorced men are bad that's why they divorced. Only a few are good
Tus Viv ncaus koj hais yog lawm os, yus twb ua ntsuag lawm tsis xav kom tej menyuam ua ntsuag li yus os, lam uv os mog, nws twb ua zoo rau koj lawm ces lam uv,
If you can't leave him either then it's best to forgive and let go. Forgive for yourself, what's the point of staying and being miserable? Not blaming you but you have decided to stay so let it go
I was thinking of the same thing.. as a niam tsev, if u can't leave or divorce, might as well forgive and let it go. I don't understand her way of thinking.. y bitch and complain when she refuse to do anything about it... smh..
Txhob ua siab me thiab os yus rov mu ua poj nrauj yeej g zoo dab g sib uv nyob zoo dua o mog yu lub neej twb ua tsuag txaus lawm txhob cia yu cov me nyuam ua ntsuag ntxiv ua siab loj os
Better divorce this El Cheater ASAP and move far away before you get a stroke over this heart ache, your heart is broken already. Go, your kids will understand!!! This this best advice ever
Straight up he a cheater!! There's a kid to proof. He needs to stop with his reasons and excuses. HE CHEATED ON YOU. He even said he loved that lady since the first time. I'm not sure there will ever be a happy day being with him. Yes it will be very hard to forget.
If it only once and he learns is lesson then forgive him, if you can see that he doesn’t do anymore then give him another chance and don’t live with the past, so both are u can be happy. Everyone make make, but if they continue the mistake that when u can call it off. Think about all the good you guys go through and over look just once. God give us many many chances and always forgive us, we can try to do that once and let go of the past, it will only hurt u and also ur kids too, they r looking at how u guy live ur life, if u stress all the time then they r also stressed along with you.
Tus me Viv ncaus aw ntshe koj siab me zog lawm pob tus me nyuam ntawm ko 100 yeej yog koj tus txiv tus tub lawm na koj nrog nws hlub ib yam li ua yog koj tus tub xwb ces koj los ua neej kaj siab lug ho koj tus txiv los kaj siab lug koj chim ua dab tsi mas kuv tus txiv twb muaj me nyuam tseg rau sab Tim nplog kuv tseem hlub tshaj nws as txhua zaum kuv tus tub tiv thov nyiaj tuaj kuv xa nyiaj rau nws tseem chim thiab ua rau kuv cav xav luag xwb as .txhob rhuav koj lub neej nawb yog koj ua tau li kuv koj yuav kaj siab lug xwb.
Zam txim rau koj tus txiv o mog vim cov me nyuam yog neb 2 leeg yug o es nws thiaj li hlub o nawb koj muab xav rau tus tuag lawm es koj thiaj zam tau txim o nws twb tsis hlub tus tov nws tseem hlub koj heev o
It will take a lot of time to heal this secret love from your partner. Very sad for us women to go through this life. Only people that go through can understand the pain
Man, this guy thought he'd paid her and her husband off thinking they're gone for good but trouble come knocking after 18 yrs. I understand her situation of being day in day out anger and confuse, 7 kids and a so called great life turn up side down, what do you do? It's easy to say walk away but at the end it's not that easy.
Ua ib siab zam lub txim 6 nws os mog thaum kj zam txim rau nws lawm ces yuav tsis mob kj heev lawm os ua neeg nyob ces ib tug ua txhaum los ib tug yuav tau zam ib tug txawm mus tom ntej los tsuas li xwb tshe tseem yuav mob ntshaj los kuj muaj txoj kev no ces tus twg ntsib thiaj yuav nkag siab xwb mog zam ntxim yog nqhov zoo dua mog xav tias tag kis yog hnub tshiab 6 kj pib qhov zoo mus xwb yog nws twb nrov los ua zoo 6 kj lawm
Pab hais rau tus niam tsev no hais tias yog koj tus txiv twb los Lee's lawm thiab twb ntev ntev heev Los lawm, yus yuav tsum zam txim rau nws, tso Yu's tej me nyuam thiaj tseem muaj niam muah txiv nawb vim life is too short, ntawm tus tub ntawd, yuave tsum pan nws nawb thiab hlub nws li Yu's tus me nyuam thiab rau qhov nws tsis yog xav xav yug Los li no nawb, koj hlub nws ces Ntuj tsuas hlub koj, xwb nawb mog
Kuv hlub tus menyuam, vim nws tsis paub dab tsis. Zoo lis tus menyuam tsis tau txais kev hlub,es muab nws thawb mus tom ub tom no.Adults should take responsibility to bring a child into this world.
Nws txawm ua tsu li ntawv lawm los hnub no nws twb los ua zoo zoo rau kj lawm ces kav tsij tig los zam txim es ua lub neej sib sib hlub os tus niam laus ,vim tias kv yog ib tug nkauj nrab kv qhia kj tias kj txawm mus tom ntej los yeej muaj tib co txiv siab phem2 xwb tsis muaj ib tug zoo2 nyob twg lawm os ,cov txiv neej zoo2 ces yog luag tus txiv tas lawm xwb os
Tus sister aw yog kj twb g muaj noam mus tau xaiv lawm ces ua 1 siab nyob rau yus tej menyuam txhob xav hais tias nws yog kj tus txiv lawm muab xav hais tias nws yog lawv tus txiv lawm xwb kj thiaj g mob siab os yog hnub twg kj muaj mob nws ho take care kj ces lam siv nws los pab take care kj thaum yus ua g tau lawm xwb os txhob tso kj cov menyuam ntshaw niam zoo li kj os
Koj xav ntau ces koj mob koj xwb os luag yeej tsi paub. Nws twb thov txim txhua yam rau koj lawm. He learned his lesson. You should forgive what he did and be a good wife to him. Not just your husband made that mistake, almost every hmong man make that choice. Other smark women can forgive their husbands so do you.
Tus niam tsev aw... Cas kuv ntshaw txog koj lub neej ko kawg li os ua li cas es lub siab yuav tsis loj ua luaj li os khaws nkaus tus mi nyuam coj los yuav nyab rau xwb os tas li kuv mloog mas koj siab me dau lawm tej ko twb yog txhiaj thiaj li rov qab los raukoj naj lam yog kuv mas ua li cas nyob nyob es cia li os tej tug tub tiav hlus hlo los thawj kuv mas ntshe kuv muab nyuj coj los hu plig kiag xwb os kuv thov koj cia li hlub koj tus txiv xwb os
Sis, if you can't forgive him, set yourself and him free. He knows what he did is wrong. He is trying. Im sure if he could turn back time, he would. This is something he'll live with for the rest of his life, his karma already hit him. Forgiving him doesn't mean he's gonna do it again or that you're not woman enough. Please ignore these negative things people say. No relationship is perfect. I believe you both can make it work but its up to you. He sounds like he's really trying to make things work.
3 ua neej nyob yus tus nplaig yus yeej tom tau tus neeg ua txhaum lawm nws nws twb paub 3 UA neeg nyob yeej tsis muaj tus zoo tas tus yuav tsum muaj kev zam txim mog laj nrhiav tau tus zoo txiv mog koj txhob chim rau tus me nyuam vim tsis yog nws kev txhaum nawb
You need to make a decision and stick with it. If you decide to forgive him, then truly forgive and move on. That’s the only way to heal. Life is short. Don’t live in misery.
Tus niam tsev ntawm zaj neej neeg no nas koj hais tias koj tus txi phem no tab si twb phem tsi tau npaum kuv tus ib nram kuv tam sim no kuv kuv los ua poj nrauj tau kaum lub xyoo lawm es kuv ntshais cov txiv neej lawm es kuv ua siab nyob li xwb tiag tus niam tsev ua is ntev nej yuav mus qhov twg los nej tus txiv tseem cheem cheem nej ces av tsij nyob twj ywm xwb mog
Lub neej yog zoo le no cais yeej mob heev le nv tiam si yog uv tau los ho uv mus vim nwg zoo nkaus li cov ntxia hlaus ua yug muab ntxia ruas ntawm daim ntxiag ntoo tsawm yug yuav muab dob tag lm los nwg tseem tshuav cov qhov ntxia hlau ua tsi tsawj nqawm le os mog nwg yeej mob lub quj qawv hauv yug lub siab yeej zam tsim tsi tau le os😂😂😂😂😂
Sister , do not just have this blue feeling n go crazy. . Wonder what 2 do this cheater is feeling Happy 2 see depresd. Go revenge go cheat behind him. Whenever he find out, . Divorce him cheat on him before divirce . It will really kill his feeling n u will feel so much better n laugh, dance around.
