Vishen Lakhiani: Practical Steps to Follow Your Heart & Generate Self-Love 

Watching (m. 28:55) Vishen explaining his “click” suicide thoughts while dealing with too much anxiety & too much stress, even while a successful moment of his life, has helped myself a bit to try to understand why my brother, a professionally successful middle aged man, suddenly comitted suicide few years ago. A bit of weight has been removed from my soul. A bit that is a handful. And it's thanks to you both Mayim & Jonathan.💜🙏🏼

Overall, I found myself agreeing with the points Vishen was trying to make. He has the ability to explain things with confidence without coming across as condescending or arrogant. I really liked this interview.

Mayim, I want you to know how much I appreciate this broadcast. Your transparency, your quest for knowledge and what is true and meaningful, and your relationship with Jonathan, who excels in supporting you with genuine knowledge, understanding and warmth, give much needed comfort. All guests on your show are amazing . You and Jonathan are incredible speakers and, though I have an aging ADHD brain, experienced much brokeness, PTSD, and Major Depression, I stay tuned in completely through the whole episode. I have been a fan for a year or so (?) I am so grateful for you two. You have shown me that I am not unique in my feelings of inadequacy. I went back to college and received a BA in Social Science minoring in Psych and Soc. and graduating 11 years ago. This was a huge accomplishment for me as I had to choose to either work to survive or do my course work. The year I turned 50 I was almost finished when I wound up living in a barn and helping with farm animals.😧I was not able to stay focused on my education in the unstable environment, lost my fafsa as a result of not keeping up with courses, joined Americorps, earned $ to live on and money to pay for a quarter of college courses I needed to fulfill my science requirements, then was able to have fafsa reinstated, and return to WSU to complete my degree. Prior to returning to college I experienced, as my therapist once told me, layers of trauma. Marriage and children, which I had thought would bring a blissful life, brought much more grief as I experienced emotional battering while married to alcoholics and tragic events with my children including Kidney Disease, brain damage at birth, accidental shooting and death involving my son and step son, drug addiction and induced Paranoid Schizophrenia. These occurred among all three of my children and have caused lifelong grief and suffering. I am a survivor, yes, but have never been able to overcome the feeling of not being able to measure up. I was broken to pieces emotionally. That has kept me from achieving a career that is satisfying intellectually and emotionally. I love learning. Listening to lectures has been my passion for many years. I have had a subscription with Audible since it started I believe. My focus was on learning about the brain and the "mind". Since I still didn't feel competent to make a difference, I recently thought that if I had attained a neuroscience education I would be in a more secure realm. Then I met you by way of You Tube. Today's guest settled this for me. I'm not sure that my brokeness can be overcome completely (I've worked hard in therapy with some very good PHD therapists for several years) but the idea of looking at myself, focusing on one eye sounds like it may be beneficial and I do intend to try it. Also, not 'feeling' like we need to live up to standards of how we were raised to think, and living in the consequences of the critical judgement put on us, but rather, loving ourselves for who we are and what is important to us, is an exponentially salubrious quest we should all be encouraged to follow. I reall appreciate your understanding of the difficulty involved in making leaps from life's insurmountable disparity to the other side. I may not make it but I can have hope and keep trying, thanks to you and your brilliance and sacrifice to air this show. I just can't express how much you, Jonathan, your guests, this show, have meant to me. Maybe I will take a leap of faith and see what happens.🌈💙🙆‍♂️💙🌈 Take care....💪fighting💪

Three big lessons of today’s episode, everyone a motto itself: “Love yourself as if your life depends on it” “Creating your life as a unique masterpiece” “You have to protect your hapiness first” And a plus: Today I’ve learnt a new word (I’m not English native)! It’s “unfuckwithable” that in my language can be translated as “imbatible”, more or less.🙏🏼

He mentions the Holistic Psychologist and you should really check her out and have her on! She’s fantastic. Her book was a huge help in my mental health journey. Well, hers and Glennon’s!

This conversation easily ranks among my favorites presented by the Breakdown team. And 1:11:11 made me a puddle! Such a beautiful sentiment! You all are doing such great work in the world, and I'm so glad to be a witness and feel like a participant. I'm a better me because of the Breakdown, NO DOUBT! Thank you!

After living a fairly bumpy road I've come to see that everything is made of photons. That includes love which is both selfish and selfless. The selfish love becomes greed, lust, hate because the person loves themselves more. Selfless love becomes caring, sharing, hope. Both expand beyond the body in an electrical field which interacts with others changing the polarity and or enhancing/ charging the base. So be selfless and play.

I’ve been learning from Vishen for about 5 years now. I’ve heard these concepts many times - and I learn something new each time. Great interview! I loved the dynamics. The three of you are my current favorite people to listen and watch. Thank you ❤️ Jonathan, you mentioned you listed the books that were mentioned. Can you please share that list?

I’ll say it again this podcast is the absolute best show I love it there isn’t any other place to be on a Tuesday except tuning in to Bialik Breakdown with Mayim and Jonathan you are guaranteed a fantastic show , love u Mayim ❤️ you are amazing 😻 xx

I remember you as Blossom. I loved that show, it's so nice you grew into a great human being with morals and values. That's really what that show was all about, healthy living and a loving family. Miss those days. Thank you for sharing.

Wow!! How good that was. "...You have a life to live, think of your life as a work of art..." I LOVED

I also want to say that I watched him and his ex so compassionately share their separation with their community. It was loving and honoring and I give them a lot of credit. It was good for their family and community but also a model for the rest of us.

I think Vishen's approach to living and loving one's life is ideal. Generally speaking, it's doable. What it might not take into consideration is the external stuff we are bombarded with as we grow into adulthood. It appeals to me so much, but for individuals like me, with anxiety and a whole mess of other mental challenges, it would be extremely difficult. I haven't read the book, mind you. This is going solely by this conversation. I agree with Mayim, though. He was incredibly articulate, and certainly took into consideration his audience by referencing the science that supports his ideas. Thanks guys, for as always, broadening my horizon. :)

Loved this interview. Totally agree with his recommendation on the Holistic psychologist, Dr Nicole LePera and Kamal Ravikant Love yourself like your life depends on it. Love you both. Thank you

I love Vishen because I can identify with his pain from the past, i myself was a crippling shy person and it was always reinforced that I stay well in the background to be accepted and thats who I was for years until I took (I took it twice) a eight week course in Self Esteem and started valuing myself after not being able to smile for two years and suddenly finding myself again :)

So lovely words Mayim said about Jonathan 😍❤️

Absolutely LOVED this episode! Love Vishen..have been following him and his Mind Valley teachings for years! I just want to say that a lot of what he teaches is about finding your bliss...if that means you're creating a product or service great, if that means you're a plumber...wonderful but find the joy in your life! I was in a very dark place five years ago and started to do the mirror technique of self love. At first I felt so silly but over time it became a mantra I expanded on and still use today. When you fill your cup with self love just think what you can create❤❤❤

Mayim, i love you, but it is also so great when Jonathan participates so fully. i really enjoy your different points of departure 💖

Amyyyyyyy... there you go... right in your element!!! Sheldon would love this show! 😊

Thank you Mayim & Jonathan! I love Vishen and Mind Valley. Especially enjoyed how much you got Vishen laughing! 😂

Wow. I went to university to be a teacher. My end goal was to travel the world. I found a job teaching in South Korea and that is how I used my teaching degree to manifest my end goal. That was 30 years ago. I have seen the world and experienced so many different cultures. I have gained so many friends around the world. I married a wonderful man and reside in Germany. End goal achieved. Now on to the next end goal.

Mayim in 1:10 made me laugh so hard. I really liked what Vishen was saying during the interview but I too sort if felt like “he has so many good points but omg so intense, is he gonna pull up another chart? Does he have a book or research recommendation for anything and everything? Like honey slow down, breathe a little, be human, here is some herbal tea (or xanax)”. So when Mayim went on that tangent I really got a good laugh and so did he. Thank you Mayim for getting an honest laugh out of me today- if you only knew how much I truly needed it 🤍

the way he speaks!🥰 mayim I absolutely love the devils advocate that you play in most episodes. I grew up without a mother and that just feels like a very maternal thing and I enjoy watching/listening to the points you bring up!🙏

Love Vishen. I’ve been in many mindvalley classes over the years. I think he’s smart and so thinks out of the box. I think if I knew Him I would love to hang out with him. He’s so gifted in front of the camera and very charismatic. Love his authenticity.

Mayim and Jonathan are so sweet together. I also enjoyed the distinction between means goals and end goals, it gave me a lot to think about.

This episode is so wonderful. I truly enjoyed this. The part about strength training blew my mind. I can do 30 minutes a week. Totally spending the afternoon googling more about that and Vishen.

One of my fave interviews. Loved it so much.

Very interesting interview. I love that I learn something new every time I watch/listen to this podcast. Thank you.

wearing my unf*ckwithable t-shirt today. Thanks Vishen Lakiani for Mindvalley University and Code of the Extraordinary Mind. Looking forward to Estonia. Honored to have met you

I love this podcast. Some feedback - the ads - not sure if there is a different way to monetize this podcast but I have to say hearing this guest share his time that he struggled with sducidal thoughts and then go right into: “let me tell you why I love these shoes” comes off as tone deaf

I found this man is steeped in his privilege. All that travel talk is privileged. There are people dealing with existing,living with trauma, not making plans to go to base camp on Everest.

Fabulous. He is fascinating. I cracked up when Mayim suggested a description of his life with a partner, and he was laughing as well.

As someone who is trying to get off the “hamster wheel”, I really appreciated this interview. Shorter work weeks and only 30 minutes of exercise per week? Yes please! 😁

OMG! I really want to work in mindvalley...I loved this episode, I'm Vishen follower and always blow out my mind... I also love all your podcasts Mayim🥰

This was clearly wonderful!!! I feel great after this episode! I need to love myself MORE!!!!!

I appreciate Mayim's pushback on certain topics with her guests as I often share the skepticism. Especially when it comes to people who seem to have a guru/motivational speaker vibe. But hey, once you tell me I only need 30 minutes of exercise a week, I'll start listening! 😅 Jokes aside, some interesting points came up here that I'll have to look into further. Thanks for your work. ☺ Adding after watching the recap at the end: I love how Mayim's brain works and relate so much to it.

I love your guest's philosophy of sleep and work! Love this episode !

This has been my favourite episode so far!!...... I don't even know what I want to do in my life that would make me happy. As a kid in African culture, you usually have three common careers to pursue, being a doctor, lawyer and/or engineer. And you may even think that you like the career path and then you discover that you don't. Right now, I'm a first year student at University of Zimbabwe. I'm studying cloud computing and that's not what I want, but with the economy of my country and with the fear of disappointing my parents, I have to persevere😔....... I don't know what to do, I'm stuck

So wonderful! Enjoy your podcast so very much. Thank you for spreading your knowledge!

Love him. Love yall 💓

Funny, I only know him bc I'm constantly targeted for his ads. But, I must say, I do like his vibe and his message.

This interview was amazing! It really is so much to think about. Very good balance of questions and allowing time for the answers. I have been a person that can't think too far in the future and I wish I could. Very inspiring. Thanks!

Loved your little rant at the end Mayim! ♥️. Will go out & buy his book!! 💝, gift to myself!

I COMPLETELY AGREE THAT RUNNING IS BAD FOR THE BODY!!!!! It just has always made sense to me that running wears out ur ligaments & joints! It’s just too much!

Very weird thing to focus in on, but his accent was just picking at my brain so I had to look up where Vishen's from. Finding out he's Malaysian makes his accent make so much sense.

"Focus on the things that regular education forgot." And that's why I homeschool ❤️

@MayimBialik Hey you know I googled you for the first time and I was surprised 😯 when I saw that you are 45. I want to congratulate you that you look 10 years younger As I was thinking you would be in Your mid 30😊

All of the ads have been Vishen’s through this podcast 😂 I am starting to think this is a message!

Loved the way you probed him at the end, the "Do you like to be cuddled?" because as much as I admire Vishen and have been aware of him for years, he's just a little fast and humorless forme. I think he's not paying enough attention to what you say. I mean, the joke about being his wife...and nothing? He needs more playtime.

Still laughing after the stressed by two futurists on board poor Mayim & her last question about the possible too scheduled day in Vishen’s life! For one moment TBBT Sheldon Cooper shadow appeared on my ipad while watching! 😆👍🏼😉

Ha! So he’s actually in Estonia 😄 I keep seeing Mindvalley adverts and some are filmed in Tallinn, and I thought oh, that’s a bit cheeky, are they filming in every city and then targeting people in that location with familiar visuals? So, no, he really is here. ☺️ Greetings from Tallinn! 👋🙃

Mayim you and Jonathan are just so adorable , you guys are just beautiful I love the way you seem to balance eachother, I see the love in both your eyes and I feel joy for you both Btw I'm curious can we meet your children and Jonathan "s child if they are ok with it and if you guys are ok , it would be great to get to see what is clearly the main light(your children) which is what inspires your work , I' feel the same about my daughter Amelie if I didnt have the joy of being her mum to sustain me I would be dead. Thank you both for the awesome podcast I genuinely look forward to it every week. Also what a great job you are doing on Jepordy !!! Lol I'm writing like you'll actually have the time or Interest to read this , anyway I'm Amelie 's mummy but my name is Katie and I thank you and Jonathan this podcast is soooooo fantastic

Yeah. Working midnites at a fancy hotel. Gonna cut the fruit and break down.🤗❤️

Amazing guest and super interesting interview.

Oh, and please, please could you have Kati Morton on the show? 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️

I like your content is very interesting for every people, also your videos help me for practice my english lesson.

26:50-28:10 while brushing your teeth, see your left eye and say I love you

I loved his words!

Mayim❤❤

Just Commenting for the algorithm ❤️

Yet another excellent interview - thank you!

Vishnu is the god of upkeep/preservation and the god of destruction is Shiva. Otherwise, I love the chat!

Quick question...would you consider grouping ads and presenting them at beginning or end or give viewers an option to skip some ads? The frequent ad interruptions disrupt the fluidity of the interview and made it difficult for me to desire to watch the whole interview.

okey dokey. thought it might get better as it went on. turned out it just got more insane as it went on. 🤦‍♀️

Unlike other commenters, I had a very strong negative reaction to his "Masterpiece Self" mindset. I felt like he used the word "Masterpiece" because of the feelings that word envokes, without actually reflecting on or thinking about what makes something a "Masterpiece." Also, I'm pretty sure the artist of the work doesn't get to declare it a Masterpiece. I probably could have gotten over his use of such value-ladden term metaphorically, until he used "Photocopy" as the opposite of Masterpiece. There was so much cognitive dissonance throughout his explanations, particularly any time he referred to the notion as a binary personal choice. Are you a Masterpiece or Photocopy? Personally, I think of myself as a unique collage of different photocopies (e.g., people), because aren't we just essentially a culmination of our experiences and the people who influence us. I'm not an exact replica of anyone, but rather a unique combination of everyone.

Google Maps provided me a great understanding where Malaysia vs Estonia ... wow

Mind blowing information!

I had to change my diet for my health and I can NOT eat out anymore. I have cook and bake everything I eat. It's the only way in this country.

I love this "unfuckwithable" person and conversation!

Please talk to a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist for nutrition advice.

Ok so 2 things about this. If my day didn't start until 10 or 11 it would inspire the suicidal overwhelming thoughts. I do my best thinking between 7 and 1030. I'm a morning person so the structure he set forth -like anything- isn't for everyone. By 5 pm I should be the only one in my space. He's mistaking running for a physical activity. In one episode I don't remember what it was Mayim on her meditation soapbox and she says running IS meditation for some people. The only thing (an uninsured poor person who has no actual MH resources) that even scratches the surface of my anxiety is running every day. And I'm not alone in that. Who cares what it does to your body in the long run? Isn't that the means vs end argument on its own? And let me guess- a naturally skinny person says 30 minutes exercise a week is fine?

his voice is unconvincing.

Dr. Bialik, what is your perspective toward the exercise? eps running.

That's right!!! Unfuckwithable indeed! And you know what? Some people do call you mean and you know what that's their problem just because we set boundaries doesn't mean we're mean or rude or anything like that

Interesting conversation. - Get Mel Robbins on the show! 😁😁😁😁

It might be an amazing cliche, but it is good to be able to think outside of the box !!!!!

Just before he started talking about the lawyers, I was thinking, why isn't this guy in sales? He talks like he's in sales. Then we learned he was in telemarketing. He IS in sales. He is selling the ideas of other people he has studied. I heard no new ideas here, just reminders. Not a bad thing. Just my observation.

Unfuckwithable. Great word

How can I find out about the specific exercises that he is referring to? Which book or video or...?

Not my favorite episode. Vishen has many many ideas without deep thought, discussion or experience of background.

eyes are window to the soul, so if you look in your own eye and say "I love you" you are saying to your soul that you love your soul.

Yes to work hours being shorter! I'm a waitress and I work 30 hours MAX. Just the other day a coworker was asking why I didn't work more and actually looked confused when I tried to explain that 40 hours makes me feel like crap and it's not worth it. 😅 like I'm sorry, but I'd rather get more rest and buy less stuff. Oh wow I feel way better about my lack of exercise now. Work does more for me than his plan

I'm with Mayim this is stressful 😂 1:08:55

I can't believe seeing this guy in Mayim

I'm with you Mayim. I over protected my daughter. Now she's almost 23 and won't talk to me except to be rude. I'm so confused. And old.

Great show! I will check out mind valley. Please interview youtuber Dr Nicole LePera - her book is a top seller! The Holistic Psychologist on all platforms. Kati Morton LMFT too!

I am going watch this twice. My new birthday resolution; become unfuckwithable.

Can you bring on Dr. Joe Dispenza?

Sorry I couldn't wait for your interview because you are just saying too many advertisements.

Rothy’s shoes …”Never fail to disappoint…” (?) Did I hear that right?

When I used to hit the bars back in the day, Entrepreneur meant unemployed....

Was he working while doing the podcast seemed to be doing something else or looking at something out

🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

He’s so wrong about keto that I have to wonder about his other certainties. I love HIIT though.

I really wonder how can people follow somebody who has this level of modesty. For me it's unbarable...I mean, bragging about your email? Seriuosly, all the rest must actually feel like bragging and really seems he can't help with it. (and that was just a precursor together with facial expressions and tone of voice). Gosh...he's just an erudite salesman. If achievements in business would be the measure of the stature of a person Trump and another bunch of PoS would be giants. Let him talk with somebody who doesn't feel the urge to cheer him and let's see how smart he turns out to be. (besides, thanks for the suicidal disclosure, live on yt, but it's really hard to believe it's not made up to build compassion and identification in people who had similar thoughts, that are A LOT)

I couldn’t follow him. It was so deep and going every direction. I felt dumb.

This site has a ridiculous number of ads. I don’t have half the morning to listen to an episode. I’m out.

Well if he's named after Lord Vishnu then his parents did the right thing cos he's the protector of the world. Trimurthy are Brahma, Vishnu and Maheshwar. Brahma is the creator, Vishnu is the protector or administrator and Lord Shiva or Maheshwara is the Lord of destruction.

Vishen - your name is a derivation of Vishnu, the Hindu god of perserverance, not the god of destruction (facepalm)

Hi. Nice lady