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I know what you mean...I think now that we are older we realize that life is short and we want to be the best person we can be, and also we want to be content and not anxious. I know for me it sounds corny but I just find joy in the simple things, a beautiful plant I see, etc., more than I used to. You don't want to take anything for granted any more. :)

I only recently found your channel, and I wasn't thinking of it as one of the places I would go to for this kind of self improvement, but rather for ways to look good as I got older. This was a very brave video to make, and you became a more serious creator in my mind today. Thank you for that.

Wow! I just found your channel and looked at this particular video on the perfect day for me. Thank you for sharing your struggles, which are also many of our struggles. You have the grace, beauty, and thoughtfulness I strive for as I age. Thank you!

I love this video! I can get into the habit of complaining but then I step back and take a couple of deep breaths. Then I realize how grateful I am for everything I have and most things aren't as bad as they seem. I love your style and grace.

It’s 2023 - do you still go by “never complain, never explain” ? It was great info.

We say that in the UK all the time. The 'explain'? It's about not justifying ourselves or excusing our actions. Own them and yes, move on... You explained beautifully! It's part of why people think we're reserved, though! 'No' needs delivering in a kind way! You are a moment of calm in the week, thank you. xx

Such an interesting video today. I’m a half empty person but I’m going to try to be more positive now. Thank you Janis xx

Dear Janis while I was watching and listening to your statement - I thougt that you are my soul sister in many ways. I am 57 and I sometimes see the glass half empty like you do and my husband like yours sees it the other way around. Changing my attitude thats what I try almost every day.... For example I am living in the country side so I have to commute every day by train to go to work . During rushhours the trains are packed with all kind of people and not everyone is decent , neat and kind... and sometimes there are "malodor"... so I just stand still and keep my mouth shut.... and think of something positiv.... I always wanted to be a wise, friendly , kind and contened woman who ages with grace and stop complaing about things we cannot change. Instead using my energy for other things - thats one of my goals. I like your personality, your taste and style and enyoy your blog and your videos very very much! Please excuse my English ... 😊💝Best regards from 🇨🇭 Sandra

I'm so glad you shared this. I am the exact same way right down to being afraid to ask a friend for help. And at the end of your car experience you were probably more grateful for all you are blessed with. You are a lucky lady!

Thank you for this video...I too just turned 50 this year and I am finally learning to say NO and practice gratitude. :)

Great video, it was a great reminder to be grateful every day for all the things we take for granted!

I'm 42 and this video made me think about how much I complain. Thank you for discussing. I really needed this. I'm going to do these things also to change my outlook. Also, totally understood the no explain part of the quote. What you said is typical me. Thank you. You are such an inspiration.

I like that quote too. Its so easy to complain, I do it way too often unfortunately. I will keep that on mind, don't complain. The don't explain portion really hit home with me. I'm not sure why I feel like I need to explain myself but I definitely want to stop that. We really don't owe everyone explanations for every no that we answer. Thank you for sharing that! And thank you Kate Moss for saying it. I love your videos and I am glad you're back. I never met you but you feel like a friend. I hope you have a great weekend!

Hi Janis what a wonderful and truthful video I broke my ankle the end of july and currently recuperatng from surgery I have done a lot of reflection and realize so many things i complained about laundry ,grocery shopping i would love to be able to do now have a wonderful weekend 😍

Just found your channel and so happy I did. You are a thoughtful soul and we are all trying to improve ourselves. I am a more positive person now in my 60's than I was when I was younger. We are all evolving and growing...it's beautiful that you want to be more positive. Love, love, love your classic style! It's me!

Great video. I love turning negatives into positives. I've been working on this the last 2 years. I am a work in progress. It does get easier. I recite the Serenity Prayer to myself. It's my favorite. Thnx for sharing💕💕💕

I have watched your videos for a while. I’m not sure I thought of you as a “half glass empty” kind of person. With that said, I appreciate your willingness to be real in such an area. Caring more about the journey than the perception you give. Thank you for being real. THAT is inspiring to me.

Great video. After many years as a trauma nurse and seeing the absolute tragedies of life I can say it is all good. My commuting reply ..plane train or automobile. If they are not asking me to go by wagon train.it is all good. When someone around me gets so anxious over small stuff I laughingly say, is everybody breathing? Is everybody’s heart beating? Then we can handle this🙂 the other thing I do is I have intentionally with planning and forethought slowed down for heavens sake. You cannot stay in the fast lane and be positive. God has given me a life after cancer and complications. I am not going to waste it complaining. By the way the glass is ALWAYS full..half oxygen and half water 🙂

Great advice, for all of us, love your natural hair color!

I love your new saying and I'm going to follow that each day of my life. Thank you. 😊

You are such an inspiration. I love the style, but the thing I love the most about you is the energy you're "spreading around the world". Your face and figure and hair are beautiful, but what I am drawn to is your 'vibe', as it were, because I do believe you have a beautiful soul. Thank you.

I tend to be a pessimist too Janice and my husband is the eternal optimist. We have a sign that reads “This too shall pass”. He is forever quoting that to me and I tell myself that every time something is bothering me. The funny thing is that the sign is in the kitchen😊 I’m always happy to see your videos. God Bless.

I can relate completely to this video! Strangely enough, I have watched the same interview with Kate Moss a few days ago and I remember vividly this quote: "never explain, never complain". It is indeed an awesome thing to do. I am 57 now and I have been raised by an emotionally unavailable, severely narcissistic mother. I was "trained" and programmed to be a people pleaser and I felt like it was my "duty" to explain every decision and every action I took over the years. When I turned 50, a big shift in my consciousness took place. I realized that I have struggled all my life to get out of the mentality that the glass is always half empty. This negative way of thinking was all I knew. It took me 7 years to change everything and thanks to the magic of reading and the internet I am now a happy, optimistic person. Congratulations on your beautiful birthday resolution and I wish you all the best and good luck! Big hug from Transilvania

I loved your positive spins. Instead of whalouing in your own misery you actually surrendered to the present moment and doors opened up. God never changes you until you decide to change what’s in your heart. Bravo 👏🏻 you are an inspiration

I adore a wide legged crop pant for 3 seasons here, and then the snow and sun zero temps arrive lol. Great chat, I turned 50 this year and rather than saying it's my year, it my decade and finally all about bettering myself 😁🇨🇦

I’m a new subscriber. I enjoy your videos!!!! Your such a classy lady👍 I love listening to your voice.. it’s so soothing❣️

A Great message that we can all improve on, gratitude, we are so fortunate.

I really like this one 🌹 Regardless of the circumstances, I always tell myself “Be grateful. It can always be worse!”

I see the positive in things that don't look that positive, in the moment, as a nurse I see so much of the human condition. I work hard with limited resources and sometimes we have to endure abuse .. So when this happens I am thankful that I am not ill, that I can go home, in working hard I may make a difference however small, and I have a wonderful family that his intact and well at home waiting. So a hard negative day works out in the end. And yes I do not owe explanations to any one. Love the video.

I agree. Its like the saying ........ you cant change what happens just how you react to it. If im feeling down about something I tell myself there are people who have to deal with worse things, so I just get on with it. Thanks ,Janis, for sharing your thoughts and , I love those pants!

Loved your outfit. So sorry your car broke down. Glad you got it fixed and it wasn't something super seriously wrong with it. God bless you always, tfs. :)

"Don't complain and don't explain". I Love it! Thank you. You look beautiful and I agree about finding a good tailor for your jacket. XX

This was inspiring, especially since you "walked the talk". It was so nice the way everything ended.

You look so pretty as always and great advice!! I tend to be a complainer and I would like to change that!! Thank you!!

God thought he'd give you a quick little test and, wow, did you pass!!! You're beautiful inside and out, Janis. Don't be so hard on yourself.

That’s a really interesting video. A positive attitude is really important. I used to be quite negative but I changed my outlook years ago.

On my goodness! I am going on 56, and I have been angry all my life and I want to be more forgiving and compassionate towards others. I have been working on that but I have had to seek the absolute expert on forgiveness and unconditional love, Jesus. The Word has brought me understanding and the ability to look at myself. Animals, I love them unable to have them now. 😟 I find your channel insirational. Thank you.

Amen.....I agree completely and I, too, intend to take a very serious look at my speech to others, to myself and how to take a positive attitude instead of a critical one....

Good afternoon gorgeous. This was such s very informative videos. Thank you 🙏🏼. Aloha 🌺

Thank you for this video. What a wonderful message. Like you, I consider myself a kind person, but a glass half empty person. But I want to live a lighter, healthier and happier life where I don't forget to take a moment to appreciate the many blessings in my life that I truly am grateful for. ❤ from Canada.

Janis I always enjoy your videos...I totally understood you conversation about being positive...I have always been but I have someone very dear to me that find everything and anything to com pain or be negative about...she is really working on that...I so hate that I always feel like I owe a detailed reason to my No's...so happy your friend and her husband invited you to join them...Janis I am always the one on the other side..helping out others and it is HUgE when I do ask for help....that is one of the hardest things for me....you are truly a beautiful woman inside and out...BTW I have so admired your beautiful hair...I am getting more and more silver in my part...I am tired of the hassle of coloring and highlighting sooooo my stylist is going to see what I can do to make this change of letting my hair go gray...I turned 61 the 2nd and I am so ready to embrace what God's given me😍 thank you for yet another great video💟💄

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I too am married to a very positive man. He has told me that I can be too negative, in fact he said so recently. I don't love this about myself either and your words are so helpful.

Congratulations for that change in your attitude, that will bring more good things in to your life, for sure!! keep on being positive 👍💕

Good for you! Gratefulness is a great way to keep the right attitude! I have had to practice this to keep my heart right during many continuous trials!

I am hard on myself. I go over what I said or did to someone. Did it come out wrong? Did I insult them or whatever it was. I mentally beat myself up. I try to stop this.

Hi Janis, I’m a half full person, or so I think. 😀 I’m a retired RN, and my career has shown me far too many times how lives can change in a second, so I find myself full of gratitude for the little things. I love your videos, and so appreciate your fashion sense and philosophy. I do find I am much more anxious now ( mid-60’s) than ever before in my life, not sure why. Exercise really helps that. I love animals but we lost our beloved dog approx 2 years ago, he was 14 yrs old, and I said no more. I feel too old, plus am caregiver to my elderly par3nts and their needs take up a tremendous amount of my time.

Attitude...me too! I always feel like I need to explain myself 😬 I give up way too much info. So much I need to work on.

You are blessed. What great lessons.

you have many things ,it seems, to be positive about. you are lovely, you have time to shop and the means to do it , you touch many lives with your videos in positive ways. you just need to open your mind to your positivities so evident to others about you.

in the spirit of your goal you become what you focus on, make a happy journal, list all your grateful for ie husband, home, success etc review daily and you might think youve changed overnight, love your style

Gratitude journals are a great way of turning you from a glass half-empty person to be more positive. It's what turned my attitude around about 5 years ago and I haven't looked back! Such a simple technique and the psychology research backs it up. (Btw, complaining about traffic in our town during season is to be expected).

I love your videos I just miss not having that video every week like you used to but I completely agreed with you. As I get older not let things bother me as much. I tried to stay calm specially in this country where a lot of people are always stressing over nothing sometimes (my friend) I used to do it but not anymore life is short and my health is very important to me. By the way you always look stunning. And I do have that style pants I bought many years ago but they still in style they look good and they still fit. Hope you have a good weekend and thank you for sharing.

Dear Janis....You are wonderful...I loved the ending.....you are on the right path now...how god it must have felt for you...all these own relevations...you did it!!!yes to that quote..love it!.I so understand...my way of thinking and negativity brought me to to getting panic attacks...I drained myself in anxiety of everyday life and things around me I can not change..We need to guard our mental health....So lucky we are to get partners that see that glass full...I have one too!!!...So Janis...I am in your group of working on change of thinking perception , ditching old unhealthy for us thinking patterns that can cause only aniety and imbalance in our bodies....and living in more peace..thank you for sharing it....big hug....Jana

You're 58???? WOW, your skin is gorgeous!!! You are such an inspiration to women. Thank you for making videos. You touch my life in a special way with every video you make! Sending much love to you!

Timing... sometimes all you can do is laugh and realize the blessings.

Unfortunately, I haven't been well enough to leave my home for some time now, and it has changed my perspective on many things, for example, I regard it as a real privilege to be able to walk out my own front gate. A visit to a friend's house would be an absolute luxury. I'm hugely grateful for an hour I'm not aching. Complaining is not an option. Thereby lies the road to self-pity, and perdition. Also, no explanations. I used to feel I had to explain myself constantly. Not any more. Medical matters are private, and too boring to inflict on anyone. So, no explanations, just a pleasant yes, or no. Friends will accept your decision, and all others will just have to live with it. Great video. Thank you, and good luck with your changes.

you always seem calm and positive

Yep, never justify why you think in a sertain way ."No" is a full sentence.Complains attract more reasons to complain about. Thanks for suggesting the book Gut and psychological syndrome.I bought it along with another book from the same author-Put your heart in your mouth.The information in them is well researched so it is reliable.Following the author's advice can be challenging but I know it is achievable-one step at a time.

I can definitely relate to your desire to become less negative, as I have felt exactly that desire in my own life -- I think that some of us are "melancholy" types from birth, but it doesn't mean we can't be more aware of that, and try our best to combat it. I find meditation helpful, and calming self-talk, but my negative thoughts are a tendency that I must actively combat with continual awareness. It isn't easy.

Love that Quote . Thank you sister for sharing your thoughts. Feels good to hear. Love you. Stay Blessed.

In each day, try your very best to think of someone else besides your self, not saying you dont already. Your happiness is made by you, seek the positive and give God the very best you can ❤

Oh, I loved watching this video!

I am borowing the Kate Moss quote as well. I had not officially adopted a New Years Resolution, and now I have with that quote. Thanks for sharing !

Yes! Cropped wide leg slacks are timeless! Great outfits! Lol, yes I was thinking the same thing, how your vehicle broke down the same day you shared your positive outlook with us.

I listened to that same interview with Kate Moss primarily because I had never seen or heard her interviewed before. And her quote stuck with me also.

Hi Janis, love the look. Might you consider having the very cute jacket tailored? I am so blessed to have a lovely French lady from Montreal who is a seamstress extraordinaire and she is not just talented she is a lady in all sense.

wonderful advice to live by

I always considered myself a nice person, but realized I was saying negative things sometimes not realizing how that came off to others. I've become more self aware of my words and actions, but the thing that helps me the most is when I think of others going through things just like I do and that I should give them the benefit of doubt, that they are a nice person too and maybe going through something when they say or act in a negative way. I don't react anymore to other peoples anger the way I used to...I stay calm and keep positive and people usually apologize to me after they have overreacted or we end up in a conversation and you see the other person quickly coming down from their anger...it's amazing! Sometimes I feel like I help the other person realize you shouldn't sweat the small stuff...at least I hope so. tfs

Thanks for this cool and sunny video. You're totally right and i agree with this resolution. Postive attitude is the key to feel better. Suggestion to go further, this wonderful book: The Four Agreements, Toltec Wisdom Book, from Don Miguel Ruiz. When i firts read this book, i realized that i wasted so energy doing and saying negative things and also trying to be someone else. All this energy that could be used to do useful and cool things. Have a nice day. Love you make up! Violaine.

So much truth in this video. Thank you Janis!

Love your good vibes and positivity !

Allergy sufferer here too. I have a poodle and a Bichon, no problems, non-shedding!

Youre brave. I couldnt get in front of people on the internet and talk about fashion or makeup

Timber Hawkeye of Buddhist Bootcamp says of traffic: Don't complain about traffic because you are traffic. I try to think about that when I am sitting at 0 MPH on a highway. I am contributing to the traffic.

Beautiful mind. Beautiful earings😉🌷

You look so positive as always what a lovely women you are 😊🌼 İnside and out ! You are a sunshine Janis hehe . FL people seem very happy, maybe it's because the city is serene and spacious, I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️☺️ You are very good at combining clothes and I think using natural make up products is a very good option. Even though their a bit expensive, this shows that their ingredients are natural and healthy. I don't use anything on my skin. When I cover it, it's like my skin can't breathe. I think a sunscreen is best and lipsticks with natural ingredients are my favourite. Please try all the lipsticks on your arm and lips one day and show us the colors💄 This would be a great advice . By the way, please make more vlogs when you go out alone, for example, while drinking tea in a cafe, you can show us the beautiful FL cafes. Can you show us the interiors of a few stores ? Clothings etc 😌That would be so amazing ☺️Be well🌼 Have a great day Janis🫶🏻🤗🌺🌼🌸

Im at my early 40. And i like your style n i like you😊

Very pretty lady. She’s is growing old perfect.

That info on attitudes is something I am determined to hold on to. Thanks so much! I recently started dealing with my attitude, and I pretend to pick up, with my hands, what is in front of me (my bad attitude or an unpleasant situation) turn around and pretend to place it behind me. Believe it or not, it really helps me to move on with the day. Great lip and cheek color for you. The first little jacket you are trying on looks like a Chanel jacket. So glad I watched this video, especially the last 2 minutes. ; )

Haha! I went in two days ago and did not realized they had only moved and not closed. So glad. The petite pants are a very good fit for me and I would have missed the shop otherwise.

Thank you, loved it, really helpful. Outfits outstanding. So sorry for your car problems.

I obviously don’t know you personally, but I don’t think I would have ever said you weren’t always super positive. You seem to have a very calm and gentle spirit. Great video and, of course, amazing clothes. Side note - I live in the deep south too, and the humidity has been miserable!! It’s nearing the end of September and it feels more like July!!

Janis I don't really see you as being negative but I think you are too hard on yourself....and, yes, we do all complain about the traffic...lol. I do love the Kate Moss quote and I'm going to try it also. Yesss, to a battery and nothing more serious and yessss, to asking for help ...I sooo get that. Loved that little tweedy jacket you tried on with the blue striped shirt. Very "Janis"....🤗😘

Great video

Janis, Great message. I recently saw a quote that made me think “ Complaining is not conversation”: I hope you had a wonderful birthday. I am curious if you are a Virgo.. I am... and I’m not big into astrology but it is interesting that a lot of the characteristics are true for my personality. 💕 All the best~Jess

Very beautiful and classy.

I love this vlog post! I’ve also made a resolution of no complaining and I’m adding no explaining as well. We have so much to be grateful for and so little that requires complaining about. I’d be very interested in hearing about the diet you follow. I’ve recently developed some health issues that I think are diet related...hair loss being one. I’d love a vlog post on it but no explanation necessary if you don’t want to ;)

This was just what I needed!! Thank you!! ❤️

Interesting! I try to implement proper etiquette!

That quote never complain never explain, was first said by Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother.

That jacket was very pretty. You could have taken it to a tailor to get it fitted. I agreed with don’t complain or explain. It makes me feel uncomfortable especially if I am trying not to be rude. Working on “no can’t make it, and I really don’t want to talk about it. Or just change the conversation. Like alway you look beautiful when I finish all my makeup I want to get a pot of lipstick/blush. And congratulations God was testing your new resolutions and you passed. And seriously why complain about something we have no control over, There are problems that have solutions and the ones that don’t we turn them over to God. Be well 💐

You are lovely inside and out. So classy.

Asking for help is huge for me too! It is usually the last thing I do, but at the same time, I'm asked to help ALL THE TIME! What is wrong w us?!?🤔🤔🤔 It was my grandmother, who always said; Don't depend on others, don't ask for anything, etc.... But life sure is easier, when you dare to ask your friends to help you out! Enjoyed your video. If I could ask where to have a dead car battery, I would prefer a nice shopping center parking lot also!☺️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING INDEED

It is always a pleasure to watch your videos but today you make me feel like a was not along in the world, I have been working on the “not complain” for a long time and no, I am not a the whiny type but at this age (57) I like things the way a like them and when there not done or they don’t happened as I think the should’ve I complain but then, like you I think about what I put out there, what people see or feel about me , it is been hard to try to change my ways, however through this journal I have come to discover something interesting, I get so critical and upset some times because I demand first so much from myself, my life, my things, my work, my home have to have an orden, other ways I will go nuts, I have being like this since I can remember so what I ve being doing is to teach myself to relax a little bit with regards to my on things so this had helped me to take outside, out of control things with an ease.... still don’t make it every day but it is small steps exercise. Have no problem with the “not explain “ always be polite but firm , when people see determination on your answers the don’t go on. Kisses from Spain

Thank you for sharing your resolution to be more positive. I too need to more positive. The jeep breaking down was a test and I think you passed !!

I think this is very common among women, Janis. I can definitely relate, lol. Do you use Retin A, if not why?

I’ve really loved this video. Thanks so much for sharing this with us. Moving forward I would like to do the same. I often find myself complaining about things which are usually insignificant and I always end up regretting it. Life’s too short to be so negative all the time. I’m also one who feels the need to give lengthy explanations as to why I can’t do something, which I also often regret doing. My husband told me that last time he saw his grandfather (in hospital, just before he died) he was told by his grandad that when you’re older you will look back to your life and think about times when everything felt too much and you’ll realise that it wasn’t that bad after all. Things, like you said, will mostly pass. My house is currently in a total state of chaos, we’re having building work done and it’s all a big mess. However, instead of moaning about it like I’ve done in the past I’m trying to enjoy every moment, including the chaos and mess. This will pass and I’m grateful to have a roof over my head and enough money to make improvements to it.

Lovely vlog💕