Hi Mandy,I'm your day one.ive followed you from the time you moved back home to the time you moved back to joburg with the kids ,I remember when you went to say your goodbyes to your aunts emakhaya and got those plants,I remember when you went to fetch your things from the storage.I remember how happy you were for getting your kids a home and with them being under one roof.ohhh Amanda I've seen you grow,I've seen your good days and bad days and in all these things you always came out stronger.i have so much to say but I can't put it all here in writing, you gave me courage when I was going through the most,your channel has healed so many people and gave them hope.I love you Amanda and I know you are going to get through this,may the Lord guide you and give you strength ❤❤❤❤
I am so sad beautiful Mommy.u understand what you're going through..last year I was not in a good space and I wanted to. Go back home.ciz I Know when I am home with my parents everything becomes ok ...but coz God is great all the time my parents decided to move from Limpopo and bought a new house near where I stay.if I can tell you.i am always going home Every weekend.and sleep over till Monday morning when I leave for work.and I am still not ok mentally but believe me it's gets better knowing mam and dad and my sisters are nearby.God will heal you.one day.i love you Mandy.
I've been around since the video of you back home with the pot plant in the corner. Even as a childfree woman, your tenacity still inspires me 😊. This is only the beginning for you. All the best. Here is some Kleenex moola
This takes me back to 2 years ago when I took my 28 year old self with my 3 children out of my suburban home in silverlakes back to Limpopo to start over. You’ll be fine mama ❤️
Tjoo cc, I know the feeling. 2021 at the age of 31, I moved back home with two kids, unemployed. It's 2024 and still no job and no parents, just me and my kids but am trusting the process ❤❤❤ love and light to you❤
Your not alone Mandy last year in June I moved back home relocated with my 2 kids as a 35 year old i started a new job, and life is better I am more happier .
Watching this as a 21 year old I now understand what my mom had to go through because of my teenage years 😩😭thank you for choosing Alwande always she will be okay🥺
It takes a brave mother to recognise that financially she will not cope, and prioritise her children,children’s education and not stay until drowning. Little story I got married at 24, had to put my dreams aside and build a home, raise my children. Even going to varsity was a bit of a challenge, did my diploma graduate, wanted to go for my degree. Could only start it 2020, fortunately I graduated last year. I just turned 40 in January and restarting my life❤God will see you through
I have never commented even thought I have religiously watched every vlog..we love you Mandy and thank you for being so real .. you are authentic. You do not pretend. With me personally I learn a lot from watching your vlogs .go home be with the family .. nothing beats that . In your own time uzobuya ❤
Lately I've been reading Psalms 139, and Sis what I can say is that there's nothing that happens in our lives that God is not aware of, so rest assured that he is with you and eventually everything will be okay, he is a God who heals and restores. We love you Sisi ❤️
Not even half way through the video and I cannot hold myself from commenting Amanda - I am so sorry that you had to abruptly move and start over. I know It sucks and hurts so much because it was not planned. I am a firm believer that often the things that happen to us are actually happening for us. There’s without a doubt a greater good for this move home. To make you feel a tiny bit better, I am 35 years old, I went on the same journey of moving back home November, I felt exactly how you felt but listen I am the happiest I have been in a while. I don’t remember the last time I was truly seen and embraced in the way my Grandmother and little brother have gently carried me these past 3 months. My finances are looking so good because I save by being home. I felt exactly like you when I packed up and went home in November but now I don’t want to leave 😅 I recently declined an opportunity to move back to JHB because I just don’t want to leave home YET. I will always be proud and love you for taking the leap and do what feels like it’s what you got to do: you will look back and smile and be so proud because damn uyazama, uyancama oko futhi. You will be okay, it will be okay! Your God, Ancestors and universe will make you laugh yazi, allow it all to happen as it should, realignment always feels like we are being ripped away of everything and soon this season will make sense, hang in there my love. 🫂🫂 On a lighter note… Girl I cannot wait for us to watch the wholesome vlogs that you will be shooting in Durban, please take us to the beach often. Sendifaka izcelo ze ocean content 😅 Safe travels ke standwa sam, to so many more beautiful chapters because they WILL happen and you DESERVE THEM ALL 🌸
Hi Im going through this right now. Had to move from Kyalami back home to Orange Farm with 3kids. This put me in tears, but you know what. We can build again. May the Lord give us strength to build bigger, stronger and more permanent. I pray home ownership over us where our hearts desire.❤
Be strong bbe , don't loose focus there's a bigger thing coming this is just the beginning of greater heights God uses these situations to elevate us...
Sis, you are blessed to have a home to go back to. I went back with 1 child pregnant and with my husband...for 5 whole years but if you see what God has done in my life now!!! I have a huge home, more cars than I need, healthy finances. The world laughed but only God knows your destiny sis. Stay strong. I was 34 as well when it happened.
I did it at 39 ladies ❤❤❤hence my channel is lifereset with Boni, but I don't create content around it, the other content took over. I can't wait to start another channel with a focus on this topic.
It's gonna be ok nana.What's important is that you still have your job.i went back home when i was 37yrs that's even worse. I bought a house when i was 39yrs.kuyadlula kuzoba ngathi akukaze ,trust me!!! ❤❤❤
As an only child I’ve never left my mom’s house. When I got married and was about to move my mom found out her husband was cheating on her. So we decided that we would stay with her to help her with the bills and to support her. Then we found out she had cancer. And since then we stayed. I’m 38 and I have 2 kids. And I don’t care what people say about still living with my mom.
Hey sis Please don’t cancel Mother’s Day event, maybe come on that weekend so that you don’t completely close out your dreams ❤love and prayers to you 🙏
I'm turning 37.Single,no child and a good career but I had to sell my apartment and move back home a year ago after ten years of home ownership. It cut deep to make that decision. My mom and I didn't have the best relationship but Sana, I made it work. I'm happier now actually. Like everyone else has said, it will be okay. It's a detour in life, not the final destination. All the best. 🌷
People are moving back home due to the high cost of living. Rent is too much and food, salary doesnt increase, its alot. I sympathize with everyone going back home. You are not a failure. Life happens Unfortunately. This is a period to figure yourself and everything will align as GOD intends to do. ❤
Babe, I promise you one day you will look back and laugh. Growing up, I was a problematic child ,I started smoking and drinking bunked classes @14, Lapho my parents, had sent me to an expensive school. Let me not forget the year when I failed all my subjects and had to repeat classes. To make matters worse, my father deserted us, and my mom was left to deal with me alone.I was the Gossip of the village. Long story short, kwagcina kuLungile,here I am a mother of 2 ,a degree holder, sobber and doing well in my career .Wena hlala emthantazweni nase Thembeni,God has trusted you with these kids, and so far, you are doing well .Just don't give up, Always reprimand her where there is a need kutogcina kusile. Unfortunately kwamele ubeyimbokodo Now
2:02 Oooh Mandy 🥹🥹🥹 this part hit home so much, I literally got teary because I relived the moment when we also had to move back home due to loosing my job. Watching you mopping your home for the last time made it even worse because that’s what I also did. 😭😭😭 I remember the truck dropping off our furniture at home and it was so packed didn’t even know where to begin. My sister looked me in the eyes and “letloba right ngwana ko gae, this is just temporary” strength to you sweetheart, you’ve got this. Bless you 🥰❤️💕
Mandy don’t be to sad God is doing something new here, you will come back stronger and you will be moving forward into your new home no more renting just trust God
Hi Sis, iyoo this is one of the hardest vlogs I had to watch from your channel. I know how you're feeling right now and know that you're not alone. Life as a single parent is not easy and many might not understand what we have to be dealing with daily. The sacrifices you're making now know that they're noticed and one day the rewards will come. You just reminded me when I had to move back home after divorce yes ago and how hard it was and then when I thought I was back at my feet met someone then another pregnancy this time not married then after giving birth had to move back home again. Oh how hard that was especially when home is ekasi you know how neighbours gossip but I held my head high and focused on building myself. Covid happened then that cycle hit again at 43yrs will 44 in 3 months I am still home trying hard to build myself up again and what I'll say to you is focus on building yourself and shut your ears to what the world will say. Many will come up with so many why didn't you do this or that but tell yourself this is the best decision for now and I like it when you say it's temporary. One day Wawa will look back and say my mother loved me so much that she had to put her life on hold just to see me happy and build a healthy relationship with me. The only thing I will ask is never feel angry or bitter with the current situation just know that all things works together for our good and at the end joy will come. I read earlier this year in a post somewhere in IG that said this year if you have to move back home, return back the car and start all over again do that and work yourself silently. This quote spoke to me so much and when I had to return the car I went back to read it and said I'll be working on myself silently. So with these words I'll say to you when you're done working on yourself silently guess what you're moving to your dream home no more renting and God will be your strength and shield. I love you and will continue praying for you it shall be well and it will make sense one day.❤❤❤❤
Mandy I'm Flora from Zimbabwe, I've watched your channel since you were in Durban I remember how happy you were when you first moved in with Alwande and Milani. I've watched you grow on RU-vid and I know for a fact that you will be OK. Love and hugs mommy ❤❤❤
Hi Mandy i am 37 single mother of 3 i am living at home was married ,got divorce this is year 5 since i moved at home ,i am in a process of building my own home days are different some days easy some days hard but more than anything am grateful i have a home despite the challenges of being an Adult at home i know this journey was meant for me and no matter what it will all workout for good all the best mama ,hang in there it will be oohk am praying for you❤
You know why I love your channel? It's relatable.. You didn't have to go into detail and tell us what is happening but you did, you were vulnerable and I will always commend you for that. I want to say this to you, God knows all the things that happening in our lives and in those moments when those things happen we don't understand why but all thing work together for the good and God will restore.i love you and your authenticity. I hope it all works out for you and all the best❤️
You are not alone sibaningi 😢. I am also in that situation, let me share on of the verses that has kept my little faith. Proverbs 16:9 says “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps”. Everything will unfold exactly as God intends it to, let go and trust him.❤❤❤
This is literally my life right now,34 and moving back home with my two kids. The hardest decision I had to make but I'm just trusting the process of starting over....we gonna be alright mommy ❤
I know married people who are struggling with teenagers don't judge yourself for being a single parent. One day your daughter will appreciate all your efforts
I am having THE most challenging, difficult times raising a Teenage daughter, just yesterday i was watching ur solo weekend away vlog because that is when u spoke about the challenges u were facing with ur daughter, i gained my strength back from just watching you and how u raise ur kids. I appreciate u and thank you for being ur authentic self, u have truly gave me reason to just hold on. Strength to u Mandy... ❤❤❤❤
I am 34 also this year I moved back home in 2019 when my marriage didn't work I must say I am finding it sooo hard everyday hence my mental health is unhealthy BUT mommy there is no better place like home you will come out even stronger 'you are Mandy ❤
I'm 28 and childless and i moved back home. It's been so so so mentally and emotionally taxing and thats not to say I'm not loved here but like you said, we all know the life in other adults homes. I can't imagine how difficult this must be and how conflicted you are towards your child because they really are just being a child but at the end of the day, you are human. I wish you all the best and my prayer is that you get back on your feet and your relationship with the baby heals. ❤
I'm sure Noma is also going through her own emotions about her big sis leaving her in the big city (even though she does not show it because she's reading the room). Strength to all of you man.
You will bounce back bigger and better. Am 32, single and jobless at my parents home.as long as you are breathing, God got you. He will sustain you. May God bless you ❤❤❤
Oh Mandy❤I can't believe that it has been 3 years. The very first video of yours that I watched "I love my children but I hate being a mom" I went back to watch your previous videos and I was hooked what a bittersweet moment. Bitter because you are leaving your home to start afresh sweet because I believe this chapter or phase of your life will open more amazing blessings like that home you want for you and your kids. I watched you move in and turned that house into a home for you and your kids. The amazing memories and the not so great memories that you had in that house. I know this decision has been the hardest decision you have had to make, I pray God gives you strength and blesses you bathi isina muva liyabukwa I pray He provides you soft landing and I pray He opens your doors. You have been dealt shitty cards and you are figuring it out as you go don't be hard on yourself. You shared parts of your Jhb life with us and I am also looking forward to you sharing this new beginning of your Durban life. PS you also have a tribe in Durban❤ ayalandwa Amandla ekhaya and there's nothing wrong with starting over. WE LOVE YOU, sending prayers to you, your family and friends. Those people love you and I am glad you have them. Thank you for sharing your most vulnerable moments. Your strength is in your vulnerability. One thing about you is you will RISE
Oh Mandy, you're so blessed my love. Everytime I think of going home,I cry because my parents don't even have a place they have for us to call home. I'm 32 this year with 2kids, unemployed and my ex is paying for my rent. Times arw tough and definitely I believe that things will turn for the better. You're loved❤❤❤❤❤
You are doing great, Mandy. Do not even feel like you are starting over; take it as if you are redirecting. I took the leap of faith in 2018 and left my job in Joburg and went back to school full time in KZN with zero financial plan. God planned ahead, sis. I can tell you that four years later, I am now working in PTA for one of the best academic institutions, and life is better than before. All the puzzles fall back into place. I really applaud people who are realistic with themselves and who put their kids first. God is definitely unfolding another beautiful chapter for you.
Hi Mandy ❤I am 25 years with 2 kids and I just wanna let you know that I appreciate your patience, your love and the courage that you carry within your yourself. I love you so much and you keep me going even though it is hard😢 but keep that smile that you have and you keep me pushing harder for myself and my kids. Never lose hope and you are 🥰 loved
Sometimes we have to down grade our lifestyles in order to balance our standard of living*Sending love and hugs*❤️❤️❤️ you're one of best Mom's i know 😊❤
"When the time is right,I the Lord will make it happen " We move to safe space which is home,we move to find new meaning of stuff,we move to go and get strength to come back n do even better than before.dont give up mommy,never loose hope,one day u will live your dream.we love u and good luck ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry ausi Mandy 😢😢 I'm writing this comment while sleeping in MY DOUBLE BED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE THAT I'M SHARING WITH MY 2 KIDS after moving back home in December 😢😢😢 I know very well how deep this cuts but I also was struggling to get life together as a mother and a PARTNER, also a breadwinner in our previously rented home, paying for a car and school fees of only 1 child, I couldn't even afford to take my youngest to creche she just had to stay home with her dad because he's currently not working, it's soooo hard but God will pave a way I trust 😢😢😢 I'm back home, pushing to pay off my car, with hopes that in the next 2 years I'll be sleeping in a home I have made for my kids and some financial stability😢Yoh life is life guys, one day retlo loka and all these would be stories that we tell 😊
AMANDA,you can still have your Mother's Day event,you can organize it and the Days before just come to Jo'burg and stay at your sister's home and go back to Durban
How do I sow a seed sisi. You will be fine. I've started over twice and I as type I need to pack up boxes again. The lord know the path we should take. I always say that God has a special place on His heart for single mum's. From one single mum to another,you will be fine.
love how Noma is therefor you , I remember you said once that you took care f her when you were both young , so now she is taking care of you - by being there for you. amazing - no matter what, no matter where (that's an inside reference that only regular viewers will get )
I haven't even watched this yet but my heart just skipped a beat. You finally made a decision.. Before I even watch this I'll say it: wherever you go, your community goes with you. We've got your back mama ❤
I also moved back home in 2021. I was 31 I had one child when i moved back home. Had my second child while here. I moved back home because my mom and grandmother are too old and i wanted to take care of them. met a man that loves me, bought a car. Bought land/site/stand for my kids. I haven't started building. My kids are loved and cared for by mom, grandmother and aunts. This is going to be good for you Mami. Great things are coming. You and your daughter will be okay.
This is heavy but one thing i know you will flourish and your kids are blessed to have you as a mum. Am in tears but i pray the new beginnings will come along with peace and all the blessings.
Oooh! Mandy, just wanna give you a huge hug right now. I’m not even 3 minutes to the vlog but I’m already chopping them onions. Wishing you nothing but the best mommy, it is definitely for a good reason. ❤️❤️❤️
At 37 years old, I made the decision to return to school to pursue a degree in medicine. Recently, I made the choice to move back home, despite having a tumultuous relationship with my father. Living alone had become untenable. As the eldest daughter in my family, I have shouldered the responsibility of caring for my parents and siblings since I was a child. They have always been demanding and selfish.My mum died, and balancing the demands of my challenging degree, working to support myself financially, and living with a father who expects me to cater to his every need has been incredibly draining. Ironically, my siblings and I now technically own our father's house, as my parents were financially irresponsible and my brother paid off their mortgage when our mother was battling cancer. Returning home has been a difficult adjustment, made even more challenging by the strained relationship I have with my father. It's a stark reminder that moving back home is a completely different experience when you have supportive and understanding parents, versus the tumultuous and toxic dynamic I have with my father. I love the Lord, but I don't know where He is in this season.
Mandy can't Alwande change school next year?I have heard Glenwood high is a good school andazi but awukwaz ukungonwabi nawe just because ungumama,you matter too yes go home recollect,regroup and attend Alwande but you should prioritize yourself ❤too
Mandy one thing about you, you are a winner through & through. God will show up for you in this new Chapter and We are rooting for you. Wishing you all the best in this chapter ❤
When Noma took that sip I felt it ,she is feeling it. I have never cried like this for stranger. I'm at home with my five years old thar swallowed R2 and I'm like parenting is not child's play
I just got a very good job offer after many years of being underpaid. Top of my priorities is to build/buy a house for my mother so that God forbid should things go sideways, I know I can always go back to my mother's house with my child. Going back home is hard, but at least you're going back to your mama's house. Love and light.
Oh Mandy, I was legit an emotional mess watching this vlog. Thank u for sharing this not only has it given many of us hope that it's ok not be ok and there's nothing wrong with starting over. I wish u nothing but healing and strength over this period. Love and Light ❤
Ever since I started watching this channel ive come to know u Mandy who would do anything and everything to protect her kids and I still see a mother who loves her kids more than anything. Sending hugs and kisses. All the best in this big change❤❤❤❤. You will get through this Amanda
You are so so authentic, Mandy. All I know to do when I’m going through tough times is to isolate myself. You are surrounded by so much love. If there’s anything I’m going to take from this vlog is to let your people love on you even through the ‘winters’ of life. Love always 🤍🤗
Welcome back mama 'you were just in my thoughts this morning ''I am currently going through a lot mentally lately and I thought of you ...Thank you for coming back to us ❤❤
Yeah..that makes the two of us.... I was actually going to tag her on insta to drop us a vlog...but this is so emotional but Mandy we love and have you in our thoughts...there is nothing wrong with going back home .you will get it right ❤❤❤God will direct you.
Your season of test is a redirection but not a setback! Re-evaluate the positives and the re-direction will reveal what Biggerr possibilities He has for you. To your daughter, she will only understand and appreciate the sacrifices when she is at the age that is mature enough to understand what it means to be a mother and woman. I pray for open doors and a spirit of calm!
Hi Mandy. I have been watching your vlogs since you moved back with your kids and I didn't know I was going to watch you move back to your parents house again but as you mentioned "everything does happen for a reason" and only God knows. I learned so much from watching your vlogs and I'm just in my 20s. I just want to say that you will be okay, you are a great mom to your kids and just keep praying to God and have Faith. I love you ❤
I absolutely feel you about being punished for being the parent that stayed. I'm trying to keep a level head and to be empathetic but there are days when it's really hard. I wish you strength,Mandy. Hope you come out stronger from this.❤ love and light.
I'm one of those who found you through this very video... algorithm... You are brave. As a woman and mother - I commend you. Only a loving parent can do what you have done. I also think it's so symbolic that the vision board was damaged in the packing process - not that your dreams are trashed, but it's a beautiful visual reminder that we can dream again, anew... Praying for continued healing in all areas of your life, praying that you and your eldest find each other again in her very difficult season and praying that God will surprise you in the most pleasant, unexpected ways in this season of YOUR journey 🙏🏾💕 Now I'm off to binge on the rest of your episodes😅❤
Not me shedding a tear just 10mins into the vlog. Everything happens for a reason mommy, we don’t know why it’s happening now but God is about to do something ul never forget. Trust the process. All the best, Love u so much ❤
I like when you acknowledge that things are changing and you are the one deciding where/when to go not the situation..that takes a lot of courage and I have so much respect for you ❤ Durban is lucky to have you❤
Sending you so much strength because I honestly don't know what else you could have done. You have literally done everything under the sun. I hope life is much kinder to you this year
Honey I so relate with this volog. Am currently living in my parents house with my child and trust u me the worst part is people comment of how I should move out how old I am, but in the end It's all for my child .I have to make certain painful decision so she can have a good comfortable life. I would rather commute for 3hours plus but know my princess is safe where ever she is. many people tell me to leave her with my parent and move out. But I choose to be the present parent and so I will gladly carry my cross. Honey I am with u in prayer one day this day will be history. Your story is an inspiration and encouragement knowing I am not alone in this. Your such a big sister to me darling. I always look up to you. And if I ever come to S.A I will make it a point to see you
Hi Mandy. You will always be a great source of courage and inspiration. You have played a crucial role in my personal healing journey and mother hood. Rooting for you as always. Lots of love from Nairobi Kenya.
Mandy I know what you’re going through, it’s not easy. I packed my bags in 2017 after breaking up with my daughter’s dad and moved back home at 31 years old. I have been staying at home for the past 6 years. Only now I’m able to finally leave and go stand on my own. I went through all the feelings, all the judgement of staying at home as an adult and you’re 100% correct, staying in another adult’s house as an adult with a child isn’t easy at all. The bright side is that you have a home to go back to. When all else feels dark and gloom, just remember that God works on his timing not ours. When the time is right, He will bless you and then some! Stay strong and don’t ever give up on yourself sis. ❤
This reminds me of when I had to move back to my mums little apartment in February last year a week before I turned 35. I'm a first born daughter, I felt so bad but it was the best decision I could make then to keep my son in a good school. The financial obligation was too much and being the only present parent I had to sacrifice. I just moved to my apartment a week ago... Finally, 1 year later. I'm starting over again at 36. At times I feel like I'm lagging behind but I feel I needed that 1 year to put my finances in order. I don't have everything but I know this is a right move
Njengamabutho empini uma ebona kunzima abuyeka emuva not because they are useless but ayothatha amandla amasha ukuze anqobe…nawe baddie lami hambo thatha amandla amasha
Hi Mandy. You don’t deserve the punishment Wawa is putting you through. It’s high time you set boundaries with teen daughter because if don’t you will continue to dance to her music…
Hey Mandy.First time commenting I usually watch from my tv.I want to say I love you so much and I wish you everything because you’re there and present for your kids and your such a lovely person.❤❤❤keep soldering on✊🏾
