Vlogmas 2020 | Day 4 | Christmas Declutter

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Decluttering some of my holiday decor and such today and thought I’d bring you along with me. I hope you enjoy tagging along with me this holiday season! Thanks for watching ☺
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@ghettoarcade 3 года назад

As a former women's shelter employee I can tell you this kind of stuff is in HIGH demand every year, can really bring a lot of holiday cheer to many families this year with a donation ❤

@emilyflodell2883 3 года назад

My parents separated when I was 4 years old, and now I am getting all the Christmas decor from my mum. Most of it was stuff they acquired in their married life, some was even wedding gifts. I really appreciate having those things even if they aren't together anymore. They have more meaning than that to me. I could see your kids in the future loving to have some of those sentimental things from you.

@Hfin 3 года назад

Yes! And as Cici gets older she would probably love to go through all that stuff like the Martha Steward things and star cookie cutters, I would have thought it was a gold mine at like 8 years old, all these bins of Christmas stuff to go through and be creative with.

@morganpoff4237 3 года назад

I wouldn't keep all the things. As someone whose family keeps all things that have sentimental value, I would like a curated box of the most important special things from family. Instead of a house full. I think keeping the mickey tree for CC and maybe like those crystal ornaments Don got Jen every year is something I would keep for my child to have someday but the snoopy or anything not VERY special - nah

@adrixo9274 3 года назад

@@morganpoff4237 agree! Keeping everything can be overwhelming for both of them. I imagine this stuff figuratively weights on Jen as she explained she was sorta avoiding going though all the holiday boxes. Having this declutting process is something she needs as she continues to redefine her life after marriage. Also for CC it may be enough to have the really important things like the tree that was a symbol of her parents then love and marriage- which she was born out of, and maybe the yearly holiday cards.

@juliecox647 3 года назад

It is not wasteful at all to donate it, I completely agree with you! Think off the blessings you are passing along, someone is going to be so glad to find that at a thrift store!

@chaank1069 3 года назад

I had to pause the video and comment. From personal experience, as memories fade, so will the attachment to items attached to that marriage and holidays spent in that marriage. It’s not been that long since you’ve been separated. This is normal process of grieving which can come in many forms and it comes in waves. Give yourself time and perhaps hold onto one item from snoopy collection and revisit it in a couple months or after Christmas and see how you feel then.

@Poipy09 3 года назад

Well said... ❤️

@alexandjuergen 3 года назад

Was also going to say the same. She has a basement and space. Keep everything and wait another year. If you have to think about it, you are not ready. This year has been emotional for all of us. Wait until next Christmas. You are still moving in, Covid. Wait one year until you are more settled and things are generally more normal.

@readin_ritin_rithmetic 3 года назад

I was thinking the same. Put Snoopy back in the box and revisit in a year or so.

@eiyiyiyi 3 года назад

It doesn't have to be important to anyone but you. If it doesn't bring you joy and make you smile, it's OK to part with it. It's never easy to go through these kinds of things.

@cherylhall8975 3 года назад

Makes total sense to have emotional attachments to “things” especially during the holidays. I think the kids would love the snoopy tree!!

@HipstyHeavener 3 года назад

I listened to your singing on Instagram last night, Jen. You really have a beautiful voice. I’ve been watching you for a decade and it’s so nice to see you come out of your shell in different ways.

@ericaelizabeth8763 3 года назад

I believe objects collect energy and emotion so it makes it difficult to get rid of some things. You could always get a new snoopy collectible that reminds you of your fresh new start. 🎄

@bauerdc01 3 года назад

You made a comment about this being a “downer” and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate the range and depth of emotions and human experience you have been willing to share lately. You can find 100 vlogmas videos with perfectly curated backdrops, expertly choreographed family activities with airbrushed smiles and matching jammies. It’s all very lovely but it sure isn’t the whole story. Right now...we need shared experience, empathy, and growth. What you do highlights all of this and more. Thank you and I hope you have a truly wonderful holiday season, whatever it may bring.

@victoriaannexoxoxo 3 года назад

Save them for Charlotte. I have so many memories of Christmas decor that I wish my mom saved for me. But she got rid of everything when my parents divorced. What I would give for them now.

@julias7065 3 года назад

I agree!

@ArtJourneyUK 3 года назад

Thats a lot of stuff to foist onto your daughters future. One or two memorable items, sure. But not all of it. Plus most of this stuff Charlotte hasn’t even seen, let alone created memories about.

@shubhadasamant 3 года назад

You are comfortable sharing your raw side with the world,that itself means huge progress.Cheers. Keep up the spirit.

@mrssharp 3 года назад

I attach memories to things. I had to get rid of some things from some people that is no longer in my life because of the feelings attached to them.

@cynsue1618 3 года назад

It’s an honor to be part of your daily life during this season. Thank you for taking us on your journey with you. It’s not a trivial thing to have to pack up a dead dream, or a dead memory. You do it with grace and honesty. ❤️

@anshrewsbury 3 года назад

Just because others have it worse, doesn't mean it's not hard for you. Don't apologize. It's not silly. I think sorting through your holiday things is just part of the process. Part of your growth. ❤ Wishing a beautiful & peaceful holiday for you and yours, Jen! ❤

@xtina1822 3 года назад

I always loved that gingerbread spoon rest!

@dudejayfood 3 года назад

You’re cleansing your Christmas stuff and I’m beginning my hoarding phase of it lol. I want to deck my house out. I love watching your relaxing vlogs.

@vanessa91614 3 года назад

The kids might like some of the stuff. Its part of the journey. Kinda like a wedding album. Just stick in the garage and label dont look at till 2025.

@Jen-Chapin 3 года назад

I think you can pass some things on to your children. My mom passed many things down to me from when my parents were still together and I appreciate that.

@PlanwithLaken 3 года назад

This is true for me too!

@beatricek3801 3 года назад

You are making my day brighter every day I watch your Vlogmas... thank you ..

@katiewilliams5674 3 года назад

Everything you were processing in regards to keeping items or letting them go made a lot of sense! Thank you for sharing :)

@ninjawatchersherrie1766 3 года назад

The older i get the more i realize its just "stuff" - made in some factory far far away....your memories are still there if you have the object or not...do what makes you feel happy. I've been super purging for years now and for me i haven't felt like i've lost anything but i can relate to the other side of the coin also. thanks Jen for keeping it real.

@TheChelissa 3 года назад

I don't know. The "juvenile" things or the child-like things, or even the most sentimental, I might tuck away in a box again. Remaining out of sight and mind for you. The kids have been heavily introduced to Disney and all of those similar things. It would be nice for them to have a chance to have those things one day. Especially because it came from a different time for their parents. Whenever that is, you'd have more distance from these "things" but it could bring joy to the kids. I come from divorced parents when I was only 7. But I know that they were once very much in love. She passed away when I was 25 and I have absolutely nothing from the time that my parents were together and I feel like I'd love a part of their happy history, not just the one I grew up knowing. I know that if I saw videos like these of my mom purging, I'd want my hands on some of these things that once meant so much - like it's a piece of her/their history given to me. Just a different perspective before it's too late.

@melissasturgeon893 3 года назад

I wholeheartedly agree. So much. I get it. Hide things away for finds for the kids. God forbid, anything happens to you or your ex or whatever, these will be great treasures for CC or Donnie. Once you let them go, they can never come back. If you have the ability to keep them out of sight and mind for you, do so. They will never have memories of the two of you as a couple, but in their hearts "things" might tell them a story. What brings you pain now might help them or bring them joy one day. Tuck it away for yourself...but think 6 times before you toss things that might benefit the kids one day. All the best!

@melissas851 3 года назад

This! YES! ALL THE YES.

@ShelleyLeeDesigns 3 года назад

Really great advice.

@bostonveganbean4928 3 года назад

We appreciate your honesty and completely understand it. How about putting sentimental items away for the kiddos to enjoy as adults?

@SingItAgain89 3 года назад

Are you will to sell.any cookie related items? I will buy them from you

@AWATLEW 3 года назад

I have been following you for years and it is wild to see you come full circle with these items and memories. You have made so many emotional changes. Thank you for sharing. I know there are so many people who are going through the same experiences and can relate. A new world awaits

@bobbifisher8719 3 года назад

I think you’ve really done “the work”. It is totally understandable and “cleansing” to rid yourself from your “past life”. When you were first married, you were all about “homemaking” for your family of 2. It was just the 2 of you for a long time. A lot of these things that bring memories are part of that time in your life and that time is over. I think you’ve got the right idea to put some things aside and sleep on it. And you will make new memories for the kids now and savor those memories. No worries. I got a lot out of your discussion. I think you are very emotionally intelligent! Thanks for sharing!!!

@lauralvegan2835 3 года назад

I have to pause because I wish I could talk back to you. Lol. Get rid of the Snoopy. I completely understand what you’re saying. While you love it and it’s adorable-it’s time to create new memories with new things. Okay....back to vlog.

@GeorgeGlass298 3 года назад

Get rid of all of it. I finally decided to get rid of every single bit of my Christmas decorations and start new. I'm so happy I did. I don't miss any of them and neither do my kids. I got all blue and silver stuff to use for a couple years then I'm going to donate it all and get black and white. No sentiment involved and it makes my life a lot easier.

@vanessa91614 3 года назад

**raising glass** to new memories.

@swisslions 3 года назад

Anything that triggers emotion is good to let go off. There will be new memories and items you and your children pick.

@carathomas8398 3 года назад

I love that you call your piano room the “ballroom” because it has no furniture and you dance in it! I love dancing at home and children love dancing! Great sense of humor and outlook.

@mehmay2518 3 года назад

I TOTALLY understand your feelings about your Mickey tree and your Snoopy collectibles - holiday items ESPECIALLY touch my heart, sometimes in a lovely way, and sometimes it hurts. ❤️

@JodieC26 3 года назад

100 percent agree that hanging onto items you won't use is more wastful than donating. Someone will be excited to find those items. Decluttering is good for the soul.

@mychannelvg 3 года назад

I soooo get what you're talking about about things that you just can't have anymore or revisit because its just not part of the present.

@jowhatdoyouknow8383 3 года назад

Just because there is awful things going on in the world doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do all the things you do. It’s those things that make us feel sane. One day you won’t care so much about people coming for you in the comments. You are a very good person Jen. Great mother, great daughter and huge giver.

@heidicarmain7060 3 года назад

You are so strong Jen and I love your perspective I’m talking through things.... no matter what stage in life you are in- everyone has so many of the same feelings and thoughts you have! Love your videos so much

@Arazhul12 3 года назад

I used to be poor in my 20s, always looking forward to be able to buy me lovely things. Then in my 30s I did it and quite enjoyed it, I did the the decorating thing, the hosting thing, the crafting and gardening... in my 40s I realised I spent too much time organising, cleaning and caring for my stuff. Now I have only 1 seasonal decoration only in my living room! That's it! Sooooo good! Try it

@prernashraff8937 3 года назад

We love you Jennifer! If your vlogs are fun, we are with you! If they are emotional, also we are with you!! Great job on the decluttering!! Loved it.

@ritay1182 3 года назад

I would keep the Lenox Snoopy Tree. You can always give it away, but you can’t necessarily always get it back. You seem hesitant about it. It’s ok to have a couple of items that bring back memories, as long as it doesn’t jeopardize your present-day happiness. This video is cathartic!

@LibbyWithnall 3 года назад

Totally agree it's more wasteful to keep stuff you won't use. I have the same mindset and pass things on for others to use/enjoy.

@marycannonearley9399 3 года назад

100% understand the connection of those holiday items to a previous time in your life when things were different and doesn’t feel quite right to bring them forward to a new chapter. Sleeping on it is a wise idea ❤️

@hmaday85 3 года назад

Your hesitation and apprehension of selling your snoopy collectibles is so SO understandable! You spent a lot of years and made a lot of memories with Don. You are normal Jen...this is all normal and it is all very understandable to a reasonable person. I am constantly praying for you as you navigate your new life and you are doing such a great job. I have been a friend of yours since the beginning and to be honest I have grieved the loss of your relationship but I am happy you are doing so well and just know you are allowed to feel all the feelings and it is all ok. Love you. 💕

@TheGoldProject 3 года назад

I totally get what you are talking about. I call it negative emotional clutter. I have talked about it several times on my channel. Anything that brings back something hurtful, depressing, negative, or just doesn't make me happy anymore, I let it go. It was SO HARD in the beginning. But, when those things walk out of my house and get a new home, it is so freeing. It brings me joy to know that they will get a home where people will love them.

@Gigi-fv9ky 3 года назад

Hey Jen, while our situations are different, I totally get the bittersweet sentimental attachment to holiday decorations. Holidays are especially tied up in our desire to create a warm loving family and memories, almost akin to the warmth of Thomas Kinkade painting, and I think that's why they are tougher. For over a decade, as I was dreaming of a family, I collected holiday decor thinking what a magical season I could create for my longed for babies. I wasn't able to have those babies, and that's the biggest heartbreak, and so while I still love those decorations, I can't really bring myself to use many of them, almost like I am not worthy of them, since I don't have the family they were purchased for. Anyway, not saying you feel the same, just that these items in particular become enmeshed in our dreams. That said, I think if you can use your items and they still bring you joy, maybe even after another couple of years have passed, you should. Or, another thought, is to save the most special or charming for your kids. They won't have the same bittersweet memories and instead may just love them as keepsakes you gave them. Just a thought anyway. I think what I most want to say is that you don't have to be In a rush to decide when you aren't sure. You could give it a couple of years and see.

@becomingasupermommy 3 года назад

If I were you I would use the Mickey Tree/Snoopy Tree in the kids rooms. The kids came out of the love that those tree represented regardless of whether Mom and Dad are together. Plus its Mickey/Snoopy you know they will love it :)

@OneHappyFrugalFamily 3 года назад

This is my first holiday season divorced too. I'm getting rid of my department 56 village set. So many hard memories attached to those houses my ex gave me each year. I totally get it and validate those feelings you're having.

@southerncrazydaisy1256 3 года назад

I have a hard week emotionally! You want us to be real! Your Vlogmas is helping to brighten my day! I think you look nice! Thank you for being real!

@sarahhodge246 3 года назад

I totally understand. These items have memories attached and especially holiday things! You are not alone and you make perfect sense.

@grenier70 3 года назад

Really enjoying vlogmas sweetie. Onward and upwards as they say. Have a wonderful day. 👋👍🇨🇦

@MsAlexisMac 3 года назад

Jen - random question... you used to save a roll of your favourite wrapping paper every year. Do you still do that? They would be fun to see!

@practicaltravellers4572 3 года назад

I too had to pause the video to comment. I FEEL this. I feel you. It's hard. I remember feeling exactly what you seem to be expressing when I went though my divorce. I had no interest in being back in that marriage but the stuff brought back feelings...really hard to describe feelings. I think for me it was the fact that those things were like moments frozen in time and in those times I was happy exactly where I was. Things change, people change and, looking back, those happy times are the things that sting the heart the hardest. Maybe allow those tangible reminders to help guide you through processing the feelings you're having and then decide if they should stay or go. My heart is with you. I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness.

@candycane517 3 года назад

Jen, you will party and celebrate again! So much of what you are unboxing is the you that me and my girls started watching you for!!

@rtk9630 3 года назад

Jen glad to hear you're feeling better! Cardio works every time, takes about a week to come back. so happy to hear!

@MNFARMWIFE 3 года назад

Thank you for being so raw and sharing this vulnerable part of your life with us! Lots of us have watched you since the beginning, and care about you and your family so much! ♥️

@mkforever8056 3 года назад

Def save the kids a few things I’m sure they will cherish it. Have a wonderful holiday!

@dudejayfood 3 года назад

It’s so hard going through materials attached with memories. My dad loves Snoopy. When I saw that beautiful figurine, it reminds me of him :)

@linnsoltwedel 3 года назад

I totally understand about the tree. Although its not about the tree, it's more about what was and the memories. We do put our feelings in things, not because we are materialistic, but because we are human and we have feelings connected to things, smell, sounds and what not :)

@fortheloveofgrey6045 3 года назад

I understand what you mean about emotional attachment to “things.” When my mom moved in with my sister after my dad died I was the one who cleared out most of the stuff in her house. I took some things but most of it I gave away. It was hard at the time and I second guessed myself but at the same time it felt good to move on from it. I have the good memories in my head and not cluttering my house.

@Dueface 3 года назад

It can feel so freeing to let go of items that no longer serve you - I commend you for taking that step!

@julieradaker4853 3 года назад

I definitely have memories attached to "things". This is the first year without my mother in law. Bringing out Christmas decorations and items she bought us was really hard for me. I can't imagine what you are going through. I remember the Mickey tree. I also remember a vlog way back when you were showing your Snoopy Christmas cookie jar and said it would be for your future children to have as an heirloom.

@amydrew9518 3 года назад

So glad you're doing vlog'mas again! And doing a great job too! Keep smiling and carry on Jen! The best is yet to come for you!

@vanessamacomson5531 3 года назад

Jen- Thank you for your candor. You do not know how much this conversation meant to me.

@dianedraveski6485 3 года назад

Passing it along is the Christmas spirit!! Great job Jen!

@ash06101985 3 года назад

Christmas is for the kids. Yours would love to experience Christmas like you used to celebrate.

@freeyourmind16 3 года назад

Everything you said about having attachment to holiday stuff & not wasting by donating makes total sense!

@thebullocksunlocked7582 3 года назад

I totally understand. Sometimes it's best to give away so your heart can heal. And even though your feeling great, it's just a reminder and holidays are tough sometimes and filled with new and past emotions. And things are attached to that time frame.

@wendysmith6184 3 года назад

keep the collectables for the kids , they will love it later in life that it was both mum and dad,s and created lots of happy memories for you both.

@kimberlymoline107 3 года назад

I am in the same place as far as buying goes. I decluttered stuff I never used in preparation for a move. It made me really think twice before I buy new stuff. I think it’s just part of growing. Also, if an item doesn’t bring you joy sell it or donate it. You have worked hard to move on. You don’t need something bringing you back to a place you chose to move on from. ❤️

@erin021378 3 года назад

110% relate to the moving out of things. They can carry significant memories. My whole year has brought so much change and I’ve disconnected with quite a few things to move forward more fully in my new life. You are growing. It’s a beautiful thing.

@deirdremccann3212 3 года назад

Definitely understand the memories in things. You need new things because you are going to be making wonderful new memories. 💙🎄

@jackiewatsonfitness3695 3 года назад

Why not give the tree to CC to put in her room? I would think that she would love it. She is a good thing to come from your marriage and maybe you can transfer your feelings of somewhat sadness when looking at it, to happiness that your daughter is enjoying it? I think that, down the road, if she sees the tree and that you got rid of it, she could be upset about it.

@cja398 3 года назад

Dear Jen. Believe me when I tell you that none of this was a downer. it was a gift. thank you so much. You have helped so many people sharing your story and experiences. God Bless You.

@Gabriela_Blank 3 года назад

The kids could of used the cookie cutters for play doh 😅 xoxo thanks for vlogmas

@GerbilyWerbily 3 года назад

My thinking is that if it doesn’t make you feel good then get rid of it and move on from it, sell it and buy something new to replace it that you can fully enjoy and that makes you feel good. It doesn’t look like the Snoopy things make you feel good anymore. I love that you addressed your reasons behind letting objects go but I had already worked out that this was what you were doing and have been doing for quite a while. It makes complete sense to me. Memories are strong things but the most important thing is making new ones with your kids.

@lisabeishline578 3 года назад

If it was me I would save a few of the "emotional impact" items to pass on to your children someday. They will appreciate them and the story with it.

@AbsolutelyAdorableStudio 3 года назад

I love vlogmas !!!😍🌲

@comptonphoto 3 года назад

It’s not stupid! I know exactly how you feel. You do you. Xoxo

@copycat3553 3 года назад

Jen had to stop the video to comment. I don't usually comment on videos but felt the need. Like many others have said the mickey tree and the snoopy stuff. I think would be best to visit at a later time. I may be more jaded because I also collected the lenox 2004 snoopy collection. The year my son was born. I also remember in a video you mentioned want to pass it down to your kids if you every had any. I remember because it was nice to see someone else with the same collection. I also collect lenox holiday and my husband buys it for me every year but l look at it as a gift and its mine. Its nice that he buys it but is what he knows I like. I would buy it myself and some I do. Hope that gives you maybe another perspective.

@Birdhouselady 3 года назад

WOW You've come so far. Very very proud of you. Here's to new beginnings

@lauralvegan2835 3 года назад

I used to put up holiday decor in every room of my house and now I’m at a point where a tree and some garland (and, maybe a poinsettia) is enough for me. I’m in a less is more phase. Keep it simple. You have kids so that does change things but we all tend to go through a period where we have so much and then one day you think “why do I have all this stuff?”. It used to be hard to get rid of stuff and now I’m the opposite. I’m LOVING, LOVING Vlogmas!💚

@TheDogLover1212 3 года назад

I understand. Memories can be beautiful and sad during the holidays.

@geibgirl1 3 года назад

Your kids will love the things that they are used to seeing every year. Someone will definitely love the excess and will be happy to use. It’s great to clean out the excess:

@dawncampbell9385 3 года назад

Jennifer My advise for you is to let go anything that brings you down. The things in our lives are meant to bring joy. Take the grace

@MsGeminiGodess 3 года назад

I don’t know if your kids like play dough - but the cookie cutters are perfect for that! The former early childhood teacher in me is drooling at all possibilities you could make and do with all that with the kids! 🎄💖🤍 I don’t know where you’re planning to donate that, but a daycare/preschool would LOVE that! Edit: the stuff in the first box 🤍

@ainonykanen1811 3 года назад

The kids might also feel burdened if many things are saved for them for long periods of time and if they feel unsure about the stuff. I encourage you to let go of anything that doesn't sit right with YOU in the PRESENT time. Waiting years with stuff you don't want and possibly ending up not wanted by the kids either sounds like a horrible waste of mental energy and physical space. I think your RU-vid channel with all the old video series are a living memory of that time for your children to see eventually. As a minimalism-loving Scandinavian I also think kids should learn to let go of stuff and not learn to associate memories to objects so heavily. Loving the down to earth vlogmas!!!

@jessicashore6304 3 года назад

I think it's healthy to still have emotional attachments for old sentimental items of your past. I think it just shows that in that particular moment "someone" loved you so much to have given you something so special. Even though the "love" with him has changed, doesn't make the moment he gave it to you worthless. I think the snoopy tree is adorable and would be lovely on a book shelf. Maybe even something you can pass on to one of your kids someday. That being said I don't know what memory you have attached to it. So if you put it up somewhere and when you look at it you feel more uncomfortable than joy sell that little thing!!!!! Loving the vlogs!

@cindihansen8111 3 года назад

Totally normal to feel how you feel! I was widowed 8 years ago and going through stuff is extremely emotional. Especially putting up ornaments. I got rid of some, kept some and bought some new ones. I go through the emotions every year. I'm starting my own traditions now. You will find your way, you already are! Nothing you get rid of cant' be replaced. It's just stuff. Even the most sentimental items at the end of the day are just stuff.

@mychannelvg 3 года назад

don't need to keep anything that doesn't bring you utmost joy and happiness.

@adrixo9274 3 года назад

I applaud your transparency it is extremely relatable. I have never went through a divorce but I see and understand what you mean with the grief of your past life, memories, and relationships. Grief isn't always sad but its a sense of loss, that perhaps holidays will not look the same, maybe even for the better but it is still a sense of lose that comes with change no matter how good it is. Connecting memories with tangible things is also something I do with songs. I connect songs to certain points in my life and they envoke feelings. I enjoy you so much more Jen this feels like the person you were meant to be, easy on yourself, a free spirit and unapologetically YOU! Happy holidays.

@choston003 3 года назад

Completely understand. Purging can be very helpful in moving on, especially with holiday stuff. I’ve been there.

@bluewrenbirdie 3 года назад

Sell the collectables. They don't mean anything to the kids and for yourself, some memories are better left without the visual reminder. I sold/donated all my holiday decor after I got divorced. How I celebrate now is completely different to when I was married and I didn't want those emotions dragged up year after year.

@ginaheffner6627 3 года назад

You should sell all your adorable collectibles, you are not keeping. They are so pretty,someone will buy them for sure!

@HannahBMann 3 года назад

Not every little thing during the holidays is happy and that's okay. Thanks for keeping it real. I'm in need of inspiration for the storage and organization of my seasonal items and am hoping you'll share with us when you get yours situated. Always glad to see your face--happy, somber, etc.😏

@lesliereinhardt4908 3 года назад

You are not alone. I understand it

@blonde761 3 года назад

I had the same Snoopy cookie jar, my children are grown so I put it on ebay with make offer bidding. A lady reached out to me, made me an offer that seemed fair. She wrote me later to tell me how happy it made her to have it. Win win. They are only things and ok to repurpose when they no longer fit although it is hard when the things hold emotional attachment. It really does take being a bit ruthless but once gone, it’s a good feeling.

@TheMyameeGirl 3 года назад

Jen, when I first saw your house tour with those Lenox Snoopy collectables I fell in love with them. It took me a while, but I finally found all the pieces (the candy dish was very hard to find). I remember you talking about them as you showed them, saying how much you adored them and that these were things you would love to pass down to any children you might have. I would hate to see you regret getting rid of those pieces. I have had similar feelings with items from a past relationship that I wasn't sure about when I eventually got married and moved all of my stuff. I packed some away that I was hesitant about, but after a couple years I was able to take them out and enjoy them. My advice is to keep them. Pack them away and see how you feel about them after more time has passed. I know you're trying to declutter, but you really did love those ornaments, and even though they were part of your married life, they really were mainly part of YOU. I'm sure your children would adore having those as they have families of their own in the future. I would wait before parting with them. Just my 2 cents. :)

@candycane517 3 года назад

Save the Mickie tree for Charlotte. It will mean something to her someday.

@athomeimmum2247 3 года назад

Even though you like them I get the feeling they don't bring you joy when you see or hold them. They're still beautiful, and they're from another time that came with many gifts but I sense they aren't 'relevant' in your new, fresh and joyful home. Best of luck. I attach so much sentiment on holiday items too, so it must be so hard. I hope you find peace with what you choose to keep and let go.

@sallygeisler1948 3 года назад

Appreciate you being real. Every day has so much in it & we all need to be mindful of it. It all makes for a fabulous life!

@janessarae9320 3 года назад

Hi Jen, I never comment but watch every single one of your videos over the years. You might not see this but I wanted to let you know that seeing you go through this phase in your life...I’m really proud of you. The emotions you’re having are really valid and you have taught me to work through my own feelings in my life about things I’ve held sentimental value to, including positive and negative memories that are taking up space in my brain. I just don’t have room to store those negative memories anymore and I feel motivated to work through not letting them take up mental space in my life anymore. I hope that makes sense. Anyway, thank you for sharing your life. Stay genuine to yourself. Post what you want to post and what feels good in your heart. I’m a supporter who will be here regardless and I appreciate the realness of what you’re going through instead of putting up a facade. On an unrelated note, I am getting a Peloton Bike+ this week. I would be interested in a review from you on some of your favorite classes and accessories, etc. if you need a video idea. Thank you!