Vulnerable Life Update Vlog: Sharing What's Been Going On & Catching You Up

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In this long overdue chatty vlog I am sharing some life updates ranging from casual chit-chats to deeply personal revelations. Buckle up, as this video is packed with some real talk.
I've debated whether to share this deeply personal update, unsure of how it will be received. Ultimately, I decided to open up and discuss it in the hope that it resonates with those who need to hear it. Authenticity is so important to me, we see enough filtered versions of perfection online and it can be so damaging for our mental health when everyone else's lives appear perfect and we can't understand what we are "doing wrong".
Ultimately I've decided to share this update (even though I may receive some negativity) because I want to normalise dealing with things when we are not ok.
Thank you for being part of my incredible community, where we can come together and share the highs, lows, and everything in between.
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@louised290 Год назад

I’m a counsellor and really happy to see you being so open about this. You’re right we really do need to normalise looking after our mental health. Well done for using your platform for the good! Anyone who is judgy regarding seeking therapy doesn’t understand how to be proactive around emotional well being x

@susanwheeler9618 Год назад

Good luck Rhi, i hope it goes well. Thank you for sharing, xx

@victorialyon8905 Год назад

Thank you for sharing 💕As you say it’s not a sign of weakness…quite the reverse. Also, condolences on your recent loss x

@georginaswain9724 Год назад

Love this video and that you keep things real! Im so sorry for your families loss. Ignore the haters do what is best for you - self care is so important as life can often be overwhelming xx

@emmamoore2497 Год назад

Thank you for sharing. Mental health is definitely something we all need to try and be more open about as it affects so many people. Love all your content ❤

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you Emma x

@Nicolapreedy Год назад

I think your doing the right thing , hope it works for you .Thanks for the updates love your family and appreciate you sharing your life with us. xxxxxx

@hayleyhooker5528 Год назад

LOVED this video Rhi. Was so nice to have these vlogs back. Thank you for sharing and totally agree about our mental health. Glad your feeling better. X ❤❤❤

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you Hayley x

@stephaniemoss6823 Год назад

Absolutely love to watch all your videos hun and i totally agree with everything youve said especially about mental health, it is nothing whatsoever to be ashamed of. I am pleased that you will talk about it after all we all need help some time in our life so talking is a great way to help oneself and others too. You are a very talented lady so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU , i always feel better after I've watched 1 of your videos.❤😊

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Oh thank you so much lovely x

@EmmaChamp Год назад

You’re such a lovely person, Rhi, you always come across as a really caring and positive person. It’s great that you share you have struggles the same as everyone else and it definitely doesn’t make you less positive, it makes you even more caring as you also want to support others!

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you so much Emma x

@stephaniebuchan5751 Год назад

Love love LOVE this video! Chatty and honest catch ups are what we all need to know we are not alone. Love your honesty and for me it’s very much needed right now, especially as a mum myself with 3 special needs children. ❤

@helenwiddowson4784 Год назад

I have always found you to be a completely genuine person and its great that you choose to use your channel to normalise mental health and getting therapy. Ignore any negative comments, do what is best for you. I have had counselling myself a few years ago and it was helpful, as is the medication i need to help with my anxiety. Eveyone needs to do what works for them . ❤

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you Helen 🥹

@sarahlouisewinwood2709 Год назад

I appreciate u sharing about ur mental health iv been doing counselling on an off since I was 15 and found it really useful an they give u mechanisms to help u cope.❤❤💗💗

@gemmaknight9938 Год назад

Hey , thank you for the update lovely! I didn’t know about the podcast will definitely be catching up ❤❤

@memoirsofamama2980 Год назад

Good luck with your therapy Rhi, I hope it works well for you. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are an amazing mum and an inspiration. I love your content and how genuine you are with it. Thank you for being so open xx

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you so much xx

@amym3229 Год назад

Murphy beds or any kind of non permanent beds aren’t great if it’s going to be used every night. Definitely be expecting to replace the whole bed frame a few times if you go down that route until William moves out. Seen loads of other people saying the folding away mechanisms break or the frame itself. Plus they aren’t usually overly comfortable for a permanent bed.

@MumLifeAndMore Год назад

So sorry to hear about your mother-in-law 😔 I pulled rib muscles through coughing with all 3 of my pregnancies and it was horrendous, especially my 2nd one, I was up the hospital and had to cancel my baby shower 😫 I think the name of your podcast of brilliant 👏

@user-pz8mg4sn1i Год назад

Rhi you are so genuine and I love watching your content. I am also a mummy of 4. It was watching one of your chats with whatkatysaiduk in I think 2021 that I realised I had ADHD and have since been diagnosed and it has changed me life. If it wasn't for your channel and open conversations I would never of even thought of ADHD and would still be struggling with life! Therapy is something everyone should do at some point in life, we all carry trauma and unpacking it helps us live a more fulfilled life. Thank you for doing what you do and good luck x

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

I'm so glad that chat helped! I remember it ad I identified with a lot of what Katy said that day too x

@saira5274 Год назад

“An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly" ❤

@pagebrogan5319 Год назад

Sending so much love and support to you Rhi it's a hard decision to make. I think you're so right it's a good decision to start when you are feeling strong mentally. I have done the same recently. I didn't seek support for the classic they'll take my children away if they know I'm struggling but I wish I'd reached out sooner x

@carolscammell3592 Год назад

Thank you Rhi for being so open on this video you don't really need to explain yourself, loved this video also love your chatty vlogs and sit down chats hope you had a great Bank Holiday and yes loved your Alton towers vlog take care xx

@zeynepnilsensoy762 Год назад

Hey Rhi, hope you’re well. I’m happy, good and doing well thank you good evening love this Life update sharing What’s been going on and catching you up video. I’ve really enjoyed this life update sharing what’s been going on and catching you up. I been ok but of course my mental health and my anxiety hasn’t been great this past week. Now I feel better. I’m motivated and happy too. I feel some things are challenging and difficult to do which I physically cannot cope with sometimes as well. I just want myself to go back to normal feeling energetic, powerful and positive too. I love CBeebies land especially something special because it’s my favourite CBeebies show to watch! Your podcasts have been really helpful and real to me. I can’t wait to see your Disney cruise videos soon. I absolutely need to clear my mind and I do feel everyone needs to clear their minds as well. I love your Disney channel so much. I’m really missing your groceries hauls videos. When are you going to start making groceries hauls videos again on your channel please Let me know? Can you tell me what’s the name of the new video which is coming on Thursday evening at 5pm from you please? Can we see more videos coming from you soon. Take care stay safe and well. Have a lovely week. See you on Thursday evening at 5pm with a new video too.😊🌺🐝🎉🥰☀️❤️🇹🇷♥️🦋💜💜🎶🐣💕✨🐰🎈😍💛🏝️🌸😄🌷😁🏖️

@savvyfeminist4700 Год назад

Thank you for being open about going to therapy. I’m loving your podcast, I watch on YT. And I just subscribed to the podcast channel

@yvonnesmith3997 Год назад

You are such a lovely lady, thank you for all your amazing and honest content ❤

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

🥹

@debadamsuksouthwales6766 Год назад

Sorry about your loss ✝️ and glad you are feeling better 🤗 I always enjoy all your videos and it's great you are talking about mental health I'm having to catch up with all your videos on both channels I have also had the flu it does knock you for six 🙏💞☀️

@jocelynwright9927 Год назад

I got therapy a while ago and I have always been open about it, I'am waiting to start therapy again soon, im okay but i just need to talk to someone abit more about my past. Here for you 100%, you are truly one amazing lady xx

@clairewarren9965 Год назад

I had therapy for years because of my non existent mother who didn't want me, plus a miscarriage and some abuse. It did do me the world of good. They do not give you the answers but make you think about the issues in a different way to deal with. Definitely worth it for me love. Good luck ❤❤

@emilyinnz Год назад

I love listening to podcasts on Spotify but I have been enjoying yours on RU-vid. I’ve given you a follow on Spotify but I end up listening on RU-vid just with my headphones on.

@emmabirchall9697 Год назад

Recently discovered your channel through all your disney account. Love your genuine realness. Take good care of yourself ❤

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you Emma x

@mrsg3460 Год назад

I'm starting therapy this week, I have no idea what to expect either. I think it's a great idea for everyone to try. I think I've burnout from being a stay at home mum to 3 kids with no family around plus pandemic and childhood trauma mixed in. I hope its something good for you, its great to talk about and normalise x

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Good luck lovely! And yes, talking about therapy and normalising it is important x

@melissagovier50 Год назад

Therapy is great. X British people are shy about it, compared to others like Americans. Rhi, your doing a great job, Well done for all the work you do and for sharing 👏 👍 🙌 x

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Yes! American people are much further ahead than us Brits when it comes to therapy. I hope we are catching up slowly x

@theedenadventures Год назад

UK theme park : I've heard paultons have changed a lot about how they do the ride access pass and what you can now access etc so that may be interacting to see how that affects anything if you haven't been recently. (I'm hoping we get to go there ourself over the next half term 🤞) my other suggestion would be to cover some of the smaller attractions.

@Crystalnancyolivia Год назад

Sending you lots of love Rhi🩷 you are a beautiful woman inside and out and I love watching you!!! Whatever people think about you has nothing to do with you, you are incredible!!! Looking forward to a Rhi binge on here and your Disney channel 🥰🥰🥰xxx

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Aww, thank you Crystal, you are always so lovely x

@amandafreebrey9192 Год назад

I’m a firm believer in therapy, I think it’s another part of self care and so important to mums who look after everyone else’s mental health. I like the idea of you on a podcast as I can listen to a friend chat as I’m doing other things, I like sit down & watch to chill too. Perhaps longleat, Drayton manor, West Midlands safari park, Lego land? X

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

I've always thought it was a good idea, it's just taken me such a long time to finally do it. and I love the idea of the podcast being a chat with a friend x

@jennyphillips945 Год назад

Well done rhi, therphay is always tough at first you very quickly feel benifit's. I love all your videos, I love your podcast I'm listening to it on RU-vid I'm little behind as life and illness happened

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Hope you are feeling better xx

@sarahlopez80 Год назад

Therapy is great xxx

@michellealexandracotton8836 Год назад

Hey Rhi, absolutely love this! Really sorry to hear about daddy of fours mum passing, hope you are all coping as best as you can xx hope the therapy will work for you, can relate about the mental health, have my good & bad days too, think I may consider counselling again myself. Hope you do manage to complete a cruise planner cos that I would deffo buy, hope the fam is well, please say hi & give them my love xx 😘💝🫂

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

The cruise planner is on my to do list! Hopefully this weekend x

@JillandPaul24260 Год назад

Thank you for such a raw and honest post. I try hard on my socials to show both sides of my life. Someone once said social media is like watching the trailer to someone's life and not the complete film. Be proud of going to therapy as you will inspire others to do the same and more importantly pave the way for your children to nurture their own mental health care. Much love. Xxx

@rachelwhite4320 Год назад

So sorry to hear about Daddy of Fours mum, i hope that you are all doing okay ❤ Please ignore any trolls, sharing positively about mental health and therapy is a really good thing, if more people reached out and didnt feel a stigma about asking for help we would have far less tragedys ❤ Xx

@faystalker9851 Год назад

Sorry for all the family loss to all the family my condolences to all you

@Fermerswife Год назад

How did you find a therapist Rhi? I've been thinking about therapy recently but don't know where to start.

@juliajones2283 Год назад

I listen to chatty vlogs or podcasts while I’m doing jobs around the house like ironing or cooking when I’m not really looking at the iPad screen. So I sometimes watch them later then when they are published. I hope you find the therapy beneficial, it’s something I have considered but never acted on. Xx

@xanthesmith9194 Год назад

I have severe mental health and see a psychologist every 2 weeks. I actually would not be here today without her help

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

So glad that you access that help x

@xanthesmith9194 Год назад

@@MummyofFourUK Rhi, you a a lovely friendly person which I really enjoy watching your channel( even though I am not a mother). I often wish you were my mother. Needing support to handle things is human and I admire you for doing that and speaking about it on your channel. Please don’t let negative people and comments get to you, these people probably need more help than you currently do. Keep your head up and continue doing what you’re doing. Your children are a real asset and your doing a fantastic job in raising them and it shows.

@julieatherton3374 Год назад

Well done Rhi for high lighting counselling. It’s nothing to a shamed of, mental illness is like any other illness therefore why judge anyone who has a mental health illness.

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

🥰

@christineclarkson7866 Год назад

I am 42 and going through the menopause, I am also a Mum of 5 ( 2 bio sons and 3 looked after children) I have been a foster carer for 9 years. I feel that you are very inspirational (I even have the same kitchen as you 😂, I promise i’m not a stalker) but I wanted to say that through my 9 years of caring, I have seen the difference that therapy can make. It isn’t about forgetting, it’s about understanding other peoples models of the world so that you can make sense of yours. Your hormones will also be having an impact of the way you feel and deal with things. You need to put your own oxygen mask on before you help others xx

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you so much Christine. Glad we can be kitchen twins 😉😂

@djmcno1 Год назад

lovely wee video .have you done a legoland trip. i was going to go but from scoland transport been a nightmare with strikes and wot not but i fancy a trip.keep up the good work.oh and i loved the kids doing the vlog for a change gave you a break lol x

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

We did Legoland in 2019 d=so there are vlogs if you go back, but we'd love to go again x

@jenniferdurham2412 Год назад

Love the kids mini vlogs

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

They are very entertaining aren't they 😂

@marielouise9126 Год назад

It’s definitely good to talk about things. I’m seeing a hypnotherapist regularly at the moment but it’s more therapy than hypnotherapy if I’m honest. I’m peri menopausal and my anxiety hit a peak this year. I stopped being able to fall asleep at the end of February, I was at my wits end. I didn’t know if it was peri menopause or PTSD. It also now turns out after I eventually had bloods taken that my iron levels are extremely low. I think it’s probably a mixture of everything but the therapy is helping and I’m also taking Mirtazapine which really helps too and I’m not embarrassed to say this. If pills help then so be it. I hope the therapy helps you too and totally understand about decluttering the mind.X

@MinimumViablePicnic Год назад

Ps: I'm also in therapy following a very difficult year with loss, and yes, actually a lot of the time is just spent on issues from the past that now are making life really difficult while I am under more pressure emotionally. In lots of ways I wish I had dealt with this stuff earlier and then when the difficult times came maybe I could have been in a better position to process stuff

@emmagrace7071 Год назад

Hey I miss your grocery hauls xxxx

@MumLifeAndMore Год назад

Me too! 🙋‍♀️

@HollieTeddyandRemyx Год назад

me three! Xx

@debbiestevens4382 Год назад

And me

@JJ-ur7rs Год назад

I have no idea why you would feel nervous about announcing having therapy. If anything it shows strength to realise you need help and finding that too. Hope it goes well for you ❤

@dadvgirlsloverxo1558 Год назад

No need to be worried about what people think about your life! I hope your OK and therapy is going OK!

@MinimumViablePicnic Год назад

Hi, I'm enjoying the podcast but still not finding it in my pocket cast app and not sure why. I don't really listen to any podcasts on RU-vid normally, always listen to them on pocket casts, even when the podcaster is actually a RU-vidr

@doodles3075 Год назад

Chessington would be a good one to try

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Haven't been there in ages!! Good idea x

@bevbarrett8537 Год назад

Hi I think therapy is brilliant I had cognitive behavioural therapy it was brilliant and work out lot’s of issues in my childhood go for it. It will help and sort out your head talking about it might and I hope it works for you sending love prayers and blessings to you all ❤x🙏

@karbear26 Год назад

I’m sorry your husband lost his mom that’s got to be really tough it s a hard season in life now getting older sadly means our parents are getting older too! Ugh how frustrating your surgery has to be pushed back because of Covid! I haven’t watch your other trip series will have to check it out I’ve been enjoying your Disney ones so much! I don’t think you saying you want to start therapy is something shocking. I think almost everyone could benefit from some sort therapy. I hope it helps you! I love your shop with me videos.

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

I agree, therapy would benefit everyone at some point I am sure x

@MinimumViablePicnic Год назад

A great video idea could be how to find and choose a therapist x

@paulawilson1924 Год назад

Sorry Daddy of 4 mum past away. Hope you are all coping well. Rhi it is your business if you go to therapy or not there is too many trolls on RU-vid that will say nasty things because they are sat at a computer but 99% of them wouldn’t say things to your face hope it all goes well and you get sorted for your sake ❤️💙❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

@michellehood4225 Год назад

Little tip with therapy, it can be hard and exhausting at the beginning, try sticking with it, it is worth it.

@jwb52z9 Год назад

In the US, it's called "spiral bound". I'm glad for you that you can get therapy. You have to spend a small fortune in the US to get a credible therapist in person. Unless you never go there, or it's literally the most boring store on Earth, I'd like to see the inside of an Iceland store. We don't have a whole store or shop like you have there in the UK like that which only sells frozen foods in the US. :)

@lottiecooke9262 Год назад

So beautiful

@madelovinglycrochet Год назад

I don’t even test for covid anymore

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

I had the op coming up so I thought I better had, thank goodness I did 😂

@gemmafarmer Год назад

Chessington

@faystalker9851 Год назад

Don't care about saying about mental health it's not help if gynecology it affects your mental health once you got sorted out I have had myself if you need help go for it has about covid get some multi vitamins it will prevent it take care

@melissagovier50 Год назад

Love your vlogs on disney and all the other stuff, but wasn't keen or didn't get the podcast video, I think your podcast could be separate to your other vlog and as a podcast you could involve others to chat with or too. Your chat vlogs work well, I just didn't get the podcast thing, it seemed like a different you with headphones on. And I found it boring, strange thing is I love all your other vlogs and watch them all. The podcast just wasn't for me. Keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍

@MummyofFourUK Год назад

Thank you for your feedback. It is a totally different format so maybe it does belong on another channel 🤔 It's really meant to be listened to not watched x