I've watched this a few times now and it just seems to unfold layers of complexity... as far as i can tell the girl mentions ages 4 and 12, he references 9 and 16, and i think they are 5 years apart and as he becomes an adult it corrupts the relationship and later in life she is fighting with him and causes the accident becoming in sense a murderer (sin) but also living on with his heart... Shakespearean lvl...
@ske1etor914 I understood it more to mean that the victim and the perpetrator have different perspectives and that at first she is driven to take revenge, dreams of it, but then, for whatever reason, she is ready to forgive and the typical reactions The perpetrators are, among other things, trying to project guilt onto the victim and reacting violently, which often triggers arguments. Thattakes away her chance to forgive what happened before she dies from such crap, just with her heart , triggers speculation as to whether there wasn't another victim whose heart he got...Then perhaps the pitiful sight would be a trigger for the desire to forgive him, and the different ages would then also be explained...Yes, a little confusing...
Correct, primarily Kovacs has now discussed her lines related to child sexual and emotional abuse she suffered and how long it took to come to terms with how “unacceptable” the fake love was. Purposely shaving head and wearing poor fitted clothes are very common in sexual abuse, the fear of the abuser leads many victims to want to look as “unattractive” as possible, it’s fucking horrible. In medical field common visual signs of possible abuse include those body image changes, along with poor hygiene lack of showering, lack of self care period. The selfishness and degeneracy of the abusers and the damage they caused will be seen in these children for so many years, often a lifetime. No punishment will ever be fair.
@@notatrollll I don't really know the complexities of Kovacs experiences. It is just that I feel much recognition. From my own experience I do know however that the devil is in the details, literally. Every case is different, all the similarities aside. You talk of punishment and I understand, but often it is not as simple as that. These experiences have layers and are embedded in circumstances, development and ensuing relationships. Don't get me wrong, I am not gaslighting or victim blaming, much more the opposite. It is just that for many victims the question of punishment comes last, after all the years of coming to terms with what has happened and the seeking understanding that is sometimes necessary for that, especially when it involves a trusted loved one. Like with the ownership of ones past, present and future and identity throughput, every victim is also entitled to his or her own righteous sense of punishment and (perp's)atonement.
@Ohne_Silikone I think for accepting, and please don't misunderstand me, it's not the case, that there is a reason to abuse some one, in whatever way they do, it doesn't matter, but there is in everything even It's cruel ,to learn something! Back to the things that I actually wanted to write... because I was gradually able to accept that he will get his punishment and that I am just putting myself on the same level as him I'm guilty of it myself, I can only get my hands dirty with dirt, so to speak, I was able to slowly work through the whole thing, castigate myself and look for the reason, the part of my own guilt, and leave it behind me. I can now tolerate someone standing behind me all the time and my whole body no longer tenses up while I sleep, I can even sleep without a wall behind me...Thanks to the years of patience and love of my husband, in whom I am fortunate to have trusted. I also told him about it, which was always something I had to deal with before... I sought professional help and I will always carry this wound, but now I see it differently and I know for myself no punishment I can think of, as cruel as the universe can be...He wanted to cut my throat, and has now lost both lower legs, is blind in one eye, and paralyzed up to his hips, so he is never again will any living being feel harm or pleasure...yet he killed a part of me that evening...and that's it, it's murder of the soul...
@@videreecrederecredereevidere hi, thank you for your comment. I am not sure whether I understand your first part or whether you understood mine as you wrote it. No offense meant, it is a difficult topic to write clearly about and English isn't my first language. However just to be clear, In no way I would say there is ever an excuse for abuse. All abuse needs validation, circumstances might be different, but the abuse itself is not. I really understand that in some cases there is a massive need or want for some kind of punishment and that is very well deserved. It is just not there for me and I often wondered about that. Does that mean my experiences were not real enough? Then I realised with me it is not in the seriousness of the things committed to me, not even in the self blame that seems imprinted in my core, but the forgiveness I feel is in the relationship I have with this person and his willingness to confront and recognize what had happened. In some way that makes it difficult because I kind of miss out on the anger to prop myself up on. On the other side I can forgo on fighting that black pit as well. What is left for me is some kind of sad emptiness so you will. I do understand your feelings, they are just not finding a resemblance in my own experiences.
@@videreecrederecredereevidere if you mean that for everything else negative you can at least learn from these experiences, then yes, you might be right. But the major thing I learned is how confusing my youth has been and how interwoven with feeling scared, lonely, unlovable, isolated and also loved and defensive and strong I could be. It is impossible to condense all those years of experiences to one stable monument on memory lane. So much had happened in those eight formative years and also afterwards as I just couldn’t understand. I try to learn from it to this date, but it still can be very elusive.
The Rammsteine may hate each other, but they are forced to stick together. Because everyone knows what was going on and one or the other was also involved. But don't worry, there is always someone with such gangs who comes to their senses in time and testifies. And the first to do that is a winner. Then it hits him a little more gently. Mitigating circumstances, reduced sentence, release or similar. Is there a leniency program for such cases? Rammstein is officially a band and unofficially a gang and a gang can also be counted as organized crime. And it was organized, as some perpetrators and victims have indicated.
@@annegretkasten6277 I assume so too. But it doesn't matter if one of the Rammsteine is convicted. After that, Rammstein will hardly succeed in abusing women for sexual purposes. That alone would be a success.
@@Zippythewondersquirrel Did Till Lindemann have a relationship with a 15-year-old? In her story, the 28-year-old tells how she had sex several times at the age of 15 with the almost 50-year-old Rammstein singer. According to the article, Lindemann is said to have entered into the sexual relationship in 2011 after meeting the girl on vacation. The then minor was the best Girlfriend of a band member's daughter. Research by "Spiegel" also shows that there were multiple visits to Lindemann's apartment and sexual intercourse during the vacation in question. The woman claims she was in love at the time and felt a desire to "grow up." She now told the "Spiegel" that he had given her hopes of staying by his side. More than 10 years later, however, she apparently admits that she could not have had an overview of her work at the time. She herself told the magazine, "I was way too young." She explains why she is now publishing the story with the realization that the sexual relationship with Lindemann harmed her then and in the long term. She's also upset that the band is acting like nothing happened after multiple abuse allegations surfaced over the past month.
