5:40 “I do not want to be a boy, but I want to be treated like one” perfectly sums up my feelings growing up. My mum used to ask me if I wanted to be a boy and this would’ve been the perfect reply if I had had the words...
Yep. I didn't always want that - I really wanted long hair, and I hated almost any team sport that involved a ball - but I hated dresses and thought dolls were boring (until I got old enough to realize that Barbies can be used as action figures!) I wanted more than anything to play hockey, and was one of the fastest, most agile skaters at our local ice rink, but no...girls were not allowed to do that. It was too dangerous. Nevermind that the girls' sport "equivalent" - broomball - was played running around on the ice in tennis shoes! No thanks. I don't think of myself as nonbinary, although I have to wonder if I might have at least entertained the notion, had I grown up a few decades later, but I am absolutely sympathetic. People should be allowed to be who they are.
In my highschool band, we had different uniforms for guys and gals. My band director ALWAYS let us choose which uniform we wanted to wear. I appreciate how accepting my school was regarding gender expression.
@@codascheuer8426 I’m sorry man I’m a Demi-girl but omg there is a gender called like “a faint sparkly gender” seriously man it’s like they’re mocking us
Also even if people aren't trying to express a gender - some women just want to wear pants because they are comfortable. Remember Poke'mon taught us "shorts are comfy and easy to wear" and I think schools should be more flexible in what people wear.
Thank you for being so open and honest. I'm in my 40s and want to address ppl as they want to be addressed and treated but I am as not as educated as I would like to be. I'm doing my best to educate myself and without brave ppl like you, I'd be lost. Thank you
It's like They talk about my journey being genderfluid, i could be there on the stage and tell exactly the same story. It's awesome that people like you stand up and tell the world. I show this and other videos on this channel to people that don't understand and educate them.
Why does the gender of someone matter to you so much? And it shouldn't matter what gender they are, because we should have a nice and respectful comment section either way.
@@piercegravenstine3183 Thank you for this. During the past few days I’m realizing I’m non binary and don’t feel comfortable with they/them, but with she/her. Your comment means a lot to me. 🙂
When they talked about their childhood and they used to say "I don't want to be a boy but I want to be treated like one" reminded me of when I was a kid and I was bullied, back then I used to say "I want to be a boy so I don't have to act all nice like a girl and could just punch my bullies" XD
may not get it, but all i want is for humans to be happy and themselves. if i do something that makes me feel as though i am genuinely being myself, i think that should be accepted. if ur not hurting anyone else and you’re authentically happy as much as possible, who cares. If u do care, take a deep look at ur life and actions and if u are really staying true to your intuition and soul. I have the utmost respect for anyone trying to make progression and create the greatest satisfactory, enjoyable life.
I said gender bender this morning and my friend said ‘I thought you said gender bueno’ and I heard ‘I thought you said gender piranha’ so I’m now a gender piranha
I'm a woman who likes mostly feminine things. I found it really frustrating to have to wear a skirt or dress at school. You just can't move or play with the same freedom. Pants are just better clothes and should be available to everyone.
The bio uses she/her pronouns on a video that is about how they are non binary. I know the video is old, but you should still fix it. Edit: With a quick google, you can actually see that Jesse uses she/her pronouns.
i wasn't obviously enby as a young child and when i began to feel dysphoric i just didn't tell anyone. id learned as a kid if i had a problem it wouldn't be taken seriously so i never bothered to tell anyone. so when i came out no one believed me :(
Military brats learn to not stress over social things because they move so often, you have to get new friends every year or two or three. I was shy, so I had classmates and 1 friends in elementary school, 5 friends in 8th grade, classmates but not friends in high school, 1 husband for 6 years, 1 friend in my 30s who I saw for a year. I had roommates for 4 years, but none of them became close. I pretty much learned that lonliness was my life. I contrast that with your experience, very different. I wonder if you had been a military brat if you would not have tried to commit suicide, which is very sad. I'm glad you survived. It's funny how you can't see beyond the present when you're young. And also when you're old, unfortunately 🙄 I haven't had a friend in 35 years, except for my mom, who passed away. I socialize a lot at work, but only have 1 person's phone number. I don't have phone numbers of any friends, just a few relatives are left. Books were my friends.
Uhm I see people in the comments saying that they used she/her. You do know that non binary people can use he/she pronouns or any pronouns they want you to address them? I'm non binary and I prefer they/she. Please educate yourself.
I have yet to meet people who are curious enough to even give people like this speaker a second thought. I think it’s in your head… Most people don’t care.
@@justinholsinger5714 yes, sexologists, psychologists, psychiatrists, and biologists agree with non-binary genders based off studies on the human brain.
You can politely ask, how do you prefer to be addressed? My mom asked me this last week (I recently came out gender fluid), and it was the most awesome thing. Wish more people would ask, and like Jesse said, then we could go on with our day.
People asking her if she's a boy or a girl might of had hearing issues. This video started playing whilst I was busy and I instantly knew it was a womens voice. It's sad to see how that constant homophobia and toxic femine culture has made her uncomfortable with her womanhood.
You can act and feel how you want. Don't expect others to pretend with you. Gender isn't a continuum but conduct is. The problem is that people can't come to terms with who they actually are.
What would you do if everybody referred to you exclusively as the gender you don't identify as? If you're a male what if everybody said you were a girl, and when you tried to correct them they say you're just confused.
@@ifckinglovesourcream5615 There is in fact such a thing as identifying as male or female, gender identity is separate from biology. Separate. So yes you may outwardly look like a male or female depending on your birth gender, but you may not feel that you strongly match that biological gender in terms of your interests or preference in clothing or style. Gender isn’t always you wholly identifying as male or female, you can feel stronger one way or the other without it being exclusive to two labels
It seems like this person is talking about gender norms aka gender non-comformity and not gender such as non-binary. This person seems to be uncomfortable with the gender norms and how this person presents in contrast to that vs gender which is who you internally are. It seems to be that this person is non-comforming and not non-binary.
@A. M. We can't know, and those definitions aren't crystal clear, but I do think that instead of trying to wrestle people into boxs you can just ask politely what they identify as and respect it.
Hmm. You can feel or act any way you want in our society. Dress in any way you want, be attractive to whoever you want. Identify yourself with who or whatever you want. However, there are only two genders and you are bound to be one or the other.
In the Holy Bible God said let us make Man in our own image Male and Female. God is Light and there no darkness in Him. Jesus said I am the way and the Truth and the life no man comes to the Father but by me. Jesus said To enter the Kingdom of God you must be Born again, Flesh gives birth to flesh and Spirit gives birth to spirit..
It amounts to asking what genitals you have so yeah, it's pretty weird. Also it implies the asker wants to know which gender roles to pigeonhole you into. A friendlier way to ask about someone's gender would be just to ask their pronouns, and share yours if you feel comfortable doing that.
Why do you need to know, sam? There's a lot of grey area in between. Do you want to know so that you know what pronouns to use? Non-binary people like myself do not identify with male or female pronouns... I prefer they/them, as many non-binary people do. Perhaps a better question would be, "which pronouns do you prefer?" Or... more polite still, "How should I refer to you after you leave?" Those would be a better way to ask if you're just concerned that you refer to them in the right context.
@A M. Ok, so, I am non-binary and I have seen so many people actually do this and I honestly couldn't disagree with it more. Not all people in a group think the same. Women can be masculine and still be women and men can be feminine and still be men, it's not about what interests they have but about their sense of self. If a person who is assigned female at birth feels that they are non binary, then that's what they are even if they decide to wear more feminine or more masculine clothing and the same goes for any other trans person. Just wanted to clarify that.
@@tomsweder7459 a nonbinrary? So that is that ? When r born u r either a boy or girl u don't wake up and say I'm going to be a boy or girl today get real in the real world when u r done playing make believe and get a job people will say do the job or go home or find a new job sorry I will never use pronouns to address someone.
Well presented; however, this is one I simply do not understand; gender-neutral/X/non-binary is self-proclamation and not a physical condition. I am all for people identifying themselves as whatever pronoun to which they feel aligned; however, people are in fact either male or female.
Or intersex. You don't 'identify' as intersex. You are born it. Also, female/male and woman/man aren't the same thing. I'm female, down to the last detail, but I'm not a woman.
Tom W it doesn’t have to be a physical condition for it to be a thing. For example, people with autism are in fact autistic. Just because you can’t tell that by looking at their body, doesn’t mean it’s not a part of them. What goes on in your head is the true indicator of who you are, and your physical appearance is (at best) a mere reflection of that.
Tom W identifying with a gender different from the one given to you at birth is how we try to make this reflection match who we are inside. People can’t simply be male or female, every individual person is a complex being who is unable to be an exact copy of someone else.
Wahvwah i wanted to be a boy so despite my plumbing... Give us a break i don't really care what you are.... I just want my food served etc. What I think inside is just that. Grow up and stop making us wrong.
Why can't she just look like that and do what she likes and still be a woman? Women can be androgynous alright. The problem is that she is clearly ashamed to be called a woman because our society still oppresses women and treats them like second class citizens. Internalized misogyny right there and it's very sad.
That's sort of my opinion too. I think women grow up with very negative media about ourselves and creative/different/intelligent ones feel they buck the trend and the stereotypes...therefore they must be an alien or excluded from this limiting labels.
There are infinite possibilities for gender identity. You seem afraid of it. I’m sorry you cannot fathom a world that is beyond the one that was crafted with the label “reality”. Everything is relative and until you understand that, you’ll be trapped in a world that is limited and confined by dualities. The world is so much more than that and it’s colorful and beautiful and I hope you choose to understand it more. It’s worth it, I promise.
Let's just agree that physical gender is 2, but mental gender is more fluid and sits on a spectrum. Not all men are macho alphas. Not all women are submissive princesses. Mental gender varies on how the individual feels. Thier identity counts.
@@ioannisdenton of course psychology is a science. It's a science of how the brain works and operates. You have biology, chemistry and physics of which all apply to how a brain operates.
Here is an 💡!! Do you have a uterus? If you do you are a female. End of story. I have been waiting for answers from here for months. This talk is crazy!
As if you know anything about the female anatomy, Justin Holsinger. You know you've never had a girlfriend in your whole life. C'mon, you know it's truuuueeee! C'mon man!
@@MsJosie121 I am a happy married man with children. I haven't received any feed back with an open mind to this. I am sorry you took what I said so personally. To insult me instead of proofing anything does not change my mind. I hope you can understand that.
