You're the best you tuber. Your content is so valuable to us listeners. I click so fast when you release a new chat. If not I'm still going back on old content of yours. I love it all. ! You're a bloody legend. Side note ..I love the presence of your furbaby behind you 😊😊❤
I know what I need to do to recover, but consistently self-sabotage myself by "trying" to gain weight whilst actually sub-consciously still controlling and restricting in increasingly creative ways. I feel like I need to go "all in" and commit - almost like jumping into a swimming pool when you are dry and fearing the cold. Once your head is under the water, you realise its not that bad and you can stay in for a swim. Is this similar for ED recovery? Once someone commits, genuinely eats free and without restriction, does maintaining that become a little easier over days and weeks? And if so, how do you get someone to take the initial plunge? I don't feel like I'm brave enough to actually do it - even though I know it is my life, my responsibility and only me that can take action.
Such a good point! I still don’t want to gain weight but I know it is necessary to get better. So I accept it has to happen and one can’t happen without the other. I know it’s an instinctive, irrational fear and that actions will have more impact than trying to use rational argument. Thank you Tabitha for all your videos. You have really opened my eyes about my own eating disorder and I’m so much more aware because of you. 🌟
I love your videos; you're the perfect mix of fierce,upfront,smart,funny. Everytime I hear a nutritionist or e.d specialist mentioning your work I go:"Yassss kqueennnnn. Go Tabs!." Anyway, had to vent that pride on here💕💖🦋🐩🇩🇴🌹😩🫥🫠🙃😬🥺Love you Tabs
Happy that you're still making videos! You were one of the most important factors to my recovery, had answers to all of my questions and made me feel sure about recovery being the right choice. If somebody wants her book, comment and I'll send it to you! Don't need it since I am now fully recovered. You would only have to pay for shipping.
I feel like I want to gain weight... I look terrible now (underweight and scrawny) and I would look so much better at a higher weight. I know I would certainly physically FEEL a lot better and healthier too. Most of my ED thoughts are not weight related... and my ED voice is getting louder but still the weight/body part I hardly think of. Orthorexia? Habit? What is that about...
It's still anorexia. The answer is always to eat. You can NEVER go wrong eating food. I never really believed that before. Now I treat anorexia like it's a physical illness, and that food is my medicine. It's really worth getting better. Life becomes really sweet. Please get better. You are totally worth it. ❤
I have the exactly problem and i need tô understand. I hate my skinny body. Is ugly and people look at me everytime. I hate this. But i am also living with fear.
im about 8 months into recovery and i’ve completely weight restored, eating is fine and i actually enjoy it to some extent. But I just feel so empty without mg illness. i have nothing to do with my time (with not running all the time anymore), and i feel like my greatest accomplishment was almost killing myself. i know its wrong, but i feel like relapsing so bad just to have some purpose for my life. does anyone else feel this way + any tips/ help
Allow yourself to try new things. Remember or ask people what it was you loved doing before your ED. I have felt similar in the past where I feel like I was actually more driven and interesting during my ED because it was like I was so busy having all these things in my life so I didn't have to slow down and see my illness and all the control issues related to it. Now I have more free time because that same energy (false sense of energy) I had was poured into anything just to escape. Now I know what my problem is and I have to work on getting out of it so that I can truly open up to life and allow myself to find genuine passion
I irrationally think that I won’t be able to increase my calories consistently,that I will maintain with a very low amount but I wish that I need more actually..it’s like I don’t get that you are allowed to eat with a normal weight….the justification I feel just with being severely underweight.
You are totally deserving of food at ANY WEIGHT, ANY BODY SIZE. You wouldn't starve a baby. And yet we starve ourselves. I'm in a what people call a larger body size. And now I eat and eat and eat. Things have gotton so much better for me now. I hope you'll get better soon. 💕💗💕
That’s so kind thank you. Rationally I know I need food at any size but the pleasure of eating is almost too nice for me so I think I need to really suffer before … Do you think it is a matter of Habit..getting used to it? You have such a beautiful name by the way.@@AnnabellaRedwood
Sooo once you are willing ...how do you push past to force yourself to act opposite of the ed ? Can there be a part 2? How have some of your clients done it ? Any tangible things that have helped ? Especially if you live alone and are older....no support or help ...
Hey Dana! I know I'm not Tabitha, but I followed her and had about two 30 min appointments with her when I went through my own ED recovery in 2018. *Just to note: Recovery is TOTALLY POSSIBLE and I love my life and how much more equipped and capable I am after all the things recovery taught me* Tabitha's writings, podcasts, and videos helped me tremendously. I recommend listening to her podcast, getting her book, and watching videos. Those, for me, were the gas I needed to KEEP GOING. But the main message that I got from Tabs was "If you want to beat your ED, you MUST face your fears in every instance consciously possible!" And it sounds like you are working on this! WOOHOOOOO! I also went the opposite of my ED by curating my whole media input to be pro-recovery. Unfollow people who make you feel like shit, follow body-positive and REAL recovery-positive people on RU-vid, Facebook, and Instagram. Join Facebook groups of REAL recovery folks. The people that helped me (and you may need to go back a few years to view the content I consumed) were Tabitha, Caroline Dooner (The F*ck it Diet), Elisa Oras (Follow the Intuition), Megsy's Recovery, Megan Crabbe, and Christy Harrison. I was always listening to podcasts, reading their books, or watching their videos. Girl, it wasn't easy, but I am so grateful I did it. The more hardcore you are in your recovery (facing fears ALL THE TIME) the faster you will come out the other side. Just know, that if you are scared and uncomfortable at meals/snacks/more snacks, you're doing it right. You're super brave for even listening to Tabs, so I know you will have the bravery to keep going! Wishing you all the best!
I got myself a dietician, and my dietician was able to tell the Dr I was seeing at the time. I was already doing counselling. I starved myself for four long years. It was hell. I made a choice to go carnivore. I'm not telling you have to go carnivore or anything like that. What's most important is that you start eating. Your beautiful heart suffers from all the damage you do restricting. At least my heart got sick. I have watched my old dietician Shane Jeffrey on RU-vid, and on podcasts. I signed up for peer support - it's really helped me. I just want to send hugs and encourage you to get better. Because you are totally worth that and deserving. ❤💗💕
@@AnnabellaRedwood you are so very sweet ! Thank you with all my heart! I want to recover so badly ....so so much! I'm lost and scared and alone ....so thank you for taking the time to write something in reply! 🙏❤️
