Indeed, my mother favoured my older sister, she used to treat me just as toxicly and badly until I got older and I started ignoring both of them. They acted nicely to have a good image, but I know how they really are so I don't give them the energy or the time anymore. They both hated me and were jealous of the relatioship I had better with my father.
@@missstranger7697 I'm glad you got wise to it and don't let them waste your time now. I don't either, but, I wish I had done it like twenty years or so earlier. But it is what it is. We are awake now.
My brother is definitely a narcissist... My mother's favorite. He can do nothing wrong. He doesn't work, he bullies me, he gives me the silent treatment, he constantly criticisms me. I notice when others insult me or demean me, he loves it, he gets a smirk on his face. It's really difficult to have him as a brother
I can relate, but for me, it's a younger sister. She doesn't work either, and she's in her 40s. She still lives with my mother. My parents are divorced. I believe my mom and sister are both covert narcissists, but I'm sure they'll never get properly diagnosed. I can't imagine what it must be like living in that house together. As for your brother, you have a right to be treated well by him and others, too. It's OK not to accept his bullying. Continue to learn about narcissism and setting boundaries and what that would look like for your situation. Peace and safety to you...
Both parents and my sister and my brother are Narcissists. I am the middle child, the Scapegoat and Empath. I was the “ cinderella” in my family. It was terrible growing up in that dysfunctional family. But by the grace of God, I made it out of there with a sound and healed mind, body and soul.🙏🏽🕊✝️ I pray for all those who are going through troubles in their family life with narcissists.
Mw too. I had narc dad and weak mother who enwbled my older sister to bully me. My younger bro was spoilt. My younger suster died. I was the one closest to her yet they hated on me
Thank you for your prayers. It’s truly difficult-they slander your good name, steal from you, alienate you from other family and extended family-try to drive you to suicide.
Indeed. Once you decide to have a family with many children you will have to endure the conflicts. Otherwise you can only have one child and raise it peacefully.
Unbelievable how easily it turns everything back at you like I'm the crazy one. Let's not forget how they're always the victim no matter what the situation is...
Same here. It hurts so bad. The people that are meant to support, love and encourage you are the ones bring you down. My own brother put he's hands on me and only a few days ago he threatened to do so again. I cut off my parents and it's sad to cut off my own brother. He's so entitled and thinks he's better then me. But I service a living God he will not leave me nor forsake me. Pls pray for me.
So true... My sister is the one. My parents always validated her wrong behaviour and gaslighting. When I was young, I used to feel something was not right, but only now I understood what it really is. Therefore, I ended up with the wrong person as a spouse, too.
That’s with my mother always gaslighting her behavior any time I tell my mother about my older brother actions she gaslights it all together an she doesn’t let me explain shit she changes the subject an I said ok ima have to block both you guys it’s every man for themselves in this life
In all honesty i couldnt agree more I put up with a older brother who hand got chopped off my parents treated him like god He decided to abuse me which had huge impact in life untill i blocked him all platforms and xut him That was the best thing in my life
Lol same. I am still the scapegoat but only difference is I have studied in and out of narcissism and narc family trends. So I keep up. They aren't smart though they keep things very primitive. Like monkeys.
I’ve found it best to limit contact. The less I deal w narcissistic family members (or antisocial enabling family members) or coworkers, I stay happy & mentally and emotionally healthy!!!
I can relate but it’s really difficult. My sister and father are both very narcissistic. I’ve been labeled the problem child. I get shamed for expressing any sort of distress or negative emotions. My sister is always inserting herself into arguements I have with my father, and just says “you’re wrong”. The feeling of having your reality denied, when you try to tell your family how their behavior affects you, for so many years, is very heartbreaking. On one hand, I know I should go with as little contact as possible, but my father is getting old. I know they aren’t gonna change but deep down I just keep begging for more love. I want to resolve this with them before it’s too late. I just want to feel safe.. Love to all who go through similar things ❤️
@@kingchefmurray557 that’s the point! If you want to REMAIN disrespected, continue contact w your narcissist family. They are EMPTY shell people incapable of unconditional love or self reflection! So you love being unrecognized as a good person w a wonderful personality of giving and helping people who VALUE you….you will NEVER receive what you deserve in acknowledging your kindness, true love and caring from narcissists. NEVER. Limited or no contact, unfortunately, protects you and your giving loving spirit from your broken disrespectful narcissistic family members.
Mine too! She's a ex junkie so its even worse. I can't even confront her about something soo small like taking the bins out she gives me silent treatment. I like to conversate the nxt day because I see that she gets mad lol I laugh inside. Ive never hated someone soo much ever in my life as much as I hate her. I wouldn't cry a year if she died tomorrow. I wouldn't even go to her funeral.
My mother groomed my brother into another version of herself. He used to say things that made me sick, just like she did with the same pompous, haughty tone. She brilliantly decieved me in will and secretly deeded property to him. I am not a black sheep. I am very successful, outgoing, and happy. My brother acts like he is shy and mild mannered, but i know what a raging sociopath he is. I am 6 months nc now.
This is very similar to my family-of-origin situation.My cold and haughty cruel, emotionally abusive mother groomed my older brother to be her cruel disgusting mini-me. While I was recovering from nearly dying in a fire, my brother illegally violated my storage unit, loaded my 45 plus years of possessions into a U-Haul truck, and proceeded to empty the entire contents onto the front lawn of that nursing home. What a scene-everyone who could came out to see this display of cruelty-many were crying .After recovery I moved far away -that was 20 years ago. Get out and away as soon as you can folks! Better late than never.
They don’t abuse me but my mom uses my older brother as like a mini her that tries to control everything I do it’s like she raised him to be her minion
Same here my brother real nature isn’t known to my friends he acts shy and timid but he’s a narcissist he’s obsessed with controlling peoples behavior he needs to alwsys control people an he even down plays my entire thought process very disrespectful dude I had to block him cause he called me arguing that I didn’t call my mom my mom is the one who grooms his bad behavior I said when did I not call her said I was there I said what day was this an he got mad at me questioning his behavior an he rasied his voice an I banged the phone on that guy
After a lifetime of abuse, I finally cut off my widowed covert narcissist mother and my older sister, her mini-me, who has returned home to care for mother. Without me to torment, they shall now attack and destroy each other and I must admit that I look forward to it.
I’m just going no contact after 52 years of narcissistic parent and sister. It’s devastating right now, but not as devastating as staying in this toxic family any longer 🙏
Fourth years ago I walked away from a narcissistic household, including my own sister. I was nineteen years old when I made that adult decision. As God is my witness, it’s the best decision that i could have made. Their toxic tentacles would have strangled and destroyed any and all opportunities to living a fulfilling & happy life. A bit of advise if I may be so bold? Write down all of your reasons for making this difficult decision and realize that by removing toxicity from your daily life opens up the door to a self respect and peace that isn’t possible otherwise. I wish you the best. 💗🇨🇦💗
@@doracotterell2863 thank you 🙏 for your kindness and taking the time to reply , I really appreciate it . I will do that today . Well done you for being able to make this choice so early on in your life. You are going to have a good life 🙏 full of joy and love ❤️ I am late to the party , but once I’ve licked my wounds , I’m going to live the rest of my life in peace ☮️ and tranquility . Sending blessings and love 🙏
At first I simply dismissed it as the last born vs first born phenomena, because as the first born I have been conditioned to accept the tough love treatment I received all my life, but when my sister began to blatantly get away with behavior I could never even dream of, and everyone jumped to her defence, I realized that I am the scapegoat in a narcissistic family setting. I'm learning how to deal with it, and taking steps to love certain people at a distance.
OMG! Me too! I almost thought I wrote this comment! Is THAT what happened? I’m the oldest and my sister was always treated like a princess while I paved the way! I went in through college and have an advanced degree, but they married money, and have joined forces against me!
same im 24 latino man with narcissistic latino mother and step father and my little sister who is like 2-3 years younger than me and btw my other youngest of the family Sister acts like her too but isnt a complete copy of her yet im assuming and also hoping she doesnt turn out that way (shes like 16) but my oldest sister talks and acts like my narcissist mother;shes becoming more n more like her each and every way ;day by day mom and her become more alike it scares me and my mother is using her as a minion/puppet so its like i have two mothers in this house watching my every got dayum move.they became a duo against me and i don’t doubt my other youngest sister (who is most spoiled) is in on it too shes the most spoiled but my oldest sister was once living on her own with her man and now she lives with our parents again like me and she also has a son(my nephew)(love that boy) which might be another reason why i believe she wanted her to live with us ; so she could also use her against me by using my older sister as a minion to have control over us.also whats also more fouled up is my step siblings dont even want to live here which is sad because i truly kinda miss them around mainly my two older step brother and younger step brother.they also have a younger sister whom ive never been close to but i mainly feel like thats because of my mother even though she acts like she likes her but in due time mom eventually always say something negative to say about her and not just her but all my step fathers kids.i see beyond their bs and i realize more every how corrupt and narcissistic they are to us. 😕😐🫤😑
Narc mom due to her narc dad's abuse. Narc bro, both nit-picked me almost everyday of my life. My bro went as far as making up lies & gossip bout me. In growing from a child to teen, adolescent up to a 55 yr old woman, I experienced narcs in every damn single area of my life on every age. But being a strong empath, earthangel & healer, having unconditional love, I noticed later in life how many people are intimidated, triggered, jealous or are just afraid & back away from me sensing the un- extinguishable light of God in me & on me. They may not all know exactly what it is, but those with dark attachments & those who make bad choices in life, causing destruction & strife receive conviction. This is my life & I embrace the love & discernment God has given me, in Jesus name, AMEN & AMEN !
That fucking power to absolutely run a freight train through potential abusers, that abusers recognise and then simply back away from. That's one of the things that makes me feel good at 30. If I can't be free from abusers I will sure as shit fuck them up and see them off, long before I am even aware that they are testing my boundaries.
I didn't realize it until yesterday, but I am the scapegoat and my two younger sisters are the flying monkeys/minions. It would flip flop and I couldn't figure out which one it was, it'd go in circles around and around, but I'd hear my mother's words out of their mouths and it just doesn't make sense what they say. The bullying, and I'm 40 now. I've been in therapy off and on for so long now. But today it dawned on me to link them to my mom. I thought of them as separate .. But it trickles down, they're a trio. That's why cutting one off didn't solve the issue. Idk how I didn't see it before
You’re beginning to realize-it’s an enmeshed system.You have to leave all of it -I know, it’s not easy, it’s soooo hard but it’s the only way .Your mom emotionally abused you and taught her golden child/children to do the exact same. It’s not you my dear, it IS THEM
I was blessed to have a wonderful mother. My narcissistic sibling was that on her own. My mom would say when I became an adult that "my sibling thought they should be born in the Kennedy & mad they werent". My narc sibling was just b born that way. Nothing was ever good enough. I learned no matter what lies the narc says to stay silent. I grew up & got away. 20 years went by & we had to interact bcuz of a sick aunt. 20 years later & still the same person. No growth. I had changed 100%. Every time they tried the gas lighting I just said "I know you, but you do not know me anymore". Maturity has passed them by. 100% same person after 20 years. Like I couldn't see them coming. The aunt died & I shut the door again. The narc still is trying to interact.
Sorry but kids don’t just become narcs someone in her life influenced this makes me wonder if your the golden child because these same dynamics run in my family all our parents are narcs and all of them including my siblings have always made me the problem
Wow! My brother is like that too! It's over 20 years ago and still not moved on. Now after our mother died at almost 90 yo., he tells me (at a funeral) our mother was murdered.🤭😒 Crazy monkeys coming. He has not matured. Doesn't understand hospice care and she was in a retirement facility. It's going to be his issue along with the others for the rest of his life. I'm just glad I won't see him only at funerals.
@@wakeupalready2099 not necessarily. There are children of dysfunctional but not narcissistic parents that grow up NPD. They’re usually born without empathy, a difficult temperament and exhibit signs of selfishness and entitlement beyond that of a normal child. My brother was born this way and started smear campaigns and framing me when I was 4 and he was 6. My mother has narcissistic characteristics though and was also very abusive to me, the highly sensitive, hyper empathetic scapegoat. Empathy is something we’re born with or not. I think my brothers amygdala and hippocampus was underdeveloped when he was born a week early but I’ll never know for sure.
Oh yeah!!! I'm number 12 of my siblings and I became the scapegoat/blacksheep and they hates me for years... I have broken away from their using clutches and now they smear me every chance they get, but I don't care anymore... I am FREE!
That’s what they do-slander you and try to destroy your good character. This appears to be very very common with the golden child little bitch sibling.Get far away-it’s the only way to “win”..live a peaceful life with carefully chosen people in it. Seems Narcissistic Personality abuse is rampant
YES, I had a narc "sister". I never knew what was really so worthful about her. The whole sh*t "family" was functioning barely on my expence. The golden child sister controlled EVERYTHING all of them were allowed to say or to give me. I must thank her for all the treatment I became as a scapegoat. Thank You!!:))!!👍😊💯%!!🌺💐💎🌈⚓!!
my youngest brother & my "mother",he's pushing 30 YRS.OLD yet can absolutelyNO WRONG in her eyes! He's currently incarcerated so when he calls if the household is asleep,she'll wake everyone up even my kids just to say hi to him or make phone calls for him & his "friends"
I have an extremely narcissistic sister. She recently inadvertently confessed to stealing a great deal of my share of money from my mother’s estate. I blocked her number and we shall never speak again. She’s done nothing but try to destroy me along with my pervert father all of my life. I wish it hadn’t waited so long to go no contact. Thanks for this video. This is my family in a nutshell.
Me too. Older sister like narc sad and weak mother. Shes got million pounds farm house. I have nothibg and had abuse from them and my ex husband who they still saw.
You sound just like me! Survived a pervert father too. My narc mother failed to protect me as a child and teenager.Created my little bitch of a brother, David-he took everything after her death.Still not satisfied, he tried to destroy me-stole everything I owned.I moved far away..getting a protection order. I wish you sanity and safety my friend
Blocked my brother don’t put up with abuse from nobody my mother doesn’t respect me at all she lets my older brother disrespect me an when I tell her she ignores it an she also is the reason he’s a narcissist so he called me arguing about me calling our mom an I blocked him he has no right to demand me to call my mother on my phone this is My phone that I pay for he’s very disrespectful to even do that I never called him telling me what to do with his own phone
@@salma74250 I really don't know, I can say for myself. As I am a student of philosophy, I developed conscientiousness and also self awareness to some extent. And people do realise that they are being treated differently sooner rather than later, and the knife cuts deep if it's their own family who treated them differently, it's just a matter of time. I don't know if narcissistic behaviour is linked with highlighted self awareness or increase in brain IQ to behave manipulatively. It can be, but I am not qualified on it to say that.
@@antihero69420 Narcissists are not necessarily more intelligent by any stretch. They're simply cunning, and good people can be cunning too, they just dont use that trait in destructive ways narcissists do. Part of healing narcissism is humbling yourself to admit that and not look for the positives in it.
My older sister would do everything to me, (physical/verbal/emotional abuse), to the point I had thought about ending my life multiple times throughout my life. I cut contact with her, but because I still live with my mom, I have to see her at family holidays. She now has a kid and one on the way and I feel SO bad for them. Honestly just hearing about how well she's doing from my mom pisses me off. My mom, who KNEW that she was bullying me and just brushed it off as 'sibling spat'. I am trying to move out and cut contact with my mom too.
My sister was horrible growing up and abused me into my 30s. My whole family took and still takes her side. Anything great that happens to her pisses me off!
Or you can limit content with your mom and keep conversation about her so she wouldn't talk about her"your sister" , after that contact give yourself a price see a movie or have a me time anything you like just don't engage in self-sabatoging behaviors
This is exactly the case In my family right now. My middle sister is a horrible person. My mom knows how bad she treats us but does nothing because my mom herself is one.
Hi, my brothers a narcissist, and i’ve been dealing with to all my life. For to long i’ve been under thumb of a narcissistic household, a mini narcissist brother projecting the aforementioned you described So tldr, my brother if anything exemplifies the petulant man child archtype through and through; materialistic, no ambition, no maturity & no self dependence. I have always been the scoagoat & working on cutting them out.
Yes ! Just looked at all the pictures taken at Christmas by Narc brother, it’s as though I wasn’t there. Everyone else in the pictures including other siblings. How sick is this ???
YES!!! Narcissistic older sister here!🤚 She became a version of my mother by being overprotective, sometimes judgemental, but the difference was that she wasn't sabotaging my life as much as my mother did, nor being disrespectfull to my boundaries as much as my mother used to be. She was the golden child and I was the scapegoat.
Yes, my mother chose her oldest child as her favorite. I was known as "small slave" as a child (oh, it was a joke, right?) and that was my role in the family until I got away. Mother then got a new Golden Child to groom and lavish with anything she wanted. This was her first grandchild. And there was one more to sneer at me. It was hopeless. I ran awa from this family 20years ago. I have almost been able to stop looking over my shoulder for their reappearance. So far I've been ignored.
It ruined my whole life. My brother was rejected, shamed and blamed to death RIP. I just went NC at 60 years old it's a long story, I didn't know my mother was a narcissist but the golden child is the worst!!! I can't believe my entire life was under her fog it makes me so sad.
Wow I was raised by a narcissist and I was the little narcissist and my sister was the scapegoat these videos really open your eyes to things you don't realize
My sisters saw how I was treated (I'm scapegoat). And decided to follow what my parents were doing. They would cause a mess in the house and blame me. My parents of course didn't believe me but believed my sisters so I was punished. This became a regular thing they to me and a source of immense pain for me. I was screamed at my dad because of what my sisters were doing. My dad who had in his not-so-intelligent head (yes, I am bitter) that I was lying. I was 4 or 5. I didn't even begin to know my own thoughts at that age, much less plot lies (but any human who has capacity to think would know that, one would think). But no. Not him. So I was the "bad kid" the "difficult one" and was never believed or heard when I tried to defend myself. I was invalided so deeply that I literally thought I wasn't real at times. I was 4 or 5 and having multiple existential crisis. Still, I think I was lucky to be the scapegoat, at least I broke their stupid mold and didn't treat my kids like that, and have a mind of my own.
I was this narcissistic sibling. Many years later after I realized what I had done to my sibling and tried to repair it, it was too Late. My narcissistic set my sibling and i to have a fractured broken relationship with each other
@gracelee Bless you for your self awareness and attempt for reconciliation, that is the evil of narcissistic parents. They don't care that they are irreparably destroying the lifelong bond between siblings by pitting us against each other like dogs in a dog fight. Just heartbreaking 💔. At least you saw the situation for what it was and the role you were assigned and tried to fix things. Sometimes all you can do is grieve what is forever lost and move on best you can and wish peace and serenity for your sibling. You were a victim too. The way that a puppy gets trained to be an attack dog to suit the owner's needs and rip apart other dogs to shreds. You were also abused as the narcissistic golden child. There is no winning in these families whether you're the scapegoat blacksheep or the narc golden child. There's only sadness and heartbreak masqued by fake happy family photos.
You may have been the golden child but I doubt you were a narcissist. Narcissists don’t have empathy and it takes empathy to realize your mistake and try to change it. During your golden child days, you may have had some narcissistic behaviors but that’s because your parent or parents groomed you for that role. You didn’t have a choice when you were chosen as the golden child and as children, surviving is what we all try to do. Me, I was the scapegoat and to survive, I dissociated and became a people pleasing chameleon with a constantly changing personality until later when I used substances and alcohol to escape my emotional pain. My brother is a complete vulnerable narcissist and he will never change, let alone realizing his mistakes. Plus, later on in life is when it gets harder and harder for narcissists to make any positive changes. After the brain finishes developing, it’s pretty near impossible for a narcissist to change.
This is exactly what happened to me with my mother and younger sister; I'm not sure I've ever heard it more clearly stated. I was the scapegoat. They would also totally gang up on me and tell my father I had done things I had not done so that he would punish me unknowingly. He and I have figured this out and repaired our relationship, realizing that he was being lied to, but that was painful to go through. Today, I've been No Contact for nearly two decades from my mother and sister; my dad is more at a level of Grey Rock, but that has to do with legal/divorce issues for the most part at this point. He and I are enjoying living a happy life now as father and daughter, but it took a lot of work to get here.
I was the mini narcissist flying monkey for Mother Superior and railed on my scapegoat brother for underperforming in life; in fact, I did that to anyone who I saw was underperforming and didn’t fit the family mold of success and power. I did this to two brothers who didn’t have a property to their name, their jobs that I found myself embarrassed to share about with others, and further railed them for having an inferiority complex. I’m the youngest and most ‘successful’ in the eyes of my parents (yes both in reality and my accountant can attest); I put quotes on ‘successful’ because honestly I too was only playing a role and I wasn’t completely fulfilled and was always wanting more and more and more…at what cost? My health, friendships, and relationships. I became my narcissistic parent and I hated it. I hit my bottom following my father’s death which was the catalyst to my healing. I am now both the scapegoat and black sheep of the family, the identified patient, solely because I REFUSE to participate in the crime being committed to my step siblings following the discovery with clear evidence of my mother having stolen millions from our father’s estate leaving nothing for them. Thankfully I am financially independent and could really care much less about their lives now because the only life that matters to me is mine. It’s not an easy road, it was a 10 year journey to get here, but solitude can be healing. I can finally pay attention, nurture, care for, and love the little kid in me ❤️🩹 peace to all who have been thru this kind of toxic family.
U still didnt helped ur sibs to rrcover from the abuse u made them go through, u talked only abt urself at the end plzz reflect. Dont teply cuz my narc parent will see
@@silentkiller-qy5ot You only have a slice information about my life and your presumption that I didn’t help my siblings is highly incorrect. You cannot help people who don’t want to be helped and every human being has a right to refuse to be responsible for other’s problems including yours about your cowardly way of dealing with your supposed narcissist parents and placing responsibility on strangers for your own safety.
The best revenge is to live your life without them to the fullest. To let them see you shining and happy. Be strong my people!! You endured their bullshit, you are strong enough to say Enough is Enough! I wish you all a happy life with so much joy and fulfillment! These people were never going to give you that, don’t let their mental sickness steal anymore of your happiness 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
My older brother, Dennis was the Narc. He made my older sister, Valerie the scapegoat. Surprisingly, my parents were "A-OK" with this. I still don't understand WHY..........!!!
So basically what you’re saying, as The parents should just watch the chaos happen, and their children become Messed up individuals, individuals most likely
I went no contact from my dad and sister. I moved out of town and my sister used her police skills to track me down and reported my where about to my dad
I have a narcissistic father and sister-in-law. My Dad is dead, but my SIL triggers me so badly. I told my husband I would cut her off completely if it wasn't for my niece. My poor niece has cried out to me for help, but we both know I am powerless. I told her that once she turns 18, she can do whatever she wants. I will take her in. But once she turns 18, her mom will never be allowed back into my life. I'm playing the game because I want to be in my nieces life. I'm counting the days when I can be free from this woman.
I am in this now w/an aging parent & 2 siblings that I cut out of my life years ago. One of them 25 years ago, & now we are reconnecting over the aging parent. 😣 If this isn’t a toxic s#%t show, idk what is. I’m going to have to choose myself & it’s gonna cost me some lifelong guilt. It’s making me really sick after only a matter of weeks. Some people never change. This situation truly sucks!!
What a revelation..I noticed this about my mom & my baby sister. I wondered why my youngest sister always hated me & our middle sister with a passion....I've spent my whole life trying to please her because I felt guilty for....well, nothing I can think of, & believe me; as the scapegoat, I'm hyper-aware of my behavior toward her, & I'm always walking on eggshells. I've basically coddled her since she was born, & she's had health problems, so it was expected. It all makes sense now. Mom favors her, always has; my mom is a narcissist & my sister is her mini-me. It never occurred to me that this was the dynamic. This is absolutely blowing my mind. This guy nailed it, I'm subscribing. Thank you. Tonight, we're scheduled to have a "meeting" with my little sister, after I finally called out her beastly, abusive behavior, to me and our middle sister, (who is the mediator/peace maker, poor thing). I have a point of reference now, but I'm convinced I need to go no-contact. We work together in a band, and it's been intolerable for my other sister & me, & although the band is great & fun, our baby sister is sabotaging it with her destructive behavior. We decided we would have to forfeit our career to maintain our sanity. So, here goes...I know she won't change. She blames everyone else for her unprofessional tantrums, ranting & raving. This is it..we decided to calmly remove ourselves from this toxic environment. I feel bad for the rest of the band, but we have to finally take care of ourselves. This has been a traumatic, life-long struggle. We're done.
As a black sheep living in narcissist family with toxic brother , it's so hard to feel worthful and loveable , it's so hard when no matter how much things you do , you are never enough when that brother does nothing and gets the best treatment , compliments.
My bio dad is a narcissist, he turned my brother and sister against me because he hated my mom. My sister and I are fine now that she's an adult and has her own child and gets it now. But my brother is just like my father. I'll never get to have a relationship with him unfortunately because he's just like our father. 33 years old and will never grow up. Just like my 55 year old father. It's ok, I was raised with a daddy I chose myself
Oh wow! My childhood life exactly like yours just my mother was the narcissist. All 3 of us siblings don't talk to each other. My brother turned out like my mom....crazy. No contact with him anymore. Wow......hard to explain it and then add the religious upbringing too. 🤣
I am actually good with come backs but my pathetic heart chooses to tear up instead of comeback when it comes to my big sister and my mom giggling in back.....the only thing on my mind is "break the cycle, break the cycle, break the cycle"
Epitome of my life from age 3. My 'family' tried their best to destroy me physcially, emotionally, & mentally. I refuse to let them take or destroy anything else I have, enjoy, earned, or what I posses within me. Safety is a blessing you shouldn't take for granted..
My brothers are narcissists. My mom actually is ok with how they are to me and spoke to me. Even though I am always the one who tells them to do what's right and how to maintain a healthy life style. But over all the roller coaster experience I went through I realized I can't save people who chose to not be saved who only will hurt me while I love them. From this day forward I have my heart sets on limit. Not going to get myself abused any longer. Thank you for this video ❤
my brother stalks me, follows me around the home, listening in on me so that they can bump into me if im going out, he pretends to sleep everyday when i get ot the shower, and opens his eyes a lil when im changing, he ignores all my texts and lies about why. i now hang out in my closet since we share a room, i once woke up with him standing next to me staring.. im so traumatized i havent slept on my bed in weeks, i sleep in the closet imagine. he hides my important stuff before i go to work, only to tell me he found said items after i come back. and he never takes a break, this is 24/7
My sibling is diagnosed with ASPD my mother adores that sibling. She omitted to share his diagnoses with other siblings who suffered with the bullying & abuses.
To this day my narcsister never spares vicious,nasty comments when she sees me. I always get at least one spiky arrow energetically... When I moved back home after living abroad for 10+ years and had to find a job, I asked her to ask around her friends and axquaintences because I had no friends etc here. She just said: "this is why one has to have a circle of friends..".I asked her various times but she never helped....
My older brother used to beat me senseless. Over anything he wanted to. He was 7 years older than me and I remember my mother would just watch. We’re adults now, and recently I confronted them on everything they did to me my whole life and continue to do to me. They proceeded to laugh in my face and tell me I needed medication and that I was crazy
The Covert Ex I divorced groomed and trained both of our children to abuse me....with him. Kids are 36 and 39...one is very Overtly abusive and one is more like her dad...very Covert. I have too much Empathy and I had too much optimism...I felt that enough love would influence my children. I was wrong. Showing narcissist love is agreement to be abused. So now I have no contact and it is absolutely my decision. They have done abuse for 42 years and asking them to stop never works. Giving love doesn't work either. I am grateful to not be like them.
My narc sister the golden child would always attack/fight me. I’m going no contact with her soon. She is nuts and my parents never did a thing. I would have to go to work with a scratched up neck as face multiple times.
Never realized my baby brother was a narcissist, until I got healthy enough to see it. Now that I'm done with my own depression and grieving, and have gotten healthy, his resentment has turned into personal attack. I know there have to be boundaries, and that I have to stick to them. Thanks for this video!
3/4 are narcissistic in my family ......My parents and my older sister all were narcissistic...till yesterday i thought nly my prnts are ...but today i figured out my sis too...i was always confused that why couldn't i have good relationship with her how much ever i value her she nvr value me r cared abt as much as i did to her ....i thought we both r going through hard tym with our parents but she never treat me any better from them ...she treat me worst when compare to them..and now i figured out she also turned out be a narcissistic....and im a hypersensitive emotional person its really hurtful right now ...the ppl who should be supportive loving and caring with you are the people who turn out to be your abusive bullying hurting people ....and its bad my childhood turned out to be nightmare in my life even when i tried to remember a good memory i couldn't..all i can is hurt pain memories...im burst out with tears right now ...but thats okay ..god as gave me this challenge i accepted it ...i got the present im healing from trauma ...im really i didn't turned out to be them even through my whole family is narcissistic...i believe that i can deal through this and move on ...till now whatever i go through i didn't deserve it ...im going to do whatver i deserve and take care of my adult self and child inside me ❤
My situation 😭😭😭 I’m the black sheep of the family and my narcissistic brother treats me like garbage. He doesn’t include me in anything regarding family matters and wishes I was never born. FML
we are nine children 3 boys and 6girls my mother was a narc. my three brothers were mother"s golden children..cruel narcs. we 6 were scapegoats...They took all our father"s property.But the almighty God was always with us. only by the grace of jesus we all are living better than our brothers. ❤️🙏
I realized over the years that as I bear more aware,I noticed that everyone was narcissistic but covert. My brother used to run tests to see who would call him out or who would support him. That’s when I became aware of how deep it went!
Damn. What you're saying sounds exactly like what a fly on the wall of my childhood would've seen. I've never been able to explain this better. Thank you.
I was the scapegoat in the family. My mother was merciless and mean. My youngest sibling is the golden child and can do no wrong. She is now a narcissist and married to one as well. Finally went no contact and I’m a better person bc of it.
Both my siblings are narcissistic, I was the scapegoat and was able to self reflect and work on myself. It still sucks that I can’t have a normal relationship with my siblings and family but the cycle ends with me and will go no further
My brother used to whoop my ass 23 hours straight then on the 23 hr and 30 min he would say he was sorry and all is supposed to forgivein else I was wuld kicked out the house!!!
Exactly what I went through and still struggle with today. I have a narcissistic older brother (first child) who is an absolute disgrace. My parents never discipline him and day by day he has become worse. It has made me more and more distant with my family and I don’t even want to attend any family gatherings because of him. People always think I’m the problem and don’t make enough effort but in reality I try and keep the distance for my own mental health.
My sister always physically, emotionally and mentally abuses me, it's to tiring and suffocating to be around her, i always feel negative vibe around her , which makes me feel anxious, i had many panic attacks in front of them and in private, but she doesn't care, i also almost got a heart attack, pls guys pray for me, that she goes far away from me.
My younger brother is like this, although to my memory he manipulated my parents who felt protective and sorry for him as he did poorly at school...and I did well. Therefore, they propped him up and pulled me down even giving him authority over me. He is 4 years younger, but compared to descriptions, I didn't have much of an older brother experience (except for the responsibilities).
It's really fascinating how little drama is in my life when cutting out my entire family it's really fascinating how little drama is in my life when cutting out my entire family. My twin brother can't triangulate and blame me for everything in his life. If I'm not around he has to get his fixed somewhere else. He made me feel like I never mattered. But anytime he needed help I was expected to show up blindly without question and a great attitude. If I ask for help all I did was get a verbal lashing. Being told everything that I did was wrong. I am so blessed not to have my twin brother in my life anymore. I finally feel free of toxicity and chaos. And I definitely mourn. I definitely miss him. But I know the relationship I had hoped to have with him was never going to transpire or occur. I had to face reality.
Danish thank you for your videos. I'm 55 years old till this day I still get nightmares and have to be on meds because of my mother's narsistic abuse. She was addicted to meds and my father was an alcoholic he too both physically and mentally destroyed my life. I was the black sheep of my fam. and my sister being a year younger was the golden child. I'm the eldest of 4. I ended up running away and into a domestic violance relationship for 10 years that almost killed me. Now I have 3 adult kids that I raised respectfully and tried giving them what I never had. A 33,35 and 36 year old and guess what all 3 disowned me and after all the sacrifices I made. I haven't seen 2 of them for many years. I cry almost every day and have no reason to get out of bed. I'm trying to heal and watching your videos and tought me so much thank you. Yasmine
Sharing my experience...this is our stepsister she enables her father's emotional abuse and sabotaged our relationship mine and my brothers with our own birth mother for years.our mother passed away few weeks ago and our stepsister tryed to stop us saying goodbye to our mother and is making everything about her even our mothers funeral trying to invalidate our feelings recruiting people to attack us its difficult dealing with them both i m going no contact when in a better position too feel for anyone in this position or similar.
I love my siblings even though I was the scapegoat. I honestly feel like love, kindness and fondness from our parents was like *air*, and all of the children were suffocating for it. There was never enough. Yes, my siblings got direct ventilation sometimes (through compliments, affection, and that gleam and my parents’ eye), but it was not permanent. I don’t fault them for taking it. My parents and family decided when I was an infant that I was the bad one. But I know if I had gotten just a brief taste of their love and affection, I could easily have become a narcissist to. it really was just such a complete and total rejection that made me look for healthy people to give me love. I would’ve been just like my siblings if my parents had given me the chance.
My dad is the reason why my sister turned into an abuser. She abused me, gaslit me, put me in embarrassing situations, nearly got me killed and more. I was sick and tired of it and wanted out
