A dysfunctional man can really make you look desperate and awful. A good man is not that complicated and will never give you anxiety of acting and making you adjust yourself to look relevant. I am not and never been deaparate but some men can make you look bad in front of others.
If you want marriage bring it up right away don't waste your time on people who don't want the same things as you trust me ❤ the commitment phobics will run away from you and that's what you want better sooner than later
Don't bring it up at all. Let them bring it up. If they don't, they aren't marry. I brought up commitment to a man and he made me his gf to then just cheat on me online because he wasn't ready to settle down, but didn't want to lose me. These men will fake it. Do not EVER tell them what you are looking for. They will LIE that they are ready.
Us being emotionally and/or physically abandoned by our caregivers also teaches us to abandon ourselves, especially if we were punished overtly or covertly for expressing a need or daring to have a need, it’s not just through having that behavior modeled by others in front of us.
If you're not desperate he'll resort to negging and other tactics to MAKE you seek his validation. Be your authentic self (however that looks) and the right one for you will appreciate it. If he's not looking for a marriage mate he's looking to use you by toying with your natural, Godgiven emotional makeup❗
My ex definitely tried other ways to make me want his validation. He even tried insulting me (but was sneaky with the way he did it) and trying to make me feel self conscious of myself. But every time I would laugh in his face because at the time I didn’t realize that was what he was doing and he sounded ridiculous to me because I was so sure of myself and had high self esteem and confidence. I really was just confused as to what he was even talking about 🤦🏾♀️. Either way it never worked so then he tried make me jealous of girls he’d talk to (like as in just making sure I see him having a conversation with a girl). I’m not even the jealous type so that didn’t work either. Ugh I wish I would have realized his weird behavior sooner and just left instead of having to deal with it. Either way after I left him my life flourished 🤷🏾♀️.
7:50 this is full of bullshit... when woman do the "i should wait for an hour or more before replying to his text" they say woman play too much... but when she's available, open, polite and friendly... oh she's desperate 😒😒 just what the hell do they want? as a woman you'll never win.
This a good example how come we have masculine energy women...This man can't handle a carring and nurturing woman they want to play games. It is 2024 we have luxury of communication, transportation etc...we don't need to write hand written letters and put them into post office...love was hard because life didn't have all of this convenient technology..
Ive been gaslit so much into thinking Im overreacting... so I give people more chances than I should and constantly push for communication with people that give me vague answers. Maybe Im not reacting enough honestly. Im an overthinker due to trauma but Im going to learn this lesson NOW!
Basically never ever ever ever go against yourself period because let me tell you: it gets worse. What is this mirroring: you need to love yourself more first and more importantly God. I was desperate. And i never will be again for anyone period
I must say I don't agree because I chase Jesus and I'm at peace. WHATEVER I want I just ask him and boom he got me. So I will always be desperate for the most high how can I not be? I want for nothing. Ijs it's not wrong to chase the Lord desperately. It will always benefit your greater good.
I get what they are saying but don’t agree with all of it, obviously you should feel free to post what you want on social media without it being seen as desperate, not everything is for the other person. And I also don’t see anything wrong with wanting to see the person you are interested in, I don’t think that makes you too available actually it should be a good thing, but I get in what context they mean but it can come off as confusing
Right ❤ I had to beg my ex fiancee to want to see me. One should never have to beg. Effort needs to be put in on both parts equally. I’m done with him and I found the love of my life ❤
I personally needed to get rid of social media to find " inner peace" being authentic is very important to me and I felt like I just couldn't keep trying to " curate" this image of myself that was just what I wanted others to see. I was not being true to myself.
Yeah feminity comes natural you shouldn't have to prove yourself to someone that told you to get out. If they tell you to get out then leave the next morning quietly and don't tell them were you are staying you don't even really owe it to some strange guy on the bus either to tell him were your headed i had a guy on the bus say, "your not hot!' Did i ask you if I was or not? Then I obviously dont care what he thinks it's okay to have a preference but if you didn't even look at him or initiate a conversation with him then she doesnt like him either.. They insert there opinions were it's not really needed just to make women feel like crap so be aware of men like that too who purposely provoke an argument just because they don't think your attractive it doesn't make sense to dress up in the hood because these are the same men that tell women to tone down the make up and don't wear short skirts and dresses.
I haven't slept with a man in9years it's because i love myself but Aug I saw someone I knew for 40 years so I decided too give him some but didn't chases him I know the different between love,sex and it was just sex
There is no such thing as “just sex”. Sex is a spiritual covenant. It’s a soul tie, whether you like it or not. You lay with someone, you lay with all their energetic attachments, good and bad. It’s never just sex, everyone just pretends it is.
What I don't understand is now that I have decided I don't want a relationship that is when men are the most adamant about pursuing me or asking me for my number. I really just need to be on my own for a while. It's like they think it's a "challenge" or something.
Fucker ghosted me, temporarily wanted me to back, I knew what they were trying, now they say we didn’t work out because I was desperate! They have the gall to say this after I put my foot down. It’s just another excuse for my toxic lying ex. He was also on the dl in our relationship. He’s a booty bandit!
Facts, it’s important to be celibate. People say play them like they play you. Be careful accepting gifts from spirits after u leave a relationship or when you’re close to God that’s when spirits come.
I don't date for money or what a guy has or the clothes he wear respect is what i ask for and I don't never chases no man's but if I misjudge someone I apologizes
So this guy thinks that everyone who posts a selfie 🤳 is posting a " thirst trap?😂" I literally find the idea 💡 that men are looking at my profile to see pictures of me ridiculous 😂. Like with all of the gorgeous women out there why would my silly selfie be his go to? I posted selfies for " the girls" duh 😂
I will say that 14:00 was dead on with compliments! This is a pimps easiest way to get women with low self-worth or self-esteem.... everyone likes compliments but it shoild hold no weight
