A couple of things I got from here: - Friendship is actually more sacred than we think. - It's a lot of work wrapped up in communication and vulnerability. Sometimes you might think you're "right" but humility is seeking what to do better and how to be better for our friends - leaving the self-ish desires. - It's funny how God has been nudging my heart to study on friendship groups in the Bible. I'm glad to see David & Jonathan referenced 🥰 - It's important to know why we're Friends with people and discern the seasons our friendships are at per time. - Accountability in Friendship is very important. To find a good friend is to first and foremost BE that good friend 🤍 Thank you so much, Ezinne and Precious. I pray that your friendship(s) continue to grow and blossom with Christ at the centre 🤍 I'll be sharing this with my community now - The Friendship Chain Community ♥
I’m in that place in my life when I’m asking God for new friends. Right now, i believe He wants me to be alone, to better me first as a person, so I won’t take those friends for granted when they actually come. And to see true friendship for what it actually is. Thanks for this video Ezinne, and precious you have such a beautiful heart, glad you came to the podcast
Rooting for you, I hope you meet 'your tribe', I used to be in this space before until God gave me a circle of friends I'm eternally grateful to God for. Just keep walking with God and working on yourself, with time they will come around❤
Sit right where God placed you, which is a consecration season. It will feel hard while in that season. However, when that season is over, the transformation will be mind blowing. And one by one God will begin to plant you where you're suppose to be in regards to friendship & life journey. Your perspective about things will change, too. I wish you well as you go thru this period.... stay encouraged 🎉
I’ve always been a precious. I do the most for people. I’m overly considerate, most times I put people first before myself: I’ve slowly started learning and understanding that I can’t do this for everybody. Everybody is not my friend and that is totally fine. I give so much to my friendship and I’d like to get that back too. Thank you for having this conversation❤️
I am like that too and at some point I started disliking how much I loved people. But when I found out I was phlegmatic and that’s one of the “strengths” of the phlegmatic it made things so easy for me. Now I love and give as much as I can and I don’t joke with setting boundaries.
It takes two good and strong people to have this conversation. Many of us have lost good friends because of pride and desire to get more than we give. This thing is mutual commitment, respect, accountability, forgiveness etc.
I hate having hard conversations and being vulnerable. So, when I’m hurt by my friends I never talk about it, I just brush it off because I’ll get over it. Honestly, I do get over it, but I don’t think it’s a healthy approach.
I get it too and I used to be like that but there is a kind of freedom that comes with being vulnerable with a friend. A person you trust. We don’t have to be hard all the time. Being vulnerable helps you to get to another level in your friendship, the more the vulnerability and accountability, the deeper your relationship goes. It makes it easier to come out of problems when they do come up. Realize that we need people, no one is an island. To go higher and be greater, we all need people.
I feel so glad to have discovered about Ezinne Zara at the early stage of my youth/adult life so there are quite a lot of mistakes I can avoid. ''Everyone is not your friend and you cannot be there for everyone'', I relate to that a lot and accommodating everyone into your circle would cause an explosion at some point which will not affect just you. Thank you Precious and Ezinne, God strengthen you both for His good work.
communication is so important in friendships as much as relationships. you find people ghosting their friends and just moving on meanwhile that friend is hurting.
Precious comes across so much like Somebi. I'm watching her and I sense Somebi so much. There's a quietness to her spirit that is so endearing even though she's a bubbly person. I appreciate her presence on this episode today.
Very true! There are seasons for friendship, if you drift apart, don’t force it! Sometimes you reconnect and others times never. Just don’t see yourselves as enemies. Lots of wisdom in this conversation. God bless both of you richly 🙏🏽.
One thing the Holy Spirit is also teaching me is realising that everyone has their perspective on things. It takes humility and strong in-built esteem to accept this and be willing to listen to other people’s views. I may be right, they may be right too. Seek first to understand...then to be understood. I'm glad you mentioned this in your book too, I felt attacked!😂 Thank you Ezinne❤
Friendship is a lot of work. Being a very introverted and quiet person makes it quite challenging. From having to communicate to having hard conversations when there's a misunderstanding. I usually just want to forgive the person in my heart and move on. But in the long run, it doesn't help. I also look forward to learning extensively about "boundaries in friendships" "managing expectations and how to shoot your shot at people you desire to be friends with aside from praying (which is important)
This is so on point. I’ve recently been praying for God’s help to be humble, graceful, and to see people the way God sees them. This selfish wokeness trend doesn’t sit well with my spirit.
I don’t think you want to see people the way God sees them. As someone that prayed the same prayer years back, what you want is to be naive and understanding of who they are irregardless of what they have done.
I felt God telling me to reconcile with my former friend/roommate so i reached out and tried to have the hard conversation, they made me feel so foolish and stupid 😢and didn’t even give me any audience I cried. I don’t think I’d ever talk to them again 4 months ago I got betrayed by 2 of my closest and longest friends. Right now I don’t have any friends and I’m constantly praying and working on myself for the new friends that would fit in this stage of my life.
Just experienced this with my friend but rather I had a feeling in my spirit not to reach out and let things go as it was time but I disobeyed decided to just let her know I still care for her regardless the things she said to me made me doubt my self and what I was feeling initially 😢
Wow.@chisomnnamani. My story is similar to yours, it’s so similar it’s shocking. I lost two friends too. One is a roommate, the other is OUR friend. It felt like I was butted out of the friendship by the two of them. It’s been 5 years now but I felt a connection with you when I read your comment.
I always hear especially in this time and age. Friendship is complicated. But I heard here, Friendship is not complicated, you are just doing it with the wrong people...Wow!
I love this conversation . It really resonates with me . I am at a space where i dont really have friends ,i had a fall out with my former friends and needing new friends is what im trusting God for . Also we do have different seasons with different friends at that time and space . That is qhat im learning even as i grieve the friendship. At the same time as im trusting God for new friends im also actively relating with different people just to see if we can be good friends . Youre not alone girlie , you got this ♥️
Bruh this describes the relationship I have with my sister 22:50 I always feel like she doesn't get me. Like she's still using the information she knows about me from previous seasons to relate with me in my current season.
I feel so dragged on that spot of 'Have hard conversations'. It's really not the easiest thing to do especially when you're living through it. But then something our guest said; "You can't just have and dump friends". I'm praying for God's grace to finally have those conversations.
How can I love this podcast more than once. precious is saying deep things. For the longest time I have been burnt out cause I have been pouring myself out places that didn't appreciate me. So I recoiled and I have had lots of peace since then. I do pray for real friendships, the inner court kind that Precious talked about. The kind tailored for me.
Thank you for bringing Precious on board, she was indeed vulnerable. I can relate to the narration of everyone being her friend and experiencing heartbreaks and burnout, the Lord recently took me through a separation and audit process in friendship, which prompted me to redefine what friendship meant to me.
I too muted some friends because i didn't want to feel hurt in feeling left out or forgotten. Like i was the only one making efforts to see these ppl, so it wasnt even because of a fight , i just didn’t want to keep feeling bitter towards them
I loved this conversation, everyone cannot be your friend. There are acquaintances and there are friends, different levels of communication and commitment. Thanks for sharing.
Exactly what I needed especially in this season I'm in. In all honesty letting God see you as you are even when you are in the wrong and you taking a step back to evaluate yourself even when the process seems slow,as far as God is involved, it may seem a lot but it's worth it.I keep praying to God to give me wisdom and give me the right friends that are for me as everyone is actually not meant for you as you may think based on your own understanding.
Ok first off, I didn’t know Precious Ada was this cool. I LOVED LOVED this conversation!! SO Needed! ALSOO, I thought of David and Jonathan as well few mins before Precious Ada brought it up 😌😌
Thank you so much, Sis Ezinne and Precious😊🥺🥺🤭. We should have hard conversations. (Though it isn't easy). I initiated one with a friend, I think 5 months ago. I owned up to my faults, and the one I didn't even see any wrong in doing, but I ended up being dragged by this so trusted friend, which didn't see anywhere he had faulted. I remembered just like that day, I shed hot tears, that I couldn't almost made it for the test I was having the next day. That was the first hard conversation I tried, it took me lot of energy, thoughts 😭😭😭😭😭, being a highly introverted and shy person. I feel bad and terrible till now, but this past few days, God has been helping, because I don't know, and I don't like why I feel so guilty unnecessary even when I've thought about the situation well to see if I ever did any wrong. Nevertheless, I will have the conversation with others when needed again. And if both both parties are cool, we go on. If vice versa, we put off, but being cleared that I'm at rest having done my part🥺😊. Thank you so much once again. Your friendship will flourish, in Jesus name.
This is so enlightening. Friendship is something I struggle with, I don't even understand why it's so hard. I'd really love it if the full version of this episode was posted here on RU-vid but nevertheless, thank you for your vulnerability 🥰
This!!!!! The last video on my channel was a friendship video with my close friend. We didn't talk to each other for about a year as well. It was crazy but the moment we got back together, nothing can ever come between us. Friendship is a BIG deal for me.... Sometimes having those difficult conversations are really really important. And, never force friendships!!!... Love this video so much.. Thank you for sharing.
“This is a heart you’re dealing with.” I thought I was just gonna listen to a convo. But this comment put my relations with others into a new perspective.
I love to see God answering my prayers. What are the odds that this is the topic you would start with? I'm having issues with my friendships and I've been battling with how I feel and what is the right thing to do. Definitely some sound advice here, God sees me and He cares enough to answer me. Thank you once again.
We were a trio and we scattered around the world for school and now one of us is just not friends with us anymore. I think she’s outgrown us and at first we tried to get her back but then we realized it just wasn’t working so we let it be ❤ the Holyspirit spoke to me in that moment about the way seasons change I felt a bit better afterwards
I was telling God that I miss my best friend and I felt lonely. And this podcast just came on!! I’m so happy God heard my heart. Thank you so much Ezzine ❤️
The fact that I could relate so much to this video. I was literally in a bad situation with a few friends and I’m certain I didn’t handle it well. Thank you so much for this beautiful message ❤
About the first question, I relocated out of the country and I can tell you for a fact that your friendships won’t remain the same forever 😂not when there is time difference and long distance wahala.People grow and people outgrow each other but please let’s not be resentful about it.Iz not a do or die affair,life is not supposed to be that hard. 🥹🥲
Jeeeeeez! Watching this I've seen how much I've grown and how much effort I still need to put in to be a better friend. The fear of letting people know that we care just because we feel they will throw it back at us just puts us in a really bad place. With everything I've learned from this podcast going forward, I'm committed to having difficult conversations and being a better person when it comes to friendship.
I would really love to join the TC community I applied I hope I get picked So much wisdom To be honest I went through a fight with a good friend and I don’t think we handled it well but now I know that it was lack of the right wisdom that was carried out communication is key❤
Hey ezinna ThankYou for this amazing conversation What about a situation where you’re trying to apologize and the other person doesn’t want the apology? Would you still try to fight for the friendship?
This happens to me and at the point you’re trying to settle and talk things out but they don’t want the apology please move on it’s hard but you will be fine..
This is a very timely video sis Ezinne. Thank you ma for this. I have a question tho. How do one handle friends and one’s partner cos some friends may think they are entitled to “all” of you and demand more unknowingly. How do you strike a balance with friends that seem like they are intruding into your marital life. Having this understanding of what true friendship is by your co-host.
I'm not even 20 yet ezinne but I've learnt a lot from you through the help of holy spirit that will help navigate through life at that age and stage. Thank you so much.❤️
