We are in a Polyamorous Relationship | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 93 | Season 3 

So me

Me

I wanted to hear the third view

Me too just to hear her side of the story as well

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Analytical presenter

Very true and she’s able to get everything out nicely👌❤️

I know right she is amazing

she's amazing.

Honestly applaud her she's all calm nd collected she doesn't overpower her visitors, Love her 👏👏

That's my question too

Yhoooo imagine😥😥😥😥

I'm also concerned

Eish, hoping there won't be accusations at some point.

This happens a lot , a lot

Makes both of us 🙂

Lol me too🤦‍♀️

😂Me too

Me too movement 😆😆😆😆

Me three😂

Mma Radebe at least you know the peen ain't going anywhere else. bc when someone actually cheat, with the number of irresponsible people out here , raw dogging just cus the rubber ain't available. Chile ! I am a guy and i was cheated on and walking into a test center was the hardest thing to do . it has been years i wonder how i resisted the urge to not smack her .

I watched a documentary about this type of relationships and in summary, all these relationships are different, they need to set rules and boundaries for the relationship ( it's not a one size fits all). They said it's a spectrum.

@@meniciamalgas352 kkkkkThere's no relationship there..Just people who have given themselves over to lust.

My thoughts exactly 💯

@@meniciamalgas352 Who? Who is they?

That’s not polyamory that’s borderline cheating. I’m not against non-monogamy to each of their own. But if you want to see other people then be honest instead of lying about it.

@@michellerenelelethugrobbel3017 Hey dear, you entitled to your own opinion. Everyone should just live their lives your life how they see fit.

@@michellerenelelethugrobbel3017 Incest is next..Where does the madness stop.?

To cheat and to be open are two separate things, they are not the same. I've once had 2 relationships similar this, these work with honesty and consent. Cheating is just living a lie and deceiving the one you love.

Yohh😲

But wow, this is interesting, Relebogile is a star guys...

You are not interested. You are being tempted..At the rate its going you ppl will be sleeping with your brothers soon..

Here i am, wanting this😩

@@MokoenaMbalenhle The devil has picked you..He has chosen you.

@@mandlenkosihlazo977 oh god please✋🏽

@@mandlenkosihlazo977 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

would you be open to that?

@@dumisanimogomane9539 You don't need to ask my guy..It's obvious that it's something she could try..

@@mjaymamabolo5962 Carry on with the sodomy. Soon you will reap.

True

Same

I’m with you on that yooh.

Same

Actually

💯 R

Say"My parents "not" parents ". Sorry that you had no guidance, some receive all the teachings and prayers and still choose to live like... Also, don't be so harsh on your parents, they can only teach you what they know. If they don't know God nor His word how can you expect them to transmit that knowledge. You will do better when you have kids. Just be thankful for grace.

I had exactly the opposite experience. My parents still continue to pry in my business even now as I'm 30 years old. I've made many mistakes and I sometimes think had I been living my life for myself and not my parents, things might have been smoother. So some degree of freedom is good I think. And also...I still dated older guys and found that life fascinating even with my parents always in my face. At the end of it all, we are our own people and our paths are unique. We like different things. No matter how much you pull me away from it...if I want it I'll go for it.

Living for our parents…

I don't know why you are making the assumption that her parents did not guide her properly in life. Not everyone grows up the same and just because someone grew up differently from you, it doesn't mean they did not grow up in a nurturing and loving environment. If you think your parents controlling your every decision and not teaching you about boys was a good way to be raised, and you turned out fine, then good for you.

We appreciate the conviction of the Holy Spirit.🙏🏽 Although my parents were too strict I thank God I didn’t have that freedom.

Yoh Celi you can say that again

Absolutely

Which one lasts?

Lol, so true

The "for me" is really important when speaking on people's lives lol

Ephesians 6:18 we have a responsibility to pray for all people 🙏🏾🥺❤️

So true.

Only if he existed 😂 just imagine you not going to hell. That’s boring

Very insightful analysis. Totally agree with you.

True and it's like they rehearsed their answers. They make it seem like it's flawless kanti ziyakhala.

They just wanted you to know they're happy 😄

Yes the couple was not open, I felt that Fletcher should have been allowed to speak in his mother tongue so he could be more expressive. I would’ve also loved to see the 3rd lady there. Also he said his not gay his straight but said “ok” to her getting another man and being in a relationship does that mean his also dating that man?/ just from her side. Protection wise? Do they use it cos the 3rd party can’t really be trusted. Does the 3rd party feel comfortable because these two are the original so does she really feel included?. A lot lacked. But DEFF not for me I’m too jealous of a human being.

This topic had so much potential, but I wasn’t left feeling more enlightened like I usually do with the other topics, I still enjoyed the show though ❤️

ik I'm not a zodiac sign fan but she's a scorpio and I'm a scorpio too and we just can't carry a conversation to save our lives shem😭😭

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“….for the brave hearted” 😂

That is so true …the girl does want it to last forever…she loves the guy but it seems she adjusted to what the guy believes in

ayaaa🙄

Did you date the lady aswell?

Me either.

Wanting monogamy doesn’t make you less open minded. Don’t let lefties guilt trip you. There’s nothing wrong with sticking to one man or one person.

@@michellerenelelethugrobbel3017 well said

@@michellerenelelethugrobbel3017 so true. Some people are more monogamous than others

@@herminenamakalu4171 Sane and/or normal

So true Kim

It’s really beautiful🥺.

Correction: This dude is on his way to hell.

@@mandlenkosihlazo977 and who are you to judge cus you partner might be doing the same with someone out there

@@Itumelengmatlou I'm not judging. Just saying the truth..This guys are on they way to hell. Have you ppl got an idea how terrible hell is??

@@Itumelengmatlou Everyone has an inborn sense of right n wrong..Thats what will send people to hell. They know that it's wrong but they do it anyway..They CHOOSE.

And not tears of joy😂

True

True exactly this is the end of times

Obviously, evil is abounding.

It's truly sad,this episode made me realise that I need God more than ever, especially raising kids in times like these😔

What’s their handle so I can stalk also lol

Yeah I wanna stalk them too

Wats their handle

Me too I'm waiting

🙏🙏

Well, I am a product of a crowd I came across humans who are also a product of such crowdy relationships/marriages, and we collectively will tell you that this is very hard on the kids who were products of these relationships. Nobody prepared us 4 this . Love ,openess and peace is a facade no matter how open and consistent you think your partner is .A headache is in store for you.ì

@@zinhlem138 Theres a cause and effect for everything even Monogamy is a risk, we get hurt, we cry, we laugh, we are happy, thats just how life is.

Bruh I love this 🔥🔥🔥🔥

This is why we have global warming and natural disasters😂😂😂

@@penelopegomez5934 At least 1 person who gets it..Do ppl know that the earth is groaning ryt now because they piling n piling the weight of sin on top of it..??It literally groans..How many here understand that the earth is a living thing?

@@penelopegomez5934 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You can still do it if you have money.

Everyone nowadays do that behind doors. I salute you guys for being open about it. Big up guys

Asomblif

True

It's gonna get even more amazing for yall i guess. Incest is next..

Why made things worse you made them sing along with you 😂😂😂😂

It's called living a lie for the cameras.unreal and she just buying into the whole nonsense. the second girl comes an they both want to have sex with the men or even the bed.who is going to sleep alone.madness at minimum and satanic at max

😂 😂 😂 😂

Honestly..what is this now😪😪😪😪

No they didn't . Things were always complicated the only difference is that now everything is exposed

Emmag Obiero... really Jesus is coming soon...

@@tebogoqueen7318 what if Jesus was gay??

@@deltaradiance9034 Don't you dare blaspheme my Lord like that. SMH!

Miss mama, cheating could occurs regardless of the set up. ya feel me. but it ain't what this is about. its about the honesty of being able to love 3 way and not just smash.

Some even offered me money, how can I forget.

Wena you are right Sethabile Dlamini people are already doing this even unwittingly weitsi aai this our world but we don't judge we soldier on.

I'm happy for you however I have a little beef..you have a responsibility to yourself ,your children and society at large because it looks like you are waiting for this setup to be miraculously accepted as clearly wena you are not prepared to lift a finger and take some beating for the team.its for me similar with someone who has hiv and they will be quite about their status and listen to someone coming out and wont say a word...I mean I get it that individual choice but guys who must take a beating when others just want to enjoy the fruits of other's labour

Jesus come back already

@@nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 Amen 🙏🏿

Yoweeeeeee

@@thelinuxturtle2935 They are promoting the works of the evil one

This world is coming to an end

Guys I’m shocked

Absolutely. Truly these are the end times.

i wanted to bring her cakes and Botswana tea.

Why shouldn't she be comfortable? Genuinely asking.

Me too 🙈

😂

So..If siblings,a brother n his sister,decide the way they wanna live is having a sexual relationship together you gon be cool with it?? You just said it. You people are nuts.

Mandlenkosi what must you do when people make their own decisions and they don’t affect you in anyway. Especially if they happy.

You must not love yourself or your self esteem is very low

Everything wrong with this

@@rojamillerover so my self esteem is low because I don't want to share a man. Y'all South African men love to gaslight women into, your bullshit. Find the women that already accept polygamy and polyamory and leave the rest of us alone idiot.

@@rojamillerover How can her self esteem be low if she is saying non monogamous men should rather date women who are also non monogamous instead of telling monogamous women that it's okay to be cheated on cause men are mostly non monogamous? Your comprehension is low. By the way to the OP, you're absolutely correct. I always say most human beings are non monogamous. This is evident even in the way people go out of their way to "stay monogamous" by "resisting temptation." The fact that we have to work soooo hard to not fall in love with other people while with others or feel guilty about being wildly attracted to someone else. With all that said, I agree 100% with you and the analogy I always make is; apples to apples. Oranges to oranges. Was actually having this conversation with a mate of mine who has two very serious relationships and neither one of the women know that they're both "main chicks." So I was saying to him, dude, just go and date non monogamous women cause this double life is stressing him so much that he is even losing weight. I told him "Look, you're an orange. Find other oranges and be happy. Chasing after apples your whole life will always cause you this stress and misery and is completely unfair to the apples."

Yebo 💯💯

I see it too

I'm annoyed by the way this guy is pretending like he wud be okay if it was another man.

She loves him , and agrees with anything he says sad though ,no woman is happy sharing a man

trouble brewing there... live & learn. She's doesnt appear all that happy

@@primrosemncube7314 speak for yourself,i love my man and would love to watch him f*ck another pretty girl.differentiate btwn sex and love.

Inkosanza Momo, sharing responsibly is caring . You are iPrincessi you need to be generous with the goods

Couldn’t have said it better

Princess Momo,such a beautiful name sisi

@@moyomphoyamodimo5247 aww thank you darling

her beat is immaculate. and that hair is laid AF

The most, right.?

What's worse is that there is a baby involved... I am not against this lifestyle but living on temporary terms when something permanent is involved could be destructive in the future. Adventure and exploring could work for now but, can this be sustainable in the future? I am really worried about the offspring as soon as everyone decides to go out they way to explore and be free.

You only watch a 3p min interview and you think your opinion is valid

@@kazi2683 the comment section would be closed if it wasn't. Byeeeeee

But then keep in mind that not everyone wants to get married. If they break up usisi can always find umuntu that actually wants marriage. Uthi she introduced him to the lifestyle she can always introduce the same lifestyle to another man or woman.

I agree with you

I actually wouldn't mind this. I've done it sexually but would have loved for it to continue on an everyday basis. But the logistics were not balancing out for me. My faith doesn't allow for one... I also want many babies, couldn't see how that would work out either. Or maybe I just haven't met the right couple yet. It just became easier to conform to the normal conserved relationship.

@@dikeledimothiba65 I commend you. Nna I'm even scared of relationships because of these types of things.

le nna k shapo ka yone🥴, count me out, period

😂😂😂but you guys like attaching yourselves to situations. This was not at all about you. And Dikeledi at least you are open minded

He wont even last a day

Lol no, this is 50/50 the girl is also doing what she wants nje. And even if there's a baby there are single mothers out there who weren't in this situation.

Baklaya.

@@suziecutecute6274 I don't know the direct translation in English but he is basically celebrating that your fiance started cheating because you opened that door.

@@suziecutecute6274 The person said " serves you right"

Even Kenyans are "open-minded"

@@suziecutecute6274 Mombasa?

Lol bruh they always tryna make us seem like we a bunch of hoes

What happens when the urge for male comes in?

We are the same bbe just that I have a boyfriend but I love girls

Dats me babes married but bi how I wish my husband can be these open

Anyone around cape town to hook up

We can pray more for people who cheat on their partners without them Knowing. Guys who sleep with other guys when married to a woman. People who pretend to be something they are not..

Why don't you pray for monogamous people more? They need the prayers. They can't stop cheating.

It is not normal and it will never be. I am glad you said it.

Pray for your leaders in church who pretend to be something they are Not

@@deltaradiance9034 Sure

hit me up, i can solve the intrigue by adding you as +1 .

Yey

😂🤭😬😵‍💫🤕

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeyi

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I'm also defeated 🤞🥺

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂

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Thank you!

Volume please 🙏🏾

Is this open for discuss?

I agree

True

@UC6EEmEcX5wCok6G1IjZxkbg why do you think of offending instead of teaching? What you are saying might help someone. All depends on Delivery if you worried of offending people

Absolutely sad. Everything is unfolding right in front of our eyes, and then you get some saying "God bless them", I wonder which one they're talking about because the one I know would never.

@@_theerealnono_7694 well said!

A pen could literally drop and you people could find a way to associate it with that book Lol its so ridiculous

@@Mythandrist Nice thing is that If they want to they can.

I think he can't wait for a man to get involved 🤷‍♀️

The dynamics in throuples change constantly.

Conservative to everyone's detriment. I appreciate that such conversations are happening publicly and locally. Kalok this is the quality of openness one has to go to Red Table Talk for.

Lmao South Africans are conservative outdoors but do everything when no one is looking . If anything,we are hypocrites

Lwandile, its not conservative , its bigotry and to be honest it lesser than other african nations. because the thngs that i've heard. Chiiiiiile !

I got news for you. The sober -mindedness is gonna lead to incest being accepted.. Cuz the devil is his bag.

South Africa is not a conservative country. Freedom of choice and expression are the order of the day - unless if you've been living under a rock.

uThato is open minded but this works in SA anywhere else in Africa , the police would be right behind that door and capture the host too. bigotry is real.

This "open-mindedness" will send this generation to hell. This is clearly intolerable.

@@PHlophe it's a good thing I live in Southy then ❤

@@buthomasuku5395 I understand that it doesn't match with your own values, but we're all different. Hell is a religious construct, and not all of us are. Love and light ❤

This Is Bullist

What about siblings..Does that apply also to incest..You idiots are driving this world toward the abyss..