I'm rooting for you Mark. I'm heading down to Colombia in 2 months with well intentions. Don't let the guys on here sway you from your path. Life is filled with variables that we cant quantify. Not all situations are the same, if for some guys it didn't work out that doesn't necessarily mean that your situation spells disaster. Stay true to the course of your life's direction & be a man that holds stoic discernment when making a plan for the future
Mark. Never trust them 100%. We get treated like kings here, but they are still making their decision mostly on finances and hope to send money to family one day. You got to get legal permission for her daughter if the dad is involved. At the age of 51 you get to thinking it’s your last chance and you’ll do anything to make it worth it. Sounds like you are from a family of faith. If she ain’t about Jesus, don’t bother and I hope this isn’t bad but the way y’all met sounds like she is not. The good news is God got a plan even when ours is a little crazy. I hope the best for you bro. Check her social media. If she’s blocking too much stuff and ain’t posting pics of y’all cause of privacy you got a huge red flag. If she got many followers and post for you got 1 or 2 likes she got them blocked so only a few can see. Keep your eyes open. Be wise. There are others paying her bills if you aren’t.
Thanks for the comment. She does not have a social media account (and I can hear many of you saying "not that you know of," LOL). Her daughter watches TikTok and RU-vid, and she monitors the usage for content, but that's it. Any pictures of us she's shared with her family and close friends and my family because we are taking it slow (and I'm not a social media darling). As for faith, she is Catholic but, like the majority of the population, is not a regular every-Sunday church goer. But her daughter is attending catechism instruction. As for legal permission, the baby daddy is not in the picture; he sees her once every few months (that may change at the prospect of his ex and daughter living abroad, but it's a contingency we'll discuss). I understand what you're saying about decisions made on finances, as she has said she wants a better life for herself and her daughter. It's a typical immigrant sentiment, don't you think?
Online dating and connecting with someone overseas is a risk. I always ask.. is the risk worth it? I think so. One has to analyze the connection. Where does this person come from? Life story and visual habits have to be observed in order to avoid getting GOT. It’s one thing to get GOT with material things.. it’s another thing getting GOT and having ones heart broken over a fake profile.
Yes the child can come to the USA after the marriage , its a k-4 visa I think, its different from the marriage visa, kids come after the intial 90 days I think. Plus, alot of these women only want you to see "only " them when you are there in their country , but when you leave they have "others". 9 out of 10 of "working women" have either a boyfriend or friend" that accepts what they do for work. Advice is date around meet different women, stay friends, date around until you find the right women with no attachments, take your time.
Thanks for your comments and advice. The U.S. State Department website lists "K-2" as the visa for eligible children. Quick note, she was never a "working woman" (though some see it that way) and left cam modeling about six months after we met.
I knew the website before he said the name. Mark and myself are walking on the same path. He is just a few steps ahead of me, as my journey started during the pandemic. I have spent over 2 years talking to the same woman who lives in Cúcuta Colombia. She has managed to change me in ways I was unable to make myself. I used to be in great shape and just gave up caring, like many Americans I just stopped trying to fight the process of aging. She has convinced me to get into the best shape of my life and I feel 25 years younger. I still haven't visited her in Colombia even though she has asked. But I plan on it very soon Regardless of what happens between us , she has managed to make me better myself and for that I am grateful.
Thanks for the reply. I'm glad to hear about your experience. I will say that I consider my experience to be VERY unique, which is why I referred to her and this experience as "unicorn"...if all goes well, it will be like winning a lottery. Adult models are not supposed to be in personal contact with clients (although we know a lot of them are). As it happens, she left that business six months after we encountered each other and since then has had "legitimate" jobs. I wish you well on your continued journey of self-improvement and hope that your efforts bear good results.
I hope for the best for this guest. Long distance dating is hard, just the cost on travel is a big expense (especially when I dated a Brazilian) but worth it if is the one. My GF and I talked about if we get married Im living in her country because we both have same mentality and same vision in living in a farm in Latin America (she lives in a city and great city job but she grew up farming and prefer farm life and want to return to that lifestyle). We both know that living in the U.S. is not great with all the craziness that's going on politically, socially.
Thanks for your reply. In my situation, time and money are the two biggest factors, as well as the mechanics of visa applications and travel coordination. We have not ruled out me living in Colombia, though that would mean uprooting everything I've ever known here. All options being discussed.
Tourist visas are difficult to get. K-1 visa just to see if she likes America is expensive. Get to know her as much as you can by talking, having your meals together etc and visit when you can. If you feel you want to marry then go for the k-1. The paperwork is intense.
Thank you for your comment. I hear you...the U.S. State Department website lists at least nine sets of forms and documents needed. And, of course, there are interviews and the associated fees. So we know this will take some time and will likely require outside counsel/guidance. It's likely I will have visited her again by the time her visa application (whatever categotry) goes through.
You don’t necessarily need a lawyer, as you can do the paperwork yourself. A very useful RU-vid channel: The visa coach gives you a great way to make your application stand out. Best wishes
The dollar against the peso has mostly gone up because of higher interest rates in the states. Banks pull our currency ( world reserve currency ) out of international banks which causes our dollar to gain value against the peso since it is pegged against the value of the dollar.
Yep, and wait til later today. If the Fed raises interest rates, it's gonna go higher and things will be even more expensive here. Now is the time to travel internationally. lol
@DCBornrob , you do an amazing job! Your interview skills are very clear and your questions are on par with the climate today. Your patience is valuable!!! Honestly, this guy Mark think he is smarter than everyone else. I really hope it works out. However, she is a lot smarter and five steps ahead of Mark. How on earth is she suddenly going to get a tourist visa and willingly go back home ???????… 🙋🏽… I’ll wait for an answer! Please don’t get me wrong there is some amazing women in Colombia. However, she is using a proverbial “playbook” which is designed for ppl like Mark. 1. Met on an adult sight ❌❌ - red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 2. She knows she can’t just get a tourist visa - ❌❌red flag … Mark will be applying for a K1 visa in 6 months 3. She watches only Netflix ❌❌- she know more about American Culture than Mark 4. Cash is King - ❌❌❌❌ - pretty much everywhere takes credit card however if you are not comfortable using a card yes you need cash. Now a cab ride in the city is about 10Mil pesos, food isn’t expensive so what do you need all this cash for ??? 🙋🏽🙋🏽when you are with your girl and you do things with her and her sister and her friends they would rather just have the money 💴 so they all can keep your money. 5. She doesn’t ask for money 💴 you give her money from the bottom of your heart ❤️ - ❌❌❌❌❌ - red flag 🚩 She is either smart or Mark is a dummy. Why would she ask if you just give !!!! 6. Not all Colombian women want to come to America but I’ll bet 100%of women you meet on a ❌❌❌web site WANTS to come to the United States 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Mark - you genuinely have my prayers 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 You are going to need support If you pay attention to any of @dcbornrob content he shows with evidence that your situation isn’t different from any others.
Hey everyone, it's "Mark" using an account I created just for this. Thank you all for your comments…much food for thought. I'll respond to individual comments but wanted to clarify or elaborate on a few common threads people have brought up: (1) I've been communicating with this woman for four years, so I don't believe it's a fly-by-night relationship. I trust her because she hasn't given me a reason not to and shared her life with me. I've been to her house, communicated and spent time with her daughter, met her family, even seen her ID and private information like her and her daughter's medical records (I have not done the same for her). If I were an unscrupulous person with means, I could certainly make her life difficult. But I'd like to think that in a city of over two and a half million people, there's someone normal who cares about me for who I am a not what I can give her. (2) Talk of K-1 vs. tourist visa is in the discussion, but we're looking at all the options. If we decide to marry, it would still take time to save money, apply for a visa (whatever category), and for travel. Marrying her in Colombia is also an option (and would involve a little less red tape, from what I'm reading so far). But first she has to get a passport and learn better English. Baby steps. (3) Her daughter is part of this equation, and it may be unfair to uproot her from the only life she's ever known to be in another country. If her daughter isn't on board, neither is she. (Of course, you could make the argument the daughter will go along with whatever the mother says, but that would be very selfish on the mother's part, and there's nothing that indicates she'd do that.) (4) I stand corrected in that she's "never" asked me for money. She has. But 80 percent of the time I offer it to her (which some of you may consider MORE stupid). When she tells me about what's going on in her life--and I already know because we've talked daily for three years--I'll ask if I can help her out. When she's working, she doesn’t ask and I don't offer. When I say I can't give her money, she doesn't insist or ask the next day (or the day after that), but instead says she'll borrow money from family or figure a way to make ends meet. I hope this helps clarify. I do know this endeavor is like climbing a mountain, and it ultimately may not work or even get to the point of marriage because it's so difficult to maintain an international relationship. But I hope commenters don't fault me for making a good faith attempt to do what makes me happy.
you forgot something very important if you bring it to the united states or one of its territories like puerto rico she can say that you hit her you threatened her and there is a law that gives her asylum with the condition that she accuses you and completes the legal process my studies are in social work so just by bringing her she can make a lie or a drama and accuse you that you beat her or threatened her and the government helps her to stay in the united states this is not a game find out and you will see that I am telling you the truth
Hmm familiar story. You are not a Unicorn I had almost the same experience and amount of time involved with my woman. The beginning sounded the same but my woman is 10 years older. I met many of her family too along with the dogs lol. I have been there twice this year and plan on going back in a few months. I am lucky I live in FL so it is super cheap for me to fly. Good luck bro.
Hey Mark, I am in the same situation.I met a Colombian women in Bogota, we met on a dating site. We chatted over 2 years. I won't mind chatting about your experience.
I hope the distance relationship works out and that the girlfriend is a truthful and loyal person. ..you can be one of the lucky ones Speaking from experience , distance relationships seem so great at the beginning but as time goes on it changes dramatically as time marches on....its a big investment financially and with time and it's more painful to see it c dissolve infront of your eyes than a local relationship.
Thanks for your response. I've had a couple of long-distance relationships, and you're right about investment and continuity over time. My previous long-distance relationships were domestic, so this is a wholly different animal.
i am going to stay positive as much as i can but this interview made me very very uncomfortable. granted i have been traveling to colombia for 18 years but this interview was red flag after red flag not just the woman. He is a newbie in every sense but that is no reason to be burned. rob should have just stopped the interview and had a come to jesus intervention jmo.
