I’m natural but hardly ever wear my natural pattern. It’s difficult to manage. I enjoy stretched hair and protective styles. I’ve been using heat a lot in the last few months and my hair is flourishing. I’m over the relaxed vs natural debate. I’m here for healthy hair tips PERIODT!
@@SarahR2D2 OMGeee… Y’all! I just basically wrote the same thing! You have to do what is right for you!! My little girl’s hair is beautiful, but she will NOT allow me to comb it when it’s natural. It’s horrible! And even worse, when she gets it braided she is in pain for a few days after because the braids are tight to her scalp! I just wish everyone would stop assuming that I’m an idiot and/or I don’t love my daughter because we relax her hair!
@@Givebackthescarf My friend, you are entitled to believe what you wish. When she was two years old I had to hold her with my LEGS, and pry her mouth open with my left hand, just to be able to get the toothbrush in her mouth with my right. All the while she was running away, screaming bloody murder, thrashing around... That MUST happen every day. Hair? Hell no. I can cut it short and/or straighten it to make her life more enjoyable. You don't know my child, her anxiety, temperament, sensory issues, or her needs. So it's probably best for me to make decisions on her behalf and not you. I'd like to avoid the neighbor's calling CPS to report that I'm abusing my child because of her terrible screams just so she can have natural hair... because someone on RU-vid says I don't love my kid if I straighten it. lol. Lastly, I have been doing her hair since the day she was born. I have done it exactly how my friend, a natural advocate and professional braider said. I detangle and not on dry hair. I did it all the ways.... and guess what? She didn't start crying about it till she was two years old... same time she started protesting her teeth being brushed. Maybe it was developmental? Maybe it was neurological... I don't know. But here we are... fighting about it on RU-vid. You are one of the natural Nazi's... and being white, or "yte" as you say, doesn't make me less knowledgeable about my child's needs. Her own birth mom taught me about her hair... In fact, when she visited us once, she even tried to do her hair and saw what I go through. lol. We've had many a bonding giggle over it. Pick your nose... pick your seat... but ya don't get to pick MY child's hair.
I was relaxed my whole life (>20 yrs) and went natural a few years ago. I would say that I am heat trained because I like to straighten my hair often. I say do what works for you!
@@twolala1 I transitioned for about a year before cutting the relaxed ends off. My hair was trained about a couple of months after doing silk presses every two weeks. I was also using marcel irons and that could have been a factor…
Beautiful relaxed hair ladies! Don't know why people worried so much about your hair. Whether relaxed or natural. You're the ones that have to maintain the health of your hair. Got my first relaxer at 12. Been relaxed 30 + years and natural for 4 years now. Tried telaxing twice. Didn't work out for me. 😊
I was natural for 15+ years. Hated the journey the entire length. I would try every regimen, routine, and product but my hair would still end up being difficult. I have very thick, coarse hair with tons of shrinkage. Since I've been back to relaxers, it's been a breath of fresh air. I actually enjoy styling my hair and how quick it is. I'll still support ya'll wether you decide to transition or not but I enjoy the relaxed hair content the most since there's not a ton of relaxed heads here on YT but do what works best for ya'll 😊💖
Whyyyyyyyy you guys? LOL. Why are there so many people worried you going natural? It’s hilarious . Your hair is so beautiful and healthy and it fits your lifestyles. I say that’s a reason to celebrate your relaxed hair! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤗 ✨💛✨
The checking in comment “are they still relaxed?” got me 🤣🤣 it’s all in good fun, I don’t take offense to it. You’re absolute correct in that should be celebrating our relaxed hair. Thank you!! 💗💗
I went back to natural a while ago and will never go back to relaxing again. I've learned about my hair and how to care for it. Now it's long, voluminous, healthy and much more beautiful than before. I don't want to end up with flat hair anymore, I love the volume I have now too much to go back. I use heat twice a year to straighten my hair, not more, I'm too afraid of damaging my hair. Of course, this is a personal choice and everyone does as they please.
Hear training has been very effective for what I wanted to do, ( losen tight curls & change dry, hard hair texture) Heat training breaks down the protein in the hair, just like relaxers.
Been relaxed for 3 years I finally went natural. I've been transitioning for 13 months. I cut my hair this week and feel so happy with it 😃I don't think am going back to relaxers. I didn't regret having relaxed hair. My hair was growing well because I was taking care of it very well.
I'm back to relaxers. What I miss most of natural is the thickness or xtra volume. But my hair is pretty healthy for relaxed. I don't feel like starting over 🤷🏾♀️
I got my first relaxer over 30+ years then went natural and then to be texlaxed (up till now) which I decided I liked better rather than having full straight hair. Health doesn't allow me to deal with natural hair and really anyways, I like stretching for up to 3 months and then texlax my hair leaving some type of pattern in my hair. I also retain soo much length!
Hey lovely ladies! You two are so adorable. I was relaxed/texlaxed for about 10 years straight and only stopping during all three of my pregnancies. I loved my hair, and it was very long although I never relaxed it to "bone Straight". I just went natural during pandemic (April of 2020) and also did a big chop then. I wanted to cut off the permed ends, but I ended up cutting more and more to see if I liked short hair and what my natural curls looked like. Natural long hair is not for everyone, and you have to do what works for your taste. I will kindly say though that perm naturally weakens the hair strands and relaxing to bone straight will eventually weaken the hair so much that breakage occurs more often. Contrary to what some may think, you really don't need to trim healthy hair that often. Twice a year is what I did when my hair was long but do what's best for you and what you feel your hair responds to. Best of Luck! 🧡🧡
I went natural purely for health reasons as relaxers are major endocrine disruptors and are still linked to fibroids. I also hate flat hair. It takes a lot of work for natural though. I tried an amino acid treatment that helped with manageability but I want something looser. I'm looking into a curl reformer as those are thio based and less toxic. I'm not going to guilt anyone for the decisions they make.
I did the Japanese Straight Perm on my own hair because my scalp was way too sensitive to keep getting relaxers. The sodium hydroxide aren’t harsh on your hair (as much) but brutal on your scalp. So I recommend researching thio based relaxers more and considering it
Y’all’s hair is beautiful and as long as you take care of it, there’s nothing wrong with your method. I really missed my relaxer when I was transitioning to natural. I actually would “cheat” and relax my edges periodically because I couldn’t stand the new growth lol. I had been relaxed for so long that I wasn’t even sure how to deal with the natural; however, over time (it was a while) I came to grips with my natural hair and love it!
Natural hair a girl here who enjoys your videos! I am a heat trained natural. I get my hair straightened (roller set and blow out) every month and my hair is bra strap length. I’ve been relaxed but I would never go back because I didn’t enjoy the experience of being relaxed but it’s just a personal choice. I’ve had setbacks both natural and relaxed so for me it’s about what works best.
Been relaxed for over 40 years, just went natural only because I use "Grew By Me" shampoo and conditioner. I wash, condition, and blow dry my hair weekly and it looks fabulous! Not sure if I'll go back for now. I believe it has a lot to do with the type of hair you have as to whether or not natural is for you. My hair is responding positively to the style and it looks relaxed. I will admit my edges around my crown need training and will curl up when my hair is dirty. Otherwise, I'm very satisfied and support you guys with your personal decision! Keep up the good work! Oh, I also steam my hair at least twice a month for hydration and it is bouncing and behaving! I did start off with cutting 5 ' off my hair to start, though. It's still shoulder length, but a fresh start is always good!
I relaxed my hair for 18yrs, and my relaxed hair was very healthy. I had tailbone length relaxed hair when I decided to go natural. I'm multiple racial so I have curly hair. After going natural for 2 years I decided to relax my hair again because I just rather my hair straight because it cost less to maintain and I live in Trinidad so curly hair product is not cheap! I relax my hair every six or seven months.
Oh so you went back and then came back to relaxed! Nice! And 6 or 7 months is good for a stretch. You’re so right, I totally forgot to mention how much I’d probably be spending on products too.
RU-vid naturals are very strict (and forceful), it’s a bit odd. I am a heat trained natural - we’re hard to find 😌. Edit: heat training is better for people who cannot do chemicals; or hair/scalp cannot handle chemicals. I aim to elongate/straighten my curl pattern permanently.
I have bounced back and forth between relaxed, natural, and a perm(Gina Curl, then Wave Nouveau) during the last 7 years. My hair is to collar bone length now in its natural state. I will be honest it is too much to handle! The frizz and bushiness of type 4 hair for me, as well as long detangling sessions are no fun. I'm past 40 yrs. old and got my first relaxer around 10 because my heat-trained BSL hair was too much for my mom to handle. Oh and the shrinkage sucks too. Now, I'm doing crochet braids and wigs because of how low maintenance they are. I'll do this another six months or so, then probably get a Japanese hair straightener or Gina Curl. The two of you take very good care of your hair, it's beautiful!
Wow a lot of people are switching to Japanese straight perms. I personally love it because it’s so low maintenance and versatile. It’s been about 3 months and the stretch doesn’t feel bad at all
Ahh you're the first to mention the Gina Curl..lol We got so much hate on the other 2 videos we did on the Gina Curl, but you're doing what works for you. Sometimes you gotta try different methods. Kudos to you!
@@twolala1 I ventured out and did it myself then filmed a review here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pd6g5Ws2ago.html I’m looking at getting a touch up in the salon though because a salon here offers the touch up for just $150, but I’ll see how it goes. It is such a loooong process
I was doing something similar to you. I was relaxing my hair about every 8 months. So I thought I may as well try natural. I’ve been natural about 4 1/2 years now. I doubt I will go back because of the thickness and volume. But who knows…I never say never. I’m happy with my natural hair now. I say do what works for you.
This is hilarious.. why is everyone obsessed with you ladies going natural? Honestly if i had you ladies texture I probably would relax 1-2x a year. I'm sure if the stretch was detrimental to your hair, you guys wouldn't continue the stretch. Everyone should be handing their hair in a way that works or benefits them.
Hun u said the gospel rite thing! Ppl feel like a relaxer is of the devil or something, like say what ???? Everyone handles their hair the way that suits them.
I went natural over 10 years ago. I had graduated from high school and started to just grow my hair out. I was relaxed from the time I was 12 or 13 years old. I transitioned at age 18. I didn't get a big chop but I just let my hair grow out and got it trimmed until all the relaxed ends were gone. I get a silk press once a month. Sometimes I take breaks and do a rod/roller set or protective styles like braids.
It’s so interesting to see how you manage relaxed hair. My last perm must have been 15 years ago. But I used to do leisure curl treatments till 9 years ago. I have been natural ever since and never going back. I feel like relaxers don’t work too well for people with a very tight curly pattern. It just get soo weak and tangled at the line of demarcation. 🙂 I guess I understand the curiosity of people about your curl pattern especially since you stretch the relaxers so long ☺️☺️Just do you💕💕💕
I’ve always wondered if tight curl patterns affected how a relaxer would work. Thanks for sharing! 💗 I agree we totally understand people’s curiosity and don’t mind it at all.
Ever since I was a child I would play with my hair especially the curls on the kitchen and my mom would get so mad that I would have a bald spot where my hair was. I have relaxe hair since I was thirteen and have tried to go natural but I have a condition called tricholomania(hair pulling). I don't pull my hair but I love playing with my curls to the point my scalp hurts and it causes a lot of breakage to my hair. Every time my roots grow in all up in my hair playing with it and I can't stop until I get my roots relaxe and no longer pick on it because their are no curls. But even when my hair is in a ponytail I find myself playing with it. It's something I have to work through but having fine relaxe hair that is prone to breakage on its own has made me take care of it more.
I've been natural my whole life and I've only just relaxed my hair in 2021. I'm loving it so far. With my relaxed hair I have to moisturise it everyday or else it will be dry as the Sahara Desert lol
Same here. It’s interesting bc most people are the opposite (relaxed their whole life and then go natural). I had tb length hair, but it was so much of a hassle that I’d cry about it. It’s nice to have an actual life now lol. The only thing I will say though is that I’m not used to having to keep up with touch ups. I have a Japanese relaxer and it’s expensive so I can’t get it done as much as I’d like, but it’s worth it for me.
Personally, heat treaining isnt worth it because it takes a while for the curl pattern to change but even then you still have a lot of poof and frizz when it's wet. Im going back to relaxed 😅
😂 I tried a relaxer my hair fell clean out. I imagine it’s because my hair is super thin/fine But 👏🏾 y’all hair is SOOOO thick! It’s crazy. I love it 😭
I’ve had pretty much every chemical/natural hairstyle. Locs, bleached hair, twa, braids, twists, relaxer, heat training, curly perm, (now) Japanese straight perm. Why are people in other people’s heads? Like experiment as much or as little as you want. It’s my 2nd year back to chemically processing my hair after 2 straight years of locs, and my scalp and hair are doing so much better. No matter how much I washed my micro locks, my scalp was still flaky, but now I don’t have problems that often. A sensitive scalp has different needs
I was relaxed for a year and couple of months relaxed and went back natural. I would have transition soon probably less than a year with relaxed hair but people were telling me not to do it. It was very difficult to take care of relaxed hair for me. I return back natural and it's been easier for me. I've natural for 23 years compared to that 1 year of relaxed hair. Having relaxed actually taught me alot about natural hair. When I was transitioning and eventually big chopped I realized my hair had curls and kinks to it. I never really noticed that before which sounds weird but also I was a kid and I transition back I was teen so I paying more attention. I don't regret relaxing but I'll be staying natural forever lol. I think you guys should go natural one day just to see what it's like. You can always go back to relax like ulovemegs did.
II really love your hair! f I remember correctly as its been some time. I was relaxed until about 21. I was relaxed before I was a teenager, sometime in childhood. I've been natural for 23 years, two of which have been as a straight haired natural. I am considering going back to relaxers, I'm over being natural and I don't want to deal with or wear my texture anymore. I want my hair to be straight or at least VERY loose. Hey I was natural for over two decades.
I was relaxed over 20 years went natural for 3 years and went back to relaxer. My naturl hair tangles and knots easily nothing worked relxed hair is easier.
Was relaxed for 20 years and started transitioning when Covid hit. Big chopping next week since 80 % of my hair is now curly. I get blow outs every 1 and half months especially for special occasions
I was relaxed for 15 years then i went natural for 9 months lol and then relaxed for two years then natural for 2 years then relaxed then natural i guess the point is i have been going back and forth I am now relaxed. Honestly i love my hair both ways.
I was relaxed for about 5 years. I was natural for about a year 1.5. I haven’t had a relaxer in 7 months. I was thinking about going natural but the summer is destroying me
Not sure what you ladies are doing nowadays, but I think the damage you’re not considering between being heat trained vs being relaxed is that, yes, over time the heat will loosen your curl pattern, which to some is a form of damage, but relaxers are a chemical and who knows what havoc it’s wreaking on your body and not just your hair. There’s already a study out there that says that relaxers cause uterine cancer so I don’t need any more proof than that to determine which one is more damaging. If you’re doing such long stretches between relaxers and using formaldehyde-free keratin treatments to stretch them, I say why not stick to the keratin treatments only and go from there. Either way, we are all free to choose what to do with our hair but I think everyone who wants you to go natural is coming from a good place.
Our mom use to use it on our hair and I remember not liking it. It was all she had sometimes in that hair cabinet, so that’s what she used. That was years ago, so not sure how I would like it now.
My hair is just like that! I was natural for 12 years. If I tried to flat iron it, it would stay straight for 2.5 seconds!!! hahahaha I just went texlax. LOVE IT! My advice to you: Stop caring what other people think and feeling pressure to "do what they say". Do whatever the hell you want! hahaha
If your hair is healthy no problem but i have alopecia immunology kind and allergic to relaxers so I'm trying to get help with that naturally with herbs any suggestions. Cherokee Shinnecock
My daughter’s hair is relaxed because she cannot handle having it detangled otherwise. It’s so frustrating when people assume that I don’t know how to comb her hair without hurting her. It’s a personal choice. I relaxed her hair based on the advice of a friend who is black. My little girl’s hair is much healthier being relaxed and COMBED than a “natural” rats nest mess. Oh, and my other issue is those who assume that I don’t teach my daughter how beautiful her natural hair is. She is only seven. I have told her a million times that her natural hair is beautiful. BUT… even at seven, I was allowed to choose how I wanted to wear my hair. It’s not okay to assume that I don’t “speak life” into my daughter because her hair is relaxed. …and believe me I’ve heard it all! I wish Team Natural would be less judgmental, and more affirming of doing what is right for each individual.
Don't do it! Resist the Mob! I can promise hair constant breakage and drama! I had uber long hair till I went natural it was always at the mid back.now I have a head of straw.natural hair encourages laziness if u do it yourself and stylists hate to comb it out natural.they rip thru your hair.it takes forever in the salon bc your under the dryer for an eternity and it only stays silky with fabric softener.it will stay longer with relaxer bc better retention with less manipulation.dont believe me.watch someone with natural hair getting it done that's as long as yours.youll never find one.why? Because stylists don't wanna do long natural hair.still wanna try it.go buy a natural wig thats water wave as long as your hair and put it on and go get tour hair done and see how they act! All u need is oils for hair growth and a clear non straightening ( no peroxide/ammonia) cellophane and your hair will be a lot longer
😂 Tahahaah the secret lil club waiting for you to announce that we are Natural Girls...this was funny..and you are right 2.5 seconds it reverts to curls and waves...Nice Content
