We're Judged For Allowing Our 9-Year-Old To Transition | MY EXTRAORDINARY FAMILY 

I was born in 1966. At age 7 I asked to start dressing like a boy down to the under ware and I had my waist length hair cut into a boy's style. My mom supported my choices. Turns out I'm just a tomboy. Totally heterosexual, married 27 years lol. But I really liked having my opinions heard and having the support of my parents.

The parents reading negative comments on social media in front of the child and looking for validation from strangers online is not appropriate

There's something highly unethical about putting your child's face onto a public platform knowing full well that they will be subjected to scrutiny.

"i cant force my kids to eat vegetables" i didnt liked them back then, but now i apreciate the effort mom and dad

Why give put her on Instagram? You are taking her privacy away, especially if she later wants to change back or doesn't want everyone knowing her background.

People nowadays say that toys and clothes don't define gender, that a boy can play with dolls and wear skirts and that's fine, I agree with that, but they contradict themselves when the first moment the little boy plays or dress with something of "girl" they think it's a girl and start treating it like a girl I thought that the objects didn't define the gender I think the choice of gender should be in adolescence and not in childhood (sorry for my bad english)

Why can't a child wear what they want, play with what they want, without parents having to label and transition them.

Did she just compared choosing your gender to eating your vegetables? There is something wrong with this family.

Liking pink, dolls, dresses etc doesn't make you a girl. Lots of girls don't like these things, it doesn't make them a boy. But that's what the child claimed to be the reason to change. She could have still liked all these traditional "feminine" activities etc and be a boy.

I was obsessed with horses when I was a little girl and ran around the house acting like one. I am so glad my parents didn't build a barn for me to live in.

She wasn’t gender non-confirming for liking both boy and girl “stuff”, she just didn’t conform to gender ROLES which is way different. This is dangerous.

The Child hasn't even reached puberty yet. When I was a kid I hated all girl toys and loved cars and tools. I'm completely straight I just like boy toys. Thank you mom and dad for not forcing me to change into a boy... yall need to chill and give your child TIME to decide what to do.

The only issue I see is that a child should not be plastered all over the internet just because she's transgender. Yes, as a parent it's your job to ensure your child's happiness, and safety. I DON'T see how it could possibly be safe to put your child on the internet at such a young age. If when she is older and wants to tell her own story that's one thing, but to put your child on blast for ANYONE to make fun of, belittle, or receive down right cruel remarks doesn't seem like "protecting" your child. I wish people would stop putting their small children on the internet for being "different" when chances are at some point they will see the DISGUSTING things people say about them, and then the child will TRULY suffer emotionally!!!

My male cousins played with dolls when they were younger & I and my female cousins were were super tomboyish. But we grew out of it as we became older. I feel like parents today doesn't allow their kids to go through phases & then grow out of it. They just assume this is it.

“I cant force my child to eat vegetable” “I want you to have everything in life” this is not how you enforce your child the reality of the world.

My concern is that being a girl seems to be rooted in a rigid definition of girls toys girls clothes. That has absolutely nothing to do with being a girl.

The biggest issue is that these parents falsely instill that boys and girls act a particular way so when the son does something that is “girly” (e.g. play with barbies), he thinks he wants to be a girl.

"transgender is (...) or born a boy and you LIKE girl stuff. like me." Well no. That was a horrible explanation. This is literally a social acceptance thing. Just because someone likes "stuff" the other gender is commonly associated with (which is absolutely idiotic btw) does not mean you're automatically transgender. If this is what she is believing then there may be regret in the future. If not then good for you. But that "I like the other genders toys, clothes etc. more so I'm the other gender" is really dangerous in some cases.

I dressed like a boy when I was little, but I never was one. I'm still a girl and proud of it.

How can 18 month old be gender non-conforming, what the heck. At 18 months, most children can't say a full few sentences let alone decide their gender.. Absolutely disgusting to see this parents manipulate their child like this.

That's a big life decision, it's not letting your child chose what to eat

Your 5 year old child said to you "I want to be called she/her"? A 5 year old

Kids aren’t educated enough to make decisions like this at this age. This is child abuse and it’s bad parenting. Instead of blindly putting them into such a massive decision like this they should be educated and taken care of and given a chance in the real world.

I don't know man, I think the parents are pushing it on him. Something is off with them.

I think 8 years old is just way too young to make such a huge decision like that.

As someone who has issues with their gender (gender dismorphia), even I think it’s way too early for the child to transition to the other gender. I do love that the parents are open and accepting of their child however, such a big decision should be made when the child understands the things that come with it. Once they become an adult, then see what they want to do.

"A MOTHER has been accused of child abuse for raising her daughter transgender." As she should be

How the mom stares at the dad after every statement is very telling.

Well I'm glad they didn't give the child transition surgery yet. No one under 18 should have this kind of surgery.

Why was a parents be talking to her about transgender at seven years old I don’t understand that

The mother could only push out three boys and the third one is being told to go on hormones for liking girl clothes and toys? Definitely grooming.

At age 8, my parents didn’t support my desire to transition into a horse.

I’m half and half on this. If this was my child I would be scared to document/share this with the world. Not because I’m ashamed, but because I want to protect my child from the horrible bullies. But I also understand that you can’t always protect your kid. It’s just hard. And documenting and sharing an unknown territory can be very educational, even if viewers disagree. This family has a lot of love and courage.

I honestly think people should reach at least 16 before making a huge decision like that

People over 30; do you remember even ONE "trans" kid growing up? Me neither.

How the hell do you know at 18 months old if a child is gender non conforming just because he didn't like boys toys.I had cars and a garage a castle and knights but it didn't mean I was a boy or wanted to be one ?Absolutely ridiculous.

Children shouldn't be exploited on the internet.

Everyone she has only transitioned social meaning no medical intervention.

You're judged because you put yourself on a public platform where random strangers can comment whatever they want. What did you expect?

She’s so cute 🥺🥺 Even if, as she grows older, she turns out discovering she is not transgender, she will have had a happy childhood and was to be able to express herself the way she wanted to… I think their parents are doing the right thing to let her dress and act the way she wants to, it isn’t harming anyone :)

I'm a little confused on why they needed to explain to a young child what trans meant. Those kind of topics are a bit blurry for me when to bring it up. I think they should have let pronouns, etc. be left alone while letting her do what she wants like toys, clothes, etc. because those things don't dictate who you are.

In all this stories the mother is the leader, the one who talks, who directs, and the father is only watching and hearing.

They taught her about everything she know about transgender. No child knows about things until they are taught. So his parents definitely influenced it 100%

The words "I didn't feel like my true self", "I dont feel like im in the right body" definitely wasnt made by the child on his own. Good heavens.

When I was her age I want to be Elvis, policeman, firefighter, Die Hard evil one character, Dirty Dancing character, Michael Jordan...e.t.c now I'm grown up person and still I wanna be billionaire and immortal of course

No one at that age knows what they're doing, no matter how put together they seem.

Why can't the parents just let him play with dolls instead? Let him remain an boy, he can still play with dolls as one.

It’s very obvious that the mother is abusing her kid. The kid is literally just regurgitating things the mother has told them ‘my true self’ etc sounds a lot like something they’ve been told. She is a sick woman and needs therapy. She is abusing her kids for her own gain on social media and attention. Sick stuff

Can we let kids be kids?

My thing is with these type of people, and yes I’m saying these type of people who go beyond means just to beat the “socially normal” ways. They refuse to hear any criticism or disagreements. They automatically call you an online bully, hater etc. They will call you judgmental but if you put your whole life on the internet you are asking for it. It appears that the mother is controlling the situation here and contradicts herself a lot. Hopefully this little girl is actually transgender and not a boy who happens to enjoy barbies and pink.

“My child likes the color pink and likes to play with dolls so they are gender non-conforming” is just so incredibly closed-minded. Can these parents please quit stereotyping their child’s behavior into a girl/boy box?

"Activist Mom Manipulates Her Child Into Thinking She Has Dysmorphia"

Gender dysphoria is a clinical diagnosis where a person, child or adult, does not associate him/her self with their biological gender at birth. in some cases, the dysphoria is very deep-rooted and to press such a person into a mould which society envisages for that person is to make that person's life a misery and possibly suicidal. Hormone blockers can be used to delay puberty, but these may not be enough and surgical intervention may be necessary. Such decisions are not made lightly but are based on psychological, life-style and need, involving clinical professionals. The main drawback from clinical intervention is the subsequent inability of transitioned children to have their own children later on in life when they become adults. This factor might not be understood in younger children.

"I can't force my kids to eat their vegetables let alone change their gender"..... My God.. Very obvious the mother did whatever she wanted when she was young, no discipline from her own parents, then you get parenting like this.

I believe that children this young don't have the mental maturity to make these life changing decisions for themselves. If after, maybe about age 12 and a lot of counseling, they still feel this way, I'd say go ahead. And I don't think it's appropriate for the parents to show their child on camera.

The brothers are so nice tho! I love their acceptance and understanding.

I would teach my child to be kind no matter what someone looks like

Not to hate but I think the parents should wait till shes 16 years old or over because once you take the hormones and gender surgery she won't be able to have kids of her own and for sure once she's much older she will definitely feel different so I hope her parents wait till she's older before she takes hormones or change gender.

I want to see an update 10-15 years from now. It will be guaranteed this CHILD will have regretted what his parents did to him based on his own emotions and feeling, that I’m sorry, are not relevant at this age. No child is this confused so young. It’s what they hear and see from the parents.

How could one possibly know anything about their sexuality at 9 years old. It’s before puberty it’s before any real education or social interactions. You literally know nothing about life at that point which is fine because at that age you are just supposed to be having fun and learning

I realized that no one is happy in this world...its like a hand full of people authentic left. Otherwise we living in the last episode of the twilight zone...

The most important thing is to define what really is "old enough". By no means am I against trans people - my best friend is trans, which hasn't changed our relationship in the slightest - but ultimately you can't give an 8-year-old the power to decide what they do with their health; that just defeats the purpose of parents.

I'm 24 now and at age 7, I realized I'm really different from other boys. I hate to be called he/him and hate to be treated as a boy. I feel embarrassed when I use the male washroom, so I never go to the public toilet for one and a half decades. But I just got to understand what's transgender at age 22. Throughout the 15 years, I tried to commit suicide five times and fortunately, I didn't succeed. After coming out as a transgender girl last year, I realized how beautiful the world is. The world doesn't change, but I changed my way to see the world. I always ask myself why didn't I start my transition in the early days. That would definitely ease my anxiety and pressure during my puberty. But anyway, I wish more parents would understand their kids in the future and more happy kids can grow in the way they are.

“ I can’t force my kids to eat vegetables” it is your responsibility as a parent to raise your child with a healthy diet… and mind… you are failing.

That's like having a vegan cat, we all know who's making the decision

Kids are very vulnerable to suggestions. Liking certain toys, clothes, or colors does not mean trans. I’m an all girl mom with 3 daughters. Only one likes pink, bows, and girly things. The other two have no interest in girly things and I could get them anything they dreamed of and if it arrived pink they’d probably instantly hate it, but I guarantee they aren’t trans. One of my daughters has an oversized sweatshirt Billie Eilish clothing style but talks of wearing sneakers under her wedding dress that match her husbands. I feel that children should just be, and later on if they’re struggling ask them questions to help them figure things out but don’t suggest or rush into anything.

I use to hear my older sister said she wish she was a boy all the time, she now has 7 children and a man as a mate when asked why she use to say she wanted to be a boy. She said she did not really she just wanted to enjoy the freedom our brothers enjoy, they were able to go out and stay out late and did not do much choirs, meanwhile she feel stuck on the house baby sitting me and my smaller brother and stuck cooking cleaning and laundry. She just did not want to do any of that, so becoming a boy was how her young brain told her to escape. I was a Tom boy most of my life climbing tree, go fishing, playing cards and marble games driving toy cars truck and fighting 😂 and I do it all too in dress😂 my brothers and a country life influence my interaction

The mother clearly was wanting a girl and she had a boy, so she steers this child into being a girl.

I'll reserve my opinion for when we get follow ups on these situations years from now... but I hope the transition works out for her.

So happy she got supportive parents and when the dad said “ Abuse will be not letting her be her true self” PERIODT. Love the parents

He was reciting what he was told to say at the end of the video.

Gender “nonconforming” at 3 years old? That’s the issue there. Just because a kid likes blue more than pink, or unicorns and dolls more than fire trucks and dump trucks doesn’t mean they’re “gender noncomforming”. Toys and colors don’t have a gender.

She said “ I was sad because I didn’t feel like myself.” She knows what she’s talking about

At seven I told my parents I was a cat in a human body.

When I was 9 years old I was a "tomboy" I dressed like a boy, wanted my hair short, begged for a remote control car for my birthday instead of barbies, played with the boys and found girls boring. I never had a pretty room or played dress up. My mom let me do my thing but she would always encourage me to be more girly or do "girly" things. I am so grateful I didn't grow up in this day and age, these poor children must be so confused and so are their parents! Today I am a girly girl, married to a wonderful husband and have a gorgeous baby boy. Just because your child has shown interest in something "not meant for their gender" does not mean you now have to change their identity completely! Then again, if parents these days responded the way my mother did back in the day, they would be called out for "not supporting their child in this modern world".....and what a world it has become!

“Not letting her be who she is.” Ummmm He’s a boy. That’s who he is.

Why can't the parents wait? Why can't they let their child dress up as a girl at home and be a boy in public? Let the child potential outgrow this. If they still feel this way in their teens then sure transition but not when ur 9!

Letting a 9 year old choose to transition... I’ve seen it before so good-luck when “she” turns 19 and regrets it...

It isn't about not playing with toys and clothes or whatever. These people aren't understanding that you can do all this without gearing the kid towards a permanent change. You can have your kid play with dolls or whatever without convincing them there is some legitimate way for them to undo their biology. If your kid wanted you to let them be a fish and swim alone in the ocean you would stop them, & just take them to the pool. Yet here they don't understand.

these parents love clout more than their own child

I honestly wish you would let these kids grow up first and if that’s what they want to do when they are grown/18 and educated cause just maybe they might have a change of mind. And once you lose it you can’t get it back. Education and growth. Then you let the CHILD do what they believe in and want for their life.

I have seen several RU-vidrs who are transferring back and having problems. They all said, a child shouldn't be allowed to make these choices. They need so much surgery now. Just a different perspective on this

Your child might want to wear girl clothes which is fine but to go ahead and changed her whole gender is straight up crazy. Children that age also wants have ice cream for breakfast but do we allow them to do that? No because they’re CHILDREN.

I feel like some people don't realize what hormone blockers are. You know if the child decided to not transition, they can stop and continue going through their puberty. Also hormone blockers are allowed to those who are diagnosed with gender dysphoria. And sugries are typically allowed when the person has reached legal age. So there are many chances for the child to back out if they truly dont feel like they are trans.

People said being “Trans isn’t gods away” but being mean is? Edit : Fr,the war of comments wasn’t intended-

There is no such a thing as "boy/girl things" like "boy toys" or "girl hobbies", and if you force a kid to do things associated to a specific genre, forbiding the opposite, the kid will want to change his/her genre, but it doesn't implied a change of genitals or identity. These parents are determining the kid's future based in wrong assumptions.

My child can dress and identify however they want but there’s no way in hell they will ever get the ok for surgery before they’re 18 they are too young to know they won’t regret it there’s a reason we’re not aloud to get tattoos until 18 and this is an even bigger life altering decision

It's very telling that this boy doesn't know his father.

I just want to say I'm all for doing whatever is best for your child. But God I hope that child doesn't change their mind... it will be too late and the hormone blockers will cause irreversible damage.

My son went through a phase of wanting to be ‘girly’ around 6 years old too.. but I told him ‘No.. because you’re a boy.’ As a single mom, I recognized he was mostly only exposed to female role-models (like mom, grandma, teachers, daycare workers, etc.) and I continued only buying him boy clothes and toys. Surprisingly, he’s not currently growing up as gender-confused 10 year old. He appreciates being a boy, and expresses great interest in becoming a grown man some day. 🙂 However, I doubt that would be the case had I AND his dad (if he were around) ENCOURAGED those sassy behavioral whims by painting his room pink, & buying him skirts, barbies, & lip gloss. People don’t accept biological males in female sports (logically) because of the unfair physical advantage.. and MOST people don’t want a relationship with a transgender person simply because IT ISN’T NATURAL.. so the future dating potential for transgender kids is either limited at best, if not founded on deceit. Transgender kids shouldn’t be brought up under a false notion that they won’t face any serious obstacles throughout life as a result, or with a false sense that society is in ANYWAY obligated to continue expressing the same level of enthusiasm toward them as an adult, as their ‘parents’ have throughout their childhood.. because for the most part, they simply aren’t. And that rude awakening & stark reality can often become overwhelmingly devastating for teens.. as the suicide rates unfortunately indicate. And this isn’t ‘society’s’ fault either.. society is fulfilling their obligation with transgender employment, school acceptance, etc.. but you can NEVER criminalize someone for asserting the position ‘I respect that you’re transgender, but it just isn’t for me ..so I’d rather date someone else.’ or ‘I’d rather just hang out with this other person.’ THAT ALONE.. that personal rejection, which cannot be regulated.. is something any kid who’s being raised as transgender should be prepared for.. because like it or not.. that’s just the reality they will face. Acceptance on the surface, but often nothing more. 😥 Prayers for this kid. 🙏🏼 - God Bless

My 6 siblings and I NEVER had a thought, organic inclination or desire to be other than what we were born, as children. That is occurring only due to the interference of imbalanced adults. period.

I think kids should just be kids. They don't fully understand what roles genders play yet, no need to ruin their child innocence with these topics. If they feel like they want to be the opposite gender, they'll transition in their own time. It's a decision that you cannot reverse so the kid needs to be mature enough to make that decision by themselves. Otherwise, no matter how much the kid tries to convince you they made the decision, it's obvious that the parents either rushed them or made the decision for them.

When I was like 8 or 9 i loved Bratz dolls and My Little Pony but thank god my parents did not think I was transgender and have me transition. I think 9 is way too young. The flag with her face on it makes me think the parents played a big roll in this transition..... Part of me is sentimental with the parents because I am not sure what I would do too, but 9 is way too young in my opinion. I definitely am against putting the child on hormone blockers at such a young age

We live in a world where you can get judged for being overweight, work on yourself to lose the weight and get healthy.....only to be judged again for being to skinny or maybe having loose skin. As long as this family is happy that's what matters. Be kind

im so iffy about this.. if she wants to detransition, itll be EXTREMELY difficult. she will never be able to have kids either because of puberty blockers. i really hope the parents did a huge amount of research and explained the severity of it because this child cannot comprehend the downsides of transitioning. i really pray with all my being that this is what she truly wants and she lives a happy life! people who have detransitioned are extremely depressed and 100% regret what they’ve done to their body. if that happens… she will be miserable in her own skin 😭 i really hope this is what she wants..

A child that age is much too young to transition. Kids learn sex education at around 11 years old. What deep feeling would they have about gender? And even if they do have an innate understanding, kids are not equipped to make that decision. A person simply should be an adult at least before deeciding to make such a decision.

I deleted my original comment. I can’t put my thoughts into words. This is a new one for me.I’m an objective person so I see their side, but I’m also a realist and there’s some conflict there. I’m going to follow this story.

when I was a kid I always wanted to be a boy, I feel that it was influenced because I am the only girl in my family and I have two brothers. I even once went to the prize section in a certain competition and replaced the doll I won with a toy car. During my teenage years, I have questioned myself whether I'm a boy or a girl. It happened more often after I got to know about the LGBTQ people. Now as a grown-up I know I was just a tomboy. Usually, children grow out of their gender dysphoria in time by waiting and reasoning or with "help from a therapist or psychologist. I feel like transition affirmative therapies inflict lasting harm to the child by experimenting on the child.

I get it all but putting your child out there like this? Clearly making money off your child and that is wrong.

I used to be a nanny for a little boy who was allowed to carry a purse, play with dolls, and watch “girl” cartoons like My Little Pony. He was still a lovely little boy and I’m so glad his mother saw that he was just a boy being himself instead of being denied something “girlie.” Still a boy.