Answer for the second question: Men dont owe you marriage after meeting two times, like you dont owe men sex for dating them. Its a two way street. Women should have more self worth then begging to marry every guy they meet in the second meeting. When you will think that you dont have any value addition to offer in men's life except sex. Then men will only look for sex. In my dating experience, whenever I ask a woman what are your dreams and goals during first meeting; they reply "my dream is to get married". Have some self identity and self respect atleast. You will be treated by men like you treat your ownself.
I get what you're saying, even myself I get astoshied sometimes seeing that many girls' dream is to "belong" to someone. But that's not always the case, There are many other who want much more in life and see men as a wall between them and their gaols. In my "dating experiece" (wudnt call it dating though, just online interaction) what men only offer is direct marriage, where they want you to be the "princess" they wanna keep at home, or only a fling.. there's no between. As I always say; too halal for some and too haram for others...
Regarding 3rd question, I am in a similar boat probably worse. Married a lower middle class girl from Pakistan and brought her to states. Her stance is to fund her family every month which I do because if my wife is not happy due to her family calling and complaining about their financial issues, then how can I be happy looking at her so I help as much as I can. She is a full time home maker. you sometimes cant do much in these situations. Theres always an easy way out but i feel like it would be unfair.
I’m sorry for what you’re going through , but this isn’t the solution. I think it’s because you earning in $$$ that’s why they are looking towards you .They should earn by themselves and stand on their feet and take responsibility rather than relying on you which means that your worth is only tied to money. Also I think your wife should learn some skill in states and start earning money in order to help her family. There are various options in states where you can also work as a part-time employee.
sir how can you be with someone who you know only is loving you for your money? Like what if you someday ( Allah apko mazeed de ) are not able to support her family, will she stop loving you? These type of women who only thinks about them are way too much toxic.
BROOOOOOO I PREPARED MY FOOD AND CLICKED ON THE VIDEO. And my inners literally melted after I read “23 hours”. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 oh man, can’t live without askganji
Could you kindly make a video on the situation going on in Karachi zoo? We need influential people to raise this issue so that we, as a nation, can close as much zoos as we can. The mismanagement and maltreatment of animals is heart wrenching.
The wife sharing everything with her family is a train wreck and there is almost nothing that the guy can do to fix it. No matter what he does that family will keep on trying to control his life because it's a sport for them.better to move on, and I know it's not easy because of his daughter but going back to Pakistan just so that he can fix this useless relationship which will be run by the family even if he manages to convince the woman.don't waste your settled life for this.
3rd question:- I’m taking your word here. If your story is true and you really want the best for your daughter and can’t let go of her, then lie again and again until your wife willingly brings your daughter back. Then start recording your conversations and collect evidences of her committing fraud with the govt money. Put hidden cameras around the house so that she can’t fake call cops. Don’t ever get physical because that will be the end of your career too. Don’t hand out cash to your wife. Give her cards or something so that you can trace the flow of the money. Once you get a good enough evidence start negotiations. Half custody or full custody. If you wanna save your marriage then give her options of either limiting her contacts in Pakistan or get a job herself if she wants to take care of her Pakistani family.
You don't say all that when gender roles get swapped..... Why should he get in trouble for getting physical?? He should rather be supported for it ..... Secondly,why only he has to go through all that hassle of providing evidence or other things?? He should be listened to and believed
@@Logicalsane brother he is living in abroad not in Pakistan Legally speaking even in Pakistan there are strick laws relating to physical and even sexual harassment
@@Abubakar_khokhar_ that's one of the problems ..... Those laws are just from feminists and should be removed..... That's unfair towards men .... only those laws should be made which favour men because men are right 99.99 percent of the time..
My opinion it’s one sided story I have some friends here in uk who don’t give their wife any pocket money they think she will spend it on her family 😒 husband don’t even allow wife to do any job on their own 😒 I think this man himself is toxic. Alteast he should have her $300 to spend if he is well payed employee or $200 😏 but no he just ask her I will give you 8% 😒 and the recording of his calls to his parents….😂 that’s mean he was the one who was talking shit about her to his family.#AskGanjiswag you shouldn’t tell him anything without listening to the other side look yourself a middle class girl who’s family is no rich and already divorced sister living with her parents… how can she think about ruining her abroad life 😒common sense
@@Logicalsane you know what I am not trying to blame all men I was just talking about this man on behalf of my own experience one of my friend is married to this mentality man 😒 And as per my own self I am not doing any job and it was my mother in law who told my husband to give me pocket money so I can buy anything for anyone it’s also a Islamic thing to give your wife pocket money. You are the one who is thinking against women did you know her story? You can’t blame her after listening him and nobody should give him advice to take his daughter from her mother Allah won’t forgive him for doing this May Allah guide us all
I suggest the third question guy to take divorce, life is too short for so much drama and if the wife wants to be with her family and earn for them then so be it.
2nd question: you shouldn’t lose hope! Stop looking for that person in the wrong places, and stop reaffirming your belief of not finding the one by looking at pakistani society that’s not for you. You are never too old to find your person. I have been in your boat woman, I divorced myself from an abusive marriage and at the age of 35, after years I have found my perfect person after meeting so many bad men.. you shouldn’t lose hope! There are good people out there, the key to finding your person is to be happy with yourself first. It sounds stupid but it’s true. The day you realize your worth, start staying happy with what you have and say no to anything that doesn’t add value to your life, you’ll get closer to finding the one. When you’ll be happy and not even searching for the one, you’ll come across that person just randomly!
44:27 The two best things my mentor taught me. 1) If your dog starts barking at you , someone else is feeding it. This quote is not about dogs☕ 2) No matter how good of a man you are you will never be good enough for a girl who isn't ready to be a woman.
To the person whose wife is under influence of her family, Similar thing happened to my ex boyfriend. He got an arranged marriage, so they started having similar problems. His wife asked for a divorce, he refused and ultimately she filed for a Khula. He knew nothing would work although he tried his best to save his marriage. Fast forward, he married someone else ( though he has not divorced the 1st wife yet). I suggest you should also find someone else who you can best be compatible with and have a good life. But be careful this time, do your full research and everything. Don't wait for her or expect she will change, don't waste your time!! Sorry if this offends anyone :)
20000 salary is very low in this era. I was getting 20000 rs in 2013 when I joined as a Fresher. Currently it should be at least 50000 rs for a fresher software engineer.
@@Logicalsane mjhy kisi ny Allah rasool ki jhooti kasam kha k loot lia hy pyar k nam py meri izat mere paissy mera time mera sb kuch ly lia r tm a k mjhy bta rhy ho k kya sahi hy r kya ghalat agr ghalti sy kisi mard ny hi orat k dukh r msly ko dmjh lia to tmhy favourable lg rha hy
@@Samrak-t9n your argument is flawed because much worse happens to men all the time but rules and standards don't change.... The denial in your last comment is a perfect example of the disturbing and cruel mindset that women have got..
These podcasts have provided me with such valuable insights that traditional educational institutions would never have offered. I am getting hitched tomorrow and still listening to your podcasts 😂 , These series are really addictive. Your content helped me figure out the type of Pakistani men , I don't wanna be. Thank You Junaid ❤🫶🏻✨ love from Wales 🏴
not every man is trash, there r good men everywhere but guess what? girls in thier early ages go about looking for bad boys or a walking red flag but when they get ditched then they say where r all the good men? Girl u prolly friend zoned him
Third question, learn to play back with the players. Pretend and patch up with her, agree to her demands, dont overdo it else she might get suspicious. Once you are on good terms bring her back to canada with your daughter, and then be yourself again and stop pretending anymore. Dont let her leave with your daughter even again
I am from India and I love to listen to this person. This person is a gem and I urge Pakistani people to listen his podcast as many as possible. There are some misconceptions about Indian society to Pakistani people and also to Junaid sir. I urge Junaid to sir not to comment on Indian society blindly if you don't know much about Indian society. First talk to Indian counterpart if you have any friend from India.
To the guy who has a wife who has gone from Canada to Pak with his daughter and now working in a job in Pak the sad reality is that this marriage is practically over and for you to waste your time chasing them is not the right path as it will only lead to misery. You are lucky have parents get them to communicate and remember everything happens for a reason. You are still young, I had to endure this situation at age 45 so was much harder and had 3 kids and my spouse wouldn't let me meet them, was abusive and blackmailed me but they were in Britain but similar laws, threatening me that she would call cops if I tried to come to their house(a house I had bought her for cash and zero mortgage). I accepted my fate and with no parents or sisters managed to find and marry a very nice soft spoken, Pakistani girl (arranged) and now we have a 4 year old beautiful girl. To aid my wife's career I got her to use her cuilinary skills and she is a chef now and she insists that she gets paid into our joint account and never asks for any money so I just make sure there is alot of money in the home in cash for her to use but she never goes shopping and instead wants us to feed poor people in ramadan in pak or buy a goat for qurbani or help poor relatives but she doesnt want spending on herself, so good people do exist so now I feel extremely lucky. Don't waste your life, try for a while and give it a deadline but you really need to move on as time passes very fast. Good luck.
Junaid you are doing a wonderful job. JUST ONE THING I always notice missing in your podcast is the fact that GO WITH THE FLOW reiteration. From my experience in life, I believe struggle can lead you to wonders. BUT it is totally ok to fail and go with the flow when you don't know what to do with life. We need to be easy on ourselves. We punish ourselves all the time in our thoughts. So please take this up in your podcasts that If something bad happens, don't worry, just accept it. Let it be. you are not perfect. you are not born to be perfect. you are what you are. things will be fine :)
Junaid bhai! Being an entrepreneur I can really feel your pain but the way you put it forward, shows your integrity and honestly. I always admire your thought process. Lots of love from 🇮🇳
Relationship nowadays; Women enjoy there younger self like there is no tomorrow they stumble upon a good men not nice guys A Good gentleman but they eventually got bored and tired and in there mind there is no thrill and mystery for example a man came across a women you did all efforts she knows you care alot you will be there for her but she doesn’t want you she want a toxic dude which will keep her on the edge she will leave the goood guy cause there is no mystery she knows you are into her more then she is in the beinging of the relationship and then when they reach a certain age then they complain where are the goood men He was standing there in front of you while you were looking for thrill My advice is for Boys/girls let things settle dont rush things build yourself first Go to gym , earn good money , read books , spend alone time with yourself a person who doesn’t conquered loneliness, will always find validation from others remember your first priority is You
The reason men don't accept certain type of women as spouse, from the second question is because men know there are women out there in this world that acts a certain way, from the question 3 and they don't want to deal with it.
3rd question, i know you must be reading these messages. Remember, you have to do this for the sake of your daughters future. Do it once, and believe me this is the only option you have which will minimally impact your life. Pretend and lie to get your daughter back in your country of residency by any means
and then must leave her. men can only deal with so many things if he has peace of mind otherwise not. You shouldn’t be living in hell for the rest of your life sir!
Kindly do not discuss the religious topics or comment against polygamy. You are wrong in this case. Please try to stick to poor cultural norms and avoid religion topics. Only a suggestion. Rest upto you. Its nice to listen to your videos so keep up the work.
Junaid bhai As much as you bash Desi men (and rightfully so), please do raise awareness among people to avoid women like in the 3rd email. Clearly, main issue is Whatsapp made arrange marriage where parents fall in love with each other and want their aulaads to do as well.
point on 22:51 "Larkon ko parents sekhaty han tum ny serf exist karna hai" What the hell man. I am an engineer and my whole life till now is total struggle, pehly studies ke aur pressure ke hamesha good grades lene han and then ke skill full hona hai aur graduation ke sath sath kam kar ke study complete ke pehly family ke sath rehta tha but ab akela reh raha hon in Karachi for better career opportunities aur I do all my works from cocking to cleaning to what ever needs to be done and with the full time job and i am sure mere jese bohat aur larky bhi honge, Supporting family financially and progressing, everyday brings new challenges kabhi halat kharab kabhi ye mehnga wo mehnga bhai konsi jagha rehty ho ap jahan serf larkon ko exists karna hota hai?
Polygamy is not a cultural issue, it is a religious issue..I don't understand the concept. Some people justify it by saying that It prevents people from cheating. It is like saying, yeah people kill, so let's allow 4 legal killings for they don't do anything illegal..bs
Ohk so firstly multiple marriages are allowed by Allah on the condition that the man is FAIR. And then Allah moves on to say that it is better if you stay with one wife as being fair is TOUGH. While it is allowed it comes with conditions. Those conditions are often forgotten or not highlighted enough. Isliye sirf mardon ko dusri ya teesri shaadi ka pata hai in islam but they are those who cant be fair with themselves let alone their wives. Then why is it allowed? Its allowed so men can play a very important role in the society. A role of responsibility. Multiple marriages make sense esepcially for women who are either divorcees out of toxic relations or women who may be orphans or women who have nobody to protect them or for widows who struggle without a companion in life. We all need companions. Most women in our society become helpless or alone due to various circumstances and it is also their right to have a man who can be responsible for her, someone who can give her support love compassion comfort and above all a better life. Not all women can get independent or be fearless or strong enough by themselves that theyll be fine on their own. So it makes sense then. I say this again, for men it is NOT EASY. Most men fail at being fair. But if they can be fair. If they can build a life in which a woman can get a chance for a better life and if these men can be honest and be real then multiple marriages can also be a blessing.
its because some bitch ass men use this right or always talk about it because they lust over women. Men have to marry poor women, women with acid attack, widow women but instead they want a smexy women but they ain't getting one cuz men have to give them separate home, time and money. but men are broke bitches who waste time on corn🥱 so chill ladies they ain't getting more them one they can't afford.
34:12 Junaid Bhai not only divorce girls side ager ek unmarried larka be ager divorce say shaadi krna chata ha to os par be itna he pressure hota ha . I'm suffering from such phase
But what will you say to old age people in Pakistan who themselves demotivate the young ones if younger generation wants to bring change. Everyone in our society needs to seriously change their approach towards life including the over 30 unmarried girls, old aunties and uncles, boys, men, women. Otherwise we are just killing each other on a daily basis by different means.
for the last question. My ex was like that. she even said on her own that “mera dil bhar jata hy larkon se” and i gave her all my love and thought she would stay but she always seems uninterested in the relationship and now right after leaving me she is trying witth other boys and whenever i ask her she get angry and use religion card. she broke up by saying she’s gonna marry as her dad said so lol
to the guy whose wife took the daughter away: You can file a case of kidnapping on her. the daughter is a citizen of the country and the mother can't take the daughter away like this.
For Madam Saira. Yes single women can adopt a child. Miss Hadiqa Qiyani is the live example. She has fought a big court kachehri for this and for that i salute her
Sir! In Australia it depends which area you are living. I mean there are some places where you find totally halal food, mosques are there even in educational institutions have their separate places for prayers. I have lived there but unfortunately I couldn't make it upto where I wanted to go but it was my personal issue otherwise that counrty specifically has everything what we can wish to have.
Isn't it OK to not get married? Aren't we well past this debate already? Not getting married isn't the end of the world. Having a good education and a stable career means nothing if you're not married? How suffocating.
It definitely is okay but as the other commenter said, wanting a partner is okay too. It’s excruciating and emotionally draining to want something you can’t have.
Love is not always found in people, sometimes you find love in your passion. I know people who never got married and conquered mountains. There are plenty of orphans who are looking for love out there and the problem will perish once you go out of Pakistan. You move to a western nation to practice medicine. Two benefits- you make even better career and you find better men. People don’t judge you by age there, trust me.
On the weird men question: Junaid Bhai I would like to say that it’s not just because of the culture that younger women are valued more by men it’s more about our biological instincts that men are wired to get attracted to younger and healthier women and women are wired to get attracted towards strong well settled men who happen to be older than them. This is very basic And using someone is bad but we can’t shame men for having preferences if a 40 year old man prefers to marry a 20 year old women and that women is fine with that let it be, to each their own. Who are we comment on that.
Guy from question 1: real reason your mom has now asked you to not leave them is because she knows that you are a Man Child. Jo mard (aur haan bhai 20/21 ka larka baccha nahi hota) itni itni si baat per depressed hojaye aur suicide ka sochay woh Out of country jaker, sab say alag reh ker to pata nahi kia kerayga apnay saath? Be a man, maturity dikhayee hoti to maa / baap ko bhi sukoon hota k baccha jaha jayega apnay zindagi bana layga. Zindagi jeena seekho bhai. Be a Man.
Junaid bhai I love watching your video and I always see all your videos and appreciate your efforts, but try not to question Islam, ek raat jag ke saare gunnah maaf karwana, ye Allah ne kaha hai, Masjid ke moulvi ne nahi, so if you're questioning this means you're questioning Allah and it's something really serious which can nullify anyone's Imaan, try not to pass religious judgement like this. And that's between him and Allah ke dosre din wo dobara gunnah shuru kardein, we can think he's bad, but we can't say why Allah forgive all of his sin, when he just cried one night, May Allah give ypu guidance.
This marriage question specifically by females have been asked so many times. As I listened to almost every episode and you really covered it enough. Can you please reply these emails with a reference to your previous videos?
First question walay bhai, Australia chalay jao. 5, 6 years laga k settle ho jao aur phir ammi abbu ko b bula lo. Baki apne halaat ap behter samajhte ho. Kahin pohnchne k liay kahin se time pe nikalna zaroori ha. Ammi ko tasalli do k mujhe kuch saal lagen ge set hone man phir apko b bula lun ga. Take the charge of your life in your hands. Relax, take a deep breath, make up your mind and work on it. 👍
The third guy situation is so miserable, but their is a way out of it but before marriage you have to sought it out. You have to consider signing a prenuptial agreement that basically allows you to decide that after marriage(in case of divorce) my stuff will be mine for example property, cars, any other investments and so on. In this way you can be sure that the chick you are providing for working for an taking care for is not only in for money. Be smart and selfish before hand so anybody does not have to go through this guy has been going through just because of a broke chick who never had a lifestyle.
Bhai saab tou wou konsa larki ko support krraha Hai. Aur junaid bhai jo mardo ke baray main boltay hain wou b tou sach Hai majority cases main. Khud mard ho khud society ke baray main Pata hoga apko ke majority pakistani mard kese hain
@@melody4560 sister ik that. But what frustrates me is Junaid is always speaks with derogatory remarks regarding a man who does wrong with a woman. However, when a woman is wrong like in this case, Junaid doesn't speak with derogatory remarks for woman (even though the woman in this case snatches her husband's daughter, which you can imagine is so bad and harsh). I do not support speaking harshly of someone in any case cuz Junaid is here to give hope and advice, not belittle someone. And let me tell you one thing, one man does not represent the entire population of man in the world and same goes for women. So stop thinking that majority of men are bad.
@@mohammedomer9452 brother cuz majority pakistani larkian asi nhi hain. Khud baki podcasts dekhlo ziada tar mardo ke baray main hee hain. Ab aur kya kahe Junaid bhai usko galian Dena shuroo krde? He knows ke uss aurat ne bura Kia Hai aur khud uss larkay ko hee support krraha Hai. Ab kya aap chahtay hain ke Junaid bhai uss larki ko bura bhala kahe? He didn't said like the way you wanted him to say because he respects women. And you are right ke aik mard ki waja se sab mard Bure nhi hojatay. But if a girl says something like this you should realize ke ye isliye ye keh rahi Hai kiunke isne buray mard society main bohot dekhe aur uska experience mardo ke sath bura ho aur uski waja se useh trust issues b hon mardo se rather than ap useh kahe ke sab mard ase nhi hote sab mardo ko kiun bura keh rhi ho.
@@melody4560 sister I am really sorry if I have inadvertently hurt you. I didn't know that you have had bad experiences with men. I couldn't realize. I am not against women in general. I am against the way Junaid channelizes the issues of men. If he is not belittling women outrightly, then why does he disrespects men as he has done previously in his episodes? There should be equality in his responses.
@@mohammedomer9452 becoz he respects women aur aurat uss jese harkatain nhi krti jese mard aurat ke sath krte hain. Aur junaid bhai Jin mardo ko sunatain hain they deserves it. If you are a good man you should realize this ke what Junaid bhai said to the men is all true and majority cases ase mardo ki hee hoti hain
Junaid bhai plz make a video on the future of India that you see under Modi ...will India survive or will be known as it used to be under Modi or we are going to have another Pakistan in the name of extremism
To the brother of third question take a vacation to Pakistan leave her there take the passport with you back to yoyr country and use that as a negotiating tactic Ps. My mother was the same as your wife and she never changed despite my father passed away (litteraly the same story) but he wasn't as naive as you its not a sin to be good but change that brother your child will suffer the most and i still do when i meet my mother's family, i hope things get beeter for you File a lawsuit agianst your in-laws in cyber crime Pakistan agianst them they're recording you and using your wife as a tool they'll get a hefty fine on that crime and talk to a lawyer for other exposure they have
