I’ve seen do kashti ke sawaar to have no kashti at all in the end. So, advice for 40 yr old man is to please let go of that sweet girl and not become a trauma for her for future. There can be many sweet people who you meet in life, but it doesn’t mean you start cheating on your spouse with all of them. Have your own boundaries and self respect.
For the last question, ask your wife why she is like that, what's her future plan, maybe she needs a psychiatrist, or a person to she can open up, as you told her parents passed away she may need a understanding companion. After all this if she stays like that, then you should talk openly about second marriage to her. And as you told she don't want to leave you then you should provide for her as there is no one to support her.
No I don't think so he should keep his wife. Because if he won't love her & provide for her equally then he is doing gunah. He should make a deal with her e.g. to provide for her for the next 2 years and then eventually will end this relation. Now it is up to the girl to manage herself in these 2 years to become independent. Then if she likes marry someone else in the future.
@23 min totally agree. i am the only Muslim in our team at work but our boss always consider halal/veggie options when going out for lunch. Even planning happy hours got delayed this year because it was around ramzan (i am the only person fasting at the time)
@11:25 , Grass is always greener on the other side. Let me write shikwa and jawab -e- shikwa for life in Germany. The shikwa: I understand why people living in bigger German cities have this notion but this is not the case in smaller cities. For context sake, Munich is like Karachi/Lahore. Everything is available, most people speak English comparitively less Racist interactions. But what they do not understand is that the whole country is not like that. No halal meat shop in the whole city, you have to travel to 50km just to get halal meat. People in most cities speak only German and with an accent to add salt to the wounds. Meaning that the German you learn from books/VHS/RU-vid ect is almost useless. You can learn the language but you can never reach actual proficiency. Not being able to climb the corporate ladder because even with B2/C1 proficiency, you can never express your ideas with total ease. It doesnt feel the same as English which we have studied since we were kids (when we didnt have to worry about what to cook, what to wear, how to afford rent etc). You see casual racism everywhere, this is more common in smaller cities compared to Munich, Berlin, etc. For the upbringing of children, what would you do when the teacher has no idea about Halal? your child is the only brown kid in the school? There are so many examples which I can write which forces people to think about moving to an English speaking country. Now Jawab-e-Shikwa: There are smaller cities where things are getting better because of the Syrian migrants. People learning about Islam, new shops opening. When you spend some time in the city you pick up the accent too. I have, when I go to bigger cities Germans don't understand some words not because I can't speak German its because I am speaking in an accent THEY do not understand 😂. The language is hard but if you put small effort you can learn it, it only takes time and consistency. There is always going to be a glass ceiling for minorities, albiet more in Germany compared to other Western countries. If you are worried about not being able to move forward in your career, then maybe the company is not right for you (assuming you have done everything in your power to succeed). Moving to the outskirts of bigger cities would be an option if your city is too small and you face problems like travelling long distances to get halal meat or similar problems. You will have to make compromises in certain things. But do not make any compromises you do not want to make. It is your life, if you feel Germany is not for you, get the nationality and move to the UK or Canada. If you like it there then stay there. Or if you feel Germany was better, then you can always come back. Leave the judging to God. Worry about, and judge, only yourself.
For the last question, I don't understand why this person being a man was unable to convince his parents and ended up getting married because of societal pressure, but at the same time does not understand that his wife was probably under similar or more pressure for this marriage. Secondly being a man, he can remarry but society has different rules for her. He is not a little child who was coerced into marriage. He took responsibility and now he thinks his own happiness is more important while he gets to ruin her life. As he said her parents passed away and her siblings are not supportive so she probably has no one who could financially support her. He also had extramarital affairs for the past two years and expects his wife to change. Perhaps they both need to change and come to an agreement. The sheer selfishness of this question is mind-boggling. Why does a man expect his wife to change into the person he wants? Matlab uski bhi koi personality hai. dono kuch change ho skty hain. So typical entitled behavior of Pakistani men. I should stop being surprised by now.
For the last q, I think she doesn't want to leave you bcz of her financial condition. How about making her to live with your parents while you do a scnd marriage. Then give her an adequate amount of mehar and leave her be.
Ay lemme break it down for the first dude real easy bruh imagine if your wife was having a fling with another guy..how would you feel about it and that should give you the answer to your situation...remember karma is a b*t*h 👹
True to that halal food thing overseas. Im myself a Dr in UK and whenever we do socialising they maje sure to chose a halal dining or more so generously ask myself or other muslims to pick a place as we cannot eat anything anywhere. People here are very tolerant about others belief and respect their ideologies too unlike most of the desis who love to poke their noses where they shouldn't Love the podcast❤
Our ppl have become so toxic that we ourselves try to avoid them when we go abroad. Instead we should have supported each other... And this is only bcz of desis pessimistic personality.
I 100% agree on this. And its not just Pakistani, its indian as well. All are ready with a 100 questions, like how did you came here? kya karte ho? married? kids? abba kya karte hai? Uber driving uncles bhe. I am mostly like: Brother its 7:30 am on a Monday and i want to get to the office to answer my team's emails, not your damn queries.
As far as I know, you don't need a permission from your first wife to marry the 2nd one. Our deen has given us permission to marry 2nd,3rd and 4th 👧 as long as we can do justice
Sharam naam ki Cheez hai ya Nhi ? Deen ke naam par injustice kroge ??? Vo puaarni baate hain, Aaj k Zamaane me nhi chal sakti… Aadmi moorakh lagta hai Aaj 2nd wife ke baare me soche b to… Thoda Bahar niklo es cheez se…
@@baseballfan88888 bro in logoun k liye second marriage sirf apni hawas poori krny k liye hoti, aur Jo bnda apni hawas k peechy decisions leta usko kya smjhaogy
@@RachZoe417 most Pakistani woman are abusers and they abuse their man this is hard reality and man are forced to have hidden wife because if you tell about second marriage to 1st wife then she abuse and beat she husband
23:00 when i was in dubai with my gora friends they never judge me i drink simple coke with lemon btw bohat acha taste hota hai must try so they never judge infact they told me that so great alcohol is bad for health ...
3:51 Someone tell naughty uncle can his wife have two husband she can not afford to lose the men she has fallen in love with at his work place she loves both of you. * Monday you * Tuesday Junaid bhai Maybe together 😂😂 . She is not wrong, she is just in love and want to have both can't afford to break yours and his heart . Uncle's just think it's normal until they can't imagine that can happen with them too😂
Men and women are not equal. Men are polygamous by nature, women are not. Islam acknowledges this fact by allowing multiple wives. Not endorsing what naughty boy is doing.
@@WasifHasanBaig Yes polygamy is allowed for men in Islam but can you please give a reference from Quran or Hadith which shows that the reason polygamy is allowed only for men is BECAUSE men ARE polygamous by nature while women are NOT?
@@WasifHasanBaig Really ???? Look my brother, we don’t need to go to any religious book to understand this. This is crystal clear, 1 person ki at a time 1 hi Shaadi hoti hai, 1 hi honi chahiye,, this is 2023, not 1023 or 923, yeh common sense hai. Women have emotions too, how the hell she should share her husband with other ?????? ask you sister about it, how will she feel if she gets into this situation. If you give me examples like you’ve seen many ( I am sure you have seen in Pakistan ) it means they are brainwashed on the name of God.
For the last email... If he realized that there is no compatibility with his fiancée then why he married to her in the first place. Saying family pressure is a total bullshit and having extra marital affair is a total crime. You should have grilled this guy.
I want to quote here,I know a person who was married more than 20 years but had no child & his wife was very much strict. Then now 3,4 years back the man got courage & married again secretly & wo dosri biwi ko Apne Ghar k upr wale portion me as a rental guest rakh Raha hai. His first wife doesn't know at all but 2nd wife did. That's too scary 😂
@ trauma of married life Bhai us time stand lena chahye tha shadi hi mattt krty accept to ap ne kiyaa tha naa Ab us ko talaq de kr ap toh dosry kr lo gay but us ka kiya hugaaa yah phir ap affairs chala lo but uska faida kiya ? Main prblm wahi hai usko theak kro Ap dono kisi post marriage therapy loo usko kisi k pas le kr jaoo jo us ko samghaye k agr apne talaq de de toh uski life kaise hugi or usko khud ko change krny ki zarorattt haiii i think ghar bachany k liaaa woh effort to kray gi hi kisi had tkkk
For the last man. If you can help the lady to settle before the divorce as much as you can, that would be very nice of you,. The lady seems to be very lonely and insecure. Please
the religion allows you is so easy for men to say!. Extra martial affairs are a sin, cheating on your wife is a sin, giving your hard earned income for a fling is bad... so no bringing home another wife is not the solution...
@@legendaryhound5261 This is what media portrays but not a fact. I have seen many females getting old waiting for a rishta. They are even OK with a married man. Plus there are a lot of single mothers divorced/widows that are struggling, and neither getting a proposal.
Why polygamy cant be notmalized but zina is ok..unbelievably disgusting..wife knows, but she let it hppen to compromise on Allah word.but not on personal choice as a person
You are taking this totally wrong....Why the man is always dramatic and doesn't like to stay with One wife only...And if he Wants to get a second wife, he needs to consult with his first wife first....har cheez mein aurat ka qasur Nahi hota ha
@legendaryhound5261 who said qasur..but man can marry 2nd time and it doenst mean 1st wife is bad.its halal.1st wife could be completely perfect and yes he should Inform her not ask permission. It's Allah who will ask him if he is unable to do justice between wives.we women need to stop thinking husband are god.u don't what husband 2nd marriage wlk out there is no sin on u.
میں بھی میونخ جرمنی میں رھتا ھوں۔ میرے کو ورکرز نے کھانے کا پلان رکھا ای beer garten میں۔ میرے باس نے کہا کہ تم نہیں پیتے تو نہ پینا، تم ایپل کا جوس پی لینا۔ دیسیوں سے دور ای رھنا بھتر۔ بھت ٹوہ میں رھتے ھیں۔ سوال بھت کرتے ھو زاتی نوعیت کے ہوتے ہیں
@@ishhhhhhh. but he has just one thought process of addressing any of those problems. Therefore, his solutions will be the same each time he is given a similar problem, unless he goes through an experience that drastically changes his perspective. I agree with you that it has become somewhat monotonous mainly because it's episode 120 now and 95% of the problems he receives revolve around the same 2-3 topics repeatedly,
@@badart88 Want, desire, fantasy,,, different things. But making it practically is surely uncivilised thing. This is 2023 come on. It’s real life dude, not a game.
@@badart88 Es ghtiya kaam ke baad Pehli wife, Jis se Shaadi Sabse important thi, vo utna hi respect degi kya ? Until unless she is not brainwashed on the name of “God’s system”.
Sir, iam an Indian doctor, atheist and I think you are too mature for your age. I have lot of respect for you. . Sir, since you talk of Doha, why did they invite Zakir Naik. A rabid die hard terrorist. Even there he was talking of conversion. When Morocco got t in semi final, they said that others should also convert. They were openly saying prayers namaz in football. Sir, have you seen this problem in any other religions. Kindly reply. In india we also have this that here Muslims think that their religion is the absolute best and most superior religion of the world . Must reply.
pehle walay ko to dant hi par gyi junaid bhai se. Bhai ap bohat baray ho mere se lekin loyalty bari qeemti chez hy apne chakkar ke chakkar mai kho na dena. aik taraf hojao
I have a question that I wanna ask you by telling you my problem , I tried contacting you on messenger Instagram because I don’t know where people ask you questions so please tell me
