I married a nonbeliever willingly. I defied God knowing I shouldn’t do it. Throughout our marriage and even prior, I begged for us to go to church and to receive Christian counseling. He wouldn’t go. A week ago, he asked for a divorce. I had to move out and move home. Ladies and gentlemen, listen to God. If he is telling you to run, then by Him, RUN. I am suffering much heartbreak from my mistake. I will never blame God for my divorce. He tried to warn me. Please do not yoke with unbelievers. Save yourself the pain. I hope my advice and testimony helps someone today. 🙏
Please if you see this message, do not divorce him. If he files for divorce, LET HIM!! Do not fight and ask him back. Let him go!! According to the Bible. If a unbeliever files for divorce from a believer you are free to go in peace. But you as a believer are not allowed to file for divorce first. If YOU file for divorce, you are still spiritually married and you will not be allowed in the kingdom of heaven. I too was married to a unbeliever and I had to wait for him to divorce me. I couldn't leave the marriage. And bc HE filed, I'm free to go in peace. And peace I definitely received since he filed. Please let him take the steps necessary to file his paperwork from you and you can have your peace and more importantly Turn to God. Trust him. I will never even date or entertain a unbeliever ever again. I was saved by God who told me to not divorce him. I read the Bible throughly and it said exactly why God told me not to divorce him. Please don't yoke with another unbeliever again. They cause so much pain and misery And their hearts are not with Christ. I don't even date anymore. I'm looking to.marry a believer only and I'm to the point I won't even commit fornication. He has to marry me without the sex before marriage. I'm doing it God's way. Period.
@@mybestlifefortherestofmyli7137False you are deceived if the unbeliever leaves you are called to peace DOES NOT MEAN REMARRY. There is ONLY 2 OPTIONS REMAIN "SINGLE" OR RECONCILE. ONLY DEATH ENDS A COVENENT.
Facts SINGLE or RECONCILE until death do you part !!!!🙏 trust me i wanna leave my unbelieving and abusive husband so bad but ima remain obedient unless he abuses our children 1 time!!! Then i will remain single forever
I was engaged to a divorced man... I even talked to the ex wife concerning why they divorced... he pretty much cheated on her with someone else and he says she was crazy... I had no peace the entire time so I finally called it off after 8months... til this day he still has hard feelings towards me for the Break up... I had to let go and let God!
I know a man of God who's wife betrayed him. He forgave her and was asking God to bless the process of his divorce and in his heart he was thinking of marrying a younger woman. Holy spirit told him. Where in the bible do I permit you to remarry another person ? While the wife is alive. He then started praying for reconciliation and indeed it happened that she repented and was healed from whatever happened. God got the glory and they still together till this day.
We humans who were made in the image and likeness of the MOST HIGH, needed as children, to respect the sanctity of cleaving to our mates for better reasons than we have interpreted it to mean... Now this is only my opinion hence I'm not saying it as if written in stone!!!. Think of it... We were until our original fleshly parent sinned, where created to live FOREVER!!! THAT BEING THE CASE, if YAHWEH INTENDED FOR US TO STAY WITH OUR MATES FOREVER AND A DAY, HE'D NOT give males so many permutations in our spercell nor women in their eggs.. Had we not fallen, I believe we were meant to CLEAVE ONE TO ANOTHER LONG ENOUGH FOR ALL THE CHILDREN WE CREATE TO MATURE AND GO OFF WELL, WELL, TRAINED BY THEIR PARENTS... IF AFTER A TIME (remember a time could be 17,000yrs with ten thousand children raised between them) They may choose to separate and quest life elsewhere, still being friends but less communicated because of time and distance... Meet another and the attraction is impossible to resist(perhaps the child spirit wanting IN along with whatever thing YAHWEH pre-placed in our DNA, insisting this child spirit needs these two as parents)... These new two couples go about bringing that child and 17,000 more siblings into existence..., a pleasurable act and painless to the woman and man!)... WELL???... YOU GUYS GOT ME MARKED AS BLASPHEMOUS!???...
The Holy Spirit gave me this truth years and years ago while still in my youth.... because of this knowledge whenever I meet a divorced man I asked him to give me background on his divorce.... about 90 per-cent of times (with the men I was neeting) it's not biblical because they usually say "we fell out of love" and sadly that means I cannot be involved with them bc if I do, I'll be committing adultery....preaching truth is very hard but Jesus is watching and judging us. Amen.
I only look for ways theses things can work, I have 5 baby Momas, I own no one, if they decide they want a different life, if you love someone enough, we let them go, & cherish the time spent with a Soul we cared and shared OUR LOVE WITH, THATS ALL WE CAN DO, & I THANK GOD FOR THE CHANCE TO SHARE MY LOVE & HIS LOVE TO THE ONES WHO OBVIOUSLY NEEDED IT.. ITS ALL ABOUT OUR THOUGHT PROCESSES THAT MAKES US ALL WINNERS OR LOOSERS, AND I KNOW I DID MY PART IN TWO SOULS CONNECTING IN THE MATERIAL WORLD.. WE DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE KIDS, THAT'S ANOTHER STORY FOR ANOTHER DAY.. THE GOAL IS TO NOT DAMN OURSELVES IF WE KNOW DEEP DOWN IN OUR HEARTS THAT WE GAVE IT OUR BEST LOVE TO GIVE AND SHARE. AGAIN I THANK GOD FOR ALLOWING ME THE CHANCE & CHOICE TO MAKE A FRIEND FOR INFINITY... SOMETHING NONE OF US CAN FORGET.. I PRAY FOR THE SOULS WHO'S CHANCES AT LOVE WERE NOT AS EASY TO KEEP OR LET GO, BUT I MADE A VOW NEVER TO BREAK ANYONE'S HEART, WHICH ULTIMATELY MEANT THAT MY HEART IS & WAS & WILL BE ON THE LINE BECAUSE THAT WAS MY CHOICE. I HAVE NO REGRETS, BUT FOLLOWING GOD'S WILL MEANT THAT THE VOWS MADE TO GOD WOULD LEAVE ME SOME VERY LONELY NIGHTS & YEARS, BUT FOR MY CREATOR I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR, IF YOU ONLY KNEW, & I BELIEVE YOU DO KNOW!
My husband passed and I can get married again but he would most certainly have to be to a man who has either lost his wife or has never been married. I had an old ex try to come back into my life who when we dated I was madly in love with with. He was divorced from his wife and try to convince me that God was putting us back together. I prayed and prayed and asked the Lord for a sign which I never got. He is now gone and remarried and I'm happily married to Jesus...THE BEST husband In the world!!
From a different perspective, I'm a woman in her 30's and I've never been married. I want to get married but all of the good christian men are divorced!! When I tell ppl why I refuse to date a divorced man, they look at me like I'm outrageous/judgmental, but I can't disobey God. I REFUSE to sway. So, I've come to the conclusion that God is working some things out. But I have full faith and I know in my heart that God will bring my future husband & I together ,in due time❤
@@queencharles3527 So, even if his wife committed whoredom, and she became a jezebel, and she divorced him? He's banned to a life of singleness because she is a w****?
Unfortunately I've heard of a case where pastor and elders were advising a woman to try to work on their marriage even in cases where there was severe abuse going on. They were advised to not continue filing for separation. Elders from the church visited the woman and there was a lot of peer pressure for over a year and a half regarding this issue. Later wife found out that the children were being abused secretly. Continued filling for divorce. Even knowing that, they were asking the wife to give the husband another chance. Husband had a senior role in the church. Later Pastor publicly shamed the wife, an advised that no members of the congregation were to continue staying in contact, public rebuke before entire congregation and kicked them out of congregation. After that the husband was formally charged by the police for abusing the children and was sent to jail. Unfortunately there is real horrible religious abuse that happens in this area.
Absolutely abhorrent YUCK.. I DONT understand the church sometimes.. God looks at our heart and doesn’t desire our children to be in danger nor us .. God help your church come into the spirit ❤️🩹🙏🏽🙏🏽😭
That pastor was out of order, so was his church.. but that is why it's very very important that we all have a personal relationship with Christ, where we can go to him ourselves--- we don't need an in-between person or a pastor to tell us anything and sadly the Bible states that some of us may end up in hell because we did not study the word to show ourselves approved and listened to a sinful man who lead you to hell bc he didn't know better himself... please don't let a human lead you to hell! when Jesus died for your sins on the cross that same day the Vail within the holies of holies in the Tabernacle was ripped down--- meaning we no longer needed to talk through the priest to speak to God!!!! we can go directly to him!!! if you don't understand anything I just said please know that you can go to Jesus without a pastor, priest or other human being.
I ask for prayers because of the way my husband talks to me and treats me. He is never wrong, I am always wrong and it feels like he never listens to me. It's so hard because we have a 1 1/2 year old daughter we both love immensely but he treats me as if I am a child too and it breaks my heart every day. Every time I try to tell him how I feel he says I'm choosing to get my feelings hurt. I love his family and I don't want to leave.. I feel like I'm only staying for our daughter and I still somewhat love him. But I don't feel understood by him. I'm praying for strength. It hurts so bad. Tonight I can't bare to sleep in the same room with him and it doesn't seem to phase him. He wonders why God isn't answering his prayers and I believe it's because of the way he treats me. He's spent 5 1/2 years In The army 3 years ago and I believe it's made him very cold hearted and I pray his heart is softened and he starts to understand how bad his words hurt. 💔 I don't want to leave. I know he's faithful and he's a good father he is just demeaning and he denies it, I believe he's borderline narcissistic and it hurts so bad. We could both use the prayers please. My heart is hearting as I lay here crying in a other room, nursing our child.
Dear sister, Your husband sounds like he does have narcissistic tendencies, as he has not shown you any empathy for yoir feelings, and the fact that you don't want to be in the same space with him, shows that you don't feel emotionally safe around him. Divorce should be the last resort, but seek help from a Christian counsellor and Gods opinion on your marriage. I pray God and your wise counsel will show you how to navigate your situation. If i may ask please guard your heart from any hurtful words that he recklessly says to you, the longer he continued, as does cut deep and it will beat you down. I speak from experience, I am that woman after 10 years in a narcissistic marriage, when the one I married took advantage of my trusting nature, was calculating, put me down, until I started to believe I was a horrible, yet since early in the marriage he decided to hide money, was greedy, and constantly criticised me with verbal abuse. Abuse is abuse and it does take time to heal, the longer you stay with someone who is toxic and chooses not to change.
Pray the demons out the home. And the ones using him tell them they can not enter your home bc its Jesus home. Have someone saved with you too so 2 or more Jesus is there. God bless yall
That sounds a lot like my marriage. I kept praying for a way out and God dropped an opportunity for a restraining order in my lap. It's been 3 months so far and I get at least another 4 as of now. I haven't been happier in a long time. Keep seeking God and please leave if it gets truly dangerous.
Facts we don’t need to sign off papers like we are selling our soul he never said to be married the way people think is of God he said to come together in the marriage bed there was no mention of putting a ring on the finger or making an oath I think that is the Catholic way of marriage
@@Righteous_Cal101 some of my confusion stemmed from respecting the law of the land and the Law of God. I understood that marriage through the Word, that because of what happened, was not of God, and I was quite relieved. However, Somewhere I learned that we are also to obey the law of the land...So how was i to proceed with the rest of my life because of that paper, and too poor to financially end that.? So until God tells me otherwise, I am to put it behind me and move on, I am resolved to be happy alone because in reality, I am not alone, God is my Father and Everything to me, so I will be fed and filled by the Holy Spirit, through the Holy Sacrifice that Jesus Christ went through for all of our sins. Forgive the ramblings of myself.
@@Righteous_Cal101 I still want the papers and ring 🤣 but yes you’re on the right 🙏🏽 as long as you’re both on the same page, may it be blessed and right.
Agree.... Divorce is painful and kids hurt too.... Please don't have kids if you not committed.... Kids suffer the most. If you have kids try to work hard on marriage...dont marry if you know you are gonna betray. I noticed people that cheat are suffering childhood pain. A loving heart cannot hurt another.
Can't financially divorce. But left after being abandoned. Long story but he loved men and drugs and threatened to kill me (up close in my face) . I strongly feel God took care of me and got that man away from me. I'm happy to be alone and single.
Wow I’m thankful you are away from him. I also married a man who cheated on me over 200 times with men and woman and then molested our children. I divorced him but he’s in prison now for what he did to our son and many other underaged people 🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭
Abandoned spirituality, he cheated on me giving money to other women 😪 healing I don't have any children I got married after 35 he said he believed in Jesus but showed me different video games and he watched pornogophy.... I had permission to let him go... days I had to pull over car because I was in tears
When I met my husband 2.5yrs ago, I was lost and a nonbeliever, he is Hindu. I found Christ in July 21’ our marriage has gotten so hard. many lies have come out among other things. Please pray for me, I am struggling in my marriage terribly
At this moment right now are pray for you and your husband in the mighty name of Jesus I pray for healing and restoration God I pray for your hearts to be softened to the words of God in the Holy Spirit in the name of Jesus I pray that your marriage is saturated by the blood of Christ and for the eyes to be open for both of you to understand and know how to love one another ask him to love on you so you know how to love your husband and he knows how to love you as his wife I pray that you continue to trust God and seek Him First and everything and I thank and praise God for the Rejuvenation God is seeing every tear that you've cried every frustration that you spoken God and right now we speak life into your marriage and your union in a relationship in the name of Jesus Amen
I am recently divorced. I definitely hate it also. I literally felt my heart ❤ break in half when I realized there was no fixing our relationship. The Lord had been preparing me for 7 years. I prayed and fasted for those 7 years, but it just didn't work out. I always felt chained to the relationship because I didn't believe in divorce. He definitely was never a true husband. He let me carry the burden and responsibility for everything including the kids household and I provided for everything. Definitely not biblical grounds for divorce supposedly right. So I stayed and prayed and fasted. One day I was so sad because I had to go stand in line to get free uniforms for my kids. I ended up having to make 3 trips for 1 shirt. I was overwhelmed. That day God sent me a man to prophesy to me. He began speaking to me and basically told me that my husband did not abandoned me physically but that he had abandoned me emotionally and that because he was not acting as a husband that it was grounds for divorce. He also told me that the standards of God was not the standard of man. (This was because everyone around me were always telling me well he doesn't hit you or is with other women, so basically just suck it up)After the divorce I was still unsure so I was praying one day and reading in the bible what was biblical grounds for divorce. As I was reading the verse in the bible that says Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. Well as I read this verse God highlighted two things to me. 1st did I bring this relationship together which means that even if you got married in church that doesn't mean he put it together? 2nd He told me that even if he brought that marriage together or not that he could take apart that marriage, if one of the member of the marriage is not performing thier duties of thier half of the relationship. Just like I performed miracles on the Sabbath so I can take a marriage apart. So definitely be obedient to God. He knows who is going to change and who is not. Always pray and fast about such things it's nothing to be taken lightly. But deep down we know what God is telling us. Take it to God.
Amen. People fail to understand that within a covenant there are responsibilities of each spouse. God can do anything he pleases. When people have that mindset then they will learn to seek the Lord to find out what he is saying about his choice for your life. We cannot use what others go through to say that it's only one pattern with God. His ways are not ours, his thoughts are not ours. I am in no way speaking of salvation so I want no one to come here talking about there is only one path to the Lord. We are talking about personal relationships with the Lord. Somethings are ground rules point blank no changes such as salvation however God deals with us individually concerning our lives. He sees further than us and knows every ins and outs about our lives that we ourselves are unaware of. Trust the Lord to guide you in all your ways.
Andrea, your story is dreadfully WRONG .. you were lied to by a false prophet & you heard in your heart what u wanted... It Was NOT GODS VOICE ! you were & are deceived if you can justify & rationalize your choices which clearly go against Scripture.... God CANNOT Violate His Word.... period. you are not above the law, nor His commands... Jesus's commands, around 1050 of them(command mode) in the new testament... if you cannot hear these words, then your heart has hardened in your own selfish lusts... psalms 1 ,seek Godly council. have nothing to do with the mocker, scoffer and evil doer (sit,walk,stand) ephesians 2,4,6 (sit,walk,stand) :5, the marriage chapter. 1thes5;16-21 2timothy2, 3... you need to understand "selfishness " especially over trivial earthly things, marriage is that covenant which the world looks at to get a glimpse of eternity... your choices are just like many of the multitudes which "hear" from God, yet un blatantly unbiblical.... praying you have ears to hear...
think of your children & your teachings to them.... people & "gods voice" to me has more authority than His Word.... let that sink in.... God never said those words to you , 1corithians 7 is what God actually says. the bible must be the standard which His Children use to "test" all things, lest they go there own way. as in the days of noah so shall they be in the later days, each man to his own understanding ,,, lawlessness will abound... 2chro.7,14 humble thyself Pray Seek God's face Turn from wickedness grow in grace and mature in the Spirit 🙏
Abusers are not caring for their families. 1 Timothy 5:8 could apply to that so then if an abuser is worse than an unbeliever does that mean there is an exception for abuse. I do believe abusers are demonized and that God would rather us be safe. People have died because they stayed with abusers and so have children. Often an abuser has a spirit of Jezebel. Abuse is done for power control and manipulation and that is a form of witchcraft which means when someone even emotionally abuses you they are essentially doing witchcraft on you for example gaslighting is witchcraft. If a person is doing this witchcraft are they truly following Jesus? These are things to think about in these situations. Often abusers are demonized so does God want you submitted to that person's demons? These are things to consider. Often God has called people to separate and pray in cases of the spouse operating in the Jezebel spirit and later to divorce because that person did not repent and get delivered from Jezebel. I think it depends on the situation and we should always seek the Lord for guidance because the Lord knows if the person will end up repenting and receiving deliverance etc. The Lord sees our hearts. And especially if someone's life is in danger I believe they should definitely leave.
I see you point, however I seriously doubt our Heavenly Father wants us to stay in abusive situations of any kind. God wants his children to live, learn and love not be a punching bag to a mean damaged person. I pray God helps all those that are scared and feel stuck in unhealthy situations with unhealthy people that don't wish to repent or go to God in Jesus name I pray, Amen. God bless ❤
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."
You are then to remain " Single if No reconciliation. Marriage is a covenent onlu death breaks it for sexual acts after that Remains adultery.That will remain your husband. You shall be called an adultress Scripture is crystal clear .
She cheated. Then she filed. I didn't want it. At the time I probably would have stayed married if she'd wanted to. I'm so glad things happened the way they did. I'm now engaged to a wonderful godly woman!
ABANDONMENT (leaving) also mean if they LEAVE their HUSBANDLY or WIFELY Duties. If a husband or wife no longer want to have sex or a man no longer want to provide they are ABANDONING their husbandly or wifely duties and therefore grounds for divorce are permitted. Anyone can just get married and say now I'm not going to work or have sex any more...you're trapped. You're NOT trapped because they have ABANDONED their DUTIES...Which is the same as ABANDONMENT.
We should always seek the counsel of God before doing anything. Sometimes a wife or might abandon the marriage sexually because of illness, the person is abusive or cheating. Sometimes who wants to have sex with a person who beats them, verbally and emotionally abuses them or cheating on them? Oftentimes, a spouse will manipulate the situation in trying to make the other other spouse think something is wrong with them for not wanting to go along with the program. In the situation you have described, one should definitely pray and fast as to what God would have them to do. Divorcing is one thing, but remarrying is another thing
Adultery and unbelieving spouse is why I divorced my ex. To everyone who does not read their Bibles or who do not understand the Bible I was in God’s will when I divorced. PLEASE make sure you can read and comprehend the Bible before telling me I was wrong to divorce an adulterer who stopped believing. I in God’s eyes can remarry but my ex husband can not. Thank you so much and have a blessed day.
You cannot remarry. you can divorce. but paul says in 1 corinthians 7 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
@@dylanbeck6467 if she divorced on biblical ground, she can most definitely remarry, that was the whole purpose of divorce according to Matthew 19, so the person could be able to remarry.
@@jhermerahgriffin2082 You are just arguing with a command from the LORD. Remain single or be reconciled. there really shouldnt be argument over this subject the word is clear.
Wow! I have been praying for answers in my marriage. I continue to pray that our marriage will be saved but also pray that God’s will be done. My husband has been hard hearted because of hatred and bitterness that he refuses to let go. I continue to pray that he will be saved and that God will remove his stony stubborn heart and replace it with a tender responsive heart (Ezekiel 36:26) but I hear this and it makes me wonder if Gods plan is for me to move on. No matter what, I know Gods plan is what is right and He will not lead me astray.
Wow. I could have written this exact post. I'm so sorry you're going through this, sister. I pray that the Holy Spirit can give us discernment to know what God's will is for us and our marriages. I have 2 kids including an infant so it's very very hard. Praying for you.
@@rebekah1836 I’m so sorry that you are also going through this! The enemy is attacking marriages like crazy. Thank you for your prayers! I will be praying for you and your family as well. I pray that you are encouraged and that our Heavenly Father gives you strength!!
Be a Muslim, Islam allows for divorce if either party is being mistreated unlike Christianity where u can’t divorce even if you are being beaten everyday and mistreated. Sounds like unjust ruling
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
Excatly he is deceiving people remarriage is only for death of a spouse Scripture is clear. There is no such thing as remarry after divorce. For any reason. I learnt this By alotbof pastors.
You say that assuming divorce is easy. Many people get divorced for ungodly reasons but I believe that just as many leave due to abuse or infidelity. If you haven’t been through divorce or dealt with the consequences of it you can’t possibly understand just how difficult it actually is. Many people have to leave their marriage with a person they still love due to lack of safety. It feels like you’re physically and mentally breaking. It’s not the easy way out for everyone as you assume. And those who are doing it for the right reason are often analyzing and overthinking the decision to leave, considering all parties.
That is great 👍🏾 if you don't have burning desire for someone. It says it is better to marry than burn 🔥. When you burn/lust/passionate desire for someone, then you're more likely to commit fornication and/or masturbate which are sins also.
Then keep abstaining, don't say am single yet you snick in darkness shifting your pants, remember God sees every step and activities you do despite the time
From my understanding, there's no Biblical grounds for remarry after divorce in 1 Corinthians 7. Please explain and point to the scripture that supports remarry. Thanks!
Can I get remarried?? My husband was always cheating on me so, I let him Get the divorce since he was the one doing the cheating but does that mean I have to suffer and can't get remarried because he was cheating?? He tried to get back with me but I just didn't feel anything for him anymore???
He answers it. Yes, you can get remarried IF you divorced under biblical grounds. Because you mentioned he was an adulterous then you definitely had valid grounds for divorce.
I believe you can but to be sure take this to God...you must have a life of prayer to hear from Him and know his will. He will give you a peace in your heart if He accepts your particular situation. God bless you.
I’m so sorry that happened. The sad truth is no. Even if the divorce was biblical, you can only remarry if the ex were to die. Mike Winger has a 3 hour long video on this that I watched. I’m divorced & I was really wanting the truth. It says if we remarry we are commiting adultery.
Pastor Vlad, what if your spouse is abusive or pulls out knives on you? I couldn't sleep with 1 eye open so I left with my baby& never came back. What should I do? I guess remain alone untill God comes I guess. Please advise, no one talks about these issues.
Yes leave for your safety but don’t get remarried. Just leave pray for him and hopefully he will repent and you COULD be reconciled but you don’t have to. But you cannot remarry.
Vlad. It doesn't say in the Bible you can get married aain after divorced even if it is ok to divorce someone for a biblical reason---it says be alone, live alone, be celebit. Noe=where does it say it is ok to remarry. find the verse that says that is ok...it is not. Ever regardless of the reason. Adulterers do not enter the kingdom of heaven.
If your marriage has a solid foundation of love you’ll figure out how to work through the hardest situations life throws at you together. There is no hand book just do what works for you 2 don’t let the outside world control your future
What happened to Abraham with Hagar, David and Solomon and all who've had several wives. I guess they are all going to hell. Unless you're telling me that it's good to have multiple wives and cheat than divorce....
Its hard to believe that if a husband cheats and leaves and divorces you, you cant remarry. In my opinion, its not a sin to remarry in such case. Its a strong recommendation not to remarry but not a sin. I know some godly people whose spouses left and time later they found a goldy spouse.
By biblical scripture its a sin and its adultery. You can't remarry according to scripture. You are commiting a sin by remarrying. Remember. Stop changing your book for your own gains
@@justinallen7954 "separate for a time." Got news for you, the abuser rarely stops. Better to divorce and remain single than to run the risk of being murdered.
There are no biblical grounds for divorce. Adultry was under the Messianic Law, and it was applied to uncleanness of the woman - meaning that she was not a virgin. This was mentioned in Matthew bc he was speaking to the Jewish people. He was speaking according to their law. It was the betrothal period before the marriage. We are no longer under Messianic Law. Christ set us free. As far as the unsaved spouse, yes, they can leave. That speaks of separation, not divorce. Any person who is divorced and marries another person is an adulterer and causes the new spouse to be an adulterer. If you have sex outside your marriage, you are an adulterer. God does not recognize divorce. Marrige is a covenant, not a contract. Once one spouse dies, the covenant is broken, and they are free to remarry. And that to a seasoned believer.
This is not true. He did not say adultery. He said fornication. You go back and look at the writing of divorcement by Moses. You will see that if a man found out on his wedding night that his wife had already been with somebody then he could divorce. Hence why Joseph was going to put Mary away privily. No other reason is given in the Bible for divorce.
There is not so called biblical ground in the bible for remarriage after divorce. He or she can only remarry after his or her divorced wife or husband dies. Romans 7:1-3. If they remarry before their divorced wife or husband death they will surely go to hell because of adultery. Mark 10:11-12, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
I am remarried to a divorced man .. my first husband raped our children and other children and cheated on me over 200 hundred times in 20 years.. I repented for grieving the heart of God and so has my current husband.. I can’t speak for him but I begged God to blot out my sin with his shed blood and also forgive my ex who is now in prison.. it’s hard to judge everyone with the same stick …please remember there are people in dangerous and volatile situations that God makes a way of freedom for them ..God bless
I didn't break up with the father of my child for years, because I thought it was bad and God does not like it. But he definitely is demonized and didn't want to get delivered, although I met his demon in person. He fell into alcoholism too and I fell into sinful behavior. I prayed for God may show me a way out and He did! I got to know a christian psychatric doctor and we became friends. He supported me. Now we are beautiful parents and God told me through an apostel that all my sins are washed away. He healed my Lichen sclerolus and I can focus on Jesus a lot more than in this relationship. I keep praying for the father of my daughter to get delivered as he is suffering a lot because of the demon(s). Do not feel like you are not allowed to break up after you tried a lot of things, prayed a lot and noticed you are in a toxic relationship. God loves you and your husband should love you and look at you with the eyes Jesus looks at you. Be blessed!
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
I heard of a woman who cheated on her husband and got pregnant from the affair. Her husband divorced her. They both did not remarry. TWENTY years later they reconciled and remarried! He said if we are unfaithful to Jesus and He forgives us why can’t we forgive one another? True story. The Youth Pastor told us the story who was attending their wedding and that was his cousin who had divorced her. What a testimony of true forgiveness!
What about if husband is drug addict For 20 years that emotionally avoiding you , physically avoiding you , impotent, don’t provide for family , neglecting wife , never kisses u or hugs you never calls or talks to you living just like complete strangers
My wife divorced me several year's ago. Even after we tried to reconcile she didn't want to change. Ive been trying to give my life to God and unfortunately i made the mistake of starting a new family. And now im stuck trying to figure out should i keave the new woman. I dont want to go to hell because i got married again. 😢😢
Thank you for discussing these very important points and differences about marriage & remarriage. Especially that God hates [the act of] divorce and NOT the divorced people.
My pain from my husband walking out after 19 years and 4 daughters will never ever go away. I’ve learned to offer up my pain and suffering for conversion of sinners and salvation of souls; starting with his. 💔🙏🏻
Many husbands stay and treat the wife like poo poo that is worse than leaving without spousal abuse .Why do you want a man who does not love and respect you ?
@@serenesrn3827love does not disappear because someone hurt you. This is very dismissive, maybe you didn’t mean it that way, but this is an extremely heartbreaking place to be and it should never be minimized
@@holly3071 I have been married twice .I know people don't just walk out .The marriage is broken way before that .Unless he is a pure gem he doesn't deserve a second child .
No, he is wrong, you cant remarry if your spouse is still living. Unfortunately if you don't read your Bible you will not know. There is no where in the bible that says biblical grounds for remarriage. Paul says NOT I, BUT THE LORD SAYS, YOU ARE BOUND AS LONG AS YOUR SPOUSE IS LIVING. ONLY WIDOWS ARE FREE TO MARRY.
@@angiegarcia6300 You say "Read Your Bible". That sounds great, but which Bible? The one that made America great, or the many that have been revised by spiritual wickedness in high places.
@cynthiagalvan837 NO, God certainly did NOT say that he has forgiven, or does forgive all "SINS" past, (PRESENT, And FUTURE). "Sins that are (PAST)"....YES! Romans 3:25 KJV Romans 10:26 KJV exposes that "past, present & future" statement as false, and a doctrine of demons. That "past present & future" declaration is designed by the devil, to PROMOTE "committing sins" (AFTER) having received the knowledge of the truth. I was married twice, over 35 years, and BOTH bought into this "doctrine of demons"....so (as a result), BOTH thought committing adultery (allegedly in christ) was fine....so they did. A good man may marry a woman with a who*ish (PAST) BEFORE she got saved, BEFORE she became born again, BEFORE she became a new creation. I would! But no Born Again man would ever marry a woman who thinks that God's is going to forgive all her PRESENT and FUTURE, adulteries... Only a man, devoid of wisdom, would date or marry a woman....who (STILL IS) into who*edom, (presently and in her future).
So plz someone answer me this . What is this passage truly trying to say ? I pray to God to help me understand and from that I understand He hates divorce and He would rather us reconcile with our spouse than to leave . Cool true so why would he say he who divorce his wife for any reason EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL IMMORALITY will make her commit adultery and if a man shall marry a divorce woman he will commit adultery as well . Like ok it’s death do y’all part but He gave permission to divorce our spouse if they cheated and we can’t reconcile . To divorce mean to break the covenant . You are no longer as one ONLY IF IT WAS DUE TO SEXUAL IMMORALITY if not that you are still bound to your spouse til either one dies . It doesn’t say specifically you can remarry if the spouse commit adultery but it does allow you to be without ur spouse and no longer be one (divorce) . So if God hate’s divorce so much why let us divorce to die to sexual immorality or death ? Like I’m confused . I seek God word but even that confuses me smh
The "God hates divorce" in the OT is translated incorrectly. Nothing like what English says. It relates to a husband who hates divorce in the Hebrew, not God. A husband who entrapped his wife though committing adultery himself but not releasing his spouse to remarry. Look into it. In Jesus' time the oral tradition said you could divorce your wife for ANY reason even the burning of his bread. The house if Shemmai & Hillel disagreed. We need all this understanding to judge with righteous judgment. No woman is expected by Jesus to be part of a verbal & physical punching bag marriage..If a believing husband is not correctable by the wife, 3 or 3 others or the leaders of the church HE is the one that is outed. The husband has already & continually broken covenant with God in that behaviour. But as it was the male who initiated divorce in the Shammai Standard of non spiritual division of God's Word & Protestant & Roman Catholics are illiterate about 2nd Temple Judaism & the social debates Jesus is speaking too, they teach incorrectly & make women & children suffer for years & for years afterwards. The dowry was held by the wife's family in case her husband died or she was divorced to support her or she left an evil man.
@@122bjames should I warn him? The lord told me last year he was a man of lawlessness but I had no idea y and I pleaded for his mercy and grace on him (my ex) But the lord said it was done, so I wasn’t sure what that ment, for his ways are not ours. So this may be y!!! Should I warn him?
The Bible does say we can separate for awhile. Not divorce unless there is adultery . If you are in danger..call someone now. I've been there and thank GOD that I had the sense to not tell my ex because he would of followed thru with killing my daughters & myself. Please call a religious person , such as rabbit, or priest and seek safety, please...please
What about 1 Corinthians 7:10 No ONE ever speaks of it!! God hates divorce! I'm sick of people changing the Bible to fit their needs! Marriage is for life. Until death do us part!! It's a covenant not a contact!
@@811chelseafc I have never said that but when you take those vows as a Christian before God it’s really till death do you appart which is why it’s important that God choses your spouse because when it’s from God, you will both overcome all obstacles. You don’t have to agree because you are not christian and at the end of the day it all comes down to your faith in God and his word. God will never lead anyone in a toxic relationship. People chose their spouse without including God then come crying after or divorce. When you have a relationship with God he reveals his plan to you and who should be in your life and who you should run from but we have made ourselves juge and ruler of our lives when we are so imperfect...
@@zazilicious maybe I just prefer a worldview where people are responsible for their own actions and choices rather than relying on some divine entity of questionable existence to make them for them.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Jesus says in God's word that if you so look at a woman with lust you commit adultery in your heart. That is in Matthew 5, 28. Looking at porn is not committing adultery in the flesh, but you do so in your heart. It is like when you have an evil thought, say you think about hurting someone. Even though you did not hurt them physically you've sinned in your heart for having the thought. But praise the Lord that through the power of Jesus blood and repentance we can capture these thoughts and make them obedient to Christ. We can turn from our sins and be set free.
I'm asking this in seriousness. The bible explains what marriage is. When a man loves his wife as Christ loves the church as he gave himself up for her and when a woman respects her husband. But a man who abuses his wife, therefore causing her much pain, enough for her to question existence. I don't think God likes that. A woman who tortures her man, Jezebel. I don't think God likes that either. So if people are together, but aren't living the way God describes a marriage, Are they even actually married in the eyes of God? The bible says let no man seperate what God put together. But who says that God put an abuser together with a person? What if we chose abuse ourselves and God didn't put us together? Because after I left abuse, I fell in love with a man after I surrendered to Christ. I asked Christ for a man and let him chose a man for me. And after years of pain and leaving abuse, I'm now with a Christian man. Who loves me. Who protects me. Who guides me. And shows me the way a Christian marriage actually is... Sometimes I wonder if we misunderstand God and the bible. It's good that many Christians get their marriages correct the first time. Stay and love your spouses. But some of us aren't even Christian when we're "married":/ We just assume what marriage is? What is actual marriage? I stayed until my ex spouse rejected the truth in front of my eyes. Doesn't surrender to the word of God. Willingly ignorant. Then I begged God for an actual Christian marriage and I meet this man whose impeccably compatible with me, that I consider it a miracle. He's the first man that I've truly respected in all my heart. If he speaks up, I'll be silent not out of terror but reverence because he speaks so much truth. When I'm with him I know peace. I'm safe. Also to mention every time we're together, things fall into place and we learn Christ's lessons through experience and share Christ with everyone we know. So what is really going on here? What is the actual truth about divorce and remarriage? Where are we as people misunderstanding God's word, being dogmatic. And where do we strive to be committed to a marriage? I now know what REAL marriage is. But how do people who haven't known, avoid being unequally yoked? Because some people really don't submit to Christ and dare I say evil in their spirit. I don't believe one person is made to carry two crosses. We sre suppose to carry our own cross. I'm asking these questions for real thought out, prayer filled, answers.
JESUS never said adultery was a reason for divorce my brother… he said fornication which is the physical act which is still adultery as we know it ….but Adultery can be committed even in the heart according to what JESUS said…. All love bro …
yes he did matt 5:31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Exactly my brethren…. But this version is saying whoever marries “a” divorce committed adultery … the kjv was referring to that same woman that has been put away by her husband ……“but I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” Matthew 5:32 kjv
@@richardgrant3596 ok. i agree w u. but that still makes adultery grounds for divorce as verse 31 states matt 19:9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” more corroboration here. adultery is grounds 4 divorce! and ur right, committing adultery in ur heart is the same thing!
I married my husband, who is a new believer, but of course, fell into false teachings of Calvinism and the Paul washer set so he is really struggling with God - he is constantly talking about wanting a divorce and constantly telling me I’m not a woman of God, even though I’m trying to be as godly as possible, and he is essentially just absolutely lost in sin, and he doesn’t understand anything about the heavenly courts of God, how the devil can work against him, based on his sin, andhonestly, I want God to heal the situation because I think God can do something great with us, but my husband’s heart is so hard and he has so much pain from his past relationships. He has such a hard heart he has pain from his family generational curses I mean he is really under the intense attack of the enemy. Anyone here read this is a believer in God’s immense power. Please pray for my husband, ISRAEL and myself IMANI.
I'm sure Jesus in our time will allow divorce. Marriages have become so toxic, painful, selfishness, negligence, murdering etc. no more obedience to"man love your wife, wife submit to your husband". This is marriage anything other than this is not marriage. Marriage is a journey of two, and how can they walk except they be agreed. Please don't tell me it's a do or die affair, God himself won't be happy about that. What we do in the marriage itself is sin, talk less of remarriage. Jesus never s said that the woman at the well is going to hell
Financial infidelity eventually left his family homeless! Isn't that breaking the covenant? He chose himself. 20 plus years and it was evident he lied about being a believer. Never got help. I worked on myself, but he never did his part to get help. He was a locked box and could never find the key. He NEVER let me in.
God does not condone abuse. If a man tricks you by professing to love God then says he doesn't after abusing you, abandoning you and hurting you to the point of physical illness I think God will allow remarriage to a good man. What I believe God means is you can't just leave someone for someone else.... Just because like lust. Hope I understand correctly.
I have become a bitter, self-conscious, angry women because I stayed in my marriage. I truly believe God gave me a chance to leave in the beginning when my husband confessed to his adultery but I chose to stay, and it led me to do things I regret and can't undo. We need to listen and be aware of who we come into communion with. I'm still unhappy and stuck because I see no value in myself I know God loves me. It's been 8yrs of these torment, and I still don't know how to love myself. All I know is the day I do learn to truly forgive and love myself I will leave this marriage. That's the scary part because I love this man so much but I can't figure out how to let go of the pain he caused to move on in peace and it's not possible. The memories will always be there and if I do forgive something or someone will say something by accident to trigger my past. A billboard a show, something on the radio something I read it's all over the place. Marriage sucks for me it was ruined the day I stepped into it and that's what hurts the most it wasn't shattered years later, I came into a marriage where the adultery was already happening and I didn't know it. 💔
😮😮There is NO grounds for marriage. ONLY death end a marriage... Romans 7:2.. 1 Corinthians 7:39, Mark 10:11; Luke 16:18. He's not quoting nor addressing ALL the scriptures
you're contradicting God's word Mark 10 2-12 read it. Jesus took us back to the Genesis 2:24, and Paul reiterated that marriage was until death 1st Corinthians 7:39. Stop making Paul say something he's not. The unbelieving spouse is to be let go because God wants peace in the home but that does not mean and give a green light to a person to remarry stop reading into something that is not there. You're making Paul contradict himself and Jesus too. Jesus told the Jews in Matthew 19:9 saving for the cause of fornication, this is 42 be during the Jewish betrothal. Before the marriage. that is why Joseph was going to divorce Mary because he thought Mary committed fornication and got pregnant from some other man. But as we know the story that the angel told Joseph not to be afraid to take Mary as his wife, that in essence you did not commit adultery with another man but this baby is from the Holy Spirit. Gentiles do not practice a Jewish Patrol V. We just get married and it is a covenant until death 1st Corinthians 7:39 you all need to re-examine your teachings the teachings of man. Also I recommend that you go look up Sharon Fitzhenry Dan Jennings on Facebook. Ken Jennings wrote a book free pdf that you can Google called except for fornication why evangelicals need to re-examine Matthew 19:9 and Miss Sharon wrote a book very well detailed and researched. Jesus and Mark 10 2-12 gave us the explanation that divorce did not and has not existed from the beginning. He did not leave things the way that they were. The people Twisted Moses's arm and they suffered him to put their wives away and that is why he gave them a statue but from the beginning it is not to be so and it should not be so for Christians. go to RU-vid and search Pastor Logan divorce and remarriage, he just recently did a series on this topic. all you people are for divorcing her marriage and God and Jesus and Paul are not. You guys will be held for the false teaching you guys are giving people no excuses no loopholes but for life
My wife divorced me and cut me off from her and our daughter even though we were active in church, even though I was faithful. I had a full time job, I was a loving father and a loving husband. I never cheated, and she left me alone to suffer. I forgave her but to this day I think she cheated on me. I can't understand any other reason she would do something crazy like that. Her heart went angry and cold.
What is the take of divorce for toxic forced marriage (by the man himself and parents as well).?? I couldn't find a thing about forced marriage in Bible Kindly guide me
No…He doesn’t say there’s EVER a biblical grounds for divorce. That is how most modern false teachers teach that. It was never so. 1 Cor 7, you can separate and stay single or reconcile… BUT never remarry, if you want to be right with God.
Mental issues.. but in truth what I thought was a believing wife was in fact someone with narcissistic/personality disorder of some kind, which is another way of saying she was not seeking God but instead material things and all the things of the world. Unequally yoked. I was not prayerful enough or wise enough to see or identify all of the red flags before we married and asked God to take care of the marriage when I now know I wasnt supposed to marry that unfaithful person who was not seeking relationship with God the Father. All the things came out right after marrying. You will stand alone before The Lord in eternity. Marriage can be a beautiful thing in a God centered marriage but was terror with the wrong unbelieving spouse who ultimately left for material reasons among other hidden things. People with childhood damage like that are not fit for a God centered marriage and it is better by far for those that God leads to remain unmarried. I see it in my brother's marriages... Serve the wife's wants and needs FAR ABOVE SERVING THE LORD. Thank God He is merciful and lead me through it. The Godly MUST NOT join to the ungodly. It is grounds for divorce most certainly. I will not serve an unbelievers many whims and unfaithful desires over serving The Lord! PERIOD
I feel like, to the comments asking, an abusive spouse counts as a nonbeliever. You cannot say you live as a Christian and abuse your spouse. That's not a believer. God says husbands love your wives as Jesus so loved the church. Wives were called to be submissive. There is no call for us to ABUSE our spouses or our children!!!!! SO PLEASE HURRY AND LEAVE WHETHER MALE OR FEMALE!
Only men are allowed to divorce? What if HE WAS/Is an atheist that hardened his heart against God, beat me for studying the bible, or whenever he felt like it, kept me from my family and friends and never gave me my paycheck ( I worked for him the entire marriage) didn’t pay into my social security, tried to kill me And still thinks he did nothing wrong ? I stayed for 20 years preaching to him but he never listened to me once. I divorced him and took nothing but a few bags of thrift Shop clothes my mother had to buy for me because he wouldn’t provide anything but junk food. I also got 4th stage cancer the first year of our marriage and he treated me like i was worthless. Screaming at me that I was a reject and no good to him if I couldn’t slave for 17-18 hours EVERYDAY.
If a marriage of one or two ineligible people (Leviticus 18-20) creates a circumstance of sinful impurity, divorce would be the only way to repent from that adulterous union caused by hardheartedness (a refusal to follow God’s will) to restore purity. This is why Jesus explains that if you marry someone who is divorced, it is adultery, also if you are divorced and marry someone else it is adultery. Illegitimate marriages like those in Ezra 9-10 that are expressly forbidden by God should be divorced from, even if there are children involved. You cannot remain in something you know is wrong through some false justification that it makes you happy, to ease your conscience for wrongfully satisfying desire, and insist it is still acceptable, good and right. You cannot exchange good for evil and evil for good, without living in error.
So if it's a covenant if the man husband commits adultery due to lustful desires and is an unbeliever also if she divorced because he filed isn't he that broke the covenant? This is my testimony...but I was not the one that cheated committed adultery...he was unclean meaning breaking commands of God and our vowed covenant.
No, Spouse breaks contract/vows when abuses wife. Emotionally , mentally, verbally…. He already broke his vow & that point. Namely when it’s repeated and it’s continued. All 27 years I e experience this n my kids. No more. 7 years physicaly separated to protect my remaining children .😢😢😢😢
Divorce after adultery ?? God's Law required all adulterers were to be stoned to death. You can't divorce a spouse if that spouse is dead via stoning, with the other spouse throwing the first stone. Before stoning, shouldn't one of the Ruling Elders have asked what prompted the adultery ? There's always a cause. Could it have been the behavior or lack of behavior of the other spouse that prompted the adultery in the guilty party ? Maybe the non-adulterer was actually the truly guilty party. Jus' askin'...
If the marriage doesn't work out even if one commits adultery they still can't remarry. Matthew 5:32 the only exception is fornication not adultery. Jesus is talking about a betrothal marriage which gentiles are going to have grounds for the exception. You my friend tell a lie on marriage and remarriage.
Thank you so much… I’ve been straddling the fence when it comes to moving forward with a new partner after a divorce where adultery took place.. does that make me an adulterer if I remarry, though I did not commit adultery?
My husband cheated on me for another woman... we're happily married for 9 years...we are parents of 3 years old boy... now... We are still husband and wife but my husband doesn't divorce me and recently he's living with another woman ane both of they become parents recently....it hurts me a lot.... I'm totally broken....he cheated on me and my baby...my husband is cruel... not receiving call or massage....I tried a lot for him but he is not changing....I don't know why this thing happened with me...I don't want divorce..
It’s not just adultery I’m sorry if your being mentally abused, controlled and being manipulated or anything that stains your well being. Even I seen a comment that said domestic abuse what just pray the man changes no way get out of that marriage. If one person demonetizes who you are and your well being by there choice and your not allowing it then get out of the marriage. Hey let me tell from experience I had all the first 3 happen to me and what else followed trust me even though it happened I tried to reconcile and did the right thing and was shut down completely because they wanted power over me. Oh yeah that was the law back then what does the law say today about divorce?
What if you have an abusive (violent, both physical and verbal) alcoholic husband? Abusive to the wife and even his kids? The wife is christian but the husband isn't. What is the wife supposed to do if prayer and fasting didn't work after years of torment? Is she justified to divorce him? And marry someone else?
A marriage takes two people and a divorce takes two people as well. The difference is only side wants the divorce why the other would rather fight for their marriage. I dislike bragging about this but I’m getting a divorce and ever since she handed me the papers I haven’t been the same. The thing that I’m afraid of is her already being with someone after we separate. Of course I have two paths: Stay single forever and raise our four kids or give time for myself and remarry. But with the way the world is nowadays, it’s best for me to stay single.
The only 2 scriptural grounds for remarriage is Adultery or a spouse passes away. But if a spouse commits adultery & they have sexual relations before a divorce has taken place. Then those grounds for divorce are now void.Because having relations is an act of forgiveness hence dissolving the scriptural grounds for divorce.
Pastor Vlad, very good points here. However, could you address a spouse being physically and otherwise abused what the Holy Spirit would want to be the answer for that?
So I'm divorced, and i remarried I did not know this now that I want to give my life to Jesus and do the right thing there's no way i will be able because im in adultery and will die in my sins? So what is in for me, forget about my salvation? Am I doomed for ever even if I repented for everything I have done?
If you're a victim of abuse,leave. Your life shouldn't be ruined if someone abuses you. God does not join everyone together, some people join themselves. So expand your boundaries because there are a lot of Christians who stay in abusive marriages because of what you're saying. It's done a lot of harm to Christian women especially. So, sorry, not good enough for protecting women!
My husband discarded me and insists on divorce. I didn’t want to, even though he physically and emotionally abused me the whole marriage. Can I remarry even if he’s alive? I keep getting mixed messages on this
What happens when you marry an individual who becomes lazy and irresponsible? What do you do when you have to carry most of the burden yourself? This is abuse though not physical abuse but still abuse. How are you supposed to work with a partner who doesn’t want responsibility? It’s not right that one individual carries all the load and burns out is it? The Bible doesn’t spell everything out for you all the time, in this case the marriage doesn’t work so why keep it when you’re miserable.
To be honest I’m 40 years old and never married cause when I marry I marry 1 time only. But what if you find someone and marry and then he becomes abusive and beats you daily. The Bible never said you can divorce in case of abuse. And I find that strange
