What Can You Do If Your Friendships Don’t Feel Reliable? Add Consistency

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Do you feel like you or your friends are just too busy to prioritize friendship? Do you wish for them to feel easier than having to schedule them weeks out and wonder if you’re really seeing each other enough? Do you talk or get together so infrequently that it always feels rushed or filled with updating before the next gap of time starts? Do you wonder if your friends truly have your back? Do you feel supported in meaningful ways? Do you worry that they wouldn’t be there for you if you really needed them?
This is the 3rd of 4 videos describing the 3 Relationship Requirements.
In this video, Shasta Nelson, a leading expert on friendship, teaches the 2nd of 3 Relationship Requirements that we can use to assess and evaluate every relationship in our lives. When we understand what each of these actions are- we then know how to start, repair, or deepen every friendship around us. Consistency is where we log the hours that our friendship needs in order for us to start feeling safe with each other- like we can predict what to expect from the other. This is the activity that fosters trust and reliability. In a busy world… we have to be intentional about what it means to really be in each other’s lives. This video is packed full of ideas, tips, strategies, and ways to increase the consistency in all of your friendships!
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., speaks across the country for organizations and companies that want their people to develop better relationships and is a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes. She is also the author of two books: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends and is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, her tribe of women committed to creating more friendship in this world.
For more resources:
1) Take the Frientimacy Quiz here: www.girlfriendcircles.com/frientimacyquiz
2) Shasta’s book Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness: www.amazon.com/Frientimacy-Deepen-Friendships-Lifelong-Happiness/dp/1580056075
3) Join GirlFriendCircles.com (women only): www.girlfriendcircles.com/
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24 авг 2018

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@Nico5890 2 года назад

I love everything you do, tbh, but I ESPECIALLY love the straight talk you blessed us with from 10:35-10:50. I was getting all insecure about having initiated ALL of the meet-ups with one friend... I've been "in my head" imagining that maybe she doesn't really want to hang out. But then I realized: she has said "yes" to every invitation, she's never cancelled or been late, she shows up well-dressed and smiling, she's an active listener and doesn't even check her phone when we're in conversation... What a freakin blessing. She's still good friend material! Sometimes one person leads the "consistency" piece. It's still worth doing.

@arunimachakraborty4596 3 года назад

My best friend and I always text each other "good morning" and "good night". I don't remember clearly since how and when it became a routine...but it's so important to us. She even wished me a 5 days' morning and night at once, because she was going on a trip for five days (Hey Mou...if you are seeing this, I love you💓) . Even if we don't talk to each other some day (because maybe we are kinda busy that particular day) we would always know that we are there for each other. Consistency matters, it builds trust. Thanks for the video. Thanks Shasta for being there for us. We need you, in a world where almost nobody's talking about friendship, where everyone's caring about getting a boyfriend or girlfriend or etc etc...... Friendship matters. The world would have been sooo beautiful if everyone tried to be a better friend.

@Krys579 3 года назад

Awhhh that sounds like such a wholesome friendship - love it 🥰

@arunimachakraborty4596 3 года назад

@@Krys579 Thank you🙂.

@bellarose8511 4 года назад

I keep reaching out, inviting, & they agree but then it never happens? Yet I see (social media) they’re with others. You say to keep reaching out, but I feel like I’m just looking desperate.

@joyceravary3961 Год назад

Well, I initiate but one of my best friends over 20 yrs, no longer answers the phone, so I went to a quick text, but then she no longer answered texts, then she let me know she was annoyed by my text because she was "busy". She only gets hold of me when she needs a favor.

@it-ke9od Год назад

Easy. Let her go. It's sad but you will get over it and in time, realize you should've let go sooner. Good luck ❤

@lindseytallent2855 4 года назад

What I’m hearing is that it’s what happens in your time together that builds trust. Sometimes one person initiates that time more at the beginning.

@republiccooper 2 года назад

Your content is great. Please don't stop. I'm glad people are realizing these pointers are as valid for men as they are for women.

@btrdangerdan2010 Год назад

I need to record this on cassette to listen to over and over again

@btrdangerdan2010 Год назад

@@phaikabob5384 I don't have an ipod anymore

@UnexpectedAmy 4 года назад

I love this video! Thank you so much for sharing and educating. I'm a little confused...how to reconcile being the one who makes the effort in the relationship and how that could ever translate into being able to rely on something? If they don't show up in the earlier stages, what reason is there to believe they'd show up later? Therefore how could it be a gift to invest time into people you have no reason to trust? Universal positive regard and compassion is great, but not everyone can be a close friend..

@shawnette1 3 года назад

*QUALITY* time... spending quality time, just spending time builds habit not intimacy 🌹

@jameslightsey1761 20 дней назад

Personally I think initiation should happen with both sides. Not just one person. Regardless of whether things always workout when only one person does the initiating

@colinpatrick2729 Месяц назад

Shasta bought your 2 books. Does compatibility in interests, personalities values sit within positivity as a foundation for the connection also can the stages of feiendship translate to contact friend - good aquaintance common friend - casual friend. I understand at contact friend stage you dont make intentional plans to spend time together outwith the context you are in. Where does reciprocity in intiation sit?