What did she look like five weeks after death? 

Oh my goodness.... thank you so much ladies, this is about my sister. Watching now ♡ Still no toxicology results, its been 10 weeks now that we have been waiting. Unfortunately, both suspicious and criminal activity surround my sisters death, the CID were and still are involved. Along with a backlog, it just all took so much time..... Thank you so much for taking the time to answer this for me.... its really helped.... love to you both ❤

My dad found his younger brother dead in a heated bedroom in late February in 1998. He died about 3.5 days earlier according to autopsy. The coroner had the body for several weeks and as a result, no viewing was possible. My dad, a retired policeman, said that the body was dark in the upper quadrant because of how he was laying. Dad really hoped the funeral home could do a miracle so he could escape that terrible memory. It haunted him for a long time. I wanted to see pictures so I could get closure, but my dad blocked me from it. Years later after I became an officer, I understood why. You have a disconnect when it’s someone you don’t know, but a friend or relative is a challenge to handle. Not meaning to preach to you, but I’ve had instances where I didn’t get the visual closure. I’ve found that praying for peace and healing will help.

Here in the U.S. every funeral home has cold storage , embalming, hair color, makeup. The trouble is they put makeup on women that maybe really didn’t wear it and some are so overdone. Then again, I’ve seen some that they’ve done a phenomenal job. Very expensive industry in the U.S.

When my Mum passed away. I was with her. When I visited her in the Funeral Parlour. She was NOT embalmed. This was three weeks after she passed, when I visited her. She looked beautiful. There was so much Peace, around her. Cyra xxxx

My brother unalived himself 21yrs ago. He wasn’t found for 16hrs. At the hospital they advised us not to view him. We were able to have an open casket & he looked like he was sleeping. You could only see some swelling in his hands. The mortician did an excellent job.

Like you guys, my niece (mortician & cosmetologist) was asked to reconstruct her high school boyfriend after a car accident, his mother searched her out to prepare him for the funeral, the mothers only child, she wanted to see him as he was before the accident. I think that was traumatizing for my niece and gave his mother a gift to remember him as he was, she will forever thank my niece for being apart of his life and giving him back his beautiful face.

I’m the UK. My Mom passed 20 years ago in September at 47. She passed on 22nd sept and October 10th was her funeral because it was sudden I was only allowed to see her the day of her funeral. My Dad had to go in first as she was so bad and I was 17. All I can remember is she was going black round her hair line and I can still smell. It was so traumatising and I regret seeing her, My Dad passed on 4th of May after nearly 5 years battle of cancer (he was yellow)and I saw him after and I could not thank the embalmer lady enough. She gave me such a precious memory of him just looking asleep, pain free after such a hard battle. Thank you seriously for your channel. You explain things so gently. You two are beautiful humans x To Kate, massive love to you sweetheart x

You two are just such lovely women. Hearts of gold 100%.

We are not our bodies, thankfully. Our Souls are our real selves. I see bodies as no more as cars. 😊 Thanks Ladies, you always answer with class and tact. 💖💖💖

My step-son died suddenly from a ruptured aorta. His death was reported to the (UK) Coroner and it was four weeks before we could have a funeral. We visited him at the funeral home when his body was released from the Coroner, where he lay at rest in a refrigerated bed in a lovely peaceful 'bedroom'. Sadly, our last memory was of bad skin slippage on his face and it wasn't the last memory we really wanted. The funeral director did say he 'didn't look too good' but none of us really knew what that meant at the time. His mum and I went in first and we were able to inform his dad and brother, who then decided not to view him. It was the right decision.

Very sensitive topic but u answered with such sincerity and love as always! I had no idea that some places didnt have cold storage. I would think that would be a law especially if it takes weeks to bury someone..... that blows my mind too! Here in the U.S its usually 5 days with an embalming. It breaks my heart when funeral directors will tell a family member "NO" u cant touch your loved one. I can see them making a suggestion but when it comes down to it, they have no right to stop them and I for one would have told them to shove it. Some act like your loved one is THEIR property and that pisses me off. Sending love and hugs to the woman this happened to. Great video T&T Stay warm! ❤💜

My son died from Lukeima and even before he died his body was turning black with the sepsis it was horrible to see, I was advised not to go and see him in the funeral home and ir broke my heart that I couldn’t say a proper goodbye to him but I understood he looked bad enough when he was alive so I really don’t want to. Imagine what he looked like a while after dying bless him xxx

Very interesting. I used to be afraid of seeing death, but you do a special service and not many people are cut out for all it takes.Thank you both!

IT'S SO HARD TO LOSE A VERY LOVED SISTER AND I AM SO VERY SAD FOR YOU.HUGE HUGS.😍

You are so sincere,empathetic, and educated with your answers. Thank you for the channel ❤️

You both are straight up with matters but more importantly you do it with compassion! Thank you!!!...Robin

I found my dad deceased around 7am he had had a massive heart attack. He don’t look too bad but once the ambulance had taken him away and ultimately passed him to the funeral directors, we too were told now to view well more advised not to view as he had apparently “blown up”. And it would haunt us. Obviously not boom but I’m wondering would it have been such a no no to see him bear in mind I was 20 and this was 32 years ago

I always think that if the family wants to say goodbye then you have to explain the option of remembering her as she was, or never get closure which usually means it’s harder because some people don’t believe a death until they’ve seen it. Personally I would do my absolute best to make sure that one hand was airbrushed, although with skin slip it tends to look like peeling sunburn, and I have in the dark past actually put a couple of latex gloves one over the other, wrapped the arm in clingfilm then crepe bandage and put on a silk glove, just for the family to hold. We do what we can to make it work for the person in our care and for the families too, it’s always a learning curve... and there’s always the option of shrouding the body but leaving the top of the head uncovered for the family to stroke their hair gently. It sounds like it was just lazy work on the part of the funeral director in this case, and to say it’s no longer a sister irks me no end. Edit.. I’ve just watched the bit in the middle of the video that I missed, and I’ve just said the same thing you guys said. I still think the funeral home should have made more of an effort to do something for the poor family

My mom passed December 16 th she didn’t have autopsy and died in hospital I viewed her the day before her funeral January 23rd and I will say it was the most horrendous experience of my life and I wish I had kept the memory I had of her not the one I now have. I wouldn’t advise seeing anyone after this long, I found it disturbing and nothing usually phases me. The funeral directors didn’t remove even plasters from her arms and had to hide them under the coffin lining. I’m not sure if she was embalmed as my brother organised the funeral etc. viewing someone after a longer time is decently harder.

Interesting channel. When my grandma died 45 years ago,she passed in the hospital and was immediately embalmed. What was remarkable was although she was 86 she looked so beautiful and many years younger. I myself want to be cremated and stay with my daughters in a couple of urns or have them pour me into the ocean ❤

When my nephew died. The funeral home didn’t have cold storage. Even though his parents were on their way the funeral home sent him straight to the medical examiner. The medical examiner wouldn’t allow us to view him. They kept him 4 weeks. By the time he came back to the funeral home a cremation was needed due to decomposing. There was no closure. We fought for the right to see him and I don’t think anyone has the right to say no.

You ladies have such grace when covering these topics. Much love and respect. ❤

Thanks for being so willing to teach about things that are hard, but SO important. ❤❤❤

We do have cold storage in the UK. If the family member died in hospital they would go to cold storage until released to funeral home, we’re they also have cold storage. I’ve lost many close family members and all of them were on cold storage till the viewings were over and the funeral preform.

5 weeks! There must be so many suspicious deaths... :( I'm glad the mortician was honest with them, but I wish they'd done the ribbon or hair or something!

You are both so wonderful at educating us. Thank you 🙏

When I found my friend who had died a day and half earlier. He was still in rigor mortis. But his face. I wish I could forget. Figurative speaking. Imagine a blaçk hole between the eyes and gravity pulling all your facial features toward it. The skin creases caused by it look like black lines. The rest of his face was a bluish grey. One thing that still sticks in my mind was how parts of his body was hot to touch and the rest cold. He kept his apartment 80 degrees

Sad . I can't imagine someone not being buried for that long . Here in Kentucky people are usually buried within 4 days . Usually 2 . Also I think that 5% of people are embalmed. I feel bad for the sister .❤❤ . I adore you ladies .

I love that you ladies took a lot of time, and put a lot of thought on how to approach this difficult question……you’re the bestest and slap me silly and call me a groupie! Much love to you lovely ladies 🖤☠️

When my parents died, there was no cold storage in the funeral home.

I remember during Covid, places ran out of room to store bodies, so not all of the dead were in cold storage!

Hi ladies hope you both are well, I loved the way you explained to the lady that sent you the email regarding her sister I really hope it gave her some comfort. I hope you find the strength to get through this horrible sad time ❤❤

You do such a wonderful job making videos like this. It really helps people. Thank you 🙏.

My brother kissed my Mom when she was deceased. He said it was a coldness he would never forget, one he would NEVER DO AGAIN! He described it as a coldness that goes to the bone.

The normal time in the uk for burial is 3 or 4 days unless there are suspicious circumstances or a post mortem examination.As for cold storage off course we have that in our mortuarys we are not in the habit of leaving dead bodies to decompose. There are strict guidelines that funeral undertakers have to follow in the UK.

The only profession in the world that will always have customers queueing up to get in, and employees will never be out of a job. It’s a true saying we are all born to die, 😢😢😢

I just found your channel & I love it (if that’s a proper thing to say😳) I’m from Indiana & I’m guessing embalming procedures are pretty much the same???? Years ago my aunt passed unexpectedly. She was in the hospital going to have some tests ran but died because one of the meds her dr had her on caused her to bleed out internally. At the funeral my cousin (my Aunts daughter) & I were straightening up my Aunts sleeves before everyone started coming in to pay respects & as I moved the sleeve I felt & heard plastic. I just stopped & looked at my cousin & she asked what that noise was & I said her arm’s wrapped in plastic & we pushed up her sleeve & looked & sure enough from her wrist up was wrapped in plastic. Could you explain why that was? My cousin never asked the funeral home & I didn’t want to over step my bounds & ask myself but after all these years I’m still wondering why?

My question is a bit graphic. So when the vascular system is compromised and you can’t do a “traditional” embalming, how do you remove the blood from the body, or can you? If you do hypodermic embalming, does that counter the blood that hasn’t been removed?

Hello lovely ladies as ever a brilliant video. Just goes to show you never know what happens in a funeral home. Really nice to get answers to many questions and to hear that your loved one is being cared for with respect. Love you guys huge hugs 🌹🌹🌹💕

5:30 I can't believe how quickly the body breaks down after death. Like, immediately? Somehow that detail is a bit disturbing to me. I don't know why.

You have been so informative and supportive Thank you, and lots of hugs to the lady who allowed you to discuss it please let there be more of these c subjects we see as taboo shouldn't be x ❤

Thank you for answering this question my brother wasn't found for 2 days and wondered this. Hugs you both

Hi Ladies, Sorry to hear you so busy Tracy. A lot of grieving families.😔 Hope you get some time to ‘de-stress’. ❤️

At least in hospitals (I worked @ a top UK children's hospital), it's a legal requirement to store bodies in a fridge, so I imagine it would be the same at a coroner's facilities & funeral homes. Even hospices have chilled rooms to spend time with your loved one before they go to the funeral home/

Haven't seen your channel in a very long time. I watched it all the time. And strangely enough, I been thinking about you guys for a couple days and then you showed up 😅. Missed you ladies

Glad to see you back on. I love to hear your stories.

I’m sad!! I just went to a funeral yesterday to say goodbye and witness the burial of a friend. 😞

My mother looked peaceful and beautiful. The mortician did a wonderful job. But my mother passed away in a nursing home and was taken almost immediately to a funeral home and embalmed quickly. My mom looked as though she had just gone to sleep. Morticians are unsung heroes in my opinion. You ladies are amazing!

You pair are great I could watch you all day xx❤

So sorry that you couldn’t see your sister!😢 The funeral ppl that look after our loved ones after they pass don’t make those decisions lightly,when my 35 year old son passed away unexpectedly the coroner had him for 5 weeks and our funeral director couldn’t promise that we would have a viewing,thank God we could,so I really feel for those families that don’t get to see their loved ones for the last time. It would have killed me not being able to see him. They really put their heart and soul into doing everything they can so the loved ones can view them! Hope you get some healing!❤❤

When my mom passed in February 2015, it was 5weeks before her funeral. longest 5weeks of my life. There's no closure.

When my parents died, 12 years apart, Daddy first, I went in to see him in the mortuary first before the rest of the family went, and viewed Daddy with a medically critical eye. I told the mortician that Daddy looked so pale, that he had a rather ruddy complexion, and the mortician told me "no problem, we can fix that" and they did. When my mother died, I saw her first just after she'd been completely washed and her hair was all straight back on her head on the block, but dry. I asked the mortician what they were going to do with her hair, and he asked me if I could bring in a picture of how she wore her short hair. I did that and they fixed it exactly like the picture, I was amazed. So I know that there is a lot that can be done to make loved ones presentable at their funeral so that they look as natural as possible. That is the goal of every mortician! In both instances of my parents, Daddy was a medical doctor, and his funeral was delayed so that 3 young doctors could get there, one from Africa, one from Europe, and one from north Alaska, so his funeral was a week after his death but some of his patients who came to the funeral said he looked normal, "just like himself." (Daddy always wore glasses so he had those on at his funeral and afterwards, the mortician gave us his glasses and an expensive tie-tack, before the graveside service.) I did not know that Daddy had put several young men through medical school, so that's why they wanted to come and eulogize him. It was comforting to hear their words. Both my parents had incredible care after they died, and both looked very normal to us and we were so grateful for all the efforts the mortuary took to make them look as normal as possible.

I believe that cremation or burial should happen when the family are ready to say goodbye, after they've had the time they need to spend with their loved one, and to mentally prepare themselves for the separation. Everyone is different and timing needs to be based on personal preference. I understand that there are circumstances where this isn't possible, and as long as the viewer is being protected, and understands this, has time to digest this. I think having the deceased at home for a week, prior to the funeral is a beautiful thing, and gives loved ones the time they need. Not always possible I know.

Love you girls….so warm and kind, thank you❤

Lawyers and funeral directors. The two worst kinds of people to have to deal with in a crisis.😢

I have found from working in the funeral industry in the UK, they do not go as far in the way of reconstruction and embalming as they do in other countries. I feel the likes of the USA, Australia, Canada etc take more pride and care in preparing and presenting the deceased for families. I wish the UK would follow suit and take that extra time to prep the deceased, especially with re construction and mortuary make up, but unfortunately they do not in my experience 😢

I can imagine there was an additional cost for Kates family or wasn't qualified.. when her sister died was it still cold out.. as I'd be thinking about the time vs the heat.. and also how high the heating was, thinking on how they're not sure of COD.. possible questions to push back to the Police.. Kate, can you think of a time where you were together laughing and having fun... because that's a really good way to remember your dear sister.. its not fair that you didn't have the chance to hold her hand.. but thinking good memories is a good way to think of her. So sorry for your loss xx

Sounds like they gave this poor woman Kate a raw deal it was her love one it’s just not fair it should be up to the family not anyone else . Classy answer T&T thank you for being so sensitive about this. I pray for peace for you and your grief.

Thank you both ever so much for enlightening us all. God bless ya both ❤ xxxxx

Most funeral homes in the US offer grief counseling services.

Hi ladies: I've heard an anecdote(s) that some acute care & post-vax COVID decedents were demonstrating a greater # of thromboses during aspiration. Idk if these were from cannula and/or trocar aspirates. But, it's heresay from mortuary staff.

Another great explanation ladies.

Found this really interesting. I'd like to know if you have requests to prepare a body for a natural burial. I'm in the UK and considering this option for myself. Hopefully, it will be a long time from now. Your vlogs are so interesting, considering it's a subject we all avoid.

I have a friend that was buried at 6 months after death. She was stored in cold storage until burial. She looked completely normal except some parts of her face face looked much darker than other parts. I don’t know any information on her embalming. Since all of this occurred in Nigeria. Which I’m sure isn’t the Gold Standard. I was truly surprised she looked as good as she did after 6 months!

I have no desire to see my deceased loved one's body. Embalming will NOT be used on me. I think it's a sick money making practice. Jmho.

I have a question why do funeral homes push so heavily on embalming bodies when that's not even a permanent fix because I always thought when bodies are in the refrigerator or a freezer whichever one you want to prefer to they're supposed to keep them because those that do the embalming that embalming chemicals is toxic to the ones that have to administrate and do the procedure why do they recommend embalming and I'm in Ohio they say it's not a law that you have to be embalmed but when you go to these funeral homes such as Walker or Thompson Hall and Jordan or renfrow all of these funeral homes recommend you to be embalmed to have a public viewing and I think that's just the way that funeral home scrape up more money especially if you only have in your our awake and then the funeral is some funeral homes that wake is not even a whole hour and maybe 30 minutes or so or it depends on what the family wants I just want to know a little bit about embalming in the preservation of human bodies because I do not want to be embalmed when I pass away

Really interesting content! I’d like to know what happens to all the fluids removed from the deceased, how is that disposed of?

Love y'all! So kind and caring!

You ladies make such a good team. I really like the way you guys work in tandem. very professional.

My six year old daughter died in a house fire . She was badly burned both ears had been burnt off her hair on one side one of her legs was black and the bone was exposed. We wanted a private viewing to say good by . My daughter was a mixed race child so she had copper coloured skin ,when her coffin was opened I told both my others daughters to stay seated. My baby’s body was bright fuchsia , her eyes were sunk in and we could see into her head her chest was rock hard I put my hand on her and it felt like she had a sheet of cardboard raped around her . Should that mortician have closed her eyes and they never told me why my black child was pink? I found out that it was carbon dioxide that turned her pink ,I found this out from an episode of CSI . It seems that they dropped the ball on how she was handled ?

This is such an interesting video. My own father died in his home from alcoholism complications. My brother found him a week later after what was estimated to be 1-2 weeks deceased in very hot weather. We agreed that we didn't want him embalmed as that isn't something we do in our family typically, but also we both assumed that the 'embalming ship' had sailed. I understood that he would be stored chilled with the coroner and then at the funeral home, but my main question in my mind was: at the funeral, would we be able to smell any decomposition through the coffin? I'm autistic and I'm sensitive to smells and also find it helps my anxiety to be able to visualise situations ahead of time. I was really anxious about the funeral as I struggle with large groups of people, and although we'd planned everything that we could I desperately wanted to know whether to expect any smell from the coffin, especially as his home had quite a strong smell (not particularly unpleasant - the expired food in his fridge smelled way worse than the decomposition smell left behind in the house). I searched and searched online and couldn't find anything about whether there would be a smell from the coffin. In the event when we followed the coffin down the aisle in the church I could smell a faint sweet musky smell but that was it. I would have really valued this type of anecdotal info so if anyone else would benefit from this please feel free to use my story. Aside: This experience made me wonder whether lilies are traditional funeral flowers because they smell so strong and can overpower any decomposition smell in times before embalming.

Thank you for this important topic. Our imagination doesn’t always help and you did.

We found my mom passed away and had died just over 24 hours. She had no autopsy at my request because we knew what she wanted and we had her embalmed and when we saw her she looked nothing like herself, we had to look down from the top of her head at an angle to recognise her. Was that normal? Please x

We've had trouble embalming those who have died from heat exhaustion and sometimes somethings happen chemically in the body and you just can't embalm it just won't take. People who have died from certain drugs, chemo and even alcohol will effect embalming it just depends. And if there's tissue gas then that creates even more problems. Tissue gas you can actually hear at least in my experience you can hear an almost a soft snap crackle and pop sound with it like someone putting milk in rice crispies thats when its pretty advanced and a problem or can be a problem

Thank you. I needed to hear this also. ❤️🐩

Good morning Tracy and Trish all the way from Ireland 🇮🇪! It’s 7.27am Saturday 6th July here! Tracey I have a question, is it possible for livor mortise to start setting in 24 hours prior to death? I ask this because my fiancé died 5 years ago and when I was with him in the hospital the day before he died I noticed a large dark purple patch on his back just above the left hip! And he died the following evening from cardiac arrest! So I just thought I would ask you as I know that livor mortise happens after death! Thanks ladies!🙏🏻❤️👍🏻😇! Patzi!xx

Love the accents and I am from Texas USA . I love the way y'all talk about the process of decomp . Very informative . Thanks

Sorry new to the channel, great content ladies, very informative and compassionate too, random question is the lady on the left of a geordie backround?

What a difficult job you have ladies xx

Many funeral directors in the UK do now have cold storage, it's essential due to our population numbers and the length of time we have to wait for funeral services, even pre covid it was often 3 weeks. My Mother was kept refrigerated for almost a month prior to her funeral, no post mortem was done or needed. You could see a slight greening around the eyes and chin/ mouth area and the lips had dried up like old bacon, her facial bones were more visible under the skin and the eyes had sunk somewhat. But there was no smell and she wasn't embalmed.

That was really interesting, thanks Ladies...

Hallo beautifull ladies.love from me in South Africa.Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us.Love and blessings for you both❤

Thanks so much for more interesting information!

Oh Tracy!!! I had to go back to the beginning of the video to catch your pun...lol Interesting as usual!!

Very respectful and detailed answers

Are you dying to know i read that statement by Susan and another person i think her name was Phylis who said you talked to much. They bothered me. Does Phylis expect you to not talk? I think these people are being very rude. I hope you keep doing these videos. I learn so much and i appreciate what you do. 😊 Love you ladies ❤. Thank you again from Long Island N. Y.take care.😊

The kindness and tact with which you answer these questions is incredible. You give families the answers they want but in such a delicate way. So much respect to both of you ❤

All due respect but was wondering after three weeks not being inbombed, wouldn't there be a smell of decay?

Don’t ever lose that lovely North-East accent to ‘Strayen’!!

My dad chose to be cremated and I was his poa. I have had nightmares of him burning. Will this get better?

In the US all these things cost quite a lot of money. Unless you live in a small, close-knit community where it isn't uncommon for funeral homes to donate care you aren't going to get labor/cost intensive services if there's no one to pay for it. 😢

Such a great informative explanation 😊

I’m sure the more experience the person is when preparing the body the better the body will look.

After the autopsy and toxicology test were done why wasn’t the body released to the funeral home by the coroner? After the coroner was done they should have reached out to the family and asked what funeral home they wanted to use. Either the coroner or the family dropped the ball and that’s why the deceased stayed in the freezer for 5 weeks! Coroners have enough unclaimed bodies to deal with. The sooner they can get them out the better, at least from what I’ve experienced.

My brother shot himself I begged to see him before cremation but not allowed to I feel.it was my right to see him

can a person be veiwed after drowning in a lake and not found till the next day?it was in the winter.

I have so many questions. I have sent several questions to you. I guess I did not includ enough details for you to answer. I will try again. I love you guys so much.

1:40 sudden and unexpected, no cause of death - shocking. Whatever could it have been?

Trish that lip color is gorgeous on you!

Your skeleton friend looks like he is saying the phrase ‘Say what”? 😂