The white guy seemed more open minded to black women and natural hair. I think this is the reason that you see alot of natural black women with white boyfriends or husband. I'm just saying that what I've observed.
honeybee1226 i feel like our best women and most powerful are the natural sistas. i hate when i see white men getting all the natural sistas cause i want one. hey i would rather they get all the weave head women!! i want a natural black sexy woman!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why was the white man more open to the hair that would never grow from his hair while the black men were so against something that grows from their scalps!
Idk but the affects of slavery definitely has something to do with it. Mass media continues to support the beliefs of slavery. We as human beings should be smart enough to rise above this nonsense.
But what do they have to do with him? Those are separate individuals. You are your own person. They only embarrassed themselves. Every black man is different. It's not like they're representing you. They aren't spokesmen for all black men.
I do not see why wearing weave to a black woman is a norm so they get mad at what a black man is use to seeing on her head must I remind you black women in America spends over 500 billion dollars just to look like something they are not
It's such a shame a white man is more open to natural African textured hair on a black woman than black men with the SAME textured hair as black women.
I don't understand the comments that the white guy is more understanding. He said he is attracted to a woman for her legs and hair. He said if she would like to cut her hair he is fine but he prefers her hair long. Honestly, they are all pretty superficial. If you fell in love with a woman having a relationship with her and she changed something that will eventually grow back, you are no longer interested? How immature are they?
musigirl11 I don't think there is. Perspective is how YOU view things, so basically its opinion. A persons opinion is not necessarily right or wrong, its just HIS/HER opinion.
musigirl11 But Hitler and all his followers didn't think it was wrong but everyone else did and majority still do. I hope you understand that what I'm saying is it depends. Kind of like a 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' kind of thing. No hate, I'm just saying...
I agree. That's been my experience in the bay. One of the reasons I only date someone who loves all of me. The minute black men talk about putting on a weave or straitening my hair is the day I leave them. It starts with one thing and before you know it you're no longer yourself. The results of slavery are very deeply rooted in black/african culture. It's bad.
"If my hair was on a black woman's head, I wouldn't date her." "I miss the straight hair I had as a child." I'm sure there are stronger examples of self-hate, but these have got to be top 5 or top 10. What really got me was the white boy being more open to how a black woman's hair grows out of her head than her brothers. "Bad hair? Like patches are missing?" Well said, white boy, well said!
I have always notice when a white man is nice to black women they call him cute or sweet but when a black man does the same thing, he gets an attitude... But it's all cool tho lol
jim d exactly but black women do not realize this since slavery black women to a white man is a sex object like a dildo so in a black woman's eyes she feel like he have always wanted to be with her when a black man have always wanted to be with a white woman. Chris. Rock put that on blast that same experience happened I'm at the doctor and a black woman tried this white man about his locks (not dreads that means hate) and he said he did not like a black woman in perms and weaves. She said I had to give him respect because he was telling the truth. So I asked what if it was a black man? She stated fuck that nigga lie to not. And I said you coined quick for the white man, no wonder black women will always be at the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to court ship and marriage
+Aurelia Blakney Is there a study on that? That reminds me of the "black women are least attractive" statements everyone pushes and the only two black women I know that aren't dating men are dating each other.
The guy raving about his "straight" hair is cracking me up. Like, really? Really, dude? I'm 99.999% sure this man's hair is NOT straight. Where did he get that from? Lol. Some people are certified delusional.
kelli johnson I've known black guys that said they had straight hair and then I caught them at the salon getting relaxers. BEWARE lol… these dudes ain't loyal hahah
It is possible, I have people in my family with straight jet black hair and people like me with reddish blondish or brownish curly or coily hair. There are specific central african tribes with straight hair. Now that being said doesn't mean you have better hair, cause honestly his hair looks dry and dusty which to me is bad hair. Healthy hair is good hair, no matter the texture.
+FashionRose lol he's forgetting that all babies look white/Indian when they're born with white hands and silky hair. All babies, including the black ones.
Wow this video is not a good look for these black guys. I mean even the white guy likes natural hair more than they do, hence why I scoff when black men say they are anti weave and love natural hair. Yeah you only like us with the loose curls but don't like the women with the tighter curls. I know of some friends who when they went natural and try to date black men, black men will tell them to "throw some weave on that shit". They are then forced to date out and then people are mad again..
Other races seem to be more accepting of kinkier hair than our own people. It's so sad. Whenever I wear twist out/fro white people love it and always compliment it bc they think it looks so cool (and bc their hair can't do that). And I always see black women (weaves, perm, baldheaded) giving me the "uh uh she need go slap a perm or sewin in her nappy head). It's a shame how brainwashed some black people are.
I hope that the two young black gentlemen continue their education and perhaps take a course in diversity appreciation. Their answers were saddening because they discouraged so much of what they come from- where's the empowerment? Where's the open mind?
they sure do have a LOT to say about women's hair and looks. It's interesting that one of the guys said he'd tell his daughter to take pride in her hair, but he himself had a lot of negative views and perceptions about natural hair. :-/
Yes! When Evan was talking about his feelings towards relaxed hair and natural, kinky hair, I wanted to slap him. He said he gravitated more towards women with straight hair and didn't really like the kinky look, but he also said that relaxers have instilled in him a bad connotation.
The saddest part is that the black men were most repulsed by things that were closest to them. The poor guy who declared he had naturally straight hair was plain delusional. The other striking thing is when they asked about how they would feel if their gf went natural, the white guy actually had a gf and spoke about a specific woman. The two black guys are talking about hypotheticals. I am totally not surprised they are alone.
THEY ARE BOYS ! plus most black men give into the wall of silence and say the go along to get along . the white guy didnt like "natural looking hair". I dont like when black men dont like natural hair. But that tells you a man is not about growing together, he is about looks. I went through that faze until I realized how weave wearer exhibit attitude and insecurity that goes hand in hand
the one with the glasses was pissing me off because some of the things he was saying we're ignorant. like saying "if by some FREAK ACCIDENT I was going out with a girl with zig zag coily" then calling women with short hair "MANNISH". He can have his opinions but I think he's ignorant to a lot of concepts.
His comments are clearly from an ignorant household vs a Worldly view. Tha boy hasn't experience the world.Dude is way institutionalized and will go right back home after school is over. 5 years from now hopefully he look back at the video and changes his view. If not more power to him in finding a girlfriend who can deal with his low self worth and misery!
yea I agree like when he was describing "good hair" he said that if you take too long its "bad" but every female with hair that is relatively long whether they r white black Hispanic whatever texture they have they all will take a longtime to do their hair 💁
What I really wanted to as him is if someone with what HE considers to be "good hair" or "nice hair" felt that way about him, how would he feel? Some black men can have such a double standard.
This is self hatred at its finest. I really hate that for them, it’s the curses found in in Deuteronomy 28:15-68 KJV Deuteronomy 28:54 KJV 54 So that the man that is tender among you, and very delicate, his eye shall be evil toward his brother, and toward the wife of his bosom, and toward the remnant of his children which he shall leave: But I did just want to share the good news with you. It’s kind of long but it will bless your life. So basically Blacks, Hispanics and Native Americans are the true chosen people of The Most High. That is why our history is not taught in school, other than slavery, they want to hide this from us. Our forefathers are Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. The reason we went into slavery for 400 years was because we broke Gods laws, statutes and commandments. How we can identify ourselves in the Bible is through the curses in Deuteronomy 28:15-68 but look at this. Deuteronomy 28:68 KJV And the LORD shall bring thee 👉🏾into Egypt👈🏾again with ships, 👈🏾by the way whereof I spake unto thee, Thou shalt see it no more again: and there 👉🏾ye shall be sold unto your enemies for bondmen and bondwomen, 👈🏾and no man shall buy you. Deuteronomy 7:6 For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God: the LORD thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth Egypt is synonymous to America in this scripture, if you look on the back of the dollar bill you will see an Egyptian pyramid. In America specifically Washington D.C. is full of monuments that mimic Egypt. And it states that we would be brought over here to America by ships which was the Atlantic Slave Trade and we were sold as slaves to our enemies, that no one would save us from the land which is the land of our captivity which we are still in today, America. Martin Luther King couldn’t save us, Malcom X, Marcus Garvey were all killed when attempting to liberate us from here. They’re out here crucifying Kanye and Kyrie for speaking the truth, but if we say kill niggas this and that it’s blasted on radios. We are the real Jews or Israelites. That’s our true identity. We are not black, that’s a color out of a crayon box. We are neither African. Every nation has a language, a land, culture, including us, we are Hebrews who originally spoke in the Hebrew tongue. We have to come back to the laws, statutes and commandments as well as believe on his son. Our history didn’t start in 1619. Again just wanted to share the good news!
Lol that dude said "I was born with naturally straight hair". . . I literally died. My brother says he will not date a black girl with a perm or weave. He prefers black girls with their natural hair, and that's a powerful statement. I wish more guys were like that.
Tell black women to stop wearing weaves then says they won't date women with extreme texture natural hair (I don't say nappy). If I don't find the right guy I'll be happy with my ten dogs.
no a black woman should stop wearing weaves why should a woman rely on a man do stop wearing something that wasn't born apart of her anyways. of if you think this is a weave it is called a Dominican press out. really black men only go by what they see if they see black women appreciate their hair more then they would accept her in her natural state
I appreciate black women who actually care about themselves, no matter what they do to their hair. I would even like it if they were bald. But even if they decided to wear wigs or weave, I would have absolutely no problem about it. If they want to relax or straighten their hair, that's just fine. Go completely natural? I would fall in love with her for being who she is. Bottom line, black women should not be defined by their hair. There are many black women in the world who are much more than what their hair can tell about themselves. And I don't believe a black man should ever tell a black woman, or any woman, how to wear their hair. Only if it can be for a certain reason. Therefore, they must not force them to look a certain way. Hair is art. I love doing hair. I love the way it looks. Some black men don't even have a good reason as to why they believe black women should wear their hair a certain way.
Men wear weaves as well now. I think Black Women should be super picky as well when it comes to Black men. The funny thing is in a bit there will be no full Black men or women, if you dont procreate with a full black women. So, this will not be an issue in about 20 years. I hope the list is worth it
@4:43"Does texture affect your attraction to natural hair women?" i found it to be interesting that the guys with natural hair themselves weren't as attracted to a woman with the same texture like them. Whereas the guy with the complete opposite hair was willing to accept a different texture. @7:34&@9:13 great answer!
My boyfriend is black and he loves my big, beautiful, 4b textured hair. He hates when I wear weave and prefers for me to wear my real hair. Don't lose hope, ladies. There are amazing black men out there who will love your hair just the way God made it :)
I love black men, but DANG! No love, man. No love. Obviously they're not the only black men who can speak on the topic, but I honestly feel like this is how MOST black men feel, and it's sad. Thank you for making this!!
Yeah. Sadly, that's been my experience with black men also. I'm currently dating a white man and he is FASCINATED with my hair. He loves it and whenever I showed him a picture of me with relaxed hair, he said my kinky hair looks more like it belongs to me. He always tells me my hair is perfect and beautiful. That's a lot more than I can say for the black man who told me to put a weave on.
Perla Gisselle wow. Told you to put some weave on??! Despicable. I've never worn weave a day in my life and I'm about to start transitioning to my natural hair. Euro beliefs are inflicting self hate amongst the black community.
MOST BLACK "MEN"(not boys) actually love natural , the media has taught MOST WOMEN to pay attention to the wrong guys and ignore the zeitgeist of BLACK men in general . For instance women would generally ask other women about why men do certain things and overlook asking a man who is also present and willing to give his account. When and if he does express his opinion, his experience is negated and ignored just to be in solidarity her preconceived notions. Yes these black men exhibited self hate. It is not entirely their fault , Its what they see on a regular basic so they embrace it through love for their mother, sisters and friends who WAS NEVER TAUGHT TO CARE FOR THEIR HAIR some of us men get fade hair cut for the same reason of not knowing how to groom our hair everyday, (napps on the side). We have to realize ALL US BLACK PPL HAVE BEEN BRAINWASHED AND BROUGHT UP IN WHITE SUPREMACY, thus not knowing HOW TO LOVE OUR NATURAL SELVES. There are so much of us black men out here now trying to get women to go natural but we need acknowledgement just like you do, so we can be more noticeable. Go out tomorrow and ask as much black men to be blatantly honest about the hair he rather , and you will see what i am talking about . I MEAN SOLID MEN ! not thugs players and men who dont care either way , try men who have an opinion I bet it will be about 70% to 80% of black men will say they prefer natural. The Mind Sees What It Wants
Michele1280 Aw man... You're one of those. If you call any person or group of people anything other than human, you ought to be ashamed of yourself. That was embarrassing to read.
Oh, I have gumption. I just lack the patience to deal with narrow-minded people who base their worldviews on emotion and conspiracy. I'm too intelligent to get caught up in something that puerile. In short, I'll pass.
Man, I REALLY wanted to see what Nolan would say to his daughter. He has real self-love issues. I know a guy like him who stopped talking to me when I went natural. It makes me really sad to see black men with so much self-hate.
So weird how black people can hate themselfs so much.... I had a friend in high school and she cut her hair and started wearing an afro. Other black girls where mocking her behind her back over how frizzy it was and how african she looked. I never hung out with those stupid people ever again. To make it worse: i knew a black guy who said he did not have African blood in him. He was serious about that. Slavery has done too much damage!
A couple of years ago I dated a guy from Africa and he wanted my hair straight..he loved that I grow long hair but he wanted it STRAIGHT. Fast forward to the present, I am marrying a white man and HE has been so supportive and encouraging me in my transition. He LOVES my natural texture. I can't wait to finish transitioning, its been 1 year so far..
Bethany, this just goes to show, that sometimes the majority of the problem is not other races but our own. Just like many black women, men also have been raised, or educated to think that our own natural hair is not something attractive. Their reaction is not suprising to me. it´s sad. It´s not only women who need to learn themselves included the natural hair but so do men. This is also one of the reason why so many women still refuse to let their natural hair show, because they think men won´t find them attractive. Yet i live in Angola a counry in Africa, and i also lived many years in the state and i´ll tell you something. white men or men from other race really don´t care what kind of hair you. Here in my country the white that live find african women extremelly attractive, even those women who sell on the streets that are very poor with dust in their faces and their hair completly a mess. Yet they tell me that they can see the beauty in them. So really this is something that is taught from early on in our culture what good hair is or not. i´m happy that you married someone that appreciates your whole beauty and loves you for who are whether you have straight hair or not.
lucy miranda. Thank you for your kind words. I got married in May and mini chopped the last of my transitioning hair (just about 4 inches) around 3 weeks ago and I feel so free. Not to knock anyone who has a relaxer, but this feeling is amazing! Hopefully we can start to change the minds of people who don't feel natural hair is beautiful. One of my biggest inspirations is FusionofCultures right here on RU-vid. Thanks again and congrats to anyone who has decided to make that journey whether you big chop or transition!
WOW. This video kind of reflects my life. My boyfriend is white (he's in my profile pic) and I've been natural for about 6 years (my hair is flat ironed in my photo). My boyfriend HATES when I straighten my hair. He says I look more like myself when its curly and crazy. He loves playing with my hair :) Maybe he likes it so much because he has naturally curly hair too. He literally had a curly fro for most of his childhood. Unfortunately, black men never have anything positive to say when its curly. I get looks and even laughs. I'm not worried about it though. I've found the man of my dreams
Wow. The white guy is A LOT more open-minded. Just hearing the black guy say that if his own hair was the hair on a girl's head, that he would not be attracted to her, is just saddening. No, I am not shaming black men, but it is just appalling to me.
The black guys' comments made me really sad. it says a lot about the history of colorist and internalized racism in our community. I'm going natural soon, and it saddens me to think that some people will have similar thoughts about my hair. My own dad thinks it's disgusting and that I'll look "mannish"
I feel like it was really sad that the white guy was more open and excepting of natural hair than the two black guys. I mean it's really sad that some men of color feel this way, because I don't care what that man says he did not have no naturally straight hair maybe not as nappy or coiled but not straight.. but that's just how it is sometimes. I've noticed slot lately that it's men of other races that except natural hair,some black men want to act as if that are down for natural hair sista but really they want the ones who constantly straighten or chemically treat their hair and to me that's not natural just because you're not putting on a wig or putting in weave doesn't make you natural because you're still chemically manipulating your hair.
I'm beginning to realize how lucky I am to have a black boyfriend who supports me in any decision I make regarding my hair. I am currently in a stage where I am going natural and he's all for it. I could literally tell him "I'm shaving off my hair" and even after that, he'll take me on dates and tell me how beautiful I am. He accepts me for ME. Its sad to see how shallow these black gentlemen can be. The white man reminded me a lot of my boyfriend. Did not expect that at all. Great video ~
You are 100% correct. It's been 30 years since black women at large have worn their kinky hair. Any black guy who is younger than 40 is not used to our hair. The 40 and younger crowd are the guys who are mainly saying they prefer straight hair, they just didn't grow up with it, and aren't used to kinky hair. My ex liked my kinky hair, but did express how he would have preferred it straight. I think it's just a culture shock to these black guys. Not only were they used to straight or wavy hair on other women, but on black women too.
Has someone addressed the fact that the black guys whose preference is not for zig zag coils, has hair of that type growing out of their heads. How can he say he doesn't like that when he has the exact same thing.
***** It's not about black women looking manish. I know that's what they said, but the issues goes much deeper than that! Consider that fact that there are PLENTY of women in other races who wear their hair short. Men have a right to have a preference but the black men here would still chose a non-black women with short hair over a bw with natural coily long hair! I guarantee it! The issue is that there is a long standing stigma associated with black men/women who chose to wear their God given natural hair! The funny part is the one's who actually are more excepting "now" and finding it so interesting. Stem from ancestors who created this disharmony in the 1st place. Trust me when I tell you it's all about ACCEPTANCE and EQUALITY! Any thing but being black is better. Right? To be honest, I really don't blame these young lost men for their ignorance. They've been brainwashed like many of us. However, It's up to the individual to dig deep and finally be ok with who he/she is and love himself still the same! I know I did!
I must have missed something when the gentleman with the Grey hoodie emphasised that he has straight hair lol. Great interview though, very insightful!
Why am I not surprised that the most positivity came from the white guy? Kudos to him for being open, and he's obviously dating a black girl. Those black BOYS should be ashamed of themselves, but they never are. I'd love the one with "straight hair" to grow his "STRAIGHT HAIR" out, and show us how STRAIGHT it is lol...
Wow, its amazing how the Caucasian is more open & accepting a woman who embraces their NATURAL hair. I love my weave and every protective styles and I also show appreciation to my natural hair, MY GOOD KINKY CURLY HAIR. My boyfriend loves me and every hairstyle I wear. Because I AM NOT MY HAIR. I AM NOT THIS SKIN. I AM THE SOUL THAT LIVES WITHIN :-))))
I have a feeling the one with the glasses his father did some real damage to his mother and now expresses a form of hate towards black hair. If you dug deeper, he would probably hate dark skin too.
It's funny the dude with the Afro said he didn't like the zig zag coils and his hair is coily like wtf? Makes no sense smh I don't understand hating something that you have
I here exactly what your saying, I think that more applies to Evan. Nolan was kinda saying he has his own personal preference. But at the end of the video he did say no matter what race or texture you have it should overall look presentable!.
I love the comments from all of them but dude with the glass is an example of self hate. I have 4C zigzag coily hair and he has that too. He accepts his 4C zigzag hair but will not accept it on a woman. That is a problem and sounds like a hyprocrite. So sad.
This is so disappointing. The issue with the two black guys isn't even about natural vs processed. It's just about their view of women in general. The fact that they think a woman's value is somehow lowered because she wears her hair the way it grew out of her scalp, speaks volumes about how they see the opposite sex. Even if they managed to find their perfect straight haired goddesses, love from these men clearly comes with conditions. You would have to look how they want you to look, not how you feel comfortable or confident. Those are the same kinds of guys who would dump a woman for putting on weight while pregnant or find them less attractive because they got older. There's no hope for that kind of ingrained narrow-mindedness. Thankfully not all black men think this way.
liveloveGlam I definitely want to do one in mix company, but I wanted to specifically ask men who were dating black women,with natural hair or contemplating going natural. On my campus there aren't many interracial couples with black women. At times the black men on my campus date outside their race.
Im 18 and I personally love hair. I love black hair and black women that's all to it lol. hair is an independents style and preference of themselves. ladies just be you.
So I'm watching this video in 2014 and honestly the opinion of a man should be so irrelevant to how a woman chooses to live her life and dress herself up. However, I found myself clicking on the video anyway just to hear what would be said. I read some comments and it sounded as if some natural ladies found this video to be discouraging. I just want to tell newly natural hair women who are struggling with the drastic change not to be discouraged by the two black men's answers in this video. My boyfriend absolutely loves my natural hair and thinks its one of the best decisions I made in my life lol he actually isn't fond of my hair when I straighten it and I find that quality in him to be so attractive because of his fascination with my natural hair. You'll find a man who is with this defining and empowering movement of black women who want natural hair. SO please stick with your natural ladies I've never been so happy with my hair until I decided to go natural it's been a long and hard journey of trial and error, but it is so worth it.
I know I'm super late but I was going through this comments and saw this one and it caught my attention. It's very hard not to feel discouraged. I just started wearing my natural hair and people look at me like I got 4 eyeballs. But my boyfriend is just like yours. I used to wear wigs and would be like does it look good and he would be like yeah its alright but now he compliments my hair all the time and is always calling me beautiful. But like I said it's very discouraging and I don't feel confident at all. It makes me so mad that girls walk around with weave, a face full of make up, fake nails, drawn on eyebrows, wearing tight clothes trying to hold everything in and they get heads turning wherever they go but yet I go out with my twist out or puff and some eyeliner/mascara and get the feeling that people are looking at me like "eww"
My husband actually prefers natural hair and is turned off by weaves and relaxers. When I decided to go fully natural 3 years ago (I mean not straightening it every week on wash day), he was completely supportive and encouraging. I also have found that my hair has never been healthier in my life, and my hair has NEVER been this long (almost waist length---and I'm 5'11"!).
Interesting video! I have a friend who big chopped when she was pregnant with her son. She wanted to teach him from an early age to value our hair and everyone thought it was dumb since she was having a boy and not a girl. This video really shows that we need to educate all children, not just girls jeez
I wish you could've found a black guy that was for natural hair lol. It kind of shows how the majority of blacks aren't raised to believe their hair is beautiful. Lol this video had me rooting for the white guy lol. My bf was very accepting of me returning natural, he loves his fro, his dad rocks a fro, his sister and mom are natural also so it was nothing new to him
The Caucasian man is so cute! His answers the way he analyzed the whole picture of women with natural curly hair, he truly desires the person as a whole. Not based by some unrealistic expectation. Genuine man!
Great video! Man all of the guys gave the answers I expected them to. lol I think this video proves why so many natural women are dating non black men. I sometimes think that it's just a matter of some people just end up liking the opposite of themselves. Anyway I thank God my handsome black husband loves whatever I do to my hair. Nothing about my hair changes his love for me. In fact when I first did "the big chop" in 2002 he is the one who cut it for me. He supports my every decision concerning MY body. So ladies find you a man who loves you enough to be able to go with YOUR flow and what space you are in in YOUR life. Men please do better. lol
I'm so confused why people are upset.... they're comments ignorant or not should not affect you. Love your hair with grace and confidence and I guarantee you men will fall.... coming from a person who has had "knappy" hair my whole life... natural for 23 years
black men state; my hair can be nappy but your hair cannot. I went natural and the quality of men attracted to me improved. When it gets long, you once again attract the masses. Keeping your hair nice is key.
Don't let the views of two black men deter you from your natural hair. I know personally me and the rest of my African american friends love you beautiful black women who love your natural hair and show it off instead of relaxing it or hiding it under weaves and wigs.
I'm the zig-zag coiled type and i appreciate their honesty (although it felt like a stab). Now I know that some people think that my hair is ugly, but it's fine: we all have different tastes. My boyfriend (white) likes my hair and, more importantly, I love my hair and that's all that really matters :)
Don't give up. There is someone for everyone. If I stopped being me I wouldn't be the happy natural I am today. At the end of the day it's about what makes you happy. Natural or not. I've been both.
It doesn't matter what others think of your hair. It matters what you think. Love your self! This is my 2nd time going natural before I realized I looked ridiculous with straight stringy lifeless hair. I did the big chop and people were making negative and positive comments toward my hair decision. I did not care because I loved me natural the way god intended.
Gerrika Holliday Yeah, but i already don't like wearing my hair out anymore. I wore it out for the first two years but i am no longer comfortable with it. I wear extensions mostly and give my hair a break for about 3 to 5 days, can't wear it out longer than that.
Katice Harris I'm not feeling my natural hair anymore but i don't like my relaxed hair either. I have fine hair so when i was relaxed it looked thin. I prefer extensions. .
The only guy I feel is being truthful in this video is the "white" guy. SMH at the two african/black guys. It's sad to see them struggle to answer simple questions truthfully. They were trying to look for the "politically" correct way to say they don't like black natural hair.
This was a great video! I just thought it was interesting how they had opinions on hair on other women and what they do or do not like, but when it came to the question about their daughters it was about empowering her mentally about her hair texture
Great video!!! It's interesting to see how the most negative comments came from a black men. We have to stop the negativity within our own races. I'm Dominican and in my culture individuals label hair as good or bad. It only makes it harder for us to love ourselves as women. I also agree with a lot of things the Black guy with glasses said. Make sure your natural hair looks good before leaving the house.
That was a cool vid. Lol, it's kinda startling to watch/hear the reactions of the two black guys... But then again, it's not that startling because most black ppl feel the same way (though I think the perceptions of black beauty is beginning to change...slowly). However, the most startling (in a good way) reaction I had while watching this vid was from hearing the white guy's (with the awesome beard) thoughts on it all. Now that's something you don't see/hear everyday. Kudos on this one :)
OK let me get this straight.he wants a girl that always puts the effort into making her hair look good‚but he has the nerve to be picky about how long it takes? He needs a reality check
I understand exactly where your coming from, but everyone one does have their own preference. It's just finding self love within to love yourself, and then someone who can appreciate your beautiful features will come along. Plus this is only a small representation on what men think! I'm so happy your responded!
This is so sad and the thing is..I cant blame anyone but the system. This is a mindset that was instilled since Africans came to America. But its also like a worldwide mindset. I dont know man, its sad. Im just thankful that I realized that my hair is beautiful because its hard to live when you're a victim of this mindset.
This video really brought to light some things for me. I used to have a relaxer and when I decided to go natural, MOST of the Black guys had negative comments. Even when it grew long they still had negative comments. I maintain my hair well, so I never understand such comments. The Black men say they love natural hair BUT it's usually the curly hair they're talking about, it's like, "Ohh, we love natural BUT by natural we mean the curly hair, not the 'kinky coily' hair." However, when it comes to the White and Indian men I've interacted with, they're all about it. They are fascinated with my hair, they celebrate it and appreciate the effort I make. They play with it, ask me questions about it, etc etc. When I tell them that it's shocking to see/hear such responses, because the Black men around me are negative about my hair, they are shocked because to them, HAIR IS HAIR, as long as it's healthy, THEY DON'T CARE. It's sad to see these kinds of responses to our hair as Black women from Black men, it really is. These men say they'd tell their daughters to love their hair, but they don't appreciate Black women's hair.
I big chopped and only had 2 inches of hair. my boyfriend was mad because it resembled the time in his life when his mom got breast cancer and cut off all of her hair. He did not think it was ugly. it just reminded him of a bad time in his life. one year down the road and my hair is longer than before I big chopped. IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I HAVE EVER MADE!
The dude in the grey sweater said is hair is staright lol. Every black guys hair looks like that when it's short. Grow it out for a few months and you'll see that it's kinky. The self hate is real.
I am open to men honest opinions but I won't accept the lie about that dude saying he got straight hair. Stop the madness mane. Then the other guy said he don't like natural hair. While he got natural hair. 😂 . Really I couldn't help but laugh. No need to be upset just laugh because they both are confuse.
I would like to see you document Evan's personal healthy, natural hair journey. Have him grow his hair out for 1 or 2 months, with no hair cuts our trims. Then capture the moment he learns his hair is not naturally bone straight. Then bring out the hair typing chart again and help him determine his hair texture.
This is so long ago, but this is so sad to see that our own black people are bashing our God given hair, while someone who didn't grow with that hair texture can find its beauty. Like the black guys were so quick to call the very coily texture "Bad Hair". That was very painful to hear.
Why is it that other races can see the beauty in Black women? I'm not surprised by the answers these educated "brothers" gave at all. My question is when do you care less about what's on top of the head and start paying attention to what's inside of it?
I really likedvthis video. The different reactions for each question was sometimes comical. LOL I think some of my male friends took it harder when I cut my BSL hair than I did! It is just so sad though that our own people don't embrace all textures of natural hair and consider some as a bad thing. I see it like this, we all come in different shades and sizes and so does our hair. It is ALL beautiful. Please do more interview videos.
Plus, as much as I was annoyed by grey sweatshirt boy, we should keep in mind that he's still very young. Many (but not all) black guys I've known for years dont hold the same views on black hair today as they did back in HS. (I'm now 27). Its a especially sad when he admits he also has BAD hair - he is hating on himself as much as he hates on others with the same hair texture
What's really sad is the black men were more close minded about kinky hair than the white man. My current boyfriend is white and he loves my kinky hair. LOVES it. He doesn't care that he can't run his fingers through it. He just loves grabbing little clumps and pulling them to watch them bounce back. I showed him pictures of when I was relaxed and he said my hair NOW looks more like it belongs to me. He's curious and fascinated with my hair. He makes me feel like my hair is special.
Alex seems more open minded and mature when he answered those questions. The fact that he is white and seems to be more tolerable to black women's hair speaks volumes. It's sad to hear black men say such negative things about black women's hair that maybe their mom, sister, aunts, or cousins mights have on their head. Thankfully all black men don't think that way. Overall, great interview!
Dang white boy is most ok with the kinky hair and old dude Nolan said he would not like a girl if his hair was on her head. The mainstream media has done a marvelous job in letting us hate each other.
These guys make me sooooooo thankful for my fiancé he loves me for who I'm am long hair, short hair, weave, natural he loves ME and not my hair or it's length.
Wow. Just goes to show that our AA men have been conditioned to hate our coily hair as much as we have. Thank God, we as AA women are freeing ourselves from those chains. I've dated C men as well and they do tend to be less judgmental about hair. They usually don't define women by their hair which just goes to show how ingrained the "good hair" vs "nappy hair" is ingrained in our culture. SMH.
This was... interesting. 1. I commend you for remaining so composed throughout the interview, I think I may have gotten slightly defensive listening to these men bash natural hair and protective hair styles. 2. WOW, it's so ironic that the two black men bash kinky hair textures that are identical to their own. They tried to clean it up by saying "I mean it's just not for me." 3. How are y'all going to be such fans of long and soft natural hair but also against protective styles like weaves, braids and wigs that help our hair to grow?? Thanks for this interview.
At 5:28, the guy with the glasses who's saying he doesn't like that zig-zagged/coily hair texture, YOU HAVE THE SAME/SIMILAR TEXTURE! LOLLLL. I wonder how he would feel if women said the same thing about him and his hair.
Great video! Some of the opinions were very disturbing to listen to. It's a shame how some of the guys have basically been brain washed all their lives about what "good hair" is what isn't. We as African Americans are not born with straight hair and it's completely ok! I'm glad I've matured enough now to realize that and embrace what I have enough to not care what people think. I love my natural hair!
