What does “Queer” mean? ENOUGH QUESTIONS!  

“your label is allowed to change” this was super great to hear as a young queer person :) im figuring out my validity as a person and a label that works for me and this was really nice to hear :) thanks

Your makeup is absolutely gorgeous!

“Are you straight or gay?” “I’m odd.” That’s my own reason for going with queer lol

Queer is also just an umbrella term for someone who falls under the LGBTQ+ label! It is often used to mean genderqueer, but can also mean things like sexuality

Feel the exact same way! Don’t like using gay cause i grew up in a world where it was used as something to be laughed at. I never felt like it was „cool“ to be gay and others saw themselves as something better. (It was never really talked abt in media and if it was, it was something to make fun of a lot of the time.) I turned out never identifying with the term because of it. Goes to say: the trauma you faced and the way terms are used in you surroundings effect how you perceive them and how you feel like using them later in life.

I identify as queer because figuring things out in detail is mind melting. I just know i am the way i am and dont feel the need to look deeper? But im not out to my parents, since my mum still strongly believes that queer is a bad word. When i say it in passing she just goes 'oh, dont use that awful word.' I get that in her generation it wasnt used nicely, but things change 🫡

It's not my trauma. It takes a lot to say that, and it's so meaningful, to put a stop on a train of generational thought and trauma that you won't inherit. It's so meaningful, I didn't realize I needed to hear someone being like that

A part of me hopes that one day we'll have a society where people can be like (example) Cisgender male just gets a boyfriend and introduces him to friends & family without "coming out" or "labels" because no one expected him to like women just because he's male. This would go all ways for all identities, but things would be a lot more casual & chill rather such a big deal as they are right now (obviously this is in an accepting society)

My moms preferred queer because of the common protest chant: "We're here, we're queer! Get used to it!" And it kinda just stuck with all us kids. So even our cis het sibs are queer because they are aggressive allies and wear whatever they want because clothes have no gender so people often assume they're not cis or het. I wanna say they only correct that notion when someone is the same gender asks them out. It's adorable because they're always so flattered. My brother once sighed and said he wished he was gay because the guy that asked him out was a new kid in the area that he'd already considered a great friend. But he just didn't think of him like that and whined that is that friend was a girl, he'd probably be drooling over a 'chick that was into all the same things he was' the way his buddy was. They're still friends btw

honestly sometimes I'm tired of all the labels and trying to explain to people a couple of labels i identify as, so I just say queer!! very queer 😭🙏

I’m mostly listening but I’m also a litttleeee “oooh pretty glasses accessory :o”

I love this, this is my thoughts exactly, label or don’t label urself as whatever u want and use whatever labels in whatever as long as they are correct and sincere usages in whatever way u want, I identify as queer to myself and to friends, but when i come out to people I generally say bisexual just because its a readily understandable term, still too much for my Christo-loony family to accept me but at least it was clear cut and explained just by the use of one word. Queer has been used as a word among others to insult me in my childhood originating community but me using it in a positive and voluntary way has disarmed it for me, i still get called a f-slur but i feel like that word is almost comically overused at this point that some of its potency has been lost through that.

I felt the same about gay and it took a lot of work to unlearn that.

A beautiful human being saying what's what in the simplest way, I wish more people would just be chill regarding others' journeys

i personally do not call myself gay due to growing up being bullied or even fetishized for it, but i DO use queer because it was a bit outdated by the time i got to middle school s it was never used against me!

I'm queer, let's be clear, when I say the word queer, I don't only mean eccatric or weird and let me tell you all that I'm being sencire, when I say that there's nothing wrong about being queer

Youre so real for this. Self education is very important and its okay to ask for help when you dont understand. Same for trauma- we understand bad things happen and you can ask us to tone down but don't get pissy with us for being a human being. :) If you read this I hope you have/had a good day.

Yes! I don't feel the need to be specific when I tell others my identity or sexuality so queer works for me.

This is something that definitely need to be heard by others!

So well said. When I was discovering myself there were none then few words/categories/ labels....I hated and still dislike labels. Ask the younger generations are figuring themselves out and we have become a spectrum instead of a few slotted boxes I find that I understand myself better over time even though I've been an adult for a quarter of a century (damn😮). Just keep on being your wonderful self❤❤❤

I couldn't agree more! The reason I use queer myself is because its easier than explaining where I am regarding gender, sexually, and who I find attraction for, plus its not most folks business to begin with. So I'm queer ❤

I felt you saying that you didn’t want to identify as gay or bisexual so hard. When I was first figuring out who I was, there was immense pressure to pick one of those two labels. But queer is the best label for me, so thank you for making this video :)

This was a great explanation for ppl who need it i think!! Also loved the part where you said you don't have to have a label or it can change bc it's so true. And also true that no one NEEDS to know your sexuality unless you wanna share!! It's kinda nuts how entitled ppl on the internet can be when it comes to knowing things like that about strangers

Same. I like using the word queer cause it is a term that was never used in my country and growing up the terms gay and lesbi was always used like swear words that you use to insult others.

Thank you, this is spot on for me and why I use this term for myself 😊

I love the fact that you're very transparent secondly you take the time to explain your standing or why you feel a certain way without disrespecting anyone it's admirable

Yeah I had to watch twice. Couldn't focus on anything but his makeup the first time

“I’d rather be not normal” One of my fav words spoken by you 💅❤️

I would say I'm bi. I know some people hate labels but for me at least I love it. Having a label after not knowing for so long just felt like I was at ease finally and didn't have to worry. I'm really proud of my bi label but I get it if you don't want to label yourself. I've always seen Queer as like a LGBTQ+ blanket term in a way? Like you're questioning your sexuality cause you're sure you're not straight but none of the labels appeal? Maybe try using Queer as a blanket term for now and see how you feel? Thats the way I've interpreted it.

Most reasonable Lgbtq+ person I have seen today.

god, I feel exactly like this! queer was never used against me and for myself personally i love having a very broad term. i dont fit into any specific label and i prefer having one that encompasses so much.

"I'd rather just be not normal" This is now my absolute favorite quote of all time

Your glasses look so good omg where did you get them?

A loved one of mine is an elderly LGBTQIA community member who laments that "gay" became the acceptable term and wishes that "homo" had been chosen instead. 'Homo' is short for homosexual which is not a bad word and matches with "hetero" and "bi". "Gay" to Frederic's point was and is a slur, right up there with "funny" "silly" "skippy" (all real btw). But also to Frederic's point, langauge is fluid, much like sexuality and gender identity.

I identify as queer too! I am so glad you addressed this!

I wish I could meet you I love your content and it helps me so much to not feel weird in public by acting gay❤❤❤❤❤

Thank you so much for this video :> You explain things in a way that’s easy for me to understand, and I really value that. I had been wondering for so long what “queer” actually meant, and hearing your definition helped clear up some of my confusion. I hope that if you see this, you know that you are helping make a lot of people’s day better, mine included. So thank you!!!

If ppl are “queer” or “zesty” they’re allowed to use the words even if u don’t like it

YOU'RE SO PRETTY I LOVE YOUR MAKEUP SO MUCH!!!

Thank you!! This was all so well said!! I've sort of gone down a rabbit hole of your vids. You're awesome! 🎉 🦄

I call myself queer because it not only describes my sexuality and gender, it also applies to the other ways I don’t fit into society like being autistic, ADHD and fat. Those aspects of myself have been perceived as ‘queer’ so I choose to use that label for myself

" you don't go up to a stranger and ask there sexuality" meanwhile middle schoolers at my school: some random person: " what's ur sexuality?" The other random person: " oh I'm bi :)" 😂😂😂

Queer is the only label that has stayed with me the entire time I've been questioning my gender identity and sexuality. No matter where I fall on the spectrums between ace & allo or cis & trans or homo & hetero, I *am* Queer. I am not cis or straight & this much I know *for sure*. As for specifics? I'm happy that those who've been searching for the correct labels have found them. I'm happy that we have more words in our vocabulary to describe to others our internal experiences and our attractions. Back when everyone was first having crushes on others & figuring out their personalities and attractions & some folks were (bravely) coming out in high school... I didn't even know that nonbinary was a thing, let alone all the other labels that have come into existence. That isn’t to say it didn't already exist. I mean, I existed in my weird "not like other xyz", hating the overly gendered colors and clothing pieces that I was sometimes forced to wear and the weirdness I felt saying I was my agab. But the terms weren’t there to describe that feeling to everyone else around us, at least, not that I knew of. So it's nice that we *have* them now. Still, that doesn't mean anyone has to utilize them if they don’t want to or has to stick to one that they chose previously if they’ve found a new one that fits better. Labels are changeable, just as much as our genders and sexuality are fluid. Thankfully, Queer exists as an umbrella term because while there are some that fit *more* than others, none of them feel like me. I guess the closest would be gendervoid but even then it feels... *limiting*. Like a box I have to fill. So.

Glitter eye look slays on you 💅

Your glasses are adorable, and your makeup looks even better-

Your makeup always makes me happy when I dont feel so great. its beautiful and magical 😭💗you have magical fairy powers....i cant even explain it .

OMG! I just want to thank you for all the happiness you give your videos you bring light and love into the universe ❤

As somebody who also uses queer, thank you !!

Queer was an olden day word for strange or odd, or curious Now there are many labels for it And they are all amazing

Thank you! I prefer saying I’m queer because explaining to every single person what pan is and what it means to me personally only to hear them say “I don’t get it isn’t that just bi?” is exhausting. I don’t like calling myself gay because technically I’m not, I can’t say I’m straight. Queer fits, it’s simple, and it’s not a rigid definition where people can tell me what it means and that I’m wrong for using it or that I should be using a different term. Also your makeup is stunning and I love it so much 🥰

This is EXACTLY my experience w the term queer as well. I’ve been through so many labels and they’ve all felt too restrictive and just not right for me. I feel like I’m constantly changing and growing and my interests and passions take me all over the place, and oftentimes my identity kind of goes along for the ride as well. Using the term Queer, it feels like it goes beyond sexuality and gender identity, it just encapsulates me and how I see myself and interact with the world. Everything I do is queer because I am queer. It lets me change and grow and still feel and know that I’m being true to myself. Idk, it’s just a very freeing word, it feels less like a label and more just like, a descriptor, if that makes any sense at all? Idk. Also bonus points because the Queer flag is gorgeous

That makeup is so fire!!!

I always say im queer because I don't want a label. I don't care as long as I can love the person that's all that matters!

YEEEESSSSSS thats so facts and I can never articulate it that well

I love love love how thorough u r

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You gave me happiness❤🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

The jewelry and the makeup is gorgeous

Darling, as long as there's mutual respect and consent, spend your time with whoever strikes your fancy.❤

Honestly adore your channel and that look is so beautifully done!! Although tbh the poppin green eye is giving bullseye the target dog, my brain couldn't ignore it. Still loving all your looks and thank you for your activism for the community ❤

This makeup is giving me 55 year old cougar vibes and I love it.

I personaly don't think it's neccessarily wrong to ask someone aboit their sexuality/gender, I just think it's about accepting if someone doesn't want to disclose it and not dwelling on it

I actually do like labels....and I have a lot of them. 😅 I use queer for myself both because that is what I am, and also as an umbrella term for all of MY labels. It's a very useful term.

Do your glasses not have lenses?

I absolutely love your eye glasses lanyard. It frames your face beautifully and the makeup is really lovely on your pretty face! And I love the cute flower lamp !

“Queer” was definitely a slur along with “gay” where I’m from, but I use both terms and I use queer all the time as an umbrella term for myself or for the community in general. I’d say it’s definitely a reclaimed term at this point

also ur label is allowed to not necessarily be accurate if that makes sense example: i use the terms biromantic and demiaroace however, some more accurate terms would be panromantic and grey-aroace but i dont like the assumptions that people make abt my sexuality with those terms and i prefer the terms i use

Your in depth video about umbrella bisexuality helped me to finally find a label I’m comfortable with: Polysexual. Thank you 🩷

I love your makeup- and nobody asked me- but I think it would’ve been even better if the natural side was a brighter color too! Like a pop of orange instead of neutral browns. I say this because i can’t stop staring at the blue eye like it’s 10x bigger 😂!

Two words: THANK YOU! (Mb, two words and one exclamation point)

I like to call myself "Double queer", because I am weird and part of the LGBTQ community!

So this video just started playing for me with another title, yter, and comment box. I was very confused. The video it replaced, as far as I could tell, was about a guy who believed some weird conspiracy theories as a kid-

Oh my god all these comments, it makes me so happy that this is such a shared experience!

Thank you soo much i am a 12 year old in a very conservative town and I love your videos!❤

i’m more comfortable just saying i’m bi now, but i used to say bi/queer. bc i was in a constant state of feeling like i needed to validate myself due to the biphobia i saw online, i felt like queer have me more breathing room! now i just say im a queer person, and i’m good with saying bi is my sexuality specifically. i love that queer has been reclaimed. i’m so glad you said that fruity and zesty are used as slurs. i feel like young kids online have gotten too comfortable using them to describe someone 😭

Okay yeah he right but yall… if you don’t want this on your fyp stop commenting like that’s why this keep coming up in the first place if so help me god I see another person complain I might combust yall be wilding too much

i absolutely agree the whole look is beautiful btw love it

I use queer cause I have 0 idea what I am all I know is that I am not cis or straight.

Thank you for the explanation I was a bit confused on what queer meant also I love your makeup looks you do and your cool

Love the glasses with the heart pieces.

I usually say that I'm queer because I have SO MANY labels. I only go into specifics if you want to hear a nuanced take on my gender and its relation to my sexuality

when i heard you using queer instead of the more specific definitions i kinda had a light bulb moment. I like the general umbrella term of queer because i dont understand why im attracted to certain ppl 💀

For me personally I think you become Queer when you stop letting your gender or people stop you from doing whet you want to do. ❤ Queer simply means Unique or special. 😊

I love you!! You’re such an inspiration I’ve learned a lot from your videos and I also have four cats!!

i have my very specific labels and if i’m speaking that in depth i’ll use them but it’s way quicker and easier to say i’m queer than to talk about my gender non conforming trans male asexual panromantic self, especially if we’re talking specifics of transition and that sort of thing. also because i appear to be a cishet man a lot of the time.

Words are words you use the ones that are more comfortable to you I guess... I'm actually heterosexual so I can't understand what you guys go through ^^ BUT YOUR MAKEUP IS JUST AMAZING I think man should start using makeup queer or not, it's art, it's pretty and it's such a nice way to express yourself

ty for validating those of us with trauma related to the term "queer" and recognizing its history as a slur

I am so on board with this! I myself have a very complicated relationship with my gender and sexuality that is. SO difficult to explain the nuances of to anyone who isnt as genderweird or mspec as me, so i default to using queer because its just easier. Id rather spend my time socializing and talking about things i love over the nuances of what my gender is

I refer to myself as queer because I'm not one to get hung up on small things like labels. I'm allowed to like whoever I want and go by whatever I want, and I shouldn't have to go into extreme detail just for someone to understand that. As long as it makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone, do whatever you want! 🫶🏽

So it’s kinda like how I call myself neurospicy? I have autism, adhd, anxiety, etc. and at this point idk what the fck I am but I know I’m definitely something, and I like saying neurospicy a lot more than saying neurodivergent because it feels more accurate of a description. So my self description has just evolved into “I’m neurospicy and I go boing boing.”

I need to know where you got your glasses chain, because it's absolutely giving.

“You dont go up to a stranger and ask for there sexuality” Me getting beaten for misgendering a bagel

Is anyone gonna talk about them being pretty?

You made me find out that I was queer. Thank you! ☆

Your make up and hair style is so cute I love it

I have a group of friends and it's a pretty big group. It started as a couple groups but then mushed together. Only one of us is straight but he joins in with our jokes about being gay and calling each other "one of them queers" because we feel fine with it. He has said the f slur, which I don't think he should have but the rest of the group is fine with it because most of the group says it

This is the best explanation I've ever heard！！！

The makeup hits different in all their videos 💜

I feel so upsetti rn and it doesn't really have to do with this video or anything (kind of felt like this was a good video to vent my struggles) but I'm just frustrated with the fact that since I am "female" presenting and wear makeup/dress femme, I feel like I am not recognized as non-binary/queer as much as "female" presenting people who dress masculine and "male" presenting people who dress feminine and it drives me WILD. Like you know in Sex Education when the one person is like, "you still see me as a woman" like that's how I feel with like everyone.

1) Your look is gorgeous😍 2) I identify as queer, because I like that this word is all-encompassing, and even if I can also identify as biromantic ace, I don't necessarily want to go into specifics, and I am not necessarily feeling the same day to day. What I definitely know is that I'm not heterosexual, so queer fits perfectly for me personally.