What I HATE about Motherhood Part 2 | Honest Mom Talk 

As a childfree person, I'm thankful to you for making this video. There are people who expect women to take motherhood as inevitable, and a joy that knows no bounds. But I know that I'm not suited to be a mother and it will simply make my life and the lives of everyone around me absolutely miserable. Motherhood can be punishing as much as it maybe rewarding. Such honest content helps me feel better about being childfree, so thank you.

We need more candid discussions about motherhood....our society romanticizes motherhood without really letting women know how much you have to sacrifice....great post

I’m glad you’re talking about this. I think society making pregnancy and motherhood seem like rainbows and sunshine is toxic

Yes I can so relate, I hate motherhood with a passion, and I don't feel bad about it. If it had happened at the right time in my life, it probably would've been different, but since accidents happen at the worst time, it did not make me happy.

Yes!! Motherhood consists of almost constant guilt and worry which I had no idea what mothers was talking about before actually being a mother. It's extremely stressful and as they get older it just comes with new stress and if you dare tell anyone then they think you don't want your child or aren't a good mum and just the all around constant judgement from others can be really discouraging. Thank you for sharing! X

Omg, so true! I'm always thinking about how my response will affect my daughters mind.. Everything else gets easier "with each kid" x) but the "Oh God.. I'm gonna mess their mental health up" isn't changing at all x) When I went home with my oldest daughter for the first time, I was walking around the house, singing lullabies for her and all of a sudden I just started crying. It wasn't happy tears but it wasn't sad tears either. It was just me being overwhelmed by the realization "It's never again gonna be the way it was before. This cute, helpless little baby is mine now and she will stay with me forever". Those emotions I had in that moment were neither positive nor negative. Just overwhelming.

Honest videos like these are helpful for women like me. Thank you for posting this.

As a woman who lost her baby while in labor full term , this is helping me to know the universe had a different plan for me and I need to focus on myself and just be young and travel and be with friends and family and pursue my passions in life. So much love to everyone no matter what path you’re on!! You’re exactly where you’re meant to be ❤️ everything that happens to us can cause us to grow or to perish. We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control our mindset around it. 🌍

I think remembering who you are as a person is the most important part of being a mom. I hope you find balance. ❤❤❤❤

Being a mother is probably THE most selfless thing someone can do. Getting up and continuining to care for another person every single day. Especially if you dont enjoy it. Mothers are so strong.

Thank you for sharing this! I’m a mom of a 17 month old girl and needed to hear this so much today to feel less alone! Can’t believe this video doesn’t have more views! Lots of love from Dubai💗

everything you say is not due to motherhood but to this weird " civilisation" we created. the only Thing I hate about my beeing a mother is having to be a mother in this society.

Thank u so much for sharing! Through motherhood I fought myself to not such be a mom... i was like i really to find a passion or else I will lose it a bit lol

Fascinating video. When you're talking about the off-switch, I have asked some older women who raised kids in the 70s and 80s whether they had it. Interestingly, they all told me that, for the most part, they could focus on what they were doing (be it shopping, going to the cinema, etc.) and then go back to "normal" again. I wonder if this is a generational thing? Today I hear many mothers say that they can't even go to the toilet alone (!?), have some time for themselves, or be on the phone without a child interrupting... I understand that you don't have that kind of freedom with a tiny child. - However, shouldn't that be taught to the child when appropriate? When slightly older children won't let you use the bathroom alone or keeps interrupting when you're on the phone, doesn't that come down to the fact that the parent(s) haven't taught them (and be consequent with it) that you are not allowed to interrupt when people are on the phone? Because I can absolutely understand that if a child hasn't been taught those kinds of things, then it must be exhausting (in the long run) to have kids. Much more so than if they were taught how to behave in such a manner that they would be more pleasant to be around. It might be exhausting in the short run to teach them good manners, so to speak, but rewarding both for the child and the parent in the long run.

Thank you so much for this. I’m not a mother yet mainly because of the things you’ve said and I’m already tired trying to heal my own traumas from my childhood and pour into myself. I do want to experience motherhood but I just feel like there isn’t enough personal or societal support built into our culture to make this otherwise beautiful job a justifiable decision.

God bless you and all the work you do to rear the next generation. ❤

Hello mama Bear, I hope this message finds you well. I am childless by choice but of course gamble on wanting a child. I want to say I think you are so amazing💪🏼 strong, beautiful, resilient!

Im glad my kids are grown and I don’t worry about the mess toys they leave behind and don’t worry about yu are not doing the right thing every time yu worry too much of messing her up when she grows up yu stresses too much unnecessary don’t try to be the perfect mom because yu will get so emotional and physical drained take it one day at a time

Subscribe! Love your personality and this topic was handled so well. 🥰

I don’t have kids yet but I want to. My mom was a martyr-mother and set the expectation that a mother does it all herself. She never had a nanny, or a maid except when she was on doctor-ordered bedrest during a high risk pregnancy. She criticized other mothers who would drop their kids off at daycare just to get a break, not to go to work or anything. I did not agree with that because who cares - it still keeps the daycare workers in business! She put a high expectation on mothering to say the least. I already feel overwhelmed just taking care of my pets and I would never be able to live the lifestyle she did (mother, wife, pet owner and entrepreneur). It just seems like way too much tbh. But I still want kids eventually.

As a childfree antinatalist man, I am so tired of this push and shaming of men and women who choose to be childfree. Nothing gets me going more than people with kids not mentioning that many regret having kids, its too easy to shame others who made other choices. Too easy.

You’re an awesome 😎 RU-vid channel.

I hated everything about being a mother!

Yu need to have yuor time off alone and Don’t feel guilty please they appreciate it believe

Stop being hard on yourself yuo are doing great don’t get emotional overwhelmed it’s not easy but yuo need to make less stress and yuo not not doing enough

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