It's always refreshing to see people excited about their 30s rather than dreading it. Almost everyone I know in their 30s says they enjoy life more than they did in their 20s. I have yet to see how I feel about it, but I look forward to it. 20s is such a chaotic decade.
That’s so reassuring to know! It’s hard to get excited about 30s b/c we see so many 20 somethings romanticizing their lives, not so much 30 somethings (for various reasons). but, I’m looking forward to the new decade, and excited to bring you guys along on the journey ahead ✨
I agree ☝️ because life is a journey each decade of life is special ❤😊30’s is awesome 👏.The more older the more wiser decision making what’s more important is to do what makes you happy 😊 know yourself what you like and don’t like 👍.healthy lifestyles makes a huge impact while taking care of yourself as you get older .Good hobbies can be a positive impact such as reading 📖 art 🖼️ music 🎵 and your right be patient with yourself and know that you will get better over time a skill.
turning 23 in october, still feel this same way but things are getting better as i put myself out there and learn to experience new things. Keep your head up.
"In my thirties I want to live out of love, not out of fear" Wow, such a powerfull lesson. Thank you so much for this video. I´m 25, graduated last year and I´m doing pretty well but not "as well as I should" as expected by parents and what not. Also my first relationship that lasted 2,5 years just ended back in may and I´ve been thinking a lot about the things I really want for my life, and what is more of internalized expectations than actual desires of mine, so I really connected to your message :)
We all need to embrace and accept alternative life styles. I've been studying for 10 years until recently and now I'm starting my frist "real" job, at 32. I just wanted to take my time and do other things besides studying and working. I'm fine with it. I also won't be making lots of money with that job, but it's a job with a meaning. I've got friends working in marketing, making heaps of money, but when they tell me they are yelled at by old men and working overtime constantly, I know for certain that I want to pass on it.
I'm only 19 and I've been stressing out about my life path and career since i was 14) still have not decided, but at least i have some ideas about what i enjoy by now, because i tried actually working in office, it really helped me realise a lot. I believe that internships are great they give a taste of what a job is without an obligation to stay
Turning 29 in a month, my late 20's have been so much better to me than early 20's. I think so much of the outlook a person has on life is shaped by how long they've been around. The longer you live, the easier it is to see what matters and what doesn't. I think perseverance is a muscle we train through experience only, each time you get through something terrible is a testament that you can survive bad things. I'm fortunate to have pulled myself out of the gutter time and time again, and I hope for my 30's and yours we both thrive. ❤
When you get past age 25 and don't have a partner or kids and you're like.... fine? I decided recently after 27 that I don't think I'm going to get married or have kids. Not because I'm giving up something I can't obtain, but because it's something I've never gotten much fulfillment from chasing.
I am 20 years old and felt really down lost and confused during last year, even considering quitting my life, so really thanks for the beginning of the video, which attracted me to complete watching. The problem is believing life is as bad as the anxiety feels, I think I should remember this forever.
Anxiety is a signal that tells us hey, there's something you need to pay attention to instead of just going straight believing that it's the end of the world.
this video came in my recommended at a very needed time. i just received a rejection letter from a graduate program i had been working hard towards for the better part of a year and half, even going as far as getting a work study within the department. so as can be imagined, the rejection really swept the rug out from under my feet. i thought i had my entire life, or at the very, very least my 20s, planned out ahead of me and all i had to do was… do it. now, im feeling lost but less of wondering what can i do, im trying to figure out what do i like to do and finding new passions and taking risks i wouldn’t have allowed myself otherwise. thank you for this video, it looks like i still have a lot to look forward to at 23 and beyond, despite what it feels like.
As a 25 year old that found your channel, I’m so grateful for your content. You make it seem like everything really is going to be alright eventually 🥺🫶🏾. Love from SA🇿🇦💘
I’m 25 almost 26 years old in November and I’m still figuring things out in life . I thought I’d have it all together by now when I was a teenager but there’s no real time or age in life you should have “everything together. “❤
in my 20s now and i’ve been stuck for a long time. it’s that feeling of “i don’t think i was born in this life to be doing this,” but hopefully i will be ok. thank you for this video, i loved hearing your insights :)
i’m right there with you. i feel so lost what to do with my life or where even to start. i want to do what i love but just don’t know how to do it in a way that is both spiritually beneficial and financially
I’m 17 and I’m turning 18 soon. I’m feeling so old now and it’s such a change I’ve felt so confused and lost esp since I have no ambition and i have no clue what I want to do but this helped me so much thank you. I’ve felt so overwhelmed with having to grow up so fast and suddenly but I appreciate you sharing this and reading the comments I’m glad to hear all these people relating to the same things as me.
I can relate (kind of..) wanted to start YT channel since my early 20's, I started when I was in law school, but then got bullied quite harshly from my classmates. Now I'm 33 and I still want to create, but I'm still scared. I guess I got traumatized. But I'm so happy that it worked for you!! Maybe one day I will leap over my fear and traumas and give it another go.
@@Rootschannel I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been through. Sometimes I feel that if the people around me watch what I create, they’ll ridicule me. So, I seldom talk about my channel publicly on social media. 🙈 But at the same time, I am also learning to not let what they might say about me stop me. I try not to define myself oh my creation with how they react. If they don’t like it, it’s not meant for them. One encouraging thought that helped me is, the sooner I be myself, the sooner I’ll find my tribe. And so will you! 😊 I hope that one day I can be a witness of your leap of faith! Cheering you on! 💛
I'm 21 and I also want to start my Channel but I don't have resources. I love clicking pictures and filming. I saw your work moikistudio and I love them so much .
@@kazeb8979 Thank you for loving my work! I know it might sound cliche, but just start with what you have! Just your phone is good enough! Don't let what you don't have stop u from creating!
Is never late to start making videos, recording or documenting yourself. Post it on RU-vid or not: enjoy the process. I'm currently in my own 20s, and I feel like instead of worry about life: Embrace it, the fact I'll age every year time will never stops. I'm honest, I don't want to work nor study in higher education, but to sustain myself rn I still have to do something to earn the money. This video reminds of those, which I already watched. Thank you for making this video Evelyn, wish you a lovely summer
'94's kid here too, turning 30 in November, get mistaken as 23/24 year old often ( Asian genes perks ), not feeling the dread anymore about turning 30 as I thought as a child. So happy to see you thriving, I have a feeling that 30's are so much better than 20's!
'96 here. my 20s definitely sucked, but I already see the path and the possibilities and I'm pretty sure my 30s are going to be better than my 20s. staying in tech, but I'm half way through my second bachelor's because I'm a broke mfer LOL. i like the new field i want to enter though, so it's objectively an improvement. i also got the asian genes and get mistaken for early 20s. at least we'll still look young in our 30s LOL. hope your 30s go well.
I love the way you filmed this, how clear you are on gour points and more importantly how vulnerable you got💕 I am 27 and have had these same emotions but now im feeling like there is so much more waiting for me! Therefore, thank you for sharing 💕🎉
First of all, happy birthday Evelyn! You're my favorite RU-vidr. Week after week, I eagerly await each of your videos. Your words are always a breath of fresh air to me. In 3 months, I'll be turning 29, and like every young adult approaching 30, I've been feeling exactly as you describe. Anxiety has been my biggest challenge since leaving my job a few months ago, and I've been trying to channel that somewhat negative energy into studying and doing things I love but haven't done in a long time. Thank you for your kind and lovely words. You're simply the best.
ahh thank you Diogo…that means so much🥺 I know your feeling so well. My late twenties was the toughest - that feeling that I’m behind and running out of time, before I swam through the sea of anxiety and realized that…I’m exactly where I need to be. You are too🌷 just keep swimming:)
I really enjoy your brand of storytelling, everything from the framing, script, storyboarding, editing etc. These elements of your filmmaking come together to communicate a very cohesive message. The ending especially of you at the skating rink is such a great parallel to the lessons that you wanted to communicate to us through this video - the "I feel like I'm getting the hang of this" applies to your growth journey but also you on your roller skates!! What a nifty way to close the video and this chapter of your life. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, and for your bravery and beautiful words. Happy birthday again!
I’m turning 25 in a month and can’t help but feel ‘’behind’’ in life. I haven’t gone to college because getting into debt when no majors felt right for me wasn’t something I wanted. I’ve been in childcare for years now and though I love it, i can’t live comfortably on the pay. I don’t know what the next step for me is and I’m terrified. Your video reminded me sometimes all it takes is to try something small you feel called to to lead I’m the right direction. Thank you for making my quarter life crisis a little more bearable ❤ it’s comforting all humans experience so many of the same fears and thoughts
Habitually living life based on what you "should" do can be really trapping. I'm glad you found something you want to do. I'm trying to find a safe way out of my "should" situation. Happy Birthday!!
I took time thinking about important decisions... until I realized I'm over thirty and more lost than ever combined with the endless fear about the future.
I turned 30 a few months ago! And YES. YES YES YES! I love this saying: Live out of love, not out of fear! This is the new decade motto! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Wishing you a wonderful new age ahead! 🥳🎉💕
I just turned 23 and I feel so scared that I don't even know much about myself, I feel lost most of the time. I'm so scared of getting old and still not figuring things out. I'm happy I came across this video because I have been feeling glummy. I just started a RU-vid channel and I hope I get to discover who I really am from it.
As someone who recently quit my job to pursue RU-vid full time, I always turn to your videos as a source of comfort. This is a lonely career path (at the start) and you feel like a peer :) It feels good that my sense of anxiety is shared. I hope you already know how your videos feel like conversations with friends, you have an ability to connect with your audience through your vulnerability and I draw a lot of inspiration from you. Can't wait to see all that you do Evelyn!
I’m soon to be 27, life has been survival since I can remember. I legitimately hate it here… Truly living a happy and fulfilling life is unrealistic for many :/
Wow I literally have been feeling the same way that you were feeling. I’m trying to be unstuck but this video is helping so much! Thank you for this!!❤
I'm turning 29 in less than a month and I really needed to hear everything you said Evelyn. I want to live out of love too and not out of fear ❤ happy birthday once again, I'm wishing you health and happy moments 💌✨️
Going to turn 26 soon. I have a girlfriend (hopefully future wifey), have a job at a university and I got accepted into an engineering masters program. Yet, I feel so behind. I feel like so many of my peers have children, a house of their own and have had these awesome adventures with their friends. I'm constantly scared and anxious of how my future will look like and/or have I already "missed the train". Im doing things out of fear of being left behind, yet the more I do, the more I feel left behind. Fuck, it's just an endless cycle. I achieve something that I should be proud of but it doesn't feel like that. Its a brief relief until I'm worried about the next thing and once again I forget to live.
Oh damn ... Evelyn this video is suuuper relatable to me right now. I didn't quit my job, rather, I was laid off at the end of last year ... while I was on holiday mind you ... but it turned out to be the best thing that happened to me because it kickstarted my desire to finally start my business, and now I build apps & websites fulltime! Which is awesome .. but I'm going through some of the same stuff as you did like, yeah ... watching other people get new jobs, get married or get promoted .. and I don't have any of that, but I always like to tell myself "I don't have it... YET" ... and it motivates me to keep going with what I'm doing and stick it out for the long haul. Seeing your video motivates me a lot as well and it's nice to know that we aren't alone in our journey!
Congratulations, you made your dream come true. You took the risk of quitting your job to make your dream come true that I can 100 % feel it. I will support you by watching your RU-vid contents, all the way supporting from Myanmar.
i am also turning 30 in a few months and i had this dreading feeling for some time. but there was a switch in my mindset (somehow) this year. maybe because of the inspirational creators i found here on youtube? maybe because i found this channel which inspired me to also open my thoughts and reflections, maybe because of the people who are in their 30s and hearing that it just gets better. so im looking forward to what life has to offer. to all of us entering our 30s this year, happiest birthday everyone! sending hugs!
Sending you a hug back and please keep opening up your thoughts and reflections. What's on the other side is magical and powerful. Wishing you all the best!
5:15 is what I really needed to hear; I am 20 and I constantly beat myself up about not being in the field of work I planned and studied towards even though my brain is still developing and I am still exploring the things that make me happy
As someone who is just starting out on RU-vid in her mid-twenties, this was so comforting to watch! Thank you for sharing your experience - love the way you filmed this :)
This is beautiful. "I got you", felt like that came from me in my 30s to me right now (my early 20s). Thank you for sharing this. This comforted me and made my fear and anxiety melt away. I'll make sure to keep visiting this video
Each and every second of this video is just so relatable !!!! I am going to turn 20 this month and have all of these confusing thoughts ..... your channel will always be a comfort place❤❤
It's so wired for me to watch your videos because I feel like I am watching myself! I have a very similar experience with you. working in tech, never felt fulfilled even if I was doing well at work, quitting my job and I am going to turn 30 in 3 months. Actually I'm not still sure what to do with my life, but I'm very happy for you that you figured it out. watching your videos inspire me, keep going🌼
You're amazing ! I just discovered you randomly now.. And i can tell there is so much happiness there :D I can relate with my 32 years old on the clock !
go for what u want, no for what u don't have; it was so shocking to me to hear that... ty for this video! im on my twenties and things r getting harder and harder everyday, so knowing things do get better its rlly helpful!
I'm going to turn 27 in December. There are days I wake up or go to bed so sad, simply because I have no gf. I go on dates constantly, I have 'good rizz' but ultimately, I am just happy by myself. This video helped me feel better that a timeline isn't going to solve anything. "Married by 30" only creates artificial stress and doesn't actually help us develop. Much love to you
生日快乐！i feel the cancer energy ~ thank u for sharing ur lessons! It's really special to see Chinese diaspora stories from such an authentic and vulnerable space! wishing you all the love and abundance ~
thank you 🙏 i really needed to hear this in my path to self-compassion! also have been torn on going back to my home town in asia and a good signal from the universe!
i've rewatched it three times already, while doing some work that has gone in background now. I find this vlog particularly calls to calm and relax down, your voice and places works wonders. I probably will be re-watching it time and time again lol, your work is live art Evelyn :D it is wonderful! and Happy Birthday to you, have a great time this time around as well!
I always feel peaceful watching your videos because you bring such a comforting big sister vibe. Happy birthday, and best of luck in all your future endeavors. Take care!
Im 24 and I just quit my comfy tech strategy consulting job two months ago cus of the toxic culture... currently feeling really lost, not entirely sure what I want to do, though for now, I've been applying to an industry where I think I'd be happy to learn in (Fashion), but still waiting to hear any positive news... I've been trying to improve myself as a person and how I treat others too... so many goals I want to achieve with myself, taking care of my parents and much more but still figuring out how to do it all. Your videos are a nice breath of fresh air and really relatable! Fighting!! And Thanks for the inspiration - hope things look up for everyone else out there too who's also learning to navigate life whilst still trying to find their compass!! :))
Happy Birthday and welcome to the better part of life. You won't have to care about what people think because you just won't care and that's the best feeling, it definitely is for me. :)
At the beginning of the year I was going through a really rough patch where I didn't have work and was going through a depressive episode locked down in my house. I couldn't take care of myself properly, I was struggling to even feed myself, and then I found your videos...I binge watched them all and then did it again. They were a reason to get up in the morning and prepare something to eat; I loved especially the food vlogs because I felt you were there with me. The food I could prepare I would prepare with care and love because I was mimicking you somehow, plus I also got to learn about a China that only you could show me. I see parts of myself in you and we are so far away from experiences, but are the same simultaneously (? I'm from a little coastal town in Venezuela, and attending college abroad was never in the horizon for me(? but you did all the american dream stuff and had enough courage to quit it all to follow your gut, like wow...at the same time I think that working all those years in tech gave you something so valuable than most people around me don't get to have access to, somehow you have passed that knowledge onto me and made realize that I could take myself seriously with my projects that the skills were there for me to reach, you made me dream that I could do so much better for myself! anyways I am really grateful that your videos found me, I am also getting close to 30, and you give me so much hope
Happy Birthday Evelyn! Love that you call out the positive of feeling lost! Yes, it's not our fault we don't know our own needs, wants, desires - we were conditioned out of them as soon as some of us were babies - not to mention the heavy baggage of much unprocessed intergenerational trauma we get... and the earlier in life we face that reckoning, the more we can come to live the life of our dreams!
long time silent subscriber here evelyn, absolutely love the editing and story telling in this video, i'm 2 years behind (born in 1996) and can relate to this so much, happy belated birthday
i remember being 10 saying "god i can't wait til i'm in my 20s because ...." ... now here i am in my 20s and i often find myself saying "can i just skip to my 30s so i can have it all figured out" summary: i need to start learning how to live in the moment before i'm 70 and realize i never really lived...
Happy belated birthday! Explore your own preference can be a long process, who know. Don't rush it, be patient. Be confident on yourself that you can make this upcoming decade more fulfilling than your 20's.
Oh I loved the intro, it made me chuckle! :) so much of what you said resonates with me and what I felt/feel on my journey, especially as I’ve realised I need to revisit working on some of my anxiety. Keep on doing what you’re doing and congrats on 60K!! ❤🎉
Thank you so much for this video, I just graduated college and moved back in with my parents and have been feeling so lost about what I actually want to do with my life now that the roadmap is gone. I’ve been dreaming about traveling for years now, but always thought it was not feasible because I was supposed to find a job, go to grad school, settle down etc. But “go after what you want, not what you don’t have” really struck me; I need to evaluate if I even WANT the things I’m working towards, or if I should change paths. Your content is always so comforting and this video helps more than you know. It gives me the confidence to do things even when I am afraid or anxious. So thank you for your amazing content! And happy birthday!!!
