This is so accurate. Femininity is more than just rocking a dress and heels, applying expensive makeup, and sharp nails and labeling it as feminine. It’s an attitude and demeanor. Femininity is allowing men to be men and respecting their ability to lead according to God’s will and standards.
Tony I was just thinking about this. I’m dating and it was like the Holy Spirit showed me, I don’t need to talk up my importance at work or my title etc. I just need to let it flow naturally. Not saying not to be Proud of my accomplishments but when I was talking to this very accomplished and masculine man I found myself thinking man I want to show him how accomplished I am but God was like why? You don’t need his validation, he already showed you his intentions of building legacy and doing things as a collective so who would need to one up that, be a beautiful Queen and multiply his input Then he will see who I really am. After I realized this, I sit back and let him do most of the talking and it’s great 😊 😂
While I don't need the validation, I do notice when men are not willing to give it. It usually becomes a red flag for a man that wants to minimize instead of uplift. ❤
@@HolisticManifesting This could be true but also keep in mind there are many narcissists who will mirror you or fake support you only to gain leverage, information and intel. If a person is rude or dismissive, yes that’s not good… but if a man is big picture minded and supportive of you, that’s all that’s needed for me. I don’t need a man’s pat on the back for doing a job well done. I have been with so called validating types and when they are at the stage of devaluation, they are like a puppet master, giving you highs and lows depending on their feeling at the moment. We should always validate self
@@AnalystAyi I agree, but I'm talking about that moment or look on a man's face when you mention an accomplishment. It says so much if they frown or dismiss it, it tells me a lot. As I said, it's not about NEEDING it, it's about noticing his character and whether or not he can HONESTLY root for others. I have the same standards for friends. ♥️
@@AnalystAyi I also feel the same about money, I don't NEED their money but I do notice if a man is generous or stingy. It tells me a lot about his longterm viability. ♥️
Femininity is embracing who God has created you as a woman, regardless of what you are wearing. Being soft, gentle, nurturing, loving, kind, and business, when needed
I especially agree with what Tony said about feminine women not competing with and controlling their men. That's essentially the key IMO. Also, as a side note, arguing is masculine and raises testosterone levels in women also.
What is your definition of competing and controlling? Many people label women who work and make big money as "competing" and holding men accountable as "controlling". We really need to revisit these definitions because not defining them leaves a lot of room for misunderstanding.
Femininity is continually defined by men. Everything has both masculine and feminine traits. Why should Femininity always be seen as softer yet dark side of things? Why should a woman being a go getter be seen as masculine? Biblically Eve was created as "ezer kenegdo" which has nothing to do with what men has interpreted as being a "helpmeet"
a feminine woman is a woman who has faced herself in the mirror. a feminine woman is a woman who learned to lean on/ heal/ support the masculine within herself
Thank you for this. I hear so much talk on femininity and women always talking about the way you dress, etc. It's the mentality as well. I been through a lot with men. But I still desire to be married have a healthy, loving, respectfull, relationship I don't hold all men accountable for the ones I allowed to hurt me. If women can grasp accountability they would make better decisions on who they entertain. I learned that myself. 💯💯
YAAASSS! It has nothing to do with getting laid and all to do with your inner naturalness of a woman. A woman who receives, and lives in the love of her heart in the purest sense. She does this by feeling her emotions, being authentically free, embodying her inner truth. She let's her heart speak and embrace her vulnerability, there's so much more. ❤
Tony, you are so right. I’m glad you’re mentioning this. I have always been the feminine type that everyone describes as feminine. Beautiful hair, nails, heels, bags, perfumes, jewelry etc. And not because someone told me to do it, but that’s what the women who raised me did. However, when life hit me and I became a single mother, that when life got hard and I became hardened. Because I feel I have to be that way to raise my son and also, deal with the fathers crap, and how the world looks at me. Also, in order to climb the corporate ladder. But that hardened type of personality is not me and it’s causing a problem in my dating life because I find myself being too independent and unable to loosen up.
Different lifestyle for me... Except the single mom part I can relate to. It does leave you being strong and independent.... But at my core I'm feminine and I'm pregnant now and it's forced me to remember that part of me because my unborn child's father helps me so much and I realize I need it. (I haven't been pregnant in almost 10 years) I've been independent and strong raising 2 boys, I'm definitely hardened. Ironically I'm about to have my daughter I've been waiting on. So it's like it's all taking me back to who I was before having children. A feminine woman. I have to accept help because I need it, and I have to teach a little girl now. 🥰
I have not dated in a very long time , now i have done the work and liatened to this man anyway met someone, he was consistent in the beginning then i notice something i said lets go another time because we were supposed to go hiking but it was raining and he said alright, i believe that this was my test i just said dont set up a date for him anyway i never contacted him again and i have notbheard from him , the old me wouldve set it all up but in my mind i said. 'A feminine women attract a leader he needs to earn your love and also he is a grown boy who wanted to test me. I watched him on social media and after i walked away silently he posted so much on social media posting his female best friend and that was the biggest turn off for me. My point is if we do the work we will walk away easily even if we like the guy ( i liked him , he had good character but not on my level) tha ks to tony sometimes im scared to listen what he has to say but i listen and i hear. ❤ do the work my ladies men are becoming more feminine then ever.
This was such a good video! ❤… it’s so important to pair yourself up with people that are not threatened by your gifts, abilities and potential success! Pray y’all! Stay prayed up because jealousy of partner’s success is a real thing!
Eww, I can pay 100% of my own bills instead. Half the bills... no thanks... this is how people get into rough relationships, moving them in and paying half the bills. Nope. And you will see him with the next person taking care of everything. Men don't even respect themselves paying half the bills. ❤
That is a man wrongly functioning in his feminine energy. At the same time as you’re in your own as well. So it’s no surprise that you’re not meshing at these moments. Your man needs to watch this video. And y’all together decide if you’re in agreement on life goals and supporting each other to do what needs to be done. Or not. Much peace, love and blessings 😇
I’m so glad that I stumbled upon this video. I’ve been told many times that I’m too masculine and I didn’t understand why. I’ve always carried myself as a lady and I believe that when a man is around you let him be the man. But when he’s not around I do what I need to do. I’ve cried many a tears because I was convinced that me not being a damsel in distress was keeping me from attracting the right man & because I didn’t know how else to be I lost the desire to even try. This video was enlightening and I appreciate you for it.
I must agree with the first statement you made about the spirit attached to some of the femininity messages. You just clarified and simplified this for soooooo many women ❤
Hi Tony! Thank you for touching this subject! The world is just making complex something that is simple. I am glad you mentioned how uniquely we are and it reflects on our behavioural choices, understanding and asking ourselves if we are competing with others there is something we need to check on about ourselves! I also believe in mutual compassion, specially, when we are interacting with people we don't know their story and how that affected their behaviour. We can actually be a good or bad influence on others and the other way around!! By the way Tony, I love your cap, the colour palette is gorgeous nature inspired... the nature God created, He created us too!! 🙌
I’m single and alone and it’s just me and my son BUT if a man is around and it’s something heavy or something he can help me with I definitely ask for help. I’m single not crazy lol. I don’t even take out trash my son does those things. I can’t wait to be able to depend on my man and let him lead. I’m not a man and I don’t want to be one
Thank you Tony for the clothing validation. Social media and some men put pressure on that the LOOK of femininity is heels, dresses, makeup and lashes. Thank you for the clarity, because while I find myself very feminine and Love to let a man be a man. I’m not always accepted because I don’t “look the part”
First of thank you, because of your teaching and praying alone with others iam now one week married(ladies he can wait until marriage) iam learning as a wife it's so important to function in our role, respect, kindness gentleness, ladies this is our inner beauty, which is very powerful when we are functioning in our roles as women. 1 Peter 3:1-2 says Ladies. Husband's without a word, maybe worn over by the conduct of their wives. Powerful right! So take in what tony is saying pondering on it and pray about it. Powerful words
Confirmation, Queen! I’ve been meditating on this whole passage (vv 1-6) for over 24 hours now! The Word is the way! Congratulations and best wishes on your marriage as well, wishing you both much love and blessings, stay prayed up and remain obedient!!! ❤❤❤
I needed this. Often times I don’t feel like I give off feminine energy because I don’t dress very stylish or carry myself like a sorority girl. This was helpful for me to know I’m not crazy.
Tony, first I want to say I really do appreciate the advice and content you have already created for us. Thank you Second, can we hear your tips on maximizing a single life as a woman and/or man? Like building community as an adult, developing within a faith journey, testing our purpose etc? -sincerely, a supporter who is ready for a different topic 🙇🏾♀️
I don’t know y it kills me every time he says he doesn’t know what the word means it just sounds good when he knows it is being using correctly 😂😂😂😂 my behind googled it and starts laughing every time I see he used right. Love ur content, brother
Thank you !! I just found you and thank you for your light and positivity !! Thanks for talking to us and going the extra mile to explain things the way you do !! You definitely have a new subscriber 2 videos in :)
Awesome video! Very balanced and simple truth on masculinity and femininity. I don’t want anyone to feel lacking or less than bc they do not fit the stereotypical idea of the masculine and feminine.
Feminity is the essence of a woman. Not a compartmentalized box of a one-dimensional organism. I agree with everything this man is saying, just wanted to add some commentary. A woman has the right to exercise her God-given gift to choose and free will. That is the part that makes men and women equal.
When Tony said "to get laid in the shade" I don't think he was talking about having sex! Some people use the phrase "made in the shade". That term "laid in the shade" or "made in the shade" means a cushy easy life where the person has to do nothing and get everything. Some of this femininity teaching try to teach women to be able to finesse/manipulate a man to thw point that she has it "made in the shade/laid in the shade"🌻
Listening to this gave me a flashback memory to when I was went to a drive through car wash and this gentleman told me, “you are too fine to be washing your car. Yet, again I know that men aren’t men now days.” Then he shook his head in disappointment. I couldn’t help but think to myself, I’m just vacuuming my car. I’m use to doing that stuff for myself because I’m single.
April Mason has been teaching about this since back in 2013. Her teachings aren’t even on or about men. It’s not about style or makeup or getting a man it’s all about the woman ! Her wisdom, her heart, her confidence her self worth - ect ❤
I worked on a military base and there are feminine, pretty women in military camouflage teaching people how to fire weapons😅, etc. I agree that Feminity is an emotional state and set of beliefs. It's not makeup and a dress and putting flowers in your hair
